I want to start divorce proceedings. My husband is a gambling addict, something he told me before we were married (2010; he told me in 2007, when we'd been together about 10 months). Over the years there have been incidents that he's told me about but only when the heat was so hot with his creditors that he needed me to agree to bail him out.
Long story short, he told me about the latest such incident - the 7th or 8th (I've blocked out some details) involving sums over £1,000 on Valentine's Day (yes, he really did). After the last confirmed massive loss (summer 2013, when we increased our mortgage by £13,000 to bail him out) he was on a "last chance". Not that he believed it because going on what he's now told me - about new debts dating back 18 months, another £11,000 - that takes him back to basically straight away after the last bail-out.
We're not wealthy. We have two DS, age 5 and 3. I work part-time. He works full-time but we don't have a large income. As well as the large dramatic sums, there have been times he's withdrawn money from my credit card without authorisation - £400, £500 in a month, despite me repeatedly asking him not to (we don't share bank accounts or credit cards, just the mortgage is in both names, but he was taking my cc once a week to buy his weekly travelcard, which I was fine with, but then withdrawing money, which I was most assuredly not fine with as we didn't have the money to pay it off).
Aside from all this - he's controlling, difficult, unpleasant. I am 100% happy with my decision to end it. Something just snapped inside when I realised he'd not waited at all to gamble again after summer 2013. Promises, etc - all meaningless. I have given chances, and more chances, and now I'm done.
My question is: for unreasonable behaviour to be cited as the gambling addiction, how does the 6-month rule stand? Because he has never told me at the time of the losses, just once he's in a place where he cannot afford payments, etc. This last lot (or so he's admitted) was 18 months ago. He told me 1 month ago. Obviously with the previous incidents I stayed. But it's just too much now. There's no love left between us, it's all just a miserable existence.
We're still in the same house. Separate rooms.
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Gambling - unreasonable behaviour - 6 months rule
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MrsMartinRohde · 14/03/2015 15:49
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