New to the forum and new to this situation. My husband and I have been having problems for a while. We had been going to relate for the past 4 weeks and during this time his idea of trying to save the marriage was picking fights with me at every opportunity and going away to stay with a female friend for 5 days at a time when I was off work. He continued to pick fights while he was away but apologised for this when he returned. Anyway, I informed the Relate counsellor about this on Monday and when she asked him why he'd acted in this manner at a time when his marriage was at crisis point he simply sat there with a smug grin and shrugged. At that moment I had the 'snapping point' that I'd been told about. I realised I deserved so much better! So the decision was made to separate; I initially felt elated and relieved; knowing that you don't have to put up with someone who had made you miserable and belittled you for almost 19 years feels quite liberating!
Fast forward 4 days and I am off work with stress due to money. I spent yesterday trying to sort out my finances and things are worse than I thought. I have large credit card bills which basically mean that I can't afford to take on the mortgage alone even if he pays money for the girls (they are 16 and 15 and not interested in living with him or any form of co-parenting) I am so stressed by this and can't see a way forward. He has suggested that he stays in the house for a while longer (in the spare room) but this would be awful. I just wondered if anyone can help with this, has anyone else been in this situation? I'm so worried, I don't think we have enough equity in the house or that we'd have much chance of selling :(
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Carlinamoon1 · 26/02/2015 09:43
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