Sahm- how to move out into private rental with kids?

[Dimplesandall]

Need to leave asap, dh emotionally abusive. No credit score as been sahm for 4 years, mainly overseas. Now back in jointly owned home in uk. If i move out with kids, how could i secure (and quickly) a private rental in my own name? Or couldn't i? Dh high earner. Nothing sorted as yet. Dc school age but i gave up work when dh posted overseas, plan to work again as soon as we're sorted.

[andersonsophie89]

contact women shelter and find out where to go in your local area. Or better yet a friends place or family. Then go to neighbourhood office and ask them to house you asap, as your homeless and have children. They should be able to find you somewhere quickly. Also contact the benefit office and sign on that day, so that your benefits start that day even though your interview with them wont be until later. Also ask the neighbourhood office if you found private accommodation, would they pay towards to the rent and deposit?

I havent been through this sitution myself, but I know someone who has, and this is what they told me. Therefore, I am sorryfor the lack of detail.

I wish you luck.

england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/homelessness/emergency_accommodation_if_homeless/womens_refuges

[Crazyqueenofthecatladies]

I've done this. It wasn't quite as plain sailing as my single career gal days but eminently doable. As a sahm if you have children under five you should qualify for housing benefit, income support and child tax credit. This is enough to live on, well, if you were used to getting a pittance from your ex while married as I was. Landlords and letting agents can be sniffy about tenants on benefits and well it never was one of my big dreams in life, but there are ways around it - A larger deposit or getting a friend or family member to act as a guarantor. Me and my ex split just over a year ago. Every day I am grateful for it. Hugs and good luck x x

[STIDW]

If it is unsafe you must of course move out immediately and stay with family, friends or in a refuge then see a solicitor PDQ. Otherwise see a solicitor before moving out to find out where you stand and about the possibilities for funding legal services, injuctions and occupational orders.

[Dimplesandall]

Belated thanks. Sorry not been on s while. Don't feel unsafe just v tense atmosphere. Refuge not appropriate, fortunately.

[postlady11]

Hi dimplesandall, I am in same position as you right now. Currently sat in spare room as trying to avoid him as much as possible. Filed my papers with the courts and waiting for then to come back and give to him with a letter from solicitor asking him to pay for a rental till we sort out a settlement. If you want to moan or chat message me. It's pretty hard living in he same place. In desperate to move on but also sahm and dependant on him financially. Xxx sending you lots of hugs xxx

[Crazyqueenofthecatladies]

That awful no-mans land you're both in right now is by far the worst phase. I had a brief wtf am I doing moment the first night in the empty rental then relished just getting on with it. You will not believe the changes in your lives after this first year or how simple and happy life can be. Wishing you both such good luck x

[postlady11]

Thanks. I know when I move out I will b so happy and free from this life and troubled person who is making me go mad! I moved out once before after marriage totally broke down but moved back in to 'try again'. Huge mistake but needed to know for my young child I had tried everything. Now I know and need to get the hell outa here ASAP before I crack!