Hey, who says CSA is against dads to pay mums?
Well I am the paying mum! Nicknamed the absent parent. Such and upsetting title and so judgemental! Patronising a**s!
Other mums here in this case. I will have to go to the food bank!
It feels like there is no way out!
I did everything to have the main custody of my kids and ex who leave in the matrimonial home (that I had to leave as he started to become somewhat abusive) is getting CSA.
Ok so salary is 1000, CSA £300, rent £450, petrol to get to work £150. I also have pay Car reimbursement, council tax, telephone, gaz, electricity food clothes and groceries with £100, child tax credit overpayments reimbursements (others as) ha ha you guess right it is impossible. I am about -600 before starting the month. Ouch.
Ok so patronising a**s says : why don't you work longer hours? can't due to child contact arrangements otherwise he will only let me see the children every other weekend. Then logically more CSA to pay...hell!
It is also hard to reduce my rent. I do not have child benefit so no access to social housing or just a single person.
I am looking for a higher paid job...but I have to be flexible so it lowers what I can get.
Rant rant rant.
Well I am looking for a way out of this.
Banging my head against the walls. It feels like I am descending into debt and poverty with no way out. If I can't pay my rent I cannot see my kids...
I feel like this is such an unfair system which ultimately will turn me against my ex even more and in the end I will have nothing...I feel ready to start a revolution!
Come on give me a shoulder to cry...a way out...or shout with me mumsnutters!
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Child support agency Hell! Having to cope with 'absent parent abuse and mounting debts
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lateblooming · 22/12/2014 20:39
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