DH and I live in a mortgaged £1m home, he earns a lot a year, he has pensions, savings, investments, assets etc. I'm used to not working.
Unfortunately, there has been dv.
We have 2 dcs in private schools. I've been sahm since they were born.
Dh is refusing to discuss child custody. I have a nagging fear he may go for sole custody, using the fact that I've had some depression/anxiety, but I am being successfully treated, and all agree I'm a good mum.
I want what's best for dcs and for dh to have a good relationship with them. However, I dont think dh will give up his job or reduce his very long hours, as that would mean not affording private schools and that is important to him. So he'd be reliant on outside childcare apart from at weekends.
I also don't want to take dh "to the cleaners" which is his fears, and get a load of his cash. I would be happy to work, but would want a job that was local and allowed me to care for the kids and not rely on childcare.
In cases like this, what is the 'norm'. Is it joint custody? I've heard of fathers getting the children every other weekend - is that an example of a joint custody arrangement?
Sorry, a confusing post. But I am anxious the children don't have to 'live' with him 50/50 when he wouldn't be there much of the time. And also wondering about the money sit.
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JumpRope · 17/08/2014 22:41
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