Really really angry

[probablyparanoid]

Ex asked me to give up my allotted day with the kids this week (the only one that I am not working or that he does not have them) and I agreed but asked him to bring them back late afternoon so that I would have a reasonable time in the evening with them before they go to bed. He brought them over 2 hours late - no apology, no call to say that they would be late, no nothing. I know that he just did it so that he would have control over the situation as I am the main carer and he resents that. I am spitting. He is supposed to drop them at 5 on a Sunday when he has them over the weekend but that has been creeping to 6 so I have little time before bed. Should I Drop them 2 hours late when it is his turn next to have them and then explain that if he is not going to respect my time then I am not going to respect his? We wrangle over everything and are probably headed to court. I don't want to be unreasonable but feel pretty angry and revengeful. I also don't trust that he will bring the kids over at the right time next time and have people over for a barbecue that evening - including the DC's friends. I don't want to run things on his very unreliable schedule. Also - should I insist on my day back - so he has to give up one of his - or is it too late for that?

[VandaDarkFlame]

I wouldn't drop them off late. Since you think you are heading for court, you want to appear to be reasonable and reliable, I really think dropping them off later than expected wouldn't be doing yourself any favours.

I do understand how you feel though, I have the opposite problem in that my ex drops our kids off too early!

[doziedoozie]

Can you pretend you don't mind, aren't bothered by his behavior. Your DCs will be living at home until they are 18, that's a lot of years of tit for tat. He will do it more if he knows it upsets you.

[YvyB]

You keep a diary of everything. All communications (try to keep it to email now, much easier to track), all times of pick ups and drop offs, all missed days, everything.
You stick to all agreements made to the letter and if it needs to go to court, you have your evidence all ready to go.
Good luck.