My husband has filed for divorce. I was ready to sign the papers (since I, too, would like to divorce him) but when I read the grounds for divorce, and his statements, I learned he had lied and put the whole blame on me. This included accusations of me being a threat to my children.
Obviously I want to divorce him but I don't want these lies to be used against me to take my children away from me. If I sign the document am I acknowledging and accepting these statements as true? Will they be used against me?
My STBXH made up a load of bull on the divorce petition - bits were true, but elaborated ridiculously. BUT nothing about my child. I signed the paperwork but stated that I didn't agree. If he is making untrue statements that could affect your custody of the children, get your half an hour free with a solicitor and see what they say.
I don't think solicitors would advice you to counter sue as it is a very costly process. In partners case when allegations that were made in the petition were incorrect and had already been proven to be so, the response to the petition was that they agreed to divorce but did not agree with the reasons (or words to that effect)
Go and see a solicitor if it would put your mind at rest.
At the end of the day you are divorcing for a reason, the petition is never going to be an advert for spouse of the year.
If you don't sign there are definitely things you can do. If he's lying than you definitely shouldn't sign. If I were you the first thing I would do is talk to your lawyer about your options especially if it has to do with custody of your children. Do you know what the main factors are that will decide how custody of your children gets worked out?