On 28th of December my husband told me he "didn't love me like a wife anymore". I tried for a week to make it work but he was adamant nothing would change so I asked him to leave. It has been the worst month of my life and I have started anti depressants. I am functioning as I have two little boys and a job. I am 36 and we were together 18 years.
Now I've had some space I realise that I don't miss him but that I don't know how to be single. I didn't realise how small he had made me feel for such a long time. So far he's been good with money and still sees our sons. In truth I don't feel a lot when I see him.
In spite of all this I feel very sad most of the time. I know this is natural and time will make it easier but the present is awful. Has anyone had experience of something similar? When did you start feeling better? Have you found love again? Please give me some hope )-:
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SarahT2 · 29/01/2014 10:42
Sarah, I could've written your post when we split up. I didn't work at the time but quickly had to get a job. I haven't got any family nearby but had lots of support from the mums of DCs schoolfriends, some I didn't know that well but they rallied round, mostly for the kids, as I was a wreck and lost 2 stone in a month, but some for firsthand gossip but I'd lost most of my former friends during the marriage because of my ex's attitude towards them and at that point anyone was better than no-one.
It was 18 months before I was ready to contemplate another relationship but before then I'd been introduced to another mum from school who'd split up shortly before me and we were able to rant, cry and laugh together - divorce is bloody hard but someone at the same stage made it more bearable.
Fastforward 5 years and I'm now happily remarried and more importantly the kids are happy. I wouldn't wish those first few months on anyone but they helped make me the person I am now and I much prefer her to the complacent doormat I'd become with my ex. The one casualty of my happiness was the friend who got me through it all, she's in a deadend relationship and the greeneyed monster killed our friendship 
hi Sarah. similar situation to you. I was told this in July. we supposedly tried (at least I feel I did but that's a whole other thread) til October when I said make a decision. he left at the start of November.
I find it mostly really positive as feel free to be me and please myself in the house etc. it does get better over time I think. I still have sad days, been like that last couple where just feel overwhelmed .
my DDS seem really to be coping well. everything still being amicable enough helps a lot I think but its not always easy.
if you can talk to people in RL. for me it was just immediate family and my two closest friends. I'd not long started a full time job so was very worried what they would think but I confided in immediate colleagues and they were so supportive. since Christmas I've just been able to say I'm separated to people in conversation where as before I was too ashamed and nervous.
good luck 
I'm enjoying decorating and putting my own stamp on house. getting jobs done I'd have had to wait ages to be done by ex. going to be getting a wallpapering masterclass from my dad on Sunday! 
there's a good thread either here or on lone patents about positives of being a lone parent, gives u lots to smile over.
dont get me wrong, its hard and I'm shattered but fundamentally, deep down I'm happier not battling with a person who didn't want to be in our family unit anymore. instead, so far, we are co-parenting reasonably well.
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