Please help me I am feeling so low...

(4 Posts)
golfpro60 Tue 10-Sep-13 21:57:21

My marriage has broken down and I am living with my husband and young child over 200miles from family. Have some good friends where I am. My husband is manipulative and controlling. He has mood swings and I verbally abusive when he gets annoyed or as he says when I do something to annoy him. He flew Into
A rage last week over something and tolde he wants a divorce. Thank gd I thought as is easier to spectate if he wants it too. Had agreed to rent me a flat and as I'm a sahm needed him to be guarantor (agreed to stay in same area and not
Go home to family to try and keep a relationship between him and our child which I know is the right thing for
My child even though I want to run a million miles away
From him) however we can't get the new place because he doesn't pass a guaranter and now he's having second thoughts,
Now he's saying the effect on our
Young child are going to be awful and we should be tryi g to work it
Out! I know it's not going to work out. Feel so trapped. If I up and leave to go back to my family I will have to do it without his consent as he will not allow me to go, will take my car keys etc.
I want to try and stay close enough for our child to spend good time with him. But I also need to look after myself and get out of this relationship as I don't thing even with counciling we can work it out. Help! Advice needed! Feel so trapped

Cabrinha Tue 10-Sep-13 22:00:27

I'm sorry, sounds awful sad
Just wanted to suggest that you repost in Relationships - it's busier than here, more people will see this who have been through similar.
Good luck.

golfpro60 Tue 10-Sep-13 22:09:38

Cheers I have done :-)

RedHelenB Sat 21-Sep-13 19:27:23

Just go! Take the time with your family to get your head together & then look at the practicalities of making sure he has contact with his child. If he would take the car keys he is effectively imprisoning you!

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