Haven't posted before but can't sleep and feeling exhausted. My ex moved out of the family home about 4 years ago but had always worked overseas for weeks at a time and things weren't always great when he was at home. I'd be cross with him for going away and then be just adjusting to having him back when he'd be off again. My children were young and it was always hard work. My dad passed away just over 3 years ago and I as in a dreadful state and hh had moved out before and been renting a house nearby which the children each had a bedroom in - he had been out and brought beds, wardrobes, dressing table, bedding. He had to move out as it was being sold and 2 years ago this Christmas he moved in to a 2 bedroom flat closer to my house but the children had to share a room
I've gradually been feeling better and got over the grief of losing my dad and my ex and i seemed to be getting on better , no arguments and i was happy for children to stay with him for a few nights- we just arranged things as and when he came back to UK.
He told me by email in May this year he had met someone and being seeing her a while. I was shocked and just cried as I he'd kept saying over the past couple of years he didn't want anyone else and would never want another relationship. He came back at end of July and she was at his flat for some of the time so kids didn't stay until she wasn't there. I spent the whole week he was here just crying. He's now been back for last week and this, and says he's marrying her and I'm just distraught. he now says they planning to get married.
Haven't slept in weeks and can't close my eyes without thoughts of our relationship flooding my head. We didn't get divorced as although I filed a petition it took me 3 years to get the solicitors to do this as it wasn't what I wanted to do, but it was just too painful to carry on being a relationship where I felt he didn't want to be with me. I think I thought that because he hadn't finalised anything that he perhaps didn't want to divorce either. I think i thought that one day he would give up the overseas jobs and come back .
I can't see a way forward. and how i can get over this - she's now at his flat as he says they dont want to be apart and so I 've said my kids can't stay as think its soon for them to meet her in small 2 bed flat. DD self-harmed er arms last week adn ds has started wetting the bed again- ex says this is my fault I should accept the situation and I'm making things difficult with my 'attitude'.
Wish I could sleep without these thoughts filling my head and without crying constantly
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cotswoldbrown · 29/08/2013 03:33
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