So we all know that in some relationship breakdowns one ex-partner takes the split better than the other.
My ex and I split three years ago after a 12 year relationship. We share a 10 yr old DS (who is amazing!).
Since the split; my ex has firmly buried his head in the sand and refuses to hold any meaningful discussion around finances/property. This has meant that I have had to take him to court twice so far. The process is ongoing. There has been ongoing stubbornness and a letter from my solicitor warning him about harassment.
My ex's behaviour against me I continue to deal with (although I could quite happily wring his neck sometimes). Despite an agreement not to involve DS in our conflict; ex has been letting him in on arguments and withdrawing from him when solicitor letters are received. Both my solicitor and I have tackled the ex about this as, and when, it happens.
However; it keeps happening to the point that I am thinking of changing contact arrangements. My son tells me that he does not like to hear 'things like that' from Daddy, 'does not know who to trust' and 'does not want to feel in the middle'. I celebrate his honesty and totally agree with him. He should not have to feel that pressure.
So my question is ... would you restrict contact to protect your child(ren) against the harm caused by passive(?) aggressive behaviour?
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JohFlow · 08/07/2013 10:07
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