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Have you brought up the previous unreported abuse when you made your statement to police?

what have the police actually said?
when did this happen?
what makes you think he will "get off"?
does he have previous convictions?
have you given the police a statement and agreed that you will go to court if it comes to it? in other words are you making a complaint against him?

Speak to your solicitor urgently about getting an injunction. Unless he's on police bail to keep away from you, you do need that protection.

Since when has protecting yourself against violence been a mistake?

my ex assaulted me by throttling me, threw me & twisted my arms. The throttling scared me to point of terror & I honestly thought he would come back to my house & batter me. As i was in fear of my life I called police & due to intervention program he was arrested & kept in custody.

We had started evening by trying to talk things through but it soon escalated & he lost it beyond belief. Convinced was sleeping with his friend & lots of warped lies.

Now as this is isolated reported case (he's attacked me in past but not reported) looks like he'll get off. I'm absolutely petrified & think he'll use my son as a weapon. He has joint parental responsibility and access up until now has been frequent.

I've spoken to solicitor & got app.

There's not been any abuse to my son by him so far but he does have bi-polar, is not taking med & unpredictable.

He will use my son to get at me and retaliate in a big way when charges r most likely dropped.

I feel for standing up & protecting myself I have shot myself in foot - but I have to keep reminding myself that I was in fear of my life.

Any experiences of this?? I need some guidance.