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Joy5 · 19/08/2012 13:25

Hi
Received divorce papers last week direct from the courts, on my unreasonable beahaviour, all the reasons given are totally untrue, how much proof if any does my husband have to give. He says as proof that he has texts to prove my unreasonable behaviour, except they don't exist.

One of his main reasons was that i refused to eat with him for four months last year before he moved out, except at the time, i was in such a state mentally and not coping too well, my husband starting buying 3-4 takeaways every week, which are on all his bank statements, as well he would text me before leaving work to ask me what i wanted from the takeaway, or say in a text don't cook i'll get a takeaway for us all.

I had a brief telephone conversation with my solicitor yesterday, i'm not eligible for legal aid, but i am on benefits, so couldn't ask much.

But can my husband just say he has proof, won't he at any point have to prove what hes said about me?

I'm totally open to being divorced, a classic case of husband said he was leaving but didn't have a reason for ending a marriage, then after he'd moved out another woman appeared, but i can't get my head round the idea that he can basically lie on a legal form, without having to even attempt to show evidence of the truth.

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purplewithred · 19/08/2012 13:31

grit your teeth and let it be - everyone knows that many 'unreasonable behaviour' claims are nonsense but as the alternative is waiting two years if you want a quick and cheap divorce then let this be. He could have chosen something MUCH worse! Focus your attention on getting the kids and finances sorted.

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Joy5 · 19/08/2012 13:55

Would have preferred to wait two years, but this is his choice to do it this way, from what i've heard through friends, his new partner is pushing him to it, so have a sneaky feeling hes used the examples he has and how easy it would be to prove them as lies, to try and get me to either defend it or file my own petition, so he can tell her its me causing the delays in the divorce except i won't spend what few pennies i do have on doing it.

Just struggling to believe he can basically put what he wants, and not have to even prove it as the truth. Just seems so wrong on a legal document.

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Trazzletoes · 19/08/2012 14:02

I can't remember for certain but I don't think he has to prove anything. As above, just grit your teeth. No one pays much attention to the details. You could argue the toss, but what's the point? It's only going to delay matters and cause more tension. You know you're right. Just keep that in mind.

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caramel1 · 19/08/2012 14:18

The easiest solution is to agree to the divorce, but not accept his reasons.

Wikivorce is a fount of knowledge for that kind of stuff

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