When did you take your wedding ring off?

(49 Posts)
MyelinSheath Sat 05-May-12 18:07:32

Just that really. I told dh I want to move to the spare bedroom and that there is no hope left for our marriage. I've not moved bedroom yet because he is really upset. If you moved rooms, did you take your rings off, or did you wait to be in separate houses?

mumof4sons Sun 06-May-12 12:17:30

Took mine off the day he left family home to live with his whore OW.

As divorce was final on 23rd April, will probably sell it. Need the cash.

Wishing you good luck in your new life.

MyelinSheath Sun 06-May-12 12:29:03

Thanks, good luck to you too.

Worldwithwings Sun 06-May-12 22:00:42

I took mine off as soon as we had decided. It felt like a lie.

ChangingWoman Tue 08-May-12 01:31:47

As soon as we made the decision to divorce. It was a relief.

bumbums Tue 08-May-12 19:37:28

I took mine off the day after I told him I wanted a divorce. The marraige is over so no need to wear the main symbol of it.

bumbums Tue 08-May-12 19:38:46

Its been a month now and I still go to fiddle with it with my thumb on that hand. Its wierd.

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Tue 08-May-12 19:40:18

I threw it at him during a row - it sailed over the balcony and I never saw it again. I think we were sharing a house, but not bedrooms, at the time.

Good luck OP. xx

MyLittleMiracles Tue 05-Jun-12 10:12:18

I hadn't worn mine for a good year or so before we separated (mainly cos they got sold to feed his cocaine habit us.

My facebook status was put as separated as soon as I set it up. It is now set at single. Tomorrow I can get an affadavit to get my divorce. A few mixed feelings about it, if I am honest.

teanosugar Tue 05-Jun-12 10:15:53

A soon as I left the house, then I pawned wedding ring, eternity ring and engagement ring the next christmas so I could buy my son a big lego set.

Rudawakening Tue 05-Jun-12 12:36:28

I took mine off when I told him it was over, it's only been a week but I feel freer without them on.

There is little hope for our marriage and what those rings represent is no longer there.

Lizcat Sun 10-Jun-12 21:03:12

The day I decided we should separate as he couldn't end his friendship with the OW. He is still wearing his.

changeforthebetter Sun 10-Jun-12 21:06:09

The night he shouted and bitched at our DD for having the gall to cry (she had chickenpox angry) We actually agreed to split four months later. It was a long slow, painful dawning realisation that he was a selfish arse who was never going to change.

Not thought what to do about the rings. They didn't cost loads (tightarse hmm). Money would be nice but not sure I would get much.

ToothbrushThief Sun 10-Jun-12 21:07:20

As soon as the DC were told. I gathered all rings up and sold after about a year -that seemed very weird tbh.

DoingItForMyself Sun 10-Jun-12 21:20:52

I have taken mine off occasionally when I thought it was over.

Now that it actually is, it seems harder to do? Maybe that's the sign that this time its right. Its such a public symbol of your marriage that taking it off is really making the statement so I suppose as soon as you're comfortable with that and all the important people know its time sad

b111976 Mon 11-Jun-12 19:54:42

The day my husband left my wedding ring's inset gold heart peeled up and I had to take it off as i was worried about catching my children with it! Weird!!

changeforthebetter Tue 12-Jun-12 12:17:22

Out of interest - where did everyone sell their rings? I've heard those online buyers are a bit of rip off?

EllenJaneisnotmyname Tue 12-Jun-12 20:45:35

On the day we told the children sad , 2 days after I found out about his affair and kicked him out. I wanted to tell the children as carefully as possible.

LeoTheLateBloomer Tue 12-Jun-12 20:48:53

The day I moved out.
Oddly he also sent me a text demanding that I take it off hmm I was relieved I already had because otherwise it would have felt like I was following his instructions.

EllenJaneisnotmyname Tue 12-Jun-12 20:52:09

Blimey, Leo! Better off without him, I would guess?

LeoTheLateBloomer Tue 12-Jun-12 21:53:16

You said it Ellen! (Sorry about your ex's affair. That's shit sad)

Ladylou83 Wed 13-Jun-12 16:11:44

I am still wearing mine, although on different fingers. I haven't quite got the guts yet to take them off fully, and I found out about his affair last sept, so really should just buck up the courage to do it, its been long enough

thornbury Wed 13-Jun-12 17:33:01

I wore mine for many months after we split as even though we slept in different rooms, we didn't tell the DC what was going on. I started to take them off as soon as I got home, then started to keep them in the car and only wear them at work, until eventually I stopped altogether. Shortly before I moved out with the DC and bought my own house I sold my rings and a necklace he had bought for me and got £100 grin. They were technically worth far more but they were worthless to me.

skyebluesapphire Sat 16-Jun-12 19:30:24

I took mine off the day he walked our then put them back on when he called it a trial separation. Then when he ended it for good I took them off and filed for divorce. I will keep them for when daughter is older.

DoingItForMyself Sat 16-Jun-12 20:36:51

H is still living here at the moment, but I took mine off the other day while out for a run - I was smiling and feeling free but the weight of it on my hand was a constant reminder of our failed marriage.

I wanted to throw it in the lake I was passing, but common sense (& thriftiness) stopped me just in time and I tucked it into my zip up pocket.

I keep touching the space where it used to be (shrivelled white stripe!) but I know I'll get used to it soon sad

DD (aged 5) asked if she could have it in her jewellery box, but as its platinum I think not! I'll keep it for her if she wants it or sell it if times get tough.

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