I hardly ever visit mumsnet but I can't seem to find anyone in my and my sister's situation. We both have young children (mine are 2 and 5, my sister's are 5 and 10). Our mum was diagnosed with alzheimers and vascular dementia in june 2010. She lives 60 miles away. We spend the day with her every tuesday, thursday and we stay with her every weekend. We organise all her finances, hospital visits, social life, clothes, washing etc. We have a brilliant system and me and Nicki both do 50/50 but it's the prospect of life being like this and getting more intense for the next 5-10 years, supposedly the best years of our lives, that is the killer.
Obviously there is always someone else who has a bigger burden so I don't mean to complain but I do sometimes feel very isolated and depressed by the added responsibility.
We have tried to get her to move near to us so many times - she won't move. You can't reason with someone with dementia either, it's not her fault. Obviously we could get care in but she doesn't have any physical problems and it would ruin our good relationship with her.
Anyway - just a shout out I guess - and wondering if there's anyone else out there in mumsnet land with a siimilar situation.
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Dementia & Alzheimer's
Anyone with young children also supporting a mum with alzheimers?
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sadiemcgradie · 13/01/2012 21:14
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