Not sure why I'm posting this really...maybe I need to re-assess how I am viewing things.
My DW and I have been able to share childcare of our toddler DD - by both working part time. I look after her for 3 days of the week, while DW does the other 2 while I work. My part time job is relatively low paid, a big step away from my old career, and not particularly what I want to do forever, but is good for right now in my life.
I'm finding life as a SAHD good in some ways, as obviously I love being with my DD and seeing her grow up. But I'm finding myself a bit stuck between the two "traditional" worlds of men and women. My wife seems to have made lots of other mum friends during her time at home, and although I have sometimes been able to spent time with these friends too alongside my wife, I alway get the faint impression that there are not many mums who really want to hang out with a dad if it would just be the two of them (plus the kids). I'm not sure if I'm correct in this assumption, but it's always made me hang back a bit in any kind of socialising at playgroups etc, which has left me a little isolated as the vast majority of parents I come into contact with are mums.
I've tried to stay in touch with some of my old male friends who have recently become dad's, but I'm finding their lives are so different to mine that we don't have so much in common any more. They are all super busy working hard at their careers, and trying to provide for their family. The very few times I've met with them they are full of tales about the office and work, and don't talk that much about their children. My stories of leaking nappies and lunchtime tantrums don't seem very interesting in comparison.
So I find myself stuck between two worlds - where I haven't quite got the confidence to properly relate to all the mums I meet, and I seem to have been left behind by all my dad and other male friends.
I am well aware that a large number of women also find the social side of being a SAHP parent hard, so I don't want to sound like I think I'm a special case. It just feels that extra bit difficult when the world of SAHPing is so overwhelmingly female.
Should I just get my head out of my arse? I just don't want to be the kind of dad who tries to push himself into a group of mums who would rather a man wasn't there. Is it all in my head that mums might be thinking this?
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Being a SAHD has left me a bit stuck between two worlds
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HighBarometricPressure · 16/06/2016 14:12
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