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Wemen and cats

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Stinkydad · 28/08/2015 21:20

Came home about 12 months to what I thought were 2 kittens
I had a closer look and she had hid another one in another basket
Having a cat didn't bother me but 3 was taking the pi*s
So I instantly had a bit of a go as to why she had bought 3
1 being quite an expensive cat , she yet to tell me how much she paid
Any way , just before the cats came into our lives she purchased a new sofa ( with her own money )
She doesn't work so I paid for it somehow ( she has a separate account ) as well as a joint account with me
Anyway the cats have a very bad habit of scaching the said new sofa and has torn the arm rest to pieces and every time is see them do it I either shout or throw a pillow at them or near them
This is driving me up the wall and she seems not to care as what damage the cats do on the furniture
Any advise as how to take care of the situation
Thanks

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AbbeyBartlet · 28/08/2015 21:24

She obviously loves the cats. And tbh, if you shout at them etc, the problem may well resolve itself - you might find she won't want you around any more

AbbeyBartlet · 28/08/2015 21:25

I assume you don't have DC - they make a mess too

Bearsbeets · 28/08/2015 21:25

What did she say when you say her down for a reasonable, rational chat about it before coming online to slag off your 'wemen' and her cats?

catzpyjamas · 28/08/2015 21:28

LTCs

TheoriginalLEM · 28/08/2015 21:28

Take care of the situation?

buy some scratching posts fo the cats
get rid of the cats
get rid of the woman (go on, do her a favour)

AbbeyBartlet · 28/08/2015 21:32

You sound a bit controlling about the money that was spent on a sofa - I hope she does herself a favour and lived happily with the cats and let's you go and find yourself someone more malleable - after all there are plenty of 'wemen' out there and you sound like a total catch.

dementedDementor · 28/08/2015 21:35

Did you mean:

We men and cats.
Women and cats.

Or my personal fave:

Semen and cats?

usual · 28/08/2015 21:38

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wankerchief · 28/08/2015 21:40

But fuzzy kittens though.....

Wombatinabathhat · 28/08/2015 21:42

Wemen and cats?

Palomb · 28/08/2015 21:42

I stopped my cats from clawing my leather sofa but buying a cardboard scratching board. Now one of my cats one scratching the board, the other mostly scratches the board but will scratch the sofa when I've pissed her off for some reason.

The cardboard thing was a fiver.

usual · 28/08/2015 21:44

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TheoriginalLEM · 28/08/2015 21:46

is your wife?

PunkrockerGirl · 28/08/2015 21:47

Women and cats?

Hassled · 28/08/2015 21:49

Semen and cats :o

"She doesn't work" - but if you have children she's not exactly filing her nails all day, is she? What you mean is that she's not in paid employment - but I'd imagine she's saving you a shitload of money in childcare/cooking/housework/admin/whathaveyou. So stop begrudging her a sofa.

But if you don't like cats and now have 3 of them it's fair enough that you're cross - have you tried talking calmly to her? Meanwhile put pepper on the sofa - they don't like pepper. Ground white.

whatsinthename · 28/08/2015 21:49

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00100001 · 28/08/2015 21:50

I'm confused - who paid for the sofa?

dont shout at the cat :(

00100001 · 28/08/2015 21:52

I' just..I really love cats and I just want to hug all of the cats. :'(

PunkrockerGirl · 28/08/2015 21:53

Sorry posted too soon
Her cats. Her sofa (paid for by herself).
I would be ltb (you) because a) the cats sound far more attractive and b) you can't spell.

fastdaytears · 28/08/2015 21:54

I love that video too much. And of course all of the cats. I love them too. OP I do not care for.

gamerchick · 28/08/2015 21:55

www.amazon.co.uk/Sticky-Paws-29248-On-A-Roll/dp/B007I08FI4?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

Cats need to be played with, they need cat stuff they know they own and high up places they can look down on their dominion. Clawing the fuck out of everything just says frustration to me.

You don't sound as if you like your lady very much and have a bit of contempt for her.

BabyGanoush · 28/08/2015 21:57

LOL at all the serious responses

and the non serious ones

this was posted, let me guess, by a 10 year old?

Quite possibly one of my DC

GO TO BED YOU NAUGHTIES!

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whatsinthename · 28/08/2015 21:59

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Battleshiphips2 · 28/08/2015 22:02

I think you should tell your wife to LTB.

Fluffycloudland77 · 28/08/2015 22:08

If you yell at a stressed cat scratching you make them more stressed so they will need to scratch more.

The issue is why your dw makes unilateral decisions instead of discussing it with you.

I'm not wild about the things my cats damaged including the duresta sofa but if dh shouts at him I side with the cat.

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