had a bit of a snarky comment when I was out... blokes point of view?

(20 Posts)
JoyceDivision Wed 19-Feb-14 22:32:38

..other than this person was a cocky so and so?

Out with a friend at the weekend. Was drinking and merry and so forth grin

Am happily married with dh, just girls drunken evening, no being daft or whatever... anyway, my friend sees some people from work so we were just stood with them. Chatting to people, and a bloke turned and looked at me and said 'So, I can see you're getting over your anorexia really well' meaning i'm a heffer (size 16, actually!)

I wasn't talking to him at this point, we weren't in mid conversation, he just turned and said it to me! How rude?? Is this what blokes think and act like?

I thought I looked ok, I don't have an issue with my size(I had a really plain minimal shift dress and patent brogues on so no, er, how can I put this, fat slapper dressing blush )

I did smile and say 'That's really kind, thanks for asking, I'm doing really well, you seem to be coping with your fear of heights ok (he was same height as me... not v tall) and he seemed to try to shrug it off then..

Do all blokes when you're out just throw someone a glance and think 'No way - fat / plain/ ugly / crap hair'

Think it just caught me off guard and am a bit taken aback by the rudeness!!

Twighlightsparkle Wed 19-Feb-14 22:34:55

I think you death with it really well, I can never think of a retort quick enough.

No, not all men think like that, thankfully.

Hopefully you will be ver have to see him again

Twighlightsparkle Wed 19-Feb-14 22:35:13

Dealt

Bifauxnen Wed 19-Feb-14 22:39:58

Maybe he was trying to neg you? I think you dealt with it very well, I'd be far too slow to come up with something.

Gooner123 Wed 19-Feb-14 22:41:42

No we're not all like that,he was just a short- arsed twat,great retort I thought.

JoyceDivision Wed 19-Feb-14 22:49:10

ta. Don't have nagging doubt dh has mistakenly married a mini hagrid!

Think it caught me off guard as I'm not a horrid person (i think) and i was taken aback at the pointlessness of it!

Bifauxnen Wed 19-Feb-14 22:57:57

the point is to undermine your confidence and therefore make you feel more grateful for the attentions of some odious little specimen. Easily shut down by a quick retort from someone who won't take that crap - which you provided grin

gamerchick Wed 19-Feb-14 23:01:39

ah man hats off.... I never think of a retort until later on angry

sounds like a right nobbDr

if one of my mates was overheard saying this to a girl on a night out he'd get hmm from most.

normalishdude Thu 20-Feb-14 10:07:05

wot a prick he is. just trying to be superior.

JoyceDivision Thu 20-Feb-14 19:57:15

ha, thanks dadsnettersand all for responses smile

Not the snarky comment being aimed at me that bothered me, more the impersonal decision to just glance at someone and make a huuge unnecessary judgement, iykwim, that I was a bit taken aback by.... whenI go out with my friends we tend to stay as a gaggleand witter amongst ourselves,so to be with new people that just seem to take a verbal swipe was what amazed me

anyway, good to know that heseemedto be fromtool academy and hopefully not the norm.. hate to think in years to come dd will be out having to put up with that nonsense (although dh will prob be stood behind her so maybe not grin)

Innogen Thu 20-Feb-14 19:58:48

He was definitely doing that sleazy, pick up artist nagging thing.

What a gross human.

Innogen Thu 20-Feb-14 19:59:38

Negging. Autocorrect.

JoyceDivision Thu 20-Feb-14 20:18:17

Had to google negging! blush

Eeew... hmm, think that explains things.. good grief, what a pointless thing..

manaboutthemaison Thu 20-Feb-14 23:39:53

Definitely a bit of a wanker. Although I believe a swift kick to the bollocks would have been abetted comeback

Bifauxnen Fri 21-Feb-14 00:39:40

the swift comeback is mightier than the swift kick to the testicles (rough paraphrase from something I heard long ago)

Bifauxnen Fri 21-Feb-14 00:41:41

'Verbal comeback' - my paraphrase was inadequate.

BOFtastic Fri 21-Feb-14 01:17:24

If he was a decent bloke who just didn't fancy you, he'd have struck up neutral conversation, or ignored you.

He obviously did fancy you, but revealed himself as a WANKER.

Bloke was a rude toerag.

Childrenofthestones Tue 25-Feb-14 01:40:45

Nice retort.
The fact that His was preplanned and yours was off the cuff, leaves him with his trousers round his ankles.

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