Is Mumsnet sexist?

(154 Posts)

I was thinking of dad-specific threads (see other thread). I cant really think of any. But I have heard the odd complaint that male posters are treated with less respect than female ones. I've only experienced this once, but it would be interesting to know whether this is a common occurrence.

As a predominantly female user base, I would expect some gender bias towards women and so therefore against men. But to what extent does it occur?

As I said I've only ever experienced it once, so IME Mumsnet isnt Sexist.

I know, it sounds goady. But I would like to hear some opinion. I'm not sure either way.

PLEASE NOTE - I KNOW THE VAST MAJORITY OF WOMEN ON MUMSNET ARE LOVELY AND NOT SEXIST - THE TITLE WAS TO ATTRACT READERS/POSTERS

FloraFox Wed 05-Nov-14 20:14:31

biscuit brew

Wackadoodle Wed 05-Nov-14 19:56:57

Olivia -

That's a classic example you've got right there - the dragging up of completely irrelevant information from other threads to have a dig at you in this one.

FWIW I agree with the previous comment that most of MNet is perfectly friendly and sane. But the lunatic fringe is really something to behold. Most of the forums I've belonged to have been fairly male-heavy and had their share of macho posturing. But this one leaves them in the dust for sheer, directly personalized, bitchy nastiness. And for a significant minority, the forum doesn't even seem to be a serious discussion vehicle. It's just a place to wage the Good War, and direct that nastiness as nastily as possible against anyone on the wrong side. They don't even have to be men.

Sabrinnnnnnnna Tue 04-Nov-14 08:05:37

Oh I missed that! Nice...

PetulaGordino Tue 04-Nov-14 08:04:20

Sabrina there was an absolutely hilarious chap last night going around posting links to tell MNers how much the Daily Mail hates us. As if we didn't know and needed to realise the error of our ways grin

PetulaGordino Tue 04-Nov-14 07:59:55

Oh so this is where all the frothing men end up!

I like the womansplaining man thing, very funny grin

Sabrinnnnnnnna Tue 04-Nov-14 07:52:31

Oliviablue - your post was pretty nasty about the feminism pages here - calling us adolescent and silly - I was just responding.

OliviaBlue Tue 04-Nov-14 02:14:25

You guys are so nasty. I already explained what happened with the wrestling thing. It has zero to do with this issue. If I knew a personal thing about you sabrina, I wouoldn't spread it all over the page if it was unrelated. But whatever.

FloraFox Tue 04-Nov-14 01:57:16

Busy night with the zombies Olivia.

Sabrinnnnnnnna Tue 04-Nov-14 01:55:50

Yep, and naked wrestling with family members is like totally normal, and fine.

YonicScrewdriver Tue 04-Nov-14 01:39:45

"A womansplaining man - I've reached nirvana! "

Wow Married, well done!!

OliviaBlue Tue 04-Nov-14 01:37:37

BIL*

OliviaBlue Tue 04-Nov-14 01:37:22

What has my DH and his DIL, stupidity got to do with my own beliefs, Sabrinnnnnnna?

Sabrinnnnnnnna Tue 04-Nov-14 01:25:34

Yah, adolescent and silly. Kinda like wrestling naked with your brother and giving him a black eye? wink

OliviaBlue Tue 04-Nov-14 01:04:02

I think mumsnet is mostly very friendly. However, I have went to the feminism pages and I do think they are sexist a lot of the time. A lot of it is unrealistic in my experience of men. I just get the impression of dislike toward men there. It may be just me, but I definitely feel it.

Men and women have their differences, but I certainly don't feel held down by "the patriarchy". I find it adolescent and silly.

Wackadoodle Fri 24-Oct-14 21:31:42

"Is Mumsnet sexist?" LOL is the fucking pope catholic?

dadx, Yeah the bullying is part of it. And also just obstinate refusal to treat facts as facts and continue discussing things with any sense of reason. Once you get on the wrong side, every kind of sense and meaning gets thrown out and it just becomes about saying whatever kind of bullshit can get everybody together against the Big Bad Man.

Have you ever noticed how whenever you win an argument against a feminist, the argument suddenly changes from being about what it was originally about, to being about how The Evil Patriarchy insist on using Male Dominant weapons like "argument" in their war against The Soul Of All Womankind?

MarriedDadOneSonOneDaughter Thu 23-Oct-14 09:27:26

A womansplaining man - I've reached nirvana! smile

FminorSuspendedFifth Thu 23-Oct-14 09:22:29

Sounds more like you're womensplaining tbh.

Sexism is sexism.

MarriedDadOneSonOneDaughter Thu 23-Oct-14 08:16:12

I'd argue that MN isn't sexist despite the occasional male poster getting a hard time.

I compare these, relatively minor and infrequent occurrences on an internet forum, with sexism at large in society which ranges from wolf whistles, gropes on the bus to widespread violence and rape the vast majority being against women.

To try to define this forum as sexist in this context seems to devalue real world sexism to me.

Probably "mansplaining" there, but this is dadsnet so I think that's OK.

smile

FminorSuspendedFifth Wed 22-Oct-14 20:14:30

I'd add though that it can be utterly brilliant, intentionally and accidentally.

It also offers a window into the female mind that you'd not find anywhere else. It's all here.

FminorSuspendedFifth Wed 22-Oct-14 20:04:50

I don't think mumsnet the organisation is sexist, though they don't seem to do much in the way of supporting men in parenting.

The forums though... Lawks a Lordy

Sabrinnnnnnnna Wed 22-Oct-14 09:08:50

dadx - you gave a woman on here the advice "cook him a nice meal and wear something nice" ? shock I think you need 1950s Mumsnet....

I'm becoming a semi-regular on Dadsnet here!

coasttocoast Wed 22-Oct-14 04:23:42

Oh dadx, as soon as I saw this in active conversations I knew this'd be you! Hello my friend smile

Now then, by your own admission your old account was barred, why do you think that was?

Also just out of interest, you've posted about five times under your new ID that you're off. But you keep coming back! I think that actually you secretly love this site grin

dadx6789 Wed 22-Oct-14 03:40:21

*In my opinion (and experience) it's absolutely sexist or some of the people who use it have sexist views

On the plus side, Ive had my eyes opened up to an entirely new way of thinking. In moderation, it's been helpful; though to be honest there are some proper nutjobs on here. I've also noted that some of the posters (check out the relationships board) start to bully anyone whose world view doesn't chime exactly with theirs. In fairness, they'll do that whether or not the poster is male. so much for the so-called "sisterhood"*

Im male, spent the day on the relationships forum and been pulled to shreds. That corner of this site is a troll fest. Sexist, probably.

I wount spend anymore time on the site, but I imagine the ergobaby thread is more balanced, atleast I hope so.

Contrarian78 Thu 06-Mar-14 16:46:13

In my opinion (and experience) it's absolutely sexist or some of the people who use it have sexist views

On the plus side, Ive had my eyes opened up to an entirely new way of thinking. In moderation, it's been helpful; though to be honest there are some proper nutjobs on here. I've also noted that some of the posters (check out the relationships board) start to bully anyone whose world view doesn't chime exactly with theirs. In fairness, they'll do that whether or not the poster is male. so much for the so-called "sisterhood"

CorusKate Tue 25-Feb-14 02:11:09

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