My wife is expecting a girl in May, whats it like to have a daughter? I excited but am concerned that I dont want to impose a pink princess idea of being a girl, if that makes sense, any thoughts?
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Snorbs ·
21/01/2013 17:10
My DD's 11 now. The pink'n'sparkly period lasted a few years but she is, in her own words, "So over that daddy". Although I did see a little 3yo girl in the school playground a while back, standing there in a princess dress, fairy wings and wellies and it did bring a smile to my face when I remembered that when DD was tiny she would sometimes decide that that was how she was going to dress to tackle the day as well. Fads like these tend to come and go; don't make too big a deal of it regardless and the attraction will fade a lot more quickly.
To be honest I think there's less difference between boys and girls than there are between individual children if you see what I mean. DD does what activities she wants - sometimes it's been dance, sometimes it's been football, currently it's Guides, drama and archery. DS plays football with his mates and goes to Scouts.
I do try really hard to treat both DD and DS the same but I must admit I do sometimes find myself talking to them differently. Partly it's because DS is 14 now so I have more of a matey relationship with him. We have similar senses of humour and at least some similar interests so it's easy to chat to him about that kind of stuff. But I do find it harder to have a more touchy-feely conversation with him, not for want of trying on my part but because he clams up within seconds. Chatting while we're alone in the car works better with him.
DD, by contrast, could talk the hind legs off a donkey and her life is an open book. She knows she can talk to me about anything and everything and, quite frankly, it's getting her to shut up for long enough to either draw breath or to allow me to get a word in that's often the challenge. She's "easier" in the respect that I always know what's going on with her but then DS is "easier" in that he's more self-reliant. Swings and roundabouts.
But I do work hard at making sure I tell both of them that I love them lots of times a day and DS will still get in a sneaky hug when he thinks no-one's looking 
Kids, in general, are great. Doesn't matter about what sex they are. Enjoy your daughter for who she is rather than worrying about gender stereotyping. Congratulations!
amillionyears ·
21/01/2013 18:11
I was quite horrified to find I had boys tbh!
I was most concerned about what to dress them in 
But, you soon find, when you go to the shops, that you choose what you want initially.
It wont be long though, before they have their own input into everything, including clothes.
glyders ·
17/02/2013 22:05
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BeautifullyBurnt ·
19/05/2013 17:27
My Dad was a single father to me (his daughter) and we did everything together. We'd play football in the living room, followed by dolls house! He helped me build forts out of big lacquered cardboard which would then turn into my own tap dancing stage. He taught me how to play pool and foosball, along with encouraging me to dance and sing and still finding time to build a Noddy car out of a cardboard box and take me to Brownies.
Basically, Girls don't just do 'girly stuff', they can do anything, as long as someone shows them how and supports them. =] So do that, and you'll have a wonderful relationship with your little girl which will last forever. (But don't forget to let Mum get a look in too.)
Congratulations too!
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