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After an enlightening conversation, I am after a male POV

If a man is married and has sex with his wife 4-5 times a month, how often do you think is "normal" for them to masturbate a week without their wife knowing?

I'm not a man, but would say it's going to depend on the man. Some would masturbate twice a day, others twice a week, others not at all.

Men carry on producing sperm all their lives, if they dont get sex on a regular basis, it has to be released at some time. I personally have a very good sex life (more than four times a week) I don't masturbate on that basis. Masturbating behind your wifes back, i dont see the point. Why doesn't he ask for sex or some playing?

mu-ha-ha-ha! at blondviking...you do know that there is no such thing as 'blue balls' don't you?!

As for 'normal', there is no answer as it depends on the individuals and the relationship.

I find it strange that you ask about the 'wife knowing' bit. Presumably most wives 'know' that their husbands masturbate but I have no interest in being aware of the details of when and where tbh.

Exactly, should I ask for notifications? (sorry, not the male POV you were looking for)

Why worry about what's normal? It's entirely the husband's own business.

(Am also not a man)

Showed this to Mr Ko for his input.

His answer was a shrug. As he put it its normal for him to masturbate as ofenas he does. He also wondered why the OP felt the need to enquire.

What bothering you OP? Is this an issue in your relationship?

I'm a 5 times-ish a week man, pretty much regardless of how much shagging is taking place. I'm also not shy about it so would happily keep a log if I knew it might be of interest. Little 5-bar gates on a whiteboard in the kitchen maybe.

Ask him!

SPERM DOES NOT HAVE VTO BE EJACULATED IT IS ABSORBED INTO THE BODY, AS TO HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH? EXPECT WHEN HIS COCK BEGINS TO HURT ? WHY U ASK MN?