When you've been skint, what's the Kindest thing someone has done?

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CharlieUniformNovemberTango Wed 30-May-12 08:05:30

I've posted on the thread about a the cruellest things people have said and done when you've been skint but I thought a reverse thread would be a lovely idea.

Let's restore our faith in human nature grin

Also, feel free to post if you've done something kind to help a friend in need. It might give someone some inspiration smile

peppapighastakenovermylife Wed 30-May-12 08:08:17

Lovely idea smile

I've had Tesco deliver to friends before so they have food including treats and stuff. Or I've gone and done a shop and dropped the food round. Not much - perhaps £30 as we don't have much spare money ourselves but it always makes them smile.

CharlieUniformNovemberTango Wed 30-May-12 08:08:25

I put this on the other thread but thought I'd mention it again - When my mum was struggle her neighbour told us her big chest freezer had broken so could my mum make use of a big bag of food as she'd never be able to use it all up.

A week later my mum asked the husband if the freezer was fixed and he was very confused because they didn't even have a chest freezer. I think she knew my mum was proud and wouldn't have accepted her offer smile

CharlieUniformNovemberTango Wed 30-May-12 08:11:02

Oh and some ^very* kind mumsnetter has just helped me out of a bind by offering some smart shoes for my son to wear to my brothers wedding. It really has taken some of the pressure off and I was so relieved and touched by her kindness.

Thank you so much INeverFinishAnythi smile

The greengrocer/butcher put extra food in my bag as he packed it. When I queried it (worried it would tip me over budget) he said it was overstock and he thought I would find a way to use it and stop it going to waste.
Someone once sent me a £50 note anonymously through the post.
I have given a crockery set, a cutlery set and a tv cabinet to someone who was splitting from his partner and setting up a flat.
It all comes around when you need it.

Several very kind Mumsnetters have donated me maternity clothes and it has made all the difference to me, forcing my bump into too small clothes was aggravating my morning sickness no end, I also got a lovely sling so baby will be able to stay close, leaving me my arms to tend to my 2 others.

Years ago, my eldest was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis, we were whisked to a London hospital 4 hours away out of the blue, no luggage, no money no nothing, I was by myself with a newborn DS2 and a 2 1/2 year old DS1, Mumsnetters came out in force to send us things to the hospital to make life easier, our lives were upside down for the next year and there was a collection on here by a lady who I am still friends with that allowed us to take the boys on a short trip to Butlins, we really needed it and I will never forget the kindness.

TheQueenOfSheba Wed 30-May-12 08:19:55

When I was homeless and pregnant (20 odd years ago), a stranger gave me 50 pounds. I have never forgotten her kindness.

Pochemuchka Wed 30-May-12 08:23:13

When I was younger I did a job where i had to outlay and reclaim expensive travel costs. The owner of the company didn't pay me them or my actual wage, saying that because they hadn't received my p45 they couldn't. (I was very young and very naive!). This went on for nearly 3 months (of no income and huge costs) and I couldn't afford to pay my rent/live. I tried to put my foot down and she became completely uncontactable - I worked in London, she lived in Liverpool - and I had to take her to tribunal. I was completely skint as I'd used all money for travel (we're talking £40 a day!) and hadn't been paid a penny.

Some people I knew through my brother let me live rent free in their house until I got sorted and my brother gave me some money for food etc. (he wasn't exactly rich at the time!)
They really made me feel welcome when I stayed there and even got me a summer job until my old job in a school could take me back in September.
Luckily the employment tribunal wasn't contested and I got some money back fairly soon (no expenses and a cap on the weekly wage but enough to put a deposit down on a new rented flat)
I am really grateful to them all as things could have been so much worse.

ontheedgeofwhatever Wed 30-May-12 20:59:53

I was in floods of tears on a bus because my purse had been stolen with the £25 I'd worked hard to save for my mothers 60th birthday. A complete stranger came over and when she heard what was the matter just gave me £30. I asked for her name and address and promised to pay her back one day and a year later was able to send her a cheque (interestingly although she wrote and thanked me she never cashed it). It made a huge differerence as it would have taken weeks to replace it myself. Never forgotten her kindness

BibiBlocksberg Sun 10-Jun-12 00:02:32

A MN sent me £20 by PayPal in march this year.

Insurance company had taken a big payment not due to them out of my bank account leaving me with nothing for two weeks.

Still can't get over the fact that a perfect stranger did that for me and probably never will. So kind.

The two old boys next door to me telling me that they will lie for me and take my cats to the PDSA for free if they need any treatment as one of them is on benefits (no need thankfully but it's still a kind offer)

babygsmummy Sun 10-Jun-12 12:04:34

Before I was made redundant I used to buy my friend about £50 worth of shopping each pay day as she is a single parent who is also a student,I would always tell her it was the stuff I wouldnt eat that my mum forces on me when I visit,she only got on to it when the girls got the things they asked for,Im not so clever to think my mum wouldnt give me angel delight or jelly babies.

When I was made redundant in feb,she helped me with my benifits/upset and emotions without me asking,she also helped me join loads of baby clubs to get stuff for free as Im due in 2 weeks.Its true a friebd inneed is a friend indeed.

nicest thing for me was,many years ago my train from london was diverted to chester instead of liverpool,it was also xmas eve,I had to give the taxi driver money before he would drive me to liverpool,half way he got stopped and arrested for drunk driving and the police left me at the side of the road by a petrol station.The owner of the petrol station gave me money for and organised a taxi home for me.When I took the money back 3 days later,sadly he had passed away and his wife wouldnt take the money from me.He was a lovely man,god bless him.

When a close friend's DH was made redundant a fortnight after she had given birth, a mutual friend organised us all to take them dinner every night for a month.

She pitched it as 'we know you won't have time to cook' and organised a rota and what to cook so it didn't end up repetitive, it was an amazing feat of organisation by one particular woman!

CharlieUniformNovemberTango Wed 13-Jun-12 17:44:38

I'm glad this thread is still going smile

I was sent some bits recently to help with my brothers wedding. It really lifted a lot of the stress as I couldn't afford the last few bits of clothing or shoes for my son to wear.

I've also been offered money or credit for my phone by strangers on here. I couldn't accept it but I was and always will be very very greatful. This is a wonderful place grin

A lovely mumsnetter on here offered to send dd shoes as she had wrecked/suddenly grown out of her others. I thought they were old ones her dc had grown out of, in reality she went to a well known shop and bought and sent my dd three pairs of brand new shoes, forever grateful for that!

BiddyPop Thu 14-Jun-12 10:43:49

I never know who to give things to. So I give enough food for 2 families to a charity close to work (plenty of familise in need in the area) reasonably regularly - like a week's shopping but just no non-perishables.

I also, as I hate to give cash to the guys on the street, give my coffee shop loyalty cards that are fully stamped to a couple of the homeless guys that I recognise as homeless rather than just begging for drugs money. They then get a hot drink from the coffee shop when they need it. (I have agreed with one local CS owner that I can pay to get a card fully stamped for money rather than a loyalty thing for this purpose). And as I often bring in buns to work, I go a specific route those mornings so that I will see these guys if they're out and give them a few from the box first.

I give my sis most of DD's outgrown clothes for her 2 kids, and have thrown in things that DD has "never worn" (sometimes I have nothing suitable for a boy, even though DD often wears boys clothes, and sometimes I want to have something new for DNiece - but she won't take them if she knows I've bought them specially). Or buy new things and run them through a wash once.

I also sent her a load of seeds this year, as I won't be using them and she will on her allotment (I don't have time for mine and have to give it up at the end of the season).

I know another sis has organised a T*sco home delivery for her - a decent food shop to last a few weeks - and not said anything to her too.

I like the ideas though that are on this thread.

Shakey1500 Thu 14-Jun-12 10:54:03

This doesn't sound massive but meant an awful lot to me at the time.

Years ago, when I was a jobbing actor (as opposed to a "proper" one!) I was doing a panto tour. The family I was renting a room from lived MILES away from anywhere, back of beyond. I was returning from a weekend home on a Sunday, got to the main town, only to find there were no buses to "back of beyond". I only had enough money for the bus fare, too proud to ring and ask the family for a lift so started walking. Tried hitchiking, no-one stopped. And I only knew the bus route so all around the houses. It took me hours to walk, it was stiflingly hot. When I fell through the door, the family were just having their Sunday dinner. I was FAMISHED (and must have stared). They plated me up a dinner, with a glass of red wine and it was singularly THE best meal I've ever had grin Told you it wasn't massive!

I worked on the tube for a while and used to leave a couple of ciggies for the old boy who slept in my stations doorway, while he was sleeping.

CouthyMow Thu 14-Jun-12 10:59:54

A kind MN'er posted me some winter boots. It was without doubt the kindest thing anyone had ever done for me. U spend what money I do have for clothes and shoes on the DC's, and my cost £10 3 years ago boots had holes in and were letting in the water.

She knows who she is, and thanks.

CharlieUniformNovemberTango Thu 14-Jun-12 11:16:18

Yes - this nest of vipers have such a soft side to them smile

But shhhhhh, don't want to ruin their reputation.

WhyIRayLiotta Thu 14-Jun-12 11:36:52

This thread has cheered me right up. A lovely thing someone did for me - years ago while I was at uni, I was making my way to the bus station to get the bus home to my parents for Easter. I walked to the station - and went to the bank machine to get out money for my bus home - and the cash machine swallowed my card. I didnt have keys for my house as I'd given them to my housemate (who had then left for her night away) I was standing by the bank machine - quietly freaking out - I had no money / keys / friends in the city - I didn't even have enough money to phone home. It was Easter Sat so no banks etc. Then a taxi man who'd been parked nearby came over and asked me if I was ok.... I explained what happened and he said don't worry and offered me £20 ( my bus fare was £15) I was so unbelieveably grateful. It was completely kind. I asked for his name / address etc to return it - and he gave me his name and taxi number and told me to drop it at the depot which was close by.

I did drop it back in a thankyou card - I left my number and asked that he let me know that he got it. I never heard back. I really hope that he got it - it was a big depot and I wasn't sure about the man who took the letter and said he'd pass it on. I'd hate for the lovely kind man to think I just took advantage of him and never repaid his kindness.

QueenofJacksDreams Thu 14-Jun-12 12:10:17

We're really struggling right now and have been for the last year or so and I made a comment on a thread just before Xmas that although we didn't have a lot of gifts for my DD we had shelter and food and love and that was enough. A wonderful kind MN'er though sent me a PM asking to send my DD a little something it was a doll that my DD has played with every day since getting it and loves to bits she knows it was from a kind lady on the internet who wanted to do something lovely for her and there were tears all round at Xmas over this story.

I don't think I could ever thank her enough for such kind hearted behaviour and instead I try to pass it on where I can helping out people where I can with food from our own supplies and hopefully one day I'll be in a position to help out so much more.

The only problem is its sparked an obsession in DD for these dolls! grin

I read this on another website yesterday and it really makes sense in what we should all be doing "Today you, Tomorrow me"

becstarsky Thu 14-Jun-12 12:32:00

I'd just been to Sainsbury's and put food for dinner in my basket... and my card was bleeped - insufficient funds, so I had to leave all the food there. (Which it turns out was due to a bank mistake angry) I was walking home trying to figure out how the hell I was going to feed my DS that evening, feeling utterly miserable when I saw a big box of food on my neighbour's front wall saying 'Please Take'. They were going on holiday and had put out everything that would go stale while they were away. I nearly cried. She popped out when she saw me and gave me carrier bags to take it all home with me. We had full cupboards and I was so, so grateful.

JuliaScurr Thu 14-Jun-12 12:38:18

I had an anonymous whip round when some pensioner friends were left with no money and no roof by bastard 'rogue' builders

Had to tell them it was me in the end; they were freaked by random £few hundred through the letterbox

JuliaScurr Thu 14-Jun-12 12:39:21

that ^ shouldn't be here blush

When we were skint just after the birth of DS2 as our boiler had broken down so I had to get a job at McDonalds in the evenings after DH got back from work. One night, got back around 2am to find a huge box of groceries/toiletries/cleaning products on the doorstep with an anonymous note.

bananaistheanswer Thu 14-Jun-12 12:51:41

The kindest thing I've had done for me was when I was really broke, struggling and had no money to the extent I was going through the day not eating anything, just topping up on machine drinks at work, my childminder had dinner waiting for me a few times when I'd go and pick up my DD. I almost cried the first time she did it as I was just so hungry, and she always made out it was just left over dinner that would go to waste if I didn't have it (which wasn't true as she has 3 teenage kids and a husband as well as a dog and cat).

Convert Thu 14-Jun-12 12:53:56

My Dad is very rpoud and would rather die than admit he was struggling but he has a problem with his legs which measns he can't stand up for very long and so really struggles to work. He asked me to do an online shop for him every few weeks as his car had broken and he lives in the middle of nowhere.
He would give me a list and his card details and I would do the order. When I got his Christmas order list I sobbed for ages. I had just spend about
300 200 quid on my order and there was nothing special on his at all.
I did the order but then added loads of stuff, cheese and crackers, chocolates, pate, an indian takeaway, biscuits, wine, mountains of it.
When the shopping arrived he called me because he was worried that he'd got someone elses shopping and he would be charged for it. It broke my heart. He was so happy and it made me very proud to be able to give just a tiny bit back of what he has given me.

I was living with my brother and fucking horrible SIL and I was waiting for a divorce settlement so I could buy a house. Things got very, very bad living with them and I could do nothing about it. My SIL then got pregnant and told me (and 5yr old DS) to get out. We had no money and nowhere to go. My wonderful, wonderful friend heard about this and loaned me £3000 to rent somewhere for 6 months while I waited for the settlement. Settlement is now through, my friend has been paid back, and we are moving into our new house next month smile.

Thank you Janet, you truly saved my life [flowers] xx

Or should that be thanks !

BikeRunSki Thu 14-Jun-12 13:01:35

DH was made redundant when DD was 4 weeks old last autumn. DS was just 3 and had just started independent swimming lessons with the instructor whose baby classes we'd been to and who DS adored. We had paid for a term, but couldn't afford the next term. My mum (on state pension) sent me cash in an envelope to pay for the next term. When I went to pay, someone had paid for us, and mum let me keep the cash.

DH got a new job quickly, on same salary. I burst into tears in the PO when he rang to tell me. Having stared low income in the face at such a vulnerable time, I organised all my friends together to donate all their old baby stuff to pregnancy crisis. We delivered 10 black bags and several moses baskets, pushchairs etc. All usable. While I was there a MW rang up to see if they could help three families on her books who could not afford anything for their new babies.

Oh, and I helped out my other friend who had been in refuge with me for a couple of months. She moved in to a new flat and had nothing. People from church gave her table, chairs, sofa, bed, fridge and freezer. I bought her the necessities, a flat screen TV and a digibox! We're still great friends.

sweetkitty Thu 14-Jun-12 13:12:04

When DP and I were students we were always skint we lived on 49p pizzas, pasta n Sauce and super noodles.

My Gran used to post me up £20 each week she was on a widows pension and I felt really bad for having to take it but it was so needed. She died just before I got pregnant with DD1 so never saw my DC

foofooyeah Fri 22-Jun-12 23:09:14

What a lovely thread. We are struggling at the moment and both my Mum and MIL take me out food shopping sometimes.

A dear dear friend posted me £10 for wine - and insisted I got wine and not necessities - wine had never tasted so good.

Springforward Fri 22-Jun-12 23:18:46

I have been given a put-together hamper of nice foods I couldn't afford in the past, from someone who understood just how often I was eating beans on toast.

I did this for my sister at xmas too, and popped a bottle of brandy and one of lemonade in along with an xmas tea kit, so she could have her favourite tipple on christmas day evening.

bringmesunshine2009 Sun 24-Jun-12 20:19:41

A really nice ( well a lot of really nice tbh) MNers PMd offering to send me that which I could not afford to replace. One in particular asked to send me a present but I was too shy to accept. A huge thanks. X

deburca Sun 24-Jun-12 20:34:30

I once had someone drive me 50 miles out of there way just to make sure I go home safely - 100 mile round trip for someone that she didnt know very well - never forgot that.

I have lent a friend £200 when I really couldnt afford it - she broke down and mentioned that she had to put food back in the supermarket and she was so embarrassed about it, I transferred the cash, sat in for 2 months and never regretted it!

ella47 Sun 24-Jun-12 21:04:35

Got thinking about mine and almost in tears, so many....

A very close friend would pick me up and take me out for coffee regularly and although we usually took turns paying every week, when I was at my skintest she would 'forget' it was my turn to pay and swear blind it was hers and say I could pay next time..... by which time she'd have forgotten again. I offered to have her round to mine for coffee instead but she knew how much I enjoyed that one little treat and never drew attention to the fact I couldn't really afford it.

My parents set up a savings account for me and ds as a Christmas present one year with £300 in. When I was really broke I had no choice but to drain it so I could buy food and pay the rent. I'm certain they knew I'd used the money and I know it was money as a present but my parents are very strict and proper about money and them not mentioning it or trying to 'tell me off' for not managing was very kind on their part.

Another instance was a relative who unfailingly buys me cheap but useless presents at Xmas 'suddenly' deciding that for once she couldn't think of anything to buy me and giving me £100 instead, which was so needed.

MsOnatopp Wed 04-Jul-12 18:11:09

I have a few.

A friend giving me a hundred pound cheque that I was to use to spoil myself with. Not for my DC, not for food or bills, something fun and to spoil myself.

The mother of a bride-to-be gave me all the left over food from the hen do. I burst into tears when I got home and saw how much was in those bags.

Sister bringing round sweets/treats when she comes to watch a movie and saying 'och there's no point me taking that stuff back, keep it here' and leaving BAGS of sweets/chocs/crisps.

My mother who will get 'buy one get one half price' or BOGOFs and bring me the spare one of whatever it is.

Family constantly waving money I owe them.

People in groups I know giving me clothes their kids have outgrow, some barely worn, some new with tags (now I am suspicious...) because their kids never got round to wearing them.

Family pay for all my DC's shoes.

A Mumsnetter who messaged me privately and offered to help me out after I have posted on a 'you know you're skint when' thread a while back. I declined but s/he will never know how grateful I was that s/he had offered!

When I was a student I needed a v v expensive skin medication.

My doctor (who was our family doctor and knew me since I was born) knew my dad was out of work and money was tight, he put it on my gran's medical card so that we could afford it.

A couple of years later when things were better, I was working in a nursing home one summer in the US. When it came to my last day, one of the residents, a lovely old lady (103) gave me an envelope with a card and her bingo winnings from the previous week. She said she knew how expensive it was in college and hoped I could get something nice with it (I think it came to about $5). This was over 20 years ago and I still think about her.

mummytooo1 Fri 20-Jul-12 14:03:04

im truly skint at the moment lost job etc waiting for benefits to come through sad
but for me i no im truly skint when i have to beg family for help even though i no i have to do it as a last resort they will say no but still need to try
the kindest thing any one has done for me is a lady who used to live in my street knew i have been struggling and she posted my little boy a goodybag full of treats and colouring stuff i thought it was lovely of her to do
cant wait for things to get better cos at the minute its heartbreaking had no gas for a week now and elec all but gone and no food left its hell

Doowrah Fri 27-Jul-12 20:37:28

I had a £6.00 off your £50 shop at Morrison's voucher from a newspaper only I didn't have the money for a £50 shop so I gave it to another lady going into Morrison's and she was delighted.

soontobeburns Thu 09-Aug-12 02:15:39

The only thing I can think off is my wonderful grandparents who will always 'lend' me money when i need it and are now paying for me to have driving lessons.

As for me im unemployed and skint myself (no DC yet though :-( so can manage) but I do try to help...not much at all but I gave my friend a packet of ciggerettes when he had none.

prinsazz Wed 22-Aug-12 16:42:11

I work for my mum in their shop one day a week and I dont really earn any money, but she knows we are having a bit of trouble with money, and ive been trying to make a bit more so she has been offering me more days and making sure there are presents for me to thankyou (normally cash) I love my mum

This thread has made me cry, people are just so nice. I want to make sure that I am one of these nice people too. what a lovely world we live in that people would do these things for others

ShoopShoop Thu 23-Aug-12 10:04:14

I popped onto the Credit Crunch section to get some ideas for saving / cutting back. I was so saddened by the "You know you're skint when....." thread and also cruellest things thread. This thread is amazing though - some people are so kind.

On the "You know you're skint when...." thread, people were talking about really uncomfy bras. Ouch. I don't know if anyone needs any at the moment, or if this is the right place to post, so I hope I don't offend anyone!! I have 3 bras - 2 never worn but with the labels taken off, and 1 worn twice. They are pre-pregnancy and things have headed south since then! I would love them to go to a good home. I realise I have ridiculously large boobs blush so I'm not even sure if they're any good to anyone!

- Black 32HH
- Cream 32HH
- Red 34G

If anyone needs them, please get in touch or PM me. I'd love to help if I can

Shoop x

hermioneweasley Sat 25-Aug-12 20:11:39

These stories are lovely so I'm bumping

About 20 years ago we went on holiday to Turkey. It was our first holiday abroad with DS who was 5. Although we had budgeted very carefully we managed to run out of money about 2 days before we came home and we couldn't withdraw any from the cashpoint due to some sort of error even though we knew we had money available.

Whilst there we had got friendly with an elderly couple from the UK. They were so friendly and had many interesting tales to tell about their life in the army. Idi Amin had been an usher at their wedding. Not through their choice, it was deemed an appropriate thing to do as the British Army was handing over to the Ugandan army at the time and back then he was a very well respected General.

Anyway, the internal currency in the hotel was beads which you bought in advance to pay for meals, drinks etc. We had run out of beads but when we went to reception the morning afer the lovely elderly couple had checked out we were presented with an evelope full of beads. Enough to pay for food and drink until we checked out. We never had the opportunity to thank them which is such a shame, but we were so very grateful for their kind gift.

WantAnOrange Sun 26-Aug-12 20:55:57

It wasn't me, and it's such a little thing really but one thing that comes to mind is when DH (DP at the time) and I were in KFC when we were about 18. A homeless guy came in and rifled through all the rubbish left on the tables looking for leftover food. sad The other costumers either ignored him or looked disgusted. The man didn't find any food so he went back outside and sat down. DH saved his chips and gave them to him on the way out, with some money to get a coffee to go with it. This man's face lit up like christmas, it was sad and heart warming all at once.

onemoreforgoodmeasure Sun 26-Aug-12 20:58:27

I'm in debt and my OH just replaced my laptop. My DB nearly died Wednesday and I'm booking my DM a ticket so she can visit with him. It all goes round.

waitingtobeamummy Sun 26-Aug-12 21:14:59

I posted this on another one a while ago.
We heard through friends an aquatence's baby was ok hospital desperately ill. No family members would help them get there to visit and they lived pretty much hand to mouth.
We put .£50 in a card saying to help get to your little boy and posted it through theit door.
The warm feeling it gave us was amazing, if only we had enough money to to it regularly for people. X

BikeRunSki Sun 26-Aug-12 21:15:07

DH was put on short hours when DD was 4 weeks old, and I was still recovering from a emcs. A lady I didn't know very well came round one day when DH was at work and brought me lunch - she'd been in touch with a v good friend of mine to see what I'd like. Stayed, had a chat and a cuddle with new baby, cleaned the kitchen and left nothing but choc brownies. A week later she drove me, DS (3) and DD out to soft play with her DS (same age as mine). She did something for me every Thursday until I was back on my feet - which also coincided with DH getting a new job. She's now expecting her second DC and will have a CS. I can't wait to repay the favour!

BikeRunSki that's lovely smile

I had some very generous mums netters one year on a secret Santa. The gifts went to my children as we couldn't really afford a pressy for Xmas day. That was very nice.
Friends helping out when we've been in extremely tight financial situations. I've been lucky with generous friendly family and friends when I've least expected it.

Journey Thu 30-Aug-12 19:16:48

FIL saying he would pay my monthly credit card bill (which was fabulous) but then to phone back the next day to tell us he didn't think he was doing enough and told us he would clear all our debts! He never once made us feel small or embarrassed about our debts either. Truly amazing. I think his kindness will always have a huge influence on me.

OddBoots Thu 30-Aug-12 19:26:22

These things are so lovely. I think MN need to put a link to this thread (or a page made quoting some of these) and link it with a heart or a smile type logo next to the moon under 'advanced search'.

queenebay Thu 30-Aug-12 19:28:14

I found a bag of money £300 when i was 15 and handed it in to the police station. As i sat there telling them all about it an older lady came in hysterical saying she had lost her bag containing her husband wages.
I left the police to it and later that night she came round to my house to congratulate my parents on having a honest child. She forever brought me wee gifts and knitted me jumpers!!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Thu 30-Aug-12 19:32:53

When we were leaving amsterdam after a 6 week trip round europe DB and I opened our joint purse and gave a guy on the street all the money we had left (about £70) we very quietly slipped it in his hat next to his dog.. we were the other end of the road and he stood up and shouted thanks and jumped around.

DB and I didn;t stop but we both really smiled.

Now I have a few friends who are stoney broke and I just make sure that when we go round I take stuff that could not be justified on their budget like junk food crisps and choccie biscuits etc.

I was very close to drop a few gift vouchers through the door saying that they had won the raffle at school but realised that could cause problems.

riverboat Fri 31-Aug-12 19:06:37

When I was a student, I had reached the end of my overdraft way before the end of term, and was really worried about how I would get through the last couple of weeks. I printed out a mini-statement and saw that a deposit of £400 had just been made into my account. I had no idea what this was, and went into the bank to ask about it - the woman on the desk looked some stuff up on the computer and said the code showed that it had been made from the bank's HQ. She very quietly suggested that we do nothing and that there was very little chance it would be chased up - and lo, it never was! Thus I survived the end of term £400 richer.

Bakingnovice Mon 10-Dec-12 23:17:00

This thread is so moving. Am actually crying.

mammyof5 Mon 10-Dec-12 23:48:37

when i had my first dd a lady kindly gave me her dd old clothes i know it doesnt seem much but at the time it was a huge blessing.

i do all the normal things children s charity's ever month, food for food banks, shops appeals for presents for children in need. give all my dc clothes away to those who need then or charity shops.

one year my dc decided they would like to carol sing. they went out and where given a lot of money. i asked them what they wanted to do with it they said thet they had enough stuff and would give it to someone who needed it. out in town on xmas eve and we saw a lady begging (very rare here to see) so we gave her all the money we all felt it was fate that she had it for mas

its a shame not more people were like the ones here i think the world would be a better place. it has brought a tear to my eye reading this

Bakingnovice Tue 11-Dec-12 16:20:33

Last year one of ds's best friends at school told him that he would be bringing in a packed lunch on the day of the school Xmas dinner as his mum 'had no pennies to pay for it'. I was so heartbroken. I popped into the office to pay anonymously for this child but the office lady must have heard the same thing as she said the school would meet the cost and would notify the mother. There are lots of kind people out there.

Bumblequeen Wed 12-Dec-12 08:37:26

This thread is wonderful and puts things into perspective.

Early this morning I felt sorry for myself as my work coat has no buttons so I cover with a long, thick coat. I have thin jackets and a thick fur coat dating 7/8 years which is inappropriate for everyday wear.

Dh and I will wait until after Christmas in the hope we can buy coats for a reasonable price. We bought dd two coats at the start of winter.

So many people are struggling but due to pride will not say.

I admit Christmas is a difficult time when you do not have lots of cash sad

buildingmycorestrength Wed 12-Dec-12 11:58:07

Wonderful thread. so moving.

juicychops Sat 15-Dec-12 20:10:15

my best friend surprised me by set up a standing order into my bank account for £30 each month a few winters ago as i was struggling to pay the electric for the heating

2kidsintow Sat 15-Dec-12 21:06:36

Years ago, my best friend was a single parent and was finding things hard. We took her shopping and filled a trolley with everything that she needed. It took some convincing for her to let us do it for her, but we were adamant.

She was determined to pay us back, but was never in the position to, financially. In the end, when she moved away she left us her DDs cot to settle the debt/say thankyou and her DDs cot became my DDs cot.

racingheart Sat 22-Dec-12 14:28:19

I once had a boss who overheard me mention to another girl at work that my feet were wet from walking in the rain. He asked why and I said there were holes in the soles of my shoes. He took my hand and pulled me out of the place we worked and into a nearby shoe shop where he bought me some new shoes.

He was lovely to everyone who ever came into contact with him. I went back to visit him the other day because I had such fond memories of him. He's old now and had no memory of me at all, which was sad (but funny too) as he had made such a huge impression on me. He was unbelievably kind and good.

iwantanafternoonnap Thu 27-Dec-12 22:15:07

I have had lots of nice things done for me from friends coming and cooking dinner and getting all the things I could not afford. Someone at work sharing their lunch with me because I was losing weight so fast due to not having any money for lunch.

Latest one though is my friends taking me out on my 40th and my present being a trip to Disneyland Paris for me and my DS grin

I am due some compensation soon and the first thing I am going to do is treat my friends for dinner.

BackforGood Thu 27-Dec-12 22:56:21

Years ago, when teaching a class where I knew money was tight for quite a few of the families, we were offered the chance to go to the theatre, at the last minute, for much reduced cost, but it was just before Christmas and we'd already asked for money that term for another visit. I put the letter out, apologising for the short notice but explaining we'd been offered it as a last minute thing, and saying the cost is £x, but we will do our best to find what we can from elsewhere, but it would be helpful if people could just send a £1 or £2 to help towards it, and somehow we'd make sure the children all went. Two parents (it was a special school, so there were only 12 children in the class so this made a massive difference) sent in not only the full amount for their child, but also the full amount over again, "to make sure all the children can go". It was 16 years ago, but still brings tears to my eyes thinking about their kindness, just before Christmas, when money is tight for everyone. smile

RockinaroundtheTippletree Sun 30-Dec-12 18:57:37

someone once popped an envelope with some money through my mums door so she could buy a badly needed winter coat and couldn't afford one when I was very small because bastard father fucked off and refused to pay maintenance

colditz Fri 04-Jan-13 10:34:31

Oh the kindnesses that have been done for me, they blow my mind. A mner sent me some lovely leather boots, because I had no boots and my feet were getting cold and wet. Another time, it was Christmas, the very first Christmas mumsnet appeal, I was so poor and exp had spent the rent money in the bandit machines, and a load of anon MNers basically made Christmas happen. I got sent presents for me and for the children, a couple of gift cards, one for tesco and one for m and s, each with fifty quid on (this fed us) and you know, if it hadn't been for that massive kindness, I may not have physically survived that Christmas. I was quite upbeat about it at the time, but I was actually teetering very very close to the edge of reason and the sheer goodwill of strangers pushed me back away from the brink.

colditz Fri 04-Jan-13 10:37:51

Oh, and a regular poster, I met her for the first time when she brought her baby daughters clothes round to my house whilst I was pregnant with ds2, impoverished and catatonic with depression. I have never forgotten that kindness, and also the kindness of her pretending I was a fully functional person when it must have been really obvious that I wasn't!

NaiceDude Fri 04-Jan-13 10:57:50

Not when I was skint but when I was about 8-9 y/o my dad used to be friendly with the loveliest loveliest most gorgeous old man who lived locally called Brian. They weren't close but stopped to chat every single time they saw each other. On two separate occasions I was with dad when he stopped to talk to Brian, and on both occasions he took out one of those little plastic money bags you used to get (do you still?) and gave me money. One time it was a £5 note and the other it was a handful of £2 coins when they were relatively new and exciting - I think it was 4 coins so £8.

Dad tried to impress on me at the time how much money that was to an old man on a pension who didn't know me from Adam, and although I thanked him politely it wasn't until I was an adult that I really "got" how ridiculoously generous he was. I well up every time I think about it now.

Sadly he just vanished one day. Dad knew roughly but not exactly where he lived and kept on asking if anyone had seen him. I have always been essentially "face blind" and never would have recognised him. He even knocked on doors on the road where he thought Brian lived but there was no sign of him sad

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