so no crisis or anything just reading another thread about someone being tight and it got me thinking....
My Mother who is on a small widows pension lives beyond her means and I am not sure what I can do to help (or whether I should be doing anything)
She can not budget, takes holidays she can not afford, eats M and S ready meals all the time, takes people out for lunch, buys gifts she can not afford the whole thing.
She appears to be able to get loans from the bank (despite being on a negligible income) and has maxd out credit cards.
Twice I have paid her credit card bill, (she is supposed to be paying me back I am not really expecting to see it until her house is sold! Although she has switched one of the direct debits i saved her to go into my name When she gets a lot older, this is despite me loosing my job and having to take the money from savings) I sat down with all her household expenses and saved her about 400 pounds a year on gas, insurance, phone etc.
Should I do anything? If so what? What will happen when I don't clear her credit card bill?
[two missing bits of information she - like lots of people her age - has always been quite dependent on the man to budget, pay bills etc, she likes the best, and spent freely when she was younger, but seems to have a backwards attitude to money so when she had 3k debt on her card views it has having 1k to spend plus she has a 'friend' who lives in her house most of the time yet makes seemingly no financial contribution eg she was paying for sky sports I told her to get him to pay if he wanted it she recently told me she had changed her sky contract since when she asked him to pay he told her to cancel it!!)
I should just but out and do nothing more shouldn't I
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My Mother lives beyond her means how can I help her? Should I
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Arohaitis · 05/11/2013 21:17
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