1st month TTC

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Littlebear88 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:04:15

New member alert!!!
My husband and I have just decided to ttc! We are both youngest in our family although both on mid 20s! We want our children to be close to their cousins who range from 2-5! Just hoping our brothers and sisters won't be judgemental as they were all in 30s when they started having children! We have been on nice holidays but feel that a baby is the next step and we are very excited! Just looking for some moral support!!!

toots123 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:14:07

Im assuming im the same age as you as I was born in 88. We are at the exact same position little bear, im excited to see what happens!

None of my friends have kids yet but my husband and I always wanted a family so it was always the way to go for us! X

Littlebear88 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:18:21

Some of my friends- who are early 30s have babies but all tell me I'm too young!
I'm 25 and hubby is 27. We have talked about it a lot and decided it just feels right! grin
Very excited and hoping it happens quickly!! Age will be on our side!!(hopefully)

toots123 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:39:47

I dont think we are too young! We know when is right I suppose.
Im 25 and husband is 35 so I think he is pretty keen but he waited on me being ready which was nice.
I hope it happens quickly too but trying not to stress on dates yet (as hard as it is!)

rosiegal Sun 17-Nov-13 21:40:16

I think its a personal choice and if you feel the time is right for you then go for it, I mean if you were 10 years younger that would probably be a good time to wait! I'm 30 and ttc #1 after stopping the pill in september, all very exciting. I haven't really felt ready for kids before now whilst my dp is 26 and has been broody for years. We're both lucky enough to have secure jobs, our own home so now it just feels right. Unfortunately I'm one of those impatient people and I just want it to happen right now. Best of luck to you and I'm sure your families will be over the moon when it happens x

Littlebear88 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:47:21

Very exciting! It will be grandchild number 5 on both sides of family so hoping for lots of help and advice!! Good luck guys! Here's hoping for some 2014 babies!! Xx

Charlie343 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:48:49

Hello thought I would join. Also in my 20's (27!) and in my first month of TTC after stopping my pill in July.
I know what you mean about being inpatient Rosiegal - I am exactly the same! Good luck to you all!

Littlebear88 Sun 17-Nov-13 21:54:15

Have you guys been doing anything different from normal? I've been avoiding too much booze (not a big boozer anyway) and upping fruit and veg, just sticking with normal exercise.

Charlie343 Sun 17-Nov-13 22:01:36

Cutting back on alcohol though like you I'm not a big drinker. I started taking folic acid but that's about all the changes I've made. I am trying not to think about the whole TTC which is pretty difficult!!! Especially as every twinge, nauseous moment or headache I get I symptom spot!!!

Littlebear88 Sun 17-Nov-13 22:09:09

Definitely hard to stop thinking about! I wonder do you know of we can make a group so we can all keep in touch? I'm so new to this!!

rosiegal Sun 17-Nov-13 23:37:06

I started taking pregnacare conception when I came off the pill. My diet is fairly healthy and I do enjoy wine at the weekends but I'm not drinking to excess. Saying that I'm trying not to let it take over my life so I'll only cut stuff out when I'm expecting or if it takes longer than I hope I may look at my diet again..... There are lots of different threads and stuff to join on here but I've mainly been lurking, everyone I've chatted with has been very friendly and you often see the same names popping up.

Hi all, I'm 27 and DH and I are starting to TTC this month once AF is on her merry way grin I stopped my pill 5 weeks ago and have never been so bloody happy to get my period in my life! I wouldn't worry about age, mid twenties is great for loads of reasons - relatively settled but still young enough to come with night feeds and run around after toddlers, kids grown up and gone way before retirement so you have some freedom and time to save, fewer medical risks, likely to have shorter recovery...and some down sides too of course, in the same way that other ages have pros and cons too grin When you're ready, you're ready, its just a number wink

ruth1104 Mon 18-Nov-13 10:30:01

Hello I want in! Just started ttc, I did start the pregnacare conception vits but man they are so expensive! So i'm just using folic acid for now. I'm 26 and dh is 31, but we've been married for 4 years so have been asked continuously since then when we're going to get baby making, which always annoyed me but now I really don't know how to answer...
I haven't been using any opk's because I was trying to avoid putting too much pressure on the whole thing, but every ovulation chart I've put my dates into has given me different 'fertile days', does anyone know the answer to this? Any good iphone apps?

MrsW2909 Mon 18-Nov-13 11:20:59

Hi littlebear, im 27 and hubby is 25 - we got married in september and although i already have 2 dc's from a previous relationship - got pregnant with ds at 21 and again with dd at 24 both pregnancies totally unexpected my hubby has been wanting his own child for so long and i now feel ready for us to start trying to conceive so have agreed to have my coil taken out! Eek. Earliest app to have it done was next wednesday and the wait is killing me so god knows how i will deal with the wait to actually get pregnant!
I think 25-30 is the perfect age to have children, coming from someone who did it in my early 20's if i could have planned my life myself i would have wanted to have my first baby around 26/27 so your age is perfect in my opinion but as others have said age is just a number it depends on u and if u feel ur ready then thats totally ur choice.
I already want to run to tesco and buy some folic acid and i havent even got my coil out yet.. 9 days and counting!

KitKat1985 Mon 18-Nov-13 11:41:15

I think Littlebear88 25 is a fantastic age to have a baby. Old enough to have done the 'being young and carefree' bit, but young enough to have energy for sleepless nights and running around all day. To be honest, I think women can't win anymore. On the one hand you get people telling you to put off having a baby, and to get an education, forge a career, etc before you try for a baby; and then you get another group of people who scorn anyone aged over their early 30's trying for a baby! I think if it feels right for you and your DH then it's the right time.

As for me, I'm 28 and DH is 32. I was originally going to wait until next year so we could have a final long-haul holiday before TTC but got impatient and when I mooted to DH the idea of trying now instead he said "I've wanted you to say that for ages but didn't want to say anything in case you felt pressured"! Both really excited about this. It's first month TTC this month so am crossing our fingers for us (and we've decided to not give up on a last holiday yet either, but have just provisionally planned to go in March so that even if I was lucky enough to get pregnant straight away I would still be early enough along to be able to fly; although to be on the safe side we won't book until near the time so would know everything was going smoothly first).

Best of luck to all of you ladies trying this month. Wishing you lots of baby-dust! x

Littlebear88 Mon 18-Nov-13 11:55:44

Very exciting, just hoping it happens quickly! Might not be possible with DH working away mon-fri for next 2 months!
I'm lucky enough to be in secure job and have had some progression so seems an ok time work wise

Minithemoocher Mon 18-Nov-13 15:36:56

Can I join? I'm 28 and we've just started ttc #1. I was sure I was pregnant but AF made her appearance this morning (first cycle). Must try and not get so excited next time. I've felt sad all day and a bit silly with all the symptom spotting.

Hibou7688 Mon 18-Nov-13 16:34:19

I'm gonna join too! In the last two weeks i've gone from ttc, to not ttc because a job change from jan will affect my maternity.. But i decided i'm not going to be happy for a year if i have to put off ttc so back on it again! This i guess is my first cycle, missed my fertile days though because that was when we decided to stop! Back to it smile

HippyJess Mon 18-Nov-13 17:50:22

Hi everyone! DP and I just decided to start trying for #1, so here I am all excited grin having my IUD taken out this week! I'm 24 but DP is 28 and already feels like he's been waiting forever... He's worse than I am with the broodiness!

Good to 'meet' you all smile

Sunshineonsea Mon 18-Nov-13 18:08:05

Hi, I'm in my late 20s and Dh is in 30s we are ttc
Came off the pill 2 weeks ago but it seems I'm getting ovulation discharge already (thanks rosie thanks ) so hoping the process will be quick
We already have one Dc but would like to give them a sibling
Good luck to everyone

Sunshineonsea Mon 18-Nov-13 18:09:42

What do all the acronyms mean? I know ttc but not familiar with the rest

Littlebear88 Mon 18-Nov-13 18:13:55

DH is darling husband and BFP is positive pregnancy result! Not sure of the others!
AF Aunt Flo!!

rosiegal Mon 18-Nov-13 18:26:19

Oooh flowers for me, how kind sunshine If you're struggling with the acronyms have a liitle looky at the top of the thread and you have some of the meanings. I sound like a right know it all now, I promise I'm not but ever since making the 'big decision' I've been spending a lot of time on here. Here have a brew and make yourself at home x

amy246 Mon 18-Nov-13 18:44:26

Hi everyone! I'm in my first month TTC as well! I'm 27 and just feel it's the right time smile my AF is due tomoz so we'll have to see what happens. Trying not to get my hopes up, but it's hard not to!

Hibou7688 Mon 18-Nov-13 19:27:37

Sunshine at the top of the page there is an acronyms button, click that and it brings them all up

Sunshineonsea Mon 18-Nov-13 20:09:38

Thanks for the help all will be acronym-ing away now

Honeybear30 Mon 18-Nov-13 21:27:49

Ok I've been lurking a while and can no longer help myself! I'm also 25 and looking to conceive number one. I can't believe how naive I was before I really looked into this. I guess I thought it would be a quick easy decision and then I'd be pg! Little did I know you have to be so precise. I stopped a pill mid pack but I had a withdrawal bleed within 4 days and I think I'm about 5 DPO. I promised I wouldn't get too involved with this but I'm sure I'll be gutted if af arrives. I almost bought a test today for when it's time but I'm going to strong and not buy one until I'm sure af is late. I don't want to be disappointed! I hope it's BFP's all round for us all ASAP ladies!

Littlebear88 Mon 18-Nov-13 21:40:18

Honeybear I know the feeling, will be so disappointed if AF arrives. When we started I was keen just to be laid back about it, take each month as it comes!
I think I am 1-3 days post OV! Planning to do a test next Thursday if no AF! Don't know if this is too early or not?

Hi HoneyBear grin well done on not buying the tests, I have a stock already and haven't even said goodbye to AF so we can start cycle one! Bloody terrible day today cried at my (newish) boss as the people who have been training me in my (newish) job have been absolute arseholes for three months and it grinding me down sad then came home and panicked that the cat had pissed in between my pillows as my pajamas were soaked...until I remembered I soaked myself this morning whilst half asleep turning the shower on and then fell over. Really looking forward to being super hormonal, having baby brain bad belong a totally different weight and therefore more clumsy grin

<Proud> though as normally a day like today would have me reaching for then wine, resisted though as had a bottle over the course of the weekend and wait to keep it moderate grin

HippyJess Mon 18-Nov-13 22:11:10

Hi HoneyBear! grin so great to have several of us circa the same age all starting for number 1... eep!

Honeybear30 Mon 18-Nov-13 22:36:04

Gohumpinthenight that sounds like a rough day! I hope I hold out on not buying the tests but already I was lingering in the aisle at tesco's! I need more willpower!

Littlebear that sounds about right. From what I understand it should be 14 days post ovulation so for me thinking next Wednesday. But I'm hoping to hold out as long as possible because I know realistically it's unlikely and I'd rather be disappointed by af than a bfn.

How do I get the names to come up in bold...? Hate being a newbie!

HippyJess Mon 18-Nov-13 23:32:16

Put an asterix either side of it, no spaces - it tells you how underneath the box where you type your message wink

Honeybear30 Tue 19-Nov-13 06:59:40

Ohhhh of course it does! Thanks HippyJess smile

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 09:50:33

No problemo smile eep, appointment today! Should be only a week or so til I get my coil removed, if not today!

That's exciting jess I just got back from docs having had my thyroid checked (am underactive and this can cause fertility issues/increase chances of miscarriage) so need ti make sure my meds are keeping me stable. I finished the pill about five weeks ago and AF has just finished this morning so if all is well-full steam ahead! I am taking folic acid as well. Anyone else doing any 'prep'?

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 11:03:35

I bought some pre-natal vitamins yesterday, and I'm cutting down on caffiene with a view to stopping within the next few weeks, but thats it. I don't drink much anyway so that's not a problem!

Just got back from the appointment, I'm having it removed on Tuesday so our first window will be in the week before Christmas! grin

Sunshineonsea Tue 19-Nov-13 12:43:49

I took pregnacare vitamins on dc1 but they are a little bit expensive so have bought morrisons own brand for £3
I don't really drink anyway maybe a glass or two once a
Month so will continue until I get a BFP
I have started doing an exercise DVD though as u was huuuggge on dc1 so I think I'll find it easier to get back into shape if I'm a bit fitter

Littlebear88 Tue 19-Nov-13 12:52:16

Started taking some vitamins and cutting down tea and coffee! Can't stop symptom spotting!!!!!!!!!

Minithemoocher Tue 19-Nov-13 13:54:42

I'm just taking folic acid. I don't really drink much anyway. Good luck everyone!

KitKat1985 Tue 19-Nov-13 14:58:24

I've started taking folic acid. I also take a multi-vitamin / iron supplement each day but I've done that for a few years now so that's not a 'new' thing. I only have about 3-4 mugs of tea a day so don't think my daily caffeine intake is too bad. As for alcohol, I probably only have a drink 3-4 nights a week (usually just one glass of wine to help relax after a longs shift at work!), so I'm not going to start cutting down specifically on anything yet, as I don't think I drink a lot anyway. The one depressing fact I have gleaned from lurking on Mumsnet for a few weeks is that it might take a while to conceive, and so I think cutting back on all of life's little pleasures from the off might get a bit depressing! wine

Aquariusgirl86 Tue 19-Nov-13 15:03:12

I had my first at 25, planned and family think I was too young but if you are ready that's all that counts!!!!

I agree KitKat, there's no knowing if it will take one month or years so I am not going to deprive myself completely...but at the same time I want to give myself the best chance. Like you, I drink a glass or two at most about 3-4 times a week, but rarely get 'drunk' (about once every 3 years!) so think I will carry on as normal.

The number of stories on here about difficulties is worrying but I think if you get pregnant straight away you might post a few times, whereas if you have issues you'd be on here a lot, so maybe not a totally balanced view? I am trying not to worry too much anyway, as that won't help! grin

k4tie84 Tue 19-Nov-13 15:12:52

Hi everyone. I'm new to mumsnet too so go easy on me with the acronyms. My husband and I are just about to start TTC #1 after coming off the pill in September. My cycle seems to of quickly got back to normal and we've started taking pregnacare conception his and hers (so much cheaper on Amazon).
I’m 29 and my husband is 33. We got married earlier this year and now feel very ready to start the next chapter of our lives.
I'd love to hear how everyone gets on over the coming months and any tips would be great.
good luck to you all. x

threebee Tue 19-Nov-13 15:28:45

Can I join too? I'm 27 and we are TTC#1. We spent about 6 months not preventing and are now stepping up our game with charting! AF is due on the 27th. Good luck all!!

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 17:26:22

I'm not charting or temping or anything, but I do track my periods anyway as they used to be irregular and the app I use tells me when I'm ovulating anyway! Plus I can tell when I am, so... I'll know when I'm most fertile anyway I guess...

Sunshineonsea Tue 19-Nov-13 17:29:02

hippy what app do you use?

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 17:50:24

It's called iPeriod, you can track things like symptoms too if you want. I use it to track the days we DTD as well! There are loads out there but this one's very user-friendly and not vomit-inducing wink

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 17:54:38

(It's free as well)

ttc dc2 this month too! im 27, dh 31. trying not to get obsessive about it and just enjoy the rampant love making instead of hope everytime its 'the one' ..eeeee! ds1 is 9 so this is a big step! eek! I conceived ds1 within 2 months when I was very young and was pretty much drunk every night and we wasn't careful. even though im now one ovary down, we're actually trying and being healthy about it, im hoping its going to be just as easy! goodluck everyone!

mammabear4 Tue 19-Nov-13 19:31:33

Hi everyone, just thought I'd get in on this thread - me and my OH are also TTC - both aged 24. Decision made after getting our first house and both settling into stable careers. We have been wary of telling people as are expecting many to think we are too young! I'm glad to see lots of other hopeful mothers in their 20s. Echoing what somebody else just said - here's to the 2014 babies! We have been trying for under 1 month and I have been taking folic acid, but nothing else. I'm constantly in a state of apprehension at the moment!

Littlebear88 Tue 19-Nov-13 19:56:54

I think reading some of the other threads are quite scary how long it is taking some people! And charting ovulation etc!

Hoping I can avoid all of those things! Anyone testing soon? Who will be first with a BFP? (Big fat positive) Good luck everyone!!

Honeybear30 Tue 19-Nov-13 21:49:20

I think you make a good point humpinthenight I do wonder if people tend to join the forum who have been trying longer so I'm hoping it's not as difficult as it sounds! But then I want to be realistic to.

I am also taking folic acid but I haven't made any other changes. I don't drink anyway so that's not an issue.

I use free menstrual calendar as an app which I think is a spin off from fertility friend? Ff looks a bit too scary for me! I don't want to temp at the moment so it just tracks af and you can put in symptoms and when you dtd as well so it's working for me so far. I can see how I could get really involved if I got a proper conception app!

I too am very guilty of symptom spotting. Although I've gone from very very sore boobs and a bit of abdominal cramping/pain to now absolutely nothing! If I ovulated when I think i did then af is due on the 27th. So I guess I could just sneak in a November bfp but I don't want t be too hopeful! Like I said before I stopped my pill mid pack and I didn't wait for proper af so I'm really not sure if the 27th is my day or not!!

HippyJess Tue 19-Nov-13 22:58:46

Welcome to the thread mammabear! smile

I cannot wait until next week. Then the next time I've ovulating is the week before Christmas... I know already that the 2ww before finding out if it's worked each month (hopefully not many months!) is going to drive me nuts grin I'm an impatient bugger!

Honeybear I'm hoping you're right about that! My sister is 8 weeks PG at the moment so if it takes ages for us then that's going to be really difficult... Awesome and exciting on its own merit, but jealousy-fit inducing!

Hibou7688 Wed 20-Nov-13 18:40:17

I've had a bit of spotting for the first time in my life.. But I don't think I dtd at the 'right time' earlier in the month, i dtd a week before ov then haven't done since for various reasons. Did have some periody type pains last week too!!

Telling myself not to symptom spot and I am 100% not buying any tests until (if!) I am at least a week late, yep. Keep telling myself that!

amy246 Wed 20-Nov-13 20:15:00

I've had spotting today too, never had it before. Was expecting AF yesterday. It's so confusing! I suppose I'll just have to wait to see what happens...

Honeybear30 Wed 20-Nov-13 20:59:47

hibou a week late?! Wow I'll be interested to see if you make it that far, that will be some amazing willpower! You'll have to share it round smile The 2ww seems to go on forever...especially when I'm not sure I even ovulated anyway so I might not be in the 2ww!

Hibou7688 Wed 20-Nov-13 21:58:36

If i poas too early, i'll just keep testing and costing myself a fortune in tests!! Got to keep the will power going til dec!

Honeybear30 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:07:23

That's true. They are expensive aren't they? I've seen ladies getting BFP's using the really cheap Amazon ones though. So I'm tempted to go with those as we are only just starting out.

Hibou7688 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:09:56

Yep i'll probably just buy some in bulk from ebay too! Can't be doing with the expensive clear blue ones!

amy246 Thu 21-Nov-13 06:43:21

AF arrived sad now I'm just looking forward to a Christmas Day BFP. Fingers crossed!

Honeybear30 Thu 21-Nov-13 06:56:56

Oh amy. sad what an amazing Christmas present though! Just think the sooner it's over the quicker you can get on and dtd smile xx

amy246 Thu 21-Nov-13 10:49:31

I'm disappointed but trying to focus on the positives. The pill I had been on had stopped AF altogether. I hadn't had one for years! At least I know I'm having good cycles now and there's no obvious issues. And as you say this year could be the best Xmas ever! smile

MrsW0931 Thu 21-Nov-13 15:44:25

i just ordered a pack of 20 strip pregnancy tests on amazon for £2.63. Total bargain and will mean i wont be so worried about wasting them if i use one too early - once i do get my BFP though i will be running out to get a clear blue one just to confirm! cant wait to use one of those!

Honeybear30 Thu 21-Nov-13 18:24:24

That is really cheap Mrs W! Just had a chat with DH and he thinks that we should buy the expensive ones. He is concerned about a false positive and doesn't see it as money down the drain but I'm sure the likelihood of a false positive is next to none and I would feel like I was peeing on five pound notes! Maybe I'll say we'll have the expensive ones if he's willing to pay?! The thought of a clearblue digi is so exciting... Can't wait until it's my turn. smile

MrsW0931 Thu 21-Nov-13 19:19:07

Yea thats a good idea..agree say he has to pay for them! Ha. He may then change his mind pretty quick. Maybe just buy some for u to use if u get too impatient one month and save the expensive ones for when u do them together? I think i want to find out myself first so i get the excitement of telling my dh and seeing the excitement on his face. Cannot wait for that moment.

QueenFaerie86 Thu 21-Nov-13 19:26:36

For the first time in our relationship my dh has just said he is too tired to dtd tonight. Now I know how frustrating that sentence can make you! I'm in the middle of ovulating too, going to have to do some seducing I'm thinking ;)

Honeybear30 Thu 21-Nov-13 19:41:26

Yes queen you need to persuade him! I'm sure you can work your magic smile

MrsW I never even considered testing alone. But I get what you mean by capturing that look on his face. That would be amazing! I guess it's different for us all but I think we'll be testing together once we get to that point. Although...I haven't actually discussed that with him!

ReginaFelange22 Thu 21-Nov-13 20:18:43

I'm going to join in!! TTC #1 I'm 27, OH is 33. Came off my pill 4 weeks ago, after nearly 10 years. Was hoping AF would turn up this week but seems I just ovulated at the weekend so might be another 2 weeks or so, right when my OH is due home (he works away!)

Last week I was feeling really light headed, pains in my stomach and back. Nipples have been tender (TMI) too lol! Not my actual boobs just the nipples!

Like everyone else I hope it doesn't take too long as others have said!

Good luck everyone!!

Littlebear88 Thu 21-Nov-13 21:57:22

Welcome Regina!

Promised myself I wouldn't symptom spot but feeling so tired and bloated. And skin is really dry and itchy!!! Probably massively dehydrated.... But maybe not ;-)

QueenFaerie86 Fri 22-Nov-13 06:26:50

Dh had a very long day at work so I didn't try and seduce him, he found the energy from somewhere to dtd without me reminding him it's ovulation time �� (as sexy as that always sounds)

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 09:24:13

ha i love it Queen, so frustrating this wait to have coil out. wish it was wednesday already :-( i feel left out....

Hey Regina, any chance you could be pregnant? <Can't wait for first POAS>

QueenFaerie86 Fri 22-Nov-13 09:49:43

woke up this morning with strong ovulation cramps, we're off for a weekend away tonight without ds so guess we'll be pretty busy this evening ;) its so exciting! I'm trying very hard not to get my hopes up as it seems to take along time for some people, I just know i'll be symptom spotting obsessively!

Littlebear88 Fri 22-Nov-13 12:00:25

Looking for some advice, not sure when I OV'd could've been last weekend or weekend before as just finished pill at end of October! Should I test this weekend, just in case??!!??

KitKat1985 Fri 22-Nov-13 12:06:29

Hey all. Have also been obsessively symptom spotting. Took my last pill on the 3rd of November and have felt crampy and bloated all week. Then on Weds at work had a small amount of fresh blood when I went to the loo (like 2-3 drops) and then nothing else since, so convinced myself it was an implantation bleed, even though it would only be possible to be that if I had ovulated straight after finishing my post-pill bleed. Nevertheless managed to get myself very over-excited. Took a test this morning - very clear BFN. sad Guess it's just my body adjusting to coming off the pill and playing cruel tricks on me by spotting and making me feel bloated and crampy.

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 12:31:56

I'm with MrsW - I want it to be next week so I can have my coil out and join in!

Another person I know just announced she's pregnant sad I'm so happy for her but it's already very very frustrating! Ack.

Littlebear if I were you I probably would, just in case or I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about it IYSWIM...

KitKat that sucks, but give it time, it'll happen smile

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 14:00:45

what day next week is yours coming out Jess?
I think i have a bladder infection - never had one before - and now worried this will mean they wont take my coil out, do you think? Il be so devestated if they wont do it until its gone as it will totally ruin any tiny chance of a BFP by xmas.

On the plus side my cheapo pregnancy tests arrived from amazon yesterday! grin So i now have a stock of 20 to look forward to using...

Has anyone got anything exciting planend for the weekend? I think il be xmas shopping tomorrow...unsure wether to look forward to this or not!

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 14:19:23

Mines Tuesday! I don't see why it would stop them doing it, I'm told its a really easy thing to do and I can't see how a bladder infection would effect it... Hope not for you anyway! I don't ovulate again til the week before Christmas, AF due on the 2nd Jan I think... That would be a great way to start the year but I'm not getting my hopes up ;) hope everything goes awesomely and you get your Xmas BFP smile you never know!

I'm a weirdo who enjoys Xmas shopping... So look forward to it wink

We're spending the weekend with our respective parents which should be nice as we don't see them overly often. And means cuddles from DP's nephew on Sunday grin cutest 2.5 year old ever.

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 14:30:50

i hope it doesnt, i might just not say anything as the doctor will never know will she? How do you know when ur due to ovulate with the coil in, do you still get periods with it?

Hope u have a good weekend with the parents, does anyone else bar ur OH know youre having the coil out or have u kept it quiet?

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 14:39:26

Yeah it shouldn't, just don't say anything! I have a copper coil, not mirena, so have periods as normal. I've told my mum, but apart from that it's just me and DP smile you?

ReginaFelange22 Fri 22-Nov-13 14:54:59

I hope I am lol!! Would make things easier!!

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 15:32:50

Fingers crossed Regina grin

I wont say anything , its really annoying me now though so i hope it is gone by wednesday tbh!

I havent actually even told my DH yet! - hes been moithering ever since we got married a few months ago for me to take it out so his christmas present this year is going to either be a coil in a box or a pregnancy test if by some miricle i do end up conceiveing that quickly! Cant wait to see his face on christmas day whichever present he ends up with! plus it makes christmas shopping a whole lot easier this year!
We wont tell anyone i dont think as once people know they will just keep asking every month for an update which will get slightly frustrating if we take longer than expected to get our BFP.

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 15:34:14

is ur mum excited Jess? How many grandchildren does she have? My mum has about 7 between me and my brother and sister so she probably wont be as excited as my MIL as this will be her first. So excited about telling her whenever it finally happens as she cant wait to be a Nanny :-)

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 15:58:38

At the moment she's more excited about my sister, who's 8 weeks PG with what will be her first grandchild! grin So ours should hopefully end up being her 2nd smile

That would indeed be a great gift either way for your OH! That's awesome about your MIL, DP's brother has a son so it should be her second as well when we do actually get PG. No special firsts for anyone but us! wink

I'm trying not to get my hopes up for a January BFP but I figured if it takes longer than expected at least if my mum knows we're trying than she won't be asking us about it and accidentally upsetting me...

Kittyrose1 Fri 22-Nov-13 16:35:30

Hi all, new member here and literally my 2nd post ever! 1st month ttc so hope I can "join the club" with you all. Have been feeling sick for 3 days...keep telling myself it's just a bug as it's so uncommon to get sickness straight away, still can't help to get a teeny bit hopeful ...

toots123 Fri 22-Nov-13 16:45:58

Checking in and hoping every one is well. Still preying for AF to show up haha

Can I be nosey and ask where everyone is based? Im Edinburgh smile

MrsW0931 Fri 22-Nov-13 16:50:28

aww ur sisters pregnant, is that hard to see her talking about it all the time or are you ok with it now? i think i would find it hard if one of my close friends announced it when i was trying - suppose its bound to happen as a few of my friends are trying already so i will find out when it does.

Hi kitty welcome grin when is your next AF due do you know? is it likely you could be pregnant with the sickness?

Kittyrose1 Fri 22-Nov-13 17:43:59

Hi and thank you mrsw, i am due for AF this weekend/early next week, my cycle changes a fair bit from 27-32 days. I suppose I could be but surely sickness is too early?

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 18:13:11

MrsW It's hard to have it talked about constantly when it's not us yet, but it what what changed us from 'thinking about it' to 'going for it' so it's positive in more ways than one wink it's harder when it's all acquaintances because I care about them less - harder to be jealous of my sister!

toots I'm currently between High Wycombe and Norwich (!), we'll know which one we're sticking with for the foreseeable future soon though!

Hi Kitty! Welcome to the thread. You never know! But try not to think about it too much I think wink

Kittyrose1 Fri 22-Nov-13 18:34:26

Thanks, I know you're right can't seem to stop it though lol, nice that there is a forum to chat rather than drive my husband insane smile

Honeybear30 Fri 22-Nov-13 18:45:34

Welcome Kitty smile I have a feeling we are all big symptom spotters here so you will be right at home!

Hi toots, I'm reluctant to give away a location, I am a bit paranoid that someone I know will guess who I am lol! I guess I'm just being very private about it, only one other person, a very close friend, knows we are trying. It's been pretty hard to keep it a secret though! But also I really don't want the pressure of people asking if i'm pg yet. I am so glad of this forum though because I get to chat about this, without it I think I might go mad! So I'm in England, is that specific enough lol?! smile

Where is everyone in their cycles? I wonder if we'll have any bfp's soon?

Kittyrose1 Fri 22-Nov-13 18:58:48

Hehe thanks honeybear! I need to get up with the lingo, what's bfp? I'm day 26

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 19:58:21

I'll be waiting til January for my fist chance at a BFP sad boo!

Kitty it's "big fat positive" wink

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 19:58:35


threebee Fri 22-Nov-13 20:16:15

I'm 9dpo, can't say I've had any symptoms other than what I usually have in the lead up to AF. Not testing yet, will be trying to hold out until at least Wednesday.

toots123 Fri 22-Nov-13 20:21:59

honeybear you made me laugh! England is specific enough, yes. I understand you wanting to stay private. I recently got married and was on a wedding forum and kept my identity a secret

Its so nice having this place to talk to everyone who is in a similar situation.

Wish I knew where I was in my cycle.... haha

Honeybear30 Fri 22-Nov-13 20:40:09

threebee I'm also 9dpo, I think anyway! Not sure if I will test on Wednesday yet. I'm not 100% that I ov'd and would be do disappointed if it was a bfn. Do you think you will test on wed?

toots I did the wedding forum thing to. I think I see these forums as just a guilt free place to be as insane as I want about the littlest of things and not be judged! Glad my location made you smile smile

jess I'm sure it'll be January before you know it!

threebee Fri 22-Nov-13 20:51:37

Honeybear30 Probably will, if my temps stay up!

HippyJess Fri 22-Nov-13 20:54:31

Hope so Honeybear - yet another FB friend announced her pregnancy today! Hopefully it means there's something in the water and we'll all get BFPs sharpish grin

Littlebear88 Fri 22-Nov-13 21:19:49

Hi Toots I'm in Scotland too! Decided I'm going to test tomorrow! Will prob be Bfn but just want to see!! Will be more strict next month and not test until missed AF!!

toots123 Fri 22-Nov-13 21:57:39

littlebear we have a fair bit in common. Scotland, 25 and ttc

Keep us updated on your test. Ive ordered amazon cheap tests so when they arrive I might test too

ReginaFelange22 Fri 22-Nov-13 22:23:58

I'm in Scotland too! :D

I've got my dates mixed up and since I only ovulated at the weekend AF won't be due for another week or so!! Waiting game I guess!!

Kittyrose1 Sat 23-Nov-13 06:52:06

Ah! Thank you, well my bug was just that, AF has arrived today!! So no bfp for me this time!

Lots of Scottish ladies here, I live in Essex - land of fake tans and white teeth ;)

EmberElftree Sat 23-Nov-13 08:18:50

Morning all,

Another ttc#1 here - just waiting out AF so we can get busy on cycle #2 smile

Fx for a xmas BFP for us all - good luck everyone!

Lizzie1985 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:24:18

Hi all. I hope you don't mind me joining the group. I'm 28, DH is 27 and it's our first month TTC.
I stopped taking the pill about 4-5 weeks ago. We started dtd straight away (I know- probably best to wait for one AF, but was just too impatient) and in the past few weeks was sure I was getting symptoms e.g. cramps, headaches, dry flaky skin, dizziness and a little nausea. However, this morning I took hpt and it was a bfn sad I know it's silly to be so disappointed cause I don't know when or even if I have ovulated. Is it possible I could still be pregnant?

Don't know if I could do this kind of waiting for 12 months or more- it's so frustrating already!

Lizzie1985 Sat 23-Nov-13 09:29:10

Scratch that. AF came within 2 hours of taking the test. Don't know whether to feel pleased that it's back and can start properly calculating ovulation etc. or depressed that I'm not pregnant.

Hi Lizzie I would just take it as a positive sign of fertility and try not too get too stressed thanks At least now you can start tracking your cycle to work out the best time to dtd. I am in a very similar position to you and have been usinf ovuview app which is really useful to work out your cycle if you've been on the pill for a while, its free too! Annoyingly my phone died yesterday so I need to try to log back in somehow, not sure the tablet is the best place as it gets passed around to visitors etc....not sure I want my Dad reading about my CM hmm might have to wait for new phone.

HippyJess Sat 23-Nov-13 10:50:56

I agree with what GoHumpInTheNight says Lizzie - it's positive, things seem to be working wink

I've started conducting, um, pillow-propping/hip-tilting experiments to see what works best even though I don't have my coil out yet blush

KittyVonCatsington Sat 23-Nov-13 11:48:03

Hello all! Hoping I can join too. Although I am a little older than some of you (32), I have just 'come off the Pill' as my DH (31) and I have decided to start trying to make a baby! We are both the youngest in our families and am a great Auntie to six neices and nephews and feel ready to have one of my own! Very nervous though as I have never 'DTD' for the purpose of making a baby grin

I know what you mean Kitty when we dtd for the first time with no protection I kept thinking how weird it was! It's great not having to remember the pill every day though grin

KittyVonCatsington Sat 23-Nov-13 12:03:29

Absolutely, ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight! I will just have to try and enjoy it wink. Am loving this site already; so much information and support. Apart from taking Folic Acid, I'm assuming I just let nature take it's course.

I think so, I know there are a lot of ladies on here that have issues TTC so I am trying to take that with a pinch of salt and go with the flow for the first 6 months or so, rather than reading too much into it and stressing myself out...which incidentally does not help fertility grin I am taking boots own brand conception support which includes folic acid and tracking my cycle to try to work out when I have Ov'd. Other than that not too different to normal, I suppose I am more aware of things like alcohol and caffeine intake but I haven't changed my habits dramatically, maybe just one-two glasses of wine rather than three-four blush and having two cups of tea a day rather than four...I guess I am just thinking about stuff more, and making healthier decisions which I should be making regardless of TTC or not confused

KittyVonCatsington Sat 23-Nov-13 13:15:13

I guess I am just thinking about stuff more, and making healthier decisions which I should be making regardless of TTC or not
I know! Such a huge responsibility to make sure that potential new little one has the best start in life! I will have to be so careful not to have that extra glass of fizz during the December festivities...

ReginaFelange22 Sat 23-Nov-13 14:13:52

That's the awkward part now that it's Christmas time! I'm known to enjoy shots etc so going out and being calm with the drink, just incase, is going to be difficult to go unnoticed!

I'm on folic acid to, also got the strips you wee on, that tell you if the hormone that appears when you ovulate, is in your system. It seemingly was on sat/sun/mon so DTD a bit more lol! It's odd to think there is a purpose other than just some fun lol!!

KittyVonCatsington Sat 23-Nov-13 14:18:10

also got the strips you wee on. What are those, Regina? How do they work?

Hibou7688 Sat 23-Nov-13 17:25:35

They sound like ovulation predictors, you can get them on amazon cheap! You just wee on it, like a pregnancy test and if you're near to ovulation then you get two lines!

Lizzie1985 Sat 23-Nov-13 19:02:03

Aww thanks guys. It's nice to have encouragements. What kind of prenatal supplements are people taking? I'm just on folic acid at the moment- not sure if I should be taking anything with more vitamins in?

Hibou7688 Sat 23-Nov-13 21:22:40

I'm not taking anything.. I'm going to see how it goes before I take supplements etc..

Honeybear30 Sat 23-Nov-13 22:03:13

I'm just taking folic acid because it's advised everywhere. From what I understand it doesn't help you conceive but is for healthy development if/when you conceive. The pre pregnancy supplements look quite expensive from what I've seen?

toots123 Sat 23-Nov-13 23:48:45

Im taking pregnacare conception tablets, they are about half price on amazon!

ReginaFelange22 Sat 23-Nov-13 23:53:29

Yeh those are the strips. Got them cheap in eBay. They are just called ovulation tests, wee in a cup stick the strip in and it should give you a control line and then a 2nd line if you are ovulating, or possibly!

Lizzie1985 Sun 24-Nov-13 07:29:49

I've now confused. I thought AF turned up, though it kinda went away after 12 hours or so- very light pinkish bleeding. Is this normal for a first period off the pill? Or (which I'm wishing for!!) could it be a sign of implantation? confused

toots123 Sun 24-Nov-13 08:38:58

Still no AF for me either. Not even sure if I've ovulated or not but awaiting my cheap amazon tests to arrive and will poas anyway just to be sure that we are still waiting on af.

Girly weekend away next weekend so if it's bfp I will have a few white lies to tell

KittyVonCatsington Sun 24-Nov-13 09:19:45

With the ovulation tests, do people use them during their first cycle or is it usually done when people are struggling to conceive? I had a look online but don't know if I am going to be OTT buying them and trying them immediately?

HippyJess Sun 24-Nov-13 09:44:30

I nicked the many, many OPK sticks my sister had left grin

They did their first few cycles without but then the 2nd month she used the pee sticks they conceived. I'm 99% sure when I'm ovulating anyway but it should help me feel that extra 1% certain at least!

Hibou7688 Sun 24-Nov-13 10:33:54

I used them when I first xame off the pill just so I could see when in my cycle I ovulate.. I assumed I'd ovulate 14 days after start of af but they showed me that I ov at around day 7-9 so it's useful just for that when starting out. I'm only on cycle 1 now though so not a seasoned user of them!

ReginaFelange22 Sun 24-Nov-13 11:21:06

I'm waiting on my first AF since coming off the pill. Thought I would've had it by now. I really only used them every few days tbh. I thought I would've ovulated a few days prior to when I did so was nice to have a helping hand.

My OH works away so it was really to help know where we were tbh!

ReginaFelange22 Sun 24-Nov-13 11:22:47

Thinking about it, it's actually 4 weeks yday since I stopped my pill, had a withdrawal for a couple of days but still no AF yet!

KittyVonCatsington Sun 24-Nov-13 13:23:16

Ooh, could you be one of the lucky ones and already be pregnant? My sister's best friend was worrying for about 3 months after coming off the Pill that she hadn't yet had a period. Turns out, she conceived just after stopping!

Honeybear30 Sun 24-Nov-13 13:31:13

I also stopped my pill four weeks ago, had a withdrawal bleed but nothing else. We've done a fair bit of dtd so I am hoping by some miracle af will never come! I think she is due wed though if I ov'd when I think I did. Also had a fair bit of light cramping on and off. I've ordered some pg tests but want to try and hold off using them! I wonder if af will arrive...I really really hope not!

ReginaFelange22 Sun 24-Nov-13 13:48:34

Lol I know I'm hoping AF won't turn up, would make things so straight forward! Have got a few weekends away early next year so if I was pg now and could have a scan prior to them then great. If not and I fall pg nearer them without a scan, it makes things a whole lot harder!! This is best case scenario which Im putting out of my head just now, well trying!! Knowing my luck it will happen at the time to make things awkward lol!!

Lizzie1985 Sun 24-Nov-13 17:33:35

I'm still kinda spotting very lightly on and off- very light pink when I wipe (sorry if tmi). It came on the day I would have expected to get AF. I've not got any cramps at all like I used to though (used to be in agony and on heavy duty painkillers) so I don't know whether it's AF or spotting or implantation.

Anyway, I was wondering if anyone had a date in mind to do a hpt? It would be good to hear of your results

HippyJess Sun 24-Nov-13 18:47:39

I'll be POAS on the 31st December because it's the first time I can... Not ovulating til the 14th sad boo! I wanna going the actually trying brigade!

Lizzie1985 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:52:23

Aww HippyJess, don't worry, it won't be long. I felt like that when I was waiting to finish my packet of pills. And then it was still a month earlier than DH and I had really decided to start ttc. I think my nagging made him relent!

Honeybear30 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:53:08

Well I think af is due wed and my hpt's are winging their way to me in the post. Ideally I'd like to hold out until Saturday so I can be at home with dh. But then that is of course assuming that af doesn't rear her ugly head and also that I manage to hold out that long! I bought frer's as well so will be incredibly tempted to do one when they arrive. Delivery was meant to be for next Friday so I'd have to wait but then got an email saying they should arrive tomorrow!

KittyVonCatsington Sun 24-Nov-13 21:33:07

What are 'frers', Honeybear30? Scuse my ignorance!

MrsW0931 Sun 24-Nov-13 21:56:10

Just catching up on what iv missed, im pretty much in ur boat jess! 3 sleeps to go. Im so not gna be able to wait until christmas to tell DH about my coil being out, i already wanna tell him now!
Half of me is so excited about it all and the other half is so scared about whats to come...no sleep, going back to the whole 30 mins to leave the house routine... Scary!

Honeybear30 Mon 25-Nov-13 06:58:41

Don't worry kitty. They are first response, early result. So you can test up to 6 days before af is due. The trouble is though that is so tempting, and I have no real reason to believe that I should be testing. It encourages you to waste tests, I do wonder if it is a big marketing ploy lol! Dh also wants me to wait until at least Thursday so now he's said that I know I won't give in so easy when they arrive later on today.

toots123 Mon 25-Nov-13 07:02:22

Im in the same situation as you honeybear but I didnt order tests until Friday. So as soon as they arrive I'll test.

I highly doubt I'll get a bfp but better to check before hitting the wine at the weekend haha

Cant wait till this thread gets its first bfp! Keep us posted everyone x

HippyJess Mon 25-Nov-13 12:15:07

Can't wait for the BFPs either, it'll be so exciting when we start getting them in our li'l thread grin

Poor DP had a crisis of confidence yesterday when playing with his nephew (2.5). Tried to make DN stop throwing puzzle pieces at his head and it didn't work - apparently he was asking him to stop exactly right, just not firmly enough or so that DN could hear! When it was reiterated by MIL DN soon stopped! Silly DP. He did the whole "I don't know what I'm doing, what if I'm a terrible father?" routine. Think I managed to convince him that everyone feels that way grin

I was extremely happy because I got a kiss and a cuddle off DN too though. 'Twas lovely smile

toots123 Mon 25-Nov-13 18:21:49

Tests came but bfn! Not surprised or disappointed though since its still early!
Means ive no idea if ive ov'd or not. If cycle waw normal, af should come on Thursday but still not had first 'proper' period since stopping pill

The joys of being impatient grin

Honeybear30 Mon 25-Nov-13 18:27:40

toots it is still early you're right, so just wait and see! My tests didn't arrive...I'm relieved really, I'd rather they weren't in the house yet. I was thinking what if af doesn't come when I think it should? I, like you, haven't had a proper period so do I just keep testing until af comes? It's soooo confusing! Have you thought about this?

toots123 Mon 25-Nov-13 18:49:59

Hi honeybear my plan is if af doesnt arrive by Saturday I will test again. If bfn I wont test again until I know my next cycle has started. So will probably go back to ov sticks everyfew days!
Its so coconfusing though cause im probably just wasting ov sticks!

What are you thinking?

Honeybear30 Mon 25-Nov-13 18:56:39

Hmm not sure. On the outside I'm saying 'I'm fine' 'I know I'm not in a proper cycle yet' 'If it's negative it's ok'...BUT I think I would be a bit gutted if it was negative. I really don't want to set myself up for months of disappointment. This forum has really taught me it's not as easy as I'd thought. So maybe a test once a week/every other week? I might have to invest in ebay cheapies though if that's my plan! Suppose should talk to DH if/when we come to it as we decided we would always test together. And we must dtd just in case I missed Ov! Dh was away for a week though so we've had a 7 day gap. The irrational part of me is thinking OMG what if I ov'd when he was away?! I really need to get a grip sometimes lol. And maybe spend less time on here? It's so addictive!

KittyVonCatsington Mon 25-Nov-13 19:11:19

It's crazy how little I really know about my cycle. I have no idea what's when and am slightly apprehensive over what the next couple of months will entail! Thank God for OPKs existing otherwise I'd probably spend just as much on pregnancy tests. Now, is it really unusual to actually feel nervous using an OPK? I feel that I'm sitting an exam and I've only done it once!

toots123 Mon 25-Nov-13 19:15:45

Its way too addictive! Haha. Yeah I think I'll test every other week. Maybe before the Christmas nights out start up so that I know if I can drink or not!
Yeah these amazon tests were nice and cheap (15 for £2.80!) I can see me needing more before Christmas though haha

MrsS82 Mon 25-Nov-13 20:07:15

Hello everyone, my dh and I are first month ttc for #1, both 31 and married in April this year. I've started taking tfb vitamins and attempting to moderate my diet and alcohol intake and hopefully that's going in the right direction.

Nice to meet you all blush

ReginaFelange22 Mon 25-Nov-13 20:10:13

You ladies are making me want to test lol!! But OH is away so got to wait! If AF hasn't turned up by the time he is home ill test! Trying to forget about it. Not long started a new job so been putting everything into that at the moment to put TTC at the back of my mind, especially when he isn't here!!

Hi * MrsS*, welcome! You're in the right place if you are just starting out, likely to symptom spot and test early blush

Per my tracker app I am due to ov on Thursday/Friday so entering the fertile period tomorrow til Saturday-ish. We have been getting plenty of practice in though wink DH is rather enjoying it. I am almost a bit worried about doing it too much due to his enthusiasm grin I think I will test around the 19th or so if I can wait that long and AF hasn't arrived. Only one cycle to go on so far and that was 33 days so don't want to test too early. I have a job that is really intense for the first half of the month and its our wedding anniversary soon after then so will be a lovely time to get a bfp....fingers crossed! And on the bright side, if bfn plenty of mulled wine.

Anyone POASing anytime soon? <good luck vibes>

Littlebear88 Mon 25-Nov-13 20:50:29

Hello ladies! I've been resisting poas as work has been super busy!! Riding it out until the end of the week!

Good luck trying all!!'

Hey littlebear do you think you'll make it? When is af due?

Littlebear88 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:35:51

I 'll try, AF is due Wed!!!

Finnable Mon 25-Nov-13 22:00:06

Ooh hello all, I'm new too... And glad there's another couple of 30's ladies here to keep me company! Anyone else get stupidly excited every time they poa ovu-stick thingy? First month trying, and I'm a wee bit giddy about it!

ReginaFelange22 Mon 25-Nov-13 22:03:08

I got mega excited lol!! When I got the first one with a line I was as high as a kite. Need to chill a bit first, but tbh I was just glad that it showed I had ovulated so quickly!!

KittyVonCatsington Tue 26-Nov-13 06:45:56

Anyone else get stupidly excited every time they poa ovu-stick thingy? First month trying, and I'm a wee bit giddy about it!

For some reason, I've been feeling as if I am taking a test when using an Ovulation stick! I think it is because they look like pregnancy tests grin

HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 07:20:51

If that's the case I can't wait to give them a go grin haha!

My coil comes out today! Eeeeek!

Finnable Tue 26-Nov-13 08:11:15

Regina and Kitty - so glad it's not just me! Good luck Jess - after today it's official!

Right- today I'm definitely going to get an essay written, and not just google symptoms/ tips / cute baby clothes. Definitely...


HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 09:28:44

Finnable be determined! I've managed veeeery little uni work over the past week due to the brain being filled with babies wink

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 11:36:52

Good luck Jess! Eeek im nervous for you! please dont come back tonight and tell us all a horror story about it as mines coming out tomorrow and im already nervous as hell and trying to convince myself to reschedule! lol.

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 12:05:37

I really cant imagine im gonna be able to keep schtum for another 30 days without telling him the coil is out. I need some words of encouragement as i really did wanna tell him maybe xmas eve when we go to bed - as my Grandad is staying with us over christmas after my Nan passed last year its sort of become a tradition to have him over to make sure he has people around him. I must not weaken! ha.

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 12:07:53

iv also ordered some ovulation sticks just because im so excited, and i have no idea about my cycle anymore since my periods stopped when having the coil put in so be good to get an idea once it returns to normal.

One thing i dont understand is, if the coil works partly by thinning the lining of the uterus wall - how can fertility return to normal as soon as the coil is out? Wouldnt u think it would take at least a few days for the lining to thicken back up to normal? or am i overthinking?

Finnable Tue 26-Nov-13 13:37:05

Hi Mrs W - not a clue about the coil, I was an implant girl myself. About keeping schtum though, YOU CAN DO IT! Every time you weaken, picture his face on Christmas Eve- and how proud you'll be of yourself!

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 14:24:03

I know i know im just so excited about telling him and almost every day he says something along the lines of 'id love it if u told me ur coil was out now' so it just tempts me more and more each day. If i manage to get the coil from the doctor to bring home i will defo not tell him as that will actually be his present. save me a fortune! ha

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 15:08:31

The awkward moment when u bump into the doctor who will be removing my coil tomorrow at my eldest childs school! What do u say?! Lol

HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 15:10:24

Haha! Oh dear grin

I'm in the waiting room as we speak. Hope it'll all be fine, trying not to worry unnecessarily.

Honeybear30 Tue 26-Nov-13 16:06:25

AF is here sad no lucky first cycle for me. I'm pleased though because it's come exactly 27 days after my withdrawal bleed so it would appear I'm settling back into proper periods already which is reassuring. Looks like I'm not on my first month anymore so I'll not be in the 1st month TTC thread any longer! Good luck to everyone else, I shall continue to lurk!

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 16:20:55

u can still stick around with us guys Honeybear keep us updated!

Good luck Jess, i hope it goes well! They say its easier than putting the thing in so you will be fine!

HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 16:24:36

Well that was an absolute breeze! You have nothing to worry about MrsW smile slightly uncomfortable but miles better than getting it put in!

threebee Tue 26-Nov-13 16:54:48

Sorry to hear that, Honeybear30. I'm pretty sure I'm out as well, AF is due tomorrow and I have no symptoms to make me think otherwise.

HippyJess glad your procedure went well.

Hope to see some BFPs here soon!

MrsW0931 Tue 26-Nov-13 16:56:29

Glad to hear it went ok Jess, me tomorrow omg. so...r u and ur OH going to be DTD to conceive for the first time tonight?! grin

KittyVonCatsington Tue 26-Nov-13 17:05:46

Watching an old episode of "One Born Every Minute" on More4 (before DH gets back from work). Feeling excited and nervous at the same time; eek!

KittyVonCatsington Tue 26-Nov-13 17:10:14

Big fat virtual hug, Honeybear. We'll keep you going until next Month smile

toots123 Tue 26-Nov-13 17:14:23

Lucky you honeybear I know its not ideal but at least you know where you are. Im still in the "not got a clue" club haha.

Im still hoping af turns up soon confused

Littlebear88 Tue 26-Nov-13 18:12:39

Hippyjess that is so exciting!! Has DP Christmas come early tonight?!?! ;-)

Honeybear I thought AF was visiting this am as terrible cramp and just had 'that feeling' no sign yet! This would be my first after withdrawl bleed so would like it to turn up...... Then have a large glass of wine!!!

Just think its an extra month to enjoy the excitement and make plans! I'm thinking if I get AF this month I can save some extra money and put it towards the nursery or pram!!!!

Glad it went well for you jess, and honeybear at least things look like they are going the right way. I dont think it really counts as a cycle until you have had first proper AF anyway so stick around and we'll cheer you on

Lizzie1985 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:39:43

Hey guys seems like things are moving on for everyone- new and exciting things. Littlebear what was your AF like? I thought I got mine on Saturday but it didn't really amount to anything- a tiny bit of blood and some pale pink discharge for about 2 days. Was your AF as you remember? I keep thinking (or hoping!) it was implantation spotting as I really have no idea when I ovulated.

Littlebear88 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:43:40

Hi lizzie, still waiting for AF, just heaviness in stomach and some cramping!!
Have a fab girly weekend planned, so won't be too disappointed if she rears her ugly head, I can enjoy some wine!!

Honeybear30 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:45:42

You're all so sweet smile I like the idea that it's not a real cycle until you have your first proper af. I actually feel ok, I thought I'd be gutted but I did feel as if I was about to come on so kind of expected it. And I feel a bit more certain that I'll know when ovulation will be this time so I feel like we will properly be trying rather than just guessing. I'm also kind of relieved it came because I know a lot of people struggle to get their periods back after the pill so I'm very grateful that's not me. Thank you everyone!

Lizzie1985 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:49:49

Gosh, sorry littlebear, I think I mean honeybear (all these bears!)Honeybear, what's your AF like? Is it heavy/light or much like you remember? I'm obsessed with what they're supposed to be like straight of bcp!!

Honeybear30 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:55:58

Much like I remember before, and considering I have been on depo and pill for about 8 years I'm impressed how well I remember how my body works. Cramping yesterday, starving for the previous 3/4 days, came on today. Medium for now but I know it will get painful. I definitely remember that bit! But I guess it could be different this time, ask me again in a few days! I only stopped my pill in 27th October so I'm happy af is here already, although of course I would have preferred a bfp!

Lizzie1985 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:02:29

I'd be grateful- sounds like you're in full working order again and ready to conceive! smile

I'm in a quandary. Should I test again?

HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 20:09:50

MrsW sadly don't get to see DP til Thursday this week sad but it's something to look forward to, definitely grin

Littlebear we, um, DTD quite a lot anyway blush but he's such a soppy git I think his "Christmas come early" feeling will be when we eventually get a BFP! wink glad your weekend will be positive either way!

Honeybear do keep positive, as others say now you know where your cycle is so you can get on it properly smile

Lizzie that does sound suspiciously implantation-like but I am an eternal optimist who needs to be regularly hit in the head wink when did you test/when was AF actually due?

If it was me and id only bked for two days I would test again, but I am probably not the best person too ask because I am very impatient and HAVE. TO. KNOW. EVERYTHING. NOW grin When did you last test and what did you use? Do you do anything you'd need to stop doing if you were pg?

Lizzie1985 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:15:07

Well if I was back to normal I would have been due around Friday. On Saturday I tested and it was negative, but almost straight away got this pink discharge, which I assumed was AF. But then it didn't develop. Thing is, coming off BCP, I don't know if or when I've ovulated, so not really sure when to test. The suspense is driving me crazy but don't want to get a false BFN! Think I'll wait till Saturday. Thanks for your advice ladies x

HippyJess Tue 26-Nov-13 20:17:20

Probably wise Lizzie smile how very sensible and patient of you - I'm with GoHumpInTheNight on the needing to know ASAP grin

Ha, I havent even ovulated yet and I want to know of I'm pg grin

ReginaFelange22 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:24:38

honeybear did you have a withdrawal also?

My final pill was the 26th of oct and I'm still waiting for AF but I had a withdrawal afterwards, confused!!

Mine took 33 days to come regina, don't worry yet

ReginaFelange22 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:33:29

Lol cool! I just want it to come now! Will make things easier for TTC as my OH works away, any longer and I'll prob ovulate when he is away and then we have no chance! sad

Honeybear30 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:36:47

Hi Regina yes I did have withdrawal on the 30th October for about 4 days. So exactly 27 days later I've got af. I used to have a 28 day cycle. I can't believe I've been so lucky for it to come so quick. Everything I've read seems to imply it would have taken longer. I shouldn't worry just yet, 33 days isn't that long.

lizzie well done on the patience!

ReginaFelange22 Tue 26-Nov-13 21:49:49

I was fairly regular (from what I remember before) but thought it would've been here by now! sad

Lizzie1985 Wed 27-Nov-13 07:45:53

Regina have you done a hpt?

ReginaFelange22 Wed 27-Nov-13 07:51:36

I'm assuming them at means pregancy test? Lol! Sorry I'm still getting used to these abbreviations! If so, then no. I'll wait until next week at least xx

Hibou7688 Wed 27-Nov-13 10:43:14

This month I have had weird pains quite frequently, sometimes it's like a period pain that lingers, other times it's like a sharp jab to the pubic area! Also had some dull lower back/coxyx (sp??) pain in the last week or so. My period isn't due til like 5th/6th dec. Am I symptom spotting or could this be something?? Not got any pregnancy tests because I know I shouldn't be testing but it's doing my head in not knowing! Last time i dtd was 6th nov just before my last period!

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 11:40:09

Its so interesting reading all of these posts about AF's being due and ovulation dates, cant wait to have my coil out (in 3 hours time!eek) so i can join in. I feel like i cant contribute much atm so forgive me for just sort of bobbing in and out with my random posts!
Told work i have an app with the bank so i hope the doctor isnt behind on her schedule and that idont bump into anyone i know in there!

Im freaking out that she wont be able to find the strings so tbh i just wanna get it over with even though me and my DH have been argueing thismorning so right now i dont even want to DTD tonight with him! ha.

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 12:00:44

the closer it gets to my appointment the more sick i feel....

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 12:01:10

Tell me what happened with yours Jess? and include all the tmi!

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 12:50:43

If it makes you feel better grin everyone else - TMI alert, look away!

It was this simple: got waist-down naked as you'd expect! Lay down. She checked to see if she could feel the strings, by putting fingers up and pressing on my abdomen presumably to shift my cervix around. She could, but it was ok either way, she just would've used a small tool if she hadn't been able to feel them. Then she put the speculum in, reached up and pulled! It's kinda like if you pull out a tampon but it's still a bit dry, except farther up. It was a tad uncomfortable but it didn't hurt. That was it, it was out! She let me get dressed and off I went smile

Hopefully that's reassuring! wink

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 12:57:25

omg so she did it with her fingers!? i thought they used tweezer like things to grab hold of it. ouch... she wont be able to get hold of my string with her fingers as its only just sticking a few mils out of the cervix opening... god wish half 2 would hurry up so i could just get it over with!

Thanks for sharing Jess, everyone, you can look back now! ha.

Feel too sick to eat my lunch sad

Did you keep it jess? grin

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 13:22:24

good reminder thingsthatgohumpinthenight! i totally forgot i wanted to ask to take it home!

The doctor is gonna think i am very odd and i pass her every day at my DS's school but oh well, the strange looks will be worth it! lol

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 14:33:35

Oh god. Walkin the docs and whos in the waiting room? My mother! I did a u turn to quickly think up an excuse y i was here as i never go to the docs unless i have to!

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 14:36:36

Blame it on having a smear?? Oh dear! Good luck though, you'll be fine!

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 14:37:26

I didn't ask to keep mine GoHump have no need to and wouldn't know what to do with it grin

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 14:39:13

Ive had a water infection lately so blamed it on that, of all the times and days for herappointment to be - shes gone in before me with the same doctor so i hope she doesnt say anything to her.

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 14:44:42

The doctor wouldn't tell her anything about your appointment anyway, don't worry x

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 15:08:21

So i survived! Took seconds couldnt believe it - prob the fact ive had 2 children helped. Didnt hurt at all and i asked to keep it - she said i was the first person who has ever asked that!ha

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 15:21:53

That's awesome MrsW, I told you it'd be fine smile now we can both get shagging and get on that BFP train ASAP grin yay!

Popsicle30 Wed 27-Nov-13 15:43:20

Fab news MrsW - glad it's finally out. 5 days till mine is out!

Can't believe your mother was in there blush - but good swerve ball with the water infection complaint!

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 16:02:53

I know jesus i suddenly froze and just walked back out the reception door before she saw me. Composed myself then went in and pretended to be suprised. lol. Feel bad though as she completely fell for it.

I feel strange now, first day ever i will be DTD to actually try and get pregnant..doesnt feel right, normally pregnancies have been huge shocks and totally inconvenient things but this time i get to do it how its suposed to be done grin

My coil is a bit gross, she washed it but theres still a bit of stringy stuff around the top of it. sorry TMI. Feel like such a minger actually storing this thing in my bag at work. wonder what it will look like in a months time?!

Made DH dtd last night (as you can concieve straight away if youve had sex in the last 5 days prior to the coil coming out) although he doesnt take a lot to persuade. lol. Hope i dont have too much of a bleed tonight as he will defo know somethings changed as i havent had a period for 2 years!

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 16:03:46

so now its count down for you popsicle! eek. Have you had any children yet?

Either way, they say its no where near as bad as it going in so you will be fine.

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 16:24:48

I only had the tiniest bit of spotting so you should be fine smile didn't know that about 5 days before - I ovulated on Friday I think and we DTD each day til Monday so theoretically AF could never arrive?? Won't get my hopes up though grin

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 16:39:21

yes you never know you could already be pregnant! heres to thinking positive!

DH is going to wonder y im suddenly up for it every night now as usually its him trying it on and me being like 'god sake again!? really?' lol.

so far i havent had any cramps or anything since it was taken out. did you get any jess?

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 16:44:53

Ever so slightly yeah, but nothing noteworthy!

Popsicle30 Wed 27-Nov-13 17:33:35

Very pleased it all went well MrsW and no cramps or anything at the moment. Some very exciting times ahead for you and HippyJess! I think it's great you got your coil and can present it as a gift to your DH. He must think he's a lucky boy at the moment with you being very up for it!

I think I'll let them keep my coil. My DH knows i'm getting it out so don't need it as a gift. I've not had any children so this will be our first ttc- very exciting! I was expecting it to hurt a lot when the coil was put in, especially with not having had a child. The GP gave a local anaesthetic and I didn't feel thing - was surprised when she told me it was all over. I'm hoping it'll be a similar experience when it comes out...fingers crossed!

Mind you I had light bleeding/spotting for 3-4 weeks after I had it inserted so hoping it doesn't do that when it is out. My period is due a couple of days after my appointment so hopefully that'll come on time and sort everything out!!!

Good luck everyone!

KittyVonCatsington Wed 27-Nov-13 17:59:25

shock at your Mum in the waiting room, MrsW! Who'd have thought it!? Do you think you'll tell her when you announce your pregnancy, why you were really there?
Hope the next time I am at the Doctors is to say that I have a BFP [fingers crossed]

Wow we can talk ladies, over 200 hundred posts! This has just hugely cheered me up, I am sitting reading on the bus while someone drunken guys pukes in a carrier bag and another one is smoking, great for my asthma angry

KittyVonCatsington Wed 27-Nov-13 19:15:57

Gross! Get home quick to a nice cup of hot chocolate and comfy slippers. It's too cold out for idiots like that grrr!

I am off the bus grin thank goodness! DH has just informed me he is away next week. My best guess at when I ovulate is Friday so think we will be busy this weekend. Anyone else planning to test around the 19th December? I'd love to wait til our anniversay on the 21st if AF hasn't arrived but don't know if I'll be able to.

Also is anyone being careful with food in the 2ww? My xmas party is slap on the 18th and I need to choose my menu options. if wasn't TTC it'd be goats cheese, rare roast beef followed by baileys dessert accompanied with red wine....obviously not the way to go this time though if there is a possibilty of being pg...

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 19:47:38

I have no idea when im due to ovulate, already poa ovulation stick lol. Negative. As expected. Oh well, il still spend every day of the next month convincing myself im pregnant. Lol

KittyVonCatsington Wed 27-Nov-13 19:56:37

I think I have started to use OPK sticks at the wrong time, but if I am lucky, I was thinking about holding out and testing Christmas Eve or Day. Not sure if I shall be able to wait that long though!

Littlebear88 Wed 27-Nov-13 20:37:35

Mrs W- can't believe your mum was there!! Reminds me of when I bunked off school at 16 to go to doctors for contraceptive pill, and walked into waiting room to only see my mum there!!!! I had to make some terrible excuse I can't even remember now!!

Anyway AF got me today, but glad that it was 28 days exactly since withdrawl bleed! Roll on December!!! Glad we are in it together!!

Finnable Wed 27-Nov-13 20:54:40

That's hilarious Mrs W - you're a quicker thinker than I! The day after I had my implant out, my Mum noticed the bandage and asked "Implant change? I certainly hope it's a change not a removal..."

Just the response I was hoping for, considering I'm married, 30, own own home etc... sad

MrsW0931 Wed 27-Nov-13 20:56:28

So DH came home tonight and i hugged him and immediately he pulled back smiling saying 'what r u hiding?' Im still sure i wasnt acting any different to how i normally do but he knew something was up, even asked if coil was out (eek) to which i said no. The next 4 weeks r gonna be long!

Honeybear30 Wed 27-Nov-13 21:19:39

mrsw I cannot believe that at the doctors! What are the chances?!

littlebear I'm glad you got your af after 28 days, like me to, body getting back to normal smile

ReginaFelange22 Wed 27-Nov-13 23:57:59

Still reading and waiting...don't expect to be as lucky to have conceived first round but let's wait and see I suppose!

HippyJess Wed 27-Nov-13 23:58:02

I am not in any way watching back-to-back episodes of One Born Every Minute. Nope, nuh uh, nothing to see here... blush

QueenFaerie86 Thu 28-Nov-13 06:58:05

I'm a week through the 2 week wait, I'm trying not to symptom spot but I've woken up this morning with thrush and I only have ever had it when I've been pregnant! Literally get it from the very beginning! Trying so hard not to get my hopes up but it's a good sign for me! Not very pleasant sign but I'll take it!! Eeeee!

KittyVonCatsington Thu 28-Nov-13 07:01:04

What an unfortunate 'side effect', QueenFaerie!, but at least it is a positive sign-keeping fingers crossed for you smile

Lizzie1985 Thu 28-Nov-13 07:59:35

Hi Ladies. After trying to be patient and virtuous, I caved in and tested yday. A stupid horrid BFN sad. I just don't understand what's happening to my body. I really thought I had pregnancy symptoms too. And the spotting. Was that my first period? I've been so emotional since coming off the pill too. I don't know whether to start charting temps yet? Ugh. Want to cry cause it's all so confusing and irritating.

Hey lizzie don't get too disheartened, its really early days. I had horrid symptoms when I first came off the pill- nausea, headaches, cramps, massively emotional sad Did a couple of hpts as it made me so paranoid. My first period was very light too, and stopped for about 12 hours in the middle....all very odd. Hoping I back to normal now though and dtd like mad. Try not to streas yourself out as this wont help!

On another issue, way tmi, but what tactics are you ladies using to keep the swimmers going in the right direction? I am doing some hip tilting/bum propping for ten mins or so after dtd then trying to just go to sleep without going to the loo...it seems to be working but then for the first few hours the next day I get a bit of leakage ifykwim? shock Its not a lot and it doesn't bother me but I just wondered if I am being ott here?

MrsW0931 Thu 28-Nov-13 09:28:36

Weird you say that ThingsThatGoHump as after we DTD last night (first time since coil removed) that is exactly what i did! blush Cant harm to try eh?

When did you stop taking the pill Lizzie? Dont be dis heartened like ThingsThatGoHump says as it can take up to 6 months for the pill to come out of your system so its likely to just be that as it sounds like you havent been off the pill for too long? chin up

k4tie84 Thu 28-Nov-13 10:21:59

Hi ladies. Hope you don't mind me joining in. DH and I are in our first month of TTC after coming off the pill in September. Super excited and its killing me not telling anyone. Next AF is due on the 21st Dec. I would love to be able to give DH a positive pregnancy test as a present on Christmas morning.

My dilemma is that it's obviously the party season and I've got a few Christmas parties and drinks to go to with friends and colleagues. I'd rather not drink much in case we're lucky enough to get a bfp but what excuse can I make? smile

ReginaFelange22 Thu 28-Nov-13 11:06:18

Spoke to soon. It's turned up sad not surprised though but glad it's here to make things slightly easier!!

Oh no regina....back to the grindstone wink

KittyVonCatsington Thu 28-Nov-13 18:01:00

Here's to the next month Regina, lots of virtual hugs smile.

Welcome, k4tie, come here and talk to us instead-helps if you can't talk to people in real life! With regards to alcohol during the festive season, my thoughts were: get my own drinks and get non-alcoholic beer but put straight into glass or get a half coke without the vodka. To stop people buying drinks in say a round, I'll say, no, don't worry, I'll get my own! Around family during Christmas/New Year, I'll have to get DH on side and get him to sneakily swop drinks or get me alcoholic looking ones. Could end up quite farcical!

Kittyrose1 Thu 28-Nov-13 18:48:26

Hi all, sorry to hear of the bfns and the arrivals of AF ! How do you ladies keep your mind off of babies?? Or do you? My friends are either pregnant or had a baby a baby at the moment! AF has finished so we are now getting back in action!
Good luck everyone !

Lizzie1985 Thu 28-Nov-13 20:04:17

Thingsthatghump I finished my last pill 5 weeks ago. I'm guessing it probably was my period. Feeling a lot better today after disappointment yday. I got my basal thermometer today, so I'm kinda hoping once I start charting my temps and CM that I'll understand where I am in my cycle. Kittyrose I'm finding it impossible to keep my mind off babies. I was godparent at a Christening on Sunday and it was hard- I want one so much and don't like waiting!

Kittyrose1 Thu 28-Nov-13 21:21:35

Lizzie,I hate waiting too and I must admit I like everything to happen in my control and this just can't be controlled so I need to learn to relax! How lovely to e a godparent, was it a nice service?
Are you going to try using the opk or stick to your own temp and cm monitoring ?

ReginaFelange22 Thu 28-Nov-13 22:09:44

ThingsThatGoHump I done the bum/hip tilt thing lol! Bum in the air, looking like a right idiot but thought it couldn't be a bad thing! I just hope it's easier because the first AF is here and can now count the days etc. Although I also hope I don't go back to 7 day periods, with no let up!

Is the temping side of things easy to keep up with? How does it work?

ReginaFelange22 Thu 28-Nov-13 22:11:52

Meant to also say that I just went to sleep too! I lay for about 20 mins or more if it was the morning too!

k4tie84 Fri 29-Nov-13 09:45:58

Thanks Kittyvon! I think it will be harder to fool close friends but I'll give it a go.

I've brought ovulation sticks from amazon and both dh and I are taking pregnacare conception his and hers. I think I'm due to ovulate end of next week.

I'm a big planner and hate when things don't work out how you want them to. Trying really hard not to obsess over it.

When is everyone's af due in December?

Hi k4tie I'm due around the 19th or so but only had one AF since coming off the pill. Just had a docs appt for something unrelated and thought I'd mention we are trying as I have a condition which can affect pregnancy and will need to be managed carefully when it happens and she was so lovely, really enthusiastic and reassuring, almost excited grin so nice to talk to someone about it.

I really hope it happens for us all soon.

Will you all be keeping it completely quiet until the first scan? We were discussing and DH reckons we should tell people who we'd tell if we had any issues anyway...so maybe my sis and the in laws...that would be it and we'd want them to keep it quiet...which I <think> they would...

k4tie84 Fri 29-Nov-13 10:42:29

Hi thingsthatgobumpinthenight I’m due on the 21st Dec. I've had 2 AF's since coming off the pill so hopefully everything is in working order.

Glad to hear your doctor was so enthusiastic and keen to talk to you about it. Hope everything goes ok.

DH and I have had the same conversation and we have said that we will tell parents and siblings. If we're unlucky enough to have a MC it will be nice to have the support from loved ones.

HippyJess Fri 29-Nov-13 10:46:06

Morning folks smile DTD with "intent" last night for the first time, even though I missed my ovulation window this month - it was still exciting! grin

ThingsThatGoHump I'd tell my mum and sister because I'd want their support if anything went wrong anyway (touch wood!), but not sure about PiL... I think I'd prefer to leave them til the 12 week scan but will wait and see how DP feels about as and when I actually get upduffed wink

Everyone else - my dad, grandparents, friends etc - can wait until the first scan!

HippyJess Fri 29-Nov-13 10:49:22

That's really good GoHump, glad things are moving forward positively! smile

Glad everything seems to be as it should be and hope you get your BFP soon K4tie smile my AF is due on the 5th and in spite of it being extreeeeemely unlikely I'm harbouring a secret hope she doesn't show up!

grin love 'doing the deed with intent'-sounds like a criminal offence! We aren't close with my parents at all so won't be telling them. My sister definitely and in laws probably-they are great, just a bit worried they would tell DH's siblings (one of whom is engaged to my best mate!) which would then spiral into a lot of people knowing before we wanted them too...difficult... might just wait and see how we feel when the time comes

HippyJess Fri 29-Nov-13 11:31:17

Stems from the MN acronym SWI - shagging with intent grin I'm a fan of the phrase!

The whole thing with this baby-making business seems to be 'go with the flow' so that makes sense as a plan smile you don't know what'll happen or how you feel, so just go with it! Sage advice, yes yes grin

MrsW0931 Fri 29-Nov-13 11:55:04

Yea i like that Jess SWI from now on for us both now the coils r out! grin

So i lasted 24 hours before telling DH id had my coil out. lol. I happened to mention in an argument that id got him the beststed present ever for xmas that i was really excited about and so can we stop argueing about silly things and then from that point onwards it was 'tell me tell me tell me' all day long so i gave in (with a bit of bribery for having his bestest xmas present early ofcourse!). He was so excited and it was strangely different when we DTD last night..i dont know how to describe it - anyone else feel like that when they first started trying? Jess, you DTD last night too - did you feel different?

MrsW0931 Fri 29-Nov-13 11:55:55

I also did another ovulation stick last night, nothing. So anoying having no clue where i am in my cycle cos of not having a period for over 2 years. Im no good at the waiting thing!

k4tie84 Fri 29-Nov-13 12:16:47

I've brought a pack of 50 ovulation sticks from Amazon and I’ve started testing everyday as all the apps, calculators etc. tell me different dates. on top of that we're DTD as much as possible... I think DH is secretly hoping it doesn't happen to quickly wink

HippyJess Fri 29-Nov-13 12:47:49

Yes MrsW it felt different - somehow more significant? I suppose for us it's the whole "neither of us ever having had unprotected sex with someone" thing. It made me all smushy that we love each other this much and want a child together blush . DP remains infuriatingly relaxed and says "it's all just sex until I knock you up", but he definitely seemed different too! grin

MrsW0931 Fri 29-Nov-13 12:51:15

aww thats cute Jess, i know what u mean though it was like proper 'making love' instead of just shagging! and i know he felt the same i could just tell by even the way he kissed me. He was almost a bit nervous about it too bless him.

DH is excited atm, asked me what app he can download and keeps asking am i ovulating yet every hour. im like NO i havent even had an AF for over 2 years i have no clue when im due to ovulate! lol

KittyVonCatsington Fri 29-Nov-13 18:07:45

I'm due AF on the 20th/21st as well! Till then, lots of SWI, if I'm not too shattered from work that is smile. Was thinking about going shopping tomorrow for some new sexy pants to try and keep things interesting!

ReginaFelange22 Fri 29-Nov-13 22:40:38

As it stands I'll be due on the 27th ish! Depending on cycle length! If my AF goes back as it was before I've still got 5 days of hell ahead at the moment lol!!

Can I just say it's so refreshing to come on here say whatever and know that we are all wanting the same and have that support too.

I don't fancy telling anyone until we have a scan but I doubt I'll keep quiet from my mum and dad!

HippyJess Sat 30-Nov-13 15:02:46

DP currently cuddled up with nephew. Ovaries exploding.

ReginaFelange22 Sat 30-Nov-13 15:10:06

Bumped into a friend this morning who had a baby early this year and she said it was the best thing that ever happened to her!! Jealous lol!!

MrsW0931 Sat 30-Nov-13 16:20:46

Ok so thiswhole waiting thing is getting frustrating already and im only on day 4! Lol. Peed on an ovulation stick every day since coil was out as i havnt a clue where i am in my cycle atm. Negative negative negative :-(

MrsW0931 Sat 30-Nov-13 16:21:30

Did u have af's with ur coil jess? Cant remember if uv already said or not...

threebee Sat 30-Nov-13 16:46:32

Next AF for me due on Christmas Day, so hoping for a Christmas BFP instead!!! Good luck to all for December cycles!

grin at ovaries exploding.... spent all morning at nephew's birthday party, running around a bowling alley, chasing kids and dancing to gangnam style, fun times! Think I am ovulating sometime today/tomorrow but not too sure on my cycle yet. I never seem to have that much cm but what I have got today/yesterday is stretching 4-5cm before it breaks (sorry if tmi!). Hopefully this is my equivalent of ewcm and I am fertile this weekend as DH is away for a week from Monday (everyone is different I have read, so you shouldnt necessarily expect 'normal', just judge by changes to your own cycle...hope this is true as having googled ewcm and seen the pics mine looks nothing like as copious!)

KittyVonCatsington Sat 30-Nov-13 19:10:42

Awwww! I have niece's 4th birthday party tomorrow; you've reminded me to try not to look so obvious when with them! Still negative on OPKs sad

MrsW0931 Sat 30-Nov-13 20:48:16

Yay my first af since coil being removed on wednesday just arrived! So chuffed as it means i can now start figuring out my cycle and we do have a chance of a bfp for xmas gringringrin

... And it also means im still working lol

MrsW0931 Sat 30-Nov-13 20:49:47

That sounds promising thingsthatgohump, fingers crossed for u this month :-)

Just sat watching x factor, with a glass of winegrin

ReginaFelange22 Sat 30-Nov-13 21:50:36

Good news then MrsW! Mine has been here 3 days but already seems to be quite light, been a pleasant surprise!! smile Enjoy your wine!! I had mine last night lol!!

HippyJess Sat 30-Nov-13 23:58:04

That's good MrsW! I did have a normal cycle but that's because mine was the non-hormonal one smile glad your AF turned up!

Glad I'm not the only one blatantly pining after children I'm around grin

I'm now secretly hoping that by some miracle my AF never turns up and I've managed to get preggo this cycle... Super unlikely! Will have fun officially trying next month though so that'd be a benefit wink I keep saying it, but I really hope we all get our BFPs sharpish!

HippyJess Sun 01-Dec-13 11:26:01

Symptom spotting this morning, because last night and this morning I've had some spotting. Trying not to think it might be an implantation bleed because I don't want to get my hopes up!

When do you think AF is due jess? I've enjoyed breakfast in bed two mornings in a row as DH wanted me to lie flat as long as possible after dtd grin Put up the xmas decs last night and was moving sofa and got a hmm look and ' should you be doing that in your condition? ' ..... pretty sure I'm not in any condition yet as I only (think) ov'd yesterday, but at least I know I'll be looked after when I am wink

HippyJess Sun 01-Dec-13 13:47:02

December 5th so it's technically very possible which makes it worse! Thats cute of your DH, hope he keeps it up grin

Haha, yeah, we'll see...I am sure once I've woken him up puking every day for a few months he might have a different view wink

MrsW0931 Sun 01-Dec-13 21:30:59

Yea itl be interesting to see how long they keep up the act of looking after us once we get our bfp's - my DH has sworn blind hes gonna pamper me throughout the whole pregnancy. I do not believe this for one minute. Lol

So my af kind of disappeared today and now im confused.... Was it my af? Surely 4 days after coil was out it wudnt be a bleed due to the coil being removed but why did it only last for half a day?

ReginaFelange22 Sun 01-Dec-13 23:01:34

Hmmm I wonder if my OH will treat me like that lol!!

Regarding AF being half a day, it is quite strange. I was expecting mine to be mega heavy and painful but it although it was quite heavy the first 2 days I've had no cramps! Thank god, all I remember from my periods pre-pill was 7 days solid cramps and very heavy periods!! So far I'm 4 days in and I could see it being finished tomorrow!

Was out with 2 friends today who are both in relationships just slightly less time than myself and the topic moves to babies and marriage etc! Was so hard to keep my mouth shut and not let anything slip but at the same time be part of the conversation like nothing's going on!

HippyJess Mon 02-Dec-13 18:20:56

Hope your AFs sort themselves out sharpish guys, must be really confusing! confused

I'm continuing to symptom spot in spite of myself. I know that chances of me having conceived this month are super mega tiny small but I know the chance is still there and it's driving me crazy. So much so I'm planning on doing a FRER tomorrow just to make sure! 'Cos I think I may have had that implantation bleed a few days ago, my boobs have gotten sore since then, and today I'm tired and nauseous. It could very well just be pre-AF stuff - but I guess I'll find put tomorrow! hmm

threebee Mon 02-Dec-13 19:39:26

Good luck for POAS, HippyJess! Symptoms do sound promising!

KittyVonCatsington Mon 02-Dec-13 20:19:38

Look forward to any news, Jess-fingers crossed for you! No sign of AF or Ovulating yet-very confusing. Am also finding it tough finding the same time to use the stick everyday as I barely have the time to go to the loo anyway! My instructions say I can test up to 8pm. Does anyone now if I am alright to test say 5pm everyday for OPKs? I heard on here somewhere that midday was best but I am really struggling with that at work.

HippyJess Mon 02-Dec-13 20:34:10

It's 10am-8pm "optimum testing time" for OPKs so 5 should be fine Kitty smile

thanks for the luck/crossed fingers!

Finnable Mon 02-Dec-13 20:51:45

Hey all - how's everyone holding up? I read on another board that someone thought the first month of TTC was the hardest in terms of waiting... I certainly hope that's the case!

Good luck Jess - hopefully you'll be the first of a rush of cycle 1 BFP's!

I'm still 6 days away from POAS/AF day and I'm already annoying myself with obsessive knicker-watching...

On the plus side, if ERTD does appear, I can drink wine again!

Fingers X'd for y'all!

ReginaFelange22 Mon 02-Dec-13 21:00:43

Fingers crossed for you Jess!!

Wow jess how exciting! Make sure you update us. And you too finn. I reckon I am two weeks away from testing (think I ov'd Fri/Sat) and am already on the symptom spotting bandwagon! I dont know how I am going to gwt through 2 weeks! DH is away too so no one to jabber on at sad

Finnable Mon 02-Dec-13 22:28:28

ThingsThatGoHump - jabber on here, that's what we're for! fsmile

Thanks finn! I am definitely imagining things at the moment....that's what I am telling myself anyway, don't want to get my hopes up thwn be disappointed!

How'd it go jess?

HippyJess Tue 03-Dec-13 10:42:31

I had to go and collect the FRERs from the sorting office, so didn't use FMU... When I got home I thought it'd be fine as I needed to pee again but thought wrong - it was sooooo pale and diluted! So got a BFN but not surprised at all. I have 2 Clearblue Digis as well and AF is due Thursday - so if it's not here by Friday I'll use one of those!

Still feel really sick today so if I'm not PG then I'm quite ill grin

Still hope yet then jess grin tmi but I have had egg white consistency cm this morning but it is white/yellowy... like the sort of thing you'd cough up (sorry, , disgusting!)...not sure if this means I've ov'd later than I thought or if something is afoot....

KitKat1985 Tue 03-Dec-13 11:17:33

Hello all. Just been catching up on all the news. HippyJess that all sounds promising - keep us posted on what happens when you re-test. smile

I'm currently on CD27 (assuming my first day of post-pill bleeding counts as day 1?). Have been up for work at 5.30am the past few days so no time to poas, but on a late shift today so thought I'd give it a go. Got a BFN. Not really surprised by this, just testing more out of interest than anything. Also using Tesco pregnancy tests which I'm not sure how sensitive they are so wasn't holding out too many hopes for an early result. I figure I'm not out until AF turns up, though I'm keeping my hopes low and telling myself that if AF does turn up at least I can do some Christmas drinking guilt-free and look forward to a BFP in the new year! Also having a 'proper' period will at least allow to work out dates and things more accurately when I do conceive. I'll probably test again on Sunday (CD32) if AF doesn't turn up before then. I'll keep you all posted. smile

HippyJess Tue 03-Dec-13 11:26:22

Just been bawling my eyes out on the phone to DP because I study on the other side of the country to where we live 3 days a week and I feel like I can't cope missing himm this week blush. Still feel like I may throw up 80% of the time. Ugh.

kitKat that's positive either way then wink

ThingsThatGoHump how random! What cycle day are you on?

MrsW0931 Tue 03-Dec-13 11:43:08

That must be hard, especially when ttc, emotions flying everywhere bet u must miss him. When is he home?

Im still confused as to what that was on Friday night. AF or no AF? it stopped saturday morning and havent had anything since. I cant stop thinking about it and googling to try and read up on post coil period etc. pretty sure it cant be an implantation bleed so why did it only last a few hours?
Hope it was an AF as if i come on again in the next few weeks as that will totally screw up any chances of a BFP at christmas sad

This all sounds pretty exciting for u though Jess, feeling sick 80% of the time... i cant wait to find out how it goes when you next test. smile

MrsW0931 Tue 03-Dec-13 11:44:04

Sorry Jess, mis read that - thought you said DH goes other side of the country for 3 days a week, when do you get to see him next?

Maybe just your hormones settling MrsW?

Sounds hopeful jess

I am on cd18, think 3-4 dpo. I have read that you get an increase in CM in early pregnancy, usually white and lotion-like. It could be that and I am just interpreting wrong, but seems too early to be likely. Hoping not an indication of ov as have missed the window in that case as DH away..wait and see I suppose

MrsW0931 Tue 03-Dec-13 16:19:29

Maybe, i kind of hope it was my period though as it means i roughly now have an idea of where i am in my cycle.
Had the worst afternoon. Sat in tears hiding behind my PC at work so the other girls dont notice and ask if im ok - half 3 i realise with horror that i was suposed to pick DS1 up from school to take him to nannys until i finish work - he usually goes on the nursery bus to where his younger sister is so its not our normal routine and i completely forgot the time until my mum txt me asking where i was. Now i feel like the worst parent ever and keep burstnig into tears whenever i talk about it (like right now!) sad DS didnt even seem to realise as another child was also waiting for his parent too so they were playing with the teachers but i feel so bad for forgetting to pick him up and no doubt will have my 'perfect' mother lecturing me when i finish work as she would have never ever done anything like that with her 3 children. urgh. Tried to persude DH to go pick him up but hes already home doing some work in the garden. urgh what a crap day!

Sorry for the rant btw!

Oh no MrsW what a nightmare! Hopefully it will be a funny story to tell later on. No need to worry though, DS was not in any danger at any point, you picked him up a little late, no major issue! I'm sure most of us know what it feels like to have parents with selective memories, try to just brush it off.

I've managed to convince myself over the course of the afternoon that I am pg. Have had very bad cramping in my left lower abdomen all afternoon, really painful....on the other hand it could be wind wink Just doing a gentle 30 mins on the exercise bike to see if it helps

KittyVonCatsington Tue 03-Dec-13 20:16:27

It's a super stressful time of year as it is, MrsW, without all the added pressure so don't be too hard on yourself. So sorry you had such a rotten day and a big virtual hug. Today is over, forget about it and focus on tomorrow (oh, and lots of SWI!) fsmile

HippyJess Wed 04-Dec-13 20:10:39

I promised myself I wouldn't test again until/unless AF hasn't shown up by Saturday. That feels like a century away sad

Lizzie1985 Thu 05-Dec-13 09:14:51

Hi all. Sorry for not posting recently. Mrs W I had a similar bleed to you- it seemed to stop after a couple of days and not really come to anything at all. I was convinced I was pg but kept getting bfn (depressingly). I think now it was actually my first AF after bcp. I'm now charting temps on fertility friend to try to find out where I am in my cycle. I think according to my pattern so far I'm on cd 13, so hopefully ovulation time soon. I guess this means I'm actually on month 2 ttc! I would definitely recommend charting as it seems to clarify a few unknowns and might prevent unnecessary testing and more heartache. Though who knows- you could be preggers!! Hope so fwink

Hey jess stay strong! Not long to go now smile

I am convinced I am pregnant wink getting lotion like cm which is white/yellow tinged (looks almost snotty), had some period-y cramps too and mega thirsty. Also cried at 24 hours in a and e last night, though I am a bit of a crier generally grin

I am teying not to get excited though as know this happens to everyone every month so will just have to wait and see. Was telling DH symptoms on the phone last night amd he was getting all excited. Will feel guilty now if Ive imagined it all sad

HippyJess Thu 05-Dec-13 11:58:32

I've been telling DP not to get his hopes up ThingsThatGoHump but he already did due to my sickness / increasingly sore boobs / bursting into tears at the drop of a hat "more than you normally do with PMS" hmm

Since January my cycles have been 29/33/36/28/27/28/25/31/30 days long. I'm now on day 31 so AF's definitely due but no sign of it yet but I do have mild cramping. Which could be that the witch is on her way or not, at 4 weeks, which I'd be. Only time will tell. I'm 50/50 on it. This is hideous! sad

Very glad I'm not the only crazy symptom-spotting woman and that I have some company grin

MrsW0931 Thu 05-Dec-13 12:21:43

i know what you mean Jess, i have totally convinced myself that im pregnant and my coil only came out 8 days ago! - i feel constant nausea for the past 3 days that just wont go away so i just dont want to eat - even chocolate isnt tempting me and that is unheard of!
everytime i stretch upwards i get this ligament pain inbetween my hips which i only ever get when im pregnant. I wish i hadnt had my coil out just before christmas as the thought of not being pregnant on xmas day is a bit disapointing but i want to just either find out im pregnant or get a proper AF so i can start charting properly as i dont even know if that half day period was actually my AF or not - 2 days after it i got pink spotting once but other than that nothing. so frustrating not having a clue.

Iv even already found it hard talking infront of our mums about stuff and then thinking crap i shouldnt say this - mentioned i had plans to get my DS and DD bunk beds (as they will need to share a room when we have a new baby), ofcourse my mum doesnt know this and was asking why my DS whos the elder one needs a bunk bed? eek. How will i ever keep quiet for 3 months!?

MrsW0931 Thu 05-Dec-13 21:41:31

Where is everybody?

ReginaFelange22 Thu 05-Dec-13 21:58:32

Hope everything is going well for everyone x

At work...worst luck! Did 8am - 10.30pm today...hopefully in a year I'll have more important things to do with my time grin

QueenFaerie86 Fri 06-Dec-13 09:37:16

I'm due on today! No sign of anything this morning apart from feeling sick, which I think is nerves and lack of a cuppa tea. I am forcing myself to wait until after the weekend to test. Is anyone else close to testing?

k4tie84 Fri 06-Dec-13 09:37:31

I ovulated yesterday according to a stick and curtain body signals and dtd last night. fingers crossed we've been lucky in the first month of ttc but I'm not holding much hope. I can't help but think I should feel different if I was pregnant I know it's way to early.

MrsW0931 Fri 06-Dec-13 09:53:18

Im still feeling constant nausea. And have woken up with a raging headache the past 2 days. infact iv had quite a few headaches over the last week. I would try and not get my hopes up but theyre already way up there! lol.

At least its friday fsmile and i have my works Christmas party tonight so will enjoy the free wine while i can!

I am on cd21 and think 7dpo. POAS this morning as qas googling last night about early positives. BFN though of course! Feeling pretty sick and cramps and snotty cm continuing. Literally been to the loo and just noticed some spotting. Not sure what it is, last cycle was 33 days so hoping maybe implantation...most likely my body playong tricks on me though sad

When you testing faerie?

QueenFaerie86 Fri 06-Dec-13 10:09:10

If i haven't started by Monday I am going to test, I purposely haven't got any tests to hand so that I don't give in. I get hormone headaches 2 days before I'm due to start, have had this everytime for years, but nothing this time! Ok I may be clutching at straws now, I don't know how I'll cope with the anticipation if it takes months to conceive!

HippyJess Fri 06-Dec-13 10:58:30

I gave in and ordered the NHS-style internet cheapie pee sticks (the ones you have to dunk, not pee onto...). AF was due yesterday but is so far a no-show. Boobs still sore. I'm exhausted. Still feel sick though now it's mainly in the mornings hmm POAS yesterday with FMU was a BFN sad

I had an 'alien cycle' once last year that was crazy long but due to stress at the time; the longest I've had since has been 36. I'm on day 32, I think around 21dpo. Not sure though because I wasn't using OPKs.

Plan is to try to relax and use the cheapies to test once a day until AF comes. There's still no sign of her and I'd usually have cramping by now. Aaahhhhrrrgggg!

Finnable Fri 06-Dec-13 11:52:44

Hiya all!

Just been having a catchup, had a few days off as I was going a little massively crazy symptom spotting!

Mrs W - have a fab night tonight!
Jess - this sounds REALLY promising - don't stress about the BFN's, you might have ovulated later than you thought therefore your hormones might not be high enough yet.

I'm due AF on Sunday, and I'm pretty sure she's on her way. I'm super-crampy and have been an emotional wreck/utter bitch all week so I think I might be out for December.

In more positive news, I intend to drink my weight in Prosecco if that is the case!

Baby dust to all, hope we get a BFP on here soon!

MrsW0931 Fri 06-Dec-13 12:13:10

Hi Finnabel, i too am crazy symptom spotting - less than 2 weeks after my coil has been out. Now that is crazy. ha. i cannot concentrate at work - i have a quote open on one screen and mumsnet on the other. I have been working on this quote for 3 hours and im not getting anywhere. good job im IT support and know how to delete my web history on here!
stil no idea what my half day bleed was - AF or not. DH is getting a bit frustrated not knowing where we are in my cycle, cant join in on the 2WW etc cos i have no frickin idea where i am.

QueenFaerie86 Fri 06-Dec-13 13:35:47

When is it best to test? A few days after your were due on? I didn't test with my first dc until I was two weeks late because I didn't realise I was so late!

MrsW0931 Fri 06-Dec-13 13:41:25

if my half day bleed was my AF last week then officaially my next AF is due the 28th according to my maybe baby app --not that i check my app daily at all!--but like hell am i going to be able to wait until then to test! lol. Il be testing christmas eve and if its by some mirical postivie il buy an expensive test for my DH's present on xmas morning to tell him :-)

HippyJess Fri 06-Dec-13 14:32:11

That's right QueenFaerie, then you should definitely get a correct answer!

I have decided in my infinite wisdom that I'm actually running a week behind schedule cycle-wise. Because I can be irregular, I could in fact have ovulated 5-7 days after I thought I did. Which would make me only 9dpo-ish and explain all the symptoms but BFNs. This decision will allow me to keep my spirits up in the face of zero AF and continuous BFNs...

HippyJess Fri 06-Dec-13 14:33:19

Also, not sure if half a day would count MrsW - but it's very weird that our bodies are misbehaving considering we were both on non-hormonal contraception! They shouldn't have gone funny at all hmm

MrsW0931 Fri 06-Dec-13 14:52:57

i did have the hormonal one Jess, the mirena - so my periods stopped for over 2 years. Just hope it was so i can get tracking cycles etc..

HippyJess Fri 06-Dec-13 14:54:05

Ah, just my body being weird then. That seems normal wink

This is a whole thread of frustration at the moment it seems!

Finnable Fri 06-Dec-13 22:52:08

Jess - that sounds logical re: ovulation days, keep holding on, you might be surprised yet!

MrsW - I "lol'd" at the image of you erasing your internet MN history in work, I love it!

Anyone tracking symptoms/days etc, I've been using ovufriend, I find it a little easier to understand than fertilityfriend, and seeing everything charted in front of me helps me feel a little more in control! It even tells you when to test etc...

Not that there's any control to be had, but it helps my control-freaky nature!

toots123 Sat 07-Dec-13 07:29:21

Well my AF just made an appearance! Woo!! It arrived 5 weeks after my pill withdrawal bleed so not too bad.

So December will be our first proper month of trying (and knowing we might actually make a baby!)

Never been so excited about my af ever haha!!!
Already worked out if we conceive when the baby would be due (3days before my birthday! )

Happy Saturday girls wink

HippyJess Sat 07-Dec-13 08:39:00

Morning! smile

Woke up this morning with my boobs not hurting so I knew it was over! Just crazy hormones this month it seems. AF has started in her usual initial form.

DP managed to make me not-upset because he's a miracle worker. Here's to LOTS of SWI over Christmas for us, toots grin

QueenFaerie86 Sat 07-Dec-13 13:43:38

Still no sign of AF! Feel unbelievably tired, had to nap yesterday and I may have to have a snooze now too. The wait is torture!

God, faerie I know exactly what you mean. 8dpo today I think...extreme thirst/dry mouth, headache, nausea backache and snotty cm. The only I trust not to be imagining is the cm sad

FX AF doesn't turn up for you and you get the first BFP on the thread.

I'm in a quandry as going to an xmas party tonight...advice I've had on another thread is to behave as normal but don't go OTT on the alcohol. So difficult to know the right thing to do sad

toots123 Sat 07-Dec-13 15:58:33

Yes I know Jess!!! Wine in hand right now!
Will you be watching the alcohol in take over Christmas? We might be in the 2ww by then (boo)

QueenFaerie86 Sat 07-Dec-13 16:22:24

I've just seen slightly pink discharge so think this must be AF starting sad oh crap!

Hibou7688 Sat 07-Dec-13 19:44:20

Currently on cd35..still no AF. Normally arrives on day 28 or 29. Have poas (cheapy ones) earlier in the week and negative. But whyyyy is af not being her regular self?? I've not even felt crampy as I usually do the day before.

Haven't been actively trying the last month, barely dtd at all to be honest. I know it only takes the once but I'm doubting that I could be pregnant. Do I poas again or wait it out?!

nzkitsune Sat 07-Dec-13 19:51:58

We are starting ttc as well, both of us are 25. I am SO nervous. I am a bit of a worry wort so I am freakin out that it will be such a huge change and I won't know what to do!

nzkitsune Sat 07-Dec-13 19:53:39

P.S. I am totally new here - I have little to no support locally, and thought it would be a good idea to get on the forums... so I am reaching out to the Mums online!! Eeeee!

MrsW0931 Sat 07-Dec-13 20:20:50

Welcome nzkit! Im in my first month too, finally got a positive result from my cheapo ovulation sticks today :-) i spent all day randomly smiling over the buzz of finally getting somewhere with them sticks! We also dtd twice last night and 3 times today just to celebrate lol.

One of my friends has told me a few months back that shes ttc her first but she doesnt know iv had my coil out 2 weeks ago and ttc myself now as i had planned to leave it a year or so from now so im really praying she gets pregnant before me as i know shes the type of person to be really pissed off and itl put a huge wedge in our friendship which i dont want. So awkward, i wish we could be trying together but DH doesnt want me to tell anyone which is fair enough but makes me feel like im being sneeky by not telling her. Does any of that make sense? Have you told anyone youre trying?

nzkitsune Sun 08-Dec-13 01:27:34

Haha that's awesome that you got a positive result with the ovulation sticks!! We aren't using them yet, just trying to go off CM. We'll see how things track though and if no progress in a few months I'll switch to using the ovulation/temp tracker stuff.

Oooooh that kind of thing could get tricky with your friend.. I hope she gets pregnant first too!! I have a few friends (and a sister-in-law) with kids already, but none of my friends are TTC as far as I know!

I haven't told anyone except my Mum and a couple of good friends. I really don't want the pressure of people asking "so how's it going?" haha. That makes sense about how you feel 'sneaky' not telling your friend. I definitely think you have good reasons though for not telling her. You can just tell all of us here instead!! :-)

ReginaFelange22 Sun 08-Dec-13 01:28:14

MrsW I have the same feeling! Not told anyone, feel like I could talk to someone but I know I can't! My friends have been discussing babies and marriage, none of us are engaged or have/had even been thinking about babies, at least to my knowledge.

I have a friend who will prob go crazy if she isn't the first to be pregnant/married and I just wish it would happen now rather than later! Want to blurt it out to my mum and dad and even my OHs parents but I know it will just add pressure of the questions from them all the time. Something I can do without!!

So glad I can vent on here!!

HippyJess Sun 08-Dec-13 09:12:11

Hi nzkitsune! smile

AF has disappeared. Turns out it was only the tiniest bit of spotting yesterday. Hope she turns up today or I will reach peak levels of confusion! confused

DP said yesterday that when we get our BFP he's gonna want to tell the whole world right away due to excitement! I think he's worse at getting his hopes up for a quick BFP than I am, if that's possible wink

Glad you now know you've ovulated MrsW - get shagging! grin

HippyJess Sun 08-Dec-13 09:47:30

She's back. January bus for me!

MrsW0931 Sun 08-Dec-13 11:48:28

Well if i wasnt confused before i bloody am now! Opk stick said positive yesterday.... Last night spotting...and today it seems like af is back, 8 days after last weeks one day bleed. So confused and annoyed after the excitement of the opk result yesterday to now think i have no chance of my xmas bfp :-(

RetroHippy Sun 08-Dec-13 13:08:22

Need to vent! DH is showing serious lack of interest, lol!

Came off the pill a couple of months ago, had usual 'pill bleed' straight away, then next period 26 days later, but was very short, only two days and light. Then a week or so later I had very very light spotting for a couple if days and crippling backache. I thought that might be ovulation bleeding, or a bit of a remnant from the very light period.

We're using condoms, and haven't DTD that much anyway, but it's now been 36 days since and I'm going nuts! I'm constantly thinking I've come on, had light stomach cramps for a week or so, but stronger today, but it might be in my head. Ordered a load of internet cheapy hpts, they aren't due to arrive till next Monday, so if still no sign of AF I'm peeing!

I know there's a stupidly small chance of being pg, and it's most likely to be my cycle settling after coming off the pill, but I'm still wondering!

We're planning on ttc in the new year, if I was pg now it wouldn't be a disaster, but would fit better with work if we wait a couple of months who am I kidding, I'd be over the moon

Sick of waiting!

MrsW0931 Sun 08-Dec-13 14:12:05

U sound as confused as me retrohippy! Altho my DH is as obsessed with me and as soon as i toldhim we had a positive opk he was dtd like mad yesterday! Bleeding/af or whatever it is has stopped again. And as gross as i think this is i have been watching the old cm and it went watery the last few days and now today is starting to look more like ewcm. But how when i was bleeding last night and thismorning? I just dont get whats happening. confused

Sounds positive for you tho hippy, u should test to find out either way... And even if timing isnt great i know from experience that u will work around that and be fine.

RetroHippy Sun 08-Dec-13 14:33:09

I've not been charting, temping or taking any notice of my CM. With the hpts I've also ordered 50 ovulation sticks and a basal thermometer. No idea what I'm doing with them, but it's a start!

Apologies for tmi, but I've been wearing my mooncup for work in case AF shows up, and when it comes to taking it out it feels much higher than usual, don't know if that means anything, haha! And CM seems pretty dry tbh.

Blah. and I don't know if the stomach cramps are real, or nerves, or in my head!!

I was going to wait till my tests arrived to test, but I'm thinking it's been long enough since my last period that a bfp should show up so if I got a bfn it would definitely be a bfn if you get me?

DH is just worried about money, and we're putting the house on the market in the New Year so ideally he'd like that all sewn up before we have to think about babies.

It'd be some impressive Super Sperm if I was pg though fgrin

RetroHippy Sun 08-Dec-13 15:10:47

Could the bleeding be ovulation bleeding? I've heard it can happen, and I think that's what mine was...

It's so bloody confusing!

MrsW0931 Sun 08-Dec-13 15:38:09

Well it probably isnt but im already trying to convince myself it is - fed up already and coils only been out a few weeks! Lol. I have no patience at all.

KittyVonCatsington Sun 08-Dec-13 18:05:07

Well, I have started an AF of some sorts today. Not sure if it is actual AF as only two weeks since last "PILL period" and stopping taking the Pill. Extremely sharp pains all day and a dark spotting like AF. Hoping it is body getting back to normal, but it hurts!

Mummyinpink1289 Sun 08-Dec-13 22:06:56

Well, af disappeared again, another 12 random af 8 days after the last one. Wish my body would just sort itself out.

Ps i changed my name from mrsw. Scared someone will figure out who i am as have a few friends also ttc that may lurk on here! Probably just being paranoid i know...

Finnable Mon 09-Dec-13 17:39:36

Hullo ladies...

Hope everyone's well, I'm driving myself potty this end with googling/looking at charts/reading scary statistics.

AF was due yesterday, I've POAS every morning for 4 days... nothing.

I'm utterly torn now between desperately hoping I've just OV'd late and am still in with a chance, and wishing AF would bloody well hurry up so I can drink cocktails!

Any advice/words of sympathy/slaps and pull-yourself-togethers gratefully received.

No advice I am afraid, doing similar here. Can't decide when to test next-only cycle since coming off the pill was 33 days. Currently on Cd24 and have some tests which are supposed to work 4 days before AF is due so tempted to try tomorrow. Might need to order some internet cheapies at this rate grin

Have had such a sore back for the last two days....though I do sit in a computer chairs for 12ish hours a day, so not too unusual....gah

RetroHippy Mon 09-Dec-13 19:50:54

Day 37 and counting...

I'm not letting myself waste money on an expensive test because I know I'm not pg, so waiting till my amazon cheapies arrive.

Convinced myself that my nipple soreness is hormonal, not just leaping about at the gym! Have no symptoms at all. Not a sausage. So can't even fantasy symptom spot.

Humph confused

KittyVonCatsington Mon 09-Dec-13 20:05:38

Oh boy-where do I start?! What I thought was AF yesterday due to cramping and spotting might not be. I'm really only just over two weeks from my last 'pill period' so I thought it was just my body getting back to normal with a period out of place. How wrong I was sad. I have been having non stop stabbing pains that are taking my breath away so to speak. Am doubling over in pain when I walk. Painkillers are not helping. I think I might be experiencing ovulation pain for the first time. Has anyone had this? Will it end?!

Finnable Mon 09-Dec-13 20:13:07

Things and Retro you're both so much better than me, I used all the expensive ones, moved on to internet cheapies then ordered a second batch off Amazon. Beginning to worry about my mental health, as well as bank balance... Beware the cheapies - you'll think nothing of using them as they're inexpensive, and then POOF! The whole packet's gone. Might just be me and my crazy though! fwink

Kitty - that sounds awful! Could it be (whispers) implantation pains?
Either way, it sounds like you need a bath and sympathy! Sending cake your way to see if that helps too!

Well I just POAS.. I think there is a VERY faint line. DH thinks my 'wish for a baby has affected my eyesight' grin nothing like a reality check! Will wait a few days and pee again. Probably light reflecting/wishful thinking <crosses fingers>

RetroHippy Mon 09-Dec-13 20:53:52

Ooh Things! A line is a line! Keeping FX for you grin

I'm actually avoiding POAS as the longer I leave it, the longer I can fantasise that I'm pg and not just hormonally haywire!

KittyVonCatsington Mon 09-Dec-13 20:59:08

Oh God! Now I'm Googling implantation pain. The symptoms are identical! How cruel is mother nature??!!

Ha, well done RetroHippy, very restrained of you! I think I was making it up tbh, I just want to be pregnant sooooo much!

I have a clear blue digi upstairs....sitting on my hands!

RetroHippy Mon 09-Dec-13 21:31:51

First thing tomorrow morning! Save it for some good quality pee grin

Lynsey14 Mon 09-Dec-13 21:45:36

I'm 28!!! Hope that means I'm still young ;-) also first month ttc

Lynsey14 Mon 09-Dec-13 21:47:31

Annnnnd just realised this thread is very long and was replying to first page....

Finnable Mon 09-Dec-13 22:05:11

Things - I'm SO HOPING there was a line. I'll be logging on tomorrow to see - fingers x'd for you there was!

Retro avoiding POAS? Where do you buy that self-control, and can you send me some?

I'm convinced by now that as soon as you decide to TTC something goes 'twang!' in your head that makes everything work a little...strangely!

Kitty Don't Google. Nothing good ever came of Google. fwink

KittyVonCatsington Mon 09-Dec-13 22:08:20

Ha ha ha, Lynsey14, you just made me chuckle for the first time today-even though my tummy hurts! Welcome, welcome!

Finnable, I...just...can't...stop...myself! fgrin

HippyJess Mon 09-Dec-13 22:30:30

POAS-ing is addictive. As soon as AF stops I think I'll be back at it fgrin

ThingsThatGoHump eep! Fingers crossed for a clear BFP in the morning! So excited for you!

Hi Lynsey! fsmile

RetroHippy Mon 09-Dec-13 22:30:56

It's superstitious really, I actually think that the longer I don't POAS the more likely I am to be pg...--despite using condoms and only having had sex three times since coming off the pill two months ago--

<shakes head in despair at self>

Hi Lynsey <waves>

Have just placed the clear blue by the loo for the morning....fingers crossed! The more I think about it the more I doubt myself though...I really think I am seeing symptoms and lines that aren't there sad

If the digi is BFN I gonna buy some cheapies I think....otherwise I am literally pissing money away wink

RetroHippy Tue 10-Dec-13 06:32:04

So things...?

<lives vicariously through other peoples testing>

KittyVonCatsington Tue 10-Dec-13 06:50:43

<lives vicariously through other peoples testing>

Same! Good luck, things !

Haha...well I tested on the digi...BFN, not surprised at all to be honest. Think I need to a) stop symptom spotting and b) stop testing so early....who am I kidding-ordering some cheap strips from amazon now...grin

RetroHippy Tue 10-Dec-13 08:06:36

I caved blush

Spent more on a two pack of cheap Tescos tests than I did on 20 internet cheapies.

Place your bets now on whether AF turns up between now and tomorrow morning when I can actually use them...

Treaclepie19 Tue 10-Dec-13 14:36:04

Hi everyone,
I'll be TTC from January, I feel the same! Me and DH both feel ready... we have been together for 7 years and married since August. I'm 23 and he is 24. Both settled in our jobs and house. However both my sisters were in their late 30's when they had children so I'm not sure how they will react.
Congrats everyone on your exciting news TTC smile

Treaclepie19 Tue 10-Dec-13 14:50:19

Also, sorry I came into this conversation so late! Was on my phone and didn't see all the messages for some reason...

ajmc Tue 10-Dec-13 15:06:10

hello! mind if I join you? I'm new here and also first month TTC #1.

This TWW business is pretty annoying isn't it! I have POAS maybe 4 or 5 times now - all BFN. AF due today but not turned up yet but I have a short cycle so I still have a smidgen of hope. Which is also slightly annoying as we're going out tonight and I could do with a mulled wine!

Hope you're all doing well smile

Welcome newcomers grin careful the symptom spotting and obssessing is contagious wink

Finnable Tue 10-Dec-13 18:26:26

Ooh, hello new ladies! waves like a loon

Things - gutted for you, but maybe it just needs a bit longer?
Retro - let us know in the morning, enjoy POASing, it's addictive!

I've got a BIG night out planned tomorrow, and am DESPERATE to know if I should drink wine or not... Blooming pain in the buttocks!

I'm now two days late, BFN's all around, but STILL no AF... I just want to know now, either way!

I'm off to sulk in the bath now. fconfused

QueenFaerie86 Tue 10-Dec-13 18:35:58

It's been a rough couple of days, I started AF a day later then I had calculated so was very hopeful that AF wasn't going to show. But it suddenly turned to hell with excessive clots, abnormally heavy, almost passing out with dizziness and cramps and nausea. I had this when I miscarried before but this can't be right this early on being the first
Full ttc month. Right? Can't be??!! Just a very heavy horrible AF.........right?

ajmc Tue 10-Dec-13 18:37:09

*waves back*smile

Finnable - I feel your pain! I was thinking of not POASing tomorrow and waiting until AF was 2 days late, but who am I kidding, I'm going to have to test tomorrow.... It is really annoying when there's a big night out planned. Hope you get your BFP tomorrow!

Finnable Tue 10-Dec-13 18:39:18

Oh Faerie that sounds horrible. Hugs to you.

It could just be a rogue period. Were you on the pill/implant before, I hear that can make your AF act very strangely for a couple of months?

Hope you feel better soon!

RetroHippy Tue 10-Dec-13 18:46:53

I haven't peed since lunch, so way over 4 hours. Figure my pee wil be concentrated enough? Especially as I've hardly drunk anything all afternoon.

Waiting till DH (still in denial) goes out to POAS...

Will report back in half an hour!

RetroHippy Tue 10-Dec-13 19:05:57

BFN. Which I knew. <sigh>

KittyVonCatsington Tue 10-Dec-13 20:27:27

Faerie, could it be just a good "clean out"? Sorry if TMI. Too many BFNs at the moment, so sorry ladies sad.

Hello, TreaclePie and ajmc!!!

My pain has gone, thank God. Not impressed if I am going to have that next month!

QueenFaerie86 Tue 10-Dec-13 20:36:34

I think it must be just a clear out, I've never clotted so much before and I feel so light headed. Think it must just be a nasty AF. Oh well back to waiting for ovulation time! Will have to come off the thread now grrrrr, will be ovulating right around Christmas ... At least dh will be home ;)

pebble82 Tue 10-Dec-13 21:34:31

Hi everyone. Just here to share the love, hopes, waits, frustration etc...

Both me and DP are 31 and on cycle 1 after coming off mini pill in early Oct. Just had first proper AF (now on cd10) so playing the "guess ovulation" game now. Think cycle length will be all over the place for a while so bought cheapie OPK sticks from amazon and basal thermometer to try and understand what my body is doing with itself. Just done first OPK strip... negative. Quite pleased as DP is away so would have been v upset if we'd missed our chance.

Noticed some of you are concerned about being too young/people judging because of your age, well I just say, screw everyone else, only you know what's right.

I think whatever age, if it's the first baby it's always going to be scary and completely life changing... but massively exciting and fantastic too.

Good luck everyone, hope to see some BFP news from you all very soon.