Any other newbies out there???(258 Posts)
This is all so new & scary to me so just looking for people I can chat to who know as fewof the abbreviations as me and are going through all the same scary stuff for the first time!! Either that or some pro's who don't mind my million questions!!
I'm very early stages as in body still coming off the contraceptive pill so it might be a while til a get my BFP (I do know that one!!) so might need some chums in the meantime!
Welcome, I hope it doesn't take too long for your bfp
I already have one DD (dear daughter- not sure if you know that one) and we are trying for a second, I'm just going through an early miscarriage at the moment but we are planning on jumping straight back on the horse after.
Please feel free to message me if you wanted
Hi Tina and KitchenWeasel,
I'm braving it and commenting on my first thread after reading them all so I'm a newbie too!Right, here goes. I am 33yrs ttc#1 cycle 3 BFP due 28th Sept. I don't know how accurate that was??? It's quite intimidating at first coming on here but I'm sure I'll be a pro soon.
Hi all! I'm the same, i stopped my pill in august so just trying to figure stuff out and learn abbreviations too!
P.S. I only saw the acronyms listed above in talk last week which helps a lot,highly recommended to help decipher the cryptic language!
I'm new to all this too! Took my coil out end of Aug but other half works offshore and his rotation takes him away when he REALLY SHOULD be here if you get my gist!!
But really it's all a bit scary for me too, the decision and also all the things I am realising I don't know and I guess I should!?
If you wanna mate along the way will try to help
Lots of newbies, I like it!
Eclaires I know exactly what you mean, DH has a job where he has to be away sporadically, it really mucks up our plans sometimes- very frustrating
sky, Hibou good luck with your BFPs, no doubt you'll be be pulling apart your HPTs and body temping like the rest of us nutters in no time
Hi all, I am 32 ttc #1, cycle 3. Think I will be ovulating next week when unfortunately I am away with work for 6 days
It's funny how long you try and not get pregnant and now you want to be you realise there's a lot more to it!
Hi wine thats too true, I spent years on the coil/pill and now think how quickly would it of happened if there wasn't the added pressure of TTC?
It took us 19 cycles of half heartedly (not tracking ov just dtd whenever) with DD and 1 cycle for BFP this time (although MC)
It varies so much but I hear the norm is 5 cycles.
If you know when you're ov and doing it then, thats as much as you can do.
This is my first post though I've been thinking about joining for some time! I am 32 ttc#1 just finished cycle 2 and heading into cycle 3. AF was 3 days early this month so was really hopeful I was having an implantation bleed but think its just regular old AF now!
None of my friends are ttc and need some buddies to share the ride with! Have already started to obsess about why it hasn't happened even though I know logically it could take a while!
Don't worry, I have a feeling I might be joining you in obsessing.
The worst thing you can do IMO is test early, I have in the past and it does more harm than good.
When you decide the time is right for a baby, you want one NOW!
We can obsess together KitchenWeasel! It's funny how you can go from not being too bothered to being completely broody- to the point where it's all you think about! Plus I work with kids and it seems nearly everyday their parents are announcing they are pregnant again!! It feels like it will never happen for me!!
Sorry to hear about the MC KitchenWeasel hope you are doing okay here to listen if you need to vent
Yay! Lots of newbies! I'm in exactly the same boat! This time last year I didn't even know if I wanted Thomas we were stuck in a rut and I just wasn't very happy, we moved to a bigger house in June and are surrounded by lovely neighbours, all of whom have very young children's d something inside me just went boom! Now it's all I can think about and I just want to be pregnant more than anything! I am aware it can take a while though so will no doubt calm down eventually good luck to all & let's keep chatting so we can help each other out! I too have no friends ttc, my closest friend is 13wks but she got her BFP after just one cycle so she's not much use for advice ;) x
That's supposed to say children, not Thomas! Damn auto correct!
Thanks for all the support girls, I've not told any friends or family that we're ttc as I don't want the added pressure and expectations from them all, particulary as my DH and I know 17 babies born this year from family, friends and colleagues!!! All I've been doing is buying baby stuff for others and hoping that eventually I'll be doing it for myself one day.
Sorry about your MC KitchenWeasel, I can't begin to imagine what you and you're partner have gone through and admire your determination and strength.
I'm trying to not get obsessed with it all but it's so hard. I'm on my 2ww and have to stop assuming every body change is early pregnancy and not a normal body function, so frustrating!
Thanks pixie and sky. everything feels quite cloudy it's a strange place to be in, wanting AF to just pass but not wanting her at all IYSWIM?
Hopefully lots of bfps can come from this thread.
It's so true though- you hardly notice pregnant women until you start TTC then they seem to be everywhere
I'm having a very off day- I'm in a really bad mood and feel sick to my stomach, it's as if AF is starting all over again as I would normally feel this way at the beginning of AF. It's like my hormones are all out of whack. Poor DP is getting the brunt of it
I can only imagine what you are going through KitchenWeasel. My mum had two miscarriages as well as three kids and she found it very hard. Be kind to yourself and feel free to let off steam here.
Hi there, this is my first post too, Hello! have one DD nearly 2.5, early miscarriage in may, been ttc since but having a weird time at the mo, 2 days late which is rare, lots of negative hpts so very confused and pretty fed up! Really want to be pregnant
Hello, can I join in please?
I came off the pill at the beginning of July, but DH has been away with work since end June, he is due back next week, so we can finally start TTC. We are trying for our first baby, have been married about 2 years.
Despite supposedly having come off the pill whilst he was away to allow my cycle to regulate and not obsess about things, I had a normal 28 day cycle for cycle 1, and now for cycle 2 I am on cd48 now and have no sign of AF - meaning I am 20 days late based on last months cycle. I'm hoping it appears this week before DH gets home. I hate how long it takes to get things back to normal, I think it could be very easy to start to obsess about this.
Glad to hear of other people in the same boat, wanting to be calm but finding it hard!
Welcome to the group Monkey and Barmy, it's good to share with others who are going through the same thing and we can all understand how frustrating and hard it ttc!
Keep us posted with how things are going?x
Welcome!! Feel free to PM me for a chat at anytime! I've been doing a lot of it as its all so new to means I've o idea what I'm doing! 20 days late is a bit odd though, even from the pill! My usual cycle went from 30-34 days when I came off 3 years ago! I went back on a year and a half ago though and am only just finished my last packet now so I've got to go through it all again!! I'm hoping to start ttc after my next cycle as this one is a pill induced one so not sure if it'll work?! X
Hey girl well I'm 27 ttc 1 been trying for a little over a year now very stressful this ttc business but hopefully will happen soon enough.
Sorry to hear you're having such a stressful time! Hopefully you'll get your BFP soon! Come chat anytime you want! I've got a feeling it'll take a while for me too x
I'm hoping when I go back the docs on Monday they will off me clomid or a least refer me as it clear I'm
Not ovulating regularly but we will see!!
Kitchen, I'm sorry to hear about the MC. I hope you are doing as ok as you can be at this stage.
Nikkilouise, that sounds sensible to go back to the Drs. Let us know how you get on.
Tina, I think you are ok to go ahead straight after coming off the pill, I have heard the first month after you come off you have an increase in fertility but what that actually means or if it's true I don't know!
Is it just me, or does this all look so simple until you realise you want to ttc and then realise that it can take a lot longer than you thought?
I'm surprised by being so late for my second cycle, now 21 days but I have been temping using fertility friend and it is saying I ovulated on cd43 so AF should hopefully appear in the next week or so. Timing wise, that would mean I have completely missed a cycle but at least it is looking like it might appear soon! I don't really know what you can do if it doesn't at this stage?
Hey there I'm a newbie, came off the pill in June but having started TTC just yet but will be in the next few months, just finishing an extension and need to be working to pay for that. So excited though and can't wait to be pregnant. I'm 31 and been married just over a year - everyone's asking me the baby question and I swear people think we're TTC when were not yet! Ha that's life. I'm just going to go with it to begin with without OPK or anything and see what happens for a few months. Good luck with BFP!! X
I tired the opk and didn't get any readings off them for 2 months so gave up and tired to figure when I ovulate wax thing cm that didn't work either ha with having irregular periods it hard to pin point whe I ovulate if I do every month.... Defo thought it would be lot easier than it has been lol hopefully docs will be nice to me tomorrow and offer me more help but we will see as they like to play god sometimes!!
Been reading on here for a little while but time to take the plunge and join in!
Just to warn you in advance I struggle with any sort of acronyms or metaphors - I read ROFL as Rolf - which leads me to think of Rolf Harris and I then start seeing kangaroos in my head (?) which throws me off what someone is saying completely! I'm also always mixing metaphors up too. Work thinks it's hilarious as I tend to let the rabbit out the bag or pull a cat out of a hat! So apologies in advance for any scatty posts.
Anyhoo, back to baby bump plans, I'm 33 and like you Eclaires had coil out in August - early August for me.
In second month of trying but have been 'properly' charting this month and found out that I ovulate on Day 20, in a 31 day cycle so first month was a non-starter as we had a break that week!
Just had a visit from AF (just looked that one up!) ... like you Pixieears was hopeful that it was implantation but cramps telling me otherwise :-(
Looking forwards to hearing everyone's stories, and having a place to let off steam - am sure we'll all be where we want to sometime soon.
Hiya, can I sneak in? I usually hang out in chat, but could do with some buds to
bore to death chat with about baby stuff. I have 12 days left on my pill pack, I kind of agreed to go and get another 6 months worth from the docs to support DH in starting his new job (I.e. by not being pregnant and tired and hormonal!!) but now its come to it I really really don't want to stay on it any more.
My cycle was always unreliable when I've not been on Microgynon (between 14 and 40-odd days, with periods lasting up to a fortnight) so I'm thinking I'll need a bit of time to settle down. Hoping to start actively trying in the New Year.
Anyone else feel kind of sicky excited? Like going on a date with a new bloke? It's weird, never had that before, I think its because I've kind of made up my mind that this is it. Bored of waiting now!!!
AF arrived this am, 3 days late, going to stop testing early, this is month 2 after mc in may, the 2 week wait is hard....
Tina, I got pregnant pretty much straight away after stopping pill with DD as ov can happen straight away, so it could def happen for u
sjd99, how are you charting? With a basal thermometer? Think I might start although clear blue ov kit said I didn't ov at all this month but can't Afford o keep buying those kits!!
Any tips on ov tracking ladies? don't know where to start, after this month I could be ov really irregularly..
Retrohippy - you sound exactly the same as me!! I too have another 3 months supply of rigevidon (was Microgynon but my doc said they stopped producing it?!) left but we decided we'd ttc at the end of the last packet! My AF has now stopped and according the the Ovufriend website which I'm using for charting my ov dates are between 6th-10th oct so ill most definitely be trying then! Will defo check with doc tomorrow though and use the opk's that week to be sure!! Wish me luck x
I am prone to UTIs after unprotected sex wit DH so have tried to have sex only around ovulation time. We've been using condoms since coming off the pill two years ago after I started with migraines (despite being on the pill for 12 year)s.
I used the ovulation calendar on mumsnet to get the 4 days of when I roughly ovulated for the first 2 months of ttc with obviously no effect (My cycle varies between 26 and 28 days each month). Our first month of ttc we dtd that many times over 4 days I gave myself a UTI (urinary tract infection) so had to go on antibiotics!
This is our 3rd cycle of ttc so decided to go a bit more scientific and bought a pee on ovulation stick from Boots. Started using it at the start of the estimated four days and got a positive ovulation result towards the end of the four days (which is a lot later than I thought I ovulated). On the instructions it says when you get a positive result, you are more likely to conceive the following 48 hours. We dtd 3 times over that 48 hr window, AF/BFP? due next Saturday September 28th so we shall have to wait and see.............
Apologies for the following TMI! I've had diarrhoea every morning since ovulating (which is very unlike me) and I've started with insomnia, I woke up at 2am last night, couldn't get to sleep until 5am and had to eat a banana because I felt shaky. I've learnt not to read too much into symptoms as so much is psychosomatic when you're ttc and I am determined that I will not POAS until AF is late!
tina I'm using the pill as my countdown
Part of me doesn't want to chart or anything as I know I'll be totally obsessive about it, but then with my irregular periods I'll need to as we don't really want to get pg till after Christmas so we'll be using protection for my most fertile times for a couple of months. If it happens it happens, but not the idea for various reasons. I'm actually quite intrigued to see what my cycle is like 'normally'.
I suppose that is the idea of dtd!
Monkeygirl I'm also interested in how to chart cheaply. I'm a total Excel geek so ill probably end up with spreadsheets and graphs of temps!! Do you just take your temps daily?
I'm the same with my irregularity! Came off cilest 3 yrs ago after 10yrs and I varied from 25-35 day cycles! It eventually averaged out at around 32-34 days so I'm going with that for ttc!! Doubt it'll work this month but I'm giving it a go regardless!! I have become a bit obsessed with the charting and stuff tbh so you prob have the right idea in taking it easy for now then when the time is right
Skygirl - I have a similar problem though with me it's thrush, so I don't want to go too overboard and will try to stick to ov dates too! Fingers crossed for you!
Try ovufriend for charting, they do you a wee chart and asks for daily tests, you don't have to be über thorough as I'm not, I'm hoping it's an accurate-ish judge of ovulation dates!
That sounds good, can you get it as an App?
I need something that I can do quietly in the bathroom so DH doesn't think I'm totally obsessing
even if I am.
Trip to boots for a thermometer needed!
No I checked and there's no app so I have it saved as a bookmark in safari! My dh has no idea about the amount I obsess too! Ironic considering he was the one desperate for kids when we first got married and I wanted to wait!!
If you are looking for an easy app, I use one on my phone called fertility friend. You can chart with temps or opks etc on there and it tells you forecasted/actual ovulation & other things.
You can pay for the fancy version if you want to but I just use the free part of it and it's really easy to use.
I've found charting sooo useful - bought a £10 kit on amazon, plus a thermometer quite cheapish. So am taking temperature daily and noting it down. Am also doing OPK tests at appropriate time.
Due to the process of discovering late OV wasted a lot of the OV predictor tests - but already bought 30 more online for about £6.
I do obsess a
lot little, but like knowing where things are.
@Barmy - thanks for the app tip - downloading that now!
Sjd99 how are you taking your temp? I have a thermometer somewhere in the house but have never actually used it so don't know how accurately as I've tried taking my temp under my arm before but it wasn't accurate at all!
Another newbie right here still trying to learn the abbreviations and what it all means but would be happy to chat as we are just ttc now and its all a bit exciting and scary
Hi all the newbies, sorry there are so many of us I cant keep track
Retro- you sound like me, I love Excel <geek emoticon>
I use Fertility Friend which is a really good app for TTC, I'd thoroughly recommend it. It has charts and all sorts.
For those of you who are really irregular, so am I. Sometimes I am 26 days, sometimes 36?! I think as long as you can pin point ov, you're on the right track.
I mentioned to Tina about using Evening Primrose tablets if you don't have a lot of CM to indicate ovulation, it makes your fanjo a very friendly place
The doc's just given me a prescription for evening primrose to start taking now & just given a wee bit advice on when to try (nothing more than I got from you all tho ) I'm to go back in a year if nothing happens!
It's folic acid not evening primrose, lol!
Good afternoon ladies, I'm fairly new to TTC and this is my first month on Mumsnet still, I think. I'm 23 and DP is 22 this is our first cycle. We're going to stay relaxed about it all for a few months to see if it happens and if nothing by January I'll get on with charting properly to see if I can help things along a bit. But since joining Mumsnet I can't help but fall into symptom spotting, luckily so far I've managed to tell myself it's easily explained by other things but it's getting harder aha. Currently in my 2ww but AF/BFP due on Saturday (28th) (:
What is the best way to do you temp in a morning and where to get thermotor and best one to get seen as looks like ill get no help in ttc
Well I've been doing it orally, we got a thermometer off eBay cheap years ago so just dug it out yesterday and have started temping! Also been monitoring cm and positioning!
I've tried that but always feel like it in same place lol so hard this ttc
Not sure if we're allowed to post to products but I got my whole charting kit on Amazon here and it's brilliant. Comes with the chart - everything is in there, including the thermometer. A normal house one doesn't go to two decimal places so you do need to buy a special one.
I've been taking my temperature as soon as I wake up - even if I go back to snoozing at the weekends, and it seems to be doing the trick for me as there is a pattern to be seen.
Mine seems to work ok, gives readings of 36.4 etc which is what the charting site I use is looking for.... I think?! I've only done it twice, once at night once in the morning so no pattern yet! I think I'll stick to morning readings too! And checking cm before a shower seems to be working ok! Any other tips from anyone?
Hello all, yet another newbie here! 30 years old, cycle 1 ttc using the CBFM (can you tell I've been lurking for some time?). Enormously excited about the whole thing and so pleased to find somewhere that I can talk about this. One of my friends gave birth recently and after asking if we wanted to start a family soon and being told that we did, smugly remarked that we probably shouldn't tell anyone that in case we couldn't have children. So hurrah for the interweb, fingers crossed that the pressure of anticipation is lifted somewhat!
Eeeekkk! Me and hubby are wanting to start ttc! I have had issues with getting implant removed and I am seeing a specialist in the morning! As soon as it's out we are not going to use any other form of contraception! My cycles however have never been regular so I've just downloaded an app to be able to keep track!
Wish me luck at the hospital tomorrow!
Go d luck everyone!
Hi everyone, I have very apprehensively joined this site too after browsing for a couple of years on and off.. I'm 33 and since last week embarked with hubby on the ttc journey- ttc 1 at present. Obsessing with the whole thing as I feel very weird in my body after ttc1 (strange cramps almost immediately after ttc, huge appetite, AF due in 8 days) and trying hard to keep cool!
I had been an occasional smoker :/ and had taken Niquitin lozenges for a long time and am hoping that won't have effects on the ttc.. Good luck to everyone!
Hi everyone, it's my first time posting too! Came off the pill in August so am sort of guessing cycle, although last time of month was 28 days after end of post pill cycle and have had EWCM on day 16 of this cycle so think I am in my 2ww! Good luck everyone.
Ps AF is due on Sunday (29th) agghhhhh! I'm obsessing! x
New here also. 37 and just starting to try and conceive #2. My daughter is already 15!
Hi everyone, can I join in too? I am 31 and came off the pill (Cilest) at the beginning of August and myself and DP are TTC number 1! I am already obsessing and googling like a crazy woman and finding it really hard to concentrate on anything other than baby making!
Am currently on cycle 2 so first proper cycle after a proper period and not just my pill withdrawl bleed.
Now we have made the decision to try for a baby I just want it to happen now! I am such an impatient person! I seem to be seeing pregnant women all over the place and 3 of my work collegues have announed pregnancies in the last couple of weeks!
Wow, lots of lurkers have emerged
Quick Q to anyone who temps, does the thermometer have to have two decimal places or is one place past the point sensitive enough?
Officially stopped AF now so am hoping that I'll be ov in the next 2 weeks, when Dh's Mum and Dad will be staying with us.
My thermometer just has the one decimal point, and it's been accurate enough to show a shift for ovulation so far which agrees with opks.
Mine just has the one too! My temps have been very different so far though, not sure if normal or not?! Started on the folic acid today, not sure if I'll see any benefits though! I do feel I'm becoming a little obsessed as couldn't sleep last night for thinking about it!! Neeeeed to chill x
It's official we are ttc! Implant removal was awful! Implant is out!!
But it's out!!!! Took 20mins to find it on ultrasound! Then had to be prepped and have the anaesthetic! It was 1.7mm away from my main artery and lots of nerves! It had moved down loads and to the right by a couple of cm! 1hr of digging in my arm 3 top ups of anaesthetic! Stitches need to come out next week! It had never taken him more than 40 mins from start to finish before! He said it would be one he won't forget! :-D
Will have to wait for things to settle down but the hormone had been wearing off! Going to get some frolic acid and hope for the best!
Good luck ladies!
Wow - great to see so many of us on here.
AF has been lighter for me this month so been testing every day hoping it's implantation bleed, as due to late OV on day 20 with a 31 day cycle it's not easy to tell - but and even I know that testing every day like this is obsessing waaaayyy too much!! But I can't help it
Ellabella - like you I'm definitely an impatient woman on these matters!
Newlywed - sorry to hear about your drama - but at least you can start now start SWI
Well I used my first ever OPK this morning. The clear blue one with the smiley face and I got an error message. What a great start!
Newly well done, that sounds awful but I know someone who conceived on her first month after the Implant!
Newly don't worry, I only use OPKs when I am sure I am near to ovulating (correct CM etc) and then I do two a day, one in the morning and one in the evening. As ov can happen in 12 hours you can miss a positive OPK if you only do one a day.
Started temping this morning, I'm officially out of control
Decided to dtd every 3 days and then every other day around ov as it will be a major turn off for DH if he knows im only interested in conceiving.
* I meant Ella not newly for the second one.
p.s I use Ebay cheapies 50 OPKS for £6.99
Thanks for the advice on the eBay sticks. I will have a look as at £2 a stick in Superdrug I will be bankrupt before a baby even arrives! I am thinking just dtd every other day for the 2 weeks after my period ends and look out for all the ovulation signs. must not turn into a crazy lady !
Ella you're proudly flying the flag for TTCers yet to go mad
I think we're all as keen as each other so don't worry about being over excited just yet!! Interestingly enough I had a chat with the chemist today who completely disagreed with what the doc had told me about folic acid so the 'experts' aren't always as clued up as you think!!
Anyone else taking Pregnacare? I started in August when we agreed to TTC?
Tinaw like you the doc told me to start taking Folic acid (prefer frolic acid as the name hence the pregnacare did your chemist disagree on this?
Hi, I'm new on here as well, also trying to learn the abbreviations and what everything means! Everything seems quite scary at the moment and in agreement with others after trying so long NOT to get pregnant now I'm trying it seems like the hardest thing in the world. Am 30 and came off the pill after about 13years in April, got a cycle straight away which was good but nothing else so far.
Will be nice to have other people to talk to that are also trying to help understand it all!!x
Haha, love it! My doc had said that if I started taking pregnacare (which I intend to ASAP!) then I should prob stop the frolic acid as the dose would be high enough but the chemist said that was rubbish and I could easily take both, she did however suggest alternating the folic acid and pregnacare daily though, which seems like a plan?! Which pregnacare ones are you on? They had 3 different boxes so I didn't get one yet, I'm guessing they're for different stages of pregnancy?
I'm taking sanatogen mum to be which you can take beforehand and also while pregnant... It has 400 mcgfolic acid and 10 mcg vitiams D
Great tip on the alternating - might need to do that myself - just to keep those frolic levels up!
Yeah there are all sorts of variations, for before, after and with extra supplements. I got super confused so kept things simple and went for original in the end - the biggest box I could find.
Thanks for the tips random question - but has anyone experienced any weird symptoms since starting the folic acid? I'm hoping it's just a con incidence and not some bizarre side effect but I've had a really runny nose and it's a very odd colour!!!
tinaw20 I found that my temps during my first cycle after coming off the pill and the early part of this one were all over the place as well. They seem to be settling now, but saying that AF is now about 30 million days late (slight exaggeration, now CD53 and no sign) so goodness knows what my cycle is doing.
Hi. Newbie here too. Have a son aged 3, now ttc #2. On first month waiting for af due date start of October before even trying to think about it too much but not doing a great job as I'm here! Had cramps every day since I stopped ovulating but no idea if that means anything!
hello girls... I am going slightly excited here too! AF due in about a week or earlier and ....yep tested myself on monday it wss negative but will surely invest in those cheapy ebay tests as well
Well AF has now finally shown up on day 54 of my second cycle since I came off the pill. Of course, it had to be today when I was booked in to have a smear test so they couldn't do it and I have to go back in a month. But I don't know if that'll mean another AF time given the timing, no way to tell I guess!
DH is also due home from deployment next week so it also means this is the start of cycle 1 of ttc for us.
I have to admit I have had a few moments of "what on earth are we doing, this is a scary plan!" today. Does anyone else get those moments?
Hi sorry for not replying retro hippy, I've done my first temp today with a thermometer from eBay, but I also did a left over clear blue ov test this am as its day 6 of my cycle, and I got a smiley face! Last month nothing but I don't think I tested this early although it says to do so on the pack...so maybe they do work, or it could just be wrong again.
On the temp taking I think I read somewhere to try and be as still as you can after waking, well as my 2 yr old was in the middle of us, and her doll kept head butting me, and she was generally pushing me out the bed! I was tossing and turning a lot so prob temp was totally wrong lol!!!
It was 36.28 btw, not even sure what that means...off to do some googling on it! I should be working
On the vitamins questions. The pregnacare ones say take with a main meal, I always forget and then panic I've somehow done it wrong on an empty stomach and they won't work, I used sainsburys cheapy ones,
I'll look out for the coloured snot!!!!
Barmy is your DH in the Forces, snap if so
had EWCM today, 2 days after finishing AF? Randomly quick ovulation perhaps due to MC?
kitchen yes, my DH is in the forces. Hopefully on the way home from my least favourite sandy place in a few days. You hear tales of many return from deployment babies which always made me smile, and we are hoping to have one of our own this time round.
My concern is trying to time things when he is often away with work, hence I'm temping and things from the start.
Do you get a few stages of ewcm during your cycle? I don't know if it can happen, but I seem to get a second lot just before AF as well as ovulation so I wondered if that might be why for you?
Hi everyone, I've been reading this thread and decided to join as I'm a newbie too
I'm 19 and ttc my first baby..I came off the pill in August so I'm just waiting for my body to go back to normal. I've had a few disappointments but still optimistic
Any help or advice will be gratefully accepted :D
So AF due tomorrow, feel like it's definitely coming! But, I have got terrible mouth ulcers?! Is this a symptom? Has anyone else had this? X
Any signs I thought might be pg signs are now just becoming usual af signs so I'm not very optimistic for this month. Stomach cramps, chocolate cravings and lethargy today - af not due for 5 days but never been that regular to the day. Oh well....it's not over til it's over!
Hi all, another newbie here... I'm 33 and took my last pill on 16 Sept so been actively dtd ever since! No idea what my cycle is like as been on the pill for 10+ years so will just have to wait to see what happens. Have found lots of stories of people who've fallen pregnant straight away but trying not to get my hopes up too much!!
Hi there everyone, I'm 33 and have just started ttc #3 - having spent the last 4 years procrastinating about why the time was all wrong ( money, career progression, older dc's needing my all etc) had brain switch approx 2 months ago and now am just incredibly broody and impatient. Am now in the awful 2ww cycle 1. Have been unbelievably lucky previously in that dd6 was a first time try and ds 4 was a complete accident (and about as close to the immaculate conception as its possible to be !)
Worried as am older this time round and this is the first time I have ever been on mn - some of the ladies on here are so brave and go through so much. I never realised ... Duh. Wishing you guys all the luck in the world and feel that oct will certainly see some BFPs on this thread 100% would be nice thankyou please. I'll be testing oct 9 th if no af Fx
So according to ovufriend I ovulated on the 26th sept (I'm guessing this was worked out by my temping) but that was only 5 days after my first cycle, so I'm pretty sure that's incorrect seeing as u have 30+ day cycles! Has anyone had this before?
I'm brand new too and feeling a bit anxious...
I came off the pill in August, and AF is currently visiting for the first time in 13 years and I'm just hoping that things continue to be normal and I get back into a regular cycle. Feels a bit crazy and scary to think that we'll start trying very soon!
Good to have people's support : )
Hey, can i join in too? Im not exactly a newbie (im slightly addicted to the aibu board) but havent ventured over here before. Im 28, been with dp for 10 years and have been ttc since June. Was feeling all hopeful Friday - I swear i had symptoms - but AF came in the night Been trying not to stress about it all day. So glad I've found this thread - i got married in dec last year and everyone is just waiting for us to have a baby with no idea we're trying x
Handbag, you sound the same as me! I'm 28 too and have been with my dh10 years and married for 2 and everyone asks constantly when we are going to have a baby!! Been trying since I came off the pill in August. AF was due yesterday according to 28 day cycle but I don't know yet if my cycle is sorted after coming off pill so I'm just going by last month. I do feel like AF will arrive any minute (cramps, a bit irritable) but I'm still hopeful even though I got a bfn yesterday. Good luck anyone testing today. X
I'm a newbie too! I'm 30, DH is 32, married for 3 years. Just started TTC #1. Decided we wanted children earlier this year and agreed to stop taking the pill in September/October (to line up with mat leave benefits from my new job). Took my last pill on Sat 14 Sept, and finally got around to dtd this weekend sans protection. Odd, but fun IYSWIM! Trying not to overthink things for now, just going to have regular sex and hope for the best...
I've ordered some cheap pg tests and OPKs today, incase I need them... I have practically convinced myself I am already pg because I am so excited! I started a list of baby names (all girls, so I'm bound to have a boy) about 8 months ago... losing it and i've not even had my first non pill AF!
Hey hey! Have I killed this thread off? Ooops!
Does anyone know if it's even possible to get pregnant so soon after stopping the pill? Can you ov after stopping the pill, before your cycle 'resets' with a normal period?
Hi Meringuebaby. Yes, you can get pregnant after stopping the pill before you have a normal period. I was temping etc from the day I took my last pill, and according to various signs, ovulated 14 days after that, and my first normal period arrived on cd28, so I'm presuming all was well then.
I have seen numerous people on here saying they became pregnant before they had a normal period again.
Thanks barmy now I'm even more excited! It's crazy to think I've been on the pill for fifteen years, I can barely remember what my normal periods are like. I do recall some terrific cramps and backache however. I'm quite nervous about getting a heavy one, as I'm not used to it.
I think I'm going to struggle not drinking tbh, not that I'm a huge drinker for the most part, but I probably have bottle of beer one/two evenings per week plus a skin full on Saturday nights... Does anyone know any believable excuses for explaining their lack of consumption without inadvertently announcing that they're ttc?!
Meringue baby, you could always say it's because you had one too many previous weekend or something, or switch to alcohol free one, for example you say you have a bottle of beer get a necks blue and ask them to put if in a glass, another one I have had is appetizer in a wine glass and someone saying it was a spritzer x
Hi there, I'm not new been on a few threads but feeling totally lost about charting/temping & just looking for advice, I was hoping to be relaxed about the whole thing but 4 months in and my cycles are really irregular, 34,54 & still waiting at 39 days. I tried using opks last month but they were always negative, but I'm positive I'm getting EWCM can you get it & still not ovulate? If I get a period I must ovulate at some point must I? I have no clue! It's upsetting me now, I made the mistake of telling people in June we were trying so if course I get asked the question all the time, hubby's finding it difficult to 'perform' he says he doesn't feel pressured but he must How is this so easy for most people?
I've been known for enjoying a glass of wine or two so am also finding it difficult for people to not suspect that I'm either already pregnant or ttc, but I've started telling people I'm on a diet and sticking to 3-4 units a week (on docs advice) and everyone's bought it so far....
Breaking bad addict, I think I may suffer from the same problems as you as my ovulation symptoms have been all over the place! The chart says I've ovulated this month already which I know I haven't so I'm finding it impossible to know when to try the opk's!
Genius Tina I might give that a try. I have been going to the gym a fair bit and I play netball, so I might be able to hang a reduced alcohol intake on a fitness/diet reason too. Ace.
Breaking Although you are ahead of me in terms of ttc, I feel your anxiety! I don't think ttc is 'so easy for most people' I think it's quite tricky and worrying for more people than you would think. These days women put a lot of pressure on themselves to be brilliant across all their roles, wife, employee, daughter etc and when something so 'natural' as baby making throws a curveball at us, it's easy to stress out.
I wonder how much modern contraceptive have to answer for too, I mean being on the pill masks your real cycle. I have a friend who was on the pill for years and was advised to stop taking it when a routine smear uncovered potentially pre cancerous erosions on her cervix. They didn't say the erosions were caused by the pill, but they couldn't rule it out so she stopped taking it. I've been fairly dismissive of the link but now I'm off the pill and have been reading mumsnet, I can't help but think about the effects of longterm hormone popping on our cycles.
Sorry, that wasn't very helpful was it
I feel sorry for our menfolk too, breaking they don't tend to open up about things like this do they and it's only natural that they would feel the pressure too. Sending relaxed baby making thoughts to you all.
Hi, I'm 25 and was ttc for approx 3 cycles (only properly for 2 cycles though). Found out I was pg at about 5 weeks and unfortunately miscarried at about 7.5 weeks. We were both absolutely gutted and I can say it was more upsetting than any death I've ever had to deal with.
I've been given 2 weeks off work but I feel guilty taking that long. I'm a teacher and just keep thinking about my classes. But then I think 'well why should my job mean I go back to work quicker than others would?'.
I think we're going to try again around Nov. I'm just so scared incase it happens again. Now my family know we were ttc, I hope they don't start hinting/trying to guess again in a few months.
The month I got pg was the first month I made sure I stayed lying down for about 20 minutes and tilted my bum up after dtd, we dtd every other day around the time I ovulated. Tmi alert...! We dtd a couple of days before my phone app said I would be fertile, the day I got really snotty looking cm (which is the day my app said I'd be fertile), two days after that and another two days after that. It worked anyway
Good luck ladies!
wispywoo that's really sad.
I wish you the very best xx
Thanks meringue baby & Tina, it's just a relief to talk to people who feel the pressure & frustrations too, I just seem to look at my friends/sister & even mum who said dad just had to look at her and she was pregnant & think there's something not quite right with me.
I will never return to the contraceptive pill.
Wispy woo, I'm so sorry for what has happened, you deserve to take all the time in the world to come to terms, sending my deepest condolences & Wishing you the best for the future xxx
Wispy sorry for your loss
Haven't read the thread through properly recently but just wanted to pop back in and say 'Hi'
Surely someone must be needing to test soon, can we have a live POAS thread?
I have definately convinced myself that I am pg... which must be close to impossible (TMI alert) because we have only dtd twice this week following my pill bleed. But I feel 'weird', it's probably only coming off the pill weirdness, but I can't help but symptom spot!
I'll keep at it, hee hee, this weekend and if weird feelings carry on, I will POAS
for fun late next week. I surely need to check that I know how to POAS, you know, in case the real thing occurs soon?!
I can't be tho only one eager to POAS, anyone else?
Well (TMI) three days of unexplained, severe wind has started to make me twitchy! Lol! Now on CD40 and no AF, I remember seeing EWCM on day 28, we managed to DTD day 29 but that's it! So even if I did ov late, it's highly doubtful!
I'm going to leave it until next week and if AF has still not arrived I'll POAS! (Again!).
I'm reluctant to do it, the disappointment seems to get worse as the months go by.
Best of luck everyone xxx
meringue I totally understand re the pill! I was having the injection a few years ago but came off it as I didn't know the long term affects. it took a while for my periods to return to normal. You will know when you're back on track though.
I was actually quite reluctant to POAS! Resisted for at least 5days last time!
Well I just constantly seem to have non fertile cm so god knows when I'm actually ovulating! Short of using the opk's every day for the next couple weeks, I've no idea else how to tell no defo no poas for me
How far into your cycle are you Tina? When AF finally shows up I was gonna get the clear blue opks & chart for the next one to try my damnedest to find out when/if I ovulate, are you taking any supplements? I'm sure I read that they can increase your fertile CM, I'm on conceptioncare, keep positive
breakingbadaddict I'm on CD 49. I have in the past had a 70 day cycle so I am resisting testing until then.
has anyone in this group been lucky yet? just after having implant out i got a visit from AF, and it felt like a pre implant AF if that makes sense! we are going to have a go this month and up until xmas and then start temping etc!!
I am just concerned, i think my arm is infected from where implant came out nothing is ever straightforward with me, and cant help but feel that i am going to end up disappointed for quite a while!!
Hi Newleywed, (congratulations!) sorry to hear you have an infection, can you get some antibiotics?
3 days after I stopped the pill in may, I got a withdrawal bleed, which was just like a period I had when taking the pill, then got a 'regular' AF 39 days later, then another 53 days and still waiting for my third 41 days in! It does get disheartening to be irregular and not get 'caught' anytime, but we're all in the same boat and you never know you might have better luck! I would suggest trying to chart from day one, to try and find a pattern. I haven't and wish I had as I'm so irregular. I will start next time, when AF shows her ugly head.
I don't know if it's the same from the implant, but the first month post pill, I had every pregnancy symptom under the sun, nausea, sore breasts, hunger, tiredness, emotional, apparently its usual from your body trying to adjust back to normal. (Bloody frustrating though)!
Best of luck x
I'm on cd 17 but pre-pill my cycles were around 30 days! Need some advice tho....
We dtd last night in case I was ovulating (didn't use the opk's to check first tho - just went with the flow, don't want dh feeling used, lol!) and today I've got ewcm, but could it just be remnants of something else if you know what I mean ;) was planning on having a few glasses of wine tonight with the girls but don't know if I should or not?! X
Hello again ladies, I haven't posted on here for a while due to head being all over the place like a crazy woman. I'm currently 19DPO and will be a week late tomorrow...
I've been symptom spotting like a crazy woman since 3DPO (things like spotting for 2 days at 5DPO, sore and sensitive BBs, cramps, mega hot all the time, indigestion, nausea, dizziness, insomnia, weird and vivid dreams when I can sleep, lotion like CM) and still BFNs (the last one on Tuesday or Wednesday)
FX for everyone
Hi Tina EWCM is fertile CM so I wouldn't worry too much about having some wine tonight
Oooh fx indeed!! When are you poas? I'm just paranoid about doing anything that'll have an impact on my fertility! Damn doctors!! Will have to dtd again tonight if I'm compos mentis after a few, but wasn't sure if it was ewcm or something else? X
Tina If that was to me, I'll probably wait to POAS again since I'm not buying cheap ones haha. Maybe wait and see if I still have nothing at 2 weeks late then test again or I might buy cheapies to test with anyway
Uhm in my experience the 'other stuff' usually breaks up and is expelled or absorbed or something the night of dtd anything coming out now is all you (: because I read in my book (I'll check which one later and let you know) that the Sperm are only in the ejaculate fluid (to help protect against the acidity of us) until it mixes with the EWCM which helps it go through the cervix. Or something along those lines. Besides plenty of people have gone out on complete alcoholic benders before finding out they're pregnant and go on to have healthy babies
Sorry neurotic, yeah it was to you! Yeah go get a cheapy one and test soon! The suspense would kill me!!
I'll maybe use an opk when I get tonight before the girls arrive, dh works shifts though so won't get in until 1am and is up early again so we've only got a tiny window I'll maybe just stick the one bottle of wine then, can still enjoy myself on that ;) x
That's okay think I might but another BFN would be so disappointing. If you're just ovulating now it would take a few days for an implantation anyway so a bottle or so won't hurt x
That's just what I like to hear hope it's not a bfn for you!! There must be some good news on here by now!
hello ladies.... AF due on 10/10 but since baby dancing rhis month I've felt strange twitching and pulling in my lower tummy... and today I've got my known AF symptoms which are feeling rubbish and dull pain in lower tummy... but they're too early usually I get them immediately beforenthe AF!
anyine else experienced anything like this...?
Can I ask a complete beginners question? How do you temp / chart? What do you look for? We've been ttc since June but I havent had any sort of regular cycle since periods started when i was 13. They seem so random - had coil out in june and have had my first period this week - while coil was in i had a random 1 day bleed every couple of months and before that I was on the injection and they disappeared completely then. Because my system has never settled down, I dont think I know what to expect.
Me and dh did say we were going to have a low pressure approach to this - just dtd often, enjoy it and it if happens it happens but we were not going to worry - but it isnt working out that way for me and im wondering if maybe i should be temping to work out when would be the best time to
Hi handbagcrazy, we've been trying since June too, I don't fully get the whole temping thing I think you check your temp with a special thermometer as soon as you wake up in the morning (the same time every day) & look for a spike which means you should be ovulating, I got a kit from Amazon that wasn't expensive it came with the basal thermometer/chart/ovulation sticks etc it does tell you what to do but I gave up when my temp just seemed to go up & down every day! I will try again next time & have a bit more patience!
Ah, thank you!! I thought that was bit of a newbie question. I feel a bit naive - at 28, my cycle has never been allowed to just settle down so i have no idea if i have any sort of pattern!
I think i'll look into getting a kit - may have to wait until christmas before dh will agree though - he's very sensitive to us getting stuck in the sex-by-numbers approach and it becoming too pressured.
Hope someone is having better luck than me!! x
Handbag I'm 28 in a couple weeks and was a complete novice til some good ladies on here gave me great advice so don't feel embarrassed!! I've been charting every day for 2 weeks and tbh I haven't noticed a pattern at all yet so I'm guessing it may take a few months! With no obvious signs of ovulation also I'm just kicking myself that I may have left dtd till too late but there is always next month and we shouldn't put so much pressure on ourselves to get the BFPs so soon!! X
Butttterfly I have also been feeling pulling and twitching in my tummy. Especially when lying on my tummy in bed.
Does anyone want to join me on my Anyone else-on-CD-50+? thread?
Ladies need some more advice please... Had ewcm for the last 2 days but today there was tons and it had a brownish tint to it - is this normal? My opk reading yesterday was negative but we dtd today anyway just in case! According to the charts I'm on a fertile day due to my cm but have no other indicating factors, my temp is all over the place! So it says I'm not on a fertile day but never had so much ewcm before!! Any ideas???
Sorry that was wrong, I am on a fertile day but I'm not ovulating....
From what I've googled you see ewcm before ovulation so I'd try checking opks for the next day or so & keep up DTD! This is a useful thread if you scroll down someone has been very thorough in their explanation of what happens when!
Breaking that was a really helpful link, thanks! It's just the shade of it that I'm confused at now, it's almost like the last few days of af and I'm feeling a bit bloated and sore tummy today! Fingers crossed I'm fertile though! Only got 10 days or so til the first possible due date of my af so only time will tell! Just have to be patient now! X
Good luck to you all on this thread. I won't bore you all with my very long story but I want to recommend reflexology and also dietary changes. A very good book is called getting pregnant faster by Marilyn Glenville. Also, Before your pregnancy by Amy Ogle and Lisa Mazzullo, Zita West's Guide to getting pregnant, the Infertility cure by Randine Lewis. All can be bought cheap on Amazon for about a quarter of the regular price. You can always get the delivery to your work address if you don't want your DH to think you are obsessing. Good luck everyone!!
Oops, my phones playing up!
Anyway, cd19 and still not ovulated yet but cm has turned watery from being ewcm last 2 days and I got a faintly visible test line on the opk where as last 2 days have only had the control line! Fingers x I'm coming up for o'ing and haven't completely missed it this month!!
I too am having similar problems to you, came off the pill In feb and had one normal period, since then pretty much nothing other than spotting and no regular cycles! Very annoying!! Been TTC since about march with no joy yet so it's just a waiting game I guess!
Really blue today, I'm nauseous, tired, spotty & at 42 days this cycle without a period I've POAS several times & got BFNs as expected just been to see my pregnant sister who showed me all her recent purchases, her third child, I'm so happy for her but I just feel useless, I'm pretty sure I don't ov, the one time I tried opks they were negative all month, yet I get ewcm? I know I've got to wait a year but after 5 months with only two periods so far I'm getting more disillusioned
Hi, I'm a complete novice. Have read through the posts with lots of interest. Not currently actively ttc, came off pill with a view to ttc in December. Have not yet had a normal period and am on day 34 from last withdrawal bleed. I know it's not super late but panicking as there have been a couple of times we got carried away this month, not a prob if it's a bfp but I am a control freak! After being on the pill for 15 yrs don't like this feeling of no control over my body. Anyone else in a similar situation?
I'm having a completely different problem to you I'm afraid but need someone to please tell me if I should be worried? As I've said, been ttc since June. Before that I had a coil (and used various forms of hormone based contraception before that). I have no pattern or regular cycle. I've had my first period since coil was taken out in June but it's been going for 8days. Side effects faded after about 5 days but still bleeding. Am starting to worry there's something wrong. Could this be normal? x
breaking I know that feeling, my skin is awful after stopping the pill... can someone memo my brain and report that I am now 30 and do not need the skin of a 15yr old!! raaah. I am yet to decend into out right jealousy of another woman's baby, but I can totlally see it happening if BFP is not forthcoming in the next 4-5months. On the plus side, we'll all be here to help so please dont feel too sad, here is some choccy cake, it always helps me!
Came off the pill last month after 15yrs on it too Rhi... have no scooby what to expect, just dtd merrily, hoping for a little miracle. Have you thought about POAS, if 34 days is late for you it might be an idea if you 'got carried away' I'm going to be mad as all hell if my normal period take months to reappear... I'll be thinking I am pg and it'll be gutting when it turns out to be a stupidly long cycle thanks to the pill!
Handbag I have no idea if you should be worried. Could you call NHS direct or use Dr Google to find out if this is normal? I've never had a coil.
DH is away for work until Weds (our wedding anniversary) then I'm going away until Sun... might
pounce seduce him when he gets back! Lucky devil!
breaking and meringue my skin has been awful since I came off the pill as well, in a way I haven't seen since I was a teenager. It's horrible! I was originally put on Dianette at about 14 to try to control my skin, but it didn't work so ended up on very strong stuff that did the job but it appears it is still a bit ropey now I'm off the pill. Stupid things! Waiting for AF is bad enough.
I can't get my head round EWCM. Is it meant to feel very wet? Sorry, tmi! I kept feeling that AF was coming on my last cycle due to that feeling, but it was only ever CM of some form, I was at about CD 40-45 at the time so rather late, but it turned out I only OVed on CD43. I'm not guessing it was EWCM but I don't know! I have read about it but can't get my head around what to look for!
On the plus side, DH is finally on his way home tonight after 3+ months away, so we can actually get on with ttc!
Ok AF finally arrived today, when do I start opk so I can figure out if I'm ovulating at all? Spent the last 2 years losing weight ready so want to make sure everything is in working order before TTC.
Barmybunting, think clear egg white, sometimes I feel like I'm having a period when it comes out, thick gloopy & if you can stomach it, try to stretch it between your fingers if it stretches chances are that's the goop you want! If it's just wet & a bit milky white in colour that's just mucus.
My skins really getting me down now, there's just no let up every day there's more, I hope this isn't it now for life I was put on dianette too but wonder if I'd sat it out & stayed off the pill by now, aged 30, my skin would have settled down! (I forget however, how utterly miserable I was being bullied at school, so at least now I don't have to put up with that)
Rhibee, can you try temping from now (cd1) you're looking for a spike in temperature to show when you ov, on an 'average' 28 day cycle they say you ov between 10-14 days after the first day of your period, I'm pretty sure there's an ovulation predictor here on the mumsnet site, have a look at the conception section
Thanks, getting excited for december, so glad to know there is so much help and support from other ladies going through the same x
breakingbadaddict I don't think I ovulate either. Have you been to doctor about your cycle? Apparently it should be investigated if your cycle doesn't fit into the normal 21-35 day range.
I saw a nurse in August when my period was so late then and she said that it can take up to a year for your cycle to settle in post pill. So i reckon if I go back they will just send me away again to wait until June (a year since stopping pill).
I can't help but worry about the wasted time though, I really wish i'd started sooner
Sorry to hear you are having problems too. Have you seen a doctor?
I've been lurking around for a while too and thought it best that I sign up and introduce myself!
Firstly please forgive if I seem a little confused with all the lingo, I know what grandparents feel like now when they see txt spk!
I'm 28 (almost 29) and have been with my OH for nearly 2 years. We decided at the beginning of the year that we would start trying for our first addition around December this year. I came off the pill at the end of September after being on it, on and off for about 10 years with the idea that we would give my body chance to get back into some kind of rhythm. I am yet to see whether it's going to get back to "normal" straight away or whether it's going to take time. It'd be good to hear what other's experience of this is smile I was on Microgynon for about 7 years (although I would say it was probably only about 3 years in total) and then I switched to Cilest as my moods were terrible on Microgynon.
I have the worries that I expect everyone of us has e.g. constantly thinking that I haven't fallen pregnant in the last 10 years despite many times I had forgotten to take the pill so there's clearly something wrong, worries about my age, worries about just not being able to conceive etc etc
Anyway I've probably bored you enough but I look forward to speaking to everyone soon and sharing everyone's journey smile
P.S. I've just realised that my username is quite the innuendo shock
Hi sausagesaurus (love it!!)
You have described me to a t! I'm the opposite with the pills tho, started off on cilest, went psycho so switched to Microgynon! I'm 28 in 9 days, been married for 3 yrs and had been on the pill on and off since I was 14 due to the horrendous cramps I used to get! I'm on CD23 and still no sign of ovulation, apart from the right kind of cm, but all ovulation tests have been negative, so I'm also wondering how long my body will take to get back to normal!! Feel free to let off as much steam as you need x
haha it's actually what my OH calls me! I've never noticed the innuendo before but I'm going to have to ask him now!
And I've just realised my smiley faces didn't work so it just looks like I've added random emotion words! < see I can do it
Haha "went psycho", I was pretty much like that on Microgynon, my ex knew just not to speak to me when I was on my 7 day break! I went to the doctors to ask them to change it and the GP said, quite patronisingly, "the pill can not affect your moods, but we'll change it anyway"! I was a little concerned that she didn't seem to understand that the pill affects your hormones! That's a different story anyway!
I'm trying to steer away from tests and kits for now as I know I'll just become obsessed with it and probably end up like Monica from Friends. I'm starting to wonder whether we should just go with the flow and not wait until December though. My only concerns is if it happens now, it changes our plans somewhat, well, just by bringing home buying forward a few months, however, I don't want to wait until December for it to then take months from then to happen. I suppose it'll happen when it's meant to happen! See, I'm already over thinking things!
I hope it doesn't take much longer for you to get back to normal. Waiting is always the worst part of any plan! x
I am hypothyroid which can go hand in hand with PCOS so I am going to ask my doctor if I can be tested for it.Irregular cycles, not ovulating, bad skin and tiredness are all symptoms so perhaps worth asking your GP about being tested for it as well?
nappyaddict thanks for that, I had a laparoscopy in 2009 which showed everything inside as normal, do you know if PCOS can just appear say with age, or are you born with it?
I don't know if this is a horrendous confession... but I have a calendar on a spreadsheet which counts down to when I can get up the stick, because my company pays 90% for 18 weeks instead of 6 if you've been working there for 2 years by your 15th week before your due date. I just have to get to February, but now my army husband has told me in March he's getting deployed for 9 months on what should be the last Afghan tour. I don't know if we should just start now and take the financial hit of about £7k (my family are all super-fertile so I'm not worried about if I'll actually conceive), or wait potentially another year for him to come back (he doesn't want to miss everything). I don't want to sound like a whiney stereotype at home and go on about how I want a baby but I really want to try sooner rather than later. I'm just very frightened of putting it off for too long. Am I being ridiculous- should I just shut up about it and wait?
Babcia, I too am putting off TTC so I can gain financially, it's a legitimate concern, I've heard somewhere that babies are expensive I'm 30 next year and worried that I've delayed TTC too long but is there ever a right time? Wish sometimes I was a bit more laid back about it all!
rah rah rah. this waiting game is hard, isn't it? i've passed the "yellow" day on my ovulation app, but i don't think i've actually ovulated. no ewcm... i can't believe how pressurised i feel not to miss the egg.
also, how amusing that i worried for so many years about getting pregnant... who knew it was actually this hard?!
babcia that's a hard decision you are stuck with. How would you and DH feel about being pregnant whilst he is deployed? How well supported would you be if you ended up having to have the baby before he got home or if he had to go back shortly after little one was born?
My Dh has just got back from Afghan. We faced a similar debate in Jan of this year. We had intended to start ttc earlier this year, but then DH was told he was deploying again in June for four months. We were waiting until June with the aim of getting full mat pay for me. But then with the deployment, we decided to wait until he got home as I wasn't overly keen on going through a first pregnancy with him deployed. However, we have now been told he is being posted 10 hours south in Jan for a year. So our plans of mat leave are pointless for me now unless I stay here whilst he moves. After much discussion, we have decided that just isn't right for us, and we are going to move together, start ttc now rather than delaying any more and we'll deal with the financial aspect whatever happens. Our plans haven't quite worked out! If we'd ttc earlier when we wanted to, and not worried about finances or deployment, and been fortunate enough to fall pregnant, ironically, I would have been able to start mat leave and move. The best laid plans!
I guess I'm trying to say, from a similar position about timing, finances and deployment, I wish we had just ignored it all and gone for it when it felt right. You don't know what life will bring, no time is ever perfect so you have to just go with what feels right for you.
Best of luck with that one.
breakingbad thank you. Gloopy is exactly how I'd describe this! That's what I didn't get, I thought it had to be clearer. Gloopy and white is what appeared around ov so I'm guessing it is ewcm. Now waiting for any sign in this cycle!
Does anyone use any apps on their iPhone to keep track of periods etc? Has anyone got any recommendations? Thanks ladies!
I'm being hopeful that it will be this month and I have a feeling it could be possible! But I know it's prob not going to happen this year! Only had implant out on 24th sept but over the last 6 months periods are starting to return as implant was releasing much hormone! Arghhhh this is enough to drive insane!
I'm also a newbie here - 33 and ttc #1. Only had implant out a fortnight ago and now feel massively unprepared - hubby and I just planned to relax and let nature take its course if it wants. But having looked on here, everyone seems far more prepared than me in timings and planning etc. And also am now slightly concerned about age as lots of people seen to be about a decade younger than me! Has anyone who's come off the implant had odd symptoms? For the past few days I've been feeling really lightheaded and very queasy, but only at certain times (mainly afternoons). Did a test last night - I knew the chances of pregnancy were virtually nil and wasn't surprised when it was negative. I just wondered if it might be to do with the implant - does anyone know? Thanks
mrsCM8 I'm 30, so not too far behind you! When I came off the pill I had what you describe, I think it's hormones adjusting themselves.
Try and be as relaxed as you can, I'm only stressed now because its been 5 months and I've only had 2 periods. My mind runs away with me, although I'm sure it's perfectly normal.
Best of luck x
barmybunting I'm not mad keen for it to be honest- I know a couple of girls who've been preggo while their other half was deployed and it's not fun, but saying that his plan when he comes out of the army is to work abroad contracting anyway, so I should get used to the idea. We've also just bought a massive "fixer-upper" house as well (cheap, but needs a lot doing to it), and actually my big concern is having a baby in a house where I wouldn't want them crawling around on the floors, or not having a decent enough kitchen or bathroom (by which I mean "functioning"- I'm not holding out for a designer dream house but having something which was installed after 1970 would be a boon). If we've got enough money to get the jobs done before a baby actually shows up I'll be happy, but DH doesn't want to miss all of the milestones since he missed out on a lot to do with our wedding (he basically turned up 48 hours beforehand and was back running a range in Sennelager 48 hours later) so I guess we're just sick of the army stealing our lives.
Originally DH was only told he was getting a 4 month tour starting in late feb, so the plan was get pregnant around feb time, get the pukey, "nothing much to see here, folks" time out of the way, then he comes back with some op bonus in the bank and it's game on. However, best laid plans and all that- now it's 9 months, but less scary job while he's out there, so could potentially be waiting until this time next year to even start trying, and it just feels like too long to wait. Sounds really selfish I know and I hate myself for even talking like this- I don't just want a little cute baby though, I really feel like our family is waiting for a little person to join us, but I still feel like a baby-mad cliche dickhead. I'm basically a bit shy about coming out of the TTC closet!
Babica! I am right there with you on the 'too shy to admit I want a baby and we are actively TTC' club! It's mad! Not that I would be discussing it all day, every day. But just genuine admission is totally new for me and I worry people will think I'm baby-mad-dickhead too!
I think the key is to act natural, no one will be any the wiser about the craziness in our heads!
I should confess that POAS on Tues AM. It was a BFN unsurprisingly, still awaiting first none pill period. But happily dtd regularly since mid Sept so kinda had a teensy hope! Ha! Foolish woman!
Hope everyone is all good
Hi every1 im new on here. Ive been ttc since i had a miscarriage at 15wks 9 years ago. I went to the docs about 6 years ago and they wouldnt do any tests he just said to enjoy ourselfs basically. Well i had a scan bk in june which was fine. Ive had 2 lots of day 21 bloods done the first 1 i didnt ovulate and the 2nd 1 i did, im going in the morn for day 24 bloods. My husband had his sperm test and that was fine. We have been referred to c dr on 6 nov and she did say they mite do xray to c if my tubes were ok, im finding it all so emotional and stressful
Reeo I'm so sorry for how long you have been struggling with this and for your miscarriage, I can't believe the Dr's have left it so long to help! No wonder your are stressed
Do they test for PCOS when they take bloods? Or was that ruled out with the scan? I hope they can pinpoint something and soon to give you the correct treatment for it, you shouldn't have to wait any longer without answers. Wishing you all the best & big hugs to you xxx
babcia What a nightmare it is when plans change due to their schedule. I know exactly what you mean about being fed up about things being controlled by the military. What you say about having just bought a house which needs fixing up and things makes a lot of sense.
I know what you mean about hating to talk about ttc as it feels like you may be coming across as a bit obsessed! I think DH would run a mile if he knew how much it was in my head! But it's only natural once you have decided the time is right I reckon. It's hard to switch it off! What do you think you are going to do?
Barmy and Babcia another Army Wife here.
I would really recommend TTC now if you think you're ready for it.
DH and I put off TTC no1 for a year as we thought it would be too difficult with him away and the possibility of me being pregnant. DD was then accidentally conceived, just before he went which wasn't so bad but perhaps if we didn't stop a year before we could of had a baby, DH wouldn't of missed out of pregnancy and the timing in retrospect would of been better.
Currently TTC no2 and definitely not putting my life on hold this time.
Basically what I'm trying to say is you will get your BFP's when the time is ready (usually the most awkward time) and you will deal with it, why hold off of something you want.
I'm also in the "not telling others we're ttc" club. It feels a bit odd not to be honest with people but tbh also don't want the pressure of everyone knowing. It's a funny one tho - much as I vowed to be relaxed about the whole thing when OH and I spoke about it, I now feel oddly compelled to keep looking everything up about conception on the net - without OH knowing I'm researching it! Anyone else doing the same? Do think this site's really good in terms of being able to talk about all this openly in a way I just don't feel able to with others
Hi Reeo, I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It sounds like you've had to wait a very long time for anything to be done to help you. I hope you get some answers soon. It must be extremely hard to wait this one out.
Nobodyputsmybaby I am totally with you on that one. After seeing how some friends have struggled to conceive, I think if you are ready, it's best to just go for it regardless of surrounding life changes approaching etc. (if it would be an ok time for you rather than completely disastrous that is!). I am glad we have just decided to go for it and see what happens, I think we would regret it more if we didn't.
I hope no2 shows an appearance for you soon!
MrsCM8 oh yes to wanting to research it all! In all honesty, I would like a nice timetable... (I am a teacher, I like timetables quite a lot... ). If only it was that simple! I hate not being able to control things, but I can only imagine that comes more so once you are pregnant so researching and going with the flow seems like a plan to me.
I'm a newbie too! Have been lurking on here but only just registered properly. TTC no.1 been just shagging for a few months. Just getting used to cycles and ovulation signs. Totally different world from what I thought it would be. Fingers crossed for everyone!
PS also find it weird when friend say "are you TTC?" or similar. Whos business is that! And MrsCM8 - totes doing the same as you re conception. Mumsnet defs the best advice so far. Pleased we can discuss all on here without feeling embarrassed!
I'm new too! Came off the pill August, had normal af sept, but Im now 8 days late, with two BFN. Had very light and dark spotting earlier this week, but not a true AF... confused.
The more I read about the pills effects, the more I wish id never taken it! And the more obsessed I get. So glad, after reading through, we all feel the same - annoyed, frustrated and constantly on google!!
Another one here who wishes I had never gone on the pill! Or that I had paid more attention to how long it could take to get out of your system and come off it a year ago! Oh well, hindsight is always easy...
I'm getting rather impatient for any sign of OV this month. I'm on CD17 at the moment, so not too bad, but given that my last cycle, I eventually ovulated on CD43, I'm really hoping it doesn't take that long! That and the fact that although DH is just home from deployment, he leaves again on Sunday for a week, is home for a week, then away again for 2 weeks. Patience has never been my forte.
Hoping someone on here gets their BFP soon!
Barmy - I'm on CD25 and think I completely skipped ov this month!? Had some of the symptoms but all opk's were negative! Have given up ttc this month and think I'll just need to wait & see when my af turns up! Hopefully sometime between 30-35 days! How did u know u o'd so late? Did u take a test?
I don't think I'm ovulating either, just finished AF & bought a clear blue ovulation kit, this is the first month I'm temping so will have to rely on CM to try & decide when to test, also ordered some cheapy opk's from eBay with a view to testing everyday this month!
Just been B&Q & saw some cute wallpaper for a nursery, I don't know why I bother looking, just curious I guess...
breakingbadaddict I'm the same! Our spare room is my hubbys office - iv already been and got new paint, got him a smaller desk so baby can share the space, planned what cot to get - although I've just seen an amazing hammock thing that looks wonderful so might try that as it promises better sleep, I'v researched the pros and cons of reusable nappies, car seats... my goodness!! I had to stop myself from stocking up on baby wipes now ... I'm
not crazy ...
I'm a crazed baby-wanting machine ATM. If I'm not occupied with work or our DD (who is 3 soon) all I can think is all things baby! Currently cd12 so am trying to get OH to bonk lots but he's so tired with work and doesn't 'see the rush' ie; it'll happen when it happens. I thought that too until we started actively trying - now I'm determined not to waste an egg!! crazy woman rant over
tinaw20, I started temping when I came off the pill. I had given up hoping I would OV last cycle, but carried on temping as I was determined to see the cycle through. Suddenly loads of ewcm appeared for about 4 days, so I did an opk and that was positive, fertility friend then confirmed I had oved on the day it had been positive based on my temps so I'm assuming that it was around then. AF arrived 12 days later, so it seems to make sense as it all lined up together.
I am however now not temping, I was only doing it whilst DH was away in an attempt to get to know my cycle. I don't think he could quite face that so soon in the process if I'm honest - or rather, I don't think he is fully aware of quite how baby crazed I am at the moment so temping might make that a bit more obvious! I am using opks though, and depending on how this cycle goes, may well soon be back to temping.
I reckon you may still ovulate this cycle. My first cycle was 28 days, and my second was the silly 56 day odd long one. This is now my 3rd cycle off the pill, I think a lot of people do have a normal first cycle then 2nd and 3rd cycles can go up and down a bit so I guess it's just being patient.
Are you testing in any way to track ov?
Barmy- yeah I'm temping but I haven't noticed anything, my temp is up & down constantly and I keep charting on ovufriend but it's twice told me I'm on a fertile day according to temp & ewcm but when I've done an opk it's been negative!! Have only dtd 3 times over the last 2 weeks as dh seems a bit disheartened when I tell him it's a negative opk, which ruins the mood for him I think I had 3/4 days of ewcm and my temp had risen but the opk was def negative!! I've ran out now so going to order some cheapies off amazon and start doing it every day! I really felt like I was ov'ing a few days back - heavy stomach, bit crampy, watery cm, but again the test was negative
Well AF has just arrived on day 18 for some unknown reason so I definately didn't ovula teduring that cycle. Hopefully this cycle will be a bit more regular! I have no idea what is going on!
Tina that's odd about the opks not showing up. I know some people have to use them at different times of the day for them to pick it up. It's hard to know what's going on! Sorry to hear your dh is finding it disheartening. It's hard enough to understand when we can check the signs but must be very frustrating for them if they are as impatient as we are. My dh is struggling to get his head around why I want to know what's happening, he doesn't seem to realise quite how messed up your cycle can become from the pill. Using opks every day is probably a good plan. Hopefully that'll help clear up what's happening.
Who knew coming off birth control could be so frustrating!
It's massively frustrating! I've booked an appt with a nutritionist to see if my diet can help balance my hormones/fix my skin, seems a bit drastic but I'm veggie & not a good cook so I'm concerned I might be lacking in something, appts not till 2nd Nov though, gives me time to keep a food diary, it'll be interesting to see what she says
I've booked an appt with my GP to see if he can do some tests to see if everything is ok - I may have had an ovarian cyst a few years ago (for which some silly surgeon took my appendix out and the gyneo told me some girls gets stomach ache...) so I'm hoping the pill hasnt masked any silly problems as I'm getting lower bad pain - like a kidney infection although I know its not that - and cramps, like I'm going to AF but day 40 and no sign at all - apart from being super tired all the time, weepy etc ... still BFN though.
I hate the pill so much!!!
breakingbadaddict I'm also a veggie - I just make sure I eat plenty of greens - for iron, the darker the colour the better for you, all your pulses etc. Also been taking pregnacare - for conception and onwards which will have all the vits you are missing inc folic acid.
I use a lot of Jamie Olive recipes as they super yummy - and easy to follow! also, asda online has some good vege ideas - or I adapt meat versions - using quorn mince for example - many meat eaters can't tell the diff (specially not my DH who is very unaware I have put him on a good 'swimmers' diet!!!)
AF arrived today!! A few days early too which is prob how I missed ovulating this month! Must've left it too late! Dammit!! No symptoms for AF though which is weird as I always get moody and have horrendous cramps! Maybe they'll arrive in the next few days.... I hope someone is having better luck than me!! X
I'm 39 (40 in December eek!), met the love of my life in 2010 and we just got married in July . Have been ttc since with no luck. I'm going to an acupuncturist and a herbalist to try to help the process, and I've gone part time at work with the stress levels. Currently at 13dpo but have been spotting for a couple of days, so pretty sure AF is coming.
breakingbadaddict, I agree with poster sittingpretty25 on the green leafy veggies and the pulses. Also, I bought myself a super duper masticating juicer (Matstone if anyone is interested) and I'm taking at least two juices a day from an organic veg box to try to get good quality vitamins in me.
(Breakingbadaddict here, changed my NN now BB is
sob all over!)
sittingpretty25 thank you for the advice, currently looking up recipes for kale and spring greens etc, will look at Jamie's recipes too... I will master the art of cooking! My DH is a big meat eater, we eat separate meals as he's on some sort of
horrid cave man diet so I just find it boring to make food just for me!
Good luck at the docs, it really does make you wonder what's going on inside the longer it takes doesn't it?
BecauseIsaidso thanks for the tip re. juicing, how odd I was just looking at juicers online this morning as I was craving carrot juice!
I'm sorry you have been at this so long, it sounds like you're literally doing everything right though! Wishing you lots of luck and hoping this month is THE month for us all
Tinaw Sorry to hear AF arrived, mine did too eventually (46 days) I think we gave up trying to DTD too soon. Hey ho, onwards and upwards, keep going ladies, this WILL happen for us!
I hope one of us is lucky soon! The odds surely must be in our favour right??? Has ANYONE on this thread got their BFP??
BecauseIsaidso Hi! I too am addicted to juicers! hehe - only I just hate cleaning the pulp out! Not sure how on earth I'm going to cope with poopy nappies, sick and snot! lol
DearDinah Tinaw sorry to hear this guys EVIL AF - but on the plus side at least you know where your cycle is!!
CD36 here (usually 28-30 days) and none the wiser :/
Butttterfly I feel your pain - I'm CD41 ...
I've been lurking for the past few days as things have been really hectic. Seems like good advice re juices and things - do you put the green veg in the juice? Does it taste nice or is it just something that has to be done?
I've been symptom spotting like mad - feeling really queasy (which is really unlike me as am almost never physically sick). Odd things have been making me feel sick too - I saw an empty bottle of milk on the side for washing up and was nearly sick at the site of it. Had to wash it up immediately with my eyes closed . Did a test and predictably negative. So either psychosomatic or come down from implant. But had that out a month ago so not sure if it's that.
How's everyone else? Surely there must be a bfp out there soon.....
Here are my favourite combinations:
- Beetroot, orange and ginger
- Spinach, apple and ginger
- Kale, cucumber and apple
- Carrot, apple and ginger
Almost all of them have ginger because I get tons of it in the veggie box but it also helps get the sting of bitter ones like kale or beetroot.
BFN for me this morning and bad AF symptomos
Sorry to hear bfn becauseisaidso. Fingers crossed for next time.
The juices sound interesting.... Might give them a try. I have a juicer attachment thing for my foodprocessor. Is that likely to work or would I need a masticating one? Would prefer to use what I've got if possible
as it'll save dh moaning that it's another fad.
Hoping I may actually have a chance this month after all now. I though AF was on the way last weekend after vague spotting, but it stopped overnight and ewcm has now appeared, and I've had 2 days of positive opks so who knows!
Sorry to hear AF has arrived for a few people. Hopefully that will be the start of a more regular cycle for those of you!
Still waiting in no man's land - no AF, BFN last test which was Sunday.
GP say's its normal when you come off the pill.
Lots of EWCM today - but I never used to get it this bad - almost like AF started but hasn't ... bad nausea today, and my overall temperature has rocketed - I'm normally the freezing one but I've had to open windows and sit in a vest top as been too hot all day! Plus, I've had a really fluttery tummy - particularly when I lay down on my back (can't lie on my front as tummy too sore) - has one else experienced these at from coming off the pill?? Why does the symptoms have to be so like preg ones!!!!
What would you guys do? Do I keep testing (bearing in mind every BFN is a little soul destroying)? HELP!! :/
sittingpretty have you been temping at all? If you have, do you know how many days of higher temp have you had since you oved? I think if you have over 18 or so, it is meant to be a strong sign of pregnancy?
I'm also in no man's land - CD 64!
I'm disliking this process more than I thought I would. I feel a bit like sex is pointless unless I can conceive, which I don't think I would right now, and I'm frustrated by the wait until we can try again : ( waiting for AF to start and at the same time disappointed because my husband has been scheduled for an operation that will knock out next month's trying time, if AF comes on time. Trying is so much more complicated than I thought! Suddenly I see why having a baby is not so easy. Astonishing, then, that one of the kids I teach has just revealed she's 11 weeks pregnant : (
barmybunting not been temping no, but I know for a fact my internal temperature is up - as I'm really warm all the time (this is someone who wraps up in summer!) Still feeling really sicky today, certain smells - today I nearly barfed / went all light headed at a plate of biscuits (however later on I ate one) and coffee. yuck - also im totally off alcohol which is nothing like me.
I'm wondering if maybe I'm ovulating as if AF had come on time (which it didnt) it would be now ... then again, if I am pg I would be 6 weeks today, which is when my sisters have only just got their BFP on three of their pregnancies ... SO SCARED TO TEST though as I know I'm going to be gutted if not - particularly feeling so blergh!!
mrsbsleepyhead how long have you being TTC? We were getting a little bit like that - but I googled conception positions (I know they mainly a myth) but they added a bit of fun and variety I also just keep reminding myself why I want to have a baby with my DH - just kinda reminds you how much you love your man with helps with the drive...plus my sis said enjoy it while you can as afterwards you wont want him anywhere you near!!
thank you sittingpretty25. we haven't been TTC for long, and every time it's been the "right" time we've been struck down by bad health that has hampered efforts some what! I'm just impatient... : ) now we've decided and both are keen for it to happen, it's frustrating waiting and waiting... but I have to get used to that, I guess! thanks for your message of support though, and good luck to you! things sound cautiously positive!
msbsleepyhead sperm can live for 72 hours, so even if you don't get it smack on, still a chance - all it takes is one!!
I've decided tomorrow is POAS day. FC
Hi all, can I join this group please? I'm 32 yrs old and my husband and I going to try for baby number 2 this month. I'm scared and need some support pls. I know I'm obsessing and buying OPKs and all sorts. Love J xx
sittingpretty good luck for tomorrow!! Fingers crossed for you. You certainly sound like you have a lot of possible symptoms. Let us know how you get on!
Hi juhibaker! Nice to have you around. Fingers crossed for dc2 for you! How old is your first little one?
Well I'm totally confused now! I'm using the clearblue fertility monitor as a friend passed hers onto me. This is my first month of using it. I had low reading until Friday which was cd22, then a high yesterday and Friday plus ewcm. Today I am back to low and have noticed red spotting. Goodness only knows what is happening! I also had random spotting for two days last weekend that I initially thought was af but turned out not to be.
I was hopeful I was entering my first tww today, but have no idea what the bleeding means!
juhibaker welcome to the club we are all obsessed planning here
barmybunting I will let you know tomorrow
Did you dtd when you got high result? Cos it could be implantation bleeding? Although I read somewhere this can be anywhere from 3 - 12 days after ovulation - guess it just depends how fast your egg travels.
Or sometimes you can spot around ovulation.
When was your last AF? If the spotting is dark it means its old blood and def not AF (my doc said that to me - he just told me to wait it out, either i'll get AF or be pg - supportive but not that helpful!)
Have you done a pg test?
sittingpretty the fact your sisters didn't get bfps until 6 weeks combined with feeling yuck and your missing period makes it sound a lot more likely you are pregnant than ovulating. Fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow!
We did dtd both days of the high, it went back to low today. The spotting is darker than normal af red so that's a good point, thanks! I know that even if I am pregnant, it is too early to show up just now as dh only got back from a four month deployment about two weeks ago. Last af was on 26 Sept, I have no idea when next one is due as they have been all over the place since I came off the pill for months ago. I'm hoping this is ovulation spotting. I'm going to give it two weeks and if af doesn't turn up by then, poas. Easier said than done to wait :-)! Your drs advice is good, I just wish it was quicker! It's made me realise it must be so hard to ttc for months/years on end, I admire people who keep at that so positively!
Fingers crossed for you tomorrow :-)!
POAS - BFN ... who knows why I feel like I do huh? Think I might get some cheapy tests as I heard some people don't get on with the more expensive ones. Feeling shattered today, and even more sickly, and the tummy pains are back. Swiftly starting to think my body hates me!!
Oh no sittingpretty! But... it may just be that it hasn't shown up for you yet. It certainly sounds like something is going on! Fingers crossed a bfp appears soon for you!
Still feeling so sickly - and hot flushes. Maybe its early menapause?? (I jest)
I've read online that some women just don't get a BFP for months and months down the line. Think I'm going to keep testing every week - especially if symptoms get worse. I'll find out at some point right?? When you are TTC you kinda treat yourself as if you are pg anyway so it doesn't really matter.
Ps - new symptom today ... my boobs are bigger, rounder and rock hard. At least if I'm not pg, DH is going to have no problems TTC ;)
Hello waves I'm new here too. I am 36, single and hoping to conceive with IUI and donor sperm. I had my first appointment with my Dr on Friday, and am going to start having the blood tests as soon as I get my period. I've just stopped taking the pill after a lot of years, so am willing it to come with all my might, which is a first. Looking forward to hearing of everyone's journeys and adventures in babymaking!
Fingers crossed you'll get bfp sittingpretty. I came off the implant just over a month ago and got tons of symptoms - including nausea like never before (including at sight of certain things). Knew chances were I wasn't pregnant....and then AF on Sunday. Ah well, compared to many it's nothing, but do think that coming off hormone things (pill, implant etc) can mess your body around. Hopefully yours will be for
Flaming phone! Fingers crossed for you though
Hello! Can I Join? I am brand new too. Hubs and I would love to start a family.
I am 27 came off the pill in June.. Having regular-ish periods 30-33 days from very 1st month, Today is day 34 for me and whilst I've had all signs since Sunday AF still hasn't shown up.. Resisting urge to do a test! Don't want to get hopes up! A couple of my friends have been TTC for 18months with no success feels like if I talk to them about us trying for #1 in first 4months of trying it's rubbing it in.. But I'm obsessing and excited so wanted to talk to the rest of you!
Hi Broody, nice to have you join us! No way I would manage not to have POAS by now if I was you! Have anyone of your other cycles been this long? Any news today?
Fingers crossed for you!!
Thanks Barmy! Well of course I gave in I POAS yesterday and this morning both BFN. I was secretly convinced so
really a bit disappointed. Going to wait until Monday and POAS again. This is day 36 for me never had a cycle this long before! According to my handy app AF is now 6 days late hope she doesn't show up but would like a BFP to go with it!! Ah obsessing about days and dates!!
UPDATE AF has just arrived with a vengeance.
Oh no Broody*! Stupid AF . I hope you have some wine or your drink of choice hidden away for tonight then! Onwards and upwards...
BecauseIsaidSO nope nothing has changed over here... CD50 and still going strong ... Last HTP was BFN. Just gots to wait this one out me thinks - sickness not too bad during the day but really bad at night and when I'm waking up, still generally feel blerg, and past few days my tummy has been swelling up and down - literally looked 6 months pg one day, and then back to usual next ... maybe sign of AF ... would like some sort of a sign of ANYTHING soon though, its driving me mental. Literally all I can think about!!!
hi all, I'm a newbie too. TTC for 13 months now, damn AF turned up today 4 days late. so depressing. went to gp who has referred us on - just wish I'd done it earlier cos GP clearly knows not that much about fertility!
sorry for your loss kitchenweasel, hope you get your bfp soon...
took me about 4 months to get normal cycle after coming off pill. we waited because i was finishing up my phd thesis. now of course just wish we'd done our time earlier... sorry to sound negative folks am in a low spot today
glad to have found so many newbies!
Barmy thanks.. Disappointed but wine and best friend to share are both standing by
Nolly sorry you are having a down day tomorrow will be better here's a virtual hug!
General Boooooo to Late AFs
Here's to next month and no AFs but lots of BFPs!
Because I fingers crossed you get your BFP soon or at least some news!
Nolly pleased to hear that the Dr has referred you on. It must be so hard to be waiting that long then wait for tests and things. Hopefully your referral will come through soon so you can start to find out more!
I hope everyone is doing ok and we will see some bfps soon. I am in my first tww and debating whether it's worth testing in a few days or just seeing if af turns up. She is due sometime between wed and sun.
Well I've finally got a BFP ... only for a kidney infection ... goody. At least I know why I feel so yucky!
Still waiting for AF cd52
Hi everyone, hope you don't mind me joining in!! I'm also very new, I'm 26 and my partner is 32, we've been together for 10 years and I have literally just come off the pill this weekend. This will be our first baby (if and when if happens- fingers crossed!) and although I'm so excited, after reading horror stories of it not happening very easily after being on the pill, I'm terrified too!! Would love some friends to just talk this stuff through with xx
Thanks Broody and Barmy... sorry to hear about your delayed AF Sittingpretty. I had exactly the same thing - 4 days late with all the symptoms. Never mind - chin up, new cycle. plus, it's getting darker in the evenings now so going to bed earlier than ever ;)
Hey Sara, re coming off pill, I know peeps who have conceived first month off, so you never know! good luck...& you Camsie
Thanks nolly3 feeling pretty sorry for myself!
sarahrb123 I'm 25, my DH is 27 this will be our first too! I came off the pill end of august, had normal withdrawl bleed beginning of september, and I'm still waiting for AF since then! My doc said its nothing to worry about, its perfectly normal, and that you can still ovulate. His advice was give it three months from coming off the pill, it you still aren't regular or pregnant come back. So, Iv cheapy HPT's to do once a week and we DTD every other day...FC!! (and yes nolly3 the darker nights are sure to help ;))
sittingpretty25, at least now that you know it's an infection you can get it sorted! (trying to find the silver lining here)
I hope it happens soon - honestly, its all I can think about?! I have always been very regular before the pill, so hoping I regain that regularity post pill!! Nolly - here's hoping that will be me!! That would just be fab! Any advice on pregnancy tests and ovulation sticks? My friend has recommended having a stock of cheapo ones in the house ready to pee on in case...but not sure about that - tempting fate?! And heard lots about ovulation sticks and apps etc but not really sure about them - or even how they work? Like I said I'm VERY new to this - sorry for the hundred questions, and I have no idea about abbreviations yet so please bear with me :-) xx
Hi SaraRB123 You sound exactly like me! I'm 30 and my OH 27, we have decided the time is right so I came off the pill (cerazette) 19th September and am absolutely furious that I'm not yet pregnant. Yes I do know how ridiculous that sounds! I started the pill around age 17 so its been so long since I've had a 'normal' period and there are some real horror stories on here about ttc after the pill. I've just had 5 days of very light bleeding so I'm going to work from that and see what happens. I've also bought some ovulation sticks online but have yet to start using them.
Hi Rosiegal, you're so funny, I can beat that, I only came off the pill Thursday just gone and furious I'm not pregnant yet!! Ha ha, well, thats kind of a joke, but I'm very impatient, hence me getting advice on OPKs etc, my poor other half thought this would be fun, he's WRONG, it will be very army like!!!!!! xx
rosiegal and saraRB123 that's how I was first month - I literally thought DTD once, and wham bam thank you mam... It is so frustrating!
I asked my doc about cheap HPT's or expensive...he said the cheap ones just as accurate - and wait until a few days AFTER your period was due, many say before but you could get a false negative. And, my advice, if you feel yuck (most illnesses have same symptoms as pg) go to the docs cos you might have an infection or something else - like me!
I've got two different types of cheapies, and once I get a positive with one of them, I'll probably do a CB digital - just to have it in writing! I can't wait for it!!
BecauseISaidSo yeah, I'm hoping once it clears up we can get going again! How's things with you?x
Hello, may I tentatively join? I say tentatively as I’m still not sure when we will start trying.
I took the final pill in this packet this morning and we’re now just making the decision as to whether this is it, the final pill or I take another months worth. I have a doctor’s appointment tonight (about something unrelated) and DH has asked me to speak to him to see if I need to do anything. I think DH is a little bit scared and has said he probably needs me to make the decision but I’d prefer it to be a joint one so if he wants to wait then we will wait.
So, do I need to do anything? I currently take a multivitamin which has Vit A in it – I guess I’d need to stop this as I’ve heard too much Vit A isn’t good? So do I just need to take Folic acid?
My friend mentioned getting an STI check before TTC as she’d read it was a good idea on here or Bounty but I’m not sure it’s necessary?
Will I need to wait until I have my first period before we properly start TTC?
Sorry for all the questions. For a 27yr old woman, I appear to be quite clueless about this sort of thing so I need some advice!
An STI check is never amiss, if only for peace of mind. There are some things like chlamydia which if gone undetected could affect your fertility.
As for waiting until your first period...if you've just finished a packet you should get a period now, wouldn't you? Then all you have to do is start DTD and look for signs of ovulation to make sure you don't miss the window. I say "all you have to do" as if it was that easy, but you know what I mean.
Sittingpretty, I'm currently CD12 and DTD-ing every other day, I normally ovulate on day 17 so closer to then we'll start upping the ante! (lol I crack myself up with my own puns). Somehow I don't think it will happen but no point in abstaining I guess...
becauseIsaidSO haha! you do make me laugh ;) Few more days and its your 2ww!! eeeckckc
Exciting times ahead!
Hi everyone, I am a newbie too and to be quite honest this all very new to me. Hubby and I have been married 2.5 yrs now and up until 7 months ago I was on the contraceptive injection (which I bitterly regret). I have yet to have a period so I figure there isn't much chance in me conceiving yet but we thought there would be no harm in trying anyway. I have to say that I really feel way out of my depth here. I've never been one for keeping track of my cycles and I've tried looking for good books, magazines etc and I've even started looking into things I need to buy for a newborn (but ahead of myself I know) and it seems so bewildering. I may be a healthcare professional but this is most defo not my speciality! Please tell me I'm not alone?
Bobcatroo you are not alone!!! I'm very new too- my OH and I have been together almost 10 years and just TTC our first baby. I totally get how you're feeling, as I feel exactly the same so please don't worry xxxx
Ah thank you! I suppose it such an usual feeling you can't really compare it to anything else in life, its like I'm really impatient, excited, confused all rolled into one!xx
Bobcatroo there's nothing else that could possibly make you feel like this I don't think! It's just a crazy time isn't it. How long have you been ttc? Xx
Hey! I'm new here too, find myself laying awake every night lost in a mixture of excitement and ovulation math! xx
hi ladies. re pregnancy tests i would just get the cheapest. and, hard as it is, I have now decided that i won't do a test until I'm at least a week late. otherwise i am heading straight to crazytown.
bobcat you are totally not alone. one minute I'm thinking 'omg what am i DOING i can't possibly be a mother i even kill pot plants for christ sake' and the next 'WHY aren't i pregnnt yet the whole WORLD is pregnant except for me WHHYYYYY'. hmm. maybe I'm already in crazytown. oh well.
by the way re vitamins i just take folic acid. Frolic acid ;)
Nolly3 I can do better, I almost killed a cactus at university, my DM had to rescue it! I am making progress though I have an Easter plant that's still alive after 3 years and an orchid that still flowers!
I'm only on cycle 1 but do I bother getting an ovulation test yet, I use the menstruation and ovulation calendar app which predicts your most fertile days depending on the days you have your period but mine are a little all over the place still, I came off the pill in January, should my periods be normal by now?
lol, howly! my orchid thrives on neglect. until they die, anyway.
I think it can take quite a long time for cycles to normalise (a year) but that doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. I never got OPKs to work though, they just tell me to have sex immediately.
well im glad I'm not the only one going feeling that way! We have literally just started TTC but as I said earlier, I think I still have the dreaded depo in my system so I'm trying not to get too excited.
I wouldn't say that I don't feel ready to become a parent but I seem to have got to that stage in life where my facebook news feed is full of weddings (done that), dogs/cats/other pets that require long term commitment (i've got a little rescue dog) and baby scans/photos/kids parties. I've yet to get to the latter!
I'm new to this too! Can't figure out how to be alerted when a new message is posted in a forum I'm watching though - grr!
DH and I have been trying for nearly 2 years with a missed miscarriage six months in (found out at 12 week scan after 9 solid weeks of throwing up) which has totally traumatised me. Now we have been trying again for over a year and I'm so down/angry/jealous/sad that it's not happening. We have had tests and there's nothing wrong which weirdly is even more frustrating. I am only 30 but I'm not sure how much more I can take of it. IVF has been mentioned to me but I feel too young. On the other hand, it might be my ticket out of this misery! But what if it doesn't work? That'll be all my options used up! Am totally messed up but it's nice to feel like I"m not alone when I come on here. Hopefully we can all get through it together xxxx
Hey all! Been a while so thought I'd see how everyone's getting on? Still no further forward for me on CD19 of my second month ttc and have been using opk's every day to see if/when O is occurring and..... BFN! I didn't ovulate at all last month either according to the tests so I'm wondering if maybe I do it only for a very short time during the night and that's how I keep missing it?! Anyway, have been dtd every other day for weeks now so hoping that works even with no sign of O...
Hi tina - do you mean you don't get a positive opk or via tests at the Dr? If opks, I have heard that some brands just don't work for some people.
I'm on cycle 2 now as well. AF arrived 5 days early for the last month which got me a tad confused but oh well!
Fingers crossed for this one for everyone!
Losinghope so sorry to hear about your missed miscarriage. That must have been heartbreaking to have got to your 12 week scan to be told that.
Regarding IVF - when you say it uses up your chances, do you get a certain number of IVF options (or only one?) and after that, it's up to you?
Yeah I keep getting a negative on every test! I am testing at varying times of the day so could be lack of consistency but if it's supposed to give you 24hrs notice then that shouldn't matter! Maybe I only ovulate for a very short time during the night so keep missing it? Been getting some of the symptoms tho so just keeping at it and trying not to get demoralised! AF due on or around 13th nov so time will drag until then! Pretty sure it hasn't worked this month, do u think u can just sometimes tell?
I am also a newbie, my first message been thinking of writing for a while. TTC #1 trying for a while now, getting little stressed. I've had all the relevant checks to see if everything normal, I was told my uterus was retroverted and is deviated slightly to the left, which worried me slightly but the doctors don't think this is significant. Does anyone else have a retroverted uterus? Sorry for the TMI!
I am starting acupuncture which specialises in fertility 11th Nov so I hope this works for me. will keep you updated.
I can't help get a little stress but I have been using Ovulation kits cost £££ little fed now, trying to be all relax but can't help it.
Can you believe we have only 12 chances in 1 year.... i wished I started earlier.
Has anyone else ever had bad cramping and back pain after ovulating? I think I must have O'd last week (tho all tests were negative) my CM disappeared a couple days ago, but had bad cramps all afternoon! AF not due for over a week, if it comes at all! So just wondered if anyone else has had these symptoms after ovulating but before menstruating?
Also, just to add - don't think it can be implantation bleeding as I probably only ovulated a week ago so too soon for that - surely?
I'm actually freaking out! I came off cerazette after being in it around 7 years..small bleeding now and again but nothing major
We've literally had sex once and I've not had a period since ive came off it..we're not even trying.Im 27 and so is my friend who's studying to be a gp says I could be pregnant as your most fertile after comming off it!!
The only thing is I am so bloated and it feels like a period is comming but no bleeding.Ive also been feeling so sick in work today its unlike me but is it too early to see if in pregnant as ive only been off it 10 days xx
Hi tina another newbie over here. Been lurking while I've been ttc the past few months. Actually posting has made me feel a ton better though. Do you have a plan or are you taking a relaxed approach. My friend got preggers her first month off the pill so it's always a possible. Good luck xx
Hi tina another newbie over here. Been lurking while I've been ttc the past few months. Actually posting has made me feel a ton better though. Do you have a plan or are you taking a relaxed approach. My friend got preggers her first month off the pill so it's always a possible. Good luck xx
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