TTC 10+ months part 16(1000 Posts)
New thread for the lovely 10+ers.
Thanks Buzzy for sorting out the new thread! Hope this is a good 'un for everyone! x
Hey ladies I don't know if there is another thread already set up
rabbit this does prove that despite your FSH levels etc that you can get pregnant, there could be many reasons why it didn't work this time, I do think you should let your GP know so it is recorded. As for immune issues I found it quite comforting to have a reason why I miscarried and that there was a solution, its not a great solution but one that so far has worked. IVF could just be what you need to make it work
euro sorry about the crap announcement and that Mr E is not well, why do men not look after these things and leave them so long. Soon you'll be your hols getting ready for round 3
sea yay to getting on with the Humeria, hope you get the prescription soon, I am glad Mr S is a little better
Thanks for getting the new thread going buzz.
Just marking my place - thanks for the new thread buzzy. May this be a lucky one!
Turned out they didn't give me a scan, just a heartbeat check with the doppler - but the heartbeat was still there which was a relief. Loves to all.
Thanks buzzy for thread 16 (gulp). And thanks all for a love and a boost.
Sar you always make me feel better, thank you. Buzzy are you still on your steroids? And is that all you take?
Critter hurray for a heartbeat
Cosmos thanks for adding to my tumbleweed thread!
I am still having red fresh bleeding in random gushes with small cramps and clots (sorry) but its on and off, not like a period. I find that I am most distressed with ttc when my periods go haywire. After the op I was very anxious and I feel the same now. I like knowing when I will ov and when to expect af. Now I'm in no mans land which is a right arse given I'm going in my holidays this weekend and trying to gain a sense of when I can do day three tests etc. I feel all muddled up. I've also been hit with baby longing. The sun does bring a lot of cute babies in paddling pool type Facebook photos. Sigh.
Rabbit lovely sounds like a very early miscarriage to me, which would explain the emotional upheaval too. Dont give up hope. You WILL get your baybee!
rabbit I agree with cosmos. Take care of yourself.
Thanks for the new thread buzzy. I'm pleased you're sticking with us for a bit longer. I do sometimes lurk on the grads one but it can make me feel a little sad because I so desperately want to join you there.
Pout and sea, I'm so very sorry for your losses. Grieving is long and painful. I'm sorry to that people could say such insensitive things to you sea.
Pout, when will fet happen?
Sea, yay to humira. One step further.
Euro, I'm gutted it didn't work for you this time. I agree third time lucky. Concentrate on your holiday now and let yourself relax and recover. As an outsider looking in, I agree that mild male factor is probably the issue. Numbers of sperm are important because of the tortuous journey and all the other factors stacked against conception. Did your dh ever get a full hormone profile? Did he go back for the further checks? Even as a couple where severe male factor is the culprit, I still find all the focus is on me. The clinic aren't that much interested in dh so long as he can do his sample.
Rabbit, it does seem like a cp. I know it's tough, but maybe this is a sign your body is really trying to do something. Ivf might just be the kick it needs.
As for me, I'm rested and relaxed. Holidays are wonderful but they do give you time to think. When I'm busy at work I can push it all out of my mind. I've started thinking more and more that it won't happen and I've been making little plans in my head for a child free future. I've not yet shared them with dh who is still firmly in the camp of believing it is going to happen.
Has kmid not had the baby yet then? I saw the other one was upduffed and read some nauseating thing about them having chosen a window in which to be pregnant that fitted in with rugby and horses. Imagine being able to choose a date in the calendar.
Critter, woo hoo for 12 weeks. Do they not do the 12 week scan then? Will thy not do the standard nuchal tests and measurements?
When I was going through ivf I'd worked out that I would be 12 weeks while away. It makes me feel a little sad when I think about how in a daydreaming moment I'd planned to tell people when we returned from holidays. I refuse to do any sort of date planning with the next round.
There's an article on immunes and intralipids here, warning its in the fail. www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2361112/Mayonnaise-miracle-babies-150-IVF-attempts-controversial-egg-yolk-oil-jabs-theyre-mums-last.html
I haven't done any research into this area at all as we have an identified cause. I do find it interesting that it seems to be so controversial, and I'm surprised that there haven't been any trials.
rabbit I should just be on the steroids as mine were not very high but as I couldn't get on with them I asked for the hydroxy and as I am neurotic and paranoid I also have the intralipids. it depends on who you see to what they will recommend.
critter sorry yo didn't get to see your baby, when do they do tthe NT test, would you have a private scan
mrsd I haven't read the article but will do so later, glad you are feeling refreshed after your hols
euro not long till you are in the sun
rabbit what a horrible time you are having. I am so sorry. I agree with buzzy (?) that it might be a good idea to speak to your GP, not least to get things logged but also because you might need some help on the iron front. Please don't panic that your cycles are up the spout again. It will only be temporary. It is a bummer though that you are about to start baseline testing. I don't really know what to say that will be comforting to you. The other ladies have said it all so much better. On the one hand your cycles having got back into a synch and a CP is a positive sign but I can totally see that would be floored by it. All I will say is that I am thinking of you and offer a virtual hand hold. X
euro I am sorry that the universe is still putting you through the wringer too. Hope that MrEuro is feeling better soon and that your holiday does you both good. Sorry about the A+ FB pics. Excellent timing eh!
mrsd So nice to see you back from your hols. Hope that you had a good time. I too have really come round to thinking of my future as childless. When I think of TTC now I just get this voice in my saying "that ship has sailed". Oddly I feel okayish about it. I think that I am ready to admit defeat and feel that I have put up a good fight. Also I am feeling that at nearly 38 I am too old now to really enjoy having a baby. I really think that I would struggle.
It's sad that you had planned how far along you would be coming back from your holidays. I have lots of stupid milestones still and can't believe that it is yet another series of The Apprentice and Big Brother and I still don't have a baby.
Who was it who said that they regret people knowing about the infertility & it feeling suddenly intensely private? I just wanted to say how much I agree with that especially given how close to the end of the journey I am feeling. I just don't want people knowing that I failed. I would much rather people just assume that MrP and I have such a good life that we didn't need babies.
Anyway, I have missed so many of you. Such lovely news critter that you heard your baby's heartbeat. Congratulations
Thank you buzzy for the new thread!
Love and waves to all.
my hairdresser was telling me her cousin tried for 9 years, had two lots of IVF, gave up started living the childless life and is now updiffed she said she was having such a wild time being child free that they were concerned about her, I am never too sure what to make of these stories, are they meant to make me feel ok and that everything will be alright or just make me feel crap as it won't ever happen that like.
I've had a mother of an afternoon, nearly went postal, my poor physio was waiting for the emotional hissy fit down the phone, he said he was quite surprised at how calm I had been he also referred to me as his 'english mother' not sure how to take that comment
I am now having a cold drink and waiting for Barry to get home
pout would you consider adoption or is it not in your plans ??
Guardian article on ivf, very interesting. I'm so grateful that ivf exists, without it I'd have no hope at all of ever having a baby. www.guardian.co.uk/society/2013/jul/12/story-ivf-five-million-babies
buzz fastens flak jacket in the hope that you are less postal. Resists urge to call you (English) Mum! everyone seems to have one of those stories don't they! I suppose there are people who suddenly and spontaneously pop out a baby after years and years. Not sure how comforting I find the prospect actually. Definitely not up for adoption in the Pout household.
Rubbish weekend already at this end. Big Dog is limping to the point of dragging his foot behind him. Seems to be his hip. He's off to the vet in a bit. Soft Ollie (MrP) made the helpful comment last night of how he hoped it wasn't anything too serious with the hip and that the vet can sort it because when the hips go they put the dog down and FFS at this point it could just be a sprain and I don't need to contemplate losing my dog. He can be such a prat.
pout I am calmer today thanks, so sorry to hear about big dog, if it has just happened then it is most likely a sprain or torn ligament, he might need a bit of physio on it but most likely told to rest it.
mrsd I do think IVF is the way forward with babies, I am surprised how many people I know who have had it, the other day I found out a friend at home had all her 3 by IVF, its just a difficult topic to talk about as its a very personal thing.
Kayla caught a fly again last night, I could hear it buzzing in her mouth as she ate it
Yuk at the buzzy fly, buzz.
Pout, I agree with buzzy that if its come on suddenly it's more likely to be an injury. What did he get up to yesterday? Wishing him well. My neighbour's dog has arthritis in his hip and has a little trolley thing to give his legs support while he's out and about. He's so cute and always seems happy.
Af has arrived so no surprise holiday conception. I think it was an another non egg laying cycle. I do worry that ivf has really buggered me up. That's two duff cycles since. I'm feeling crampy and a little bit weepy, not helped by the thought of work on Monday.
This thread is a little bit quiet, come n 10 plussers show yourselves. Joy, I miss you, I hope everything is ok.
Rabbit, how is the bleeding today?
Lemon, is ec close now?
mrsd the whole fly thing disgusts us, they seem to fly around in a circle in the middle of the living room like its the Bermuda Triangle
I am sorry AF has arrived for you is it Sept or Oct when you will try again with IVF??
lemon you must be very close to EC
pout let us know how big dog is, I hate to think what Barry would be like if anything happened to Kayla he thinks she is going to live forever
I'm in the car on the way to much anticipated hollydays. We are in a traffic jam!
Welcome back den. Sorry no holiday diffedness. I had visions I'd be pregnant by this holiday. I should really stop doing that. Your comment about how grateful you are ivf struck a chord with me. I miss joy too. I hope she pops in just to reassure us that she's ok.
Pout poor big dog. My pet had a limp but it turned out to be a paw thorn.hopefully the vet will locate the problem and mend it. Tut at mr p! Also you are NOT too old! Promise.
Buzzy at fly in cats mouth. That made me do a mini gag.
Afm, well today the bleeding has totally settled down and my headache is easing. I also slept well for the first time in ages so I think my hormonal storm is over. I am curious to know when I will ovulate. Think it could be a while. Trying not to get the barrengloom. It is too nice weather and its holidays. I'm also ignoring what feels like thrush but I have been derailed from my positive vibes a little. This sucks! I want to take my baby paddling and watch its face when it eats ice cream. I hope I get there one day.
I'm only in the uk so will be around I'm sure this week. Any lurkers out there come make yourself known and keep us all company!
Sorry I've been awol, keeping up with work and coping with the side-effects of the devil's juice has been pretty much all consuming. Still better than pill+DRing but ever so tired and headachy... EC is hopefully close, scan tomorrow to check how things are progressing. Nearly all were less than 10mm last Wed, so they sent me off to step for another 4 days. I am completely through with stabbing, so that will get me in the right fram for EC. We're expecting the middle of next week for it. These IVF-months take full months instead of my usual 26 days. A bit tedious...
Waves and pets and comforting noises all round. Too slow to properly name check. Am contemplating a nap!
rabbit it could muck up your next cycle, I suppose just poas on ovulation sticks just in case maybe count the first day of the recent bleeding as CD1, enjoy your hols Yes it made me gag too its not like she isn't fed
lemon wow its very close then, a nap sounds good but I need to get to Tesco, I have run out of limes for my Mojitos and I need one for my BBQ tonight
for those green fingered ones among us, how many trusses of tomatoes do you let each plant have before you chop the top off, one of mine is growing into a Triffid and feel he needs sorting out
den I am sorry about the holiday daydreaming. It must be incredibly hard. I have really high hopes for your next cycle - I do think they buggered up your last one. Thanks for posting that Guardian link - I am also so unbelievably grateful for IVF. Very interesting about the new developments in it over the past few years.
rabbit What a horrible week - thank goodness you're getting a break now. I'm so sorry about the early mc, which is what it sounds like. Awful. Just when you were getting back on your feet, this happens. I do think that you will be a mum though, I really do - you've got your IVF cycle coming up, and there's every reason that it will work. Sperm is clearly meeting egg and things are happening. You might just need a little push in the right direction, courtesy of the docs. And it is such a relief to outsource the process, if you see what I mean.
pout I am so sorry about Big Dog, I really hope he is ok. Also really sorry to hear you've been so down. I don't think 38 is too old, far from it! Did you know that in one of the big hospitals where I am, 38 is the average age for women to have their first baby? The average! So not too old at all and besides, Colin is still waiting to come home to you.
cosmos hope the FET countdown isn't too stressful.
lemon you are off to the races! Hurrah for EC being nearly here. I know it is a marathon while you're doing it, but just hang in there... you're nearly there. I'm cheering on your eggs!
euro have an amazing time on holiday and eat lots of yummy food and enjoy lots of delicious wine.
buzzy at Kayla and the fly! Wow at triffid like tomatoes - sounds like the weather in the UK is amazing at the moment.
Bugger just tried posting to the old fred. Anyhoo, hello all! Sorry for the long absence. Hope you are all enjoying this amazing weather! Am gonna attempt a catch up but soz for anything missed. I've gone for a name change, do pm me if you can't work out who I am...
Firstly so sorry to hear all the sad news on here. sea I hope you and Mr S are ok. Such a terrible thing to happen and then those awful comments from people at the funeral. Good news that your tb treatment is progressing and ivf getting ever nearer.
pout I can't believe you are in the same situation. Btw you are totally not a cold fish emotionally - you come across as v warm and caring on here (plus regularly make me laugh a lot). Hope Mr P is ok. How's the monitoring cycle going? I'm sure big dog will be fine. Last year a vet nurse told me when I was booking an appointment for my fur baby that it sounded like she might need to be put down from the symptoms <cue hysterical sobbing> but she was fine and still here a year later!
euro sorry about the almost bfp. 2 kind of successes out of 5 eggs is amazing. It took me 23 eggs! Hope you have a lovely hollibubs.
rabbits it sounds like you almost got the golden egg too last cycle. What a massive head fuck. To still have been getting bfps after the bleeds must have meant pretty high hcg levels. As others have said, with ivf they'll be able to pick the creme de la creme of your embies and clearly your womble does let things implant, so I think you have a v good chance of it working. Have a fab holiday.
mrsd pleased to hear your holidays were good, but sorry about the ttc gloom. I was thinking I'd never have children and now still have a hard time thinking of myself as a preggo - I genuinely never thought it would happen. It's really odd to suddenly be one! You have only had 1 ivf cycle, on which they screwed up the timing of EC. Please don't give up hope yet.
What an amazing number of follies lemons! Sounds like you may well end up with something for the freezer. EC must be near now - lots of good luck!
critter How lovely to hear the HB. Hope there were no more rude comments!
grouch hope things are good with you too.
cosmos the agrc back up plan sounds sensible. The hardest thing about doing my FET was that it felt like it was the last chance for us and I just didn't feel ready to give up. Plan Bs always help. I don't know how anyone manages to cycle at agrc and work. Would you be able to get some time off?
medusa nice to see you again, though so sorry to hear bout the second MC.
buzzy I've had some grumpy hormonal days recently too! The heat doesn't help. Am still sniggering at Kayla's buzzing snack
Waves to nellie, mad, doll, sar and everyone else I've missed.
I too am incredibly grateful for ivf. Without it, there is no way i could have Mr G's baby. All's well here and time is chugging on to the 20 week scan, which is actually at 21.5 weeks in early Aug. It's odd, I'm not even thinking about the anomaly checking part, but rather just desperate to see there's still a baby there.
gine welcome back, I can't believe you are so close to your 20 week scan, hope you had a lovely holiday
Why is it that every one else gets pregnant in about 8 seconds? What is so wrong with us that this thing that is so easy for every one else is so fucking hard for us? Today is cd1 of first post MC cycle and, of course, I'm bleeding like a stuck pig and feeling very sorry for myself.
Sorry about the me post, needed to vent somewhere other than at the sparkling mothers to be.
I know missm, it's not fair. I can't believe how unbelievably easy it is for most people and even more infuriating is that people don't realise how lucky they are. I'm feeling sad today too, cd1 is always a tough day.
Gin, can't believe you're almost half way through. Do you have a proper bump yet?
missm (Sweaty) hugs to you. Like mrsd says CD1 is always so hard, almost like a physical slap in the face. Heavy and painful bleeding doesn't help either does it. Hope you are doing something nice and relaxing today.
gin My goodness you are really hurtling towards your 20 week scan. I can't quite believe it. It really doesn't seem that long! I also want to know whether you have a little bump yet.
BTW thank you for your really kind words, they made me smile.
lemons Not long now for EC. I am excited for you. It is so good (though I'm sure that the extra stabbing wasn't especially welcomed!) that they are making sure your follies are at their optimum stage of development. FX for you and this cycle.
rabbit Enjoy your hollibobs. You really deserve a relaxing break.
buzzy I am shuddering at the thought of Kayla chewing a buzzing fly. All flies meet a quick death in this house (I can't stand the thought of them landing on food or clean washing up because I know what they crawl around in!). I regularly lay on the floor, open the catflap and spray fly killer through it to despatch all the beasties in the porch thing at the back of the house!
Thank you everyone for thinking of Big Dog. He saw a lovely vet and she thinks that it is just a sprained knee. This means low impact exercise for a while so no ball - he will not be happy!. He's also got some anti inflammatories (and a lot of over time for MrP to pay the vet bill )
Well lots of love to all. Have a great and sunny Sunday. I'm painting the chest of drawers in the bedroom today. I got some bargain paint in Homebase the other week and now pretty much everything that is wooden in the house and not nailed down is being liberally coated in this vair posh paint
Afternoon, well I was right about the estimated EC, still at Wed or Thurs... The scan was interesting to say the least. My lining and womble looked wonderful. In my right ovary there were three follies growing (of the bloody 9 last week). So we panicked slightly and wondered whether all the stabbing was going anywhere (if you start with 20 6 seems a low number). Thankfully the left ovary has gone a little overboard with 10 growing follies (out of 11!) So we're on 13, which according to the doc was perfect, as I am completely out of the OHSS risk but plenty to choose from. Out of the 13 there, one is 18mm, the rest between 14 and 16-ish. So a little while longer.
Yay for only sprained knee for Bug Dog. Waves and pets all round for the lovely 10+ers. I've decided I can be mopy and lazy for the week.
Might just have had another nap
Pout, banish all thoughts of being too old from your mind. You're not! My clinic considers me to be very young for ivf, which I don't feel at all. I find it quite hard to age people but I'd guess that many of the other women in the waiting room are in their early forties.
Lemons, all sounds good. Just a few more days and then you'll be PUPO.
I had a lovely weekend away planned with a friend, she's just emailed and something she said makes me think she's pregnant. Shit. I really don't want to spend a weekend with her if that's the case. And I have a horrible feeling that she's planning on announcing it when we're away, waiting to do it in person. Maybe I should ask her outright.
pout glad big dog is ok, Kayla is back to licking a bold patch, do you hire yourself out
medussa big hugs
mrsd it might be an idea to mention it first before you go away, I remember my friend texting me to say she was pregnant and there was no way I could have hidden how I felt.
lemon its all systems go for you
pout I agree with mrsd re age. Most of the women in my clinic are well in their 40s and the drs kept telling me I was young at 34 (ie you will get ohss gin)! In fact, when my mum came with us for EC, the nurses thought she was there for treatment, which would've required some kind of miracle seeing that she's in her 60s and sans womble!!
I'm so pleased to hear big dog is ok. Like kayla our fur baby doesn't like the heat. No bold patches, but lots of grumpiness!
mrsd is there some way you could find out from your friend re the potential pregnancy beforehand? Ask about dietary requirements or something? Just the anticipation of thinking she may be preggo would ruin the weekend for me.
Yay lemons for a text book ivf cycle! Sounds like all is going really well and you will have a great haul.
missm hope you are ok.
I think someone asked about the bump? I do have one, but I think it depends on what I'm wearing as to whether I look preggo or fat! I'll put some holiday pics on FB and you can judge for yourself! I can't believe the rate at which it
and my thighs are growing. Having spent so long thinking it'd never happen, it's pretty surreal having an actual bump, but also quite lovely.
Final scan was okay. Not a very chatty nurse, so less info, but she counted many follies, and gave me sympathy about the weight of my left ovary. And I got blood tested for the first time to see whether they would be ripe enough, and the answer was yes... Triggering tonight, EC on Wed.
Really knackered because I didn't sleep in anticipation last night, followed by trying to catch up the hours of worktime I lost waiting for the bloods. So name checking might happen after EC again.
lemon Yay come Wednesday you'll be PUPO
No, I'll be PUPO on Saturday. Wed will be my guilt-free drink of the cycle
sorry lemon I am numerically challenged especially with the heat, roll on Saturday
That all sounds great lemons. Good luck, you're so close now.
Gin, I'm very jealous of your bump! I bet you look fantastic, I can't believe you're so close to 20 weeks. Has is gone slowly for you?
A colleague brought her 3 week old in today. I always feel ok with babies, not really broody and it doesn't upset me. The thing that did upset me though was then getting quizzed by everyone about when it would be my turn. I wish people could mind their own business. There seems to be a lot of bumps around at the moment, I think it must have been the long, cold winter this year resulting in a late summer/autumn baby boom.
I think I will ask my friend if she's pregnant, it will ruin the weekend if I'm anticipating an annocuementl.
Lemons that's great news. Good luck for ec. All sounds like its going to plan.
MrsD I would have to ask your friend what she meant in her email too - dreading announcements are the worst.
I have to say I'm very jealous over Zara still going horse riding - just that level of confidence that everything would be ok. I'm scared to sneeze during the 2ww!
Waves everyone else.
Gin - can't believe you have a bump and are almost at 20 weeks. Yay! really delighted for you.
Mrsd - you should definitely ask your friend. I think the anticipation and surprise can be the worst part sometimes. Sorry to hear colleagues are not sensitive.
Lemons - Yay to being PUPO soon. Really excited and hope you kick of the good news for Fred 16!
Love to everyone else. I might be quiet for the rest of the week as have more family things to do post funeral. Hope all is good with everyone.
Just a quick post to mark my place, sorry for continued shit-fests for many, but some positive stories to keep us all going too. Good luck for EC Lemons, you are doing brilliantly!
Yikes I'm late. All ok here. It had cooled down which is annoying I want roasting sun back .
hello ladies, it's been a while. I have been off getting warm and healthy with my chinese doctor. he's satisfied with my base temperature and would now like me to shorten my cycle length. I am not sure how I am supposed to do that but ok. I would like to get our first cycle of IVF in before the end of the year. DH is not so keen on IVF at all but will go along with it.
Fingers crossed Lemon. and hello to everyone.
Apologies for the long absence. Have been enjoying the sunshine and trying to obsess a little less about TTC. The benefit of long term downregging is that I am out of the cycle of hope and expectation. Next ivf cycle officially starts on August 8th.
More stress in out household with MrM's mum back in hospital. Much fear around here about the potential genetic link with dementia...... Growing old can be so horrible.
critter hooray for a heartbeat. That sounds wonderful. American health care is frustrating though. I want you to get a chance to see that baby!
mrsd I hope that you work it out with your friend. I agree that it is bet not to have it sprung on you where you can't deal with your emotions in private. I am ok around babies too, much more so than pregnant women. I visited a teensy tiny two week old yesterday. I quite enjoyed my cuddle.
pout I was relieved to read that big dog was ok. My mum's dog is having more and more health issues but she is so old that not much will be done. Only a matter of time I think. For now she is comfortable and happy so we will just have to see how it goes.
lemon good luck today! It sounds like things have gone well so far and my fingers are crossed for a bumper crop of eggs. Make sure you relax and are taken care of tonight.
We are off on a mini holiday this afternoon and I haven't finished packing yet. Apologies for the woeful name checking but waves to all I've missed.
Just popping in quickly to wish lemons good luck today!
Sorry about mil mad. Enjoy your holiday!
Luffs to all.
Get the Barry White on. I am home already, there were 15 eggs collected and an excellent contribution from SB. Let's hope they do there thing and get a move on. Fairly woozy still, so not much chance of actual name checking. Maybe later.
Lemons 15 is a great crop, well done you! That's the hard part (physically) done now, hope you manage to have a relaxing rest of the day. Will they call you tomorrow to let you know about fertilisation? I have a good feeling about this round for you.
Buzzy so glad things are still going well for you. I'm going back to see Mr S today to do some of the immune stuff alongside the FET round.
Free I tried Chinese medicine for a while, are doing herbs and acupuncture? Are you charting and have you seen much change in your cycles? I did think it was helping, but ran out of patience with it in the end.
Mad sorry about the mil worries. Hope you're mini break helps you relax and sets you up for the next round.
Waves everyone else.
i was charting cosmos, i am doing herbs and a bit of acupuncture but more herbs. I am warmer definitely but now he's told me to not worry about temperature just exercise plenty, eat well, nothing cold and try and get the cycle shorter. I am on about 35 day cycle right now down from . On the plus side I've lost about 7.5KG and only a few more to go and I will have a healthy BMI
lemon 15 - wow! great great well done
duh, didnt finish typing - 35 day cycle down from 39-41
we SB gets to call them on Friday to hear whether there are embies and if, where, how etc there will be ET. I have explained to him that I've done the hard bits that I had to do so he can do the phone calls. I am making him the point of contact for the results of The Test. Like I did last time I got to testing, as we have no privacy at work.
Lemon - woohoo for the mighty 15. Well done, make sure you take it easy.
Free - the chineses meds sounds really helpful. Glad things are going well.
Cosmos- how did it go with mr s?
Madness- have a super duper holiday.
Den - I agree babies are much easier than preggos. In your shoes I might be tempted to say something to your freind along the lines of " ooooo you got me wondering if there is a baby on the way, just something you said...,,," she would then probably tell you either way and then you can get the stingy bit over with. How are you feelibg about future rounds of ivf? Have you discussed the premature ec with the drs yet?
Pout - oh my goodness sweetheart, you are not too old. There are easily 5 + good fertility years left. But i know that feeling very well where you just want to draw a line under everything. I was never open to adoption either and know that crappy frustrated feeling so well. Keep thinking of your frostie and the marvelous stats associated with that a la gin.
Rabbit - I have been thinking of you. These are strange days. But there is tons and tons of hope.
Nelly- hope you are ok and things feel more settled, but its perfectly ok not to be happy for a while too. It will get better. You make great embryos, you are waiting for lady luck only.
Hello to all.
cosmos I hope all went well with Shehata, he is looking good since he shifted 8 stone, I hope his bed side manner has improved
free well done on the weight loss
madness sorry to hear about MIL, dementia is a difficult thing to deal with
this heat is disgusting and I have to say I am struggling
Very quick bleary eyed check in just to say yippee for 15 eggs lemon, that's amazing! Take it easy, if you can, over the next few days - lots of coconut water and rest, and get advice from your clinic if you start feeling OHSS-y.
Hello again to free and mad ...free high five on the weight loss, that is fantastic. mad so sorry to hear about your MIL. August is just around the corner - I will have everything crossed for you.
cosmos good luck with the FET - I'll be rooting for you.
nelly hang in there my lovely. Hope it heats up for you again!
euro hope your holiday is wonderful and relaxing.
den I hope your friend doesn't wallop you with her good news. I can imagine that would be so hard to have hanging over you. Fingers crossed you can have a lovely boozy weekend together and it isn't anything.
All fine here, back in London for a few days for work. So nice to see my family and my parents got to come to my nuchal scan yesterday (I ended up stumping up for a private one so as not to miss the window when you're meant to do it) which was really nice, my mum was sniffling all the way through. Sending love and tail feather fluffs to those feeling sad.
Morning lovelies, thanks for all the support, you're lovely! Feeling fairly okay today. I'll be drinking the obligatory 2 extra liters of water and lots of herbal tea. I did go out to dinner with half my family last night, a long standing appointment and, while still lying on the couch, I felt up to it. It was a bit more challenging than usually, as my abdomen was not impressed
and I am sure I shouldn't have had that sneaky glass of wine. But overnight the bloatiness has gone down a lot. And tonight I've got a facial booked so a bit of pampering can't go amiss.
I am back at work, though working from home. So in my next break I might actually catch up properly!
Well done Lemon . I went straight to Wagamama after my EC (for lunch!) but then I did only have the one egg .
Enjoy your break Mad. I've just remembered I didn't reply to your last PM. Give me a shout when you get back.
Critter was that your first scan? Can't believe how quickly it is going, from this side at least.
Den I'm so sorry no holiday baby. Even after all this time it still amazes me that we still have this slight hope. I'm by far the worst for it. But round 2 will be here before you know it and it will all go better next round.
Gin hooray for baby bump .
Sar your words always bring a lump to my throat. You are right, despite shite AMH there are still good embryos, I've just not got the right toss of the coin yet. I'm a bit sick of waiting for it though!
Forgotten everything else I was going to say so general waves to those not name checked. Hope the sarf isn't too sticky hot, it's ok here but not full on sunbathe weather. But it is not raining so hurrah for that.
Fertilisation occurred, we have ET tomorrow
no news on numbers or quality, guess we'll get some of that at the clinic. Waves and pets all round. Still shaky from the phone call, that I made SB do...
Yay lemon! Brilliant news. Will be sending you lots of love and luck tomorrow.
Yay from me too lemons. Hope all goes well today and you have a nice relaxing pupo weekend planned Btw, I am so impressed at all you ladies doing something the evening after EC. All I could do was lie on the sofa and dribble!
Luffs to everyone else.
Yay Lemons great news. I'm impressed at you getting DH to make the call, I like the sharing of responsibility! I think it's probably a wise thing not to even worry about numbers and quality - after tomorrow you'll be pupo as gin said! Good luck for ET. I found it just like a prolonged smear but it definitely was a bit less ouchy the time I was more relaxed. Good luck with it. What are your plans for the 2ww are you going to carry on as normal or have you got some time off? For me it was just the mental side of everything - I can empathise was the shakes after getting phone calls!
Free wow that is a great weight loss, well done. Is this the Chinese medicine guy in London? And that is definitely a change in your cycle for it to be reduced like that. How have you found the herbs? I quite liked them after a while.
Sar you're so sweet to keep popping in to support us. Hope you're coping ok in this heat.
Pout hows things, what's your plan for your frostie? Sorry if you've already said, I'm not keeping up well at the moment.
Hey Buzzy, sorry you're struggling with the heat, I'm not surprised, it's HOT!
Hi Critter, thanks for the support lovely, so glad you had a lovely scan moment with your mum.
Muddy dont lose heart, it's all about making embryos! What's your plan at the moment?
I went to see Mr S and am going to follow a similar immune protocol as before. He did give me an endometrial 'scratch' though, which I have read about - there's some studies that may show that for ladies who've failed at Ivf previously, giving a 'scratch' to the womb the month before Ivf might aid implantation. It was a bit of an unexpected outing of the foof - I haven't had many visitors down there for while, it was a bit of a rude awakening back to the world of Ivf!
What I meant to add about that scratch thing was that if those studies are valid, then it can't all be down to age doom and gloom etc etc. plus there's always something different to try with each round.
SB is also taking the results call in just under two weeks. I cannot do that emotionally and I'll be at work without any privacy - I reckon it is the least he can do after all my stabbing (although the swimmers he produced were pretty good too). We've got a few outings planned but nothing huge in the next two weeks, and a night away at a RL friend who knows about IVF next weekend.
Exciting about scratching and getting ready to go again cosmos. Everything crossed. I hope it has been a nice break from foofage meddling!
Nelly you're time will come, the embie you made was perfect. You just need to bring perfect embie and womble in contact often enough and you'll get that win! Take care and sneaky hug.
Thanks lovely differs, gin, critter, and sar to pop in. It gives me confidence you're all diffed, even if it wasn't necessarily on the first
or last IVF attempt.
How's big dog now, pout? And what are your plans the next few weeks? Is there an FET in the future?
Well done on weight loss and heating up free. Impressed with the commitment, I have to say
I failed to stay sober while stimming, and we've agreed I am allowed the odd glass after ET too, am I an alcoholic?
If you're reading joy, I often wonder how things are with you! Take care and waves and stuff. Also to all the others.
Lemons am getting very hopeful for you and your lemonettes. My last clinic was big on relaxing about things like odd alcohol / caffeine intake during Ivf.
Also forgot to say Mr S reminded me about important role of vit D, so get sunbathing everyone!
And yes I hope Joy is ok. I hope she got secretly updiffed and is enjoying it somewhere.
lemon well done and good luck for tomorrow, will you put two back if you have a few
cosmos glad things went well with mr s, most clinic offer either the scratch or assisted hatching
well its been an emotinal day for us, I had my booking in appointment and 12 week scan today, talking about my history made me sad for the babies that I had lost but not forgotten, then reaching this far feels like a miracle, and for the first time in months I actually feell like a human
joy I do hope you are ok
waves to everyone else
Yay Buzzy. I have been thinking of you. It was always going to be tough but this is a massive milestone. I'm so happy for you
Hooray too for Lemon, and for making SB do the calling. Also curious in if you will do Single or double?
It is glorious here today. But I'm on a train and going to an indoor pub . Still the forecast is good for the weekend.
Sorry for such rubbish name checking.
We agreed on single at our consent meeting. My clinic is very keen on singleton pregnancies, and apparently I am really young
Well done on the booking appointment buzz, sorry the past sadness reared its ugly head!
Great news lemon. Fingers crossed for you, I have a good feeling.
I really wanted dh to do the phone calls but my clinic will only release info to the woman, which seems totally stupid and makes me a bit cross when we're only there because of male factor. I really wished that dh could have made the final call because hearing the I'm so sorry it's negative broke me even though I knew it already. I had to make the call in my lunch hour and I can't even sit on that park bench anymore, I feel all sad when I see it. Pathetic I know.
Whoops posted too soon. Buzz wonderful news that all is ok. I can only imagine how emotional you feel.
hey ladies, while at Tesco Barry talked about putting up the scan pic on FB I told him I was not and why, I don't really feel I can stop him from doing it as it is his baby too, I just wanted to let you know as it might get linked onto mine, I'm hoping he will forget about it i don't really want to tell people
I shall chat to him later about it
Short overseas phone post from me.
Buzz- that's amazing news re scan. So sorry it brought back sad memories. Delighted you have reached this important milestone.
Lemons - hurray you are pupo. Hope you are feeling well.
Welcome back Free. Well done on the weight loss and getting warm. Are you happy with your Chinese doc?
Gin - yay to bump. How are you feeling?
Sorry not to name check properly. Will check in once I'm home.
Waves to all
Thanks all, perfect 8-cell on board, one or two more look likely to freeze (they decide tomorrow).
lemON Well done on your little lembie and great that there is two possible frosties, you are PUPO when is test day
Great news Lemons! Well done you, how was ET?
Buzzy lovely news about the scan, as MrsD said, can only imagine how emotional it must have been.
Just popping in quickly to say hello. lemon sounds like a great result, well done. Lovely to see you here Cosmos Waves and positive thoughts to all.
Thanks all the ET was really smooth, completely painfree
unlike some of my IUIs and everyone was quite excited about the quality of the Lembies in a very nice way. So yay. I might give myself a bit of a MN diet for the next 12 days, OTD is 1/8, and I am going to lodge my head firmly in the sand. These are the best odds we've had since TTC except the actual pregnancy, of course. Scary thought that needs to be ignored.
Lovely of you to pop by, doll. How are things? Are you showing? Where are you? Any news?
Well lemon I have 7kg attached to my front, feel a bit like, yep ok get the idea, can we just get on with things now? Still in the same place, just got to wait for replacement to arrive and handover my job, then relocate family and get Little Doll in school, then likely temporarily relocate again for birth, do that thing, get Tiny Doll a birth cert and passport and get back to where I'm supposed to be living. Easy. lemon I so so hope this works for you.
That's excellent news lemons! I'm so pleased this cycle has all gone so well for you and have everything crossed for OTD. We always took otd off/wfh, as I knew I'd be a mess.
doll! Lovely to 'see' you! Blimey you have a lot on the next few months. What's your due date? Hope everything is going well.
sea hope you are on hols overseas and having a very well deserved break.
nelly hope the pub was good! I'm still super jealous of your gorgeous garden in the FB pics.
cosmos I've read good things about the scratch and it was something I was contemplating for our next go. Was it ok? Did it hurt? I have everything crossed for this cycle for you.
Congrats again buzz on the scan. We got a DVD of ours!
Waves and luffs to everyone else.
I'm now 19 weeks, so almost half way. I really thought I'd have lost some of the anxiety about things working out by now, but no. I still examine every bit a loo roll for af! Mental eh?
glad all went well with the ET lemon
Seaview I am happy with my chinese doctor, just impatient. I have had 2 pregnancy annoucements in my weeks off from this thread and another one is imminent. I'm trying to be grateful and enjoy life and the good weather but mostly I find myself thinking, Oh Come on. is it my turn soon?
lemons I am so glad that everything is going so well for you and am keeping my FX for you.
buzzy I am pleased that your scan went well and will await FB pics
cosmos How do they do a scratch? Really hoping that this is the magic bullet for you.
doll Exciting times for you coming up. Wishing you well with everything.
sea 2 announcements Willing that it will indeed be "your turn" very, very soon
gin Half way? No way! You made me smile in a bitter sweet way when you said that you still check for AF. I wonder if every woman does that or if it is only in hard won pregnancies.
I've been thinking of joycep alot lately and wondering whether anyone messages her off board and can confirm that she is okay? I think I have had her in my thoughts so much because of Kate Middleton's imminent arrival and how much it used to bug her! Well ladies it looks like we will need to brace ourselves for the royal baby onslaught shudders and pukes a bit in my mouth
pout I can't believe how mad they are about royal birth down under i'll be glad when its all over with to be honest
Sea two announcements it is your turn soon
gin half way it has flown by, no DVD or scary 3D scans the baby's head was stuck so just getting the pictures was hard work, the only person I plan to show the pictures we do have to is MIL, I always check my underwear and my boobs every morning
doll you are one busy lady
Joy I too hope you are ok and just having a break from MN
I am back from a lovely week in Italy. It was great, but nowhere near long enough. I was just getting into holiday relaxation mode, when it was time to come home!
I've just had a quick catch up with the thread. Hurrah for great scan news and being PUPO. Boo for poorly doggies and minging cat snacks.
There's no news in euroland. I'm expecting to ov some time later this week, and we are giving it one half-hearted natural go before getting back on the IVF train. Toot toot!
Greetings! I had an ace time with no reception or wifi but now I am BACK! Is there a baby on the way today? Hee hee pout. I too actually often wonder if joycep is OK, it feels so odd to talk nearly every day to someone and then for them to vanish. Should we pm her? I can't decide if its not the right thing to do.
Hurray lemon for lembie and buzzy and critter for scans. Gin I can't believe that you are halfway, yay! God to still wondering if af is coming, I hadn't thought about how long that might last! Totally understandable. Nice to see you hear too doll.
Will jump back from here so soz for not full name checking. I have had a hormonal shut down and now on cd22 with no sign whatsoever of ov, small and pain free boobs, no cm etc etc. what a pain in the arse that this has happened when I should be having baseline tests next week. Ah well.
pushes trolley down the carriage offering coffees and teas on the IVF train
euro your holiday went quickly. Glad that you had a good time. How Is MrEuro's tooth?
rabbits I'm pleased that you too had a good holiday. at your lazy ovulation. Have you been doing the sticks? I'm wondering whether you have ovulated but it has been one of those "easy" ovulation months with little PMS/Post ovulatory symptoms. Tis a bummer about the baseline testing.
buzzy Jeez I'm sick of the royal baby already. I really don't understand the fascination.
sticks foot out to stop trolley for a long cool drink
pout my friends sister is obsessed with it in Aussieland, I take it she is still pushing the thing out, I suppose its better than talking about sport right now
euro glad you had a good time, fingers crossed for the pre IVF BFP
rabbit when you say CD22 is this from the last lot of bleeding? Miscarriages can muck up your next cycle, I didn't ovulate the month after mine
I left my brolly on the floor, Kayla came to investigate and scared herself stupid, she actually jumped backwards
Hey ladies. Royal baby?? What?? Not heard anything about that . In all seriousness though it is so OTT that it is ridiculous. It actually doesn't bother me - the attention is mental.
So I had a weird month. AF was due Wed or Thurs and it didn't turn up. No spotting. Cue me getting my hopes up. Nope, turned up on Saturday. Fuxake. Ah well. At least I can get drunk on my holidays.
Rabbit sorry about your stress. I agree it is probably the after-effects I your CP.
Glad you had a nice time Euro but sorry it was too short.
How is being PUPO Lemon?
Gin half way, eek!
Sorry for incomplete catch up. I too worry about Joy. Euro are you in touch with her?
Better go, off out again. PS Friday's pub was fun and I had several cocktails in defiance of my missing AF. Just as well, as it turns out!
nelly I do have Joy' number, having met her for a drink. I've been wondering about dropping her a line. I might do that tonight, but I don't want to intrude if she is enjoying some time off all this.
pout I'll have a long cool one please.
MrEuro's bloody tooth finally seems better, although he still hasn't finished the 2nd course of antibiotics yet! It took quite some effort to hammer it into submission. Which is a shame, because I had plans for our hols that definitely involved him being able to move his jaw...
I don't want to bring the thread down but I can't bring myself to say it IRL, so I'm putting it here. Tomorrow I would have been (should have been) 6 months' pregnant.
euro Hand hold, dates like that are hard to deal with, could you talk to Mr E about how you feel
euro here is a big squeeze. That is so hard. I really, seriously, have every faith that you WILL be able to come on here and say you are 6 months pregnant. The fact that you were pregnant is an excellent indicator that it is just a matter of time. And you should absolutely use here to say the things that you can't say in real life. To help you with this I will state that I'm irked by Aplusness right now in the highest order. It makes my blood simmer. Talking of which, hot yoga in a heatwave does funny things to your interval body thermostat. I've not stopped sweating since I came out.
Nelly. I feel inner rage that your missing period dared to arrive. I'm glad you cocktailed. My wine intake has probably been more than my 8 unit allowance since the sun started shining.
I love love love the heatwave
I did remind him of the date tonight. He gave me a big hug. I'm not devastated, just a bit sad and wistful for what might have been.
rabbit I'm loving the heatwave too. I hate the cold.
euro so glad that you shared your thought. It isn't fair and I have no words of wisdom but offer you another hand hold. You have been so brave and dignified throughout everything and I know this will carry you through and like rabbits said you will be on here talking about being 6 months into your pregnancy.
nelly How dare the witch go AWOL like that. That is rough, I hate those cycles they really mess with your head. Does it mean that your/ones LP can vary in length from month to month?
Dunno Pout? I don't think so. Either my ov signs were way off (but this was my longest cycle in 3 years) or it was a CP which I will never know about as I was too chicken to test. I normally have a fairly spot on 14 day LP although spotting starts 2/3 days before, and didn't this month to fuel the mental.
Euro big squeezy hugs. You are so close. Your turn is coming x
How rude of AF to mess with your head nelly!
Thanks for the hugs and kind words. I appreciate it.
BTW, I exchanged texts with Joy last night. She sounds good - she's mentally detoxing away from MN but says she will pop in and has been thinking of us all.
<<<sticks head in the door>>>
Hi ladies, Ive been smoked out of my hole by Euro. She found me all wrapped up in my union jack outside the Lindo Wing at St Marys Hospital where I have been waiting for the last few months in great anticipation. I was hoping I would see all of you down there sucking up the excitement so imagine my disappointment.
No sorry I have been awol for a bit. I decided to try and mentally detox after my holiday as I dont know whether you remember but I wasnt very happy (I was very cross and upset and in a bait about everything). I was very conscious I had nothing positive to say and I just had to get myself back on track. So I thought I would go MN free and try and work it out of my system for a few months. I have had MN and FF black out but I have been meaning to come on and catch up. I do keep thinking of you all a lot and have been wondering how everyone has been getting on. Now youll have to put up with an extra long post!!
I have glanced back the last few pages of this thread and will try and find the other one to see what I have missed. Have there been any bfps?? Any other news I have missed?
I am pleased to read our lovely pregnant 10 plussers are doing well. Buzz am absolutely thrilled for you. Does it feel real? And/Gin/Doll/Critter yippee, sounds like things are progressing well. Gin its quite sobering reading how you are finding it all so surreal after all this time. It must be so so odd but I find it so pleasing to hear that you were someone who didnt believe it could happen but it did! are Sar and Art around?. The pregnancies and births on here are true royal births in my eyes very very special and very deserved and won in a warrior style.
Rabbit have you had an early miscarriage? I cant believe it, I am just so sorry. Thats terrible news. What are your plans now?
Lemons sounds like you have had a great haul and are now pupo. Yippee. I hope you are able to get through the next 10 days or so calmly. Wishing you every bit of luck.
Sea how are you doing? Where are you at now? Have you done the latent tb stuff yet?
Mrsd lovely, how are you doing? I see your cycles are buggered after ivf mine are too, they are all over the place. I dont even think I ovulate any more! When do you think you will cycle again?
Euro as I said in my text, I am so sorry about the CP. Its difficult to know whether its comforting that something is at least happening with you and you clearly are getting embies but I guess it raises other questions. Do you think youll go for intrallipids? Also I think I last left you when you were having a nightmare smear situation, did all that sort itself out?
Poutster have you had your FET yet? Poor big dog but I hope hes ok.
Mad I hope you are having a good holiday before the next round. I hope youve been well.
Nelly are you around and what are your plans?
Lovely Cosmos, are you FETting soon?? I see you have had an endometrial scratch. What a good idea! Its important to try different things I reckon.
So I have been awol trying to concentrate on the things I can control and trying not to focus on the uncontrollable (I.e the baby thing). Its work in progress. Roy and I (well I dragged him) had a meeting with a wonderful nutritionist who a lot of people use at my clinic. It was something I vowed I would never do as I thought my diet was fine. Anyway she really focused on Roy and gave him a good talking to and aims to get his sperm supersonic rather than just normal. I now find I spend a lot of time in the kitchen preparing meals, introducing a lot of colour in to the cooking. Roy has to eat all sorts of odd stuff. Im also on about 7 supplements a day. So it will be fascinating to see if there is any difference in our next round of ivf and whether we will get some frosties. I mean can nutrition really help? We can only try our best.
I have been struggling to get the last 5lbs of ivf weight off though but I have just come out of the most horrendous 4 day bout of severe gastroenteritis with dysentery having eaten a lamb burger in Soho last week. It was a horror show. I went to the loo over 70 times in 48 hours. I was so worried I took myself off to hospital where I was told I was malnourished and dehydrated. Anyway bingo, the 5lbs have gone! And I tell you if I get rid of these haemmeroids which quite frankly I was not going to avoid with that going on down there, then I think I could lose half a stone. Bonus!
Also dont laugh but I have started hypnotherapy. The first woman I went to see was really strange and her website claimed she specialised in fertility hypnotherapy. I didnt get a good vibe from her. Felt she may harbour a bit of bitterness about babies herself and then when she had heard about my 3 years of fertility woes, she started prying in to my parents and my childhood which unfortunately for her was actually a very happy one. Even so, she thought she would then try and regress me, you are loved Joy, you are loved, hear the crashing waves, birds singing, you are loved.. WTF?! I was laughing hysterically in my head and wondering how the hell I had got in to that situation. I am no expert but I dont think my fertility fears have anything to do with my childhood.
Anyway I have found another hypno. Im not sure I get hypnotised though but I think I just like someone to talk to and make sense of all the emotions it brings and also I find it helps me think about my attitude. I guess its a form of counseling. She totally gets it and importantly only deals with infertility. I now do this thing, which I in fact made up and I lie down and imagine an empty suitcase and I see myself filling it with the last 3 years of rubbish blood tests, iui, miscarriages, lap, hysteos, doctor appointments, erpc, preggo announcements and I just zip the case up and I toss it in to a river and imagine it washing away. I basically am training my mind to consign all this crap in to history and just to put it down as an experience. I want to forget about it and concentrate on the now rather than thinking the past will reflect the future. I know its sounds wacky and weird but I really was letting it drag me down so much. I kept dwelling on everything that has happened and feeling sorry for myself and of course the sad and bitter emotions do crop up but I have to then try and nip it in the bud.
The hypno woman is also trying to teach me to embrace other peoples pregnancies she tells me to embrace it , to be happy for people because Im in the queue and it will be my turn one day. This is really hard to believe but again its all about attitude and making lifes little moments easier to deal with. She told me to do this a week after my BiL told us they were expecting their 3rd child. I didnt take the news well. I was furious for about 2 days and I think particularly because they have always been quite smug and superior about being parents. The thought that my first pregnancy was due before their 2nd and now they were having their 3rd effortlessly just seemed greedy in my eyes and would just encourage them to go on and on about their perfect family. Yes the bitter bitch inside certainly rose to the fore on that announcement. The very next day after this one my BF sent me a text to say she was pregnant. She had rung me about 2 weeks earlier saying she was cross with her DH because this was their first month of trying and they had only managed to dtd once because he has issues in that area. But nope, just the once was enough. Weirdly I was genuinely happy for her. I still had to go home and have a little cry for us though. Wasnt quite so thrilled when I next saw BF and she was telling me how clever her body was. She banged on about it for several minutes and how proud her DH was to be so virile even though he has been smoking 20 a day for the last 20 years. Tact is not her strong point!
So in the last few months I have had my lump removed, it was the size of a ping pong ball. So pleased that is gone. Ive taken up yoga. Im as bendy as a lamp post but I hope it will make me stronger. My periods are still up the spout but this last one was the first time I didn't experience that awful pain I was so worried about. I hope I can forget about the fear of Ashermans now. Touch wood.
My parents spoke to my grandmother who has been unbelievably kind and given us some money towards one last treatment. They control her money and chequebook and when I thanked her profusely she didn't really know anything about it. I have quickly cashed the cheque. I am very thankful and so lucky to get this last shot because it wasnt looking likely. So I think The plan is Roy and I will go back to the same clinic one last time, not my next period but the one after sometime which I think will come around the end of Aug/start of Sep. I am going to do everything I can to get intrallipids rather than ivig this time and I just hope the stars and planets are all lined up. Sometimes I think that out of all the eggs I have left, one has got to be viable.
Phew this is long!
A quick phone post to say welcome back Joy. It is really really good to hear you.
Also a big hug to Euro. These milestone dates are painful. You have all our support here.
Sorry for the short post. Will do a proper name check post very soon.
Hello joy! It's wonderful to hear from you, I have been thinking about you often. How was your holiday? I'm sorry your cycles are messed up too. I'm sure this is just a temporary blip for both of us. The hypno sounds interesting. I'd love to hear more about the nutritionist, what does she recommend men eat? That's great news you are able to fund another cycle. You will get there, you have been spectacularly unlucky so far that is all.
Euro, big hug to you. I know it's not the same but a friend announced a pregnancy a couple of weeks ago and I couldn't help thinking that it should have been me if the Ivf worked. Your holiday looked fab by the way. One week isn't long enough though, will you get another break over the summer or is that it?
The royal stuff is annoying me and I'm not even in the uk so can largely escape it. Althoughtnpeople did ask me about it today. It was hard trying to offer an opinion on it. Woman has baby, it's not really news. Except it would be if it was one of us long termers, that would be amazing news. Art, how are you doing? Not long for your prince or princess?
joy I am so, so pleased that you are okay. Hurrah! It sounds like you have had a very eventful few months. You had me sniggering with your hypnotherapy tales. Bet you never thought in a million years that in pursuit of a baby you would find yourself "listening to the crashing waves" while somebody tried to foist childhood ishoos on you So glad that you have found somebody else and it has been useful. I like your empty suitcase idea.
Oh goodness at the gastroenteritis. How grim
but all that weight loss is fab! Where can I find this purveyor of such fine cuisine and grade A salmonella? Are you feeling better?
Please also accept a medal for your heroic handling of your BF's pregnancy announcement. Exceptionally virile my arse. Lucky, just damned lucky!
Hurrah for the funds for another round of IVF.
I just knew you would be one of the first ones at the hospital waiting for news of the royal birth. Sadly I couldn't get my union jack flag pressed in time for the occasion
mrsd did you get to the bottom of whether your friend has some baby news?
nelly It is all indeed curious. Maybe your ovulation was a bit out. IVF has done strange things to my ovulation.
Had another hospital appointment today. I am going for the natural FET and am awaiting my period to start (imminent) after which time I will be advised when to commence OPK testing. Let the squinting at lines and the collecting of pissy sticks on a bit of tissue on the toilet cistern to compare colour saturation begin! Disgusting but yet still strangely more appealing than a pot of pot pourri
Joy So good to hear from you, the hypo sounds interesting a colleague at work tried it, I hope you had a lovely holiday, I'm not sure about embracing other peoples pregnancies, that is tough, we went to a party on Saturday and pregnant friend was there, I have to admit I didn't feel comfortable at first sorry about your BIL and BF, but remember if she has to tell herself that her body is clever what does that say about her mind.
Its good to take charge and change things in your life so well done on taking control
nelly sorry about the AWOL AF
it sounds like a few of you will be doing IVF come Aug/Sept
x posts with pout oooh let operation Colin begin
Glad you made it to the front of the scrum and came back to tell us about it, joy. I am so pleased to read how your post. It really sounds like things are going a lot better and that FF and MN detox done you good. Fingers crossed for the last round, and I am sure one or more of them are viable! Welcome back!
I was hiding from MN for my waiting weeks, but failed so here I am. Not much to tell, I have loads of progesterone symptoms, which I bloody well should considering I am shoving it up my foof three times a day. SB and I had a really good chat about teh cycle - our conclusion was it went better than expected, and providing I don't have to combine devil's juice and the pill again, we'd consider another cycle - and alternative routes to parenthood. So I was very at ease about it all on Sunday. Not so now, of course
Massive handhold euro. Dates SUCK. Your time will come, but meanwhile this really hurts.
Sorry about awol AF, nelly. But cocktails in the sun sound a good plan.
Your heatwave yoga sounds, errr, drippy rabbit. I hope you're okay!
Wow, pout fetching Colin home is imminent. Everything crossed for you and for successful squinting at the sticks!
Waves to all the others! Too tired to name check properly!
PUPO Lemon I hope the wait is not driving you mad. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you.
Pout Its getting close . How do you feel about this upcoming FET. I really hope this is the one!
Mrsd Sorry your cycles are still playing up. I hope it settles soon. Did you doctors say when they might go back to normal? I am the same re the royal baby. I really cant stand it anymore. Nothing to do with my lack of fertility mind. I just dont understand why people would queue up for hours to get a look. I was on walking near Buckingham Palace and St Marys the last couple of days and it was mobbed. Who are these people that camp out? They are just weird and alien to me.
Joy Its so so nice to hear you. I am glad the mental detox has worked. Hypno and nutritionist doesnt sound weird at all. I went to a hypno many years ago and I found it very helpful indeed. As for nutrition, I think it can definitely help. I have changed my diet since starting to TTC but MrSea thinks its all rubbish. It would be impossible for me to convince him otherwise as his sperm count was good for both my IUIs. What kind of foods are you making? Maybe I can sneak some into MrSeas dinner.
As for trying to embrace other peoples pregnancies, I think thats a really healthy approach. I think hate, envy and jealous can eat us up and do us more harm than good. Its fine to acknowledge we are sad its not us but the other ugly emotion doesnt help us. Every time I get an A+ announcement I remind myself that its not a zero sum game. I am always happy for friends. Its those loud mouths that have really questionable morals that I really have difficulty with. Instant diff-ers do bother me though but only because I have had so many ignorant comments from them. A classic is women only need IVF because they wait till they are too old to have kids I started TTC when I was 31 so I hardly think it was that! Anyway I think what you are doing is great. Also delighted to hear you are going back to ARGC. I will be cycling there in Oct I hope. Its actually the earliest I can do as I am travelling every month before then and I have other (NK) issues to resolve first.
Free Well done on getting warm and losing weight. When are you planning on your IVF? Looks like we are both doing it before the end of the year.
Rabbit How are you doing? Are you feeling okay?
Euro Hows it going? I am sad you felt said about the would be 6 month date. You are trying natural this month before another cycle next month right? Will you still go for natural IVF?
Cosmos Very interested in your endometrial scratch. Do you know in what circumstances clinics will offer this? I hope this FET is the one for you.
Nelly Sorry about the false alarm. Late AF can be a real bitch. I cant remember how many times she has teased and played with my feelings. Enjoy your upcoming holiday.
Doll, Critter, Sar, Gin glowing 10 plussers. I hope you are all feeling good and enjoying your bumps.
AFM, I have been taking antibiotics for almost 2 months now for the latent TB, only 1 more month to go. I finally got the all clear to take Humira. Its actually sitting in my fridge right now. I had to delay taking it another week because of travel plans buggering up the 2nd injections timing. No matter I have waited this long already. I am quite nervous about injecting ridiculous I know. I have never actually injected anything before. The clinic didnt tell me anything and it looks like I am left to figure out how to do it myself. MrSea cant help as he is really scared of needles. I will have to figure it out somehow. Have been watching a lot of YouTube videos.
Naughty me <slaps hand> I missed out lovely buzzy on my list of glowing ladies! Hope you are doing well. When is the next scan?
hi seaview I want to get on with IVF asap but DH feels we haven't given chinese doctor enough off a chance yet. I will see what chinese doctor says at next appointment
Euro those dates are hard. I had 2 friends due around the same time as me (had I not miscarried) and whilst happy for them that their babies arrived safe and sound it was tinged with sadness that I wasn't holding my own baby especially as they were on number 3 and number 2 respectively. it is hard and ok to recognise you feel sad sometimes. thanks for your reminder that it is not a zero sum game seaview this is a wise comment
Seaview, that is wonderful that you're nearing the end of the tb treatment. I'm sure you'll cope just fine with the injections, the first one is the worst and then it's so easy you'll wonder what you were worried about.
Free, the Chinese stuff sounds interesting. What do they mean by getting you warmer? Are they looking for your temps to increase?
Joy, your friend sounds incredibly insensitive. I assume she knows what you've been through in which case I think she's being quite mean to you. I think I'd kick her off my Xmas card list.
I haven't been back to see the dr since the failed Ivf, I just haven't been able to face it even though we were supposed to make an appointment for a follow up. I wanted to forget about clinics and Ivf for a time and I couldn't face being poked around anymore, The thing is I k kw what they're going to say, ec was done too early. Except they'll phrase it in such a way so as to free themselves of any blame. I might try to make an appointment for mid August and ill tell them I think the Ivf has broken me. We will be doing the next round mid or end of October, we have house guests early October and I can't do this with people in my space. If this next round doesn't work then I think we'll move clinics for our final attempt, that will probably be in jan. if that doesn't work then it will be time out to think about our options. FInancially, we cannot keep going with Ivf and also emotionally I think it would be time to stop then.
joy it's lovely to hear from you. How wonderful that you have funds for another go.
I might have to come and lick you - I need the magic weightloss bug! I have really piled on the pounds this year. (But more seriously, I hope you are recovered now.)
I'm also having hypno (or rather, I'm about to start), but for a different reason. I really struggle with being knocked out for EC and get myself in a right state for the lead up. I want to learn some self-hypnosis techniques to see if that helps me through. I hope my lady is less woo than yours!
Sorry for the insensitive friend. Some of the comments on this thread make me realise how lucky I am to have good friends around me who have for the most part been very tactful and supportive (and in some cases have been through it themselves).
mrsd that's probably it for holidays until the autumn. I have a huge trial coming up in a couple of months, and prep for that is going to wipe out most of the summer. We're thinking of another week in the Maldives for some winter sun though. It is the most blissfully relaxing place I have ever been.
I completely understand your desire not to be prodded and poked for a while. We are entitled to a follow up at our clinic, but I really can't be bothered.
pout not long to go now!
sea that's right - we're giving it a half-hearted go the old fashioned way this month and then we'll let the scientists loose again next month. We'll probably go natural for that cycle.
Injecting isn't as bad as you think it will be, promise. The first time is odd but then it becomes routine.
joy!! Lovely to see you again and I'm pleased to hear you are ok. You sound very sorted and doing everything you can to make the next cycle successful, and I think you should be v proud of yourself. FFS re your BF. Instadiffs still make me feel funny and rubbing it in like that is inexcusable. Your food poisoning sounds hideous! Although I too remember being pleased at the half stone I lost with my Delhi belly on returning from India. I hope Roy is ok.
Oh and I am intrigued by the hypno. I have bad claustrophobia and wondered if hypno could fix it...
Tight hand hold for euro. These dates are always hard. I hope you are ok. I was a bit wistful the other day when I realised that if ivf no 2 had worked, I'd have been due the same time as K Middy. But I do now feel like this frostie was always meant to be.
V exciting pout about Colin returning to his ancestral home next month. My FET was natural cycle, apart from progesterone support after ET. I couldn't deal with the squinting at lines during the fet, so bought those digital ov sticks instead. I have everything crossed for you.
mrsd I think it's a v good idea to wait until your house guests have gone before starting the ivf. I did nothing at all social during my cycles and just wanted to hide away at home! I too didn't have my follow up appt for ages. You will have to ask them what they plan to do to make sure they don't do EC too early again
and shout at them a bit
sea hurrah for getting through the TB treatment, you are so nearly there. I have to admit I made Mr G do my injections, but everyone else seems to get on with them fine and I reckon if I'd had to, I could have done it.
lemons hope you are doing ok and not climbing the walls with the pupo wait.
Waves to free, buzz and everyone else.
I had a massive panic the other day as there was blood when I went to the loo, but I'm pretty sure it was from a pile/fissure, which appeared to be bleeding. Nice eh? Bring on the anusol! Must try to stop thinking AF is ever lurking round the corner... I too am sick of the royal baby. Headline news for the 3rd day running FGS.
Anyway have lovely days lovely ladies!
Hello - My I join the thread? DH and I are heading into month 11 of TTC for our first, we're both early 30s.
After a chemical pregnancy around month 4 of TTC, I went to see my GP (private) and managed to get a referral to a gynaecologist as when I'd had a health check a number of years ago the doctor said I might have PCOS as an offhand remark, with no follow up. So, went through all the tests with the gynaecologist (the vaginal ultrasound was a shock ...) and was diagnosed with PCOS. But, I am apparently fertile but with a cycle all over the freaking place which makes it hard to work out times etc. DH has also been tested and had problems with damaged heads (I think?) which the Dr thought was down to heat exposure etc., so DH has had to start taking cold showers, hangs around the flat now in huge boxers to let everything breathe (poor guy - I spent the first week bursting out laughing everytime I saw him in his pants) and will have to go for more tests in a few months, to see if the boxer regime has worked.
It has been rough - although everyone has been all "it doesn't happen straight away!" we still didn't expect it to take this long. It seems friends and family are falling pregnant left right and centre all over the place. Like my best friend at work, decided to TTC a few months after us, started, stopped, started again and fell pregnant on the second cycle and is now five months pregnant. That has been REALLY rough - I'm super happy for her, but can't help thinking "it should be me". It also didn't help that there was one month when my cycle was very long (varies between 27 and 37 days) and she kept on going "I just KNOW you're pregnant, I know you are". When my period arrived, I literally spent every morning before work sobbing my eyes out.
Anyway, I thought I'd join as I don't know anyone in RL who's going through the same thing, and need to vent somewhat.
Welcome Absy! This is a lovely supportive thread, if a little quiet at the moment due to some wonderful recent successes!
This is a very tough ride. I found the 12 month anniversary tough. Bizarrely, it's easier now (I'm on cycle 33 now) as the expectation that it could happen naturally is long gone.
With regard to the PCOS, I highly recommend a book called The PCOS Handbook by Theresa Cheung and someone else. Basically, it explains the link between insulin levels and PCOS. If you are overweight, losing weight can help. Even if you are not, eating a low GI diet in order to stabilise blood sugar levels can really help. The Verity PCOS website forums are also helpful.
I was diagnosed with PCOS in my teens and had similar semi-regular cycles in my 20s (I had one every month or thereabouts but they varied by 10 days or so in length). I now try to eat sort of low GI (I am no saint) and I have had acu and try to generally be healthy and my latest scans have shown no sign of it. I'm not sure whether it is due to age or whether I have improved it through diet and lifestyle. My cycles are now very regular, btw.
Gin sorry about the bleeding panic, but I'm glad you found the cause!
Hi mrsd we had a lovely holiday. It was only a week but it was just what the doctor ordered. Roy is currently having to eat 75g walnuts each day. Its a huge amount! Every night I also mix tomato puree with a dash of olive oil and pumpkin seed oil and put it on a ryvita. Apparently there is something in tomato puree that is good for sperm. He no longer has bran flakes for breakfast but instead has porridge oats, chia seeds, pumpkin and sunflower seeds and berries. No milk (apparently contains oestrogen) just hot water. Lunch pita bread filled with some protein, watercress, rocket, spinach, red peppers, tomatoes. Basically lots of colour and salad that contains useful vitamins. Dinner i prepare a proteing with lots of green veg, some orange veg etc. We use BPA free sandwich bags and containers. There is no way i would have got him to do all this if it was me telling him. It helped it was a fertility nutritionist telling us and quite frankly we will try anything. Roy is sitting down for 16hours a day as well and she told him he has to move around because men arent designed to do that. He has lost a stone and a half and still doesnt have a normal bmp. He doesnt look overweight at all because he is so tall but he was told the combination of sitting and too much fat around the stomach is bad for sperm. I cycled with a girl and before her 2nd round she met with the nutritionist. The only thing she and her dh did differently was nutrition and count went from something like 5mil at its worst to 24mil or something. Shes convinced it was diet. Roy is on a pre-natal supplement too which contains omega 3. Im on omega 3 oil too. Listen who knows. As I say, for me I would love to be able to freeze something, to have that backup. Perhaps as they said my egg quality is not that good and this may never be possible but considering everything self destructed after day 3 when the sperm dna is suppose to take over, i wonder whether Roy has a more of an issue that we thought. Also we did have icsi and not ivf because of his motility which was a huge surprise. If his sperm can just become supersonic then i hope it will make up for any short comings on my part.
I dont blame you not rushing to do your follow up. I must say i did mine and it didnt raise anything really. I thought I would get some answers but not really. I guess for you as well, it is quite obvious what happened. they screwed up. If I was you, I would want to know what they will do differently next time to make sure they dont make the same mistake again though.
Pout you made me giggle as usual. So sorry you didnt get your flag pressed though especially as i know you had been needle and threading that all year. what a shame! Goodness, the FET is nearly upon you and thats quite nice i expect that it will be natural. Do you get another round of ivf if you need one or is it just one where you are?
Buzz to be fair im not sure about embracing other peoples pregnancies either. Its a nice idea and i have been trying it but actually it depends on who it is and whether my brain and my mood decide whether they deserve it [meow]
Lemon the wait is just truly shocking . I hope you are bearing up ok.
Gin hypno for claustrophobia sounds like it would be good. I was thinking i would ask my woman to try and nip my fear of flying in the bud. but perhaps i should concentrate on one issue at a time! Im really sorry about the panic. Thank goodness it was nothing. Anusol is my best friend right now.
Sea thats so great you have come to the end of the antibs. You have been thrown some awful curve balls. I hope the humira injection goes ok. surprised the clinic hasnt given you some help as to how to do it though. Our paths could be crossing there.
Absy welcome , welcome. I hope you have a very short time here. As Euro said the 12 month mark was really hard i remember. Many of us on here have been ladies in waiting for over 3 years now and I find it easier now...probably because I dont have to anticipate whether im pregnant eveyr month because i know it wont happen naturally! Anyway, hopefully youll get some answers soon and you wont have to wait too much longer for that bfp.
Euro you can come and lick me if you want but just a few days of proper eating and not even unhealthily has seen the pounds piling on again. Its so annoying! I think its a good idea about getting hypno for those kinds of fears. I bet your hypno will be woo though surely they all are!
That food sounds very yummy joy. Dh has quite a good diet, we eat lots of tomato based stuff. He has salad for lunch every day and puts seeds on top. I also give him a bag of nuts to eat everyday but I reckon he forgets most of the time. He probably does have too much dairy though. He has been taking a multi vitamin of for make fertility for ages now, it's never made any difference. Something that really annoys me is he still uses the sauna after swimming, I've nagged and nagged him about it and can do no more.
Abys, welcome. I first went to the doctors at 11 months, I knew that there was something wrong because family and friends hadnt taken that long. I agree with euro that the year mark was tough, amazingly it does get easier.
absy welcome to the thread
joy I think it sounds great to be happy for other people and usually I am but I am not at the embracing stage even now, tomorrow I am spending the day with an OT who is just back from Maternity leave, we had a meet up today and she spent time talking about juggling motherhood and work and talked about her child with the other OT who is also back from Maternity leave, its still painful for me as we were all due at the same time except I don't have a baby
sea It's good that you are coming to the end of your TB treatment. As for the whole IVE needles thing if I could manage it anyone can, really! Like mrsd says the first one is the worst because, well you are just so scared and freaked out by the thought of it. After that you realise that it is okay.
How is MrS bearing up?
lemons I have been thinking of you. Not long to wait now till D Day. I am rooting for you.
gin Oh God at blood panic. I'm so glad that it is just piles. Still not the kind of toilet moment that you need though.
joy So glad that you are back BTW! Your diet sounds interesting if not a little hard going. You gave me hope when you mentioned the virtues of tomatoes and puree because we eat shed loads of tomato based pasta sauces. Not sure though that it will be enough to turn MrP's sperm supersonic.
Yep, natural FET is very much a relief. By all accounts it will be very straightforward with little in the way of faffing. There are no scans or blood tests at all, just OPKs. No Progesterone support either which worried me a bit when I read that you gin did have the pessaries. Yep, this is the last chance saloon and the last chance of a funded cycle with the PCT.
mrsd Our follow up appointment after the failed cycle was pretty pointless, bordering on disappointingly vague. If anything being told that I was a little understimulated was a bit soul destroying and I'd rather have not known that.
absy Hello and welcome, may your stay be brief! Like euro said I found the the first year to 18 months the hardest and I used to cry every month my period arrived. It does get better with time. Long cycles must be frustrating. Mine are a little longer than average and I find that annoying so PCOS & very erratic cycles must be infuriating.
Well this whole royal baby thing is becoming beyond grating now. Am I the only one regularly telling the TV to f* off?
I had a seriously peeed off day yesterday. I called my grandmother only to have her outright ask me if I was pregnant yet. I could seriously kill my mother for telling the whole bloody world.
x-posted buzzy I am sorry that you had such a difficult day. Do they know your circumstances or where they just oblivious to how you might be feeling?
Joy I am so glad to her from you, a I very much remember how down you were. All the steps you are taking sound very positive. It's lovely to have you back, if we all have to be here at all that is!
Yay for impending Colin-warming, Pout. Buzzy might have some spare progesterone
Buzzy sorry you had a rubbish day. It's so hard when you are constantly reminded of past sadness.
Euro sorry you've had tough dates too. But you are so close.
Rabbit are you ok? can't remember when you last posted and I'm on phone.
Absy hello. You are in the right place while you wait.
MrsD I think your timing and plan sounds good. I've packed mine in but that's because of impending doom as far as my ovaries are concerned.
Lemon hope you are coping ok with the wait and no I don't think you are an alcoholic
Sea you must feel a bit like you are moving forward now?
So had my follow up today. MrN was very scathing of the Dr's Botox . No real surprises. Essentially they didn't recommend anything I wanted. Which was a monitoring natural cycle, and then either a LP or a natural IVF. They really thought DE was the only truly worthy path but would support whatever I wanted to do. They did suggest perhaps some implantation support given my CP, probably Heparin (?) maybe steroids and a scratch could also be considered. They are going to send leaflets out. So I think we will do one more before the end of the year, not sure when yet. There have been tears but each time I get the repeated message if just how useless my female bits are, the recovery is faster. I'm now looking forward to the point at which I never have to hear "given your AMH....". Anyway to cheer myself up there is a cake in the oven. Just not a bun.
You know on the Kate/Royal baby thing I'm strangely ok. It is so far removed from reality that it doesn't even really strike me that it is a baby. And I'm certainly not jealous of her. It is real people that make me feel a bit wobbly. But don't get me wrong, the world is mad .
pout I'll just have to suck it up, I'm not sure how much she knows to be honest, I have some progesterone I can send you if you like at your grandma
nelly on one of the other boards they were saying that clinics like ZW are not paying attention to the AHM results and are more looking at AFC, so other clinics are likely to follow, blood thinners can help with implantation along with the scratch.
lemon Thinking of you
Hmm just lost a post. Anyway it said that the problem of low AMH has already been substantiated by my poor response. Sigh...
Nelly - please don't give up. You had a cp and if you add in a few other things like aspirin, hep and steroids, this could make all the difference. I wish these docs would forget about the amh bloody tests. I was reading a thread elsewhere last night and Apparently the zita west clinic are getting rid of the test because they can't see a link between it and having a baby. And ZW use to put loads of emphasis on it. You still ovulate, you still produce eggs and in my mind that still gives you a shot.
Pout - it's annoying they can't give you some progesterone support for peace of mind. I wish they would just chuck all these things like pred and heparin at unexained people. Is it worth taking some baby aspirin as well?
I'm feeling totally spent this morning. 5 days back at work have completely wiped me out!
nelly that's annoying about the clinic. It's a shame you don't have much choice in your location.
pout my parents never talk about it, and I don't think they have told my grandparents, thankfully.
buzz that sounds tough. It's easy sometimes to think that the BFP will be the end of this, but we have all been through so much that I think there will always be psychological effects.
I had an announcement yesterday - my best friend's little brother's wife is preggo and due in November. It hit me fairly hard. It feels like the next generation is overtaking me. And the baby'll come quite close to our mc due date (23 October).
nelly my amh is supposed to be really good and I only produced two decent eggs. My clinic takes no notice of Amh except to guide choice of protocol. The fact you can make embryos must say something. I reckon it's worth another shot, but I guess at some point there is a calculation to make about whether you want to give yourself a greater chance. Donor eggs is a wonderful option and is right for many people, but it's not right for everyone and takes a lot of thought. Don't let them push you into it if you're not ready for that step.
pout Colin will soon be back in his proper home. That's wonderful that you can do it without all the drugs.
euro grr at pregnancy announcements, they seem to be coming thick and fast at the moment. Is there a baby boom in the UK? I keep reading people saying they are broody because of the royal one. It's totally alien to me that people can see a baby think I want one and then have one. I do think people don't really think enough about creating another life. I'm fed up of hearing people moan about childcare or not having a big enough house, no money etc then have another and another.
I've had a crap morning too. I've been on this thread since the start, I think joy, euro, pout too? Come on gods, play fair. It has to be our turn surely? I woke up after a dream where everyone is pregnant so felt down straight off. Then I'm putting the bins out and so is my neighbour. There it is, a humongous bump. They were on holiday, then we were so I haven't seen her in 6 weeks or so but I swear there was nothing last time I saw her and now it's a big fat balloon of a bump. I saw it and got that gut kicking feeling, was totally lost for words. I didn't even mention it, muttered hello and walked in and burst into tears. She must think I'm totally weird not to say congratulations, or wow you're pregnant etc. She'll think it's a British thing so I'll get away with it, I might never mention it. It's not fair she's pregnant. He smokes a lot so how can he have sperm that can fertilise? And they have 3 dogs and 2 cats so they shouldn't be able to have a baby too. I got into work and then my colleague is back from paternity leave and proceeds to tell us every detail of the birth. He thinks his wife is so totally amazing, she did it all with no pain relief at home and sang through the contractions. He then did a demonstration of the singing. Gah, he so nearly saw the sharp end of my letter opener. I just logged onto fb and there is a scan photo. A third baby! She's 33 and is having her third.
buzzy did barry post the scan photo in the end? I don't really have a problem with it, it's not the scan more the another announcement and reminder it's not me, but the scan is always so in your face. But yours would never bother me, I think the 10 plussers deserve to announce it in whatever way they wish because it is so wonderful and deserved.
I know what you mean about the next generation euro my cousin has recently got engaged. I'm dreading the wedding because I know a pregnancy will follow very quickly. He is still a baby to me, I remember him being born. I helped feed and change him, pushed him in the pram etc.
Thanks buzzy for the offer of the Progesterone. I did speak to the nurse about it and she said that my levels are high enough without support. I feel a bit about that but will just trust them on it.
joy I keep meaning to ask about the baby aspirin. I have a few Progesterone pessaries left, do you reckon it would be beneficial to use them anyway?
nelly I am sorry that the dreaded AMH is still dominating your thoughts. It sounds like there were some positives to come from the appointment like the scratch and heparin. Keep trucking chuck!
euro Sorry about the announcement & the crappily timed due date too. Talking of being overtaken by the new generations, I have got the fear about my nephew doing the nasty and getting some trollop diffed. He's still a teenager FFS but I just have a feeling about it.
Awww mrsd you have had the morning from hell! I say steal the diffed one's wheelie bin so you don't have to see her again in the morning & jab the annoying colleague with your letter opener.
I too feel cross about the whole royal baby boom. Not sure why exactly.
Talking of which I am officially boycotting Argos and will never buy any of their gawdy & tawdry tat again. That advert "congratulations to all the Mums and Dads" has given me the rage. If they don't want my barren buck fuck 'em.
Yuk what an awful advert that sounds pout. I'm very pleased I don't have to suffer that. I did however get an email from m&s it said to celebrate the royal baby, opened it and it was all baby items. They must have got my email from some mailing list that has me in the demographic for having a baby. Probably from all the pregnacare I buy when I'm back in the uk with my boots or tesco cards. Those card people must think I've been pregnant for 3 years.
Just a quick post to say to you, Ladies, I love you . You always say the right things, and your tales of stabbing colleagues and stealing wheelie bins had me sniggering in the toilets. Though i hate that you have had bad mornings. The fact that we can get out of bed most days, let alone bring cheer to the rest of us, makes us all super-awesome (for when only American cheerleading enthusiasm will do). And for the stabby announcements, I will steal Rabbits wisdom. Skip around the place in skimpy pants and a noticeable absence of Tena Lady. Just because you can
Don't worry about the fact old age is almost as detrimental to bladder control as shoving a baby out of your foof.
We love you too nelly! When I had my run in with the neighbour this morning the first thing I thought was i will tell you all and you will understand. No one in real life would. I told dh and he said "I hope she's not planning on a home birth, I do not want to hear that through the lounge wall"
Sorry about all the horrid announcements ladies. Sometimes they just can't be embraced as much as my hypno woman tells me too!
Pout - everyone at my clinic is put on baby aspirin as a matter of course. I remember you have excellent progesterone levels so I don't think you should let it worry you if you can't get hold of more. I would just use them though as you have them.
Thanks for the warm welcome! and thanks for the book suggestion euro - I'll have a look.
The Royal Baby stuff has been a bit rough, but I've ignored it as much as I can.
nelly its not just down to AMH, but the protocol and the clinic getting the dose right, we have similar AMH's and they managed to get 4 follies on Super Ovulation, as euro says IOTO
pout I am not sure about FET and progesterone levels as you will have a natural ovulation, it can't hurt to take them though, the same with the baby aspirin, they believe it can help with implantation
mrsd sorry about the crap morning, its like a constant slap in the face, agree with pout about the bin smile its not that long now until October for you. No Barry hasn't put the scan up, we've had a few heart to hearts, he is happy about becoming a dad and I don't feel I have the right to take that experience away from him, we are very paths through this process though.
euro that back to work feeling is crap. Where are you in your cycle ?? 18 months ago a friend of mine became a grandfather that was hard to deal with, especially since his daughter is a stupid teenager, although SS have since stepped in.
sea Glad things are moving on for you, you can probably look up injecting on utube
lemon thinking of you my lovely
rabbit hope you are ok
I spent the afternoon smiling through gritted teeth as my
immature colleague managed to talk about her marriage and baby in pretty much ever conversation, neither events have happened in the last year oh and how her husband wants to try for another baby soon and how he texts to ask her if he can go out on a Monday night [boak] thank feck she is leaving in 3 months, also as she still hasn't lost any of the baby fat bitch face emoticon
better go Kayla has become very affectionate lately and demanding lots of attention
probably needs feeding
Doll, lovely to hear how you're getting on. I love your laid back attitude, and your low key response to your bump! Hope the various arrangements go smoothly, or just go! I'm sure it will all work out, seems like things were meant to be if you believe in all that?
Lemons thinking of you and hope you're getting on ok.
Gin oh my gosh about you still checking the loo roll! I really hope you get to relax at some point, Buzzy too. What Euro said about the psychological scars of going through this seem so true, and an extra unfairness of it all. Old habits die hard I suppose, but you're both past major milestones now. Not long till they arrive!
Pout and Gin the scratch was done by inserting a plastic stick with a slightly jagged (but blunt) edge through a tube in the cervix - so like ET but rather than receiving embryos, getting a sharp short wince instead. The Dr that did it must have done similar procedures a million times, because the whole thing probably took 15 seconds!
Pout your take on Joys first hypno made me laugh. I'm jealous of you doing natural FET, they must rate your system! I'm doing a medicated one and start downregging next Tues. I'm nervous about it after all the talk on here about it sending people into black moods. I can't remember what I took last time.
Euro hope you had a fab holiday - i spent a couple of years in that country, one of my favourite places. So sorry about the significant date. It's so hard isn't it, and I agree about the next generation thing. I often feel like I've took a wrong turn and ended up on the wrong path and try as I might I just can't get back on track. It sometimes shocks me how much time has gone by. I haven't had an mc so can't understand completely but I too feel your time must surely nearly be here.
Rabbit big hugs, how frustrating - hopefully it won't affect the baseline tests too much.
Nelly so sorry for the wtf month - there's nothing worse. Hope you're ok. I agree there's every chance it will happen for you. Have you thought about trying another clinic for a consultation at least to get a second opinion? Opinions seem to vary hugely ime.
Lovely Joy! So great not just to hear from you but that you've been doing so many positive things - I'm very impressed you've turned it round from such a dark place to doing so much to help things along. You were so close,I really hope this just tips the scales in your favour. Great news about doing another round. Why are you keen on intrallipids instead of ivig out of interest? Your friend sounds thoughtless. I tend to think these days that blunt questions or comments deserve blunt responses, but it doesn't make me feel any better afterwards. Is it just because she's confident everything will work out for you therefore isn't worried about you? (clutches at straws)
Sea good news for getting started! Has someone told you to pinch a good bit of skin first between thumb and finger, either side of belly button?
Mrsden that's exactly how I feel about the being messed about with. I can deal with the drugs, the uncertainty, the thought of doing all this, but having to let strangers prod and poke my most private areas just feels emotionally like daggers in my heart. I hate hate hate it.
Welcome Absy, I agree that part where you go from normal person to one having to deal. With ishoos in this area, and accepting that its happening to you I found the hardest stage to deal with. The plus is that you know what you're dealing with relatively early on, and good on your DH for taking action! A lot of DH's need significant nagging to do stuff like that!
I too have had a shite day. A work thing didn't go we'll yesterday I don't think and have been brooding on it. Just in one of those 'I'm a failure at everything' moods. Think it is mostly fear and worry about starting next round next week.
On the subject of the royal baby, all I can say is my favourite coverage by far so far is Whoopi Goldberg
Quiet on here this weekend! Thanks for all the thoughts. I am having a head in the sand approach to being PUPO
although I have not drunk since ET, clearly not alcoholic I just got a letter from the clinic and apparantly we have 6 frosties a bit more than the 2 they told us might make it. So that is a relief as OTD looms this week. I will be ignoring the internet as much as I can, but had to share and google success rates of frosties manically
Welcome absy and come on universe, this thread does deserve a break.
Wow, lemons, that's fantastic. Hopefully this round will work for you but if not you will have your frosties. I think that was what I was most upset about with my failed round, that I didn't have anything in the freezer so I've got to start again.
Is anyone else having a down period just now or is it just me? I'd picked myself up after the Ivf and was doing really well but the last week or so I feel quite sad and a little bit angry about it all. Everyone is pregnant or has children and I really do feel left out now. I'm fed up of all this and struggling to be positive. I think I've reached the limit if my patience.
I don't think my friend is pregnant so at least I can look forward to our weekend away. I didn't ask her outright but I had a lengthy conversation with her and nothing she said made me think she was. I think theres probably going to be a späte of Second Baby announcements Sohn.
Sorry, damn autocorrect. Spate of second baby announcements soon!
On the royal thing. The only thing that bothers me is that they managed the textbook married two years then give birth thing. It's a reminder that this is how it is for most people. That thread on did anyone have sex and get pregnant is another reminder of how it is for 'normal' people.
It always makes me smile how much quieter the thread is on the weekend than during mon-fri.
Lemon that sounds like great news. Which clinic are you with again, I like their approach.
Mrsden yes I wonder if its something to do with the weather? Sunny days seems a reminder of times that should be happy. Imagine having a whole nation discussing your birth and belly though. Gah. I'm so thankful they didn't have problems, if the nation was suddenly awash with incessant conversations about the difficulties of conceiving I think it would drive me up the wall. Can remember who said they don't envy her position but I agree, the whole thing is not what I would want. I do know what you mean though.
In today's sunday times style magazine in the agony aunt column (anyone read it?) the advice she gives is about too much attention on yourself, and about the purpose of your existence causing significant unhappiness. Do you think that's part of what's hard, that you end up inevitably focusing on yourself and your place in the world? She recommends turning your gaze outwards and reminding yourself we are only specks in a universe to obtain more happiness. I might take up astronomy.
I'm not sure thinking of myself as a tiny speck makes me feel any happier
Joy, I know your hypnotherapist is right in that the best thing would be to embrace other people's pregnancies but that's a very hard thing to do. I think If you haven't been suffering with infertility it seems like good advice but I'm not sure it's that easy to do.
lemon 6 frosties is great, fingers crossed for Thursday, is that your OTD or the clinics ??
cosmos I agree about the royal birth, I would hate to be constantly judged by the public for any decisions I made, names, clothing etc etc, there life might look perfect to the outside world but I bet they still argue about mundane stuff. Thank goodness it there were no problems as we the public would have to hear all about it so when does FET begin
mrsd you seem so down my lovely, have you thought about seeing someone, like a counsellor, just to talk things through, I know I feel like a totally different person since life coaching and I don't think I would have survived IVF without it, I found that IVF was more of an emotional and psychological drain than physical
comosI haven't read the article but I can see where she is coming from, I think we as humans put alot of pressure on ourselves to meet certain levels and to reach targets in life, we feel there are certain expectations of us, sometimes from other people too that are really not obtainable, I think its more about being realistic with yourself and what you want to achieve with your life and what will make you happy.
I certainly don't give a stuff about pleasing other people, the only person I need to please is myself
I given on trying to please the cat
Hi everyone, hope you're all having lovely calm Sundays. I've been catching up on some sleep since traveling home last week.
lemon that is an amazing result with the frosties. I have everything crossed for you. When is OTD? This is an incredibly stressful time and you're managing brilliantly.
mrd it's natural to feel shit, there has been so much Royal baby stuff. It's bloody hard. October will be here before you know it, hang in there - and definitely talk to them about your cycle and concerns that they triggered you too early last time.
joy it's so nice to see you, and fantastic that you are able to do another cycle. You sound like you've been managing the aftermath of your horrible experience brilliantly. I will have everything crossed for your next round and be sending you and Roy lots of love and luck.
cosmos I was ok on downregging, I think it depends on how you react to hormones. To be honest the run up to IVF is stressful however you go about it. We'll be here for paw holding!
sea YouTube is your friend with the injections. One thing I did which helped me was to ice the area I was going to inject first with a cold pack from the freezer. And the pinching of the tummy area before you do the jab really helps, get it in the skin/fat.
pout where are you at with FET? Brilliant that you can do it with a natural cycle.
nelly don't let them push you into a step that isn't right for you yet. You are producing eggs, and it only takes one. You just haven't had the magic egg yet! Your experience last time with the chemical really makes me think it's just that you need the lucky golden egg. It's a numbers game.
Welcome absy, I hope you don't have to stay here too long. This is a wonderful safe place.
euro I am so sorry about the date. A lovely holiday sounds like a great idea, you need to have a break after the stress of your job and TTC crapness.
Sorry to everyone I've missed. Brain a bit slow today for some reason.
OTD is Thursday. Am going to continue the head in sand method, which has stood me in good stead so far. But thanks all for the good wishes. Sorry about the nice weather induced mehness. I had a tinge of that when we ended on a children-infested terrace, and the coffee was shit too, yesterday. Hand holds, lemon cake and love to you all!
Hi critters are you back in the states? I heard that you're having a bit of a heat wave over there. How are you doing?
Head in the sand sounds like a good way to get through the 2ww lemons.
Buzzy, I'm down about ttc but not about life in general if that makes any sense? I just feel impatient and fed up with the ttc stuff, and its hard coping when everyone around you finds it so easy. I think I would have counselling at some point to help me come to terms with not having children at all. But currently I don't think it would help unless the counsellor is going to wave a wand and make me pregnant.
lemons that is an amazing number of frosties, it must take the pressure off a lot. That is potentially another 3 (siblings to this successful cycle of course!) FETs.
mrsd I admit to the old feelings creeping back a bit over the last week. I was starting to process everything & feel a bit cross with myself over allowing the crap to creep back in. I think that it has been the royal baby and upcoming FET. I hate any threads that shine a light on how abnormal I am in the baby stakes. I was reading another thread and thinking how unfair it is that I will never have to think about contraception again and how abnormal that it.
cosmos I only read papers where the problem page is accompanied by a comic strip style problem scenario with photos where for some inexplicable reason all the laydees are pictured in their grundies. That or Dear Deirdre but I don't think that she would advocate pondering the Universe Seriously though I like the whole imagining we are just a speck. I do often think that I am inconsequential in the grand scheme of things and that before long I will be dead and all this infertility stuff won't mean toffee. Then I swing back into panicking that my imminent death is all very well but I will most likely die alone and perhaps not be discovered for weeks or will die in an old peoples home possibly being abused by the staff with nobody to visit and blow the whistle. I possibly think too much
buzz I did laugh at you giving up on pleasing Kayla
Pout, perhaps we should set up a 10plussers retirement home. Gin on tap.
When is the fet?
LOL@ cosmos overthinking!
Drizz 6 frosties is brilliant. Almost makes me wish I had persevered with the downregging - almost. Not long now to OTD.
critter how are you bearing up in the heat? My lot are trying to get my out to your neck of the woods in late August but I am doing my best to wriggle out of it
by refusing to go as it potentially clashes with EC and ET for IVF#3. Even if it narrowly misses it, the stress of worrying about the possibility of a clash will be unhelpful. So my next visit might be a while off - maybe I'll even get to meet mini critter then!
mrsd I agree that you do sound very unhappy recently. I don't know what the answer is. I didn't find my counselling session at my old fertility clinic helpful, but I do use acu as a sort of "downloading" session and that seems to be good for me.
Euro, would you ever consider doing a full cycle of Ivf with downregging? Or will you stick with natural? I'm interested to see what my clinic suggests this time. Is your weight gain water retention? I found I was a little bloated after the cycle but I think it was water rather than fat. I'm back to my usual weight now.
I think it's pretty impossible not to feel unhappy about this all isn't it? Or am I unusual?
MrsD when you say you're not down about life in general, would you say you're happy about most other areas of your life? I find it seeps into my view of everything. Gin on tap sounds great.
Pout lol with the over thinking! Glad it's not just me with the crazy thoughts. I sometimes find the only way to stop worrying and get some sleep is to imagine my imminent death (usually with 6 months notice so time to do some cool stuff first). eek. And yes what is it with the pictures of laydees in their grundees on problem pages?! Often while on the phone
Critter and Buzzy thanks lovelies for the advice. I start downregging on tues so ET should be end aug.
Lemon thurs isn't long. How are you feeling, or shouldn't I ask?
Euro would you stick to natural cycle no matter what the clinic say next time do you think?
Cosmos, eek your cycle is almost here, wishing you loads of luck.
It does seep into other areas but I try to separate it. Work keeps me busy and when I'm working I rarely think about it, except when colleagues talk about singing contractions. I have a very happy marriage and I'm so grateful for that because I can see how ttc could tear couples apart. We have a very good lifestyle, partly because we have no real responsibilities. generally, Life is good. Except for the lack of baby part, and its when I think about that that I get down. Or when I think about the future.
pout there is no pleasing the furry one she has been very affectionate lately, if you die at home your dogs will be loyal and stay with you, if I die at home my cat will eat me when do you start with OPK's ??
euro I think clinics offer the one counselling session as its a requirement that they need to fill, I don't see the point in one session
mrsd I just don't like to think of you so sad, as critter said it will soon be October I was fed up with the whole TTC thing not so much life, but I found that it did affect other aspects of my life, what I got out of it was that even if IVF didn't work I had other plans in place and that I knew would be OK if I was childless as I had a very happy marriage and I wouldn't be without. It helped that my LC had been in my shoes, she chose to be childless in the end and didn't try IVF.
critter Glad you are home safe
Thanks MrsD. That sounds very balanced to me, I'm glad you can appreciate other things. At least this way, we've still got it all to come. ?
mrsd I am a "never say never" kind of person but I would say that a full short protocol cycle is more likely than trying downregging again. For now we will stick with natural.
I think I've said on here before, I didn't realise how empty and sad I had been feeling until those few short weeks of pregnancy before my mc. I feel the same as you that I have a lot to be grateful for (strong marriage, interesting job, stable finances, etc). But there is definitely something missing.
Mine is definitely chub rather than water retention, but it does seem to be shifting now, albeit very slowly. I hope to get back in the 9s before cycle 3 (which would mean losing 2 lbs in the next 2 weeks). Most of it was gained when preggo/during the mc when I was trying to eat well as I felt so week, plus comfort eating cos I was mizz.
cosmos we have a follow up consultation just as my next period will be due (marking the start of the next cycle). I could be persuaded to do a mild cycle. Mr euro is actually more anti than I am. I guess he is the one who has to live with me on the drugs. Also, the closest we have come was on the fully naturally cycle, so it seems logical to go back to that. We will see what they say though. I think they are unlikely to recommend a conventional cycle, as the clinic marks itself out by specialising in natural/mild.
buzz my counsellor was rubbish. She just sort of head-tilted and sympathised but said nothing useful at all. I might as well have spoken to Mrs Jones down the road. I suspect you are right, that the provision of the counsellor is just box-ticking.
euro the fact they only give you one free session shows how little clinics place emphasis on the emotional and psychological affects of the IVF process
Nelly I am so sorry you didnt feel you got the answers you wanted at your follow up. DE does sound like a very big step. How do you feel about it? Sounds like maybe there are other things you can do like the scratch and steroids before DE? I think its all very well to listening to the professionals but we have to be comfortable to take these steps. Your bits are not useless at all. Really none of us know why this is so difficult. A big hand hold to you and MrN.
Pout Yes only 1 more month of antibiotics to go. I cant wait Thanks for asking after MrSea. He is doing better. We spent a few days with MIL and when we were leaving it was v sad and there were tears all around. So hard to see MrSea crying so much as he isnt really very emotional. He is v worried about mum for obvious reasons. How is MrP doing? I am the same re the royal baby. I am not jealous at all but really cannot handle the constant coverage. Its too much. I feel for you re family members telling others about our private business. MIL is exactly the same.
Lemons Well done on the frosties. Thats excellent. I hope you wont need them though Fingers and toes crossed for Thursday
Cosmos totally agree with you about royal baby coverage. Who cares?
MrsD I totally understand how you feel. Its normally to feel that way after what you have been through. It is hard to keep our spirits up after all this time but it really does come and go I find. I find myself like a yoyo up and down. Some days I feel really okay and then some small thing will trigger off feelings of sadness and angry. Be gentle on yourself. I cant agree more with you about the royal baby news and people who havent been through long term TTC really think it is that easy ie you snap your fingers and you get preggers and you fit it in when it suits you. I am similar to you in that I am really quite happy with life outside of TTC. A big hug to you.
Absy welcome to the thread. Hope your stay is a short one and that you find it supportive and informative. I feel for you I think the 1 year mark does make it difficult however there stats of falling pregnant naturally is okay after 1 year. Keep trying! But you are doing the right thing getting tests done and kicking the AC ball rolling. Hopefully you wont need it though.
Critter How are you? Nice to hear you. Hows it all going? When is the next scan and are you feeling good? Glowing?
Gin And you? Sorry you are still checking for AF Hopefully as time goes on you will feel more confident that all is well. I really hope it becomes more stress free very soon.
Buzzy Totally agree that clinics dont really take counselling seriously at all. Nothing more than a tick box exercise for them.
Euro Its good to concentrate on the positive. You have had a terrible time of it and of course these dates dont make things any easier.
Joy So nice to have you back on thread. Yes I was surprise clinic didnt help at all about Humira injection. They basically told me I just have to read the instructions and figure it myself. I think they do teach sessions for IVF related injections but when you are still figuring out your immunes stage you are really not priority. Dont get me wrong I think they are right but it has been difficult as I really have no clue about injecting anything. When do you plan to do your next cycle? Sept or Oct?
Not much going on here. I am fretting about my 1st humira injection on Tuesday. Was okay until I came across forum of people who use it all the time for crohns and arthritis. Seems like these injections really hurt mainly because they are very cold or something. I have watched a lot of Youtube videos and I guess I just have to go for it! I know how pathetic I sound by the way but just very nervous. Embarrass I am such a wimp.
Woohoo lemons! 6 frosties is amazing and bodes well for the quality of those onboard . Hope you're not going too nuts in the 2ww.
mrsd I think it's v normal to feel sad after a failed ivf. I know I certainly did. In fact, all last summer I felt crap about it and only started to feel better during autumn, until the pre ivf appointment plunged me back into ttc despair. The only advice I can give is to keep busy and plan lots of treats. And remember infertility is a very hard thing to deal with. I think the fact that we're all generally sane and carrying on with our normal lives, whilst dealing with all the ttc shite is amazing.
pout positive thoughts about Colin! You stand a v good chance of it working. And can I come to the gin laden old people's home?!
euro I doubt the clinic would recommend LP. And I do believe their propaganda about it not being necessary for most people, depending on your fertility issues. I got 12 eggs on the mild SP and am sure you would end up with similar no.s, having got 4 eggs with just a few day stims. I have to admit that I've never once regretted not doing conventional ivf - the mild def felt right for me and was as much as I was willing to put my body through.
nellie grrr at your bloody clinic. Do what is right for you. I felt I had to exhaust all options (or do as much as we could afford) before moving onto donor sperm. And you were so so close last time with the CP.
sea sorry the thought of the injections are scaring you. I am a massive massive wuss and I managed, so you will be fine. Could you take it out of the fridge an hour before you do it, so it warms up? I found using a non- fridged needle on refrigerated drugs helped. Would this be an option? You will be fine though!
critter and buzz are you both feeling a bit better now? I'm so relieved my nausea has buggered off!
Waves to cosmos, joy and everyone else. rabbits hope you are ok. And mad - you've not been here for a while. Hope you are enjoying your hols!
The counselling thing is interesting. We took up the clinic's 1 free session after our first failed ivf and the woman was bloody brilliant! She's totally separate from the clinic, based in Harley St, originally trained as a midwife and specialises in infertility counselling. She made me feel like everything I was feeling was totally normal (and pointed out what a traumatic atypical experience I'd had in ivf!) and like I wasn't going nuts. Mr G didn't find it so helpful... By the 2nd cycle I'd developed my own coping techniques (mostly trashing the Zita west DVD that made me stupidly attached to the embies), so didn't go again. However if we'd been looking at a totally child free future after everything had failed and if we couldn't have adopted, I'd have been banging on her doors again!
Speaking of me being mental, joy would you be able to PM me your hypno's details? I really would like to get over my claustrophobia! I too hate flying partly cos of the enclosed space and partly cos of the crashing and dying thing!
Just over a week until my next scan, eeek. Am much preferring this cooler weather, although I'm still struggling with insomnia, but think I feel more normal
not quite so mental now I'm not bastard hot all the time!
gin I'm glad you are feeling a little better now it's cooled down a bit.
You got a great result from a mild cycle. You're probably right that I'd produce a decent number of eggs too. I don't seem to have any issues on that front. Do you remember which day you started stimms on your mild cycle?
Interesting what you say about the counsellor. I don't feel the need for it at the moment, but maybe our clinic's person is much better than the last one I tried.
sea what I always tell myself with stuff like that is that the pain really isn't going to be that bad. Probably equivalent to catching your finger on a staple in a magazine or something. And with that you'd probably just swear, hold it/suck it for a second and not give it another thought. The only difference here is the anticipation - you know it's coming. But I find if I can contextualise the amount of pain, it bothers me much less.
AFM, I'm not sure what's going on. I think I might have ovulated on Friday, but the signs aren't as clear as they used to be.
Sea, gin has good advice about taking the injection out the fridge a short time before so that its not super cold. I'm sure the worst it will be is a stinging sensation and it will only last a few seconds while the liquid goes in, a matter of seconds that is all. I counted to 5 and concentrated on that the it was over. The thought really is worse than the reality. Also, I'm sure people sometimes like to exaggerate on forums (not this one though!)
Euro, I'm not the best advert for mild because of my poor haul. But, I think this was only because I started on a lower dose than prescribed because of the mix up at the chemist and then ec was mistimed. I produced 7 eggs but only two were mature. My clinic prefers to do the short version because they think its easier on the body and higher egg quality. I must say that physically it was absolutely fine and it was so quick. I started swimming on day 3 but I think I probably should have started in day 2.
mrsd I think that it is totally normal for infertility to make you feel unhappy even though all other aspects to your life are good. In some ways I find the fact that MrP and I are in a happy & healthy relationship, that we have a nice, clean & ordered home and generally are good decent people with lots to be grateful for makes not being able to have a family even more difficult! I think that it is so unfair because we would (probably) make such good parents and so many parents aren't. I had a massive judgey pants moment on Saturday when in Greggs disclaimer, we were buying a loaf of bread not a sausage roll! and there was a little girl in there with her Mum and her hair looked like it hadn't seen a comb in weeks. I felt really sad for the little girl and really angry with the world and the randomness of procreation.
euro I think you must do what you feel is right about the IVF protocol. You are no dummy and you have extensively researched it so go with your gut.
I am so pleased (in a weird way) that you mention your ovulation signs not being as clear as they used to be. Ditto & I hate it.
sea I am sorry that MrS is still finding things tough. That is only natural and I expect the shock of the reality of things are beginning to hit home. I don't think that it has hit MrP yet probably because he lives away from his family.
Awww I feel for you about the fear of the injections. I was the same and worried to death about it for weeks to the point of giving myself headaches. I found it helped for me to almost go into a detached state and I think it definitely helped to take myself off into the kitchen without MrP to inject myself. I didn't want any kind of well mean't cheering on or helpful interjections! Also try and control your breathing. I would take a deep long breath while I injected and then as I was plunging the syringe deeply exhale. Honestly it will be fine. I used to feel faint when I had blood tests so for me to say self injecting is okay means it really is!
cosmos You made me laugh when you said about thinking about your imminent death to calm you down but only if you had 6 months notice! I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who has wacky thoughts when trying to get off to sleep.
euro Your LC sounds ace. MrP and I were commenting on the fact that we had to sign forms saying how we had been offered counselling when the fact is it hasn't been mentioned at all. We anticipate that at the end of the FET cycle we will be sent off with a leaflet on adoption and a price list of their privately funded IVF treatments with still no mention of a counsellor.
gin Of course you can join our retirement home I did laugh at you trashing your Zita West CD. That is class
Waiting to start the OPKs on Wednesday and feeling a bit anxious about missing ovulation, it being an no ovulation month blah, blah. Sometimes I think I like to worry
Hi ladies, some interesting chat.
Cosmos sorry to hear about your crap Friday. I also think there is a lot to be said about focusing too much on oneself. I keep being told I need a puppy so I can think and care for something else. Do other people on here who have animals, found it has helped ??
IviG is a blood product and it is taken from about 50 different people. The chances of catching anything nasty is remote but still there is that possibility. The cost is also sickening (£1500 a go) and it takes 4 hours to administer. Intrallipds is basically eggs and olive oil i believe and it costs £350 a go but actually Buzz tells me you can source it from abroad and it costs less. But it only takes about an hour to administer it. The sheer stress of the cost of ivig left me in tears especially as I was having it yet there were signs that my hcg levels werent playing ball. At the time, no one could tell me whether that was my immune system perhaps attacking my pregnancy or whether it was a chromosome issue. The trouble was, I spoke to a couple of women whose hcg levels dropped but after having ivig the hcg rose again and it saved the pregnancy.
Lemon amazing that you got 6 frosties. That should fill you with a lot of confidence. Keeping everything crossed for you.
Mrsd the down periods come and go. Someone on here said I sounded sorted last week but I was having a particularly miserable day when i read that! I was full of panic and anxiety about the future , I couldnt think of anything positive and for some reason that day it took a hold of me. The next day I was super chirpy. I honestly dont remember having these emotional swings before ttc.
Pout as ever i found i started laughing at your post about before long being dead and so all this stuff will mean nothing and then subsequent abuse in an old peoples home It probably wasnt meant to be funny but I think it was just relief as I think like that too...a lot! Pout we all like to worry, everything is a worry in this process but you wont miss ovulation. Also, talking of bad parenting. I was curtain twitching yesterday and watching our grim neighbours, get your fing arse up here and watch the baby...she shouted to her 12 year old son. This was the same mother who shouted out the window to the same kid several weeks ago and said, dont forget your condoms!. Hes 12 for crying out loud.
Sea have i missed something, what has happened to MrSea and why has he been crying? Also there were some injections that I was warned were supposed to be very stingy and I was terribly scared about doing them. I reckon the key is to ice the area first. Just keep an ice cube on the patch for 30 seconds so it goes numb. Honestly it works a treat and if humira is cold, it cant be colder than an ice cube so perhaps you wont notice.
Gin - Ill send you details but I think you may have trashed her on one of your ZW cds so she probably wont be for you! Is this your 21 week scan?? Cant believe how quickly it has gone.
joy at the the cost of IVIG I din't realise it was that much, how often do they recommend it. YES pets do make a difference, there have been some interesting case studies on it, one involved children with serious disabilities, it was amazing to see the changes in the children, I wouldn't be with out my furry little princess she has made such a difference as she gave me something else to focus on no time to worry about me when she needs fussing feeding playing with brushing etc, she has been great company while Barry has been away. they are a great distraction and you can hold them done and listen to your worries
Trashing a zw cd sounds like excellent therapy. I can't believe you're half way through, I don't suppose it had gone quickly for you.
Joy, there was an article in the fail a few weeks ago about the intralipids. The up and down moods sounds familiar. I think it's probably hormone related for me, I feel much worse in the second half of my cycle. Your neighbours sound delightful.
Pout, I have become quite judgy about parenting. It's hard not to think that you would be doing a much better job. I know we'd be good parents and that makes it hard when you see such awful parents around.
Gin, you're spot on. We are all amazing. considering what we've each been going through we are doing just fine and manage to paint a smile on for the world.
Gin at thrashing the ZW CD
I am glad the counselling worked for you. Glad you are feeling better in the cooler weather. I am excited for your scan!
Euro thanks for that. I think contextualising the pain will definitely help me.
MrsD Thanks for the advice. I think I can only leave the injection out for 10 minutes max but letting it warm up will help I am sure. I am with you about poor parenting I cant help it but see it around me all the time junk food, smoking in front of kids etc etc.
Pout Not long now until you start your FET. I am sure ovulation will be fine. Thanks for the tips about injecting. As for MrP, at some point it will probably hit him. Death is tough to deal with but everyone does it differently. MrS also lives far from his folks. I think thats what makes him worry about MIL all the more. He was v close to FIL and they spoke on the phone most days. Its sad to watch him as he has always been a very happy and optimistic person. I cant help but feel hes lost his spark somewhat. I just hope he recovers. I feel a lot of pressure about the upcoming IVF. I feel it has to succeed, as our family needs some good news soon. Not sure thinking this way is healthy but its what I am feeling.
Joy I totally understand why the cost of IVIG would stress you out. It is so hard to know whether you should just take the docs advice or insist on alternatives. I have read about IVIG and Intralipids, the latter seems to have a good reputation and the lower cost definitely makes it more appealing. When I found out about my high cytokines I thought about insisting on intralipids instead of Humira (what was recommended) but MrSea told me to just listen to the clinic. Its tough to know what to do when you know another option is also used in other clinics and is much cheaper. You have been through so much. You are so right about the up and down-ness of TTC. One day great. One day devastated. Re MrSea, My FIL fell on holiday and passed away v suddenly. Its been a difficult month here at home.
Thank you all for your advice about injecting. I couldnt sleep last night and send a late night email to my clinic. I basically said that I felt it was wrong that they expected me to inject without ever having done it before and just read the instructions myself. They have now agreed to do my first injection with me on Wednesday which I feel much better about. I am sure I will be fine once I have been shown!
Other than that its been quite a worrying time as MrSs company is restructuring again. MrS is worried about job which means I am also worrying about him. I really hope its nothing to be concerned about but it will be the last thing we need on top of FILs passing and the upcoming IVF.. Please please let it all be okay.
Sorry for the moan ladies. Just needed to let of f steam as its been a tense period. Thanks for listening and for the support lovely 10 plussers
Sea / I am just so sorry to hear about your FiL. How awful for you all and alongside everything else. I also hope the restructuring doesn't affect MrSea but what a worrying time. You are really being hit with a lot of bad luck right now and some tough times. I am sorry. I am pleased the clinic are going to help you with your injection.
Buzz - I must say I am always happy around my parents dogs and I think it would really help if we had one. I don't see it happening though whilst we are in a poky flat with no garden. The cost of ivig was awful and I was having my immunes tested every 3 weeks. It's difficult to know if there is any truth in it.
I really miss having pets. They give so much. As soon as we move to a more suitable house, we will definitely get one. Probably a cat as two owners who work full time would make dog ownership too tricky (plus not really fair on the dog).
Sea, I'm sorry you have had such a tough time.
A quick post from my burrow, I've fallen off mn and wanted to say hello. Particularly to joy - I missed you loads! Also thinking of lemon. And everyone, a catch up post will follow at some point. My family are here from overseas and there have been other non family things that have happened that have been very stressful and complicated but not for public forum, much as I'd like to outpour. In fertility news my clinic list our notes and we missed the pct funding approval meeting by one day. Horseshit. The waiting continues after 1000 phone calls trying to sort it. Day 30, no af, no idea if I've ovd, thermometer is lost. I don't think I did though and have no idea when I might get my period. Having babies around is leaving me no time to read or write but thinking of you all lots. It's also making me desperate for ivf to work, sea your post really resonated.
Bye for a bit.
*lost our notes. Muppets.
Oh not more admin shyte! This really is too much.
And sorry to hear about the things you can't talk about on a public forum. I hope it all gets a bit easier soon.
Helloooo lovely ladies,
Sorry not popped on here for a good week. Work stuff is getting crazy and other (non bad) stressful home stuff has been taking up every minute of my day.
It seems busy on here at the moment and I apologise in advance if I don't manage to fully catch up.
Joy -welcome back. I am in awe of all your new strategies and special diets and treatments. You go girl! Do not give up, be kind to yourself and allow space for other things, yes, but don't give up. Hooray for another round. But remember you have both natural and assisted conception options open to you. A pet is a wonderful idea. By the way I am a real advocate for taking time away from the thread for those of us who are long timers. It does give new perspective when it feels that you literally cant do any more and are getting beyond miserable. Everyone here should remember that there is nothing bad in taking a mental break sometimes.
Cosmos- good luck for fet and sorry for the stressy feelings. I do think you have good egg and embryo quality!! Lady luck just hasnt been on your side so far. Don't give up sweetie.
Gin - oh my goodness, more scary bleeding. i am sorry but it does sound like piles are the culpret. My glamerous new features incude massive thread veins and scabby skin.
Nelly - oh sweetheart, that recent consultation must have sent you in to the glooms. I am sorry. Try to remember the clinic want an outcome, a box to tick. Donor egg is a brilliant option a la buzz and can yeild fast and wonderful results but isn't necissarily the right option for you if you dont feel in your heart that is where you are at. So if you want to keep trying with your top grade embryos, knowing you have had a cp (showing implantation does work), then you go for it. I know finances will become a barrier but biologically speaking you can come up with the goods. is a change of clinic worth a shot? There is some research to show the change in itself can boost sucess rates. You will be a mum my lovely.
Sea - it is still such early days for mr s after his loss. The last thing you need is the stress of a possible restructure at work. Well done for being proactive about the injections. Not training you themselves is borderline negligent and looks like dodgy ground. So well done and tight hand squeeze for the next few weeks.
Rabbit - this admin cock up is not acceptable. Flaming norah, what is wrong with these people. But I know you will fight to get this corrected. Sorry for the other stressers. Im sorry for the awol ovulation too. I guess this is more proof that you did miscarry last month.
Euro - I am sorry that you felt a little sad just recently around the 6 month point. I think it took me a good 18 months at least to truely come to terms with my miscarriage. I don't think many women can identify with that as most other women do conceive again fairly quickly. So the ongoing grief that we feel post mc is not well known about if that makes sense. You do right to focus on your next round. Your chances are excellent.
Buzz and critter - hope you are both well and the nausea/indigestion is easing.
Den - aw sweetheart, I am truely sorry that you feel so fed up. I have 100% been in your shoes. There really isn't any magic remedy or words that make it feel alright. Yes, a happy relationship, a good home and job etc are all wonderful things but that doesn't make you any less entitled to deeply want a baby which is a normal need and want for so many women. You are allowed to feel hurt, distressed and frustrated as wanting a family is a huge deal. Right now you are grieving for what you have been through, are going through and still have to go through. This isn't a ship we can just jump off when we have had enough. We are stuck with it until it resolves itself, that is a heavy heavy burden. And one that most other people will never have a clue about. The level of stress and torment is akin to any huge life event (death, medical treatment, divorce) etc etc yet we are expected to soilder on with life. You do have hope. The fact that your stimming and ec treatment was badly managed means you can expect a better result next time. Is moving clinics an option for you? Be very very kind to yourself. Feel the pain in your heart, it wont go away overnight but distraction is very very important. Cinema, film at home, exercise, plan a dinner party, etc etc. Your time will come den.
So sorry if I missed anyone or anything big.
Nothing new here to report. Like gin just waiting for my 21 week scan very shortly, I still have no bump but have started wearing mat clothes as I am chubbier and have lost my waist so normal clothes do dig in.
Luffs to you all. Xxx
Euro I think it has made me lose my marbles a little bit.
Rabbit. Nice to hear you but sorry you have had a hard time of late. The admin delay is just unacceptable. As if you don't have enough to deal with. A big hug to you. Hope it gets resolved soon.
Thanks Joy and Euro. I'm keeping my chin up. Hoping for the best.
Sar. So good to hear from you. 21 weeks almost gone. That's excellent news. I bet you are glowing.
Waves to all. Rainy where I'm today. A shock to the system. Got so used to lovely weather.
Sorry for spotty posting.
lemon this is the hardest bit. You are nearly there, keep going! I have high hopes for you and your six frosties must be a comfort - a family of Victorian proportions!
rabbit sorry that you're having a rough time. I hope the family visit is providing distraction in a good way, not a stressful way.
joy it is a rollercoaster and it's hard to be 'sorted' about something as exhausting as TTC. I felt like I had this massive unresolved thing hanging over me, and the only way to manage it was to distract myself from it. It's a horrible limbo. And it's awful that financial considerations come into play too. As if it wasn't bad enough just the emotional toll.
sea I am so sorry to hear that things have been so rough, poor MrS. What a pile of crap you've been through. It must be your turn for some good luck, come on universe! I'm shocked that the clinic didn't show you how to do the injections. Mine gave me a tutorial, which I didn't fully take in at the time, but at least it was something. Good for you for contacting them.
cosmos the scratch sounds ouchy but if it works, then it will totally be worth it. I have everything crossed for your FET.
sar sorry to hear about the thread veins, but yay, you're over half-way there! I can't believe it, when I think about how low you were in January. It's just wonderful.
euro a pet sounds like a great idea. I love cats but am allergic to them. One day, when we have a garden, I'd love a dog. Sorry that you aren't coming out to DC for a bit, but yay that it is for such a good reason. The more you can minimise work stress with everything else you're going through, the better.
buzzy hope you're feeling better and the nausea is settling. Mine is much better now apart from the odd dry retch at stinky smells or when I have to take my vitamins.
den I am so sorry you're having such a shitty time. I loved the sunset photo you posted on FB - how beautiful. I wish I could say something to make it better - other than that I am positive that you will get there. I just wish you hadn't had to suffer for so long.
nelly a big hug to you. sar has better words than me, you are going to be a mum. One step at a time and don't feel rushed into anything you aren't ready for. Your embies are top notch, quality not quantity!
Sorry to those I've missed. All's well here. Nothing to report - I am 15 weeks tomorrow and don't look much different, apart from a pot belly (which I had at the start thanks to IVF and OHSS bloating) and spots. Oh and a hairy belly, nice, which luckily noone but me can see. I can't feel anything yet and am just chugging along. It's actually cooled off here which is lovely - it's in the high 20s rather than the mid 30s, and the humidity seems to have gone - almost unheard of in late July. I've been travelling loads for the last six weeks and am looking forward to a calm August.
sea so sorry that you have got additional work worries, what crappy timing. I hope that it all resolves itself soon. I am sure that MrS will get his spark back. It will just take time to get to the other side of the tunnel he is in right now.
It's great that the clinic have finally agreed to give you some kind of instruction on your injections. That must make you feel a bit happier.
rabbit I am so angry on your behalf that you are dealing with yet more cock ups. Haven't they messed you about enough. I am sure it will be sorted but you so don't need the hassle.
I am sorry also to hear that you have other stresses too. Chin up!
sar Oh no at scabby and veiny. I can sympathise with the scabby business. I have a boily type spot on my chin that just wasn't going so in my wisdom I decided that it needed drying out. My preferred means to do this wasn't spot cream or toothpaste or anything sensible like that. No, I decided that the best course of action was to sit for half an hour with a cotton pad soaked in neat Dettol pressed against it. The result is now what was an unsightly canker is now a more unsightly canker surrounded by a ring of vivid purpley/grey, shiney, wrinkly skin akin to a chemical burn the size of a 50 pence piece. I have managed to simply signpost the original boil so that anybody within a 10 metre radius of me can spot it with absolute ease.
[excited face] at you being in maternity clothes
joy My dogs have been a major source of comfort and when I have been veering towards slumping into a full scale depression have given me the kick up the bum to keep going not least to make sure that they are walked and kept company. My only reservations are two fold. One I think that because of the barreness I am probably too attached to them and am absolutely terrified of when they die probably more so than if I had children. Second, as much as I adore them and wouldn't be without them for the world, MrP and I have pondered on the fact that not having children we would have so much more freedom (and cash!) if we had never got the dogs. Because of the dogs we don't seem to have the benefits of the infertility booby prize of "no ties", "freedom and Gucci handbags applenty" so often bandied about as comforting words (and we could live in a flat and pay less rent!). However that said I would NEVER swap them for anything whispers not even a babybee
x-post critter 15 weeks wow! at a hairy tum. No crop tops then for you!
pout sudocrem is your friend with spots - I'd try it on the burn... it seems to calm them down without massively drying them out, in a good way. The thought of me in a crop top right now is horrifying. It wasn't even a good look for me the last time I tried it, circa 1994. Thank goodness I'm in a conservative (read - stodgy) city where that look isn't in style!
Lemon - The six frosties sounds so promising. I really hope that this is your cycle.
Sea - Huge hug and a cup of tea. It really pours sometimes, I am so sorry things have been so hard lately.
Euro - I definitely dont know what I would do without my kitty and dog. They make great company. I agree that a cat is best when youre both working lots of hours.
Critter - 15 weeks already! I also had to at the hairy belly. I have only been a bit spotty with nails growing at an out of control speed (so far). Have you had a scan yet? They checked my ovaries (at nearly 13 weeks) during mine and didnt find the cysts I was wondering if this had also happened to you.
Sar - Im glad everything is progressing so well. Sorry you have been so busy, has the tiredness/exhaustion of early pregnancy worn off for you yet?
Gin - The bleeding sounds like it would be terrifying. I am a bit of a fool and freaked out when I had a little after wiping mine was from piles. 21 weeks! Youve passed the halfway point - that is amazing!
Rabbit - Im sorry about the recent stresses.
Sea - Good for you insisting that they help you with the first injections. I agree with you and do think its wrong to force someone with no experience to play with a needle at home if they are not comfortable with it.
Joy - Welcome back. I hope the time away gave you the time you needed to start healing - you have been through quite a lot in the past year. I find having pets has helped me enormously, they are always there for you and provide you with a ready made activity that you must accomplish (walking, playing fetch etc) I find these activities helped me shut off and focus on something other than my fertility ishoos.
Buzzy - I hope all the sickness youve been feeling has started to wear off.
Pout and MrsD - I understand being a bit judgy about other peoples parenting Mr.Grouch started being a bit angry about the randomness of procreation at some point during the infertility investigations. He just couldnt believe how unfair it was that some people (namely a relative who was having children removed from their care) could procreate repeatedly.
I have been kept off of mn with family emergencies (someone in intensive care and another seems to be starting dementia), power outages and work craziness Id like to apologize about the almost non-existent posting in recent weeks. Also to anyone I may have missed in my attempted catch up post.
AFM, other than the family stresses everything is going well. I am waiting for the call from the hospital for my 20 week scan, apparently they occasionally give as little as 24-hours notice (twiddles thumbs). Ironically, we received our fertility diagnosis during the last visit with the ob/gyn: low fertility due to male morphology issues and polycystic ovaries.
Just a quick one as you've dropped off my convos. Lots to say and hugs aplenty but for now I am . It's so silly but just got a + on an OPK (cheapy version, I have squinted at it to try to decide I colours match) but it was backed up by smiley digital face.
Ok so not a BFP but the only other times I've tried to use them they have been stubbornly blank. I'm pleased because a) I'm not stupidly broken and b) I read my body properly.
The downside is MrNelly is currently out then away at stupid o'clock tomorrow for 36 hours. FFS!
Anyway I've had a clinic thought too. Will post later x
Euro - sounds like a good plan to me. Like you say, you know it worked before so makes sense to think along those lines again. It sounds like overall you've been quite happy with the clinic apart from admin nightmares?
Sea hope the first injection went ok. Sorry to here of MrS being so upset, that must be really hard.
Hi Gin and Sar, good luck for your next scans. Are you a bit tempted to book a private one every week money no object just to keep staring at him / her? Gin, loved the therapy recommendation of trashing Zita west DVD!
Critter I did laugh at the hairy belly. Glad things still going well. I like that success story people hang around still, makes it still seem possible!
MrsD re the doing EC too early, you're with ARGC aren't you? I read of someone on another thread who was with them and she had EC really early and ended up with 2 eggs rather than the predicted 7 or 8 - is it their policy do you think to try to get the leading ones at the right time? It has crossed my mind (and quickly pushed out again) that this FET will most likely be with eggs that i probably wouldn't have produced on my own as they were numbers 4 and 5 on that particular round. Who knows whats the best way round, glad i don't work in this field.
Pout I'm with you at the randomness of procreation and seeing kids who look like they're not being properly looked after.
Joy that's interesting about the intrallipids vs ivig. I had intrallipids with the last round and was wondering if ivig would help me any better. But when I saw MrS he said in his clinic he does mostly intrallipids now because of cost and comparable success rates. I have seen a quite convincing study online though about ivig giving increased pg rates. That cost is unbelievably high though.
Buzzy how did your organise your intrallipids? Through Mr S's clinic or elsewhere?
Rabbit hope you're ok?
Nelly, yah to ovulating all by yourself - see, your system still works and obvs thinks your eggs are still ace and worth pumping out!
I do wish I was a pet person sometimes, i like the idea of them. Shame i'm terrified of anything non-human (and quite a few humans too!). Dogs are good for my fitness though - when i go running i frequently have to sprint to get away from a stray dog! Isn't it funny how dogs go towards people who are scared of them? i'm a dog magnet. I have been bitten on a number of occasions if that justifies my phobia somewhat to you pet-lovers. Maybe i should try the hypnotism!
Anyway, I went and had my down-reg injection today - was all fine just 1 injection in my bum, now nothing until about day 3 or 4 of next cycle when i go in for scan. Sweet girl in the clinic called me 'young' and my embryos 'lovely'. I know she says it to everyone but i lapped it up all the same . I had a quick chat with a girl in the waiting room. No pleasantries, just straight to the point - what kind of cycle, where where we at with it all, number of years trying - just the kind of vital stats you share with a stranger, you know.
Cosmos - I hadn't quite registered you were down ragging for the FET. That is hard work. Anyway glad you are off and away. Will tou do intrallipds again? Oh and dogs smell fear. My mother is a dog lover but after a run in with am Alsatian when she was a kid she is terrified of them. And some how she can walk past one and they will always go for her. I remember this one chasing her down the street and pinning her by the throat up against a wall. It's quite weird!!
Cosmos - are you expecting a boy I wonder? Aren't hairy bellies an indication of more testosterone and hence a boy?
Sweet - wow 20weeks already . Goodness I find other people pregnancies go fast.
Nelly - yippee at the positive opk. I understand that feeling and have danced in the loo on several occasions when I have got a positive.
Pout /- dogs are special. I remember when our dog was sick and we were told there wasn't long left, such was my despair that i proclaimed if she went I was going with her. ( I was 18 as well Also I don't see a problem being attached to an animal. People can over indulge their kids so why not pets?
Rabbits lovely - so sorry to hear about tough time. I hope you are ok. Sorry for shocking admin as well, it's enough to drive one crazy and adds so juch stress. Roy waited 4 months for a hospital appt today. Took the whole morning off work. Got there and was told there was nothing they could do because he hadnt had am MRI scan. So he was sent away.
Sar - wow 21 weeks as well. Does it feel real yet?
I had a really really weird experience in hypno today. My eyes went in to this weird chronic fluttering mode and I was aware it was happening but I couldn't move my body or stop it. When the session was over she asked me what I thought of one of the stories she was telling me and I had no recollection of saying it . I didn't find it relaxing, it was like I had lost control. So bizarre!
Cosmos- I am sorry about para two, I meant Critter . Not good using a phone for this.
Lemon - meant to say big whoops for the frosties and the current one on board. Things are looking very positive for you indeed.
Joy - wow at the weird eye thing. I wonder what was going on there. Do you think she tapped in to something?
Pout - hope you are ok. I think you wil be following in gins footsteps very soon. Sorry for the scabby boil - oh dear.
Cosmos - well done for starting downregging. What a lovely lady at your clinic.
Nelly - hoorah for positive opk and knowing your mind and your body. You go girl. Dtd a good two or three times before he goes away???
Sweet - I am ok with the tiredmess. Its the nausea and indigestion that still gets me, but thats ok. I know its worth it.
Critter - snap at the hairy belly. Although they are blonde they are super obvious to me.
cosmos admin has actually been fine at my clinic. My admin nightmare was long ago when the NHS lost my referral from the GP to the fertility clinic not once but twice. Since then I have had regular rants about the admin adding to the overall shyteness of this process! rabbit I hope they will sort it out soon.
joy that sounds really odd. I have just signed up for my first hypno session later this week. I am really hoping that she can help me be less mental about EC.
At 18 or so I lay on the floor with my sick doggie (didn't realise it was terminal) and as I was hugging her I felt her heart slow and then stop beating. I remember it vividly. I loved her so much.
Hurrah for smiley faces nelly
Eek at the hairy tums. <strokes furry 10+ preggos>
sweet sorry to hear that you have had family emergencies, but it's great news that you are heading towards 20 weeks!
pout I am giggling (somewhat unkindly!) about your spot debacle. I have found a stick in boots with witch hazel at one end and tea tree on the other which seems to largely do the trick for me.
Right catch up here goes....
Sweet oh the irony of the low fertility diagnosis whilst at a pregnancy appointment. I think I'd have had a wry smile to myself at that one. It seems to be going so quickly! Nearly 20 weeks already, wow. Family emergencies not allowed though.
Euro Hypno can do wonders and I hope it works for you. For me I don't think I ever felt it did good. She maybe gave me a few conscious coping mechanisms but not much else; but then I never felt entirely sure about her as a person and I think it's key that you believe in them. I gave her enough money though . Oh and she also told me that 90% of her clients have successful IVF on their first round. HA!
Joy sounds like your hypno was better than mine! I am glad you understand the Happy OPK moment (today it was lighter again so surge must have passed and OV around about now, I think?)
Sar - we managed last night, his 5am alarm put paid to anything more. Oh well, now I know they work I might use them again. Eek to hairy bellys to you and Critter. Sorry you are still suffering a little bit with the nausea. As always thanks for your lovely words
Pout there is no such thing as being too attached to pets. Those of you on FB will know I am fond of posting cute pics . Sorry the thought of FET is worrying you; there is every reason to be optimistic though. I've had really bad spots recently too. I finally found something that helps (Elemis SOS emergency cream) but to be honest I bet sudacreme is just as good; it's just that mine lives outside, don't ask!)
Ooh cosmos good luck for the DR. I hope it all goes ok. Everyone is here for the hand holding. Oh and MrsD is overseas so I presume not at ARGC. Don't worry about not being a pet person, I think we outed a couple of those before . We let them stay... I have to say I don't even look the other couples in the eye at the clinic. It never occurred to me to talk to them.
Critter wow at being 15 weeks. I am glad your travelling is going to calm down now. Your weather chat makes me jealous though! I made a point of not working out dates related to my IVF cycle and I have to stop myself comparing to you and Art, who I co-cycled with; so when I read 15 weeks my heart skips a beat. But it's only briefly and then I move on and go back to being for you . On that note, if and when I go again I am thinking about not telling anyone. Including the 10+ers. That might fall by the wayside if I need the "ooh there isn't much going on in here" support; but I think that I want to try to keep it to ourselves? Last time a couple of people knew, but even though it wasn't meant to, in a strange way it adds a layer of pressure? Anyway I reserve the right to change my mind <fickle>
Rabbit you know where I am lovely <strokes fur>. FFS at more admin disasters.
MrsD back up-thread a bit but I had a fair funk after this round. It was initially fine and then a massive tent dwelling period. I think I'm only ok because I have holidays etc planned; and despite not a great clinic appointment it's good to have another round on the horizon. But I need the break in between cycles mentally. I always feel like I want to be on the other side of the fence. When cycling, I get fed up with the monitoring, mainly because it's never a very upbeat process in my case; but then when I'm not in the midst of it I feel a bit abandoned . Anyway this too shall pass; and for what it's worth a stern talking to at the clinic and a bit more care on their part will be all it takes, I'm sure.
Lemon did I already comment on your amazing frosties?? That is stuff of dreams for me, it must take the pressure off somewhat! How are you doing, is tomorrow OTD?
Sea I am sorry you and MrSea have more worries. There should definitely be a law that anyone suffering from infertility is not allowed any other crap; sadly it seems to be quite the opposite sometimes. I am glad the process is moving on a bit for you though.
Gin - wow at being 21 weeks! Haha at the ZW trashing!
So going back to my clinic appointment. They didn't tell me outright that DE was my only chance, but just pointed out the numbers game. Really between MN and general googling I didn't expect them to have some kind of magic solution, I'm aware my AMH and AFC and poor responses previously don't bode well. I was however left feeling that they didn't really get what I was trying to say about why I wanted to try LP (in summary, last time I had a few smaller follicles that grew more slowly and the lead one was ready way before they were; I want to try DR to see if I can get those follies up to speed). The irritating thing is the inconsistency. The other clinic we were going to go to initially only do LP and in fact told me I'd get more eggs that way . Someone asked about other clinics, and I guess in that respect we've already had a second opinion. There isn't much more choice; but something dawned on me the other day. So current plan would be to done one more Flare protocol at current clinic, using scratching, heparin and (maybe) assisted hatching. Then if it doesn't work I think we will pay for a private round at our NHS clinic. That works out a bit cheaper than full private and I think they will do LP as standard, so that gets me my final thing to try. If all that hasn't worked, that will have been 4 rounds and quite enough money gambling on my poorly ovaries, and DE it will be.
Going to post now then see what I missed!!
Hello nelly! You are allowed to be as fickle as you want.
I will see what comes of hypno tomorrow. I'm keeping an open mind. I've never tried anything like it before, so we will see.
I feel like I am about to come down with a summer cold - boooooo.
Summer cold = repressed immune system = good, no??
Annoying. You can't see the < comments > on the phone. No wonder I get confused reading sometimes.
OFFS you still can't see them even though I put spaces. The sideways ^ symbol
Help: OTD is here, so we did a test
at 5am, because I wake really early , which was interesting. A really, really feint line - although better when I pulled it out of the bin, long after the reading window - and now it is twiddling my thumbs until official bloods and results... I might become more sociable and involved after this is all over or I might go on holiday/in the tent of doom
Oh Lemon I will keep everything crossed for you. The odds are good I think! Good luck
lemons I have everything crossed for you too. My first positives were v faint, particularly those done with middle of the night wee! I agree with nellie about the odds being good and you have your family of Victorian proportions.
Quick post. Lemons. Looks interesting indeed. Fingers crossed it's good news. About time we had another BFP on thread. Sorry for the wait. When will you get blood test results.
Lemons Any more news? Hope you will be following in the footsteps of the 10+ preggers.
Critter Wow you are already at 15 weeks. Glad travels are calming down. I hope you are feeling good and healthy
Pout no such thing as being too attached to pets. I love animals but where I live is not ideal for pets. Would love a cat though. Dogs are just a little too much work for my life right now but I do love them. As for your spot debacle . Toothpaste is the best I find for the odd spot here and there. As for what you did with the neat Dettol. I have actually done the same before with TCP. Not nice. Hope its healing nicely.
Sweet So sorry to hear about family stresses. You poor thing. I hope its not too stressful. As I get older I realise bad things just do happen and we have to be ready to deal with it. . I am delighted you are almost at 20 weeks. Hope you get the scan scheduled soon.
Nelly I am so pleased you got a + on an OPK. That must be a weight off the mind. As for MrNelly being away its always the way isnt it I think your plans sound very sensible. Its so important to feel comfortable with it and not just along with what the clinic says. And absolutely you can be as fickle as you want!
Cosmos Hope the injections are doing okay. I am sure you are young and your embie are lovely too. It is funny how we end up talking to strangers about our vitals isnt it? I have been reading about intralipids and IVIg too. I know what you mean about the cost of the latter. I really found it quite shocking but have read good things too. Good luck.
Joy That sounds like a very odd session indeed. I think you can forget what was talked about. Its happened to me before but not heard or experienced the fluttering mode.
Sar I am sure no one else can see the blonde hairy belly.
Euro belly laugh at you stroking furry 10_ preggers. LOL. I hope the cold subsides soon. Hope the hypno session goes well.
AFM, 1st Humira injection done. I managed to get the clinic to do it with me as have never self injected. It was much more painful than I thought it would be. What a wimp! O well. I guess I better get used to it!
Ladies, today I have a real bee in my bonnet about this horrific case thats in the news about the poor little boy tortured by his mum and stepfather. I am working from home and have the radio on and every time I hear it I feel my blood boil. Its unfathomable to me that someone can torture their child like that. Why o why can these scumbags get pregnant seemingly with no problems (this monster had 2 children)!! There is something really wrong with the universe!
Oh lemons that does sound like good news. A line is a line or so they say. I thought about you this morning. How long until you get the blood test results?
Sea, that story breaks my heart, I cant get his picture out of my head. Poor, poor little boy. I can't bear to think about how he suffered.
Cosmos, I'm not at argc. I think what happened with me is a little bit complicated. I had to take a slightly lower swimming dose for the first three days because of a mix up at the chemist. They also didn't start me stimming until day 3 because my Amh is very good and they were being cautious. Then my scan showed all was good, if they had continued growing at the expected rate then ec was scheduled for the right day bUt they think I responded too strongly to the cetrotide and basically had a reaction which halted any further growth rather than just preventing ovulation. So at ec only two eggs were mature the rest had prematurely stopped growing. For the next round I think they will use a different drug to cetrotide and I'm going to ask for a scan on the morning before I trigger.
Pout, your dettol story made me laugh. I hope the skin has recovered now!
Nelly, woo hoo for ovulation. I've never used opks, I did temp for a while but it stressed me out. I prefer not really knowing. I understand wanting to keep Ivf secret. I'm pleased we haven't told anyone in rl. The support on here is fantastic but I did find it a little difficult doing a cycle at the same time as you and critter. When you had symptoms and bfps, I selfishly felt sad for myself because I had no symptoms and knew I wasn't pregnant so reading that you were feeling something brought it home to me that my round had failed. When you got the negative my heart broke for you because I knew how devastating it was. It sort of felt like I was emotionally involved in your round too. I'm not sure I've expressed that very well.
lemon a second line you say mine was faint at the beginning, roll on blood test results
sea yay to first injection, the story is sad but not uncommon really, you do wonder why these people procreate but to be honest they have themselves have probably come from an unhappy and abusive background, if only people, he was such a lovely looking lad
nelly well done on the pos opk
poout how are you doing,
Sadly the line was too faint. HCGwas 29, which means it won't take and become a viable pregnancy. Stopping progesterone and crying are the order of the day.
Oh lemons I'm so, so sorry. Take some time and allow yourself to be miserable and cry as much as you need, it's the natural reaction. You will be ok, and you have all those wonderful frozen embryos. You will get there xx
sea I was saying the same about that story to mr euro this morning. There is no fairness to whom children are born.
Well done on getting through the first injection.
Drizz! A second line! Come on the kumquat (I was trying to think of a mini lemon and struggling - does it show?) I really hope this is it for you. How many days past EC are you?
pout I hope the spot has vamoosed by now.
I've had a weird day. I had my hypno session this morning. It brought out all kinds of unexpected stuff (including me crying, which I almost never do). I'm not sure it's a miracle cure, but I do feel better now. It became pretty clear that I have a deep rooted fear of both hospitals and pregnancy and hugely negative associations for both, which may explain why IVF is not an entirely happy experience for me...
Oh drizz what an awful time to cross posts. I'm so sorry. x
lemon my last preg my hcg was 28 and it got to 10 weeks, when they tested the remains the were no chromosone problems at all, I would ask for another hcg in 2 days, big hugs
Oh Lemon I can't bear to think that another 10+er has to deal with the trauma of the maybe yes/maybe no flipping HcG levels. This is so unfair . My heart breaks for you. Hold on to thoughts of those little frosties down the line, but for now here is some cake and a big broad shoulder.
MrsD you made total sense. I will reply later when I'm not stealth posting from the loo at work...
Oh lemons I'm so sorry. I don't have the right words to express how sad I am for you. Hugs and love to you X
Lemon i am so sorry to hear this new. I agree with Buzz that you should get tested in a few more days just in case it doesnt leap up. Its terribly terribly tough though and just so unfair. Look after yourself.
Sea sorry humira was so ouchy. Did the pain go away immediately though? How many humira injections to do you have to do? I saw that story on the news last night and I was completely appalled. I said to Roy that many people will just say to infertile ladies it is just natures way yet if that is the case how has nature allowed those barbaric human beings to give birth? It is sickening.
Nelly you have a good plan so that all sounds great. I totally agree that if you can go LP at some point that will hopefully produce more follies for you but may be the next flare will do the trick. I totally understand you not wanting to let people know you are doing another round too. Several friends and family knew last time and I kept getting texts from very well meaning friends asking me how i was and that they were thinking of me. It was my own fault for letting them know but I found it put pressure on me and i found it really irritating. Its such a strange bubble to be in that I just wanted everyone outside of that bubble to leave me alone. I will also be trying not to speak to anyone at the clinic this time round because I found myself comparing notes with people like after an exam. So i have learnt my lesson.
Eur0 it sounds like your hypno session was useful. Im sorry you ended up crying though but perhaps thats just everything coming out. Do you think she is going to eradicate these deep seated fears? Presumably a lot of it may stem from that bad scan you went off to with your mum when you were a kid?? When my hypno woman asked me whether I really wanted a baby, I said I wanted a baby but I didnt want to do the pregnancy part. She then pointed out my body language when I said the word pregnancy.. I recoiled and shook my head as I said it as if I feared it and i didnt even notice I was doing it. I can only think that my first miscarriage came as such a shock that it put me off and now the second one has just rubbed more salt in the wounds! Anyway i hope this woman is able to help you.
My mind works in such a weird way. My colleague yesterday whispered to me that she was pregnant and I was so thrilled for her I smiled all the way home. She wasnt even trying, it was a mistake and she has only been with her boyfriend a few months. I can only think that my strange happy reaction was to do with her being 4 years older than me and perhaps that gives me confidence. I dont know, sometimes I cant work myself out!
Maybe it's the hypno working joy? Embracing other people's pregnancies? I surprise myself sometimes as to how I react. It's somehow worse when it's people I don't really know, like my neighbour for example which makes no sense at all.
Euro, I'm sorry that the hypno made you cry. I don't think it's surprising that we have negative feelings about pregnancy.
joy perhaps you should become a therapist! You are absolutely right that that issue came up and that is what we ended up focussing on. The crying came when she asked if I could have anything there in the room with me that would make it easier and suddenly I welled up and sobbed "a sister". I have no idea where that came from. I have always had very positive things to say about being an only.
Thanks lovelies, I called the clinic to ask if there was an outside chance of this coming right and they were firm and clear. This has no chance to become an on-going pregnancy. So I've stopped the progesterone-bullets (small mercies!) and am going for another HCG test next week. The lovely nurse (who was with us during embryo transfer as well) recommended a stiff drink.
I really would prefer not to get to 10-weeks, if I had to still mc then
I think it is the hut of gloom for me, although the hypno adventures do sound really interesting. I am a bit overly emotional at the mo, but euro I welled up when what you needed in the room was a sister. I really hope hypno will give you a handle on EC. Scary and exciting you're starting again soon. Massive well done joycep for being delighted for the pregnant colleague. I don't think I'll be able to bear mine next week...
PS the kumquat made me smile, euro, I wasn't here to see it when the wounds were even more raw
Lemons, its ok to be in the tent of doom just now. I was incredibly sad and tearful for a few days, I cried more than I thought possible. Then I had a few days of feeling angry and frustrated. That was worse than the sadness because its such a destructive emotion and one that I've never really felt before. I know we're all different but you will feel brighter at some point and then you can do the fet.
What do hypnotherapist actually do? I assume they don't say look into my eyes, you feel verry sleepy,
Drizz I'm glad it made you smile.
I suspect the clinic are right. Mine was 45 on day 14 past EC and that all ended in tears. There's no point stopping a bleed with progesterone if the end is inevitable. It';ll just be more miserable. There is a research paper somewhere on the web about using HCG levels to predict pregnancy outcomes. I found it really interesting. I think they concluded that 70+ at day 14 was what you really wanted to have a good chance of a healthy pregnancy.
mrsd I was completely awake and aware of what was going on, but sort of drifting off, a bit like day dreaming. There was no danger of me impersonating a chicken or anything. The hypnotherapist kept asking questions and I was answering. The questions were aimed at delving into my subconscious. Basically I knew I had an ishoo with control and that is why I find EC so difficult. So she explored that and my fierce "no one looks out for you like you look out for you" stance. She took it back and back through various incidents to find when those feelings first started and my mind evenutally took me back to that. So even though it was a pregnancy-related incident, the starting point for getting there was about my need to control situations rather than anything pregnancy related. There was other stuff as well. Like she had me imagining a timeline from birth and asked me if I was in it or if it was in front of me. I was in it. But not at the present day! I was near the end but not at the end. We didn't go into that but I suspect it is linked to feeling like my life has been on hold for the last couple of years while we have been ttc. It's interesting that it came out in such a visual way.
It was actually fascinating.
Oh lemon I am so sorry about this, it seems so bloody unfair. I can only imagine that you must feel like a big ball of sad and cross at the moment but, when the dust has settled there are lembies waiting and in lots of ways this was a very positive cycle. I don't want to warble on as I'm sure none of it is very helpful today but we are here for you.
Euro and joyce I am interested in your hypno experiences. I had some way back in the prehistoric days pre lap as I was just so stressed with everything. I found some of it helpful but I didn't feel totally at ease with the woman or the room the hypno was in, it was scuzzy and there was a rain leak that fell on my head during the woo bit which kind of got in the way. I'd try it again though if I wasn't having acu and I could find a good person. I hope it helps with the stresses of tt f-ing c.
Pout I think I'll pass on the poutdettol spot cure next time I've got a spot! I did a similar thing once with a very strong acne cream that then got infected into cellulitis which made me face swell and blister. I can laugh about it now . I have very good feelings about Colin.
Nelly that sounds like a plan. The frustrating thing is that there are no absolutes in this game. People with AMH of zero get pregnant, people who don't respond so well on a cycle go on to respond better on a different protocol, people with failed ivf go on to conceive naturally, it seems so arbitrary. There is always hope that things will be different and this is good. Sar has ace words for you, you do make great embryos so who is to dare tell you to give up until you are ready. It still shocks me when I think that Sar could have had her tubes removed on one docs suggestion. Sar I do hope you are going to send him a baby photo! Keep going lovely nelly. Also I get the not wanting to share thing. My sibling was asking this morning around the breakfast table, quite kindly about when we would do ivf. Not so long back I would have been telling close people but I feel I've been living in a glass room with people staring in but not actually offering much in the way of support and I want to pull down the blinds and be private and mysterious. I don't fully know what changed. I think I'm fed up of being the infertility story.
Sea I too winced at that story. It seems so back to front that such a thing can happen. Well done on the jab and sorry it was ouch.
Den how are feeling? I think I have been feeling quite similar to you lately. Whilst I haven't had a 'proper' stint in the tent for ages I do feel I live in it's shadows most of the time. Cheery!
It is good to see 10 plus grads on here keeping us in the loop, I love you for that. Well done on the hairy belly Critter, I find this strangely endearing yippee sar to maternity clothes and one in the eye for fertility diagnoses sweet. Buzzy I'm glad things are OK with you too. Gin it feels as if your pregnancy is whizzing by though I'm sure it doesn't feel like that to you. I often think of doll and art (who must be nearly due?).
My family have left and a quiet has descended on my house, the babies fill up a lot of physical and heart space and I feel quite empty, overseas family is a heart wrencher. I'm a little melancholy at the moment for the following reasons:
In the past three months I have had 3 A plus announcements and a B announcement, all conceived in 1-5 months. Mostly one month. I cannot imagine that I will ever get a turn at IVF and beyond that, that there is any possibility of me being lucky enough for it to work. My parents are getting older and I feel like their prime grandparent age is passing me by. I am horribly broody. Which is a crap word but I can't think of a better one. Woe is me ha ha. I'm ok just meh at the whole business I think. CD32 now and no af but I have had sporadic ewcm over the past week. Whatever occurred last month has really messed things up. Tis a pity it isn't a normal cycle, I'd be getting all excited now.
lemon I am so sorry my love. This isn't the outcome I was hoping for for you. A stiff drink and a duvet and funny movie in the tent could be a good idea. I'm just devastated for you, what horrible, rotten luck. I think the fact you have six frosties is a really wonderful thing, but I know it doesn't make it any better right now.
euro oh honey, I'm sorry too. The hypno thing sounds like it brought a lot of stuff up. Most people don't have to face all their deepest fears in the way one does during long-term TTC, it's a horrible kind of mental boot camp. I wish I could hang out with you and go for a drink.
nelly I think your plan sounds really good - and LP sounds like a really good way forward. I'm so sorry about the dates thing, I know it must be mega crap having my reminder of what might have been.
mrsd I can imagine it would be incredibly tough. I remember when I got my BFP I was happy but I was also sad and incredibly guilty that I wasn't bringing the rest of the awesome foursome with me (apart from buzz). It's definitely the downside of cycling at the same time as others - someone gets the shitty end of the stick and someone gets the golden ticket, and there's no rhyme or reason it in. But I do think so much of this is chance and numbers - which is what makes it so unfair.
lemon I have to say I am surprised by your clinics view, there is no correlation between my HCG level and my miscarriage, as I said when they tested it there were no chromosomal problems I was never told that it wouldn't work because of the level, I would ask for an HCG sooner, then you'll have an idea what is going on, you don't want to wait till next week as that is an age away, big hugs
Ah Lemon what an awful day you've had, I'm so sorry. It sounds like its been having a really good go at implanting. I'm still hoping for a miracle for you.
I'll do a catch up another time.
If there is a hcg then does that mean that implantation happened however low the number is? I was never told my level, I assume it was 0 because I never felt a single thing so I very much doubt implantation happened. In the 3 + years of trying I'm pretty sure we have never had a snif of implantation.
Rabbit, why do you think you'll never get to Ivf? I felt like that at Xmas when I went for the monitoring scan and was told that I ended a lap. It felt like something kept getting snatched away,
Euro, that does sound fascinating. Have you ever spoken to your mum about her experience?
den I think the whole lost note waiting for nhs funding transfer confirmation just feels like yet another roadblock, I have been waiting to have ivf for what feels like forever. Sometimes I think the universe is trying to tell me something!
That's exactly how I feel! We were told we needed icsi in June 2011. And we didn't have our first round until April 2013. Everytime we got close there was another big fat hurdle, saving money, moving clinics, first round of genetic tests, second round, lap. Then the cycle failed and because of lots of prearranged things that can't be moved we can't go again until October, and to think I always thought I was inpatient!
Lemons I am really gutted for you. I know that doesnt help. Its just so unfair. As others have said it does look like embies had a really good go at implanting. I dont know much about HCG levels like others on fred. I am just so sorry. I know today it doesnt help much but you do have some really good frosties. A big hug to you and MrLemons. Stay away from pregnant colleagues. Take care of yourself.
Euro Sorry you were upset after the hypno session. I think hypnotherapy can bring out stuff that you are not even conscious of yourself. Maybe wanting a sibling was one? It sounds like you got some sadness out and felt better afterwards though which is good. Would love to go back to a hypno but not sure I am ready to right now.
Joy It does sound like hypno is working re colleagues A+ announcement. I find I am always happy for people I like and not at all and very jealous when its someone I dont like. Interesting what you said about deep-seated fears about pregnancy. I think I am probably harbouring something similar but my biggest fear is actually about what kind of parent I will be. I had someone absent parents and I know I have a lot of unresolved issues with them. I sometimes wonder if thats why I cant get pregnant. Your have had a tough TTC journey I think its only natural that you will have fears and reservations. Re Humira I still have irregular pain at the injection site. It feels bruised but have no signs of bruising. I am going to have to toughen up I know! I have 2 injections to start and then I do immunes test again. If levels dont go down another 2 Humira. Max you can have is 4 and then they do intralipids. I do wonder if I should have just insisted on that and skipped the humira (cheaper and less side effects) but I didnt want to argue.
Rabbit I am sorry you feel empty right now but I am sure you will get your IVF turn. Did the clinic sort out the admin problems? I found I really had to stay on top of it calling, writing and contacting PALs when they lost my referrals. Its shitty your cycle seems messed up but it might just be a short blip. Don't lose hope! As for the universe trying to tell you something. Not the case at all. I don't think universe has any insight or control whatsoever. A big hug to you.
MrsD You are spot on. This whole journey is all about waiting and roadblocks. Its no end of waiting and testing and waiting and testing. I still cant believe after almost 4 yrs of TTC I have not done an IVF yet. Its been one thing after another. I just realised that if my immunes dont go down after Humira it is unlikely that I will cycle this year. [sob] I really hope that doesnt happen.
Sadly buzz there is a correlation between levels and on-goingness of pregnancy. Although there are miracles, they usually aren't the ones where the embryos were watched like a hawk for the first couple of days. It was doing very well outside and there is no reason to assume a late implantation. Well, wot euro said really.
Quit squiffy after two
months weeks off booze. I know the frosties offer hope, just hiding in the tent for now.
Massive crossed fingers for all impending rounds, not sure how much I'll be hanging out here, depending on when I need support I guess. But pout I have high hopes for Colin. And for your embies nelly. THe plan sounds sensible...
As to telling people, I told hardly anyone this time. But when I was falling apart earlier and couldn't bear to be alone, I called my mum, and she came around and literally held my hand through the really bad part. Despite not knowing anything about our IVF. She went just before SB came home, so we could have privacy. She is wonderful.
Big hugs lemons. I am really sad for you. Glad you have support of your lovely mum.
I'm glad you have your mum to hand hold lemon, she sounds lovely. Wish I could come over and give you a big hug.
oh lemon - i'm so sorry the clinic have said that. You will be of course very emotional, it's just horrible so do have that stiff drink.
Euro - that's so odd that you came out with the sister thing. It's always a strange wonder what lurks in our subconscious. I reckon trying times like these make you aware of things you don't have. I have noticed that i often wish i was slightly more closer with my mother and that she was a bit more maternally supportive. I've never needed that before but I reckon it's to do with it being a lonely journey and just craving that extra support.
Mrsd - i chat to my hypno for a lot of the session and then i lie down and close my eyes. She doesn't ask me questions, she just talks to me. I'm pretty self conscious and i don't think i allow myself to go under although something odd was happening the other day. It has made me realise that i like to be in control and I use negativity because it puts me in control if things go wrong, i.e. I was prepared for it, it didn't catch me out. A lot of it is also trying to change the belief system and attitude. I can't imagine growing a bump etc and I think she does feed me more positive thoughts. It's trying to balance hope but realism I guess. I have one more session and that's it. You can actually self hypnotise , there is tonnes on the internet about it. I just knew I had to get in to a better frame of mind before my next round. I think i actually needed therapy more than this but I didn't want to see one!
Sea - sorry about the awful humira. I think if you go to the argy you do as you're told and just go with the flow. Plus you don't appear to have any other discovered problems. Your amh is excellent and so it does make you wonder whether it is your cytokines.
Rabbit - super big hug. It's awful when you start thinking about everything sad and building up in your life. I hear you about the parents getting older and passing the grandparent age. This is a huge fear of mine. My parents are looking so much older now and their friends are dying left right and centre. I am their only chance for grandchildren and i just wish i could give it to them. And feck to the bizarre cycle. It just makes everything so more anxious than it should be.
Thanks Joyce, I like having you back I too can't imagine having a bump, I was saying that only this morning. Sibling was you can't think like that! But I do, I've felt from month 2 of trying that this will never happen for me. I'd love to get rid of that feeling. Sometimes I manage it for a few days.
lemons I am thinking of you today & hope you are as okay as is possible right now.
euro it is intriguing what lurks in our subconscious. Maybe your comments about wanting a sister was your brains way of just saying that the TTC burden is becoming too heavy and you need to offload a bit onto someone else.
joy It's interesting what you say about having a mental block to getting pregnant. I have wondered that too sometimes. At the back of my mind there has always been the worry that I might parent like my mother and that thought terrifies me because I so wouldn't want that and would rather not have kids. Oddly I have been having strange moments like waking up and for no reason at all instantly panicking about how awful childbirth would be. It is only fleeting but unnerving nevertheless.
mrsd The road to IVF does seem to be all about roadblocks and jumping through hoops. Like you I have also felt frustrated by non medical stumbling blocks too. Every time we have cycled or planned to cycle some personal crisis or hindrance hits. So not the relaxed process I planned & sometimes I wonder if it is all fated.
rabbit All those announcements, no wonder you are reeling. It is so sad when little ones in the family who live far away leave after a stay. I used to cry and cry in the car when we used to have to drop my nephew off. Hope that you are getting used to the quiet a bit now. I know it is difficult to feel positive when you have been through so much but I genuinely feel that you will get there. You have had 2 near misses and it will be a matter of time for you to hit the jackpot of the golden egg Any news on what is happening with your IVF application?
What an uncannily accurate description of how this all feels. I can identify absolutely with the glass room and people peering in (and poking with sticks) but offering little in the way of support. I too want to bring down the shutters and tell them all to bog off. Incidently, I recently tackled my mother about having told everyone when I had specifically asker her to keep it to herself. She offered some half arsed sorry and then had the audacity to call back a week later to deny having done it & telling me how upset she was by the accusation. I just calmly pointed out (whilst apparently the vein on the side of my head was throbbing a la Stressed Eric) that I wouldn't entertain a stewards enquiry on the subject & reeled off the list of all the people I know she has told. She then squeaked a sorry and how she did it because she had been so upset Grrrr.
Oh and yes to broodiness. I stupidly looked through the baby section of the Next catalogue and ended up having a few tears. MrP told me off for being so shallow & that having a baby isn't about dressing them up. He just didn't understand quite how CUTE the little ladybird dress & hat was at all
sea I am sorry that your first injection has been a bit ouchy. Are you doing them in your stomach. I found that one side of my tummy hurt more to inject. Maybe you could try swapping sides.
mrsd I've never spoken to my mum about the emotional side of things. When I was starting down the AC route, I did ask her about her mcs in case any of it was relevant family history, so I had the basic details.
rabbit I'm sorry for the flock of announcements. I was out with my bestie this week (the one who has 3 IVF kids) and she was saying that she didn't think her little bro would ever have kids. But earlier this year she went to visit for two weeks (her bro and his wife live abroad) and at the end of it he and his wife decided to try for a baby. The visit was in February. She's due in November, so she was pregnant by March. It just blew me away. I guess that's how it is supposed to work - make decision, become pregnant a few weeks later, 9 months later-deliver a baby.
I've also felt that it wouldn't happen for me from very early on.
joy/pout my hypno lady was talking indirectly about a mental block to pregnancy. The early PCOS diagnosis and the offhand "we're discharging you; come back when you want to get pregnant" left me with a very ingrained view that I wouldn't/couldn't get pregnant, right from my teens. And for a long time I didn't want children, or maybe I just convinced myself of that.
pout a ladybird dress and hat, you say? <rushes off to check it out> That sounds adorable. I'm sorry that your mum is being so difficult. She sounds (with respect) very self-centred. Why on earth would she think that her "stress" over this would trump your own requirement for privacy over something that is very personal? Harrumph.
critter I too wish we could hang out. How are you doing, furry belly aside?
sea you have been through so much treatment. You will get your cycle soon.
lemon your mum sounds lovely. <hugs> I hope you are bearing up ok today and looking after yourself.
euro the dress is on page 514 of the Summer catalogue! Be warned most of the stuff in that section is stomach churningly cute
Just popping in quickly to say lemons I'm so bloody sorry about the cycle. It's utterly unfair and I so wish it'd worked for you. Cry, eat cake and drink lots of gin and I promise you will start to feel better eventually. And then you have your little frosties waiting for you. Lots of love.
I'm so sorry to hear a few of you are in the tent at the mo. I think summer is a hard time of year, with lots of kids about and the rush of announcements after springs shagathon. I offer big luffs and gins (and also maybe a smidge of hope, as last summer I was so so convinced it would never happen to me) x
Lemon - oh honey I am terribly sorry. I echo what everyone else has said about feeling a bit rotten for now but shortly the urge and the fire in your belly will be back for fet. But right now you do need to grieve. I assure you that this is not the end, just a blip in the annoyingly frustrating journey to motherhood. You will get there lemons, you will.
All this talk of inner emotional barriers to becoming pregnant is interesting. Every aspect is worth considering and dealing with. Positive affirmations are hugely important but the leap from negative self protection to total belief in becoming pregnant can be a huge one.
Sorry about the broodyness and whirwind of babies and toddlers. But everyone here can get pregnant. Don't lose hope.
Pout i think we have discussed mental blocks before. I honestly believe that some people can put a mental block on things. I dont believe for a second thats teh cause of my infertility but I do wonder whether it has a role to play. Although my friend who took 1 sex session to get pregnant recently was terrified of pregnancy and didnt really want to get pregnant so it clearly doesnt apply to most! Sorry to hear about your mother. She sounds very much like my MiL and i think Euro is right , it is self centredness. MiL has told everyone about us, emailed a random gynae who was in his 80s about our problem, snooped in our house and told Roy how upset she was we hadnt told her about the first m/c sooner. Its a me me me syndrome. Its all about them and how they are feeling and they cant seem to accept responsibility for their actions. So i really feel for you, its frustrating.
Gin - you are such a beacon of hope !
I was reading some stats on the royal baby and I see I live in a corner of Britain with the lowest fertility rates. Only one other place close by is lower. And there it is - it's in the bloody water!
Have a nice weekend everyone .
I don't believe for a second that a mental block on pregnancy is causing infertility. I think loads of women would say that they have negative feelings about pregnancy, childbirth etc. I cannot imagine myself being pregnant, but I probably could have before all of this. I think for me it's a bit of a self preservation thing. I used to get upset when I thought about what it would be like so now I don't try to imagine it at all, it's something that happens to other people.
Lemons, I hope you're doing ok today. The first week is the worst and then it does get a bit better. Your mum sounds lovely and supportive.
Pout and joy. Sorry to hear that mothers and mil are selfish. I don't think my mil would tell anyone, but shed be constantly on the phone for updates and even when you're in the middle of Ivf there isn't much to tell. She isnt very well at the moment and i know she would really worry and feelmsad about it, and j couldnt cope with her pain on top of my own. My mum probably wouldnt tell people outright but shed drop enough hints so people would guess and then say "but I never told anyone, they guessed". She can also be a bit insensitive sometimes so I don't think I'd get a great deal of useful support. After you've gone so long without telling people I don't actually know how I'd go about telling them if I did. It's not the sort of thing I can drop in a Skype call.
Euro, i know mil suffered a mc but its not the sort of thing I'd be comfortable asking her about. Your mum must really understand your pain though, do you think it's hard for her to see you going through all this?
lemon thinking of you, big hugs x
Thanks you lot, there have been better days
all of them except the mc last year would be a fair description, but we'll get through, I hope so I am not going to drag you lot too far down.
I'm having oddness. I'm spotting at 7/8dpo. I never spot. So this might be the start of a super early period, like I have had a couple of times before (implantation failure? The others were at around 9dpo so the timing is right), or I now have spotting to add to the delights of womanhood. Hmm.
I wrote a long post and its disappeared. Bit worried that it might turn up somewhere else, will someone warn me if it appears on FBI
Spotting euro? Is it light? Do you think you ovulated this month? Could it be implantation?? Or could it be the cervix has been knocked? I wish things could always be straightforward and text book.
FBI? I mean fb obviously.
Lemon, you can be as miserable and down on here as you want to be. This can never be a thread where we only post when we are feeling up.
Big belly laugh at MrsDen sending her innermost TTC thoughts to the FBI
Lemon you are very much allowed to be down, don't feel you can't post here if it is what you need.
May be offline for a few days, but will post if we have wifi. Period due the day we return. Wonder If it will arrive at the departure lounge, as it did on the way back from honeymoon .
Quick waves to everyone xxx
mrsd in anyone else I might think "implantation?" but I've been here before.
My cervix hasn't been knocked for ages...
Finally I've found time for a proper catch up. I've been reading and for weeks have been telling myself I'll post tomorrow when I've got more time, but funnily enough time doesn't materialise. I will no doubt miss loads of what's been happening so please forgive me, but I have been keeping up with everyone's TTC adventures.
Lemon I am absolutely gutted for you. I was so hopeful after your brilliant egg haul. I know that having 6 frosties won't feel like any consolation right now but they give you options and in time you'll feel ready to cycle again. Huge hugs and a large parcel of cake and gin for the tent.
Rabbit I can't believe the crap you've had to go through with the clinics. As if this whole thing wasn't bad enough they seem determined to make it even harder for you. I don't think administrative cock-ups are in any way excusable when there is this amount of stress involved. It's hard having overseas family too, especially when they go. Mine were supposed to be visiting later this year but have since changed their minds, I'm a bit gutted, it's nearly 2 years since I have seen my nieces and they are rapidly heading towards the teenage years when they just won't want to hang out with their boring aunt. I know what you mean about being the infertility story. My mum admitted she has told my aunts and uncles about our IVF and she swears blind that I said it was OK to tell them but I can't remember that conversation and can't see why I would have wanted them to know. So now I've got that weird situation where the whole family knows but I didn't know they knew and of course nobody ever mentions it. I know i shouldn't care by this point but it still feels like a very private thing and I don't see why she had to open her mouth in the first place, it being none of her bloody business. Grr.
Joy it's brilliant to see you back and I'm so impressed with all the things you've been doing over the past few months. The diet thing worked for Princess so I'm sure it's worth persevering. I too have wondered whether mild male factor was part of our problem so I'm sure all the things Roy is doing will be worthwhile. And pets do help. We finally lost our little cat this week and we are both gutted. Mr A especially because he has had her for so long, but she has been a big help for me over the past few years. Would you believe I still feel resentment at A+ announcements. I'm impressed at you being able to feel happy for your colleague. Whatever you're doing must be having a positive effect!
Pout I'm rooting for Colin. You did make me with your spot story. In the dark days of teenage acne I had many such disasters. Your dogs sound brilliant. I do miss our cat a lot. Mr A has already been pleadingly showing me pictures of cute homeless kitties but now would not be the time to get another, we need time to get the hang of a baby first
hoping I like it as much as I did the cat
Euro hmmm at the oddness. I know what you mean though - in someone who wasn't a 10plusser it would be a Sign but we've all been there. Hypnosis sounds interesting if strange. I guess we all have weirdness lurking in our subconscious that we're not even aware of.
Cosmos I have everything crossed for you for the next FET round. Hurrah for being young and having lovely embryos! Intimate conversations with strangers are definitely the weirder part of the whole thing.
MrsD how are you doing? I'm sure the next cycle will be better as the clinic will be more aware of your response (and should get the bloody doses right this time). They do say the first cycle is a learning one, though it annoys me that it should be like that. Because of the way it was managed I don't feel you had a proper crack at IVF. Your time will come.
Nelly shame about the timing of MrN's work trip after the OPK! Your plan sounds good though, covers all bases and the numbers game has to work out for you (it HAS to). Have a brilliant break and I hope AF stays away for the duration.
Sea well done with the injections, i really hope they work so you can move forward with IVF. Like Pout I also found injecting more painful on one side than the other so maybe worth experimenting a bit with location?
I'm really interested in the mental block thing. From my experience I don't believe it makes a difference physically - my self-preservation tactic during IVF was to not allow myself to think it could work and I always had an idea I would have fertility problems long before we even started trying. Being pregnant was always something that happened to other people. I don't even know where that feeling came from. But I do think that mental attitude can make the 'journey' (that horrible word again) easier. I might have had an easier time over the last few years if I had been able to believe it would work out, but that's totally from the benefit of hindsight and it's hard to imagine I could have dealt with things any differently.
Waves to the other 10+ preggos Sar, Gin, Buzz, Doll and Sweet. Glad to hear scans have all been good and sickness is subsiding. Curious about the hairy bellies! I haven't noticed that, but as I've missed out on a lot of the classic preggo symptoms (generally the more unpleasant ones) I'm not going to complain!
AFM I've basically had my head in work for the past few months trying to get projects finished but finally managed that on Monday (more or less) and have now had 4 whole days of maternity leave. It's weird. There hasn't been a time in my adult life when I haven't had work to think about. There is loads to do in the house, which is nowhere near baby-ready, but since stopping work I've been hit by a big wave of tiredness so itinerant tea-drinking/cake-eating and sofa surfing is about all I've managed so far. Due date is next Friday. That's even more weird. I still can't connect the big bump in front of me with the idea of an actual real-life baby. I'm not frightened of labour any more but I am apprehensive about what comes next. it seems like a whole new alien world.
Speaking of which, i've done the ickier side of maternity shopping. Pout put the Next catalogue down for a moment - from my current vantage point i can see: 2 x packs of disposable maternity pants; a pack of giant Primark knickers of the kind you'd snigger at on your elderly neighbour's washing line; a tub of nipple cream; some disposable breast pads and 2 enormous packs of the biggest sanitary towels I have ever seen. They are about twice the size of the nappies. I am actually scared of my sanpro. Someone upthread (*Rabbit*?) advised putting on your smallest most glamorous underwear and dancing round the bedroom. I firmly believe you will all get your babies so before it's too late I think you should all do that. What the hell, get your tail feathers out and dance down the street. Do it now while you still can .
Apologies for marathon post. Serves me right for procrastinating! Waves and tail feather shakes and I hope everyone is having a good weekend .
lemon we are all here for you through good and bad times, if you can't rant here then where can you x
art I cannot believe you worked so close to your due date can't believe you are so close
euro spotting you say that is all
pout how is poas going??
if my neighbour puts anymore lighter fluid on his BBQ he is going to gas me to death in my own living room
Art I'm sorry about the loss of your kitty. It's so sad when they pass away.
But I am happy that you are on maternity leave and nearly "at goal". I can completely understand how it feel that you are heading into an unknown world. Life will be different, but wonderful.
AFM, I said I never spot, and this is not spotting. It was the start of AF. At 7/8 dpo. WTAF? <shakes head at self>
The weird thing is that (just as the last time this happened) my temperature was still up this morning and my boobs still hurt. It's like the bleed is out of synch with everything else.
Lemons I'm still thinking of you. I hope you are as well as can be. Be kind to yourself.
Art. How exciting you are so near. It's really lovely to hear from ten plussers with good outcomes. I hope the birth goes well and I'm sure the new chapter in your life will be full of joy.
Euro. I'm so sorry your cycle is playing silly buggars. Are you sure it is af? Could is be (whispers) implantation bleed?
Sorry for the lack of personals. I am on hols tomorrow and still haven't packed.
Really need a holiday. I had drinks with some people last night and in the middle of it I realise how out of it I feel. I felt really quite depressed about the TTC and AC situation and for the 1st time in my life I really felt I had v little to say to my friends. I also feel like a horrible failure - no baby and I have had to cut back on going for more work projects and expanding which is making me feel like my career is not going anyway.
I am also really scared that the Humira won't work as I calculated if this happens there is no way I will do an IVF cycle this year. The thought of 4 years of TTC and still not making it to IVF really makes me feel down. I'm actually wondering if depression is a side effect of the drug as I have been v tearful since the injection.
Sorry to be so downbeat. Not what our thread needs. Hopefully the holiday will put me in a better place.
Love to everyone and especially other tent dwellers.
Art - how wonderful to hear from you and to see how close you are. Wow! It's funny I keep thinking of our meet up in October last year and you were having to go to the loos to inject and here you now are. Intriguing that a* announcements still bother you. I wondered how easy it would be to shake that off. Anyway best of luck for the birth and of course let us know when he/she arrives!
Euro - I am sorry about freaky cycle. I dont kniw how one can explain it. Perhaps it's a knock on effect from last ivf round? I have had many of these and out of sync cycles. In fact the start of my ivf round was one and I nearly couldn't start as my progesterone was too high so i coukdnt understand why my period had come so early. I wish someone could explain it.
Sea - I am so sorry you are feeling like this. When are you off on holiday? It sounds like you really need one and it will make you feel much better. I don't know about humira and really it should say somewhere if it has depressive symtoms. But I also think it could be an accumulation of everything. You and MrSea are going through so much. You are on a particularly long drawn out path to ivf. I recognise that symptom of not having anything to say to friends. Your world gets smaller and few can understand what you are going through. Please look after yourself. A holiday will be just what you need.
sea sorry you are feeling down. This is all so hard. I hope the holiday helps.
joy interesting that you have had out of synch cycles too.
It's definitely AF. Really quite heavy as well, considering it had a week less to gather lining! Grrr.
art I am so sorry to hear about your cat. That is so sad.
It's amazing that your due date is now so close. Wow. Do let us know when bubs makes an appearance
euro Oh for goodness sake at the mystery bleeding. I thought exactly the same when I read your post...for "normal" people TTC that would be a dead cert for implantation bleeding and a happy ending. It's unfair.
joy I am sorry that you have got a MIL with MeMeMe-itis. That is my mother's problem also mixed with a morbid fascination that she has with misery & illness. You'd think I would be used to it all but it still right royally pisses me off especially when she uses something as devastating as this to get attention.
mrsd Are you on the FBI's Most Wanted list yet?
Well ladies, can I just ask for a hand hold please? I am stressing myself out over the OPKs. It is now CD13 and & my OPKs are messed up. I had a faintish line on Thursday and Friday and now nothing at all. I am wondering whether I have missed ovulation or it's not going to happen. I wouldn't be so worried if I had any EWCM signs but nothing, nada. Arggghhhh. Also trying to push to the back of my mind the utterly ridiculous thought that I might have been bitten by a spider (pussy, swollen, painful toe with two puncture marks that look like the pictures on Google of spider bites) and this might have messed up my ovulation hits embarrassed self over head with wet fish
sea I am sorry for not posting that I hope you feel better soon (MrP is yelling about dinner). You have been through a really shitty time of late and I am sure that you are bound to feel down. Big hugs to you and I hope that you feel rejuvenated by your holiday
pout I've had the double puncture marks before and the consensus does seem to be spider. <shudder> I doubt it has stolen your ovulation though. When do you usually ovulate?
There is no way this is implantation bleeding - it is more than an averagely heavy period (although less painful, thankfully). So I guess I need to wake up to the fact that this is cycle 3. I'm not feeling terrified about that. Maybe the hypno has done something.
Pre IVF ovulation was CD16-17, post IVF CD12-14. The worry is I usually have at least 3 days of EWCM before lift off and there really is no sign of anything. Also I had wondered whether I had ovulated at the tail end of my period but just pushed that to the back of my mind. Maybe I am just stressing. I just don't want FET to be delayed again and really don't want to get another failed IVF just before my birthday so wanted to press on this cycle. Sorry I know I am being a drama llama.
at ovulation stealing spiders. So it has happened to you too? I was thinking that I must be a wally for considering it but it does look and sound a lot like that what's happened. Did yours start off for the first few hours as extremely itchy before turning excrutiatingly sore?
Posted too soon. It is strange that your period is so early. It's good though that you feel relaxed about things. Did you ovulate super early last cycle or something like that?
pout maybe you are getting back to your pre-IVF norm and will get a positive OPK in a couple of days? It must be stressful that your body is messing you around when you are waiting for Colin to come home.
Yes, I had the double puncture marks last year. I posted the pic on FB and the consensus was spider bite. Bleugh. It didn't get infected or anything though. It was just a bit red.
I don't think early ov is a possibility. I am pretty sure I ovulated Friday last week. I think it's a very short luteal phase. I googled it this morning and came across other women who have had the same thing, always about a week before their period is due. Some have had faint positive tests with it, so the consensus seems to be failed implantation.
What?! There are spiders that bite in the UK? AGH!!!!!! Tell me this isn't true! Pout that is an atrocity. Sorry to hear ov feels up the spout, maybe it is just going to come at the normal time? I know how bloody stressful it is when cycles are not the usual, it is one of the things I find the hardest. Hopefully tomorrow will bring two dark lines.
Euro bum to a short luteal cycle. I know that in the past I've had months where things were odd before tic but it used to not matter and would be easy to be logical about, travelling, flu etc. But everything seems so loaded now because you can't take a peek inside and see what is happening. I have been pondering again just what it is that stops me from getting pregnant. Borderline fsh just doesn't quite feel enough for two and a half years of barreness. But at least now you can begin a new cycle and I'm so glad you feel calmer, are you carrying on with the hypno?
Art I am so sorry to hear about your cat, losing pets is a sad thing. But it was lovely to hear from you and I will be thinking of you over the next few weeks - good luck! Exciting!
Nelly may af be banned from departure lounges! I have had that happen twice during ttc!
Sea, a great big love to you. These times are the shittest and you have had extra things to weigh you down. I empathise with ridiculous waiting for ivf, it is just so stagnating. But hold on tightly as you will get there and we will all be here to listen and support along the way.
Lemon, you have been in my thoughts. How are you?
Missing period update is - day 35 and nothing except a foul mood. I sense a period is on the way. I am always sensitive to horrible smells when I have PMT. On another planet that would equal diffedness.
Oh and I finish with a moan (den I know you will be with me on this!) My neighbour but one had her first baby the month I would have had mine, had we conceived on our honeymoon. He is now 2. I have been eagle eyeing her stomach as we both head out for work and thought I could spy a bump and found out yesterday she is having a boy, by eavesdropping I might add. Every time I see her I am reminded of what I could have had, had I been a fecund thing. Bah humbug.
Euro sorry you seem to have had another wtf month. You seem to have quite a few near misses. Sorry also for the sad feelings brought up by hypno session. The whole mind body connection is really hard to fathom out. Would you go and see her again?
Pout that is odd about awol ewcm how annoying. Do you ever find bd'ing more makes it easier to see it, if you get my drift?! at drama llama and ovulation stealing spiders
Joy how are you doing lovely? The mood swing thing sounds very familiar. It's so hard not being able to trust or predict your emotions in the same way you used to.
Sea sounds like a holiday is great timing. Well done you if you've managed until now with friends. Do you have to cut back on work projects, is it a time commitment thing or is your work quite stressful?
Art I can't believe it's nearly your time, mind you the start of your Ivf seems ages ago. Your nappies story made me laugh, and I did enjoy a bare knicker day today just me and the cotton . Thanks for the good wishes.
Lemon thinking of you hope you're ok and all your lovely frosties are giving you some hope. It hurts so much but will get better. Feel free to post away. I don't think I've ever read anything on here worse than how I already feel if that makes sense
Rabbit you always seem to have such drawn out starts to af, is it driving you mental?
MrsD at the FBI. On the telling people front some of our family members are better than others but at least I've found I don't have to pretend anymore and can just be honest when things are too much, and at least there's a bit of understanding. Everyone's different though. It is easier to keep up appearances via Skype (I've found).
I had a massive lip wobble instant tent moment on Friday which came out of nowhere, and was thinking how odd before realising it was probably something to do with the downregging. Have had very ouchy boobs which I've had the last few months now and I am not happy if this is a new feature of my cycle as it does my head in. Oddly on the spotting front this is the closest to af I've got without spotting since starting ttc (af due tues). If downregging has stopped my spotting I wonder if its something to do with my ovaries? Mind you didn't get ovulation bleeding like I normally do this month. Did anyone find downregging caused their af to be delayed? Just want to be prepared.
Waves to anyone I missed.
Oh and Rabbit sorry about the neighbour that sounds really tough, right on your doorstep. Spread a rumour that you heard its the postmans!
Cosmos sorry about the lip wobble. I'm sure this will just be drug induced. How long do you dr for? I normally have a 28/29 day cycle with three days spotting starting cd25/26 but the spotting can be up to 5 days. In October I'm pretty sure I had a cp and got af on cd34. I think this AWOL period is a result of my two week bleed and is a real curveball as I've not even had any spotting yet, not even a microscopic pin prick. If only it was pregnancy keeping it away!
Do you know roughly when you ov'd? I did read once lp tends to be more fixed than pre ov phase, when are you counting from with the bleed? Ooh I would so wish for it to be pgness keeping it away for you. I just have to wait for af now then call the clinic to go in for a scan. Yes I'm the same not even a pin prick of spotting. Very odd compared to the usual week of leakiness.
Odd as it may sound things are looking up in the lemon-household. I had a bit of a weepy moment writing what I felt about it all with my mc-diary from last year, which helped a lot. I'm applying the coping strategies, and they seem to be working. The bleed started yesterday and it feels just like a heavy period. So SB and I went on a cycling trip, drank beer in the sun and chatted about alternative routes to parenthood. We've also been discussing about this round and concluded I've had chemicals before, one definite and a few possibles. I might discuss it with the clinic before picking up the frosties, as I don't want to go through this too many times.
So sorry about the could-have-been scenario on your doorstep rabbit. I know the feeling, I have two nephews which were conceived while we were on honeymoon. They are totally delightful and both my sisters have finished making babies, thankfully.
Sorry about the spider-attack pout. And about the silly-buggers cycle. I really hope it can go forward soon. I so hope you'll be diffed on your birthday!!
Sorry about the cat arte. I simply cannot believe your due date is around the corner. Massive good luck and hand-holds.
Cosmos my AF went AWOL for a few days when waiting for it DRing. I think it can happen. Totally unfair because it means bonus days of devil's juice. Keeping everything crossed for the frostie(s)! Random painful boob are a check as well. Now they've gone back to their previous state... So clearly all is over.
at sending your thoughts to the FBI den. I really hope you'll be feeling a bit better soon. And that they manage your next round properly.
It sounds really odd euro. Maybe something to discuss with the clinic?
at being on the FBI most wanted list. Can you imagine what they'd make of my ttc ramblings? They'd probably think its all code for something sinister.
at the spider bite. Did it attack you while you were sleeping? I wonder what sort of spider it was? I once read a story about a man who found some sort of deadly spider in his bunch of bananas. Are you going to get the bite checked out? It might be infected. I don't think the spider stole your ovulation though.
Rabbits, ugh at our fertile neighbours, I have managed to avoid mine. From sizing up her bump I reckon she's about six months so she was probably conceiving when I was recovering from the lap. I have a friend whose second baby is due this month. She announced her first pregnancy when I had been trying for 6 months. I remember that announcement so well because it was the first one that upset me because I'd started to realise something was wrong. It doesn't seem right that she is due a second. Although I think having two so close will be tough.
Euro, I think the stimming drugs can have some sort of effect on cycles. I only had a low dose but my cycles aren't back to normal after Ivf yet. They are normal length and the flow is the same but I don't feel that I'm ovulating.
<peeks round corner to make sure the FBI are not reading>
cosmos my AF was a bit late when downregging last year. I had a 16 day luteal phase (it was usually 13/14 back then). I just looked back on futility fiend to check.
As you might remember, I found dring incredibily tough emotionally. You are doing really, really well if you are just having a lip wobble!
rabbit that sounds really odd. So many of us seem to be having strange cycles at the moment.
lemon I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. I have a follow up appointment at the clinic on Weds (which should have been before the start of our next cycle) so I will mention it then and see what they think.
I feel quite weak now. Saturday and Sunday were very heavy. I need some iron!
lemon I am so glad to hear that you are feeling a little better than you did. I have been thinking of you loads over the weekend and wondering how you were doing.
I think discussing your CPs with the clinic is a good idea not least to set your mind at rest.
cosmos I'm sorry about the lip wobbles. All the second guessing as to what the hell our bodies are doing is draining and ultimately emotional. How long are you downregging for? I started the Bureselin on the first day of my period and then didn't have to think about my next period until after ET.
I always thought that with EWCM checking DTD would muddy the waters (very bad analogy indeed!).
rabbit How curious about no spotting and being at CD 35. I'm sorry about your neighbour reminding you about how different things should be. There are two tiny babies on my street and I cross the road when I spot them to avoid having to see!
Apparently all spiders can bite but their fangs are generally too small to puncture the skin. However there are two types of spiders who can give a horrible bite (one of which has green fangs if you shine a light on them...faints). I am totally weirded out by it and dramatically declared to MrP how if we lived in Australia I would probably have died from my bite by now!
euro I hadn't heard of failed implantation resulting in an early bleed but I suppose it makes sense. Do you think you will discuss it with the clinic like lemons suggested?
Thank you ladies for your wise words re ovulation. I am still worried and a bit fed up that of course this is the month where it goes tits up but I am going to try and be philosophical about it. Maybe it might turn up or maybe I will have to wait another few weeks but Colin isn't going anywhere, he is safely ensconced in the freezer. Besides I have a new worry to keep me occupied We seem to have some kind of infestation of blue bottles in the bathroom. Every time I go in there are half a dozen flies buzzing around the inside of the window. I let them out the window and then more appear later on. I remember a couple of weeks ago sitting in the bath and hearing scrabbling from behind the (blocked) chimney breast in there and wonder whether something had died and somehow the flies are getting out of the chimney and out through the bath panels. Not sure what the hell we do about that. What with the spider and now the flies it is like fecking Springwatch in this house right now
Crumbs ladies, the thread has taken a dark turn in to creepy crawly land. Spider bites and fly infestations. <<shivers>> Sorry for the extra stresses. My boss nearly died from a spider bite last year but fear not he was in a tropical rainforest so what do you expect! Im such an arachnaphobe, the whole spider thing terrifies me.
Pout really sorry about the stress of ovulation. How many times are you testing a day? And you are making sure youre not drinking/peeing for about 4 hours before hand are you? For me thats the only way i can get the bloody sticks to work but perhaps its easier for others. Its sods law that when you are really pinning hope on ovulation and carefully monitoring that it starts messing you around. It could well be that you are getting back in to your old cycle routine. What a flipping stress and now the blue bottles. Grrr. Im sure your body will do exactly as it is suppose to do but nevertheless it doesnt stop the stressing.
Euro so bizarre you having such a heavy period after a short cycle.
Cos i really am not surprised you have been having a lip wobble when you are down regging. You poor thing, its so hard. When you can stop the down regging drugs?
Rabbit Im sorry about your period MiA. Its so weird and unsettling for you. Are you going to get your immunes tested?
Lemon so pleased you are feeling better too and its certainly worth mentioning things to your clinic as well. Have you had your nk cells tested? I do find it odd that there is nothing seemingly wrong, you produce great embryos as well . Is that something your clinic will look in to?
Well my period has arrived and there i was wandering in to work daydreaming whether i might be pregnant and how I would break the news to Roy. I have had loads of spots (very unusual) the last week and that was a symptom of my first pregnancy plus i had very strong period pains a few days ago and it never materialised. When I got to work, Auntie had well and truly arrived. I did laugh at my stupidity that i could have wasted my time day dreaming about such things. Theres no fool like an old fool. SIGH.
So with my dodgy irregular cycles i could be ivfing in as little as 3 weeks time. I suddenly feel sick at the thought of how Im going to try and do all the running about without work finding out. I wonder whether Ill have to have another cyst aspiration and hysteroscopy again too. I need to try and put some of my hypno techniques in to action i think otherwise im going to have some massive meltdown / freak out. Apart from you ladies, we aren't telling any friends or families this time.
pout don't want to worry you but it sounds like you might have a corpse behind the chimney, perhaps a bird? Could you ask your landlord to investigate? Is there no smell? Have you seen your neighbours recently?
joy sorry about af? Did she show without warning? The cow. Only 3 weeks until your next cycle, will you be doing downregging or is it going to be the mild version? I know you wouldn't want to do this but I wonder if it might be best for your GP to sign you off sick when you're in the middle of it and having to attend lots of appointments. It's an added stress having to think about work and how to slip away.
joycep So sorry that the witch snuck up on you like that. I have sometimes done the whole daydreaming about how I will tell MrP etc and then feel bloody stupid when AF turns up again!
Crikey at the thought of IVF in just 3 weeks. Wow. Its is terrible that you are having to worry about time off work when the whole thing is stressful enough as it is. It doesn't help that there is such an element of uncertainty as to when stuff will happen. MrP is panicking a bit about yet more time off for the ET I think. We had words because he was asking me to pinpoint an exact date so he could book holiday for the day. I was cross that after 3 and half years the penny still hadn't dropped that my body doesn't run like clockwork! I can understand you wanting to keep this cycle private and not tell anyone, we're not either this time. Are you going to see your hypno again?
at not peeing too much. That is part of my problem I am constantly on the loo always, have been like that for years (next thing on the list to get checked out after all this TTC stuff). I am trying to reduce my fluid intake a bit and wonder whether this is having a knock on effect on CM and round and round in circles it goes.
mrsd I did laugh at you asking whether I have seen my neighbour recently. I think something has died either in the roof space, behind the chimney breast or under the floorboards. I am just hoping that it is a bird and nothing more sinister like a rat or mouse. I think we will have to call the landlord because I shut the window in between using the bathroom and half an hour later there were around 40 flies at the window. I screamed when I opened the door and had to steel myself to open the windows and bat them out. I'm leaving the window permanently open now and just hope that next doors cat doesn't sneak in again because all hell would break loose
at bananas. MrP always used to look at me a bit when I check the bananas we buy for anything suspicious. Not such a crazy lady now huh.
Mrsd - most sensible people would do that. I feel very vulnerable at my workplace though and don't want to give them cause for a redundancy. I have been saving holiday and so this time round I do plan to take a week between EC and ET. I was in so much pain after EC for a good 5 days last time, it was a mistake going in. I just hope i can take a week off at short notice. My biggest trouble is when I am required in a meeting and I know I need to go for a scan or a blood test or something.
I hope to god I am not on LP. I was on Flare last time as Super low amh. Certainly not mild but only 13 days before EC so a lot easier than Lp.
Pout - men are hopeless! There is no way Roy will be able to take as many mornings off this time. I have told him he will just be required for 6am sperm donation on EC day and that is it. I will just look after myself the other times. I remember you saying about the loo thing. I was thinking about this the other day as I was concerned last year that I couldn't get through the night without peeing. It had just suddenly developed and went on for months. But touch wood I have never had that problem again since taking the month's worth of antibiotics. Makes me think I had a bug somewhere. May not be relevant to you at all but thought I would mention!
Yes! Where is everyone? I'm in bed with raging period pains and a grump on. No spotting though - that's about as exciting as trying for a baby gets for me! Pout any signs of ov?
Yep 'tis quiet. Thought I had killed the thread with my inane me me me witterings....
Sorry about the painful cramps rabbit Hope they subside soon. Maybe when you start properly they will go. No signs of ovulation yet. Bloody typical that this is the month it goes AWOL. I am pretty depressed about it TBH. MrP and I were musing that we have had the plague and pestilence in this house and that we hoped Colin wasn't going to be the anti christ...not likely Colin will be anything this cycle
Joycep Interesting about the antibiotics. I'm getting up several times in the night and I am really tired and grumpy!
Oh boo pout to silly bugger cycles, how do our bodies know just how to piss us off? What does the hosp say? How are the flies? A rat died in the pipes at work and it was grim, I hope it something that goes away as quickly as its started. Colin is keeping clear as he doesn't care much for them. But he's very patient hold on there, it must be so infuriating but it will all be just right in there very soon.
And we all love pout witters! A spider stole my ovulation is definitely one for our We Tried For a Long Time book
series of 50
You never killed the fred with your stories about spiders pout, they make me smile. I am just really flat. No energy left over for personals, no energy left to write witty things, no energy. I am just so disappointed and disheartened. At the moment I cannot imagine getting going again with FETs, but first another blood test to confirm that Lembie has left the building tomorrow
but since I think I have had chemicals before, I expect this to be the case, there can hardly be anything left in my womble
Lemons I can relate to how you're feeling. It is really positive that you can do fet though, a lot of my despair has been because I have nothing in the freezer and have to start again.
Rabbit grrr at period pain.
Pout any news on the corpse?
There seems to be a proliferation of those Am I pregnant threads I find them so depressing, even just seeing he titles. I want to reply to say yes you probably Are because the whole world but me is pregnant grrrrrr.
Still no positive OPK pout? What CD are you now? How irritating that your body is messing you about.
mrsd I find those threads annoying too. One of the BESH once posted on one of them "I don't know, have you tried peeing on your keyboard so the internet can tell you?" or similar and I always think of that now.
rabbit sorry about the period pains and grump!
I think droid is almost done here, which is something. I have my follow up appointment with the clinic to discuss cycle #2 in a couple of hours and my first scan for cycle #3 tomorrow.
lemons I can understand that you must feel so flat right now and am so sorry for you that this cycle worked out this way. I know that right now you won't feel like thinking beyond how shitty this situation. I will be thinking of you tomorrow having your blood test.
euro Good luck with your appointment today.
mrsd I have noticed the volume of those threads too. They don't make me angry just make me think back to the optimism I had back at the start of TTC and what an unexpected turn things have taken. I do often read the threads and wonder how many of the ladies will end up in HMS Barren & don't yet know - that is pretty twisted I suppose. The pissing on the keyboard comment made me laugh!
rabbit I also sniggered loudly at the 50 book series of We Tried For a Long Time. I can see the film franchise now and associated merchandise - official OPK stick anyone, Alton Towers Dildo cam ride? The flies seem to have subsided. MrP sealed all the gaps in the bath panel and emptied a can of fly spray in there before doing so. He reckons that once the food source
corpse has been eaten and the maggots hatched it will resolve itself. I read though that maggots hatch in 3 waves so I don't think we are out of the woods. Having a bath is interesting right now
Still no signs of ovulation. I think I wished this on myself when I mused up thread about this happening I think that I will give it till Friday which will be CD 18 and if there is still nothing happening in the pants department and no hint of a line on the OPKs then I will call the hospital and let them know that it is a bust.
Pout - damn at the lack of ovulation. Can you ask for scan and a blood test? A) to check your lining and b) to check progesterone levels to see if they are post ov. Or aren't they accommodating? It is so depressing that this is happening this month. It is no wonder that it is so difficult to feel positive about things. Ps- I think evidence above suggests I killed the thread. I have had writing diarrhea ever since my break!
Lemon - huge hug. There is such a come down after everything and it is thoroughly draining. Hope tomorrow is alright.
Mrsd / agree about the lack of frosties. This plays over and over in my head and has fuelled my despair.
Rabbit - sorry about period pains, poor you.
Joy TBH I can't be bothered with more fannying about at the hospital. I would rather wait and just start afresh next cycle. I also wouldn't feel comfortable pressing on this cycle if there was some question mark over when/if ovulation occurred.
at writing diarrhea. I don't think that of you at all and like it when the thread is busy and chatty. I just worry sometimes that I witter on about inconsequential & boring stuff too much and worry that people might think I am too needy.
I'm sorry that you feel like that about frosties. I can understand though. I felt gutted that I only had one and am worried to death about it combusting during the defrost. I wonder whether the subconscious worry of that has vapourised my ovulation. Also the fact that my FET has been my insurance and fallback and now it is upon me and I guess I am little
a lot afraid that my Plan B might fail too.
Pout - needy?? You certainly don't come across as such! I love it when people write about non TTC stuff. You are right, I don't blame you for wanting to go for another cycle if this one is a bust. It is so bloody typical that this is messing you around. Do you use the smiley digital OPKs?
I am not surprised you are worried to death about defrost. There is so much hope pinned but it is going to be fine. It will defrost perfectly. It will it will!
Pout I dont find you needy. Also the lack of ovulation is incredibly frustrating! I understand why you would want to move onto the next cycle so that this one doesnt have a cloud of doubt hanging over it.
Joy and Pout I like the thread better when it is chatty and a mixture of TTC and non-TTC related issues. I feel like it makes us all a bit less one-dimensional.
Joy sorry about AF rearing her ugly head.
Rabbit The period pains sound pretty grim. I hope they subside soon.
Euro good luck for the appointment.
MrsD I agree about those threads being aggravating. All the early pregnancy symptoms everyone seems to have are identical to what my normal PMT is (nausea, spots, bloating, tiredness, moodiness, etc). I always want to write just POAS.
Lemons Big hug. I would just give it a bit of time. The possibility of FET is still really positive.
Cosmos sorry about the lip wobble
Art - Sorry to hear about your little kitty. Good for you relaxing while waiting for the big day (this is what is specifically recommended in the pregnancy guidebook handed out by our government). Soon there will be a little art in his/her bassinet. I understand how there is not much of a link happening between the belly and a living child.
Sorry about the huge post again. I have been reading to keep up but have not had the time to post. There isnt much new with me except that I will be attending a childrens birthday party this weekend, most of the kids will be the age my first was supposed to be. Im not mental about it like I was last year, but it still stings. I hope this is a good step forward for me.
Hi ladies. A quick post from the beach at the med.
lemons. I'm just so sorry this was not the cycle for you. I'm gutted for you. I hope in time you will heal and feel good about the fet cycle. Big hugs
Pout. Sorry to read about scary insects. The missing ovulation is the last thing you need. Hopefully it's a one off and everything will be back to normal real soon.
You could never kill thread. I love your posts.
Euro. Hope your appointment went well today. The short cycle is just the last thing you need.
Rabbit. Hope the period pains have buggared off and you are in better spirits.
Joy. Typical of the witch to sneak up on you. I suppose it is good least that you can get on with your cycle. You could not kill the thread ever. It's a delight to have you back.
Mrsd I'm just gutted you are feeling so down. This journey really sucks. I hope things improve. Don't give up. I'm sure we will all hold our baby one day and the difficult road we had to endure to get there will only make us better parents.
Love to everyone I have missed.
Sun and salty water has helped lift the dark cloud I was under. I have decided I can face barrenness with a smile or with tears and I may as well fake smile until I feel it.
Another a plus announcement via FB. A friend who got preggars after 1 month of trying 2 years into my ttc. Having her second already. Lots of photos of her holding belly on FB. If I wasn't laughing like crazy I would be crying.
Sea I'm so pleased to hear that holidays have lifted your spirits! FFS re your friend and her announcement. Some people just don't know how lucky they are... You and Mr S have had such a hard time recently and definitely deserve a really lovely, relaxing holiday. You can come back all refreshed, do IVF and win your baby
pout sorry to hear about the missing in action ovulation. How bloody typical. Are you peeing on ov sticks twice a day? Like you, after my first IVF I went from a day 17 ovulation to day 14 and then back to day 17 after the 2nd IVF. Maybe it will arrive tomorrow? I also had tracking scans with my cycle, although the stupid dr still panicked about me not ovulating. If I hadnt, itd have been a medicated FET the next cycle. Might be something to consider? And urgh re flesh chomping spiders and the fly invasion. In my parents house we often had the dead bird in the chimney, bluebottles thing. They went eventually, although the room looked like fly armegedon.
grouch pleased to hear all is well with you! Hope the party goes ok. Its amazing how stingy these things still are- I know I still find instadiffs really hard. Do you have a bump now?
euro hope the appointment went ok and they didnt keep you waiting too long. So are you starting cycle #3 now?
mrsd those freds massively pish me off. Why bother posting that?! And they always turn out to be bloody pregnant. I like the Besh response Euro mentioned. Hope you are ok. Your next ivf isnt too far away now, dont give up.
lemons big hugs lovely. You will get through this and will start to feel better and excited about the frosties, I promise. It will just take some time to grieve for lembie. I was ridiculously sad when IVF #2 didnt work, but found in the weeks after the bfn, knowing I had a frostie helped. Although with it being only the one, I had pouts fear re defrosting. BTW pout these days they have a v. high chance of surviving defrost, although I know this won't stop you worrying.
joy you havent killed the fred at all! Its so lovely to have you chatting on here again.
art you are soooo near now (if not actually in labour!). Hope you are feeling ok and enjoying the start of maternity leave.
rabbit boo for the AF pains. I was so hoping youd come on here and announce a stripy stick. I hope you feel better soon. Rats at work? <shudder>
I think Nellie is on holidays v. near where I was last month, an area I think euro knows too. How funny would it be if we all met up there?
Well I hope this doesnt make anyone feel shitter, but I had my 21 scan today and its a little girl!! I sobbed
like a mad woman when they told us, as it made it all feel so real. All was well with the baby, but the menkulling doesnt stop as they noticed a couple of things (fibroid near cervix and high blood flow resistance) that could cause problems in later pregnancy. We have another scan in late Sept to see how things are going, sigh.
Lots of luffs to everyone, particularly the tent dwellers.
Gin - A little girl. How exciting! 21 weeks... you must be due around Dec 18th. At least you reacted! At my 12/13 week scan I just sat there and stared because I couldn't process that the baby on the screen was in me. The technician must have thought I was cold
or mental. I am starting to have an obvious bump. Do you have a bump?
Sea - Your holiday sounds lovely. I'm glad you and MrS are out relaxing after your recent troubles. I have to admit that insta-duffers still irritate me/make me jealous .
Now back to work!
Ooo, gin, I have a question for you. Do I remember correctly that you had valium for ET? What was it like? They have suggested I try it for EC. I'm a bit nervous as part of my issue with sedation is being out of control so if the valium would make me feel not like myself then it isn't going to help.
A little girl - that's amazing. I hope the worries never materialise.
sea I'm glad you feel happier and can even withstand an A+ announcement.
sweet it must be wonderful to be developing a bump!
pout my love, you are never needy. joy is absolutely right about your posts.
Well I had my appointment and also the first scan that was booked for tomorrow (which is good, as it saves me a trip). Basically the clinic's focus now seems to be on getting an embie to stick. They talked about an endometrial scratch (too late to do that this cycle now) and we discussed intralipids but didn't draw any conclusions. We need to decide by tomorrow whether we will stay natural or add in some low dose drugs again. Mr euro favours natural, pointing out that each time we have deviated from our plan, we have regretted it. I am not so sure and like the odds of having more than one egg, but he has a point.
Wow, congratulations Gin a little girl, and all going well. I am so happy to see it. And no, wins on here do not hurt or bother me. They give hope
particularly a frostie win, it was your frostie, wasn't it?
Yay for the bump too sweet. Other people's pregnancies go so fast!
The clinic visit sounds good euro. I'd stick with the plan, I think, because the closest you've come was with a complete natural round. For what it's worth, I'd want to really think about changing it beforehand. Keeping everything crossed for third time
Sorry about the AWOL ovulation, pout. My new theory is that mrp killed it with fly-killer and locked it in behind the bath You do not strike me as needy. I love your posts, your witty comments etc <swoon>
Sorry about the sadness and misery on here. Especially sorry to joy and den for my moping considering I have a freezer drawer full of
frosties chances. The mourning this failure/loss just takes time, and multiple losses do concern me now. I'll keep a hawk eye on euro's progress since she is my hormonal twin and always a step or two ahead!
Well done on the happiness found in the sun and sea view. The laughing instead of crying sounds like a wise move. I hope I can find that place again!
Hope the period pain settles and you feel better soon rabbit.
Here, things are a bit all over the place. SB has been great in supporting me, but I googled myself shit-scared about multiple miscarriages. Time to talk to the clinic whilst being poked tomorrow
I had to chat to a specialist in dertility for work today and did not quiz her on my situation, proud of myself
I think you are right drizz. Last time it was suggested at the first scan that I add in some drugs, and I went with it, but I felt easier on the natural cycle. Also, if I go natural there is more chance that they will let me be awake for EC as it will be quick with just one egg to grab.
I have my second hypno session tomorrow. Which should have been before this cycle started, but AF coming a week early has thrown everything out!
Thanks ladies. You are all ver lovely and gracious.
lemon the ginster was indeed a frostie. So it can and does work!
euro I did have a 10mg Valium for ET. It was bloody brilliant! Although I have taken a lower dose before to get me on a plane, so kinda knew what to expect. I just felt really chilled. When we were driving to the clinic mental London drivers nearly hitting us barely registered! I think I was also a bit chattier and gigglier. A bit like being drunk, but def not the brain fog you get with sedation.
It's funny that both you and I hate EC and makes me wonder if it's something to do with our clinic. Having said that, I've never liked the idea of being knocked out and did have that terrible experience first EC. I couldn't do EC awake - just the sight of the knitting needle makes me feel sick!
When you had your follow up, did they say if they thought the drugs or EC timing had compromised the quality of the eggs? Totally natural did work v well for you, but I also understand wanting to get a few more chances at the golden embie. Maybe do natural this cycle and then look at mild next? Mind you it sounds like the embryos are getting to blast anyway to produce some hcg. Good luck with whatever you decide and your scan today!
pout any sign of that pesky ovulation? The fet stress could well have delayed it.
grouch I do have a bump. In fact someone gave me a seat on the bus last night and I wasn't even wearing my baby on board badge, so I must look pregnant now rather than just fat!
awwwww, a baby girl gin how lovely. Although baby boys are lovely too! Don't worry about the other things, I'm sure they going to keep an eye on everything and look after you well. Fibroids are common in pregnancy, the extra hormones help them grow I think. The Dr said the cyst I had would have grown much bigger if I was pregnant so that's why they wanted to remove it beforehand.
euro natural seems to work for you so I think if I were you I'd stick with that for one more round. I don't see the point of taking the drugs if you don't have to. I'm sure they are still wreaking havoc with my cycles, although today I think my boobs are a tiny bit sore so maybe I have ovulated.
pout it's normal to have awol ovulation now and again. I wish our bodies could be relied upon. Yesterday I was trying to work out when our ivf cycle would start but it's impossible to know when cycles will start and finish because I'm not 100% regular.
art I'm thinking of you. Are you getting sick of people asking if things have started yet? Please let us know when there is news, and I'd love to see a snuggly baby photo. A 10 plusser baby is always a wonderful boost.
Thanks for the run down, gin. I am not sure about being "drunk". Hmmm.
They don't think that delaying EC compromised egg quality. I am still not 100% convinced. I think we will go with natural. With only one follie to focus on, there are fewer timing ishoos. If we do a 4th, we will probably do a full mild cycle, rather than natural modified.
You're right about getting to blast. 2 or 3 out of our 3 embies (over 2 cycles) must have got that far, which is actually a pretty good rate. Now we just need one to go the distance.
How lovely to look properly pregnant.
art I agree with mrsd - I'd love to see a pic of a snuggly 10+er baby.
We've got one in receptionist from Ghostbusters stylee shriek Pissed on a stick last night and there is a line, not a positive but something. I know it isn't conclusive that anything is definitely happening on the ov front but it is better than seeing stark white. FX that the line will develop. Incidently, if I swap OPK brand now that will be okay won't it? After all this prolonged testing I have almost run out & also I want to switch to twice daily testing to be sure I don't miss the blighter.
gin A little girl is such lovely news, makes me feel all moist in the eyes And BTW your baby news (or any Ten Plussers baby news) could never be unwelcome. I am thrilled for you. Talking of which, art any news?
gin I am stupidly excited that you have a bump big enough to be offered a seat. Work that bump!
sweet I smiled at how you described your scan. That is so sweet (even though the sonographer might've thought you were mental!)
euro Another one here of the opinion that going with your original plan and not changing at the last minute sounds best. I am never happy when I deviate from a plan and hate that kicking myself afterwards feeling.
I am sorry that you feel so nervous about the EC. I was totally knocked out and didn't have these worries thankfully. Valium or something similar might be a good idea. You might not get the drunk feeling, I think we all react differently to these types of drugs. Maybe you could try one before hand, on a weekend a few hours before bed perhaps to see how you react? That is probably a shocking suggestion and best ignored!
lemons I am so glad that you feel a little brighter. This is a tough time for you. How did you get on at the clinic today?
at MrP zapping ov.
sea I am glad that your holiday is helping you feel a bit better about things. That announcement is a toughie. I would be frothing at the mouth having to see FB photos of someone clutching their tummy like you describe. Please tell me there is something resembling a bump to cradle!
mrsd Big yes at the impossibility of nailing down timings when your cycle isn't reliable. I've got the same issues at the moment. If ovulation doesn't disappear again I was trying to work out when test day would be this cysle because MrP has been told that he has to go away for work and it looks likely it might be at this time. He says he will tell them no but I don't want him to do that unless we are absolutely sure that the dates clash & even then I'm not sure. Is it wet of me not wanting to be alone on test/AF date?
Ladies I also wanted to quickly say (so as to to harp on anymore so as you change your minds!) how kind your words were about the neediness thing. Thank you. You are all such a lovely bunch
pout woo hoo to a thick line on the way. What day is it - can you still go and collect Colin? You do realise that if Colin does end up being a boy his name is predetermined forever more in your head . Bit late to the party but never come across as needy. Hysterically funny and kind yes. There were three bluebottles in the bathroom yesterday and I though t of you, I thought you'd be touched by that thought!
Joycep please know that I am very glad to have you back, it feels like the whole team is bolstered by you being here. We have been in this for a long time together now haven't we?
Euro I think I did read that your clinic doesn't do local anaesthetic which sounds ideal for you, any way of requesting this? I have taken valium once after a traumatic thing and it just took the edge off things and made things still. I didn't feel woozy or anything, but it might have been a low dose. It might be worth seeing if you could have that beforehand whatever happens? I think gin talks lots of sense about going natural and then, if needs be (but I'm hoping not) you could explore trying some drugs. I am pretty worried about how the whole drug malarkey is going to effect me. If only there was another way. I would happily have my baby grown in a lab after donating a bit of saliva for my dna thank you very much.
ginster (not like the sausage roll!!!) I am so so so chuffed for you that you are having a girl and that you are the owner of a bump that makes people give up their seat. That is just ace. It seems like no time at all that you were on here not ever fancying your chances with Dave puking all over his toothbrush! Sorry that there is still thoughts to potentially mental over but broidy things are so common and an extra scan will just help you to know that all continues to be lovely in there. It cheers me no end that you are keeping in touch with us.
lemon step away from the google, it never brings happiness! Not that I can speak. I have a firm rule with myself now that if I am tempted to google, high fsh/trying for more than three years/low amh/ivf success/immune issues or any other doom fodder then I must go directly to pinterest and pin something. It seems to be working fairly well and I haven't broken it for almost three weeks. Go me! My acupuncturist asked, what are you hoping to find? I hear her saying it every time I drown myself in fertility friends. I am glad that you have been doing nice things with SB and that some of the fog is listing just a little. There is no way this can't end up with a baby for you, you make super embryos and respond very well. It is just a shitter that it has to take this long.
sea I am so glad you are having the laughing triumphing misery. I thought your words about tackling things sadly or with a smile on your face were wise and I have been trying to apply the same to myself. What always bamboozles me are period hormones. My tears barrier is removed. And it isn't always because I am sad my period came. I knew it would this month but I still felt tearful over other things. I hope you are still very much in holiday mode.
sweet I know exactly what you mean about pregnancies still stinging, I can picture feeling exactly the same if I ever get there.
I have been tackling the garden a lot this week in angry bursts and have achieved a lot. There is so much veg that we can't eat it all and are giving it away, I find this pleasing. The most abundant crop has been contraceptive laced peas. I cooked them in a griddle pan yesterday in their pods with oil and salt and ate them like edamame. They are clearly the reason that we have not conceived yet.
On Tuesday night after posting on here a horrible thing happened to me and if you eating or don't like gross things then READ NO MORE. I woke up at two in the morning with the most awful pain, beyond period pain I have ever had before and it was pretty much constant, not coming in waves like normal. I was curled up in a ball on the floor waiting for painkillers to kick in when I felt a horrible bearing down feeling and when I went to the loo I passed (sorry!) a huge clot, bigger than a tampon, it was gross! And then the pains stopped instantly. I have never had such a thing happen and am totally freaked out by it. I don't have clotty periods and if I do it is tiny bits. Is this normal for some of you? Do you get awful pains until they come out? What is it?! Maybe it was my phantom broid! I wondered if it could be something left over from last month. I tested with cheapy sticks last month and got on four tests very faint lines but do wonder if they are just shit tests. But, with a two week bleed and a 37 day cycle I really am starting to think that I was a bit pregnant. Do remnants sometimes come out the following month? Sorry for total oversharing. Hare is revolted by the whole thing and I dare not bring it up again! I think if I say but what do you think it was one more time he might actually divorce me. Also, the pains were so bad that I actually broke out in a sweat. Presuming labour is far worse than that I am now more confident than ever that I will be terrible at giving birth. Should that ever be on the cards.
Just found out there has been a birth. It has finally happened. Our baby girl name has been taken. That stings as much as a triple A plus
Hello all [peeks head round corner and tentatively rejoins thread]
My mini holiday turned into full blown family crisis with A&E visits, surgery, social work, nursing homes and a prolonged stay taking care of elderly relatives so have fallen hopelessly out of the loop. Thankfully we are both ok and everyone is now taken care of but will take me a while to catch up with all of you. We started cycle number 2 today, although no stimming until Monday and then I am back on my mega dose of 300units of menopur. AFC was about 8 compared to 2/3 last time so maybe more positive. Three small cysts but they are happy to continue so we are off and running.
Wanted to say lemon I am so sorry that this wasn't the one and I do hope that you are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel now. This is all so hard.
Oh and welcome back joy! My pessimistic self was imagining all sorts of terrible fates for you and roy so I am pleased to hear that you were just taking a break and working things out.
Have just seen your update rabbit and offering a hand to hold after your announcement.
I will be back for more of a catch up once I have read back properly. Big waves to you all.
Rabbit - I am so sorry to hear about the birth, big hug. Your clot sounds like my miscarriage experience - except the pain lasted longer while I lost multiple large clots in a row with bleeding lasting over a week. My doctor told me that if it ever happened again I was to go in immediately because some pieces can be left inside, which may be what happened to you?
Pout - It sounds like you're approaching a positive opk!
Euro - I would go with the valium, it should help to relax you. I had a friend who used to need them before dentist appointments. It's good that your clinic is focused on making this next one stick and that natural cycles work well for you.
lemon - Step away from the scary google of doom. I know I am just as guilty of it, but I do find myself much happier when I can resist the urge. You have plenty of frosties, which is very positive.
gin - Impressive that someone offered you a seat! I am not quite there yet.
I need to be more like rabbit and attack my gardens this week. Mr. grouch has been doing a great job bringing in the veg crops but I need to tackle the front walkway. I didn't realize peas were laced with contraceptives - they are my absolute favorite veggie.
Xpost madness - I am so sorry to hear about the family-related crises and lack of proper holiday time for you.
Yikes rabbit That sounds grim. I get the smallish and pin prick clots every cycle and a few cycles get larger clots. I had a couple of cycles where I felt myself passing something gee this is nice innit! and the clots were about an inch by 2 inches but flat and not solid or anything shaped like a tampon. Also I have never got the bearing down feeling or accompanied massive pains. It is curious and I do wonder whether it could be linked to the positive preg sticks. I would say that my period pain is worse before I pass a clot God it gets grimmer. Sorry Somehow afterwards the flow is heavier & easier, hence no need for the womb to contract I suppose. I am so sorry that you are having this headfuckery, not to mention such God awful period pains.
Oh God at the birth announcement and stealing your name. That would really upset me too. Try and think of it as you will come across a name that you like much better that will be far more suited to your special bundle when it arrives.
The name Colin cannot stick for various reasons
not least because it makes me think of that advert "Coliiiiin, tidy your room"
Want MrP to come and nuke your bluebottles and cover your bathroom in gaffer tape for you? It can be arranged!
Your veg haul is impressive. I love peas in the pods. I love them in pasta. Do you eat the pea shoots? Tesco used to do them as a salad in a bag though I haven't seen them in ages. Those in a steak sandwich with horseradish was a real treat in this house.
Can I agree with what you said about joycep & her coming back has given the thread a real boost.
madness Hello, we have missed you! It sounds like you have had an awful time of it. I hope that you are okay.
How are you getting on with drugs?
x-posted with sweet
rabbit I think that sweet's advice is spot on and a doctors trip might be a good idea to er on the side of caution.
Thanks sweet I am aghast at how much it hurt more than anything else. I didn't know my body could do that to me!
mad welcome back into the 10 plus camp with open arms. I wondered where you had gone. It sounds as if you have truly been through the mill. Are things a little more settled now? I hope you are able to get a bit of resting time in as his all kicks off. Is August quiet for you work wise? It is brilliant that you have responded so much better than last time. I am thinking insanely positive thoughts on your behalf.
Thanks pout it all seems to have gone fairly back to normal now though it has been all a bit watery and bizarre (again with the grimness!). Thank you for doing similar sharing, these are the things you can never discuss anywhere else! Whatever it was, my body took great displeasure at it being there. I do wonder if I have a stupidly low pain threshold. But then I can hold hot stuff with far more nonchalance than hare so who knows. And this was the most pain I have ever had including broken bones. No doubt i will be scanned imminently. I live in fear of being told there is a huge baby blocking fibroid and my sanity exploding like a puff of smoke in the face of the sonographer.
And yes yes to peashoots. Though they toughen up pretty fast. Bastard pigeons have eaten my kale so the garden now has attractive hanging cds to frighten them. I have turned into my father.
Rabbit here goes again on the GRIM but my period blood is always very loose and watery after passing a large clot. That said I do think a trip to the GP might be prudent.
Don't stress about a baby blocking fibroid. sweet's explanation seems very sensible. Nothing is more insanity inducing than not knowing what the heck is going on
I'm sure you don't have a low pain threshold. What you went through with fibroidgate proves that.
Rabbit excuse my bad language but what the fecking hell? Have you done a test this month and did those faint lines ever disappear? I have heard of people passing large clots after miscarriages. I think things can get trapped inside. So has your period arrived yet? Is it worth you getting a scan of some sort? Im sorry Im not much help but it all sounds very distressing for you. Poor poor Rabbit. By the way, did you have an amh test in the end? So sorry about your name pinching. Grrrr. I actually think that we can all name our kids what we like after our adventures, even if our siblings or best friends have pilfered them.
Also thank you for your such generous thoughts. We have been chatting on here for ages now...more than 2 years eeeek!
Pout it sounds like something is happening with you which is great. I think its fine to change brand. I would always recommend the smiley ones as it just gives a clear yay or nay although they are extremely expensive. Somewhere, somebody is laughing in a great big house called Piss Stick Mansion.
Incidentally did anyone see that piss stick sales shot through the roof when Middy announced her pregnancy. Do people suddenly think argh yes, i want a baby too . Very odd!
Sea im pleased you are having a lovely time out there. Keep laughing and dont let announcements make you cry because dont you forget it will be your turn one day.
Gin awwww Im so so thrilled you are having a little girl. Its just wonderful news and people are now giving up their seats for you...and so they should! You certainly waited a long time for that to happen. Also fibroids shiboids. Pah! Youve dealt with so much more , youre a ten plusser, nothing will phase you now!
Lemon it doesnt matter if you have 50 frosties - when you have had miscarriages, failed implantations and you dont know what you are dealing with , nothing is of much comfort so please dont apologise for moping. Its completely shit but I hope the clinic gives you some reassurance or at least more thoughts on what can be done today.
Euro- you have indeed had an amazing rate of going to blast. Natural and not changing plans seems a good idea.
Mad welcome back, I was wondering where you had got too. I am so sorry you have had a tough time. Why oh why does everyone go through so much sh*t on here. It seems so unjust. I am hoping this will be your round this time Mad. Best of luck.
You need my dogs to scare away the birds. The pigeons live in fear of them here but strangely the cats just sit on the shed roof silently mocking my mutleys while they go batshit
Pout the pigeons are stupid but good at cabbage wrecking. It could just be that to add to the delights of periods I'm now getting whopper clots. Which in turn is insanity inducing you are spot on, it's the NOT KNOWING. A written report on each cycle would be immensely helpful.
Sperm did not reach egg
Sperm met egg and gave up. And so on.
Joycep it is sad to say I can't remember the point at which we decided to try. It has been so bloody long! I try to justify that 2 years and 9 months is just a drop in the ocean. But who am I kidding. For all of my best friends it's been long enough to make an entire family. But I know for sure it wouldn't have been a royal baby that got me going. I think my biological clock was so loud other people could hear it.
joyI am laughing at piss stick mansion. I nearly fell over at the price of the smiley faced sticks. I am beginning to think that I ought to have invested in some better ones than the ones I bought because I just don't trust them. When I was getting no lines I was looking at the website of the company that makes the brand I bought & I was fantasising about making an effigy of "Marianna" the alleged ex barren "proprietor" who personally tests all her products blah blah and sticking pins in it.
I feel strangely stabby about people starting to TTC just because the Royals were diffed. Hope that still isn't going on because if we all get pregnant soon we won't get a bed on a maternity ward for love nor money.
rabbit You are so right about people completing their families in the time it has taken us lot to achieve the great sum of zero. How depressing.
Can I ask a question about OPKs please? If you get a second line of which a skinny vertical strip of it is as dark as the control line, does that count as a positive or does the whole width of the line have to be totally the same darkness? My second line starts of really dark and then fades to less dark the further towards the end of the stick you look. Normally I would class that as a positive but I really want to get this right esp given the confusion anyway this month.
Welcome back madness. Sorry you've had such a shit time! I really hope this will be The Cycle for you.
Rabbit that sounds very much like miscarriage to me. I would get scanned to check everything is gone. Last year after I passed the sac, there was still some debris left, the clinic let it be for a month, and I passed it the next AF. Clottiness and cramping is something I experience quite regularly, but never as bad as after mc/failed implantation.
The news here is that hcg is back to nothing, and as it was so low, the clinic are not counting it towards a multiple miscarriage situation, yet. There take on it, is that I've just been very unlucky. And as there is little to be done
not keen on immunes myself it makes sense to move onto the frosties, after a bit more recovery. I thought the bleed was over and then my body had rabbit sympathies and I curled up for a while and now it is a lot better. I'll be off the internet for a while so I am just hoping to come back to some good news!
Joy I am so glad to have you back as well. poutster thanks for the period-sharing. I do love these boards... And it sounds like a positive - but I haven't used OPKs for 2,5 years.
PS everyone warning me of google was right, had a good chat with multiple mc, now multiple adorable kids, friend yesterday, that was a lot better for me!
Just a quickie, pout sounds like a positive to me, but do have a look at the pee on a stick website, as I think it has some info about ov sticks. If it's any comfort, I don't think ginster went back in on exactly the right day... I got a positive on the Sat, but futility friend thought I ov'd on the Monday and ginster (who was frozen on day 6) went back in on the Fri.
rabbits and mad sorry about the shitty times you've both been having and good luck with the cycle mad.
Argh gotta go.