Anyone else going to start ttc next month?

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Coffee1Sugar Sun 21-Apr-13 08:48:10

Anyone like to join me on this journey of conception?! Going to start in May to ttc no 2

Beccadugs Sun 21-Apr-13 08:56:48

ME TOO! I'm very over excited! Just waiting for AF to arrive so we can ditch the condoms!!

Coffee1Sugar Sun 21-Apr-13 09:18:47

Yay, a ttc buddy grin

Beccadugs Sun 21-Apr-13 21:43:17

Haha! Glad it's not just me who is super keen! DH had to remind me and take the condoms out of the trolly at the supermarket today... Force of habit! blush

lj123 Sun 21-Apr-13 22:57:03

I will be smile after 4 miscarriages and an ectopic, fingers will be well and truly crossed!
Good luck guys and baby dust smile

CristaBell Sun 21-Apr-13 23:49:21

Please may I join? I've been ttc for 5mths with the 'relaxed approach' to begin with. For the last couple of months I've been using the 'my days' app. My AF arrived yesterday so now hoping May will be my month.

Good luck everyone. smile x

HungryHippo89 Mon 22-Apr-13 14:05:01

I AM! grin

I have an appointment for my implant to be removed in less than 2 weeks!
The word excited doesn't even touch how I'm feeling!!

DisneyDiva87 Mon 22-Apr-13 15:19:40

We decided 2 weeks ago to start trying, I stopped my pill and have been patiently waiting for AF to appear (thought it would have by now). I have started tracking my BBT and been taking Folic Acid. I'm trying to keep my excitement down though because these have been the 2 slowest damn weeks of my life!

Good luck everyone!

CristaBell Mon 22-Apr-13 19:38:01

It is very exciting and it's so nice to be able to chat to others about it! I'm also taking folic acid and I even found just buying folic acid exciting -mad I know. I've only told one person we are trying, has anyone else told friends/family? x

BNmum Mon 22-Apr-13 21:35:45

We are planning to start TTC #2 as soon as AF has buggered off wink

1Catherine1 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:38:24

Can I sneak in. Its a bit of a secret at the moment. DH and I have decided recently to start ttc DC2 in May. I'm getting my implant out tomorrow!

Beccadugs Mon 22-Apr-13 22:29:46

Hooray! Lots more lovely people! AF arrived today so this is officially CD1!

Lots of luck to all!

FernandoIsFaster Mon 22-Apr-13 22:38:43

Can I join in pls? Came off pill 3 weeks ago, AF been and gone so we are now officially TTC #2! Taking very relaxed approach though as I was a TTC monster last time and have vowed not to torture myself with symptom spotting this time. Good luck everyone, happy humping!

Lyftiduft Mon 22-Apr-13 23:13:58

me too?

We are no longer preventing but not actively making an effort to try iyswim, as of, erm, yesterday!

Bit of history though, have had 3 previous mc, have a healthy 2 yo DS1 but have also TFMR at 13 weeks as DS2 had a NTD incompatible with life. I am excited but absolutely terrified: my last pregnancy ended before Christmas when I had to TFMR. We've had to wait to try again due to genetic testing (clear) and to build up folic acid (on a crazy high dose).

If you'll still have me, can I join in?

MissFredi Tue 23-Apr-13 04:16:44

Can I join? I have 7 pills left in the pack and then that's that. grin

DisneyDiva87 Tue 23-Apr-13 13:55:35

MissFredi, you are very restrained, literally as soon as OH said 'ok lets do it' I chucked the pack away (I was on mini-pill so it was ok to do that). I then realised that I should have put it aside to take it to the chemist for disposal but I was too excited at the time.

I haven't had a visit from AF yet since stopping my pill so technically I'm not yet on cycle 1?

I also got excited about buying folic acid Cristabell!

Coffee1Sugar Tue 23-Apr-13 14:42:44

Far far too excited grin I got pregnant on the pill last time so hoping (praying) it won't be too difficult this time round either. Bring on the 2014 babies ladies grin

DisneyDiva87 Tue 23-Apr-13 15:09:05

You're getting me too excited Coffee!

Coffee1Sugar Tue 23-Apr-13 15:25:15

Shall we add a few stats to keep a list going?

I'll start! I'm 25, ttc no 2, dd is 2.11

DisneyDiva87 Tue 23-Apr-13 15:36:32

I'm 25, OH is 31, ttc #1

Beccadugs Tue 23-Apr-13 15:53:50

I'm 27, DH is 32 TTC #1 (and very over excited!!)

Coffee1Sugar Tue 23-Apr-13 16:13:16

Oo forgot my dp! I'm 25, dp 32 ttc no 2 dd 2.11

HungryHippo89 Tue 23-Apr-13 16:53:43

I'm 23 (24 soon). DP is 27 TTC #1

Very excited. We had a MMC this time 2 years ago at 14 weeks. I put the whole baby business on hold for a while so I could have a few more years of "living" - DP was a bit dissapointed at the time but he is now very excited for all the sex wink

MissFredi Tue 23-Apr-13 17:32:10

Me and dp are both 21, and this will be our firstsmile

He'll be 22 in July and me in August though so we're old 21 year olds!

Wattage88 Tue 23-Apr-13 18:03:47

Cristabell I'm the same. Had the relaxed approach but nothing happening.... First month using opk god it's all so confusing. Ttc #2 it's hard work sad

Coffee1Sugar Tue 23-Apr-13 18:05:51

Tmi but got loads of cm at the mo.. Wahoo ovulation grin

Wattage88 Tue 23-Apr-13 18:09:05

I'm 25 Hubby is 33 ttc #2 daughter 5next months don't know all the lingo yet hehe x

CristaBell Tue 23-Apr-13 18:44:14

Hi wattage88 it is hard work, I think we were a bit to relaxed in the beginning. Whats opk? x

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 18:52:12

Ovulation prediction kit. Yea this will be my first proper month I'd say, last two have been tracking and seeing what happens really. AF was late 10days in feb with neg hpt that was upsetting as iv never been late before. Hopefully this is my month, on cd 9 so this is my lucky weekend hehe X

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 18:55:59

Sorry still wattage88. Change of name X

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 18:59:54

CD10 actually! See I'm rubbish at this tracking stuff

CristaBell Tue 23-Apr-13 19:39:30

Oh ok, I might have to get one of those. I've been using the 'my days' and it's telling me I got 10 days until my next ovulation day which is the 03/05 smile good luck with everything I hope you get a BFP in May smile x

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 19:43:39

Yea just cheap strips off eBay couple of pound. Il see how I get on with them... I really hope so too aaahhhh too exciting. According to
My tracker I'm due to ovulate 28/4 smile

HotCrossPun Tue 23-Apr-13 19:45:21

I'm 23 DP is 40 and we are ttc for the first time smile

Got my implant taken out about 4 weeks ago, still no sign of AF, so don't really know whats going on!

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 19:54:21

Just downloaded you're app ;)

1Catherine1 Tue 23-Apr-13 20:36:59

Hi again, I was supposed to get my implant out today but the person doing it phoned in sick so its been postponed biscuit. I think it will be 2 weeks today now before I get it taken out. I have been out and bought some folic acid today and started taking it though so getting ready!

So for stats, I'm 27, DP is 33, ttc DC2, we have a DD who is 2yo.

Last time we conceived DD within 2 months of having implant out, this time around though I'm not expecting it to be so fast.

BNmum Tue 23-Apr-13 20:38:49

I'm 33, DH also 33 and we're ttc #2. I have a very irregular cycle so I'm sure I will turn into a nutcase before long trying to predict ovulation dates etc. I think I'm on cd9 today.

MrsLadyL Tue 23-Apr-13 20:46:48

BNmum I have been the same in the past. Means we are around the same time I'm CD10 today! Lots and lots of baby dust for everyone smile

FernandoIsFaster Tue 23-Apr-13 22:01:35

I'm 31 dp is 34 and we have dd 2.11 ttc # 2 and this is 1st month. Took 8 months to conceive dd 1 so I think I will be hanging around here a while yet!

CristaBell Tue 23-Apr-13 22:23:51

MrsLadyL good luck with app, hope it helps smile x

Kellie04 Tue 23-Apr-13 22:26:56

I would like to join too please! Me and my OH are both 24 and started trying at the beginning of April. Been on the pill for 6 years so not sure when AF is due! We're really excited but I am so confused as to when I will be ovulating. AF would normally be due next week if I was still on the pill, will it still be the same time? So confused!

Coffee1Sugar Wed 24-Apr-13 07:28:56

Had my mirena out 27 march. Dd was a pill baby so no idea how long this time could take! Dtd last night and laid there for half hour cycling with my legs in the air much to dp's amusement grin

MrsLadyL Wed 24-Apr-13 09:29:07

Ha ha it's madness the things we do ain't it? I'm due to ovulate on Monday according to my app, so is my best days the Sunday/Monday or before that? Thought I'd done good last month so really unsure ? X

Beccadugs Wed 24-Apr-13 10:51:51

Is it bad that DH is of the opinion that we are just going to do away with contraception and see and not worry too much initially, and I am v familiar with my cycle, and know exactly when I OV etc. so will be making sure we DTD on those days??

MrsLadyL Wed 24-Apr-13 11:19:08

My husband is the same not really bothered of the opinion it will happen when it's meant too.... Me on the other hand not so much. Don't want it to over take everything but slowly is ha X

blueamber Wed 24-Apr-13 11:19:40

We're going to try too... first time. I had the MMR vaccine a couple of weeks ago, because I'd only had one before, so now I have to wait four weeks before ttc, very frustrating!

HungryHippo89 Wed 24-Apr-13 11:26:45

I'm sooo envy of people who are trying now ... I get my implant out on the 8th And the wait is agonising... Anybody had any experience with an implant being taken out... What happens, does it hurt? I've heard a few horror stories!!

wine Heres to lots of May BFP's and 2014 Babies ...

blueamber Wed 24-Apr-13 11:29:36

Kellie04, I thought the way it works is usually when you stop the pill you get your 'fake' period quite soon after. Then as you're no longer taking the pill you ovulate. It's different for everyone how long it takes, but it probably won't match up with your old AF.

1Catherine1 Wed 24-Apr-13 11:48:54

HungryHippo, I've had 3 different implants now and the removal is straightforward and as painful as the insertion.

They basically numb the area and then with a small scalpel make a small cut around the area of the implant and then with the tweezers type things, go in and pull it out. I would suggest not watching if you are squeamish because it isn't the most elegant procedure. The they bandage it up, the same way as they do when they put it in and suggest you take paracetamol in about 2 hours before the pain starts again.

Its a shame you have to wait so long to get an appointment, I phoned on Monday and got an appointment for Tuesday, it was then later cancelled by them, but thats beside the point hmm. I have to make another appointment now for next week or the week after, only drawback is that they only do it on Tuesdays..

DisneyDiva87 Wed 24-Apr-13 12:05:00

This baby thing is driving me mad already, I'm convinced I'm pregnant but I know I'm not (if that makes sense). I've only just started trying too! I wish my body would speak to me and tell me if I've even ovulated yet or not.

Kellie04 I think it depends on what pill you are on, I stopped taking my POP 2 weeks ago and still no AF but I think that's cause you ovulate first with no withdrawal bleed (not necessarily true in all cases) whereas the combined pill has a withdrawal bleed and then you start your cycle. I wouldn't expect your AF at the same time as you were on the pill either, could be late or early compared to that till your body settles into it's natural cycle.

MrsLadyL Wed 24-Apr-13 12:09:28

My implant was a bit of a nightmare to come out.... I tried all kinds of contraception my body seems to repel it all hehe. My marina coil fell out in August!!! Went for usual smear and they were like Erm I need to get a doc never seen this before! Out there and then that was painfull. My body is weird. Little bit worried to concieve again tho as my first pregnancy was not very straight forward. Bleeding through out, and my daughter spontaneously arrive at 29+2!!! That's why iv waited so long I guess. Frightened x

BNmum Wed 24-Apr-13 13:17:01

It'll be handy that we are cycle buddies MrsLadyL and it sounds like you know what you are doing so I'll follow your lead and dtd over this weekend and early next week.
DH is also happy to take a relaxed approach which I think translates into let's just shag all the time and if nothing happens we'll just shag some more hmm. I'd like to take a more calculated approach as I have an irregular cycle (can be up to 70days long) and we also have a toddler which dramatically reduces shagging opportunities. Think I'll keep this opinion to myself though....

BNmum Wed 24-Apr-13 13:20:01

Just seen your last posted LadyL it sounds like a nightmare. Fingers crossed all goes well this time.

HungryHippo89 Wed 24-Apr-13 13:39:28

1Catherine1 - That doesn't sound too bad! I think I can cope with that!! I originally phoned my doctor to get it removed (that's who put it in) and they told me I was being put on a waiting list for .. 8 WEEKS!!! So i deceided to call the local family planning who got me an appointment for 3 weeks. They only do 1 session a week on a Wednesday morning! So it's a right PITA! But oh well ...

2 Weeks today the calculated well timed sex just shagging commences! With my MMC I was upduffed with the first cycle. Hoping for similar speedyness this time around otherwise I reckon I will turn into a right nut job!

A question for everyone ... How did everybody maken the decision to try and get upduffed? (please don't think i'm being too forward I am just interested in how people made the decision)

1Catherine1 Wed 24-Apr-13 13:57:11

Our decision is quite simple. We want at least 2 children but can't afford more than one lot of childcare. Since our DD has now turned 2, by the time we conceive, baby is born and I return from ML, DD will be 3 with 15 free hours of childcare. grin

Also, I'm a teacher so I have to time due date to only occur between January to April so that I can run the summer holidays as the end of my ML and get full pay for those weeks! An August/July baby would be a nightmare situation. It worked well last time, I'm hoping it will this time too. wink

MrsLadyL Wed 24-Apr-13 14:02:30

Well I think I know what I'm doing ha. Fingers crossed for this month tho x

DisneyDiva87 Wed 24-Apr-13 14:16:51

I didn't really make the decision, I just started getting really broody and knew the time was right. It took SIL to get pregnant to get OH on board though, he's a worrier and refused to have kids before because he thought we wouldn't be able to afford kids. He had this idyllic and unrealistic picture of what he wanted for our kids though.

I'm so excited now we're trying.

enormouse Wed 24-Apr-13 14:37:14

We'd both like another one (DP more so than me). So we're going to take the relaxed approach and see what happens. DS is 18 months old today and neither of us want him to be an only child. I keep changing my mind frequently though, especially over the last week as he has had a bad tummy and has been going through nappies like no one's business. I also worry that I won't have enough love to go round.
So...relaxed approach it is.
Does anyone else feel like this about trying for their next DC?

Beccadugs Wed 24-Apr-13 15:05:05

Ours is the financial thing too really! We lost a lot of money to some builders last year (house still incomplete) and both came to the conclusion that is we keep waiting until we're rich enough it'll never happen. Building work completion booked in for 3ish weeks time, but I refuse to put my life on hold anymore! So we are now trying, assuming the building work will be finished even if we are first time lucky!!

HungryHippo89 Wed 24-Apr-13 15:12:38

My OH has been wanting children for ages and I've been making him wait - It is always after this wedding, after that date, after my birthday, after holiday. And it just hit me a few weeks back there will always be a reason not to have children right now. So I just deceided to go for it. I want more than one ignorance is bliss But i would like a big-ish age gap maybe 4 to 5 years, so I just feel like we should put everything to oneside and do it! grin

Coffee1Sugar Wed 24-Apr-13 15:25:21

Catherine - im a teacher too! Same ttc situation as you! Dd will be getting her 15free hours come September too smile

BNmum Wed 24-Apr-13 15:29:31

We would like another child and don't want too large an age gap but also the thought of 2 in nappies doesn't appeal so we've waited until DS is in pants.

Childcare was also a consideration so we're hoping the 15hrs free will start around the time next one arrives so I can dedicate one on one time with the newborn. This of course is all wishful thinking and the problem with planning too much is that it normally comes crashing around your ears!

Enormouse I also worry that I won't love a new baby as much as my first. It is such an all-consuming love that its difficult to see how you will have enough for another but I can't imagine not loving a child at the same time so I think we just have to trust that there'll be enough.

Coffee1Sugar Wed 24-Apr-13 18:28:46

Should dp and I be at it every day or every other?

Kellie04 Wed 24-Apr-13 18:30:38

Thanks for your replies. I was taking microgynon and haven't had a withdrawal bleed yet. Had quite a few side effects since, headaches, a few spots and really sore breasts!

Its such a shame you have to wait to have your implants removed, I waited a few months before stopping the pill even though we knew we wanted to start trying and it drove me crazy! So I know how you feel!

MissFredi Wed 24-Apr-13 21:23:09

We both wanted one but I didn't want one just yet and I didn't think DP did because I just assumed tbh. Then one night I was talking about weddings and he was like, well I think we should have a baby soon, then we can get married when its about 4/5 and can come down the aisle with us so I secretly 100% hope it's a girl so I don't have to put my son in tights

I was so stunned by him being such a big ol' romantic....I'm pretty sure he's not normal. grin

HungryHippo89 Wed 24-Apr-13 21:40:45

coffee - from what i've read you should be doing it once every 2-3 days. Apparently if you do it every day it reduces the quality of his swimmers. HTH :-)

FoxMulder Thu 25-Apr-13 08:29:05

Hello! I might tentatively join you. Going to start TTC any day now...I keep chickening out at the last minute! It's a bit of a brain U-turn to go from 10 years of freaking out over every missed pill to doing it on purpose!

DH & I are going away for our wedding anniversary at the weekend, maybe I'll get swept up with the wine romance.

DisneyDiva87 Thu 25-Apr-13 10:12:49

Every other day Coffee, if you do it everyday you aren't giving his sperm a chance to develop so you can reduce your chance of getting pregnant.

Cherrybright Thu 25-Apr-13 10:17:18

I might be joining you all too smile
We are hoping to start trying near the end of May. I already have one dd who is 19 months and didn't want a massive gap.
A few friends and family members are pregnant or have newborns and its made me realise how broody I am. I didn't feel broody when I tried for my first so this broody feeling is new smile

MrsLadyL Thu 25-Apr-13 19:04:05

Iv posted some pics ladies. Would be great If you could give me you're opinions on postive and negative?? X

CristaBell Thu 25-Apr-13 23:42:08

Hello mrsLadyL This might be a silly question but the pic a hpt or your ovulation sticks? x

makingdoo Fri 26-Apr-13 10:17:15

Hi all, can I join please? We have just started to be serious about TTC.

We are both 33 and married 5 years. I have been off the pill for the same length of time and have intermittently used other forms of prevention. I've never had a yearning to have kids and DH wasn't overly bothered. But over the past few years our feelings have changed and we would really like to have a child now. It just feels right.

We have already spoken to our GP as we thought it strange that we haven't been really careful for 5 years and nothings happened. Also DH has a cyst on his testicle so that makes things difficult.

My blood tests have all come back clear and DH has an appointment to get a sample checked next week.

In the meantime we have started TTC properly. I'm a little confused as I feel my body is telling me I'm ovulating (have lots of discharge) but my OPK is saying no! Maybe I'm not understanding properly?

Sorry for the long post! Just catching up with you all.

MrsLadyL Fri 26-Apr-13 17:27:06

Ovulation xx

BNmum Fri 26-Apr-13 17:52:41

Whoop whoop MrsLadyL! How long is your cycle usually?

Is anyone else using OPKs?

MrsLadyL Fri 26-Apr-13 18:26:21

It's 28/29 days usually. First time using opk that's why I'm asking advise? Take it the line gets stronger when ovulation is approaching?? X

CristaBell Fri 26-Apr-13 19:28:48

MrsLadyL I'm not sure i haven't used a OPK yet! There is a line so i would DTD smile x

MrsLadyL Sat 27-Apr-13 08:54:38

Ha may as well bash on! I'm trying to be with one with my body this once too hehe defo increased CM X

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 09:55:09

Got a question ladies, my hubby is home today been away all week. I'm due to ovulate tomorrow if we dtd tonight does that still give me a chance?? sad X

CristaBell Sun 28-Apr-13 10:57:09

I believe so MrsLady, if you dtd tonight and then maybe again on Tuesday you should be ok! Are you still using your opk?

I'm on CD9 today and due to ovulate on Friday (according to app) so plan to dtd tonight, mid week and on Friday! I might try the standing on my head after too grin

Happy humping wink x

itsnotrocketscience Sun 28-Apr-13 11:28:57

can I join? day 7 today, 1st month trying for number 2. conceived 1st month with 1st child!

almost expecting a problem this time as so many people i know had it fine 1st time then miscarried 2nd time.

good luck everyone!

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 14:56:06

Haha! Yea I am and still not a strong line to perhaps I'm ovulation later? Il text tonight after work and see... I'm trying to to go with app this month as I don't think it has actually been matching my body?? If that makes sense. Xx

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 14:57:25

That made no sense!! I'm trying NOT to go with app. And will TEST after work. X

BNmum Sun 28-Apr-13 17:33:45

Definately dtd tonight LadyL, I believe sperm can survive up to a week so hump away before and during ovulation, once more after ovulation 'for luck' them cross fingers (and legs) and hope for best! Good luck!

I've got no idea when I'll ovulate so based on your dates we're dtd this weekend and hopefully every couple of days next week. I'm looking out for changes in cm, although I'm not entirely sure I know what I'm looking for. Does anyone else use cm to predict ovulation? Think I may invest in OPKs next month.

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 19:35:43

Yea me neither totally hopeless! That's why I'm trying these opk and trying to work out my own body. Actually very difficult. Happy humping lol Xx

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 19:54:26

Ladies iv just done opk. Think it my first clear (+) if you can have a look at my pictures and give me you're opinion please!! X

Cooeee....Im here too.

Im 25, DH is 34, DD is 6, DS is 4.
We want two more.

I concieved both the others within a week.

On day 3 of AF, so can start shagging like rabbits any day now.

Beccadugs Sun 28-Apr-13 21:02:48

MrsLadyL, looks positive to me... Go go go!!

MrsLadyL Sun 28-Apr-13 21:44:09

Whoop whoop!!!

homebyninethirty Sun 28-Apr-13 22:26:08

Hello everyone! Can I join too? This is our first month TTC #1. We're also taking a pretty relaxed approach...

Foxmulder - you sound just like me! We've been talking about trying for a few months and although I really want to start a family, I kept wimping out at the last minute. After 10 years being so paranoid about contraception it's hard to get your head around not using any. Have finally taken the plunge so here goes our first tww smile.

CristaBell Sun 28-Apr-13 22:37:08

Woohoo MrsLadyL, Don't forget to stand on your head after smile x

tinypolkadot Sun 28-Apr-13 23:38:04

Hi, I'd like to join too please!

This is our first attempt at TTC #1, we are both 30 and like others have wanting to try and then something always seems to come up for us to change our minds. But not now, the end of the condom packet has marked the start of a new exciting era!

On CD2 at the minute so looking forward to getting started properly in May.

Beccadugs Mon 29-Apr-13 00:01:55

Well, tonight, with much pomp and ceremony... We had unprotected sex... Very very odd, but I guess that means we are now officially trying!

MrsLadyL Mon 29-Apr-13 10:06:34

The dtd didn't happen last night. Both fell asleep within mins of getting to bed.... I think I may be putting on too much pressure for him now. Ops sad

makingdoo Mon 29-Apr-13 12:02:07

MrsLady Don't worry, try again tonight. It's difficult but we need to try and be relaxed so we don't drain the fun out of DTD.
We didn't manage it last night, I was so exhausted after working away all weekend I fell asleep befor DH even got in the bed!

According to my OPK stick I started ovulating on Saturday. We DTD Friday night and will try again this eve for luck.

Good Luck!

CristaBell Mon 29-Apr-13 13:19:54

Same here MrsLadyL, I was in the bathroom getting ready for bed (was only 10mins) got into bed and DH was snoring sad Hoping to dtd tonight but DH has just called to say he's going to watch football sad

Good luck for tonight x

MrsLadyL Mon 29-Apr-13 14:30:45

So glad You's are all in the same boat. Had grand plans shaved legs the lots haha and out. Think I am making it too much of a big deal that he's starting to pull away. Need to talk to him after work tonight because I don't want that. He's got a very low sex drive as it is so me to go all guns blazing pushing him away. Will never learn lol Xx

1Catherine1 Mon 29-Apr-13 17:38:13

Well after last weeks delay, tomorrow I get the implant removed. I don't think we're going to ttc immediately as I'd like to have one cycle first - so that way I don't need to guess at when my last cycle was grin

Anyway... There's a job I want to get first..

CristaBell Mon 29-Apr-13 20:46:03

I think it's a man thing! Good luck for tonight smile

CristaBell Tue 30-Apr-13 07:27:33

We still didn't manage to DTD last night as DH didn't get home until 11.20 then was up until late sad I'm out tonight, tomorrow and Thursday night but hopefully won't be to late so plan to DTD when I get home!

Hope you had better luck smile


MrsLadyL Tue 30-Apr-13 11:01:04

Wasn't successful either! I'm out tonight too but I think I may be out for this month soon. I'm okay about it tho I think. sad hopefully you have better luck that me. When are you due to ovulate? X

BNmum Tue 30-Apr-13 11:26:15

What a shame! What's the story with the OPK today LadyL? Does it usually stay positive for a few days?

You've still got plenty opportunities CristaBell if you're not due to ovulate until Friday.

I've got a bit of a low stitch today and slight increase in cm so I'm wondering if this is me starting to ovulate? We managed a 'practice run' at the weekend so we'll have to try and see if we can get the magic going again tonight wink

MissFredi Tue 30-Apr-13 11:36:39

So ladies I am OFFICIALLY off the pill now. Unforunately waiting for the fake AF to turn up and go away so I can get on with figuring out when the next one might be!

Does anyone know how long this AF will last? Its always gone away when I've started next pill packet so I have no idea how long roughly I'm looking at confused

HungryHippo89 Tue 30-Apr-13 12:40:05

MissFredi I think the withdrawel (sp?) bleed normally lasts 3-5 days - Not sure though ...

Well It's a week tomorrow till my implantation removal and I'm trying to entertain myself doing other things as it is all I can think about. Got very excited hysterical when I ordered Folic Acid/HPK's/OPK's on Saturday!

Anyone else taking any folic acid or pregnancy vitamins?

DisneyDiva87 Tue 30-Apr-13 12:53:56

All the best MissFredi! I'm still waiting for AF after stopping cerazette anyone sick of me saying that yet?. You going to wait until you have your first 'real' AF before really trying?

I'm taking folic acid hungry, although I forgot this morning... Haven't bothered with anything else but I was told that Evening Primrose oil was good for helping regulate your moods (I think)

I was at the Drs this morning because I'm getting an occasional pain in my bladder 5 minutes or so AFTER I pee, the Dr's opinion is my poor bladder is taking a beating when we DTD.

ChubbyKitty Tue 30-Apr-13 13:25:32

I'm on folic acid yeahsmile

Properly trying yes but 'practise trying' this month grin

I am hoping it will be May if they can get this damned coil out sad Been trying to get it removed since March but it has moved so ahve been sent for ultrasounds etc. Fingers crossed it is out soon!

Coffee1Sugar Tue 30-Apr-13 17:06:30

Coil removed 27th march but still no withdrawal bleed!! Ahhh!

Beccadugs Tue 30-Apr-13 17:44:49

Oh how rubbish coffee! Could you go to the GP, they might be able to give you something to hurry it along... (They did with a friend of mine!!)

ChubbyKitty Tue 30-Apr-13 17:48:51

That must be so frustrating! The next day or two since stopping pill is too much of a wait for megrin

ChubbyKitty Tue 30-Apr-13 17:49:55

Just realised I name changed in the middle of a threadsad I was missfredismile

MrsLadyL Tue 30-Apr-13 19:00:07

Took opk tonight looks negative to me. Only had two positive sticks I think. Never mind at least I know what I'm doing next month as I'm pretty sure iv became one with my body too smile X

Coffee1Sugar Tue 30-Apr-13 19:23:16

Got a docs appt for 8 may just incase it still hasn't come (and also coz my docs are so shit impossible to make an appointment unless you know you'll be unwell a fortnight in advance! hmm)

ChubbyKitty Tue 30-Apr-13 22:29:22

Will I need to make an appointment at the doctors to tell then we're trying and check everything's working?

CristaBell Tue 30-Apr-13 22:38:59

MrsLadyL Friday according to app but I've just had some thick cm (sorry for tmi) so I don't know if that means i'm ovulating now? Don't give up just yet, what cycle day are you on?

Hopefully I will be BNmum I just wanted to get the old swimmers out, give it a two day rest so the new swimmers are ready for when I'm ovulating.

Disney I was on Cerazette , when did you come off it?


alexandrapm Wed 01-May-13 02:08:35

ill start too! I am 34. very scared DP 38 TTC#1

Pudgy2011 Wed 01-May-13 04:28:02

Oooh, I get to join one of these threads, hurrah! I didn't know about mumsnet until after I had DS1 18 months ago so missed out on all the trying to conceive/pregnancy/childbirth threads. I live overseas and I only found out about mumsnet after reading something in the Daily Fail about how awful it was, and how it was full of bitches. After spending 5 minutes on AIBU, I knew I'd found my people.

Completely changed my mind about having #2 on Saturday (DH was happy to try whenever). We were originally going to wait until next January before trying, so there would be 3 year gap between DS1 and DC2. I'm studying and taking 2 pretty tough exams in November so was thinking logically and figured it would be best to put it off until next year so I could concentrate fully on studying without having my head down a toilet for 12 weeks.

But then my period was 3 days late probably because I'm on this crazy strict paleo Whole30 thing (lost 12lbs in 30 days though, skinnier than I was on my wedding day - don't mention the irony of weight loss for vanity right before pregnancy) and whilst peeing on a stick on Saturday, I realised I was actually quite excited at the possibility of being upduffed. So I decided what the hell, life is too short. I'm very easily swayed, me!

Anyway, period came today finally and we're off to NYC on Sunday for a week so going to shag like teenagers whilst we're there. If we don't fall asleep after all the shopping, eating, drinking and running around after toddler first.

Most excited - good luck to everyone!

1Catherine1 Wed 01-May-13 07:19:04

I don't you need to go to the doctors now ChubbyKitty, not unless you have some medical condition that means that you need to be monitored. I mentioned when in for something else last time we were ttc and he just mentioned the folic acid and told me I was to make an appointment with the midwife at 10 weeks.

Hippo, I had my implant removed last night, the doctor/nurse informed me that if I'd DTD in the last 7 days then it was possible to become pregnant from that as it stops working immediately and sperm can live up to 7 days. It occurred to me how disappointed my DH would be if that happened. So you know, there's always an excuse to practise! wink

Startliteangel Wed 01-May-13 08:24:57

TTC #2 here as well of luck everyone x

BNmum Wed 01-May-13 08:28:56

Welcome to all the newbies!

I like your thinking Cristabell, I would be more inclined to listen to your body than the app dates.

That's great news 1Catherine1, are you waiting for a new cycle or are you goin to start ttc ASAP?

1Catherine1 Wed 01-May-13 08:54:38

We were going to wait for another cycle but I think we're just going to see how it goes. The doctor/nurse reminded me that average time to conceive is 6 months, which would be majorly inconvenient as far as ML goes so, there's no time to wait!!

I'm also quite excited now, DTD last night and DH asked me how long it takes to know if I'm pregnant. So at midnight last night I was explaining the menstrual cycle to him confused. Fortunately he knew a little about the AF bit, but how baby making fits into it - not so much.

MrsLadyL Wed 01-May-13 09:00:15

I'm on cd 18 today. I think I may have finally noticed the changed within myself during ovulation which is a great start I think Xx

DisneyDiva87 Wed 01-May-13 09:24:17

Crista I came off it 3 weeks and 2 days ago, starting to wonder if I should book an appointment with GP before I go on hols if AF still hasn't appeared. Did it take you a while to get back to normal after coming off it?

BNmum Wed 01-May-13 18:47:08

I'm thinking the same MrsLadyL, it's all one big learning experience. I'm on cd17 but have a long irregular cycle but I think I may be ovulating around now based on pains and changes in cm (but what do I know). Managed to dtd at the weekend and last night wink but it now looks like the whole family is coming down with a s&d bug so that's going to put the babymaking on hold sad

I also have exams at the minute Pudgy2011 but seem to be spend more time on here than revising. Think I may have a brew and hits the books when I've put the little one to bed since I don't have to think about seducing the hubby.

How are you getting on Cristabell?

seatfor5 Wed 01-May-13 22:17:33

Oh Can I join you smile I am 35 & my DP is 40 and we are going to start TTC #4 this month I have 3 DS's and this is my last baby! I have only just convinced DP to try for a 4th!

I am due AF on the 14th May and am getting married on the 25th just in time for a honeymoon baby grin

BNmum Thu 02-May-13 10:04:45

Oh wow! Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials seatfor5 . A honeymoon baby would be lovely!!

MushiMushi Thu 02-May-13 13:00:56

Hello all! I thought I'd join in the party. I finally got my partner to agree to ttc (#1) at the beginning of April (wooooo!!) but we won't be able to start until the beginning of June. The wait is driving me MENTAL. First I decided to get a full MOT at the sexual health clinic and wait for the all clear. Then I got a bit worried that I hadn't had my MMR as a child so went to the doctors this week to get that, and now have to wait a whole extra month. Boo!

Still, it's giving me a chance to start taking folic acid, taking notice of my cycle etc. I'm slightly concerned as I had a tube removed 2 years ago because of an ectopic, so if and when I do conceive I'll be terrified of it happening again. My GP told me I could have blood tests and an early scan though.

I am SO excited...I'm turning into a crazy baby lady. I can't stop daydreaming about it.

HungryHippo89 Thu 02-May-13 13:18:37

1catherine1 - How did the removal go .. Was it painfree? Mine comes out on Wedneday and I'm very excited grin ... Seems like i've been waiting forever.

ION - My pregnancy tests turned up - And i POAS twice just to practice ... Oh the shame!

I wonder if we will start seeing any BFP's soon from people that have already started TTC!

Well ladies I am off to the Dr's tomorrow to discuss how they are going to get this damned coil out of me, they've confirmed it's still in there, but in the 'wrong place' so I will get specifics tomorrow and a plan of action! Wish me luck!

1Catherine1 Thu 02-May-13 15:03:45

It went well thanks Hippo. The most painful bit is the the injection to numb the area but that wasn't too bad. She said it came out easily so it shouldn't bruise too bad either. I have the tiniest bruise. Good Luck on Wednesday!

Welcome newcomers! That sounds very frustraiting Mushi, I'm not good with the whole patience thing so I think that would drive me crazy!

1Catherine1 Thu 02-May-13 15:07:49

Oh Golden, that doesn't sound good. I was contemplating using the coil next time as the implant adds serious weight on me - To the extent I only gained 6 lbs during my whole last pregnancy! Your tale is putting me off though. Is there any chance of it doing damage? Good luck!

1Catherine If it perforates the uterus it has the potential to cause damage as I believe they'd need to repair it with surgery confused
The hardest part is not knowing what is going on and the Dr being so blase about it all, at the ultrasound the nurse wouldn't tell me where it was, just that she could 'see it' but not the threads, so they have either broken off or twisted around the coil itself.
It has caused me some pain though, very low down on the right side of my abdomen near the front of my pelvis/hip bone. I also get very erratic, irregular bleeding, probably for the last three motnhs now so I am guessing this is when it moved/migrated.
It's all very worrying sad

1Catherine1 Thu 02-May-13 18:42:45

Well I hope it all goes your way tomorrow and they have good news. Do let us know how it goes, I'll definitely be thinking about you.

Coffee1Sugar Thu 02-May-13 19:12:32

Stillllll no withdrawal bleed grrr! Day 37 since mirena removal sad

BNmum Fri 03-May-13 08:11:23

Good luck for today goldenhandshake
I hope AF arrives soon Coffee1sugar
Hubby feeling better this morning so managed to squeeze in a quickie before work.
Think i'm towards the end if my fertile window but I don't have a clue. I was determined to take it easy and not use OPKs but I may have to get some for next month just to double check. I really noticed a change in my cm last month but not so much this month unless I've got my timing all wrong confused. Apologies if TMI

MushiMushi Fri 03-May-13 14:44:43

I just rang the hospital to chase up the results of the smear test I had 3 weeks ago. There was a labelling error and the lab couldn't analyse it so I have to go back and do it again. I'm so upset. It was the first time I've ever had a smear.
When I was 19 I found out I was pregnant but then started bleeding a few days later. I went to the family planning clinic and the nurse did an internal examination and it was so awful, I'm really squeamish and it was bloody and unpleasant and I passed out. It turned out to be an early miscarriage and I'm totally fine with it but it's that internal examination which has haunted me ever since. This was over 10 years ago. I tried to have a smear about 5 years ago but I fainted on the table and they told me to come back the next day, which of course I didn't. I've put it off ever since. This time I was so determined, because I wanted an all clear before ttc, that I managed to go through with it, even though I found it really traumatic. I managed to hold out until after the smear was done but I still fainted AFTER they finished. I feel so stupid every time. The poor nurse ended up giving me a bit of her lunch to get my blood sugar up. I can't believe I have to do this all again because somebody mislabelled the sample. I'm so frustrated! Everyone keeps saying, yes but everyone has to do it, it's nothing compared to when you're pregnant etc. and it's making me question whether I'm actually capable of having a baby.
Sorry, having a bit of a cry/rant. I really needed to get that off my chest.

Well I am back from the Dr's, thank you for your well wishes, scan shows the threads have twisted and are wrapped around the coil, which explains why they weren't visible on inspection. The coil has also shifted up and is veering towards my right ovary/tube, so that also explains the pains I have been getting.
Next step is a referral to hospital gynae who will remove it under sedation. Dr's surgery are going to contact me within the next week I ahve to collect some paperwork from them I can then apparently book the appoitnment myself on lien and they are giving me a choice of hospitals so I can get seen as soon as possible.

Coffee how soon did the say you should have a withdrawal bleed after removal? I am totally clueless as I've been so focused on just gettign it out to begin with.

BNmum Fri 03-May-13 16:06:02

flowers MushiMushi it sounds like you were really brave and very sensible to want to get it out the way before ttc. It sounds like the nurse was nice and sympathetic so maybe you could request for her to do the next one too? Please don't feel stupid!! It is a common fear which you should tell the nurse about beforehand (if you didn't already), they'll have come across it loads before honestly and she may be able to help by explaining things better etc. Maybe take some chocolate with you too. Sending big hugs

1Catherine1 Fri 03-May-13 18:11:17

Well at least you got some answers Golden. I hope the next one goes well you you can get it out of the way. Actually, you've reminded me that I've never had one... I got my first reminder when I was pregnant last time so it was never done - I'll get that booked..

Well AF arrived today - I'm glad really because I think I need one before ttc although I'm not sure if its a real one or not. Do you get pretend ones after the implant?

1Catherine1 Fri 03-May-13 18:21:29

Oh dear... don't type while a 2 year old is shouting demanding chocolate blush

The bit after Golden, was for Mushi but for some reason I didnt write it... woops!

BNmum Sun 05-May-13 08:17:21

Morning all, how's everyone doing? I've been bleeding the last 2 days which is most unusual for me (cd19) and wondered if it was ovulation bleeding but it's getting heavier so I'm now thinking af has arrived super early. I've started a new thread about it to see if any knowledgable mnetters have experienced anything similar.

CristaBell Sun 05-May-13 12:28:29

Hello everyone, hope your all doing well. Sorry I haven't been around for a while, I had such a hectic week last week and then came down with a stomach bug sad

I think I've missed my chances for this month, which I feel sort of fine about! How's everyone else doing?

Mushi what a nightmare for you! Do what I do and whenever you have to have a smear, always plan a treat for yourself to have after then keep thinking the deserved treat smile I do this for the dentist and smear tests! Good luck, you done it once you can do it again smile

CristaBell Sun 05-May-13 12:41:09

Disney sorry I missed your question! I was on Cerazette for about 3/4 years, during this time I had an occasional bleed but very rare and most of the time I had nothing! I came of Cerazette on the 11th November and had a bleed the week before Christmas, then my first proper AF in January. Have you had any signs of a bleed yet? x

C999875 Mon 06-May-13 17:54:11

I am in my second month of ttc but my story is a little different as I am a single mum. I went out and dtd with a randomer when I was fertile. I intend to do this until I fall pregnant Please do not judge me. Wouldn't any single broody women do the same. My feelings and needs are as important as married/partnered womens. It sometimes seems that you are not allowed to be broody unless you are part of a couple, but it knows no boudaries.
I am almost 2 weeks late on period and I have done about 6 tests all negative though. I was told last week by a medic that because would be conception date was over 3 weeks ago it would have shown up by now so it is just a late period. I have never wanted my period so badly because at least then I can work out my fertile dates for next month. xxx

Coffee1Sugar Mon 06-May-13 18:51:32

C99 - all ill say is, as I'm sure you know, please please think about your sexual health having unprotected sex with a stranger. Pregnancy might not be all you get.

1Catherine1 Mon 06-May-13 20:51:23

Welcome to the thread C999, I think most understand the broodiness - a dear friend of mine is 30 and single and talking of doing it alone. Although she was talking more of sperm donation. Good luck.

I have a question for those who have had come of the implant, how long was your first period? I thought I was having my first proper period this weekend but it only last a day and a half then stopped. I'm not sure what to make of it, It was quite heavy and have been very tired and had terrible migraines (something a real period often does to me) but it was over so quickly. Perhaps it was because the implant had only been out 3 days? I hope its not only me and Hippo who have been using the implant or I'm going to have a week to wait to get an answer! wink Nearly Wednesday smile

C999875 Mon 06-May-13 21:12:35

Thankyou to both 1 Catherine 1 and coffee 1 sugar for welcoming me to the thread. After being or at least feeling ignored on other sites. This means a lot. xx

HungryHippo89 Tue 07-May-13 12:30:35

Yes it's tomorrow grin. 1catherine I think you get a withdrawel bleed but not sure how light/heavy it is or how long it is meant to last. Me and DP DTD last night on the basis of I could still get upduffed ... And also i went out at the weekend and stocked up on AF equipment at the weekend (keeping my fingers crossed though that i won't have to use it)

We still haven't had a BFP here yet!!

MushiMushi Tue 07-May-13 15:41:19

Thanks everyone. I've had a lovely weekend away camping with a group of friends so I'm in a much better head space than last week. I'm going to go back for another smear tomorrow, I'm not looking forward to it but last time I was petrified. These things happen for a reason I suppose, maybe doing another one so soon will help me get over my fear a bit sooner.

A few friends were there with their children this weekend and it was wonderful seeing my partner with them, he's a total natural when it comes to kids so I'm feeling even more positive that we're making the right decision.

C99 I don't judge you at all, I was briefly considering doing something similar myself a few years ago. Good luck! I know what you mean about wanting to get to know fertile dates etc, I've become obsessed with checking calendars. I'd love a spring baby but my impatience is overriding my control freakery!

tinypolkadot Tue 07-May-13 21:05:34

hi everyone, we've just started ttc, finally waved goodbye to AF and am on CD10 of usually a 33 day cycle (although last month was 28 - typical!) so not ovulated yet.

thing is, we have a holiday booked in 3 weeks and DM keeps regaling me with how horrific her morning sickness was with me, and her mum was the same etc, and should wait til after the holiday.

this has delayed us for a couple of months but now I really don't think I can wait another month to get started, and DH wants us to start now too.

should we just go for it, or do u think it would be best to wait? I would be very very surprised if we conceived straight away and what are the chances I'd be so ill so soon and ruin the holiday?

am I worrying about nothing and should we just get on with dtd?

Beccadugs Wed 08-May-13 06:55:38

Hi tiny polka dot!

I am in a very similar situation with a holiday with friends booked for two and a half weeks. We did consider waiting to start trying until after the holiday, but actually we both got a bit over excited and are now actively trying!

I decided that there will always be something that makes it not quite the right time, and the chances of getting knocked up first time are so slim that it is better to start!

My AF is also due the day we fly so figured if I am feeling all disappointed at least I can scoff cheese and red wine in France!!

Hope that helps!

1Catherine1 Wed 08-May-13 07:01:28

Welcome to the thread Tiny.

Well IMO, the way I see it is simple, if it takes you 6 months to get pregnant (which the nurse informs me is average) - how disappointed are you going to be that you kept putting it off? Personally I'd just do it and I had morning sickness with my first - but in fairness it was kinda predictable. Everyday around 3pm and whenever I was in mothercare (I think it was the smell). And I'm ttc now which if my morning sickness is the same this time then would be majorly inconvenient, I'm a teacher and leaving my class at 3pm every day is frowned upon hmm - but I want DC2, so I'm gona do it anyway!

Coffee1Sugar Wed 08-May-13 07:07:41

Ladies I need your thoughts, withdrawal bleed since mirena removal has still not happened. It was removed 42 days ago. I went to the GP and she said the whole "oh it's your body adjusting" but did suggest if I want to I could try something to bring on a bleed. But reluctant to feed my body with hormones at this time though. Wwyd?

Beccadugs Wed 08-May-13 11:41:00

It's a tricky one coffee I would be tempted to go for the pill, as at least it might flush you out/get things moving along a bit...

Are you tempted?

1Catherine1 Wed 08-May-13 12:06:56

I'm with Becca on this one. I'd be tempted, on the same logic. The doctor wouldn't have suggested it if it was unwise while ttc. Your choice though!

karen1505 Wed 08-May-13 12:08:56

i'm trying for another one and so far it's hard too...

HungryHippo89 Wed 08-May-13 12:26:47

Good Afternoon All!!

Just thought I would pop back in and let you all know that I am now fertile grin
My implant was hard to remove it had gone pretty deep and the nurse was just about to go and fetch the doctor in because she couldn't get it.

Also 1catherine1 I asked her with regards to withdrawel bleeding etc and she said you might not get a bleed untill your actual period which should be about a month

Coffee1Sugar - I think if it was me I would take whatever it was they were offering to bring on your bleed - Just to get things kick started

Beccadugs Wed 08-May-13 17:38:37

How exciting Hippo! Are you going to wait for AF or just get on with it?!

Coffee1Sugar Wed 08-May-13 17:50:31

Withdrawal bleed started today gringringringrin

Beccadugs Wed 08-May-13 17:53:13

Hooray Coffee!! Celebratory wine for you!!

tinypolkadot Wed 08-May-13 17:57:02

becca thanks for replying, nice to find someone else in a similar situation - I'll be on holiday with AF too is she turns up, so I like your logic about wine and cheese!

1Catherine1 thanks for the advice, I had no idea it usually takes 6 months, I'm still learning about ttc! I understand about being sick in the classroom, I used to teach and have had to battle the urge on occasion (Never morning sickness though)

That's settled then, DH had better watch out when he returns from his business trip! grin

BNmum Wed 08-May-13 18:02:27

Congratulations hippo!

I'd also be tempted to take something coffee

Is anyone ovulating at the moment?

enormouse Wed 08-May-13 20:16:13

Hi everyone, I think I posted on this thread a few pages ago. I'm waiting for AF due next week. So fingers crossed for then. and good luck to everyone else.

tinypolkadot Wed 08-May-13 21:11:02

Hi enormouse good luck for next week!

I don't ovulate until next week, I think. I'll be interested to see if I do and when I do, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for that. My AF has never been predictable.

Got my opk sticks at the ready! smile

1Catherine1 Wed 08-May-13 21:54:06

I bet you've never been so happy to get a period before Sugar!

I'm refusing to monitor my ovulation - AF left on Monday so I think DH is planning on DTD tonight grin. We'll see...

enormouse Thu 09-May-13 09:52:50

I feel extremely tired and pms-y atm so I'm quietly optimistic. But then I have a very demanding 18 month old, uni exams coming up and have started a new job so it could just be that I've overdone it. Just have to wait and see .....

I hate waiting.

Hi ladies, and good news Coffee what a relief!

Welcome to the thread Tiny and Catherine

I am still waiting for my hospital referral paperwork and appt, they said I should hear from them within a week, so that's tomorrow, if I ahve not heard by lunchtime I will phone and pester.

I am a bit worried about the removal, so have asked for sedation, that way I won't feel the local anaesthetic or panic etc, I feel very anxious and a bit yuk to be honest, I have been poked and prodded down there far too much lately what with the attempted removal and internal ultrasound and it's really affecting me sad

makingdoo Thu 09-May-13 10:45:41

Hi All
Just checking back in to see how everyone is doing. I stayed away from the thread after we DTD when I was ovulating as I needed to put it out of my mind!

Coffee so ha

makingdoo Thu 09-May-13 10:48:02

Bloody iPhone posted too soon!

coffee I'm so happy to hear that!

AF is due this weekend and I think I feel it coming on but I'm trying to stay positive.

Wishing everyone luck for this month!

MushiMushi Thu 09-May-13 11:07:55

Oh god Golden you make my smear drama pale in comparison. Definitely insist on sedation! Good luck.

I have just got back from the hospital where I had my second smear. They were really apologetic for the labelling mishap. I had a different nurse this time. I was absolutely terrified but she was really nice. There I was, legs in stirrups on the table while she was poking around with my cervix, so far so good, then she starts chatting to me for what seemed like hours, about how my cervix is pointing down and showing the other nurse, and giving me tips on how I should lie flat on my stomach after dtd so the sperm has more chance of getting through....I was trying desperately not to panic all this time, and finally I had to shriek at her to GET OUT !!!! Almost puked/passed out but didn't, I feel very proud of myself. She said it's actually not an uncommon reaction and it's called cervical shock. Not sure how true that is but it made me feel better.

She let me personally oversee the labelling of the sample as well.

I think I ovulated yesterday. Feel a bit gutted that I'm not trying this month but time isn't dragging quite as much as I thought it would. Not long now till I can get properly stuck in. Good luck to everyone else!

C999875 Thu 09-May-13 12:21:21

Hi. Thought I would give everyone a quick update. I still don't have my period. I went to the abacus clinic and was given another negative test. However the nurse did say that I cannot completly rule out pregancy. I was advised that if my period did not start within 2 weeks to book an appointment with my G.P who I was told may want arrange a scan. so I should know for definate wthin around 3 weeks. I am sort of at a bit of a crosroads at the moment because if there is a slight possibilty of preganacy. I will not make love as I believe that during pregnacy a womens body is sacred and belong soley to her unborn baby. However that is just my view. If I am not preganant I wish mother nature would give me my period and then I can start trying again. I am still taking my folic acid.

Mushi what the nurse said about cervical shock is true, it happened to me after my coil insertion, my blood pressure plummeted and I fainted about two minutes after they'd finished blush so you are not alone.

I'm glad the nurse was nice, although she should have known better than to drag things out chatting when you were clearly scared. flowers

Coffee1Sugar Fri 10-May-13 06:40:04

C99 - tell me, why is your body sacred when pregnant but not sacred enough to sleep with any old guy just to ttc? Or am I missing something?

MushiMushi Fri 10-May-13 09:15:02

Ahh wonderful Golden, I feel vindicated now smile

I had such strong ovulation pains yesterday I had to take painkillers. Then this morning my partner was really horny and when we dtd ( can I put this delicately?) he asked if he could finish off inside me....SO frustrating that I have to wait till next cycle cos of vaccination!!! Grr!! Was really kicking myself. I need to learn to be patient!

C99.....It's your body, pregnant or not! It doesn't belong to anybody!

Just had a voicemail from the dr's, so will phone back at lunchtime, presuming this is for me to go and collect the paperwork so I can get my hospital referral appointment confirmed smile

C999875 Fri 10-May-13 10:38:41

Hi Coffee 1 sugar. Well that is a valid question but I actually meant to say sacred rather than scared, as I believe my body is scared during pregnancy. I am not scared to sleep around as my desire to be blessed with another child is now becoming stronger than ever. As a women who is also ttc I would expect you to understand this. Or are my needs not as important as everyone else's because I am not part of a couple. In the ideal world I would be like every other women on here with a husband/partner making love to me and holding me afterwards but I do not live in a ideal world so I will just have to continue doing what I am doing. However thank you for including me though as least this site is not full of cliques. I did reply to you before but it has not showen up so perhaps I did not post it properly and if I 2 messages do please accept my apologies as it was not intentional. xx

C999875 Fri 10-May-13 11:05:13

Hi Mushi Mushi. I feel a bit of an idiot asking this but what do ovualation pains feel like. I am far from nieve but I am not very familiar with ovulation I know it's when your ovary releases an egg I am able to work out my fertile dates.well I was before my last period decided not to turn up. I hope you do not mind me being too graphic here but I was wondering if these symptoms could be ovulation. I am feeling very sexy I am certain you get my meaning. However if there is a slight risk of pregnancy like I mentioned in a previous post there is no way I can contemplate making love. I also have do I dare say some clear, sticky and liquid discharge sorry if that was t.m.i. and I am also feeling very emotional as well. I cried for a solid hour earlier on for no obvious reason could this be ovulation. While this month for reasons mentioned I can't cat upon it but at least I will know for next month. As by then I will know whether or not I am pregnant. Also do you use ovulation sticks and how do they work. xx

Coffee1Sugar Fri 10-May-13 11:08:38

Anyone else suspect a troll?! hmm

Coffee I've been thinking that from first post but didn't wan to come across if mean/paraniod if I was wrong!

1Catherine1 Fri 10-May-13 11:48:33

Well I think that makes at least 3 of us, I didn't want to seem cynical though. In really bad taste too - in these threads and the pregnancy ones that follow people reveal some very personal things. Most trolls confine themselves to the AIBU and chat pages...

Coffee1Sugar Fri 10-May-13 12:18:05

Oo Catherine - got your message hun my damn laptop won't let me click to respond but I'm with you!

MortifiedAdams Fri 10-May-13 12:23:29

Ignoring the hairy of hand....

Can I join? DH and I are 'officially trying' as soon as AF goes (hopefully Sunday), after ditchin the condoms in March. March and April were mental busy with work and visitors so I discounted them!

MortifiedAdams, ttc #2,

C999875 Fri 10-May-13 12:24:31

I apologise. if my words hurt anyone as it is not my intention as I do not suppose your words were meant to hurt me but they have non the less. If the troll bit was intended for me then I am very hurt and upset. Golden hand shake you are very wrong I have never trolled anything in my life. I think it is a mean and disgusting thing to do and being accused of it really hurts. Why do you see me as troll is it because I am not in happy relationship like you so I do not have the right to ttc. .
This is a subject that is very close to my heart and for people who are going through the same thing to mock how I feel in little cliques then I am very disapointed. If it was meant for me at least aim it at me and not to each other I left all that behind in school as you both should have as well. Also internet accsess costs me a lot of money so I would certainly not be here if I was not serious.
Coffee 1 sugar my reply was beyond resaonable to you after you posted a rather hurtful and judgemental remark while it may well not have been intentional but it hurt all the same. You asked me a question which I was not obliged to answer but I did and yet for some reason I am seen as troll.
I will be honest dome of my messages have been quite confusing my cycle is up the wall and even I an confused by it all so I do not expect you to understand but it is not for either of you play judge and jury.
I am 37 years of age I have better things to do with my hard pressed time than to make up crazy stories about trying for a baby. What would I have to gain about making up such stories. After previously suffering a miscarriage and already having a beautiful daughter I would never make light of such a delicate subject. I am not ashamed to admit I am crying while writing this. I have been feeling very emotional anyway. I feel as if you ave both decided to pass judgement on me when I feel you have absolutly no right to. O.k so you have both made a decision seemingly for whatever reason not to like me. Why I don't know and nor should I care but being human I do so. but these comments are not going to make me go away as I have every much right to be here as you both do and to share my feelings. If after all my moaning and ranting it was not meant for me then I am heartily sorry and I will be a women hold my hands up and say I was wrong. Like a previously mentioned I am not here to make enemies. I though we were here to offer support. x

I would like to also say to Mushi mushi and 1 Catherine 1 thankyou both for your kind and encouraging words It means a lot that there are people on her who do not dislike me. xxxx

Coffee1Sugar Fri 10-May-13 12:27:32

Hi Adams grin

Well day 3 of first post-mirena removal withdrawal but I'd hardly call it a "bleed", all together probably filled no more than 1 tampax purple light tampon hmm. Even so as soon as it completely tails off, dp wont know what hit him grin

MushiMushi Fri 10-May-13 15:44:08

Hmm. C99, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. I don't think there's anything wrong at all with ttc as a single woman but it sounds slightly odd when you then say that if there's any chance you might be pregnant you can't have sex because your body is no longer your own. It sounds a little.....anti women? You're a woman, not an incubator.

I can tell when I'm ovulating because I start to get very very subtle cramps, like really subtle period pains but on one side only, for a couple of hours. Then a little later I get really sharp stabbing pains for a few hours. Most of the time it's only a minor annoyance but sometimes it gets quite bad and I need painkillers and a hot water bottle. I don't think this is usual though. It's called mittelschmerz. It's annoying but one advantage is I don't have to bother with temping or checking cervical mucus or anything.

MrsLadyL Fri 10-May-13 16:58:44

Well hello ladies been away for a while hectic renovating my new house!!? What's going on? What does troll meant ? No BFP this month for me AF due early next week X

Coffee1Sugar Fri 10-May-13 17:02:52

According to my period app - crap I actually have one of those! I'm due to ovulate 21st May, when should I start really going nuts with the bonking, around 18th?!

MrsLadyL Fri 10-May-13 17:05:10

Yea 18th onwards!! I'm due AF in 4 days so end of the month is my lucky time hehe x

MortifiedAdams Fri 10-May-13 18:03:43

I have the same app and ovulate then too. Im just planning on DTD every other day for the whole month - worked like a charm with DD.

Beccadugs Fri 10-May-13 18:56:12

I'm sure I'm supposed to be ovulating, and plenty (too much!!) of EWCM but the OPK is still -ve... Am I just missing the lh surge??

So frustrating as I'm usually v in sync with my system, but had weird almost OV like pains on Sunday (too early) and its totally thrown me!

also, big welcome to the newbies, and congrats to latest BFPs

tinypolkadot Fri 10-May-13 21:31:23

well I had the smallest amount of EWCM yesterday. hubby got back from his work trip late last night and I had a banging headache but thought we'd better dtd just incase!

still got negative opks and don't ovulate for a few days yet but am paranoid about every twinge in my lower back!

trying to dtd at least 3 times a week just to be sure - I think dh is loving it!

mushi interesting what you said about your smear, I'm always met with comments about how hard my cervix is to find on smears, I think it's fairly common though. it's definitely lead to some prolonged appointments for me in the past!

Monstamio Sat 11-May-13 06:40:33

Hello! Any room for a newbie? DH and I are both 33 and have just started ttc#1 this month. Really wish we had started earlier...

We're both quite sensible/cautious, DH especially so and were waiting for the right time... but as we all know that doesn't exist! I've been trying to persuade DH to get cracking for the past couple of years and finally had a massive tantrum put my foot down last month and so here we are. DH is convinced we're going to get upduffed quickly but we shall see on 28 May wink

Currently in fertile window according to App and I'm pretty regular so going with that for the time being, tho might get OPKs next month if nothing happens as I'm a bit control freaky. Also clueless when it comes to CM.

So that's me..

Mushi totally agree with previous advice to request the same nurse and take something sweet along with you. Hope it goes ok. Will be thinking of you...

CristaBell Sat 11-May-13 09:51:30

Morning all, i'm awaiting AF to start on the 15th, then due to ovulate between 23rd - 28th (according to app) but I have bought some ovulation sticks smile

How's everyone else doing?

Welcome Monstamio and good luck for the 28th smile

C99 - I just think that the man should have a choice in the matter as it's unfair. Have you thought about trying dating agencies? you may find someone of a similar age wanting children? Or a sperm bank could help you.


C999875 Sat 11-May-13 15:17:40

Hi Mushi Mushi Thankyou for your reply. It is very much appriciated. However I would not say I was anti women not wanting to make love because I could be pregnant. I do agree with what you say I am a women and not an incubator. However as you also said on a previous post it is my body so it is also my right to choose not to make love for the time being. It's tourturing going without it though! However if I am not pregnant I will certainly get back to trying creating my georgeous little miracle. xx

Hi CristaBell. Thankyou for your reply. How do I put this with out making me sound like the most terrible being alive. None of the men that I sleep with know I am ttc. xx

Coffee1Sugar Sat 11-May-13 15:58:53

C99 - what will you tell your child when she/he notices her daddy isn't around?

Coffee1Sugar Sat 11-May-13 17:14:17

And what if the man has any genetic illnesses or chronic conditions you're unaware of which could put a child together at risk? Or a rare blood group?

MrsLadyL Sat 11-May-13 17:20:27

Coffee I couldn't agree more. That's a very dangerous game to play health wise for you and baby. Wow

Coffee1Sugar Sat 11-May-13 17:42:26

Actually I have a whole host of scenarios Im wondering what you'd do about C99:

As above, 1) what will you tell your child?
2) what if the man has genetic conditions, rare blood groups, chronic illnesses?
3) what if the man is infertile?
4) what if the man has HIV or hepatitis or any other std?
5) what if he actually wants kids but is none the wiser that a child of his has been born?
6) who is going to be registered as the father on the birth certificate?
7) you won't be able to claim maintenance for the child if he doesn't know he has a child
8) if you're sleeping with more than one guy, how will you know who is the "sperm donor"?
9) why not avoid all the above and head for a sperm bank or better still, wait until you've met someone?

GnomieGrace Sat 11-May-13 19:22:33

Hey brand new to Mumsnet, had to google all the acronyms! Well pretty much just decided to TTC starting tmw! Took my last mini-pill today, finishing the pack was on pill type birth control for 10 yrs. Expecting it to take a few months to settle.

Stats 29 DH 30, will await AF's arrival in a few days! smile

GnomieGrace Sat 11-May-13 19:33:47

Hope you don't mind another newbie on the thread!

1Catherine1 Sat 11-May-13 19:45:32

Of course we don't GnomieGrace. Welcome to the thread and to mumsnet. Mumsnet has its own guide to commonly used acronyms here.

GnomieGrace Sat 11-May-13 19:46:19

Thank-you Catherine!

itsnotrocketscience Sat 11-May-13 20:54:32

How you all doing? I'm having fun trying ;) but only day 19 and am queasy and swear my boobs feel bigger. Is that even possible?! Am i going mad? Time will tell I guess...

Good luck everyone

1Catherine1 Sat 11-May-13 21:12:37

Who knows rocket, I'm quite sure I've been suffering with pregnancy symptoms since decide to ttc (even before having the implant removed). The brain does funny things to us! I don't have to worry about the breasts symptom though - mine still haven't recovered from pregnancy number 1 and are still bigger than pre-pregnancy due to still BF. I'm hoping that it doesn't interfere too much with my fertility - we're only on 1 - 2 short feeds a day now.

Coffee1Sugar Sun 12-May-13 16:59:25

Hi ladies, nice weekend? I've spent it chauffeuring my 2.11yo to swimming and parties. My post-mirena withdrawal bleed was pathetic tbh, about two days of minimal bleeding and absolutely nothing since Friday am so tonight...let the games begin! Hope to dtd every other night with ovulation around the 21st. Excited this is the first real month of trying. Dd will be 3 in a fortnight, she's growing up rapidly which is really spurring me on tbh

Beccadugs Sun 12-May-13 19:35:07

Good luck Coffee!

I finally got a positive OPK so every night for the next three for us! DH is loving it!!

C999875 Sun 12-May-13 19:41:03

People can choose to think what they please but it is my body and my choice and I can give it to who I please. of course you are free to luck down on me. However just remember anyone of you can become single and broody one day. Also I have been tested for STD'S and I have the all clear. I am not going to deny myself my dream of becoming a mum again because I am single. I could have came on here and been dishonest and said I have a partner I mean who would have known any different but why should I pretend to be something I am not. I am a hard working independent single mum and rightly or wrongly I am proud of that and why shouldn't I be. I have now got the picture that I am quite clearly not liked by certain people on here and fair enough but these comments are turning into personal verbal upsetting posts about me now and I would like them to stop. No disrespect at all to anyone but if you think I am the only single women sleeping around to get pregnant then you are very disillusioned. Anyway my period is here now so better luck for me next month. Good luck to all of you as well. xx

Monstamio Sun 12-May-13 20:11:19

Becca it sounds like our cycles are in sync as I am also in the dtd zone (again no complaints from the dh!). Good luck over the next few days... it will be good to have a 2ww buddy later this month. I'm not the most patient person so will be looking for distractions shock

Beccadugs Sun 12-May-13 22:16:37

Hi Monstamio glad someone else will be on te 2ww too! I think it is going to be a nightmare as I know I only OVed today, but have been having symptoms already!! DH is going to think I am crazy!!

BNmum Mon 13-May-13 08:47:29

Oh good luck girls! I hope everyone is well? Has there been any BFPs yet?
I think I saw someone make a reference to one but couldn't see anymore info. 2yo is scrambling over the top of me though so could have easily missed it.

I haven't been on for a few days while I have a strop about af is here. Well tbh I'm not sure it is af as its only visible first thing in the morning and while I wipe.

I've bought some OPK for next month but its just a waiting game for me at the minute until I know what's going on.

MushiMushi Mon 13-May-13 08:58:40

Ooh everyone seems to be making a start then. Good luck on your 2ww!

I got a bit worried last night looking at my ovulation calendar app thing (yes, I went there). I have only just started making a note of my cycles, but if this cycle is the same length as my previous one I might have a luteal phase defect. I've counted only 8 days from ovulation to the date my period is due. Hopefully I've just got wonky cycles.

I think....I need to stop overthinking everything.

HungryHippo89 Mon 13-May-13 09:36:41

Good Morning Ladies (old and new)

Good luck to all those who are in their fertile window!

Hope you all had a lovely weekend

I think I am ovulating - Yesterday afternoon I was sat on the sofa and i was getting mild period type cramps on my right hand side. And then I had a terrible nights sleep with a horrible achey lower back and this morning so far I am still having the dull achey pains on the left side. Do you think it is even possible I had my implant removed on Wednesday last week ... Can i really be ovulating? still DTD last night incase I am

When are people POAS?

Good morning all and welcome to those new to the thread smile

I have my hospital appt for 11th June, so looks like we can't ttc until late next month by the time the withdrawal bleed is over with etc sad

Fingers crossed for all those ovulations at the moment!

GnomieGrace Mon 13-May-13 11:13:19

Good luck to all those DTD! What are peoples thoughts on supplements ie Folic acid and vitamins I stopped taking the mini pill yesterday and are looking to TTC as soon as possible. I've read some good reviews that it benefits general health? Any thoughts either way?

Gnomie I have been taking folic acid and vitamin D for the last month in preparation, and generally tried eating healthier with a good range of vegetables etc. I'm not too militant about it but figure it can't hurt smile

HungryHippo89 Mon 13-May-13 12:42:57

I am also another one taking folic acid - Which has reminded me I need to take todays.

Gnomie I would 100% recommend you take some kind of preconception vitamins. Folic acid helps prevents neural tube defects (SP?). Which includes Spina Bifida. I have an immediate family member with this and a more distant relative that has just had to have a termination at 23 weeks. Due to Spina Bifida and something else (water on the brain i think - I'm not too technical so I don't know). It just helps give your bean the best chances.

I've been on Dr Google for the pain i've mentioned up thread. I am sure i'm ovulating which is getting me a little bit excited. So after DTD yesterday I will also do it tonight, DP won't know what's hit him!

Since i don't know my cycles do you think it would be best to go with averages and expect AF around 27/28th ? God this stuff is sooo confusing!

1Catherine1 Mon 13-May-13 12:43:37

Grace, Definitely be taking the folic acid, before conception and up to 12 weeks of pregnancy as it helps prevent certain birth defects - and as there is no down side to taking it (It is very cheap too) then there is really no reason not to. You will be told by every health specialist to. I'm taking vitamin D too but only because it tastes nice and I also read that it was recommended somewhere - I forget where though...

I say I'm taking it, thats kinda a fib because I constantly forget. I take it most days though.

Hippo It's perfectly possible I guess. I'm totally confused on my cycle as 5 days after finishing my 2 day period and I've got the same period like cramps. Quite uncomfortable too and my back pain is worse than ever. I'm a little concerned actually because my period was always quite regular (about every 28 days) but it doesn't make sense to be ovulating so soon for me. I'm thinking this returning to normal straight away thing with the implant is a lie!

Mushi - I also went there after I swore I wouldn't... You lot are a bad influence on me! That is what has got me worried about these pains being neither period pains nor ovulation pains.

GnomieGrace Mon 13-May-13 13:17:23

Excellent advice, thanks everyone, also dropped into Boots and they have a deal got 3 packs of Pregnacare conception for £11! Usual pack price £8! So if you're running low I suggest a stock up!

itsnotrocketscience Mon 13-May-13 16:38:24

well my symptoms were probably viral or imagined as I'm feeling much better now. feeling queasy over the weekend did make me have a bit of a wobble though, am I really choosing to do this all again? the puking, heartburn, aches and pains, worrying, labour, breastfeeding, night feeds...

I do definitely want another baby, just a bit apprehensive!

How long since your implant was out catherine? and how old is your child?

Definitely all take folic acid! if you have no risk factors take a normal prenatal vitamin, if any risk factors (on certain medications espec antiepileptics, family history neural tube defects, previous pregnancy neural tube defect) you need 5mg/day which is prescription only.

Coffee1Sugar Mon 13-May-13 18:03:12

I'm taking Seven Seas Trying for a Baby which is folic acid, iron and vit D. Standard pre-conception stuff. I chose this brand as the packet is like a pill strip with named days so I don't forget!

1Catherine1 Mon 13-May-13 18:03:14

implant has been out 2 weeks (although it feels like longer) and my DD is 2.

Chahroc Mon 13-May-13 18:09:44

Hi everyone smile

We just started trying for #1, its very exciting Im 29 until next week and DH is 29 as well, been married for 6 years

Cherrybright Mon 13-May-13 22:49:55

Hi ladies!! Hi chahroc
Its been a while since I said hi originally but thought I must drop in and see how you were all doing smile
Thanks for the info gnomie! I will be getting myself to boots tomorrow.
We will start ttc in the next week once af has gone... Its exciting smile

Coffee1Sugar Tue 14-May-13 06:13:07

Dtd last night and (Vom alert) I've never experienced anything so lovingblush. Dp is always super gentle and romantic but it felt "different". Wonder if it was the effect of both of us knowingly ttc. Anyway, both looking forward to more of that!

MushiMushi Tue 14-May-13 08:13:43

Aww no coffee I know what you mean, it certainly ramps up the intensity knowing you're possibly making a baby!

I'll have you all know I woke up this morning with dreams still fresh in my memory....I was dreaming about cervixes?!!!! Hmmm.

C999875 Tue 14-May-13 09:04:50

Like I said aunt Flow is here so to baby making for me for the time being. My most fertile days are from 22-26 May. I am going out on 24 May so that will be someone's lucky night! and hopefully I will get my BFP in June.
Coffee 1 sugar I wish I could be like you and connect sex with love kind of jealous TBH. It's wrong to say it but we can't help how we feel, but to me it's ( sex) just clinical with no emotions at all, not ideal but hopefully it will all be worth it. xx

BNmum Tue 14-May-13 09:56:12

C999 I admire you for wanting to raise another child as a single parent but i feel i should be honest to you about my feelings on your whole situation. You have after all joined this thread for support and advice. I would like to stress from the start that i'm not trying to be bitchy or nasty with my comments and just trying to highlight the dangers that you are putting yourself and your unborn child under.

I feel this is especially poignant if you are not having sex with a stranger to engage in some sort of emotional level. If you see it as clinical why not go down a clinical route and use sperm donation? Surely this would be a safer option? You still have the opportunity to have a child but you can also ensure that you are not taken advantage of by a stranger and you can ensure that there are no unknown hereditary diseases passed on to your child. Also, a sperm donates knows that his 'deposit' may result in a child and is not being tricked into having an unwanted child with a stranger. Everyone's a winner.

It sounds like you don't have you issues with your current situation but I would urge you to please use this time you have before your next fertile window to look at all your options.

C999875 Tue 14-May-13 10:05:46

Thankyou, BNmum for your kind and supportive not judgemental words. xxx

HungryHippo89 Tue 14-May-13 10:09:08

Well Ladies ... I think I am officially in my first 2ww - Is there anyone else out there in the 2ww? And when would everybody be testing?

Happy Tuesday everyone grin

C999875 Tue 14-May-13 10:35:21

Hi Hungary Hippo. I have just learned what 2ww. No I am not on my 2 week wait.
As you may have have read my earlier post I am going to flutter my eye lashes on 24 May, it's never not worked before. I am irresistable if I do say so my self. I will be testing 3 weeks later on 14 June, (if A.F has not arrived) as I was told that the best time to test is 3 weeks after making love.
A.F came on Sunday 12 May so my next one will be due 9 June. Hopefully she will not come though. Good luck to you as well. xxx

Beccadugs Tue 14-May-13 10:40:27

Hi HungryHippo! I am also officially in my 2ww! Testing on 25th may (we go on holiday on 26th) and AF due 27th! So exciting, what about you? When are you testing?

BNmum Tue 14-May-13 11:33:03

Eek! I'm so excited for you girls, fingers crossed.

Has Cristabell been on here lately? I'm sure we would have been testing sometime over the next couple of days. I've still got a light bleed but it hasn't developed into what I would call af. Sorry if TMI, it's enough to mark and liner and visible when I wipe but that's about it. I think I'll wait till the end of the week and if af hasn't properly kicked in, I'll POAS just in case (wishful thinking).

I've been taking my conception vitamins and I've got some OPKs ready for next month (so much for taking it easy and seeing how it goes). I'm pretty sure I've repeated what you guys already know but lo is at granny's today so I have a bit more time on my hands - bliss!

1Catherine1 Tue 14-May-13 11:42:51

I guess I'm in the 2ww, but we haven't DTD in the last few days as everything is kinda stressful at home. Possible change in circumstances which may mean delaying ttc. I'm quite unhappy about it and conflicted. I always wanted to ttc when DD was 2 so that they wouldn't be too far in age gap but big enough. Seemed perfect to me. Idk though, I'm not sure what is for the best. They say it all works out in the end but perhaps it won't this time. Anyway - not to bring on a downer.

Exciting time for everyone - Good Luck!

BNmum Tue 14-May-13 12:06:51

1Catherine1 I can see why you would feel unhappy about delaying ttc #2. Once you are in the ttc mindset it's difficult to think of anything else and really difficult when hurdles are placed in the way. Theres never a perfect time to have a child and no guarantee you would fall pregnant straightaway so do you think continuing ttc and seeing what happens is still an option? I hope it all works out well for you x

MrsLadyL Tue 14-May-13 12:29:26

Only on CD3 can't wait till end of month ha. Hubby on holiday for fortnight so fingers crossed this with be the month X

Coffee1Sugar Tue 14-May-13 15:47:58

CD7 here, time is slowing down!!

This is going to sound extremeyl dumb, but hey, I will open myself up to ridicule wink DD was unplanned [blushed] so we have never actively TTC. Can someone please explain the following:

1. All these acronyms? OPK, CD etc etc.
2. How do I actually work out my cycle and ovulation days? Once this mirena is finally out and I ahve had the withdrawal bleed I'd like to have clue as to what is going on.

Thank you! smile

Coffee1Sugar Tue 14-May-13 16:56:06

Golden - are you me?! dd was a pill baby, total shock 3years ago. I had my mirena removed end of march and it took 6 weeks for any withdrawal bleed, though it was two days of minimal bleeding. Officially started ttc yesterday grin. My gp said it can take 2-6weeks for a withdrawal bleed post-mirena. Good luck!

BNmum Tue 14-May-13 17:52:41

Hi Golden, I was exactly the same when I first started looking on here and i still have to look up some acronyms. There's a link at the top of the page which is handy.
OPK - ovulation prediction kit
Cd - cycle day, cd1 would be your first day of bleed/af

Your ovulation date will depend on your cycle date, there's a ovulation calendar on the right hand side of this page which can give you a rough idea. You might need to have a few cycles once mirena has been removed to give you an idea of cycle length though. If you can't wait you could always use OPKs from cd10 and see what happens.

When do you get your mirena out?

Thanks for clueing me in! Ive been feeling so stupid haha.

Mirena is being removed in hospital 11 june so am feeling very nervous confused

CristaBell Wed 15-May-13 00:00:28

I'm still here bnmumsmile I'm awaiting AF to arrive in the next day or to as I missed my ovulation period for may.

I've brought some ovulation sticks and going to try the egg meets sperm plan for my next cycle (I learnt about this on another thread).

How are you and everyone else doing?


Monstamio Wed 15-May-13 09:57:32

Morning ladies! Back from my hols now (wonderful time but not impressed to leave 28 degrees and land to 5!! Brr)

So I think I'm now joining HungryHippo, 1Catherine1 and beccadugs for the dreaded/exciting 2ww. Problem is, I can't be sure if/when I've ovulated. I'm assuming so as I've always been regular period-wise, but I haven't really had any symptoms. I've never had the kind of ovulation cramps which some people describe... is that just me? I've resisted doing body temping and using OPKs as it's only cycle one but will prob take it up if no joy this month.

Good luck to everyone dtding this week - enjoy! grin

BNMum hoping that your spotting is just that and you'll have some good news in the next couple of days. Keep us posted!

1Catherine1 hope things will work themselves out over the next few weeks. It's a confusing time, but I am sure that things will work out for the beat. Trouble is you can never tell how long it's going to take to fall pg so it's so hard to plan everything else. Hope it's not causing too much stress.

HungryHippo89 Wed 15-May-13 10:29:33

Morning Ladies,

1catherine - It's shit how things can change and make you wonder if expanding your family is a good idea. However things are always going to come up and give you a reason to put things on hold. I hope everything works itself out for you smile

Also I have found a website Don't blame me for getting addicted I found it yesterday and you can vote on the pee sticks wether you think they are positive or negative!! I am now totally obsessed with this website!! Thought I would share with other people. Lots of info too.

Also can you over dose on Folic acid ... I missed a few days at the weekend so i've been taking 2 for the last few days to make up for it?

Only 12 days till I can POAS!! grin

C999875 Wed 15-May-13 11:33:07

Good morning. I have a question. I hope it's not a stupid one, but here goes. I am taking folic acid, but should I also be taking seven seas trying for a baby as well or can it be one or the other. Thankyou in advance. xx

tinypolkadot Wed 15-May-13 13:43:28

hi ladies, a quick update from me as I think I'm into the 2ww too!

my cycles are a little irregular and last month was 28 days, usually I'm 33 days, so wasn't sure when to expect to ov. had all the cramping signs around day 14 (last Fri) so think I might have ovulated then.

we dtd on the following sat (apologies for tmi) and I could feel dh on my cervix and it hurt so much! never experienced that before. I've been reading that a tender cervix can be a sign of ov too (maybe a sign of pg?)

so I've been imagining all sorts of symptoms from implantation pains to nausea. and today I even had a nice big blob of ewcm which is even more confusing.

I have even stopped getting the bus to work cos I'm paranoid about going over the speed bumps (very bumpy at the back of the bus!) and rattling everything about down there!

good luck to everyone else on the 2ww would love to hear about everyone else's phantom symptoms!

c99 I think there is a recommended dose of folic per day, so maybe just take one or the other?

Coffee1Sugar Wed 15-May-13 13:46:59

C99 - I'm taking seven seas trying for a baby but that includes the recommended frolic acid so no need to take both

Monstamio Wed 15-May-13 14:28:18

HungryHippo Don't think you can overdose on folic acid as such. People with a history of neural tube defects (eg with a previous pregnancy) take about ten times the standard dose (on prescription). Having said that, little and often is probably the best policy (she says... fully admiting to having also missed and doubled up doses this month!!)

GnomieGrace Wed 15-May-13 17:18:21

Well came off Cerrazette at the weekend, took my last pill on Saturday and started a bleed today, am away from home with work and completely forgot to pack any tampons etc so had to trek out to the local pharmacy! Classic. This would probably be a withdrawal bleed rather than a proper period right? Should I start DTD after anyway just in case? Was planning to just do it every other day as a scattergun approach!

Also went to my family planning clinic to have a chat and she said I should try straight away as I had no time to loose being 29! I didn't think that I was on the particularly late side of starting a family? Am I wrong? When did you all have your first?

I'm off to see if this hotel does huge Ice-cream sundaes with extra chocolate sauce!

tinypolkadot Wed 15-May-13 17:35:26

hi gnomie that was a bit cheeky of them, we've just started trying for number one and I'm 30. I'm with u - I didn't think that was old these days.

Mmm, I could murder a chocolate sundae! It's a microwave meal for one for me as dh is working away for the rest of the week now. I think baby making for this month is over!

BNmum Wed 15-May-13 19:56:09

Blah! 29 is no age, cheeky bugger! I was 29 when I had #1 so I obviously think its a great time to ttc.

Hi Cristabell, I also saw the egg meets sperm thread. I've download it from iBooks and plan to read it when I have some spare time.

I've started OPKs as I've no idea if spotting was actual af, if it was then I'm on cd12 (I think). If not I'm just pissing money away until af arrives hmm

Have you still got a tender cervix tiny or was it a one off?

tinypolkadot Wed 15-May-13 20:47:05

hi bn it was a one off I think, and I am monitoring it just incase something else might be up. We dtd again last night and i was a little worried it would happen again so that affected things a bit for me. It got a little uncomfortable at one point but nothing like Saturday. Really hope it's nothing to worry about!

CristaBell Wed 15-May-13 22:37:26

tiny you made me giggle when you mentioned about the bus! I cycle to work and when I was on my 2ww in March I started avoiding bumps and lifting my bum off the saddle when I went over any cobbles!!

gnomie I'm 29 (nearly 30) and feel i'm a good age, I would of liked to start a family sooner but I don't think were old (30 is the new 21) grin

bnmum i'll have a look on ibook to see if I can see the book, I've just updated my brick to a phone I can download apps smile

Anyone testing soon?


Monstamio Thu 16-May-13 06:29:59

Gnomie I'm 33... and most of my friends are either pregnant now or have only had their first in the past year or two so I wouldn't worry.

I think it depends on where you live as to norms. In London people seem to start their families much later than elsewhere (based on purely my own observations).

I was three months shy of 24 with my first, am now 28 and wanting to ttc #2 smile ignore the silly family planning clinic, she seems to hold a very old fashioned view!

BNmum Thu 16-May-13 09:35:47

I hope it all goes well on the 11th golden

Sounds like it could have just been a one off tiny, like you say keep an eye on it but it could have been the position, the frequency you are dtd at the moment, ovulation.....all sorts of things really.

I hope everyone has a good day!

GnomieGrace Thu 16-May-13 09:59:48

Thanks everyone I would have liked to start a little earlier but am happy with the age we are at now. I have 2 friends who are pregnant and one who has a 4wk old and they are all 31-33yrs old!

C999875 Thu 16-May-13 10:34:48

Thankyou to both Coffee 1 sugar and polka dot for your replies in regards to my folic acid. Much apprieciated. xx

blueamber Thu 16-May-13 11:21:15

Hi gnomie, can't believe that woman told you to hurry! I believe 29 is actually the average age now women have their first child. With women being in education for longer and then starting a career it makes sense to wait a bit longer. I am 31 and we are starting ttc first time this month, as we are now financially secure. I would just prefer to have a child before 35, as I know that after that fertility drops and chances of complications rise, but I'm not worried that I am older than 30.

I also just stopped the pill. First bleed is indeed a withdrawal bleed. It is unsure when ovulation would be, as your body can be a bit confused after stopping the pill, but my reasoning is that hopefully the cycle will start working the week after stopping the pill and the body might start preparing for ovulation for the week after that. Just have to look out for the signs.

Coffee1Sugar Thu 16-May-13 17:20:46

Today is CD9, just did an opk (I know I know, I caved) and it says I'm not ovulating but have very heavy creamy discharge blush. This is first month after mirena. When will I ovulate?!

BNmum Thu 16-May-13 20:04:54

Hi coffee I don't know anything about mirena but if you don't know your cycle length it's advised to start OPKs on cd10. If i had EWCM around this time i would have tested too to see if I was ovulating.

Sorry not much help, just wanted to say keep up the OPKs and see what happens.

Coffee1Sugar Thu 16-May-13 20:11:29

Thank you smile according to mumsnet and babycentre's ov calculators, my fertile days are between 18-24th so maybe I'm ahead of myself?? Withdrawal bleed from mirena started on 8th may, I'm CD9 today.

Hi Ladies, just checking in. I am getting very impatient, feels so far away until I can get the mirena out. Feeling very low about it.

Coffee My Dr told me to expect ovulation up to 6 weeks after removal (could be less time than this of course) but in general it can take up to six weeks for your body to get it's rhythm back apparently.

MushiMushi Fri 17-May-13 14:12:37

flowers Golden, it's frustrating isn't it? I just checked the calendar and it's only about 6 weeks ago that my partner caved in to my bullying agreed that we should ttc. It feels like a lifetime ago! I've got 2 weeks left before I ovulate and can actually start trying.

itsnotrocketscience Fri 17-May-13 14:16:35

No luck for me this month, period came 3 days early. Oh well, on bright side won't be puking on my holiday in a few weeks! Good luck to the rest of you.

Monstamio Fri 17-May-13 14:23:12

Sorry to hear that AF got you itsnotrocketscience. Bummer that it came early too... though better than coming late I guess. Does your holiday coincide with your next fertile days... in which case could be a perfect opportunity for lots of relaxed dtd?!

itsnotrocketscience Fri 17-May-13 15:13:55

Like your way of thinking monstamio!

Coffee1Sugar Fri 17-May-13 17:54:52

Feeling sad ladies, albeit irrationally as had another negative opk test today CD10. I need a slap.

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:00:53

hi coffee I haven't had a strong positive this month either. I've read that ideally you should test four times a day shock or you could miss your positive, which I'm thinking might have happened to me as I've only tested once a day.

I think I might ditch them when I've used this batch and JS instead!

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:06:44

cristabell I was back on the bus past couple of days as getting too many questions about why I wasn't on it! couldn't think of a sensible answer long term so I've been trying to sit nearer the front and hoping all is well down there smile

Coffee1Sugar Fri 17-May-13 18:16:28

4 x a day?! Jesus I'm broke after one batch! Ffs I'll ditch them next month! Hopefully will dtd tonight anyway

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:26:22

That made me laugh coffee shame they're so bloody addictive, I'm about to poas now and I know it won't be positive.

good luck tonight!

GnomieGrace Fri 17-May-13 18:27:02

I've not even considered OPK an just going to DTD every other day from when AF leaves for 3 weeks, DH won't know what's hit him! Lol! Just waiting for AF to get out the door.

GnomieGrace Fri 17-May-13 18:27:48

Good Luck Tiny!

Coffee1Sugar Fri 17-May-13 18:33:56

Good luck Tiny! I'm off to shave my legs in readiness for tonight's antics! Lucky DP - a Friday night shag and a girlfriend who doesn't resemble a stubbly chimp grin

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:34:55

thanks gnomie I do wonder if I've ovulated at all this month, hope so!

I think my dh was a bit shocked that I actually meant it when I said we'd be dtd at least 3x a week! I think he thought I was bluffing grin

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:43:32

lol coffee and thanks. hope your dp appreciates the effort!

tinypolkadot Fri 17-May-13 18:49:48

No line on my opk today. That must be me for this month then as I'm on CD21 now and can expect AF in 7 - 10 days I think.

StrawberryMojito Fri 17-May-13 19:21:58

Hi, can I join? I'm 33, trying to conceive number 2. I have a 19 month old DS who was the unplanned result of DH forgetting to take the condoms on holiday. We decided to try for a second last month without paying much attention to ovulation days etc, unsurprisingly not pregnant. I then bought OPKs this month which showed a positive last Sunday, 3 days ahead of what my app told me and I'm not sure they were correct as my EWCM (get me, I've been reading up) was evident later in the week. So, I'm now in 2ww. Period due at end of month. Good luck to all.

BNmum Fri 17-May-13 19:33:13

Good luck for tonight!

AF has arrived for me too, so other spotting must have been breakthrough. 32 day cycle isn't bad for me and at least it gets it out the way so I can start serious ttc campaign! Relaxed approach, no chance, im planning every other day after af buggered off, OPKs, and every day around ovulation, miss a day then one more for luck (egg meet sperm plan). According to babycenter and mumsnet ovulation calc I'll be fertile 31 may till 6 June. Can't wait!!

Coffee1Sugar Fri 17-May-13 19:48:05

Bnmum - I too am basing my fertile days on babycentre and mumsnet on calculators which basically say get on it 19-24th may grin

BNmum Fri 17-May-13 21:44:27

Haha! It's going to be one big shagging relay race to conception. There's a week gap between us, i'm sure someone on here must be ovulating around that time and can pass the baton from you to me grin

Thought i'd start the opks again a few days before fertile window, maybe 28/29 May?

What app are you using Strawberry? I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

CristaBell Fri 17-May-13 22:43:04

My most fertile days according to MN is 26th - 30th May smile x

StrawberryMojito Sat 18-May-13 05:09:04

I got the period tracker initially which counts ovulation day as the mid point of my cycle. I've since downloaded a couple more free ones that say roughly the same. So I was surprised to get the opk a few days earlier. We shall see...

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 07:10:24

Dtd last night, today is CD12. Think I might ditch the opk sticks as too worried bout constantly getting negatives. Think I'll just aim for dtd again CD14, 15, 17, 19 - ish!

CristaBell Sat 18-May-13 08:12:19

Sounds like a good idea coffee I'm going to try the opk sticks for the first time this month but they do sound like a bit of a hassle from what I've read. x

GnomieGrace Sat 18-May-13 10:10:59

According to my calculator app I am most fertile around 28th and 30th but not expecting much to happen this month but will aim to get some practise in! wink

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 10:28:02

I'm not optimistic for this month tbh. Think my body is still messed up from mirena which was only removed 7/8 weeks ago. Only had sex twice this cycle so far Cd 6 and 10 and no positive opk test yet.

Still, im clinging on to the fact that I'm only on CD11 today, taking Seven Seas Trying for a Baby and I was obliviously upduffed with dd whilst still taking the pill last time!

Here's to glass half full grin

MushiMushi Sat 18-May-13 11:24:53

Smear results came back normal, I'm so relieved!! So we are officially a-go-go! If I have worked everything out properly I should next be ovulating around the 31st of May.

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 11:52:10

Ewww a wet patch about 10p size of clear wetness just fell into my knickers! Wtf is that?! His left over spermies from yesterday?! hmm

BNmum Sat 18-May-13 12:22:41

Or EWCM, get dtd!! Have you also had a positive on the OPK?

That's great news MushiMushi, congratulations with officially ttc.

Are our cycles starting to synchronise? Or is it just that we're not dtd much at the minute so we have plenty time to post on here and those that are ovulating are too busy?

CristaBell Sat 18-May-13 13:31:36

Brilliant news mushi Pleased all went well for you this time :0)

Have you done OPK stick today coffee?

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 14:29:02

Yeh and it's negative sad

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 16:06:37

Random out the blue diarrhoea - this is NOT part of the plan!!

MushiMushi Sat 18-May-13 17:02:28

Oh no Coffee! I read that as you had blue diarrheoa blush.

MushiMushi Sat 18-May-13 17:02:59

...forgot to add, hope you feel better soon x

tinypolkadot Sat 18-May-13 17:03:09

Oh no coffee. I did have to read that twice because I though you said it was blue! That would have been something to worry about! Hope it stops soon and drink lots of water etc.

I think I'm 8dpo now, still too early to test though right? Just had a lovely blob of thick creamy stuff, must be a sign! wink

Great news mushi time to get busy!

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 17:12:21

Well in my desperate attempt to spot ovulation, according to Dr Google "loose stools are a sign of ovulation". I'll roll with that grin. And coupled with my cm today which can only be described as "wet", I'm going to say up yours to the opk and jump dp again later. 2 nights in a row AND shaved legs, he's a lucky man grin

tinypolkadot Sat 18-May-13 17:19:41

You certainly know how to treat a guy coffee grin good luck, hope it's your weekend to get upduffed!

I shaved my legs this morning, so Dh must just strike lucky too.

To have a glass of wine later, or not, that's my dilemma this evening!

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 17:21:35

Do it. BGT or Eurovision is my dilemma!

tinypolkadot Sat 18-May-13 17:25:23

We're watching eurovision, dh doesn't know that yet though! grin

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 17:37:28

Haha us too probably blush. What cycle day are you on Tiny? I'm on cd11 and insanely impatient

tinypolkadot Sat 18-May-13 17:45:20

I'm on CD22 but suffer from irregular periods so not sure when AF is meant to turn up. Think I can poas on Friday maybe.

The waiting is agony, worse than Christmas! They should do TTC advent calendars so at least u can have a bit of choccy each day.

CristaBell Sat 18-May-13 17:58:48

Oh dear coffee hope your feeling a bit better now! Good luck with getting a positive OPK soon smile

I'm impatient too, what to get started with the EMSP smile

Coffee1Sugar Sat 18-May-13 18:02:05

Just described my cm to my sister in precise detail over the phone! Don't think she appreciated my frankness but heyho. Dp has been helping a friend move house today so pretty sure he'll be too knackered for sexytime later. Might have to be a case for the "nice knickers" to entice...

CristaBell Sat 18-May-13 18:02:33

MrsladyL How you getting on? not seen you on here for a while? x

GnomieGrace Sat 18-May-13 18:53:50

Lol good luck with the planned seduction Coffee hope it ends in an upduffing!

GnomieGrace Sun 19-May-13 12:49:59

Well my withdrawal bleed finished yesterday, so to celebrate jumped DH this morning, I guess you could say I am on CD5 but only been off the pill for a week. How did the panties work out Coffee?

Coffee1Sugar Sun 19-May-13 17:47:40

Zero sexytime last night as dp didn't get home til 10.30 and I was sparko. But overload of cm today so as soon as the bloody football is over and my roast dinner has blessed my belly, I'm going for it! CD12 today.

tinypolkadot Sun 19-May-13 19:09:28

I poas this morning knowing full well it is still too early. Just can't help myself!

better luck with the sexy time tonight coffee

Coffee1Sugar Sun 19-May-13 21:02:49

Thanks have dtd tonight. Come on swimmers!

C999875 Sun 19-May-13 22:04:36

Hi everyone. Hope you're all okay. I had an unplanned night out on Friday and yes I met a randomer and we "made love" and he has taken my number but I'll ramble about that in a minute. which was C.D 6
I have a question I would like all you very clever ovulation experts to answer "Is it possible to ovulate on day 6 (which was 1 day after my period finished, or is that far too early?") The reason I am asking is I had lots of cervical stretchy mucas and I was feeling very sexy. (hence my love making). I did work out my fertile days to be 22-26 May but they can change and we're all different as are our own cycles
Guys do not usually ask for my number afterwards well what do I expect when I give myself to them as soon as I see them, I'll say that before anyone else rightly does, but I am desperate to conceive and at 37 I do not exactly have much time on my hands. and they do not complain at the time. I am sure you know what I mean. Anyway he phoned me last night and I am meeting him next Friday as well and who knows this could lead to something erm I'll dare to use the word "Special" but I wont hold my breath and even if it doesn't there are plenty more stars in the solar system or if you prefer fish in the sea. If I do stick with the same sexual partner, well at least for this month and if I do get my B.F.P in June I wont be wondering whose product (sperm) it is.
Good luck to you and all and indeed me for our June B.F.Ps xxx

GnomieGrace Mon 20-May-13 06:20:26

Hi C999, every woman is different i wouldn't say impossible to ovulate but unlikely, who knows!

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 11:24:40

C99 - please go for a sexual health screen

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 12:07:39

Hi gnomiegrace. Thank you for your reply. xx
Hi Coffee 1 sugar. Thank you for your reply and indeed your concern, but I have had a full screen health screen and I am fine. Like I am always saying what I am doing is not ideal but unfortunatly I am not part of the ideal world. xx

HungryHippo89 Mon 20-May-13 12:47:23

Hi All,

Thought I would just check in to see how everybody was doing?
Sad weekend - You might of seen it on the news about the house gas explosion in nottinghamshire - I only live a few streets away. It's very sad sad
Have also been feeling sick all weekend not sure if it's a symptom or not this is the 4th day of it now!! 7DPO surely that's too early for any tell tale signs ...

Hope you are all having a good day - Even if it is Monday!!

BNmum Mon 20-May-13 12:51:09

Good luck coffee! Have you still got cm? Any +ve OPKs yet?

Hi C999, I would say this is a great development and I hope it blossoms into something special. I would think it much better all round to have a child whilst in/developing a relationship, even a short one. I know it's early days but try and approach the subject of children with him sooner rather than later then you both know where you stand.
Fingers crossed he's on the same page as you!

Af still here so concentrating on other things for the moment, looking forward to cracking on with the baby making soon though.

BNmum Mon 20-May-13 12:54:18

X post

I'm sorry to hear that hippo. I hope this is a super early sign of a BFP for you and not a side effect of the explosion.

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 13:08:06

Hi BNmum. Thankyou for your reply. xx

Hi all, Hippo I have seent he news, absolute tragedy I hope you are ok I imagine you feel pretty shaken up.

Coffee I am rooting for your swimmers too grin

I have had to ove my gynae appointment to the 19th due to work related reasons, I am very angry that they have essentially told me I have to move my appointment, i know they don't get the significance but I am in such a foul mood, it must be emanating from my pores. angry

BNmum Mon 20-May-13 13:23:29

Just read a couple of articles on the web about the explosion as didn't see it on the news. It sounds horrendous, hope you and your family are ok hungry

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 13:32:07

My God. I've just read about that explosion. How tragic. It certainly does put things into perspective and makes you feel guilty worrying about seemingly trivial things. My deepest sympathy to all involved R.I.P to the 2 who have lost their lives as a result. xx

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 13:40:57

Hippo - so tragic sad hope you an friends and family are safe.

Golden - that's crap hun. Any chance you can have it out at the GP?

Coffee Unfortunately not, they have tried twice, couldn't get it out or even see it so had to be referred for ultrasounds etc, it's too far up in the cervix so a Gynaecologist has to remove it under sedation sad

BNmum Mon 20-May-13 13:55:57

That's out of order, they have no right to demand you change your appointment golden.

Without going into details I would have refused saying I had a minor op that could not be delayed. No wonder you're angry!

Monstamio Mon 20-May-13 14:08:02

Morning ttcers! Had a busy old morning at work so using my lunchbreak to catch up on the latest (obviously I wasn't going to wait until tonight!)

Hippo - how horrible sad Hope you're not too shaken by it. It must be very scary when it's so close to home.

tinypolkadot - I also POAS on Sun.. also much too early! But it's the first time I've done it so treating it as a trial run/testing the sticks!! No symptoms though, so I'm not all that hopeful about the real test next week.

C999875 - I'm going to admit, I've avoided commenting on your posts previously as I have some issues with your approach. However, I do understand the reasons behind it even if I don't agree with the way you are going about things. I'm curious though, as to what you tell these randoms about why no contraception? Do you say you've got it covered, or have none of them asked? Just because, if something does develop with this latest guy and he subsequently discovers you were deliberately sleeping around to try to get pregnant it might not go down all that well! Especially if he thought you were being safe....

Monstamio Mon 20-May-13 14:09:11

Golden I completely agree with BNmum. That is totally outrageous!

MushiMushi Mon 20-May-13 14:23:59

Aww Golden that's rubbish!

C99 you keep saying you've been screened for STIs and you're fine....but then go out and shag another random? So you're testing after each one night stand? And you've considered that in the case of HIV you should wait another 3 months after exposure to test again? confused

I was really stupid in my late teens and early 20s. I shagged around loads and was really lax about condoms. When I started to grow up a bit and realise how stupid I'd been I became terrified I'd caught HIV. My way of dealing with it was basically denial. I didn't have the test because I was convinced it would be positive and I couldn't face dealing with it.

In fact, this went on for years. The longer I left it, the more terrified and convinced I became that I had it. And in fact, I only confronted this at the age of 31, last month, because I wanted to get the all clear before I started ttc. That week of waiting for the results was horrific. And when I got the all clear, I couldn't stop crying. I've never been so relieved in my life.

So really my point is, why on earth would you put yourself at such stupid risk, again and again?

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 14:51:16

Hi Mushi Mushi. Thanks for your reply and I am sorry about your experiences and I am pleased you got the all clear and I must say you have a lovely way with words I prefer to call it making love rather than shag.
Just suppose you were in my shoes single not getting any younger and broody what would you do? As you said in a previous post you were considering doing something similar to me, but you're fortunate that you don't have to. xx

MushiMushi Mon 20-May-13 15:01:40

I had a 'no strings attached' type thing going on with a friend of mine. I considered getting pregnant with him, but I'm glad I didn't because I would never have met my partner a couple of years later, with whom I am now ttc. I was lucky I suppose. I understand your sense of urgency but why don't you consider sperm donation? That way you don't have to worry about catching anything. Or just wait and see how things get on with this new bloke? Like BNmum says even if it's just a short relationship at least you will know who the guy is.

I know it's completely unreasonable, my manager was quite apologetic as she knows what the procedure is for, but there will be no one else in the team in the office that day and we can't have other employees going without contact for an entire day (HR dept) so I was left with no choice basically sad
I know it's only another 8 days, but I have been waiting since late March to get it removed, so it's just dragging it out even further for me sad plus I will be going on holiday soon afterward, kowing my luck I will ahve my withdrawal bleed for my entire two week holiday!

Monstamio Mon 20-May-13 15:32:28

But C999, "shagging" is exactly what you are doing. "Love" doesn't seem to come into it for you. Unless you count the eventual love you will have for the child, I suppose. This is one thing I've really struggled with when reading your posts and I feel like it somehow cheapens what I have with my OH

And Mushi is right, the moment you have unprotected sex after an STI test, that test becomes invalid. It only takes one infected partner to blow the whole thing out of the water.

As so many people have now said (both on this thread and the other one about ONSs), why not consider a donor? That way you're at least getting sperm which is safe for you and the unborn child and is coming from a man who's made a conscious decision to help someone become a mum.

Finally... you keep mentioning your age, but you're 37 not 47! There is still time to meet someone with whom you could "make love" and bring up a child. Have you looked into internet dating... some people on those sites make it very clear that they are hoping to have a family and it can all move quite quickly.

Sorry for the long post - been bottling some of that up. I promise I'm not trying to flame or attack you, and I apologise if it comes across like that, but as we're all revealing such personal stuff on this forum I felt it would be disingenuous to just continue saying nothing.

C999 I'd have to echo excatly what Mushi and others have said. I also have largely ignored your posts, I a not trying to be mean or rude, I just have strong opposition to how you are going about conceiving a child.
As well as putting yourself in incredible danger (of STI's as well as at risk of physical harm from these strangers) you are doing your potential child and the unsuspecting father a huge disservice.

flowerandrandd Mon 20-May-13 15:47:46

hi can i join??! Have read through the posts and seems a bit out there on a few comments however each to their own, however are you informing these guys? why not go to a sperm bank or have we gone through this?

Anyway we are ttc number 3 have two dds, dd1 5, dd2 4, dd2 was a devil baby/toddler so completely put dh off another, however she has blossomed and i actually loved her bloody mindedness!

we did the deed on cd18 and cd 20 and have had massive cramps etc however i always had implantation bleeds with both girls within 5 days and not this time and unfortunately experienced 7 miscarriage and 1 ectopic prior to catching dd1 so fingers crossed.


Monstamio Mon 20-May-13 16:01:20

Welcome flowerandrandd Have a biscuit

Sorry to hear about your previous miscarriages but congrats on having 2 dds. Finders crossed for a BFP later this month smile

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 17:16:35

Welcome flower smile!
Day 13 for me today. I swear time is standing still. Just like the 28 reports I'm yet to make a start on...

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 17:45:59

Ladies, what do you think, I need some advice! Have dtd days 6,10,12. I don't know when I ovulate as this is first month post mirena and I've given up with opks. I don't really understand at what point you begin the 2ww. I presume I should dtd another couple of times?

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 18:08:59

Goldenhandshake. You've said your little piece so now its only fair that I get to say mine so here goes "you weren't ignoring my post when along with 2 other people you refrered to me as a troll", but that's all in the past now over done with and gone, and I am not the sort to hold grudges.
We are living in 2013 not 1320 and I can assure you that I am not the only women sleeping around to get pregnant. x
Monstamino. and I am not trying to attack or flame you either. I'm not stupid I know what I am doing is going to have more people against me that for me. Now I hope what I say next does not cause upset but I refer to the line where you said/typed said that what I do cheapens what you have with your O.H. Well I do fully apologies but unlike everyone else I do not lead a prefect existance. Taking this away for a from ttc for a moment. I not allowed to have sex because I am not in a relationship. x

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 18:16:01

C99 - of course you're entitled to sex and motherhood. But you need to realise that you will get voice of disapproval on here because what you're doing is potentially dangerous to yourself physically and emotionally as well as the consequences for a potential unborn child. People on here share lots with each other, just be prepared for your way of ttc is not exactly "the norm". I don't see why you're in such a rush. As another poster said, you're 37 not 47. Plenty of time to actually meet someone you love.

C999875 Mon 20-May-13 19:06:18

Thankyou for your reply Coffee 1 sugar. I do agree what I am doing will be met with lots of disaproval and very validated I suppose. I know what I am doing is not the norm, and for all I know the men that I have slept with could be infertile! One thing I will say about myself though at least I have been honest

It's taking me along time to admit this but I think I been rather over sensitive to what has been said to be, and I should be showing gratitude for everyone's concern. It may come across that I am horrible nasty person but I.m not. I'm just desperate to be blessed with another child, like yourself, but I suppose if it doesn't happen at least I have been blessed with 1 beautiful child, there is probably a women somewhere breaking her heart crying because she cannot even have 1 child.

Who knows though perhaps something will blossom with this guy I met on Friday. xx

MushiMushi Mon 20-May-13 19:24:14

Coffee, isn't the 2ww the 2 weeks between ovulation and your period? Assuming your luteal phase is 14 days. Basically the 2ww is waiting until your period due date. But now I've just re-read your post and you don't know when your period is due, so I have no idea. confused errrr.... so I'm glad I cleared that one up for you. Ahem. smile

Yes if I were you I'd just keep dtd and hope for the best!!

Coffee1Sugar Mon 20-May-13 19:52:13

Mushi - you're more clued up than me grin. Ah well more sexytime even though I remain cynical about this month.

BNmum Mon 20-May-13 20:07:09

Hi coffee I would keep dtd. On a normal 28-30 day cycle most women ovulate around day 14, if you have a longer cycle it's likely to be later so I would keep going. If you have any opks left I would start those about now and see if they detect anything.

1Catherine1 Mon 20-May-13 20:25:14

coffee - I think your best bet is just to DTD every other day since you do not know when you ovulate this month. Not worth timing it and then by chance missing your ovulation.

OH and I only DTD once during my fertile window (due to previously mentioned issues) but as I actually do quite enjoy DTD with DH, then we aren't going to stop there. wink

C99 - as usual it appears you missed the point. Goldenhandshake's point was rather simple - It is not making love if its done with a stranger whom you do not love, shagging is a much more appropriate term. Regardless of how you feel about the phrase. I feel your use of the term "make love" quite distasteful too and I couldn't care less if you shag around. I suppose it would be a small concession on your part if you perhaps referred to it as DTD instead? You seem to feel that its unfair for us in loving relationships to use that phrase but expect you not to but then what we're doing isn't the same as what you're doing is it? See you need to think of it this way - if a woman came on here and told us she was planning on getting pregnant to her DH but he didn't know (as he wouldn't agree) then we'd be pretty judgy too. Oh and since I'm replying directly to you - I'm quite sure "feeling sexy" isn't a symptom of ovulation.

1Catherine1 Mon 20-May-13 20:56:01

Sorry, I got my people mixed up blush, it was Mushi and Monstamio who said the shagging thing - sorry, I did read them all (as I've been lurking) but so many names smile

Welcome to the thread flowerandrandd and anyone else who I have missed.

tinypolkadot Mon 20-May-13 22:57:05

monstamio I won't mention all the practice tests I did last week too! wink Think I might poas again in the morning, just internet cheapies. I've been feeling really bloated over the past week, which is something that rarely happens, maybe it's a sign. I've not had any spotting though, so I'm thinking it's maybe unlikely I'm pg.

c99 I really hope everything works out for you, would u consider putting ttc on ice while u see how this potential relationship develops? It must take some courage to do what you're doing, do u have any friends or family that you can speak to about it?
Hi flower <waves>

Monstamio Mon 20-May-13 23:06:58

Sounds promising tiny I don't think everyone gets spotting do they? Let us know how the POAS goes tomorrow wink

I also have internet cheapies but planning to hold out until wednesday the end of the week to test again. Otherwise I will drive myself crazy. Or should that be crazier?!

tinypolkadot Mon 20-May-13 23:21:43

monstamio that is true, although I think more do than not from what i've read (and I've read quite a lot the past couple of weeks!) but we shall see. I'm still hopeful!

Keep us updated with your poas too, maybe I'll have some good news in the morning...

Note to self - order more tests!

CristaBell Mon 20-May-13 23:25:41

Good luck POAS in the morning tiny smile

Coffee1Sugar Tue 21-May-13 06:17:49

Well?!? grin

Coffee1Sugar Tue 21-May-13 06:58:56

Hurry up tiny I've gotta go to work!! How many times have you dtd this month? Really rooting for your swimmers grin

MrsLadyL Tue 21-May-13 07:59:11

Good morning everyone. I'm back lol. My time is coming up on CD10 due to ovulate in 6 days according to app. Shall start using opk maybe Thursday? As its my daughters birthday tomorrow so would be great to nail it this month (no pun intended ;) ) do we have any bfp yet ladies? Xx

tinypolkadot Tue 21-May-13 08:22:50

Thanks everyone and sorry to keep you waiting grin

BFN I'm afraid but when I twist it in the light and squint with one eye shut I could swear there was a tiny line

Maybe there will be a line there when I get back from work, it seems to happen to others!

AF due on Friday, so I'm going to try and hold out till then now. Or maybe Thursday.

In other news, I'm off to the GP now to get my itchy nipple examined again. I had to go to the breast clinic last month, it really shook me at the time, but all is well and it's just a skin condition thank god.

Secretly glad I don't have really sore boobs today!

tinypolkadot Tue 21-May-13 08:26:21

We dtd 5 times over ov (I hope) it was difficult to do any more as dh was working away quite a bit.

HungryHippo89 Tue 21-May-13 09:31:42

Good Morning All.

Sorry about the BFN tiny sad and I hope you get your itchy skin condition under control.

I still feel queezy... so like a twat I caved and POAS this morning ... If I was right and I OV'd on the 13th i'm not due AF untill next week ... of course it was a BFN ... If i still feel like this on Friday ... I'm going to pee again grin No other symptoms really ... Suppose I am little more tired than usual as I am sleeping up to my alarm going off and normaly I wake up about half an hour before.

Anyone else except for me and tiny testing soon?

Take care all wine

Monstamio Tue 21-May-13 09:44:43

Yes, me grin

Due AF next Monday. Also POAS on Sun (yes, I know, as if it was going to show anything!). So prob going to try again at the weekend.

Tiny, hope that was a line you saw!

C999 you seem determined to make this into some sort of bun fight, you ignore various points in every reply to you but pick on the parts you deem negative hmm. That is one of the major reasons I believed (and am still not entirely unconvinced) that you were a troll.

I will go back to ignoring your posts, get on with it but don't say you weren't warned if it all goes horribly wrong. I hope for your sake and your potential unborn child's, that you do not pick up some god awful disease.

Tiny sorry to hear about your BFN I hope there is a line there later!

HungryHippo89 Tue 21-May-13 12:11:17

C99 - I really hope you take on everyones advice - you are opening yourself upto so many diseases - Ok so you have your regular STI's but what about things that you can't cure like Genital warts, or worst case sceanario HIV/AID's? And they are the things you can pass onto your unborn baby. Why not give yourself 12 months to date and meet someone. If you still haven't found anyone look into donor sperm instead. I find it really morally wrong to go out and "make love" to strangers in hope that you may get pregnant - These poor men that are sleeping with you thinking nothing more of it and they don't realise you are hoping to make them a DAD . And I really hope that if you choose to ignore the advice you have been given and suceed with getting pregant by a stranger you don't contact them for financial support or go through the CSA (If you are in Britain) to claim money off them.

Also what happens if you sleep with A and then getting tested - then sleep with B (but B has an STI) get the results back saying all clear but then you sleep with C and pass him the STI B gave you?

I want you to know I am not flaming you I find it very brave and strong of you to want to go it alone. It is just the way you are going about it that I am having a hard time with - as you have a choice to do it the right way - And i feel like you are picking the cunning deceitful way to do it. And it isn't fair on the people you are sleping with.

flowerandrandd Tue 21-May-13 12:47:39

I had a bfn this morning shouldn't have tested as I'm stupid to think it would work on month one but it did with dd2 I wasn't even ovulating and was bf wtf!

Anyway went to marksy and bought a £20 bottle of red to commiserate as af pains are rife today so minute she comes shall be pouring a glass!

Sorry tiny xxx

flowerandrandd Tue 21-May-13 12:49:41

Also I know I am new to this thread but ones I was on before were lovely and I feel c99's choices are clouding everyone's responses, we all have opinions but maybe live and let live and maybe c99 keep your chat on the baby making level instead if details that will get people's back up x

tinypolkadot Tue 21-May-13 13:09:23

I think I'm still a bit early to test as AF not really due till end of the week or even later, so there is still hope for me yet.

It's nice to know there are others testing at the end of the week too smile I really hope we get a BFP this month from somebody!

Sorry about your BFNs Hippo and Flower I think we'll all have better luck by the end of the week.

Monstamio Tue 21-May-13 13:09:27

Sorry to hear about your BFN Flower, but enjoy your wine. I love a good quality red! And there's always next month!

We're not always so heated and opinionated on here. We're actually a pretty supportive bunch usually. Things have just come to a bit of a head with the whole way of going about getting pregnant.

Now it's all out in the open, I'm sure it will blow over. I for one am more than happy to go back to discussing symptoms only grin

GnomieGrace Tue 21-May-13 13:16:42

Sorry for the BFN's flower and tiny I'm no-where near testing stage yet, not due to ovulate until 29th according to my app. hmm

C999875 Tue 21-May-13 13:29:59

Catherine1Catherine. To start off on a positive welcome back to the thread. However.
1 Please feel free to give your opinion, we live do after all have the freedom of speech. but. My life circumstances and choices as wrong and imorale as they may be are not for you play judge and jury
2 You do care that I as you put it "Shag around" or you would not have mentioned it.
3 I am free to call it whatever I like and I will continue to call it making love as I always see it as I am possibly creating a new life.
4 While I wish no-one's relationship to breakdown, I'm a human being and I cetainly do not begrudge people loving relationships, I have made the decision to be single so envy would be a bit hypocritical, but never forget the wheel of fate. moves all the time and one day I could be a loving relationship ttc and you could be single and broody. x

Goldenhandshake. I have no intentions of turning anything into a bun fight. I have enough petty arguments to deal with in the real world with wanting to biccer with people on here. However it seems that everyone else is allowed to say what the like to me and yes they have good reason to, but as soon as I defend myself I am seen as trouble maker or a troll which really upset me last week but this time I am not going to let it upset me as I know I am not and that should be all that matters.x

Hungary hippo.
thankyou for your advice maybe a sperm donor could be the correct route to go down or perhaps this potential relationship may just work out.x

Welcome to the thread. but c99 is an adult and free to make her own choices. x

C999875 Tue 21-May-13 13:31:12

Gnomiegrace. Sorry for the B.F.P. Sending lots of baby dust for next month. xx

C999875 Tue 21-May-13 13:43:05

Tinypolkadot. Thankyou for kind words. xx

HungryHippo89 Tue 21-May-13 13:45:25

C99 I hope the relationship works out for you I really do! Just protect yourself. I know the feeling of longing for a child can be intense (probably worse so when you feel as if you are running out of time). But please just think about the choices you are making smile

ION - I still feel horrificly queezy. I had a MC in 2011 and this was my only sympton. I wasn't really bloated didn't really get sore boobs or anything. So I am keeping my fingers crossed. Don't get me wrong I would be ecstatic for a BFP when I test in a few days time - But I have a lot going on in June that would make a BFN not such a negative thing ... A visit to a theme park, a friends wedding, my birthday and my friends hen party. Keep using Dr Google to search for pregnancy symptons 8DPO... God if my employers saw my internet history I think they would be horrified.

Sorry to hear about all the BFN's today ladies - Let's hope for better results for when we test again!!

GnomieGrace Tue 21-May-13 16:07:02

I also have a browser history that would make my HR dept go collectively pale! I 'm not sure if I like the fact that my companies new maternity policy is trimmed in Pink or not! Has anyone on here considered APL or have you had any experience of this? I earn twice as much s DH, as things stand my earning potential is greater than his so I was thinking about returning to work 20 weeks after the birth and for him to take 15 weeks APL? I know this is a conception thread but it's something that I've been thinking about whilst ttc.

Coffee1Sugar Tue 21-May-13 16:25:15

I don't get to test til 5th June!! Ahhh I'm going nuts already

Monstamio Tue 21-May-13 16:37:30

Gnomie A couple of my friends did this and it worked well for them by all accounts. The dad loved the opportunity to spend that time with his dc which he wouldn't otherwise have had and I don't think the mum found going back as hard as she feared. Since then they have made the decision to both go back to work part time and share the childcare between them. They're both on generous wages which is why this is possible so it won't be feasible or right for everyone but thought I'd mention it.

flowerandrandd Tue 21-May-13 17:05:50

to top my bfn off my 4 year old has just proclaimed her dinner looks like sick and she is leaving to live with nanny who gives her chicken nuggets... and i want another one because??.... confused

Coffee1Sugar Tue 21-May-13 17:25:12

I am uncomfortably bloated. You could stick a pin in my stomach and I'd explode. No doubt IBS but I can hope!

tinypolkadot Tue 21-May-13 17:49:42

coffee I felt like that most of last week, it was awful. Its not like me not to clean my plate!

I just checked my stick from this morning, no line. Obviously the going to work and checking after 6 hours trick doesn't work for me!

I'm not sure, but I think I might have had the odd pains from AF today, she can bugger off!

Love the sound of both working part time to bring up dc's, great idea.

flower I'll always lol when I think of Dh slavi