Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 5

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Hoping the new thread brings a plethora of BFPs and lots of healthy arrivals!

amicablemoomin Tue 12-Mar-13 16:45:37

marking place......I agree mrshp, roll on Friday.

BTW, Anyone any idea when you can start to POAS after mmc but before LMP? just to try and give focus to my obsession....

HJBeans Tue 12-Mar-13 17:50:45

Thanks MrsHP! Hope there will be lots of good news on the thread.

Amicable: don't know but think with both of my mc's I had a period about four weeks after I'd stopped bleeding, so think I ov'd as usual. So you could treat it like a normal cycle if you don't mind possible stick wastage?

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 12-Mar-13 19:18:30

Marking place - good luck MrsHP hope starting the new thread is lucky for you xx

Thanks! Sorry you couldn't make your scan jolly.

Pixie - how are you doing?

Amicable I have no idea so sorry!!

Dorita75 Tue 12-Mar-13 21:07:54

Sorry jolly what a pain in the arse, hope they can reschedule soon?

amiable I suppose you've had a negative result since mmc? After I got that I got my first period at a similar time. Don't know if that's helpful or not!

Keeping an eye on you all wink

I've put a pic of Esther in my profile if you want a look x

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 13-Mar-13 18:56:21

She's absolutely beautiful Hun xx

Dorita75 Wed 13-Mar-13 20:01:32

Ah what a cutie!!

HJBeans Wed 13-Mar-13 21:36:14

What a lovely wee girl! Congratulations!

Jollyb Thu 14-Mar-13 06:25:24

Good luck with your scan today beans. Off to log into main site so I can have a peek at baby Esther.

Jollyb Thu 14-Mar-13 06:27:44

Ahhhh absolutely gorgeous x

She is beautiful backward thanks for sharing!

AF arrived here overnight. Boo.

HJBeans Thu 14-Mar-13 15:33:27

Sorry to hear it, MrsHP. You've got a doctor's visit coming up to start the ball rolling on investigations soon, don't you? Will keep fingers crossed for you.

Thanks for well wishing, jolly. All looked normal, though he'd not pose for the camera for a glamour shot. Fantastic how detailed the anomaly scan is, though, is really reassuring to see all that's going right. Hope you get rescheduled soon.


Jollyb Thu 14-Mar-13 16:45:05

Boo hiss to AF mrs HP.

Beans - glad you're scan was ok. Mine has been rescheduled for tomorrow which is actually quite convenient as I'll be at the hospital to see the consultant then too.

Hope everyone else is ok too. Pebs - how are you?

Boo hiss indeed especially as it was the same day I got a text from BIL announcing their news with their scan pic! I am beyond pleased for them, but it did floor me a bit and I may have had a little cry in the car!

Appt is next sat so only a week to go.

Jolly hope your scan goes well.

Beans glad your scan went well!

Jollyb Fri 15-Mar-13 17:28:26

Cry away Mrs HP. I still feel a little upset when others announce their pregnancies even though I'm finally pregnant myself .

Scan fine. Still looks like a girl.

amicablemoomin Fri 15-Mar-13 18:18:28

i'm the same mrshp, although mine is usally accompanied by a wail of 'it's not FAIR'. Although of course you are pleased for them it makes your heart sad. Good luck with the appointment.

Dorita75 Fri 15-Mar-13 18:53:59

Yes, cry as much as you want mrshp I found it so hard when people announced news. Hope your appointment all goes well tomorrow x

HJBeans Fri 15-Mar-13 18:56:40

Too late to wish you a good scan, jolly, but glad to hear it went well. My little boy stayed a boy, too - good to have continuity in these things, isn't it? :-)

I don't usually get upset by other pregnancies, but am a wee bit wistful that our friends' newborn has been given the fairly unusual name we have planned for our first son. We'll still use it, but couldn't help a wistful thought that if my last pregnancy had continued we'd have beaten them to it and gotten all the 'oh, what a lovely name!' comments from all our mutual friends. Now our comments will be 'oh, you liked their choice then, did you?' envy

I second the 'good luck with the appointment', MrsHP, and will keep fingers firmly crossed for both you and amicable.

Have a good weekend, all.

Thanks everyone! If not TMI, my period has been very clotty. I've noticed it before, although not sure if due to paranoia since my mc last year, but today there was a big old clot, a bit like the ones when I was mc last year. Am going to mention it to the docs, but don't know if anyone else has noticed/had similar?

I've frightened you all off now haven't I?!? blush

Redbird12 Sat 16-Mar-13 12:30:09

Glad to hear the scans went well jolly and beans. I have to wait until 3rd May for my 20 week scan so a few weeks to decide whether we are going to find out the sex or not (am leaning towards yes).

backward gorgeous picture of Esther, she is lovely. Hope you are both doing ok.

Mrs HP sorry to hear about AF's arrival. I can't remember how long ago your mc was but my periods were a bit all over the place in terms of timings and how heavy or light they were for a few months after my last mc. When i saw the doctor she just said they would take a while to settle down and also it was to be expected by your late 30's anyway! So whilst it was reassuring, it didn't really help. I also had acupuncture last summer to try to make my cycle more regular and just make me less stressed about ttc. I had heard so many good stories and wanted it to make a difference but it really didn't seem to make a difference at the time.

I'm not sure if my body just wasn't ready at that point after 2 mmc's or whether I was just frustrated that it had all happened relatively easily before and now seemed to be taking ages. It wasn't until I had almost given up on the idea of us ever having DC's and stopped stressing about it so much that I actually got pregnant. But i know it is far easier said than done to not think about it!

Dorita75 Sat 16-Mar-13 18:26:10

Sorry for not replying sooner mrshp ! Did you go for your appointment today, did you mention clots? I don't think it's anything to worry about, I also had funny fluctuating periods all last year. x

Haha - I was only joking! Appt is next Sat so will see what they say there!

Redbird, I sort of know that worrying doesn't help, but as you say it is hard. I think maybe if they just check me I'll perhaps feel better about it, who knows!

Jollyb Mon 18-Mar-13 11:30:39

How long have you been trying since your MC Mrs HP? Must be a frustrating time.

All well here.

Over a year now. We had been trying for a year when I found out I was pregnant on the morning of NYE 2011 (eg day before 2012). Found out quite early no hb etc... through early scan (as I am diabetic) actually had the mc and hospital stuff in Feb half term so middle - end of Feb 2012. So now we have been trying for over two years with that one mc in the middle. At the time I felt quite positive eg that I could get pregnant, but now again I've lost that faith a litte.

The thing for me is that I have a DD (now 3 years 3 months) and every month I feel sad for her too, and feel the age gap will be that much bigger. However I do also realise that I am very lucky to already have her, and if she is it for me then I will always be grateful for having her. I sometimes feel bad for being upset when I already have her if that makes sense too.

Glad to hear you are all OK! I am liking all the positive stories and BFPs on this thread!

amicablemoomin Tue 19-Mar-13 09:09:58

hey mrshp, I dont know if this helps at all but there is six years between me and my brother and we're really close - it definitely is a different relationship than if you grow up with just a year or so apart, but I have so many clear memories of him as a baby and growing up which are really special in a different way - and there wasnt any sibling riviarly becasue we were in such different places. Good luck with the appointment, let us know how it goes.

Glad to hear the scans are all going well!

MrsHeggulePoirot Tue 19-Mar-13 18:38:58

Thanks amicablemoomin that does mean a lot and helps to know!

How are you doing?

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 19-Mar-13 19:38:21

Hi mrshp there are three of us girls I'm my family I have a better relationship with my sister 9 years younger than me than the one 3 years younger - relationships are what you make it regardless of age smile x

I am here lurking just feel a little raw - waiting for the all clear from the EPU and for the first AF to arrive, have worked out I have been pg for 27 weeks of the last 12 months with no baby - will probably try one last time as I can't take the physical and mental stress sad. Throwing myself into wedding plans now to keep my mind occupied smile

Love and hugs to you all x

MrsHeggulePoirot Wed 20-Mar-13 06:33:45

Oh pixie that is so hard. Are the wedding plans yours? How exciting when is are your getting married? Big hugs. X

Jollyb Wed 20-Mar-13 06:37:59

Mrs HP - I can see how you must be getting a bit downhearted now. . I hope your appointment this weekend is helpful . Should you get to the point of going down the IVF/clomid route - I believe the fact that you've been pregnant twice before greatly increases your chances.

Now as for age gaps - there is 5 years between my DP and his elder sister. She wasn't terribly impressed initially (he arrived on her birthday!) and used to scratch his head, but now they are really close.

MrsHeggulePoirot Wed 20-Mar-13 06:41:19

Thanks jolly - is it bad that made me giggle a bit? I hope his head is ok now grin

Jollyb Wed 20-Mar-13 06:43:09

Oh Pixie good to hear from you. When are you getting married?

It's hard to know when enough is enough isn't it. This pregnancy was definitely going to be my last 'go' . 3 MCs within 12 months had taken so much out of me.

Jollyb Wed 20-Mar-13 06:45:35

Yes scratches all healed!

MumTumgot Wed 20-Mar-13 08:32:41

Just a quick de lurk .... My age gap is 13 years !!! My dd will actually be 14 in October ! And here I am again with 4 weeks to go .... Built in baby sitter I say wink

amicablemoomin Wed 20-Mar-13 10:07:09

hope you are doing ok Pixie. Wedding plans sound exciting - something to focus on.

MumTumgot Sat 23-Mar-13 04:02:07

Baby Kyle born 16.18 pm 21st march By emergency c sec following spontaneous labour. He is beyond everything I could have asked for grin
A little poorly as 4 weeks early with jaundice and a low blood sugar which we are working on . Hate that I can't hug him as he has to be under his light xxxx

Thank u all for ur support and guidance hand holding and strength xc

Jollyb Sat 23-Mar-13 04:57:44

Wow. Many congrats mumtum (soon to be mumtumgone). Hope Kyle makes a speedy recovery x

Dorita75 Sat 23-Mar-13 07:22:31

What brilliant news to wake up to!! Well done and congratulations mumtum I also hope Kyle gets well soon and you can start the hugs smile

MrsHeggulePoirot Sat 23-Mar-13 09:14:07

Congratulations on Kyle! I reckon he couldn't wait to meet you. Hope you get lots of cuddles soon. X

Redbird12 Sat 23-Mar-13 10:54:15

Congratulations mumtum! Lovely news. Hope you are doing well and you get your cuddles with baby Kyle soon x

MrsHeggulePoirot Sat 23-Mar-13 18:05:53

Had my appt with gp this morning. I've got blood test forms for day (2-5) and day 21. dorita did you do them both in same cycle? I don't know whether to do day 21 this cycle and other one next cycle or leave both to next cycle?

Congratulations mumtum! Yay! x

Dorita75 Sat 23-Mar-13 20:41:13

I did them in the same cycle, I think I was near my 21 day first. My day 1-3 result came back high so they sent me for another one which came out lower than average but having the high result got us the appointment at the fertility clinic. They did a more specific blood test and when we went for results we were already pregnant but the doc had started to tell us my age just meant eggs were older etc nothing in particular wrong or anything, nothing we didn't know as I was 37 at the time. 38 now.

It doesn't matter which you do first or if same or different cycles so I'd just go as soon as you can for both smile

MrsHeggulePoirot Sat 23-Mar-13 21:08:12

Thanks dorita! I am on day 9/10 so will do day 21 this cycle and other one web AF arrives!

HJBeans Sun 24-Mar-13 09:27:15

Congrats mumtum!

Glad to hear the process has started, mrshp, and hope the appointment itself was useful for you and makes you feel you've got a path forward.

amicablemoomin Mon 25-Mar-13 09:09:03

Congrats mumtum!

Jollyb Mon 25-Mar-13 09:30:16

Onwards and upwards Mrs HP. Let's hope you don't get to do your second blood test smile)

How is everyone else - Beans are you feeling any brighter?

LCR77 Mon 25-Mar-13 11:44:12

Hi everyone hope you've all not been too snowed in at the weekend.

mumtum huge congrats on the safe arrival of baby Kyle
MrsHPyou must be relieved things are moving forwards and hopefully you'll get some answers soon
Pixie great you've wedding plans to distract just don't bury everything you're feeling. A great friend who's experienced miscarriages advised me after my ectopic to allow myself to grieve and be miserable for a bit. I know everyone's different but it helped me to know it was ok to feel the way I did. Lots of hand holding here for you and everyone else flowers

Had my 16 week appt Fri and all went well. Heard the heartbeat for the first time which was incredibly special and reassuring. Had to ask the midwife though. Did get some concerning news though as I discovered I'm a rhesus negative blood group which could potentially cause problems in future pregnancies if my baby is rhesus positive. After a little research discovered having had a previous miscarriage or ectopic pg can cause problems. A little worried - anyone got any experience of being rhesus negative?

Mon26 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:48:09

Hello ... it seems this is a happy thread,.. and I will try my best...

I have been told today that I am starting my 4th miscarriage in a row. Few days ago about 5 weeks and 4 days I stopped having symptoms.

I am a bit (a lot in fact) distressed, sad, trying to cope and I can only feel I have a "bad body" unable to procreate. My sisters and brother all have healthy babies! I even have a friend older than me (40) that she got pregnant on December and happily all is going well.

Why is it so difficult? what is the problem? Could stress play an important part?
One of the feelings I am trying to cope with is the fear of disappointing my husband (which logically I know he loves me and takes care of me) but also the feeling of emptyness, of not knowing what to do next, and the feeling of failing are taking a real toll on me.

So, you that are experienced, when does one starts trying after a miscarriage? can I go to the gym and swim right after the bleeding stops? How did you manage to keep a healthy mind and emotional balance?

Thank you!

squizita Mon 25-Mar-13 15:07:25

Hi- mind if I join this thread? Trying after 2 MCs in 6 months. Good news is, for a 34 year old, my eggs seem to give me BFPs (ha take that Daily Mail scare stories) ... sadly my insides failed me on the previous 2 at about 6-7 weeks. sad

Now trying again and could do with some moral support! smile

Mon26 Mon 25-Mar-13 15:28:23

Hi squizita... sorry to hear.
as you read i am on the same boat. have you had your cycle monitored? with the scan they found that i was ovulating well ( i too get pregnant with certain easyness) but apparently i had not enough progesterone... and with the miscarriage today doctor said I might need some more "research" on what could the problem be....

squizita Mon 25-Mar-13 15:35:54

As I'm only on the second MC, they have advised just trying again. If it happens again I know they will refer me to the famous centre (in Hammersmith & Paddington) as it's local. With me they were adament from the scan that everything looked 'normal' and was growing at the correct speed but sadly the embryo died. Hence they said try again then they will test.

squizita Mon 25-Mar-13 15:38:19

Sorry stoopid laptop cut me off. They can be so frustratingly slow at deciding what to do and testing can't they grrr... best of luck, I do hope they give you answers soon!

amicablemoomin Mon 25-Mar-13 17:29:24

Hi Mon26 and squizita. So sorry to hear of your losses. It is really the worst, most horrible time sad

In answer to your question about gym/swim mon26, I was told that could do gentle exercise at the gym as soon as I was ready and build up (but I was exhausted for about a month and could hardly lift the remote) and was told to avoid swimming for 6 weeks.

Hope that helps......thinking of you both.

BoyMeetsWorld Mon 25-Mar-13 18:34:51

Hi all,

Just posting in a mad panic, going to read through all your posts properly and get to know you in a min...

I had a MC in Dec & have literally just this minute found out I'm pg again. Absolutely terrified confused

We'd persuaded ourselves to wait to 'try' as ive been offered a fantastic job in 6 months' time. Which I guess is now out the window. But above all I'm petrified I'm not strong enough to go through this again.

I've been feeling really ill and exhausted, with awful tummy pains and a little spotting on fri. But no other symptoms it was only the missed AF that made me wonder.

Oh god, not sure I can do this - or my poor DH, he wants it so much - & this pain surely isn't a good sign confused

Massive hugs to you all, thanks for listening

BoyMeetsWorld Mon 25-Mar-13 18:41:20

Just read through..Mon and Squizita oh no, you poor - and incredibly strong! - things. That's my worst fear and suspicion of this pg. I get pg very easily too - do you reckon there could be any link?? Fx for you both & utmost admiration for keeping on trying

Dorita75 Mon 25-Mar-13 19:47:36

LCR I found out I had rhesus negative blood when I had the mc last year and the nurse gave me an injection after the ERPC. Didn't know what it meant and to honest, the doctor didn't help make it very clear. From what I understand, after much reading, is that it is okay in a first pregnancy but during the birth, when yours and the baby's blood come into contact (they can also come into contact during mc or if you have a serious fall when pregnant), if the baby is not rhesus negative, your body makes antibodies to protect your blood from what it sees as something harmful. So next time you get pregnant you already have the antibodies in your blood ready to attack. You need the injection to stop that happening. They usually give you another shot of the injection in the few weeks before the birth too. Do you know what your DH is? We've not found out yet, but if he's the same there's no problem as the baby will be rhesus negative too.

Congratulations boymeetsworld you are officially in metalling phase. No matter what you planned or the worry over being pg, you are pregnant today and all you can do is try to go with the flow..easy words, you can tell me to get lost if you want!!

Mon have you had any investigations so far? I've just had one mc which was bad enough, I cannot imagine how sad you must feel or answer those questions, I just hope that others can offer more support on here, and that you can get some help to look into things.

I'm sorry that you're also here squizita at 34 you have a lot going for you though and I'm glad you're so positive about trying again smile Here's lots of the requested moral support! flowers smileflowers

HJBeans Mon 25-Mar-13 22:41:53

Welcome Mon26 and squizita. So sorry you find yourself here, but hope you find as much comfort and support as I have on the thread. I may have recommended it to this thread before, but if you've not come across it, I'd really recommend the book 'Coming to Termiffy Jon Cohen if you want to know more about recurrent mc.

It's by a science journalist whose wife suffered multiple losses and I read it after my second when I was trying to understand what could be causing them. It's really useful in summarising what little is known and the huge amount that's not known about recurrent miscarriage and it also has some very hopeful, and truthful, stats about chances for successful pregnancy after many losses.

Wecome to you, too, BoyMeetsWorld, and congrats on your BFP. Understand the intensity of the fear when you know your pregnant again and hope the next few months go quickly and uneventfully for you. Do you have an EPU which will give extra scans, etc., because of your history?

I found myself wondering if getting pregnant quite easily could be a factor, too, as both my pregnancies ending in early miscarriage were conceived on the first or second month we tried. There was actually was something in the news about this last year (Google 'super-fertility' and 'miscarriage' to read about it), so this is an area of active research.

Glad you've gotten to hear the heartbeat, lcr77, and hope the rhesus news turns out to be not much of anything to worry about. Will keep fingers crossed. Can you get a midwife or someone to explain the ramifications to you a bit more?

And finally, thanks, jolly, feeling much better now. Think my body has worked out how to cope with the new huge bump and I've been sleeping and eating ok the last few days. Sleep makes a world of difference. smile

HJBeans Mon 25-Mar-13 22:42:42

Bloody iPad. The book is Coming to Term. blush

squizita Tue 26-Mar-13 09:46:10

Well that IS interesting HJBeans! I will deffo google it - talking of mega fertile erm... my AF is late today. But I do have a very short cycle since my MCs so I dunno if it's just gradually extending to a normal length a day at a time or something. Frustratingly, at day 11 after OV, too early to reliably test (yes I did, if anything was there too faint to see as pee tests only work about 4-6 days after).

Boymeetsworld - some spotting is OK, as is pain. I had back and stomach pain both times, but it was different from MC pain - and was a symptom of pregnancy. Sending you wishes!!

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 26-Mar-13 17:32:10

It is definitely interesting!

Hmmm this pain is diff to mc, but actually worse I think - more sudden sharp pains than constant cramps? Oh fearing the worst!

Best wishes to you all too x

Hello everyone, can i join you all on the voyage?
Dh has finally agreed to trying for a baby, baby no5!
Wasn't contemplating anymore babies, until i became pregnant by mistake on the contraceptive pill!
Although my pregnancy was an accident, i got used to the idea, as did dh but unfortunately i had a miscarriage sad. It really shocked me, and I'm still upset about it now, but i feel ready to try again so im looking to join this thread.
I have had one full cycle since my mc, so im safe to start trying as soon as smile.
Goodluck to all of us, sprinkling baby dust flowers

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 27-Mar-13 08:02:52

Morning pumpkin! & good luck, they do say we're super fertile after mc, and worked for me without really trying so fx for you!

Jollyb Wed 27-Mar-13 08:06:55

Hello to all the newcomers. Will reply properly later - having a bit of a hectic couple of days at work. Last day before Easter though - hurrah!

13loki Wed 27-Mar-13 08:16:38

Can I join in? I had a mc in Feb, and then started trying again once I got a BFN. Just got a BFG on Friday, and now not letting myself get excited or be happy about it. I do feel sick, but I think it's being stressed about it rather than actual morning sickness.

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 27-Mar-13 08:26:09

13loki tentative congrats! (same as me - I'm not accepting it until at least 12 weeks). Have you actually been sick or just getting nausea? That's all I have...wish I had some clear symptoms really & keep hearing morning sickness means less chance of mc - never been so eager to throw up!!

13loki Wed 27-Mar-13 08:47:15

Congratulations boymeetsWorld
I haven't been sick yet, just a little nausea. Which would be very welcome after the two horrific sicky pregnancies I had with DS and DD, if it wasn't for mc last month.

Ah, if only i could properly work out dates. I am really glad to have been able to get pg so quickly, but if I had a period in between then I'd find the dating thing easier confused . Oh, I live in Sweden, so I have to battle through midwife appointments in my broken swedish, everyone speaks english, but lots of the subtleties are lost. Dreading trying to explain it, over the phone, as I'll have to give them dates before I can get an appointment.

squizita Wed 27-Mar-13 09:36:37

Morning sickness means less chance? I guess it's a symptom of the baby growing and it affecting your body.

Still in complete limbo myself... 12 or 13 days after OV, no AF (I have a short cycle) but too early to accurately test - don't want to until Friday anyway. Psychologically if it's a very weak one which won't implant fully, I'd rather not get '1 week' on a digi test telling me 'yeah you were pregnant for a few days there'. :/ I'd rather get AF or a BFP pink line on an old school test.
I don't even know if I'm having any symptoms TBH as I don't want to lie to myself. Smells like fag smoke stronger etc' (or is that just shut windows with the cold?), tired and achy (again, cold and long days at work), bloated (something I ate)... I just don't know.

13loki, and boymeetsworld congrats and fingers crossed squita smile. I have just finished my first af since mc, so hope to have a bfp very soon and if not by the end of the year.

13loki Wed 27-Mar-13 12:03:08

Thanks pumpkin Good luck. I am really surprised it happened so quickly.

Good luck suizita

Redbird12 Wed 27-Mar-13 20:47:38

Hi to all the newcomers, congrats to those with BFP's and fingers crossed to those TTC.

Had results of my nuchal/blood tests today, Downs risk 1: 19,000 so low risk. Another 5 weeks until 20 week scan, already starting to get more anxious that something will go wrong and this time it will result in having to deliver a dead baby rather than 'just' an ERPC. I really need to relax and stop thinking about this but I feel like I have to prepare myself just in case.

Mon26 so sorry to hear you are going through a 4th miscarriage, that it is heartbreaking. Did you have any tests done after your 3rd? If not, you should push for these when you feel up to it to see if there is anything they can do? It's really hard to know when to stop trying. After 2 mc I knew I wanted to try again but couldn't do it straight away. I don't know how i would feel after a 3rd or 4th. I think you need to not make any decisions now but give yourself time to recover and see how you feel in 3 months or whatever is the right time frame for you.

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 27-Mar-13 21:53:22

Evening ladies - I'm here still lurking in the background - welcome to the new ladies and I'm sorry you find yourselves here but this is the best place to be for you right now - you will feel the love and support in the room as time goes on and plenty of hand holding.

Congratulations mumtum - wow I first met you when we mc'd early last year and now look a you smile xx

Great to hear some good results and scan stories smile

mrshp how are you doing?

jolly how was the holiday v jealous smile

Afm I have officially stopped bleeding and am now waiting for that bloody woman to arrive - the specialist said we were damn unlucky even at my age (nearly 43) to have suffered three mc's in the last 12 months and said the odds are in our favour for the next one smile a friend suggested IVF - how do you explain to a non-maternal person that I have no problem getting pg ....... It's just staying pg I have problems with???

Wedding plans are going great guns, dress picked and paid for - unfortunately the poor lady in the bridal shop had a bit of a shock when I said the wedding is July this year lol luckily it doesn't need too much alteration (unless we get lucky between now and then blush)

Love to you all and big hugs to those in need ;) enjoy your Easter break xx

MrsHeggulePoirot Wed 27-Mar-13 22:53:14

<waves> I am still here, end of term manic-ness. I shall catch up and post proper soon I promise.

Hello to new joiners, so sorry you are here, but a very big welcome to you.

squizita Thu 28-Mar-13 07:53:37

POAS this morning... got a BFP.

Husband happy... I am pooping myself (well I would if I wasn't constipated LOL). It terrified me as both times before ended badly so I just feel like this is waiting for the worst to happen. I thought I would be pleased but no just anxiety.

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 28-Mar-13 08:03:57

Yay tentative congrats squizita! Know exactly how you feel. When I got my BFP first thing I thought was "here we go again".

Congratulations Squizita thanks smile

HJBeans Thu 28-Mar-13 10:49:15

Congrats squizita, the first step is done. I felt exactly the same with my BFP after two mcs and tried very hard not to think of it as something that could end in a baby for the first few months. Now at 22 weeks, though, with a squirmy tummy and he seems very real to me. Fingers crossed your first trimester goes quickly and uneventfully. Do you have an EPU that can give you reassurance scans throughout?

Congrats on your screening results, redbird. Again, felt just the same I the gap before the 20 week scan. Thinking about all the worst outcomes because if I thought about them they at least couldn't surprise me. Felt pretty morbid and ended up breaking up the wait with a private gender scan at 16 weeks and the occaisional listen on a home Doppler. I ended up accepting the negative thoughts as a symptom of pregnancy after miscarriage and just doing whatever I could to mitigate the symptom. They do seem to be lessening since the 20 week scan was ok. Hope the wait goes quickly for you.

Good to hear from you pixie and really glad wedding planning is going well. Great to have something fantastic to look forward to while dealing with the aftermath of lousy luck. The odds really are in your favour and I hope they come up right for you very soon - even if it means some last minute dress altering! smile

Welcome to the newbies - we seem to be growing great guns recently! - and happy Easter weekend to all. Xx

squizita Thu 28-Mar-13 13:41:28

Thanks everyone. I have a Drs appt Tues (bank holiday) and they gave me an out of hours number. TBH I don't want a scan before the PUV stage is done and it looks like a little tadpole - otherwise I will only picture what I might lose! What I would love and will ask about is bloods. Not kidding you they can suck my forearm dry weekly if it means they tell me the hormones are going UP!

One reason I'm paranoid is, never having carried past 7 weeks - what does a 'normal' twinge/pain feel like? D'you know what I mean? Today I have had a few mild 'twinges' - like a gentle pinch- which could be anything from gas to implantation to the cyst growing... or is it something ominous. The toilet paper oracle has stayed white so far (touch wood).

MrsHeggulePoirot Thu 28-Mar-13 13:47:06

Right, have finally caught up!

Pixie - ooooohhh wedding plans sound like they are going well. Hope the weather improves for July. Take care of yourself and give yourself time for yourself to have a cry whenever you need.

LCR77 - good news on hearing the heartbeat, I still remember feeling that was even more amazing than seeing the scan pics with DD. I don't know about the blood thing, but from what Dorita said I hope that as they know, it makes it manageable if that makes sense.

Redbird glad to hear you are low risk, I have no experience of being in your position after a mc, but I felt like that with DD all the way through. Of course I am going to try to tell you to relax and enjoy it, but I know it is much easier said that done.

HJBeans - glad you are feeling better, and nice to hear your positivity now at 22 weeks! You are giving me hope!

Mon26 so sorry you are here, and I'm so sorry you have been through so much. I hope you get some answers soon, you don't always have to be positive here though, I'm certainly not at times! The support though has really helped me and I hope it will you too. PumpkinSweetie - welcome too,although of course sorry you find yourself here and good luck with the ttc.

Squizita, 13loki and BoyMeetsWorld - congrats on your bfps. Try not to metal too much!

Jollyb Thu 28-Mar-13 17:03:35

Wow I can't keep up with this thread.

mon and pumpkin sorry that you need to be posting on this thread and all the best with TTC. I've had 3 MCs in the past 18 months and know how difficult it can be to stay positive. I'm now 22 weeks pregnant - no cause for MCs found.

Congrats to the BFPers and sending you lots of strength for the 'roller coaster' weeks to come.

LCR and red bird - glad all going well for you. Fantastic news on your screening result Redbird.

beans I've grown a bump over the past week too! I'm much bigger than I was with my daughter at this stage - not sure there 's room for another 18 weeks of growth.

pixie good to hear from you and hope you're bearing up ok. We keep finding reasons to put off our wedding but think we'll bite the bullet and aim for Summer 2014.

mrs HP hope you're ok. Enjoy the egg related festivities with your DD (and maybe some egg related festivities of your own too)

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 28-Mar-13 18:26:24

Squizita - I know what you mean about 'what is normal pain'. I seem to be having a lot of pain, mainly on the left and constant quite sharp pain not cramps. Don't remember this at all with DS so bit worried, but twinges like you're having are pretty common I think

Jollyb Thu 28-Mar-13 18:40:04

Boy and Squiz - I had a lot of pain whilst pregnant with my DD. conversely I I didn't have any pain with any of my MCs.

However please get yourself checked out if your pain doesn't settle and stays localised to one side as it could be the sign of an ectopic.

Dorita75 Thu 28-Mar-13 19:23:05

Congratulations squizita Lots of action on this thread again!

I heard the heartbeat today, I am still surprised by each little milestone, don't expect the positive, wonder if that will change? I'll probably be in shock when a baby comes out in September!

Hello to everyone else, not had chance to read properly as sick and tired today. Will have proper read tomorrow but hope everyone's okay smile

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 28-Mar-13 19:56:10

Does anybody know what ectopic pain feels like? I'd always imagined it as so unbearable you couldn't ignore it or function normally?

Jollyb Thu 28-Mar-13 20:23:43

Oh goodness I hope I haven't panicked you.

I think in most cases the pain with an ectopic pregnancy is more than a niggle or a twinge and that symptoms tend to develop slightly later in pregnancy than you are. It might be worth posting this question on the ectopic pregnancy board.

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 28-Mar-13 20:50:12

Thank you smile don't worry, not panicking (too much! :p) just keeping open minded...

squizita Fri 29-Mar-13 09:35:30

I had a scan for one during my 1st MC as my cramps were one sided. I Got the impression it is agonising - more than passingclots or other symptoms - or so the medics said. Sometimes you hear of one with very little pain but usually it MCs before the cells got big enough to hurt. So in most cases (of this rare thing and it is rare) you would know and be like 'get me to A&E'.

BoyMeetsWorld Fri 29-Mar-13 09:42:30

Thanks squizita - that's what I was hoping. This pain is bad and feels very "different" to cramps which is what worries me but it's certainly not agonising. If its not getting better by next week though il go to the docs. Just don't want to turn up before I'm at a stage a scan would show anything or they can't really do much anyway...

squizita Fri 29-Mar-13 17:50:25

Yeah maybe a Dr appt is the best route. My pains are ignorable and come and go, but I'm knicker checking like mad! Also tiredness and nausea... No actual vomiting, I almost wish I would!

BoyMeetsWorld Fri 29-Mar-13 18:33:28

Haha knicker checking....has anybody else developed a sudden penchant for white knickers, just makes everything so much easier!

Dorita75 Fri 29-Mar-13 20:10:56

squizita I've had weeks and weeks of nausea and tiredness, hardly ever been sick tho, just some retching!

squizita Fri 29-Mar-13 21:21:17

Dorita - that's reassuring. I was scared I wasn't symptom-y enough!

GinAndSlimlinePlease Fri 29-Mar-13 21:46:49

Hi everyone, I've been lurking quietly for a little while grin

I'm now 6 weeks since mc confirmed. At a scan two weeks ago it looked like I just had/was about to ovulate. For the last week I've spotted, but no period pain, bloating etc.

What's normal after a mc? Is it worth me waiting out the weekend then testing? I never had regular cycles before.

It would be crazy to be pregnant straight after mc after two years of trying and with known fertility issues, right?

Dorita75 Sat 30-Mar-13 06:52:07

Sorry gin Have you tested at all yet? I mean, have you had a negative since mc to check hormones have returned to normal?

You say crazy, but it's not unknown, people do get pg straight away smile As for what's normal, it's called the 'wtf' cycle for just that reason, anything can happen! No harm in testing, just the emotional seesaw when you do/don't get the result you expect.....but we're used to emotional swinging aren't we!

Redbird12 Sat 30-Mar-13 08:55:18

Hi gin, I conceived again about 2.5 weeks after my 1st mc, in fact first time we dtd post op so it's definitely possible! As I had been told it could take a few weeks for my periods to return I didn't realise I was pregnant for a while until my boobs became so sore I could barely touch them. Apparently you are more fertile immediately after an mc. Unfortunately, in my case I went on to suffer another mmc but the doctor reassured me this was nothing to do with how quickly I had conceived again.
OTOH, your cycle could be messed up for a while post mc. I would suggest testing just to put your mind at rest 1 way or another.

Jollyb Sat 30-Mar-13 09:06:50

Gin - definitely possible to conceive that soon after MC. Good luck

Boy - hope you're ok and the aches and pains are settling. Knicker checking - arghh. I think they should produce dark loo paper especially for women post MC.

Have a good Easter weekend everyone grin

squizita Sat 30-Mar-13 09:19:24

Gin - as everyone said, yes' it is a possible!

Have a good easter weekend people! [Busmile]

Sending baby dust your way gin, and to us allsmile.Hope everyone has a wonderful Easter and has fun bunnymaking wink.

GinAndSlimlinePlease Sat 30-Mar-13 09:28:14

Thanks. I'm still spotting a bit of bright red blood. Keep thinking, oh, it's my period. Then it stops for the rest of the day angry

but, today I am really grumpy and stroppy, so AF probably is about to arrive properly!

I didn't realise it was called a wtf cycle! totally makes sense. my poor body has no clue what is going on grin

I'm about to have my house taken over by family, so I shall see the weekend out and then test if AF still hasn't arrived.

13loki Sat 30-Mar-13 09:30:17

Hi gin I had a mc at almost 7 weeks in late February, I got a BFP a week ago, so about 4 weeks after I stopped bleeding. Good luck.

GinAndSlimlinePlease Sat 30-Mar-13 09:30:53

dorita I didn't test. But I had a follow up scan after a week of no bleeding, and it was all good. so I'm assuming that any test would show up negative if I want pregnant.

But it does mean that if I do get a bfp, I won't really believe it grin

pebspop Sat 30-Mar-13 10:53:13

Hi ladies

Just had a nudge to update this thread wink

i am 39 weeks now and going to get induced if i don't go into labour by next weekend.

eeekkk!! can't believe i am so close to the end after everything i have been through in the last few years.

for those who don't know: i have had three mc's (12 weeks, 20 weeks and 8 weeks). for this pregnancy i have been taking aspirin and heparin injections everyday and it has worked. the baby measured correctly at every scan (and i have had a lot of scans!) instead of them keep saying i must have my dates wrong.

this is my first baby and i can't wait to put all the bad stuff behind me and meet my baby at last.

i haven't been updating the thread as i started to feel more confident once i could feel regular movements (at 24 weeks due to anterior placenta) and didn't feel like it was right to post when others are struggling. also i didn't feel like i needed the support or to be reminded about my mc's.

i feel like i have only been pregnant since 24 weeks so can't believe the baby is coming so soon. the first 24 weeks were just a blur of worry and hospital appointments!

hope everyone else is ok. i am going to have a look back through the thread and catch up a bit.

squizita Sat 30-Mar-13 15:24:13

Pebspop- thanks for this message. So glad things have gone well! I find it a great comfort (on my 3rd pregnancy, 1st 2 MCed) when I hear stories like yours and I am sure many others do too. Thanks.

MrsHeggulePoirot Sat 30-Mar-13 22:57:15

Pebspop! Hurrah, fantastic news I am so, so pleased for you. Do you know the gender? Ooohhhh I can't wait to hear if the arrival soon! Xxx

Dorita75 Sun 31-Mar-13 13:30:21

Can you believe it peps??? So exciting!

Dorita75 Sun 31-Mar-13 13:30:33

Or even pebs doh!

Jollyb Sun 31-Mar-13 14:24:42

So very glad to hear all going well Pebs. Best wishes for the birth and let us know when he arrives. X

lurcherlover Mon 01-Apr-13 14:13:02

Hi ladies. Pebs, great to hear from you - I have been wondering how you've been getting on. It's great to know you're so close to meeting your baby now!

Quick update from me - I'm in a similar situation, 38 weeks now and booked in for elcs next week. I won't relax until my baby is in my arms, but I'm getting excited now. I had a mmc in May last year and it was such a dark time. All being well, on the anniversary of my mmc my baby girl will be a month old, and I would never have been able to imagine that when it happened last year. Don't lose hope ladies xx

BoyMeetsWorld Mon 01-Apr-13 15:23:32

That's lovely lurcher, hope it all goes smoothly now for you.

How's everyone spending Easter Monday?

I just had a ridiculous craving for sweet and sour chicken balls. Of course, nowhere's open at 2.00 on a bank holiday. I nearly cried but lively DH drove everywhere looking and finally found a chippy...didn't get my chicken balls hmm but did get chips - maybe it was the vinegary taste I was craving!

Hope you're all doing well

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 11:09:29

Lurcher what a great ending to your journey, lovely to hear!

First GP visit today. Gonna ask for TLC and reassurance scans or their recommended private scanner if they can't. And about bloods. You dont ask, you don't get!

Jollyb Tue 02-Apr-13 17:22:03

Ah great to hear all ok Lurcher. I posted on your name thread before realising it was you!

Squizita - definitely good to ask for an early scan. The protocol seems to vary area by area but it can't hurt to try.

Boy- I'm still addicted to crisps. I thought my salt craving would have lessened by now but no!

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 18:55:47

Got a reassurance scan. They were v helpful.

Now having an utter freak out because of a tiny pink dot (like the smallest dot you can imagine which could be dust, part of the recycled TP etc') when I wiped. UTTER freak out. sad

MrsHeggulePoirot Tue 02-Apr-13 19:22:18

lurcher what lovely news! How exciting, can't wait to hear your good news about new arrival next week. I hope all goes well for you!

Squizita - DON'T PANIC! When is your reassurance scan. I would say to try and stay as calm as possibl, and not metal too much if you can. It is v hard I know to do and much easier for me to say, but try my lovely if you can.

Had my day 21 blood test this morning, am probably going to ring for the results later this week and see if they have them back (or get my dad to look them up next week as he is a consultant in the same trust!). I think actually having spent some time internet searching that the weight is the most important thing for me and so I have lost some but am really going to focus on that. Apparently losing 5% increases chances by 79% or something so that statistic (dont care if it is made up!) has inspired me - it will be good for me anyway to refind my motivation!!!

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 02-Apr-13 19:51:10

Aargh squizita those are the worst kind!!! I keep spending ages examining pieces of paper trying to analyse whether there are pinkish flecks in the paper. Might start buying coloured.

Def had some spotting after DTD with DH - despite being v v gentle. Apparently that's normal....I really hope so.

I'm sure you're fine - have you had any more?

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 20:44:41

Thanks MrsHeggulePoirot and Boymeetsworld... in sanity-world I've checked again and nowt, just normal mucus (see through/a bit white). But you know how it is. Have a 1st scan Friday morning then usually they make another for 12 weeks (or 8-10 if worried) sadly I never get to the second hence my superstitious fears!! blush I aught to be more confident though; my last 2 started with a mini-period I almost missed (but this one, none of that - zero period and I think more symptoms) and my second had a scare at 5 weeks which turned out fine when scanned... I had a MC 3 weeks later but the first lot of spotting they said was unrelated. Well, I hope the next few wipes show nothing too... hanging on till Friday. Thanks for your kind words, will try to keep the old chin up. smile

MrsHeggulePoirot Tue 02-Apr-13 21:27:09

I like the idea of differentiating between 'sanity-world' and 'metalling-world' grin

amicablemoomin Wed 03-Apr-13 12:09:16

good luck with the blood test mrshp, and the scan squizita. Hope everyone is doing ok!

LCR77 Thu 04-Apr-13 14:42:55

Just when you think it's all going so well....everything ok now but had a bit of a scare this week or rather threatened miscarriage as the doc put on my notes.

Last week had some spotting for first time in this pg, phoned midwife and she said to keep an eye on it. if any worse to call antenatal triage as I may need to have the anti-D injection due to being rhesus negative. Monday night had quite a significant bleed but not fresh red plus back pain so tried not to panic and called triage tues am. They told me to come in for an assessment as would prob need injection (they gave me a small dose in the end)

Doctor examined me and then got a midwife to examine me too. Neither could determine where the bleeding was coming from so decided to keep me in hospital for 24 hour observation just in case my closed womb started to open or if start of a mc. Needless to say I was pretty petrified plus on my own as my OH had to be at work. Weds morning after no more bleeding docs decided to do another scan to check everything ok. It was a great relief to see the little wriggler moving around, growing properly, nothing untoward at all so came home late yesterday afternoon.

Thought I'd stopped metalling but after a miscarriage I don't think you ever do. September seems a very long time away now...Much love to you all

Bloody hell LCR77 that sounds terrifying. I am so glad that all seems to be well though and there was lots of wriggling. It sounds like you stayed amazingly calm. Big hugs to you.

I got my progesterone results back - it was 26. I been told this is fine, eg that I ovulated, but looking on the internet there is a lot of conflicting information. Anyone know anything about it?

Dorita75 Thu 04-Apr-13 17:33:26

Blimey LCR what an awful thing to go through, so scary. You're right, you just don't relax even when you get the okay. I hope you can take it easy over the next few days.

MrsHP I, rather unhelpfully, can't remember what my result was, but the doc said it was normal and showed that I ovulated. I had the high FSH result which is what I spent my time metalling about instead. Though I had it done again and it as below average so who knows what it all means. Try not to worry too much about the results (easy to say) as if there is something to be investigated further they seem to repeat things and use more indepth tests. My high FSH got me the fertility appointment even though the second one was low. It sounds like you have nothing to worry about, and should IGNORE google!!!

squizita Thu 04-Apr-13 19:32:34

Oh LCR what a scare! Glad to hear all is well.

MrsHP ... I second what Dorita says. Ignore the Google and take comfort from the pros! :-)

I had a bit of a day. Today in my 1st pregnancy I MCed so I was having a mad day. Then my car broke down and my mobile broke! I was going spare and convinced myself the stress would make me MC! I was so scared.

Jollyb Fri 05-Apr-13 12:37:26

Good luck for scan today Squizita

Mrs HP - sorry I don't know much about progesterone levels.

LCR - hope you're feeling a bit brighter. With this pregnancy I had 2 bleeds at 6 and 10 weeks which were terrifying - so hard to think positive when you've MC in the past.

Happy weekend everyone

squizita Fri 05-Apr-13 12:45:41

Thanks JollyB. Unfortunately when I got to the EPU they told me I was so early they were 50% unlikely to see anything definite anyway which would generate a PUL and would have to do bloods. So they had a look and saw... something, a tiny 3mm blob which could be a sac or could be nowt! So my 'reassurance' scan turned out to be a 'PUL with 48 hr bloods' ... the only reassurance being that before they even scanned me they warned me that it was likely to happen regardless of history. But basically, GP got over excited and booked me to early, had they just asked to do my bloods I wouldn't be freaking out about the 'PUL' think (which they HAVE to put when they don't know it's a sac) and thinking my bad back is ectopic shoulder pain and wind is one sided pain etc'. No bleeding, feel pregnant (gas, nausea a bit and puffy/bruised feeling boobage) so we will just have to see.

Squiz how annoying! How many weeks are you again? When have they asked you to go back... at least something was there and it isn't in your head on the positive thinking front ?!?

squizita Fri 05-Apr-13 14:48:14

They think that I conceived later than I thought due to post MC 'cycles' and I'm around 'only just' 5 weeks. Got a call from EPU and they said today's bloods were normal for early pregnancy so... so far so good.

Can't stop imagining shoulder pain now!! :/

Jollyb Fri 05-Apr-13 14:55:56

Squiz how annoying but your blood results and the fact that they saw something is very encouraging. Fingers crossed here x

LCR77 Fri 05-Apr-13 16:33:49

Thanks everyone for your words of support - really does help. Will def be taking it easy next few days. Seeing a friend tomorrow who's loaning me loads of maternity clothes. Only have a few bits so far so will def be feeling more comfortable! grin

Try to take the positives that they've detected something plus your good bloods squizita I had an early scan at bang on 6 weeks (yes my MW also bit of an eager beaver!) due to suspected previous ectopic would have preferred it at 7. They did detect sac and fetal pole, however, my dates moved forward at 12 week scan so was actually 6+3 when they scanned. So if it was mega early at 5 weeks good they've seen something.

MrsHP sorry also no idea about the progesterone results. Still keeping fingers and toes crossed for you!

BoyMeetsWorld Fri 05-Apr-13 17:27:46

Oh squizita how nerve wracking. But at least something - however vague - is more hopeful that nothing? This is why I'm burying my head in the sand & not even contacting docs if I can help it until 8 weeks...couldn't stand the uncertainty before. So for now, other than watching what I eat & putting up with throwing up / awful bloating treating it like I'm not pg ;s

When's your next appt?

Dorita75 Fri 05-Apr-13 21:33:56

squizita that is very early, but bloods and blob very good signs along with your other symptoms!!

squizita Fri 05-Apr-13 21:45:02

Yeah just so panicky. Just paranoid about everything (/latest... After a pizza I felt sick, and had to go for a poo soon after, sorry TMI, which was a bit soft ... Argh it's not wind and morning sickness its lysteria ... ERM no, my belly often does this after oily food hormones can only make it worse).

Dorita75 Wed 10-Apr-13 19:18:54

How's everybody doing? squizita how are you?

Alright thanks dorita how are you? Just waiting for AF - I have the ore period headache and got a bfn this morning so know she is on her way! Then icannhave the next tests done...

Dorita75 Thu 11-Apr-13 07:00:55

I'm ok thanks Mrshp Bloody AF, if it gets you tests that's good. What has doc said?

Nothing much yet - I'm waiting to do the other eats and then to ring up about all if them. My dad works at the hosp and so looked up my first old test results for me...

I am tarting to lose the weight again though so hopefully that will make the difference.

Dorita75 Fri 12-Apr-13 07:50:26

You should hear soon then? Don't know if it helped but I started yoga and zumba to get fitter, and stopped drinking alcohol, tho that was mainly for migraines which made it easier when tempted, but felt I was doing all I could. Are you still using ovulation sticks? Sorry if TMI but apparently female orgasm also help swoosh the sperm up,we made sure we did things that way round (blush) and that month I got pregnant. Who knows if any of this helps, it's a mystery. X

I definitely need to lose weight so that will help. AF arrived yesterday so going to do theses tests today. Thanks Dorita, for all the infor very helpful!!!

lurcherlover Mon 15-Apr-13 14:39:27

Hi all, just a quick update to say that Phoebe was born last Thursday. We're doing really well and DS loves his little sister. It's exactly 11 months since I found out at the 12-week scan that I'd had a mmc, and now my little baby is here. Last May I could never have imagined this moment. Lots of love to you ladies, this thread got me through that time and the early weeks of my next pregnancy - I hope you all have your own babies in your arms or on the way very soon xx

LCR77 Mon 15-Apr-13 17:22:16

aw lurcher that is such wonderful news. You must be thrilled to bits. Nearly got quite emotional reading this sat at my desk.

Enjoy your much cherished baby girl. Hopefully the rest of us who have experienced the same losses as you will be not far behind with our babies in our arms. Xxx

Jollyb Mon 15-Apr-13 18:23:07

Ah Lurcher many, many congratulations. Phoebe is a beautiful name.

Just realised my due date for my last miscarriage would have been yesterday. Fortunately my 25 week bump is kicking as I type, which takes away much of the sadness.

How is everyone else?

Redbird12 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:12:04

Congrats lurcher, wonderful news.

Just got off a 13 hour flight this morning (work trip) and now have massively swollen ankles so taking it easy today.

Now 18 weeks so another 2 weeks to go before next scan. Getting more worried as date gets closer in case they find anything wrong, not wanting to take anything for granted before then. I think we will find out the gender, anything to make me feel a bit more in control and make it seem real (although expanding belly and massive fat ankles are making it quite real at the moment!)

Hope everyone else is ok?

tasmaniandevilchaser Tue 16-Apr-13 16:33:53

Congrats lurcher, lovely news! And congrats to mumtum! Pebs hope we have good news from you soon.

Hi to everyone and hope that those looking for bfps get them soon and everyone waiting for scans gets happy news.

It's been a long time since I was on here, this pg has been a bit of a rollercoaster, after a mmc and an ectopic close together it wasn't exactly a barrel of laughs the first 12 wks! Then at 13 wks I got pneumonia so the first 20 wks were a bit of a crazy time. But 37 wks now with a huge bump and feeling reasonably calm. Will update when baby arrives, though I see lots if new people who won't know me, maybe it'll give you all some hope.

Dorita75 Tue 16-Apr-13 19:30:16

25 weeks jollyb how did that creep up??!! Doesn't seem that long ago when you announced your BFP!!! How are you feeling?

Congrats to you and your family Lurcher it's true, when you think back to certain dates it's amazing, something you couldn't imagine at the time.

AFM, sickness stopped, just slightly nauseous if I leave it too long between eating. Had some headaches too, hormonal I think. But all good really and scan on Friday (I'll be 19 weeks)

Hope everyone is doing okay x

Jollyb Tue 16-Apr-13 21:26:12

Likewise Dorita - can't believe you're 19 weeks already!

I'm fine. Feeling pretty well at the moment. The calm before the storm.

pebspop Wed 17-Apr-13 18:43:58

hi ladies

its the post I have been waiting three years for - I am sitting in my living room with a lovely baby boy in the Moses basket!

I started ttc in may 2010 and three mcs later I finally got my baby. I took aspirin and heparin in my last pg and it worked like magic.

hope everyone is ok. glad to hear your news lurcher.

tasmaniandevilchaser Wed 17-Apr-13 19:18:03

ah pebs!! So so delighted for you, what wonderful news! I bet he's worth waiting for. Enjoy every moment, hope you are resting up now. Take care x

lurcherlover Wed 17-Apr-13 20:11:52

Fantastic news pebs! So so very happy for you. Enjoy every moment xx

Dorita75 Wed 17-Apr-13 20:15:35

Brilliant news pebs, you enjoy every moment!

Jollyb Thu 18-Apr-13 04:11:40

Ah fantastic news Pebs. So happy for you x

HJBeans Thu 18-Apr-13 08:05:26

Congrats to lurcher and pebs! Enjoy your lovely babies.

All nominally well here at 25 weeks. Away to pre-baby holiday in Spain on Saturday. Beginning to think about actually having a baby rather than being pregnant. Eeek!

Hope all are well.

Congratulations Lurcher - Pheobe is a beautiful name!

Congratulations pebs - I could feel the emotion in your post and I am so happy for you!

Good luck for your scan on Friday Dorita.

Had all our tests done, every fine/good so that was quite good. Also had appt at hosp with my diabetic team who were really positive and said had I been coming to them saying I was about to start ttc#1 they would be saying I was in a really good position healthwise. I could lose a bit of weight and was nearly a stone lighter than I am now last year when I got pregnant and had mc so that is my next aim. If nothing doing in 6 months then and I've lost the weight I'll go back and they will see what they can do to help us.

Decided not to use the monitor this month, DH away next week which would be the time so having a break!

Dorita75 Thu 18-Apr-13 19:07:37

That's brilliant news mrshp nice to know all's clear. Just before I got pregnant I went to see an acupuncturist about fertility treatment, never got to do it though I did have one session which was more for migraines. Don't know if you're into that stuff but it was my next step after getting the all clear from test results!!

Jollyb Fri 19-Apr-13 08:14:37

Beans - good to hear from you. A pre baby break in the sun sounds fab.

Mrs HP glad your bloods were ok and the diabetic team positive about your chances. I think losing weight can only be a good thing. I was 1.5 stones heavier when I started TTC this one than I was with DD,and apart from being a little older this seemed to be the only difference. I'm convinced this may have had something to do with my MCs. Hopefully the weather will stay a bit brighter now - winter doesn't really encourage healthy eating and exercise.

Good luck Dorita xx

Sorry beans I missed your post yesterday - glad all is well. Have a fab holiday!

buzzybeetop Fri 19-Apr-13 14:37:43

Great news Pebs and Lurcher. You've been through so much to get to this point, enjoy every minute.

Glad all tests came back OK Mrs HP everybody has their fingers and toes crossed that you'll have some good news soon. Keep having lots of sex, then you're killing 2 birds with one stone, exercise and hopefully conception. Then if you're anything like me stop entirely once you're pregnant, poor dh it's feast then famine in our house!

Good luck today Dorita, are you finding out what colour? Mine's next Friday. I'm getting a few little kicks now but looking forward to getting scan done and hopefully being able to relax a little bit.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Dorita75 Fri 19-Apr-13 19:02:29

Hi buzzybee scan went really well, we didn't find out the colour, I want a surprise after the birth! Was amazing to see everything.

had a radiographer and a student, we recognised the radiographer as she works for a private company part time as well as the hospital. It was her who we went to for an early private scan last year, and who discovered our missed miscarriage. Can't believe we're here a year later!

buzzybeetop Fri 19-Apr-13 19:05:56

Great news dorita!

Jollyb Fri 19-Apr-13 20:16:47

Yay for Dorita.

Buzzybee - your comment about the feast and famine made me chuckle. My DP is definitely facing a famine at the moment. I just don't fancy getting down to it.

Dorita75 Fri 19-Apr-13 21:23:26

Famine in our house too! I didn't feel like it for ages with the sickness and DP can't touch my tummy for fear of doing some harm! Would like to stop the famine soon, sure we will.......

LCR77 Thu 25-Apr-13 12:09:50

Had a really good 20 week scan today - such a relief!! Got a little confused as to what part of the anatomy I was looking at sometimes, glad the sonographer knows what they're doing!!

Surprisingly been told it's a girl, as I've been convinced all along I'm having a boy - there go my maternal instincts!

Got to have another scan at 32 weeks though as my placenta's is lying a little low and at the front.

So reassuring to hear 'baby's growing beautifully' as I've been so worried.
How's everyone doing? It's been a little quiet on this thread lately.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow buzzy and pleased to hear yours went well dorita

Dorita75 Thu 25-Apr-13 19:51:16

Pleased to hear your's went well to LCR and same as me, low lying placenta so another scan at 32 weeks....

I echo what you've said, how's everyone doing? x

buzzybeetop Sat 27-Apr-13 12:48:07

Hi all, good news about your scan LCR. All good with mine too, although sonographer was so grumpy it was only afterwards looking at my notes that she'd ticked everything that it sunk in it was actually ok! She did say there was some sort of cyst in the placenta but said as long as it didn't grow it's ok but hasn't made any further plans to scan me. I'll ask midwife at next appointment. Had her before for ds and liked her. I think she was just in a bad mood!

Hope everyone else ok

Redbird12 Mon 29-Apr-13 20:32:40

Good news on scans dorita, LCR & buzzy.

We have our 20 week scan on Friday so very nervous but also excited to find out the gender (all being ok).

I have been feeling well and finally started feeling the baby move the last few days so that has been a relief.

We will actually start thinking about what we need to buy if all is well at the scan. Been putting it off, just in case but now trying to focus on being positive and not stress too much in the lead up to the scan.

How is everyone else doing?

Hurrah for all the good scans - how exciting!

No joy here, DH away last week which would have been the right time this month. I have however lost about 4 lbs so that is a good start. I have also however applied for, been interviewed and appointed for a new job last week so that is quite exciting and something different to focus on!

buzzybeetop Mon 29-Apr-13 21:33:57

Great news Mrs HP. Good to have something else to focus on. I took on a new position at work in November and it was really good for me to get stuck into something new and not just wait to get pregnant. Seemed to help as I got pregnant the next month!

Good luck with the scan Redbird. Looking forward to hearing what colour it is! I'm starting to feel some proper little prods and pokes now which is lovely.

Dorita75 Wed 01-May-13 19:01:49

Double whammy of good news there Mrshp well done on both!

No prods or pokes here. I did have some bubbles last Tuesday and maybe on Sunday but not sure - am trying not to worry too much, it's probably because of the low laying placenta, can apparently affect whether you feel movements or not...

Redbird12 Wed 01-May-13 19:33:53

Hi, just a quick question from me to the ladies who have recently had their 20 week scans. Do I need a full bladder or not for this one?
We made the appt at the 12 week scan and have not heard anything from the hospital since so I wasn't sure.

Jollyb Wed 01-May-13 20:48:25

Hello everyone - nearly lost you all there.

In answer to the bladder filling question - I don't think it makes a huge difference at the 20 week scan. I wasn't given any specific instructions. I'd ask at the reception desk on arrival and you'll probably have time to 'fill or empty' as needed.

Good to hear of some more healthy scan results. Well done on the job Mrs HP.

Nearly 28 weeks now eek.

Dorita75 Wed 01-May-13 21:33:51

My letter didn't mention it but I drank a bottle of water, turned out it's not so important this time, as jolly says. The scan nurse said the same so I wouldn't drink too much. Good luck!

DaisyFlower123 Thu 02-May-13 14:06:06

Hi All,
I was part of one of the earlier threads but have since NC and wanted to come back to check in on how others were progressing. Glad to see the happy stories (Jollyb I followed your story and so happy you are doing well!) and sorry for the difficult times some of you are having.
After my 3 consecutive miscarriages last year I am now 36 weeks pregnant and all seems to be well, though I still have my anxious days.
Do feel sad when the anniversaries of each due date have past, last one was only last week (we fell pregnant again straight away) but sort of feel that now those dates are out the way we can focus on DC2s arrival. I think the MCs have definitely knocked both mine and DHs confidence, where as with DC1 we were fully prepared months before arrival, most of things we have brought etc are still packed up as we seem to keep waiting to make sure this will actually happen! I have images of packing maternity bag, putting up crib, etc, etc whilst in full blown labour at this rate!! Anyway just wanted to pop in, wave hello and say how much support I got from this thread especially whilst going through everything last year! smile

Hurrah Daisyflower fantastic news, congrats!

Redbird12 Fri 03-May-13 10:04:28

Hi all, great to hear your good news story daisy after such difficult times. I know what you mean about waiting to get anything just in case, we have done nothing up to now but pleased to report that we had our 20 week scan this morning and all went well. The sonographer was lovely and explained everything in detail to us and baby was wriggling around with all measurements as they should be. And we found out it is a boy! So now we can start thinking about names and finally start buying some baby things.

Lovely sunny day today and feeling very happy!

So glad your scan went well redbird - a lovely little boy to look forward to!

HJBeans Fri 03-May-13 14:39:59

Congrats redbird, on your little boy - what wonderful news.

Welcome back, daisy, and congrats on your pregnancy.

I'm at nearly 28 weeks and we, too, have done very little to prepare. Very much of the 'buying things will jinx it' mindset, regardless of how silly that looks written out. Luckily, friends are giving loads of things so have some basics in unassembled state...

buzzybeetop Fri 03-May-13 14:59:31

HJ I was like that when pregnant with ds and hadn't had any miscarriages at that point. I bought hardly anything before I was on maternity leave! I just couldn't believe I was really going to have a baby!

Congrats Redbird glad you had a good scan. Boys are great! I'm convinced I'm having another one partly because I think the sonographer let it slip accidentally! I got an appointment for another scan through yesterday which made me panic a bit. After much confusion when I rang antenatal they eventually found the sonographer that had scanned me and she remembered she'd booked me in for an extra one for reassurance due to my previous miscarriages and because there is still a bleed outside the sac. Glad to be so well looked after but not very reassuring when she didn't bother telling me!

Dorita don't worry about movements. It is true what they say about feeling them much earlier with second baby. I didn't feel them until really late with ds. Also think it's probably the position of your placenta.

Glad all going well Daisy.

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 03-May-13 18:29:39

Evening ladies ..... Hi mrshp I'm still hanging in there with you - AF came and went this week [bitch] though her visits seem to be getting shorter ( only 2 days this month) so back to counting the days. Pretty much think its the end of the line for us sad 3 consec mc's and I'm 43 soon!

Wedding preparations are kicking in but am still having my weepy moments - lets hope the cheery weather stays to brighten the mood!

Have a fab long weekend all xx

Jollyb Fri 03-May-13 20:25:02

Evening all

Daisyflower think I've worked out who you are. . . . Glad everything is going ok for you too. Hope number 2 makes a swift and drama free arrival.

redbird many, many congrats on your scan.

pixie it's ok feel weepy. We're all here to listen. We're pretty good at wedding advice toogrin. Ps there is a lady in my antenatal Pilates group who is 45 and 6 months pregnant after several miscarriages so fingers crossed all will work out for you.

beans I bought a babygro in the sales a few days ago but then told my sister off when she brought round 2 bags of newborn clothes for me.

Have a good weekend everyone

Dorita75 Sun 05-May-13 06:45:50

Love the stories daisy beans redbird etc I truly believe what I read at the time of my mc, that it is common and even more so to go on and have a normal pregnancy. Before Christmas my friend told me about a 38yr old in her work who'd had one and was then pregnant, now that's me. Didn't think it would be then. hp and pixie you're doing everything you can and we're all here rooting for you smile and other ladies on here too x

Jollyb Mon 13-May-13 20:38:16

All ok everyone?

oo00PIXIE00oo Mon 13-May-13 20:43:56

Is everyone ok? I never seen this page so quiet? x

Dorita75 Mon 13-May-13 21:28:33

I'm on the Sept thread so using that for my baby related discussions, so not on here as much. I keep en eye on it to see how everyone's doing and if anyone has any mc questions etc...

Hope everyone is okay smile

Jollyb Tue 14-May-13 08:40:48

Dorita - I still haven't joined an antenatal thread. Too superstitious!

LCR77 Tue 14-May-13 10:11:50

Ditto - been wondering where everyone has gone. Like dorita also on the Sept antenatal thread but keep checking in here. Jollyb give an antenatal thread a go, lots of useful info and advice.

I'd like to think that the quietness means everyone is ok but that anyone struggling should know everyone's here to listen if needs be.

I'm still a bit shocked I'm 23 weeks now - not really any movement yet from her and keep thinking something may still go wrong...Until she's in my arms I don't that feeling is going to stop.

HJBeans Tue 14-May-13 19:49:08

I'm still here, but not much to report outside of getting bigger and all going well as far as anyone can tell. Have also not joined an antenatal thread - far too superstitious and feels too late to hop on board for July.

Irrational dread far less bothersome now that he's moving around loads, but still thinking more about rare late pregnancy / birth complications than I think I would have done without the mcs. Can't imagine how awful it would be to lose him now, so try not to think this way at all - but find it does keep me from feeling comfortable with usual antenatal excitement.

How's everyone else?

Hello you lot! I am focusing on my job at the mo, still checking in, but trying not to obsess any more... hmmm..... we shall see!

I am so excited about all your babies, please do feel free to post on here if you ever want to, it gives me hope!

Redbird12 Thu 16-May-13 21:40:40

Hi All

I am doing ok, like jolly and beans been too paranoid to join an antenatal thread though have looked at Sept thread occasionally, if it's not too late, may join you on it dorita and lcr.

Lcr totally know what you mean about movement, I am 22 weeks and havent felt much at all which sometimes still makes me think this isn't real and actually happening. But the 20 week scan showed the placenta was low and at the front so assume it is cushioning me from much movement.

Hi as well to pixie and mrshp, hope job and wedding stuff is going ok and you're not stressing too much about TTC.

Off to Centerparcs tomorrow with some friends, weather doesn't look great but looking forward to a mother to be massage and some relaxing.

Dorita75 Thu 16-May-13 22:21:19

Glad everyone seems to be doing ok. redbird I've got the low laying placenta too. Another scan at 32wks, you too?

Off to Wales for my sis-in-law to be's hen party tomorrow. Can't wait, really lovely group of girls and Eurovision!

Jollyb Fri 17-May-13 08:13:23

Have fun on your weekends away girls. We're off to Bournemouth to visit friends. Last time we saw them it was a week after my last MC so this should be a happier experience.

I had an anterior placenta with my daughter - wasn't convinced about movements til 24 weeks , so don't fret too much.

Can't believe I'm nearly 30 weeks. Seem to have hit a bit of a wall over the past few days - can't get comfy at all. At least I've only got 9 weeks til my section - I went to 42 weeks with DD and it felt like forever.

Pixie and Mrs HP - hope everything's ok. Maybe a wedding night baby is on the cards for you Pixie!

HJBeans Fri 17-May-13 08:39:40

Hear you about hitting a wall, jolly. Having not got this far before, I never know what to expect and was surprised and a bit dismayed at massive growth spurt the last few weeks and ever increasing exhaustion and discomfort with 2.5 months to go!

My friend who is several weeks ahead of me says she's feeling much better than she did last month - so keeping fingers crossed. Have a very heavy travel load for work coming up in June but just want to take to bed -with all the pillows in the house- until the baby arrives..

Jollyb Fri 17-May-13 22:18:48

My friend who's 39 weeks said exactly the same thing Beans. I feel like there's just been a huge spurt and my insides need to stretch to get used to this massive lump sitting there.

Jollyb Tue 28-May-13 17:41:01

Any news?

Mrs HP and pixie how are you both doing?

tasmaniandevilchaser Tue 28-May-13 19:56:55

Hi everyone, I was on this thread last year after a mmc and ectopic pg, i also dipped in and out in this pg when I was off work with pneumonia. If anyone remembers me, i just wanted to let you know that mini tas was born last week, 12 days late- he almost shot out in the corridor outside the delivery room after a lovely calm labour, in contrast with most of the pg which was not all that calm! Thanks to everyone who listened to me moan and fret. I was in a very dark place after the ectopic pg and I never thought I would get pg again, let alone have a baby. Hope this gives you hope if you are ttc or having a rough pg .

tasmaniandevilchaser Tue 28-May-13 19:58:54

Sorry not to name check everyone but I have lost track of who is around, but congrats to all those pg and hope the rest of you are lucky soon, need to get off MN now and eat cake!

tasmainian. CONGRATULATIONS! Thanks for sharing, it is always lovely to hear good news and have hope!

jolly nothing much doing here, I am trying to lose a bit of weight before taking things further with conception support, and trying to pretend I don't care a bit!!! At the start of one of my looooooooong 2ww's!

HJBeans Wed 29-May-13 07:20:49

Aw, wonderful news, tas - so many congratulations and thanks for sharing the good news here. smile

No news to speak of here - all still seems as it should be at 31 weeks and this weekend we've planned to Buy Some Things. All getting to seem very real...

Good luck on your 2 weeks, mrsHP, and hope everyone else is well.

Jollyb Wed 29-May-13 15:16:55

Many Congratulations Tas - I remember you well from my early days on this thread.

31 weeks here - feeling more comfortable I think she may have dropped. Beginning to buy some bits and pieces too. Only 4 more weeks of work hurrah. . . .

Mrs HP - keep up the good workwink

Dorita75 Wed 29-May-13 16:37:58

I remember you Tas, congratulations!! You did it!!

Good luck Mrshp x

Enjoy shopping jolly and beans...

I'm 25wks this wkend and feeling kicks now, things are so different from a year ago smile

tasmaniandevilchaser Thu 30-May-13 14:15:29

hi jolly, hj and dorita, so pleased to "see" you all with growing bumps, I remember you getting your BFPs, I'm very excited for you all. Mrs HP hope you get your BFP soon, good luck with this 2ww

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 13-Jun-13 21:00:22

Where is everyone?!? I have never seen this thread sooooo quiet!

No news on my front we have been purposefully missing the 'best' days over the last couple of months as the wedding is in six weeks. After my last three pgs ending in MC or MMCs between 6/12 weeks we didn't think the stress of the wedding would help sad we will defo be 'jumping back n the saddle' as soon as possible blush

Hope everyone is ok jolly mrshp??- though I have been absent - the happy stories do make me sad at times - thats very selfish of me I know - I do still like keeping up to date with everyone!

Hope to read all your updates soon xx

Jollyb Fri 14-Jun-13 19:14:47

Cooeeee pixie I'm still here. You must be very excited about your wedding. I've been engaged for nearly 4 years!!

Totally normal to feel sad/angry about others' pregnancies. I still get a stab of jealousy when I hear of friends' straightforward pregnancies (though I suppose there's always the chance that they may have had problems too ).

34 weeks tomorrow. Stopping work at end of next week - feel a bit of a fraud as feeling pretty good.

Really can't believe that I might end up with another baby this time

oo00PIXIE00oo Sun 16-Jun-13 13:32:31

34 weeks?!? Where has the time gone smile well done x

Anyone else out there lol x

LCR77 Mon 17-Jun-13 12:59:44

Hello ladies

Good to see a little activity on here. Have been wondering how people are getting along.

Very belated congratulations tas you must be so happy your baby has finally arrived.

pixie bet you're excited about the wedding. How long now? Maybe having a little break from TTC will do the trick. Fingers crossed for a honeymoon conception!

Feeling mixed emotions at the moment as I start my third trimester today. 28 weeks where has the time gone??!! But in 3 weeks it would have been my original due date from my miscarriage in November, as it would have been for my sister who was due the same week but had a MMC. Had the sad news at the weekend she has now suffered a second mc - this time a chemical mc. My heart breaks for her and I can't help feeling guilty and worrying about how she feels about my pregnancy. Anyone got any advice or info on chemical miscarriages?

Much love to you all x

Jollyb Mon 17-Jun-13 17:59:14

Hi LCR glad you're doing well. Welcome to the third trimester.

So sorry to hear about your sister. My first MC was a chemical pregnancy ie positive test, started bleeding a few days later and then by the time I was seen in the EPU my test was negative. I think I dealt with it by not thinking if it as a 'real' miscarriage. ' It was only a few cells that hadn't even implanted' 'if I hadn't tested so early I'd never have known' etc. I assumed that everything would be fine next time. it was only when I went on to have a further 2 MC's that the significance of my chemical pregnancy increased, and I suspect your sister having had a previous MC won't be minimising it either.

If she is a facts and figures type of person she may want to hear that with even after 2 MCs , the chances of her going on to have a successful pregnancy are still very high- about the same as someone pregnant for the first time.

It may be that the only thing you can say is 'I'm sorry'.

Jollyb Mon 17-Jun-13 18:09:12

Sorry posted too soon. As for your pregnancy I think the best thing you can do is just acknowledge her feelings. Don't avoid the subject. Don't say 'it will be your turn next' (unless you're going to back up this comment with the stats mentioned in previous paragraph)

Several of my close friends got pregnant and had babies whilst I was struggling with my MCs and some of them were far easier to be around than others. The good ones that asked how I was and took and interest in my TTC 'journey ' , the bad ones either avoided me or completely ignored the subject.

My sister behaved quite insensitively in that as soon as I had had my 12 week scan she brought all my DD1's newborn clothing back round to our house. She just didn't grasp that I might still be anxious about the baby surviving.

Anyhow enough rambling from me.

HJBeans Tue 18-Jun-13 07:54:49

Hello - I'm still here too and 34 weeks today. Amazingly still having some degree of metalling. Thought I'd passed it as it's been a while, but have been really anxious the last several days. Think, like you jolly, that I really can't believe this will end in our having a baby. Am getting to the point where I'm quite uncomfortable and really looking forward to the pregnancy being over so I can meet him and know he's alright.

Happy third trimester, lcr, and happy wedding prep, pixie. Exciting times!

LCR77 Tue 18-Jun-13 11:06:04

Thanks jolly for the words of advice, especially the stats I think my sister will find that reassuring. She's quite pragmatic this time around and especially after the first time finding out at 12 wk scan. She said she just felt a little embarrassed because they'd told our parents and had done so many tests. I think she's just a little concerned because of her age (38) and they won't be entitled to free IVF if there are any underlying problems because her partner already has a child.

Wow beans not long to go for you at all. Understand the continued metalling especially as have had little movement due to low lying anterior placenta - have been convinced something is wrong. Fortunately this also means have another scan at 32 wks which means I get to see if she's ok.I don't think the metalling goes away - just hope people seek reassurance from threads like these and to get support from mw no matter how trivial the concern.

Dorita75 Tue 18-Jun-13 19:53:50

Exciting wedding planning pixie!

I've started metalling now, have been fine after getting past landmarks like the 20 week scan but suddenly at 27 weeks, am worrying about the downs risk which came back 1:770

I'm sorry about your sister LCR I don't have any words of wisdom I'm afraid so just sending hugs.

Redbird12 Wed 19-Jun-13 20:43:50

Hi all, sorry lost the thread and couldn't remember if it was in pregnancy, miscarriage or conception but finally found it again!

All ok with me, 27 weeks and baby now a lot more active. This is making me feel a bit more relaxed that everything ok but I don't think worry goes away entirely. We are now finally buying stuff for the baby and occasionally I do still think 'what if something goes wrong' but mostly am more excited and nervous about how our lives are about to change!

Just had Gestational Diabetes test this morning so crossing fingers all ok (family history of diabetes). Anyone else had this?

DH and I are off to Turkey on Sat for a week for our last adult only holiday so looking forward to relaxing. Then only 6 weeks left at work when I get back.

Jollyb Mon 15-Jul-13 16:35:29

All ok? Hope everyone's surviving the heat.

38+2 here . . Section booked for Friday eeeek!

Beans did you go for the ECV or are you having a section too?

pizzaqueen Mon 15-Jul-13 20:24:21

can I join on this thread? I just got my bfn at the weekend after starting to mc 5 weeks ago. I am so glad it is over.

Can't wait to get back to ttc but not the waiting around for ov and af and the worry that will come with another pg. I just cant go through another mc.

today was my first day back at work too and it doesn't help my boss is 7 months pg.

Jollyb Tue 16-Jul-13 09:08:20

Hi Pizza queen - welcome to the thread though sorry you have reason to be here. I must admit the thread has been a little quiet of late - which you could look on as a good thing!

Take it easy. I still felt very raw 5 weeks post MC. Getting my BFN came with mixed emotions.

This is a good place to vent and provide support when you get your BFP - which WILL happen.

Hope your return to work isn't too stressful x

Polka2 Tue 16-Jul-13 09:26:55

Hi ladies - have been dipping in and out of this thread of late and humungous congrats to LCR, Beans, Dorita and Red....not too long now and I hope the heat isn't causing you too much hassle!

Welcome to Pizza so sorry that you find yourself on this thread too.

I had my 3rd mc about a month ago, completely devasted as thought the magic Cyclogest would do the trick this time. I am now booked in to see Raj Rai at St Mary's tomorrow so I'm really hoping they will be able to give us some hope as DH is losing the will on this and I'm losing my patience with him - weird, our first 2 mc's seemed to bring us closer together this one has made us both very angry with each other - I'm hoping it'll pass...

Jollyb Tue 16-Jul-13 15:50:40

Oh Polka I remember you from earlier threads. So sorry to hear about your recent MC. How many weeks were you?

I hope your appointment with Dr Raj goes well.

If any consolation number 4 was my lucky number (assuming everything goes well later this week). Apart from taking 75mg aspirin for the first 6 weeks I didn't do anything differently this time.

Polka2 Tue 16-Jul-13 19:29:50

Hi Jolly - congrats that's great news and nice to hear some positive news!

I was 6 wks but taking aspirin and cyclogest so thought it would work it's magic, lets see what tomorrow brings and VERY good luck for your scan wink

pizzaqueen Wed 17-Jul-13 12:23:11

Talk to me about periods after mc...i got my BFN on Friday after MCing, i had bled for about 4 weeks althogether stopped last week.

Monday night afte dtd i bled a little bit, bled a little last night and a little today. Just pink spotting though. Is this a period? Tail end of mc? Or something else? I'm so confused. It doesn't feel like a period as it's so on/off and mine are usually pretty heavy...

Jollyb Thu 18-Jul-13 08:07:02

No sure pizza queen. It's probably a little too soon after your BFN for it to be a period - though if you hadn't tested for a while beforehand it could be. It's not called the WTF cycle for nothing!

Keep an eye on the bleeding and if you get any pain or discharge see someone to rule out an infection.

Jollyb Fri 19-Jul-13 16:07:07

She's here! Emily Frances born today by elective section. All fine. Can't believe it

buzzybeetop Fri 19-Jul-13 21:58:29

Congratulations Jolly. Hope you enjoy every minute with your long awaited second little girl x

LCR77 Wed 24-Jul-13 11:22:37

Massive congrats jolly that's wonderful news. Bet you're still in a little bubble of happiness.

Hi to pizza and polka hope you're both feeling ok after your recent mcs. pizza the bleeding is most likely tail end of your mc - your body can take a while to get back to 'normal', I remember bleeding for quite a long time afterwards. If you're still experiencing some bleeding/spotting I'd agree with jolly, go to the docs.

Hope third trimesters are going well for beans, dorita and red

pixie and MrsHP hope you're doing ok - been thinking about you and wondering how you're getting on....

pizzaqueen Wed 24-Jul-13 16:20:10

Thanks LCR I had forgotten I'd posted here I think it was definitely my period as got a lot heavier for a few days and is just tailing off now.

at least that means I can ttc again smile

no idea when I will ov though.

oo00PIXIE00oo Sun 04-Aug-13 23:10:26

Congratulations jollyb xx

Redbird12 Sat 10-Aug-13 21:15:16

Sorry I've not been on here for a while. Finished work yesterday, 35 weeks on Mon so hoping to have a bit more time now to catch up and get myself sorted.

pizza and polka sorry you find yourselves here, hope you are getting some support and starting to recover from your recent m/c's. After 2 MMC's last year with no real explanation, I was quite despondent and even for the first few months of this pg, couldn't relax but finally starting to believe it is happening this time!

Jolly many congrats on the birth of your little girl, so glad to hear that everything went well. Lovely name as well, we were considering Emily for a girl but after we found out it was a boy at 20 week scan decided on George and believe it or not, with Alexander as a middle name. So was gutted when I heard the royal baby name as didn't want everyone to think we had just copied them. We did have a 2nd choice first name but someone else in the family has just used it so we're a bit stuck now, DH thinks we should just stick with our original choice and not worry about the royal connection. May wait to see what he looks like before making final decision.

Good to hear from you lcr, hope you, beans & dorita are ok and have managed through the recent warm weather. I have just struggled with swollen feet and not finding any shoes to fit me! Starting to get more tired now as well so glad to be finally finished at work. Midwife thinks baby is breech so have a scan in about 10 days to check and see if he has moved yet, I know there is still time but he hasn't moved in the last few weeks.

Anyway, hope everyone is ok this weekend, when is wedding pixie? Agree that taking a break from TTC can be good for you anyway just to relax and enjoy the wedding and give yourself a break from the stress of the 2ww every month.

Jollyb Tue 13-Aug-13 09:42:56

Hope you're enjoying your mat leave Redbird. I had 4 weeks before Emily arrived and the time whizzed by. Then again I can't believe she's nearly 4 weeks already.

Hope everyone else is ok. Pixie - it must be your wedding v soon - best of luck.

Jollyb Tue 13-Aug-13 09:44:04

Ps Redbird - think it's fine to use George and even George Alexander. In a short while the Royal baby will be old news

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 21-Aug-13 22:37:49

Hi ladies - I'm back and newly married. Had a honeymoon of sun, relaxation and plenty of unprotected ....... Unfortunately AF arrived shortly after we got back sad back to the drawing board! Anyone heard from MrsHP?

Jollyb Thu 22-Aug-13 19:42:52

Congratulations pixie (or do I need to call you something else now?!) - though sorry to hear about pesky AF. Haven't heard from the lovely Mrs HP in a while. Saw on another thread that baby Beans has arrived safely.

Good luck for TTC and wishing you a long and happy marriage x

Polka2 Fri 23-Aug-13 15:24:04

Hey ladies - can I venture back onto this board please?! wink

It's so lovely to hear the news of those graduating with a real live bambino in their arms.... Red its not long now at all, very very good luck.

Jolly hope Motherhood is treating you well and you're managing to get some sleep in between gazing at your lovely new bundle!

Pixie congrats on becoming a Mrs and glad you had lots of fun on honeymoon!

My appointments with Raj Rai at St Mary's went well and thank goodness we went as I have a clotting problem that means it would be unlikely that I could carry a pg naturally, so if/when I find myself pg again I need to inject heparin until I'm 24 weeks. Weirdly glad they found something rather than the normal 'its just bad luck' scenario, so fingers x that a BFP arrives soon!

Jollyb Sat 24-Aug-13 10:19:53

Hi Polka good to hear from you. can understand how it must be a relief to find a possible reason for your MCs . Really hope you get some good news soon.

Emily is growing fast. 5 weeks now - still can't believe she's here. Rewind a year and I had just had MC number 3.

Congratulations jolly!

Waves at everyone else, I lost the today for ages, And have just found it today.... As I got a bfp this morning! AF was due today, and I had a spare test so did it. Obvs early, early days and I am terrified and excited and have just started anew job, but there you go!!!

How is everyone else...?

LCR77 Tue 03-Sep-13 12:53:25

mrshp that's amazing news, just let out a squeal of delight for you. Of course it's also understandably terrifying too in the early days. Handholding still on offer here.

Congrats on now being a mrs pixie hope you had an incredible day and honeymoon. Keep the faith your time will come x

I'm now 39+1 and can't quite believe it still. The worry is still there that something will go wrong even now. Just want my baby safe in my arms.

Much love to you all

Polka2 Tue 03-Sep-13 13:15:30

MrsHP thats amazing news - whoopdidiwhoop but obvs hand-holding and hugs too for the "fear"!

LCR you're so close now just enjoy the last few days of pg and brace yourself for the overwhelming happiness you will feel when you have your bambino in your arms. wink

Jollyb Tue 03-Sep-13 21:13:45

Yay congrats Mrs HP so pleased for you.

Good luck LCR - you're so close now x

Polka2 Wed 04-Sep-13 09:26:03

OMG OMG OMG.............I have a feint line, I'm 3 days late, I have a feint line, I'm in a major panic and can't get hold of my docs to get the Heparin.......I can't believe it as it usually takes us FOREVER to get a BFP...........yey but fear!! confused

Jollyb Wed 04-Sep-13 13:08:43

Wow Polka. My faint line is grunting in her bouncy chair. Fingers crossed xx

Hurrah polka! Hopefully we can be upduffed buddies!!!

Polka2 Wed 04-Sep-13 20:55:48

Thanks ladies, reeling from shock and the fear has kicked in well and truly!

AllBoxedUp Wed 04-Sep-13 21:40:49

Hello. I'm looking for somewhere safe to hide and hopefully this is the place. I'm 3 days late and getting faint positives on cheapy pregnancy tests. This is after a mmc in February/March and 5 cycles of trying again. We already have DS who will be 3 next month.
I'm feeling almost in denial about it. I really thought I would feel happier but I just feel terrified if I think about it. I was really excited in January when I found out I was pg but it feels completely different this time. I'm convinced at the moment that it will be a chemical pregnancy - I'm a bit worried that the line was so faint when I tested yesterday and have ran out of strips blush. Will have to buy a real test tomorrow. I do have a short cycle though so it will be 28 days since my last period tomorrow.
Anyway, hope you don't mind me gatecrashing. I was posting a little on the last TTC#2 and turning into a nutjob but only for about a week so hello to anyone who is (unfortunately) on both - I wasn't sure about coming back on and saying this as I wasn't a "regular" but figured this thread was for (hopefully) pg ladies as well. I have been on holiday and very busy for the last couple of weeks and not thinking about TTC for about the first time this year so maybe that helped!
Congratulations to all the newly pg ladies on here as well - let's hope they all stick.

buzzybeetop Fri 06-Sep-13 19:16:00

Wow this thread's suddenly seeing some action again. I've not been on myself much recently but was on a bit more last year when I had 2 mcs one at 8 weeks and one at 12 weeks. I'm now 39 weeks and feeling very thankful but also rather like LCR, still won't believe everything's ok until I see the baby.

Just wanted to say such great news to Mrs HP and Polka. It's been a very long wait for both of you. Also AllBoxedUp welcome and congratulations. I'm keeping everything crossed for all of you. It really helped me to have a 9 week scan so I didn't have so long to wait. I had to pay privately but it was well worth it. My GP advised me to not think ahead of my next scan until I got to 20 weeks and that really helped me. Good luck!

Polka2 Wed 11-Sep-13 14:04:36

Thanks Buzzy you must be really itching to have your bambino in your arms!

Jolly your message about your feint line in its bouncy chair really made me smile and realise it can happen!

MrsHP how are you getting on?

Boxedup welcome and congrats!

I'm injecting Heparine daily and don't seem to be bruising too badly (yet) and I have my 1st scan (6wks6) next Friday so I'm holding my breath (not literally) until then - VERY very sore boobs is the only sign at the mo, although DH did say this morning he thought I had a bump - I crossly told him that was too much chocolate and to shut up!! blush

Redbird12 Wed 11-Sep-13 16:43:17

Congrats on all the BFP's, so lovely to have lots of positive news on this thread and happy to hand hold through those first early scans.

This time last year, i was wondering if i would ever get another BFP and even then, if it would ever lead to a successful pregnancy after 2 MMC's, including losing twins the 2nd time.

Like buzzy, lcr and i think dorita as well, am now just waiting for baby's arrival currently 39+2. A bit of the fear still remains until baby is safely here but it certainly got a lot better after the 20 week scan and once i started feeling him move regularly.

Looking forward to the updates!

I am ok thanks, a bit worried as had awful site breasts which seems to have got a bit better recently which makes me feel like perhaps things are not progressing again. I should get a scan soon though so will at least know one way or the other!

So glad everyone is doing well with their bumps!!!

LCR77 Thu 12-Sep-13 09:46:30

Lovely news on all the bfps ladies. boxed the only mantra that helped me when I was so anxious in the early days is to remember that today you're pregnant. Will keep popping in to check how you're all doing.

Also lovely to know so many of us about to graduate redbird buzzy and dorita. This thread helped me so much after my ectopic pg last year and throughout those early scary days after my bfp. really hope those of you in the same position now find the same solace and support I did x

Polka2 Mon 16-Sep-13 14:49:08

Red I remember your tough times well (same sort of thing/time as mine) that has come round so quickly, you're so close now!

MrsHP my boobs are outrageously sore too and this morning was the first morning I felt a bit pukey, been feeling stupidly tired too, I think though that you can be so desperate to feel symptons you (me) can imagine them here or away depending on your fatalistic state of mind! Fingers crossed you get your scan soon!

Jollyb Tue 17-Sep-13 19:23:29

Excited to hear about the BFPs and imminent arrivals. Polka and Mrs HP the early days are so tough aren't they. Fingers crossed for you both x

Dorita75 Tue 17-Sep-13 21:06:02

Hi all, it's good to see the thread has kickstarted again, I have been lax in checking it but it's fabulous to see so much good news.

As jollyb says, my faint line is also here, lying on my chest as we speak. She was born a year & a week after the due date I had for my mc last year.

Fingers crossed to those waiting for their BFPs xx

Polka good luck on Friday, I have mine booked for next Wednesday. In all honesty though, I think it is all over. All my symptoms have completely gone, breasts feel normal again, my slight sickness in the afternoons has gone, I just aren't feeling it like I did the first time when it was OK. I know I won't know for definitely until next week, but sort of feel resigned to the result!

Polka2 Wed 18-Sep-13 08:52:40

Oh I'm so sorry MrsHP although you never do know so don't give up hope completely. Have you done another test at all? cake brew doesn't really cover it but hugs.

Redbird12 Wed 18-Sep-13 16:50:29

Congrats dorita on your little girl, i am 40+2 now and still waiting....

polka and mrshp thinking of you for your scans, dont give up hope yet mrshp, was convinced it was all over before the 1st scan at 6 weeks this time, i was in absolute shock when the consultant we saw immediately found a heartbeat! Thinking of you both x

polka good luck for today x

Polka2 Fri 20-Sep-13 10:50:59

Phew just come out and they found a strong heartbeat! Yey yey yippee!

Managed to wangle another scan for 9 weeks too for reassurance so really pleasedgrin

Brilliant - that is fab news Polka! So pleased for you xxx

Jollyb Mon 23-Sep-13 14:45:31

Brilliant news Polka. Now fingers crossed for you Mrs Hp

Redbird12 Mon 23-Sep-13 19:59:41

Baby George Edward was born on Sat and is now sleeping on my lap. Labour started quickly and i was in hospital within a couple of hours but then he got stuck due to his size and positioning so was eventually delivered by c-section, weighing 9lbs 14oz!

He is doing well and i am just recovering from the op but we got home today and i feel so blessed and relieved with my baby's safe arrival, after the events of last year.

So glad to hear that your scan went well polka and i have my fingers crossed for you mrshp.

Jollyb Mon 23-Sep-13 20:07:28

Many congrats Redbird - a lovely name. Hope you enjoy your cuddles and that you recover quickly. X

Congratulations redbird!! What a lovely name, enjoy all the lovely cuddles, it is so nice to hear good news from anyone, but especially those I feel I've been on a long journey with if that makes sense!!!

Polka2 Tue 24-Sep-13 14:43:04

Red huge congratulations, what lovely news of another graduate - gives us all hope. Enjoy every second of it and hope you get home to your home comforts very soon.

Well had my scan today and three was an embryo and a heartbeat all measuring exactly the right size!!!! Can't believe it - 8 weeks tomorrow. polka we can metal and be excited together!!!! Thanks for all your wishes btw, it is lovely to report good news,

Dorita75 Thu 26-Sep-13 07:11:49

MASSIVE HUGE BIG FAT CONGRATULATIONS to Redbird, Polka and MrsHP!!!!! So excited for you all! Xxxx

Polka2 Thu 26-Sep-13 11:04:55

Wooflippinghoooo MrsHP such great news and lets absolutely metal together - I had a metalling moment in the shower this morning where my boobs didn't seem as outrageously sore as they had been doing and I thought for 5 mins (whilst showering) I didn't feel that sick, so was "sure" it was all over............5 mins later and all morning I've been feeling sick as a dawg! Metal away!

Jollyb Thu 26-Sep-13 14:34:53

Yayyyyy! So pleased for you Mrs HP. X

Redbird12 Thu 26-Sep-13 23:29:34

Congrats Mrs HP, so happy for you and glad that you and polka can share your journeys together.

Hope everyone else is well, so nice to see so much good news coming out of this thread.

LCR77 Fri 27-Sep-13 08:28:55

Oh polka and mrshp that's fantastic news! So over the moon for you, almost burst into tears reading this. Get your metal on girls!

Also delighted to be the bearer of more happy news.

Iris Antonia was born Sunday 15th September, 8.55am weighing 7lb 2oz at 40+6. I was induced due to gestational diabetes and ended up with emergency c section. Recovery going well but more importantly she is snuggled up sleeping on my chest. She has tons of hair, completely adorable and am totally besotted with her.

Congratulations too redbird and dorita we've come a long way since our bfps Xxx

Polka2 Fri 27-Sep-13 09:35:40

LCR what great news and so glad you're recovering well (emergency csection sounds all a little scary!). Iris is a great name too - congratulations!

LCR congratulations on the birth of Iris, what a beautiful name!

Dorita75 Mon 30-Sep-13 07:29:41

Oh congratulations LCR!! I agree, all this good news is amazing when you think back to how we all were a year or so ago. Yayy us, our babies and BFPs!! Xx

Jollyb Mon 30-Sep-13 18:51:56

Many, many congrats LCR. I too love the name Iris (slightly biased as it is my lovely niece's name).

Redbird12 Wed 09-Oct-13 11:40:35

Congrats LCR, beautiful name as well. Hope everyone else is well with new babies, pregnancies or TTC. Baby George is keeping me busy but enjoying plenty of cuddles.

Enjoy the cuddles with George Red!

I had another reassurance scan on Weds at 9+5 and all was well, measuring exactly 9+5, heartbeat, wriggly bean - hurrah! Being a maths teachers, knowing that means a 99.4% chance or it being OK now has made me feel a lot better!!!!!

How is everyone else doing?

Dorita75 Sat 12-Oct-13 08:42:07

That's brilliant MrsHP! Gotta love those stats!

All good here, Eleanor only woke once for a 30min feed from 10:30-6am so feeling great today!

Our friends made us some bunting for her that had referenced to things we like (Everton, Iron Maiden & Slayer for him) cycling for me and also for my love of detectives, felt images of Inspector Morse and Poirot! With quotes on the reverse so for Poirot it's Rush home for Poirot' taking in my love of Miranda too! Thought you would appreciate it, I'll try and post a pic!

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Jollyb Sat 12-Oct-13 09:05:49

So happy for you Mrs HP. I'm not leaving this thread until baby HP arrives safe and sound.

Glad Eleanor and George are both doing well. Emily was 12 weeks yesterday.

I can't believe it but I am actually beginning to think that it would be nice to have another baby. Not sure I could face another MC or first trimester though . . .

AllBoxedUp Tue 15-Oct-13 10:33:33

Hello all. I posted a few weeks ago when I found out I was pregnant and I think since then I've almost been in denial that it's happening. I just went for my booking in appointment and was in floods of tears within minutes of sitting down. I am so stressed and the booking in appointment brought everything back (that's when I was referred to the EPU for my scan in February).
I was going to come on here to ask what people thought of going for private scans. I am 10 weeks today and don't think I can bear to wait any longer without knowing. I have been feeling that my pregnancy symptoms aren't that strong and have been convincing myself things are no longer progressing. I've been really encouraged reading the latest posts though and want to send massive congrats to MrsHP. Hopefully the scan date won't take too long to come though. Congratulations to all the new mums as well for getting through to the other side!

Jollyb Tue 15-Oct-13 14:46:21

Hi Allboxed . Sorry to hear you're so stressed - the first trimester can be hell.

I think many of us on the thread have had private scans as the wait til 12 weeks felt too long. I think it's a completely reasonable thing to do in our position. The argument against is that if you're going to MC there is nothing you can do. I'd counter that with saying that if I was going to MC I'd rather know - for examples one of my MCs was a blighted ovum ie an empty sac. This was diagnosed at 8 weeks - I hadn't had any bleeding and so I could have easily gone through another 4 weeks thinking all was ok.

Having said this you must remember that the odds are still well and truly in your favour, particularly as you haven't had any bleeding and the chances are that there will be a healthy little bean on your scan.

Am not sure that was much help!

Redbird12 Thu 17-Oct-13 13:56:27

Hi Allboxed, i agree that it's worth paying out for a private scan for the reassurance. I also found they spent more time with me and it was a nicer experience generally.
If anything had gone wrong, i thought i would rather know sooner than later, every additional week of thinking you are pregnant and planning for a baby makes it harder if you find out it's not happening.
Getting to 10 weeks is a good sign though as jolly says, the odds are in your favour so try not to stress too much (though i know how hard this is, even after 12 week scan it wasn't long till i was stressing until 20 week scan!)
Let us know how you get on.

Hi Allboxed. It is hard isn't it - my hospital do reassurance scans in those circumstances so it might be worth asking if yours do them? Have you got your date for your 12 week one now? Is it long away?

Polka2 Thu 17-Oct-13 14:00:57

allboxed was your mw anyhelp about referring you sooner? My mw and dr have been great and have said (as have EPU) that I can call and come in for a scan anytime due to my history (1mmc and 2mc) and I'm 10wk5 and have had 3 scans so far and have felt alot calmer/less completely terrified about it all. If they can't help I'd definately recommend a private scan. Very good luck.

AllBoxedUp Fri 18-Oct-13 12:43:50

Thanks for the replies and sorry for taking so long to reply. I got my NHS scan appointment yesterday and it was for 3 weeks today (which will be over 13 weeks if you take my short cycle into account). I had tried phoning the EPU and they said unless I had pain or bleeding I couldn't get a scan.
So, in the end I have booked a private scan for a week on Sunday. I know there is still a chance things can go wrong but I just want to check. Thanks for the support. Having a crazy week as I had an 2nd interview for an internal promotion in a different team and I found out today I have got it (if I can negotiate on hours). I feel really guilty about the pregnancy and feel I'm being dishonest but I really want the job and things may not work out anyway. Hope everyone else is ok.

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 18-Oct-13 18:38:35

Hi ladies I'm still here lurking in the background but must admit am finding it more and more difficult dealing with all your good news and I'm mortified that I should be so mean and jealous - sorry sad

AF is due tomorrow and I don't think she will be late .......

Congratulations MrsHP and Polka ... And to all the new babies x

Can everyone please start nagging more on this thread so I can start a new one ;)

Have a great weekend x

pixie don't apologise, I know too well that horrible, horrible feeling of being pleased but insanely jealous and teary and sad at the same time. I think I must be completely natural and there is no way to control it. I had tbh given up to some extent, got a new job, got rid of everything baby related from our house and it just happened eventually, it took over 2.5 years in the end and for me it was the weight I think that was the real difference. I shall keep talking so you can start the new thread obvs... I will keep everything crossed for you xxx

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 25-Oct-13 18:37:26

Hi mrshp thanks for the kind words, unfortunately AF arrived on schedule sad and I think I'm out of chances am 43 now and have had 3 mc's in the last 18 months the third one back in May since then nothing .....

Will probably have to wait to become a granny now (DH has 2 DDs from a previous 15&18 and I have 1 DD from a previous 10). I asked DH what he wanted for Christmas today and unfortunately he said a son sad oh well it's half term and the 10 year old is of to her G/parents that gives us a week though I'm sure I'm going to stop trying soon - have a great weekend all xx

So sorry pixie, big hugs to

AllBoxedUp Sun 27-Oct-13 19:36:48

Hope this isn't an insensitive post but I had a private scan today and I am 12 weeks pregnant. pixie I really hope things work out for you and I can really understand how you are feeling. Since I had my mc my heart has sank when people have told me their news about pregnancies and I had gone through a lot less than you. I am definitely going to handle telling people this differently compared to how I did with DS (no scan pics on facebook anyway). Thanks for the support on here - sorry I haven't been on here more but it was great to have a place to post and get everything out. I will now go and lurk on other bits of Mumsnet.

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 15-Nov-13 17:49:12

Can I whisper very quietly...... I'm two days late [hmmm]

justhayley Fri 15-Nov-13 23:25:02

can I join?

I had a MC in September and have started TTC again this month.
Will be POAS on November 22nd, (mine & DPs anniversary) am almost petrified of getting a BFP, for fear of another MC, so thought I'd hide out here.

My cycles are completely irregular & DP is military only coming home at weekends so TTC is HARD!
He had 3 weeks leave in August which we were determined to get a BFP. He'l have the same over Christmas so if I'm not pregnant now I better be inJanuary.

I have 1 DS aged 19 months (today). Thats it really please hold my hand for the next week.


oo00PIXIE00oo Mon 18-Nov-13 16:36:47

Hi Hayley welcome to the thread and am sorry you have found yourself here fingers crossed for you on the 22nd - I have given in to temptation and will be poas this evening I'm 5 days late and sick with nerves.

Have had 2 mc and 1 mmcs in the last 18 months this seems to be a lucky thread for the ladies on here so I will hold your hand if you hold mine

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 19-Nov-13 21:52:54

Hello is there anybody there confused I just got a bfp and have no one to share it with and hold my hand for the fourth time lucky .........

NutcrackerFairy Wed 20-Nov-13 07:48:21

PIXIE congratulations!

I have also been lurking on this thread.

Had MMC in September, TTC and AF just arrived this morning so feeling a bit low.

I am 40 and feel that time is running out... but still hoping...

I have all my fingers crossed for you and hope you have a lovely healthy baby in 9 months time!!!!


oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 20-Nov-13 18:20:32

Hi fairy don't give up yet ....... I'm 43 x

jass43 Wed 20-Nov-13 18:29:13

i am not of this thread (too scary mc history to come here), but pixie you felt lonely so congrats here on your bfp and yes, it can very well be 4th time lucky! At our age, 3mc can easily be still bad egg problem and nothing more, so everything crossed you got that golden egg now!

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 20-Nov-13 19:58:13

Thanks jass smile

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 00:06:34

Thanks for the welcome and CONGRATULATIONS pixie grin hope this baby is the one you get to cuddle. You must be so excited/nervous/petrified!
Hope your doing ok keep us updated xxx

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:15

Pixie yay!!!!!!!!

Welcome Hayley too.

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:50

Good luck for tomorrow

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 23:55:48

So today I found out my friend is pregnant with twins, & my very best friend is currently in labour - not effecting me at all obviously been insanely jealous & in a bad mood totally excited all daysmile.
Testing in the morning & am crazy nervous

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 21-Nov-13 23:56:45

Thanks jolly fingers crossed for tomorrow hayley

Hessy Sun 24-Nov-13 15:52:20

Just to say hello. My mmc was in October. I was desperate to conceive before my first AF after mc as I couldn't bear the finality of knowing I definitely wasn't pregnant anymore (stupid as the mc was horrific and clearly there was no doubt).

That's all. Just saying

justhayley Mon 25-Nov-13 22:32:01

smilesmilesmile hi all just wanted to update you - I got a BFP on Friday. So happy but feel as though I can't get excited yet. I'm so frightened of having another MC. Really want to enjoy my pregnancy even at this early stage but finding it harder than I thought I would. By LMP I'm 6 weeks today although by conception date I'm more likely 5+2/3.
When I had my MC GP said the nx time I conceive I should get an early scan at 6 weeks. Called straight away on Friday and can't get an appointment until December 5th which seems forever away.

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:42:51

Hi hessy welcome and I'm sorry you have found yourself here sad unfortunately on here we have all been in the same boat so you are in great company x

hayley I have been checking in waiting to hear from you smile smile today you ARE pregnant!!

AFM I'm 5+2 and worrying everyday. After my first mc I have had an early reassurance scan for the last 2 pgs but both have ended badly - DH and I have decided to let nature take its course. I haven't managed to get past 10 weeks so will contact the GP once I get (fx) past that point shock I know I must be mad but I don't think I can go through through the dildo cam again and be told 'I'm sorry your pregnancy is not progressing' am I utterly crazy?

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:59:14

Oh forgot to say my EDD is my first wedding anniversary smile hope it's a good sign

hazchem Mon 02-Dec-13 00:51:52

Can I join in here please?

I had a D&C on the 20th of November. Dr has said to wait for 2 periods but OH and I decided to start TTC straight away. I feel a bit mad about doing that but am hoping it will help give me some perspective to stop punishing my body by over eating!

I've got one DS and fell pregnant quickly both times. I guess I'm nervous this time because I think I'll find those first few week really anxious.

When would I test if I had a D&C should I just add 28 days? Which is pretty much my cycle.

justhayley Tue 03-Dec-13 21:33:29

Ooo pixie that will have to be my daily mantra Today I AM pregnant smile
Got more news since last post, I went for an early scan & 2sacs were visible! Twin 2 wasn't as developed as twin 1 so there is a chance that I will MC one, however It could also equally develop & be fine. FX! I have to wait a week (it's already been a week) and get another scan to see if there are 0,1, or hopefully 2 heartbeats!
Iv been freaking out a bit, I'm so scared of loosing 1. This sounds odd but if I have twins it's as though my MC was meant to be as I was supposed to be having 2 next year. Don't want to go through another loss. The wait is literally driving me insane!

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Thu 05-Dec-13 18:40:15

hi can I join? ive had 2 mmc's and have recently been diagnosed with fibroids. got a follow up with gp soon and hoping it is treatable and I can start ttc again.

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Wed 11-Dec-13 17:18:24

hmm have I killed this thread?

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 11-Dec-13 21:46:50

Sorry witches welcome I'm sorry you find yourself here - I too was hoping to see more on here as I'm really shit at giving advice blush hazchem how are you getting on?

hayley two babies OMG fingers crossed for you smile

Afm we gave in and had a reassurance scan this morning and we have a heatbeat smile smile smile we haven't got this far before

Mabelandrose Thu 12-Dec-13 19:42:34

Can I join please. I'm pregnant again, straight after mmc in September. I don't want to tempt fate by contacting a midwife for a while. I think I will see how things go. It's so early. I feel silly even saying I'm pregnant out loud.

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 14:49:13

Hello ladies, I'm new to this thread. Congrats to everyone just finding out they're pregnant! Fingers crossed for your twins hayley

I am definitely not ready to start ttc yet - MC at 5 weeks a week ago. But I have some questions for those of you who are about what happens... I didn't go to hospital, only saw a triage nurse when the bleeding started and afterwards - everything happened very very quickly so I knew the little bean was gone.

But when you are pregnant after a miscarriage, will they give you an early scan? If not, can you pay for one? Can you book in early with the midwife so you've got someone to phone? The thought of being pregnant again is quite scary, I think I'd need some extra hand holding but since this was my first pregnancy and I didn't get to the stage of seeing a midwife, I'd like to know what to expect. Thank you! xx

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 13-Dec-13 20:41:04

Hi ladies sorry you find yourself here and as much as you try not to worry it will never go away sad

mabel one day at a time .... Today you are pregnant x

ruth I had my first mc at 6 weeks - light bleeding that got progressively worse on a Wednesday - I was booked for a scan at the local EPU on the Friday - by that time I had lost all the baby, the scan confirmed this. I fell pg with my 2nd mc I called the EPU and was booked in for a 6 week scan straightaway (luckily my local EPU offers early reassurance scans that you can self refer to) my third was an mmc again picked up at an early scan - each time I have had no midwife involvement.

Four weeks ago I got another bfp and have been worried about going for a scan as they always give me bad news sad but this time there was a heartbeat and she confirmed 8+2 smile I was told I will have another dating scan at 12 wks but if I feel anxious I can give them a call at any time and go in for another scan - unfortunately other ladies on here will tell you they are not so lucky but most places will give you a private scan.

Hope that helps smile

ruth1104 Fri 13-Dec-13 23:34:45

Thanks pixie and fingers crossed for you!! Hopefully everything works out for you this time. How much does a scan cost if you are paying for it privately?

Redbird12 Tue 17-Dec-13 21:52:38

Sorry i havent been on here much recently, 12 week old DS now keeping me busy fsmile

Pixie so happy to hear your news, many congratulations and keeping everything crossed for you. Getting past 8 weeks is a really good sign.
Also congrats to hayley and mabel, fingers crossed for you as well. I lost twins last year so hoping you have a better outcome hayley, mine were identical and sharing a sac i believe which makes them high risk as one cant survive without the other. You mentioned that yours are in separate sacs so i dont think you have this risk. Really hope everything is ok with both little ones.

Ruth, a private scan can cost between £50 and £100, either at a clinic or by paying a private consultant. As well as being able to get an earlier scan, i found it more comforting as they will spend longer with you and you can also generally get an appointment at short notice and at more convenient times eg evenings and weekends.

Even after 2 MMC's, i couldnt get an early scan on the NHS although i think this may vary dependent on what area you are living in. With DS, i had 2 private scans, one at 6 weeks and one at 9 weeks as i needed that reassurance. I saw the consultant who had done both my ERPC's as he did private appointments at the NHS hospital in the evenings.

justhayley Tue 17-Dec-13 22:25:52

I went for a 2nd private scan yesterday & unfortunately twin 2 wasn't strong enough and didn't make it. Twin 1 is doing really well and we got to hear the heartbeat.
Its a really strange feeling because I don't feel the same as my MC in September because I'm still pregnant but have still lost 1. I'm really upset but am trying to focus on the fact that I still have 1 healthy baby and that in itself is a blessing.
In a way I wish I hadn't gone for an early scan, as if I hadn't and would have just waited for my 12 week one I would have never have known I had 2 to start with.

Where I am a private scan costs £75 during the week or £90 at weekends, I had a voucher so got it for £60 smile

Good luck to everyone ttc or pregnant.
I'm slightly starting to calm Down now uv passed 8 weeks but it's been really emotional & harder than I thought being pregnant so soon after MC

Redbird12 Wed 18-Dec-13 00:27:24

So sorry to hear of your loss Hayley. Do give yourself some time to grieve for your baby, i know you're still pregnant but being told you're expecting twins means you start making plans (even if just in your head) for 2. I guess you have very mixed emotions now - happy to know one's doing well but so sad that the other didnt make it.

Like pixie you're now past the riskiest period so here's hoping for a healthy pregnancy now with a happy outcome.

Tadpole2013 Sat 21-Dec-13 21:22:56

Hayley. Sorry for your loss. And still, congratulations on the little one doing so well.
Congratulations Pixie!
(I come back every now and then to remind me that life goes on).

But now I would just like to hide here, please?
I'm back on the forums after having 'timed-out' to just chill.
Mc back in June and was beginning to feel like I was losing it.
So I relaxed. Enjoyed life a little.
Then it caught me off guard. AF late.
After waiting since Wednesday I finally bought a test today thinking to test tomorrow morning. A 10euro test!
Now very light bleeding.
Seriously?! Just before Christmas?!

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 03-Jan-14 06:38:49

It's a shame this thread has gone quiet I have been on it for two years and all posters helped me through 3 mc's - hope everyone comes back soon .....

Bunnytheeggrobat Thu 17-Apr-14 07:48:09

Pixie - are you there?!!!

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 01-May-14 19:40:28

Hi bunny I check in occasionally smile

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