done something stupid and now i feel sick, diy a.i(35 Posts)
Tried to swi four times this week
Only worked once, dh is having problems
So last night in desperation, ov test pos on fri
I suggested dh give me a sample.
He did in a cup, was clean but not sterile, then I used a syringe again clean but not sterile
Anyway I'm hoping this is key, I was too scared to put the syringe inside as j thought what if j inject air
So I just kinda squirted it on the outside of the vagina, the syringe was not pushed in
So now in the cold light of the morning I'm feeling sick and panickig what if I have given myself an infection
But its not as if everything that touches the vagina is sterile is it.
I'm really regretting doing that now and feel sick with worry
You're unlikely to have given yourself an infection.
Chuck the OV tests out and stop using them, these can cause stress and anxiety too. These are not always accurate either.
SWI is beset with problems; it can make the man feel used (this may be why he is having problems). Make love when you both feel like it, not just when you think its ovulation time which is nigh on impossible to predict anyway with any sure degree of accuracy. Putting such undue pressure on yourselves is not helping so you need a complete rethink.
What are your menstrual cycles like and how long have you been ttc?.
Er, a penis is not sterile. Tampons and moon cups are not sterile. Air gets pushing into the vagina during sex (the source of the notorious "fanny fart"). Please stop worrying. Post IVF, when you have had needles through the side of your vagina and a tube shoved through your cervix, you insert pessaries with clean, but not sterile, fingers.
If your cycles are irregular or have always been irregular it is better to seek medical advice sooner rather than later. Usage of OPKs are particularly of no benefit whatsoever in these circumstances.
Such problems are often caused by hormonal imbalances which can be treated.
Been trying for another for a long time now. My ds died after he was born due to heart problems, then I had a misscarriage missed, in the summer, so had a bit of break to try and let my body recover,as lo
Lost a lot of blood after mc, and was quite anemic for a while. So only just started trying again this month
I'm so worried that when I drew back the sperm into the syringe. Perhaps that sperm could have been infected
And now I'll give myself N infection
Do I need to tell a Dr what I've done, what could anyone do to help me
I'm seriously panicking
My cycles are irregular last few cycles have been something like 28 34 and 36 days
I know it's different but dp and I made our ds's (one each) using just this method. Ds's dad gave us a sample in a yoghurt pot - clean but not sterile and then we used a clean but not sterile syringe to inject the sperm. No problems, no infections. Worked both times - not the first time although it only took dp 2 months, but I did this over nearly 2 years without problems and finally got ds2!
Most things that get near/in vaginas aren't sterile so I wouldn't be worrying about that - and good luck!
Sorry you've been through such a tough time recently.
I don't think you need worry about giving yourself an infection. You'll be fine. If you want, you could see your doctor about trying to conceive again, but I don't think it's an emergency.
Finally, I really don't suggest using the sticks. They can be really distressing and stressful. Given the difficult time you've been through, it probably makes sense to relax as much as possible. At my fertility clinic, they told us not to use them as thee was no positive evidence they worked, and could add stress to an already stressful process.
You will be fine. I concieved DD in a similar manner. DH has problems ejaculating during intercourse. Which is fab when we don't want to get pregnant, but a pain in the arse when we do.
Red nothing will happen to you, apart from falling preg maybe
You really need to stop panicking. Vaginas are not sterile. Most things that go in vaginas are not sterile. You will not have given yourself an infection. Please calm down.
You sound very. vry anxious.
I am not surprised. I am so sorry about your little boy and then to have a mc,
I am not a medic but I agree with the others that you are very unlikely to have done any damage. Why would the sperm be infected? What with?
Try and think this through logically. What exactly do you think could have happened?
I do have a dd thankfully.
I think if it had just gone from the cup to me tipping that onto me. I wouldn't feel quite so worried. But the oral syringe has been used in the past for calpol, but has been cleaned but guess there could be a trace of calpol in there now.
Bloodyhell I'm such a idiot
At least I didn't put the syringe up inside me
You'll be fine op. Just think about the normal way people get pregnant... Using a willy that's usually used for peeing, that's washed once a day (at best!) and is kept in someone's pants!
Frankly, when you think about it, a smear of calpol is quite preferable.
I'm so sorry you're going through such a terrible time. I think I remember you from the miscarriage boards in the summer. It's great that you're ready to try again.
Just read online that the sperm get washed as they travel through the vagina. And considering I didn't really even put it inside.more just on the outside, if it was to get anywhere inside me, it would have a bloody
long way to go
That's the idiotic thing as I haven't put it inside me,more on the outside hoping it would drip in, I've given myself all this worry and its actually probably highly unlikely to even work.
So I've caused myself all this stress for no reason.
I am insane when it comes to worrying about health problems, I get obbessjve worrying about health things.
That's why its so bonkers I've done this
Have you had any counselling?
I don't mean that in a trite way.
I have severe medical related anxieties. These stem from the death of my DD.
They can be crippling.
I'm so sorry you lost your dd Mrs devere
I haven't had proper counselling, only talking to people from sands etc.
I worry a lot about health and accidents
I hope you don't think I am being patronising but I really think you might benefit from some proper therapy.
I can only go by your posts but they are very anxious and quite irrational. I don't mean that you are generally irrational but perhaps the medical/health/illness aspect of this incident has really freaked you out.
TTC can also seem medical or like a medical problem if it is taking a while.
All that added to the grief of losing your child can build up to an anxiety disorder.
I wouldn't dream of diagnosing someone on line or in real life for that matter. I am only going by my experience.
It takes a lot of work to sort it out. You need help with it. Its complicated.
Worrying about accidents and illness is very common in bereaved parents. VERY common. Sometimes it can get better with time but sometimes we get stuck.
I really hope I haven't offended you but your posts struck a chord. Things CAN get better with help and you will not believe how much lighter you can feel .
thanks for trying to calm me down, it's really nice of you all.
you have calmed me down quite a bit.
i was actually sobbing this am and on the verge of throwing up
now i'm a bit calmer, although truthly still worried
it is so out of chatacter for me to do anything like this, condering what a worry freak i am.
but ive thought about what you have said, that most things that go into the vagina are not sterile.penis, fingers tampons, and if dh had a tiny trace of calpol or lotion or somehting on his penis, i don't think i would worry
and it did only go on the outside, so if any sperm did drip in, it would have to travel such a long way.
i am really really regretting it though.
and i do feel like a total idiot
i'm going to try and relax but its easier said than done
Yes it is easier said than done.
Which is why we sometimes need a bit of help
I hope things go well with your plans tc very soon.
Mrs devere, your post do not offend me at all, i know your only saying it because you want to help me.
i thank you for that
i have been thinking about some sort of counselling, what sort would i seek, breavement counselling i guess?
i suppose i don't know how about getting some.
also i worry[yes more irrational worrying] that drs will think i'm depressed or can't cope with dd[who i love more than anything]
and they might take her away from me or have a question mark over her being in my care or something
i don't think i want to go down the route of antidepressants, as i worry[again] about side effects and then its just something else to get off
i just know my heart will ache forever for ds and i miss him everyday and wish everyday he was here, alive and well
also because ds died after he was born, not many people got to meet him, so for alot of people it's like he didnt really exist, hard for me to explain, but others don't really see our lost always.
Please don't worry about asking for help.
It is normal to grieve for your child.
I think the anxieties about health etc are a sort of displacement thing. We cannot bear the loss of our children and the pain and grief is channeled into something else. For some people it is drink, drugs or shopping etc.
For us it is worry about our health or the health of people we love.
It is a normal thing that has become abnormal because of the impact on our lives.
If you are worried about asking for help I would go down the bereavement counselling route. Your GP should be able to refer you. There is Cruse but I have not used them. You might find local groups in your area and you can refer yourself.
You little boy does matter. The grief for a child cannot be measured by the breaths they took or the minutes or days they were alive.
My DD was 14 when she died. I don't think my grief is any more than yours. People who think like that have NO idea.
Please try and get some support. You deserve it.
redbobblehat when I had quite severe ante-natal depression that left me delusional and paranoid, I didn't get help because my mum had convinced me that admitting to any mental health problem would lead to me losing my child to social services. of course, that made me even more anxious and I kept my resulting depression secret for many years, I never regained the feelings of love I had previously felt towards my husband - until I had a nervous breakdown...
social services do not take children away from parents with mh issues unless they pose a significant threat to the child. I don't know what you're like in rl but, I suspect that isn't the situation here.
you said that you waited til you were physically well but it doesn't seem like you're emotionally well enough to cope with the rigours of pregnancy yet.
getting help can only improve your, and your family's, situation. you've been through major trauma and that needs to be dealt with.
try enjoying sex with your husband as a form of loving therapy rather than as a baby-making exercise. sex is very emotionally therapeutic -when approached as an emotional act rather than just a physical act.
oh and you can access talking therapies through your nhs trust's mental health team with a self-referral or by referral from your gp or health visitor.
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