TTC and under 23 am I the only one?

(101 Posts)
bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:09

Just want to know if there are any other younguns out there ttc aswell? I'm 18 and just come off the cerazette pill, which I've heard is hard to get pregnant after stopping, so I'm coming off early as I want a baby young, pref before 20. I'll be Nineteen by the time the baby is born if I conceive this month. Don't want criticism just want to see if there is anyone in a similar boat to me:D

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 20:59:09

I old now! Thought I was fairly young, but spose a lot of ppl do when TTC for the first time. Young in a not quite ready way. I'm 25 btw.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 20:59:30

Oops. That should have said I feel old now.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:00:37

Do you plan to have a big family bebe? I'm guessing perhaps you do, hence why starting young. Is your partner the same age as you?

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:06:11

No I only want two, I just feel that I would be closer and could play with them more now. Plus I want to really get into my career when my kids are at school and then go travel the world when they leave home and when i'm still young enough to really enjoy it. I've been crazy broody since I was 13, but I tried to stop thinking about it, from 15 onwards (got involved with boys) but I've been with my OH a year now and been best friends with him for many, many years. He is also the same age as me.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:08:13

And I agree Skinnywhippet I found the more I've been thinking about every possible scenario of getting pregnant and having a baby the more I've got used to it and felt more ready. I don't think anyone feels completely ready until they've had their first. You just don't know what to expect

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:15:15

I want to become a Midwife you see, which takes 4 years training, including a degree. I've just done my a-levels and I won't get good enough grades to be able to do a midwifery degree at my local Uni (I don't want to go away for Uni) so I will have to do a year course at my local college and then my degree so that's another 4-5 years of education -.- which I'm sick to death of!! So I want to have a break from education, have a baby etc and then go back to it when I'm ready. I just feel this works out best for me.

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:18:41

Well I'm 25 and have only just come round to the idea of ttc. Iv always been a bit selfish and enjoyed the party life and caring about knowone otherthan myself and oh only been since gettig a dog iv appreciated what it's like to look after something else and have it rely on you and how rewarding it can be(cheesy I no)
What career are you planning? I can't wait to start a new time of our lives!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:20:23

You are fortunate to have a young partner who feels the same. I know people who have been ready for years, but their partners want to wait till they are in their 30s. Training to be a midwife is hard slog and although you get a grant I think you have to pay fees. I suppose the thing about having a baby (this goes for any age) is you cannot predict what will happen after children. I plan to go back to work full time but no idea if I can manage this!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:21:22

Can this be renamed 25 and under? I want to be an official member but am 2 years too old!

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:24:10

I agree skinny you don't know whats going to happen! I plan on going part time with oh is happy for me to do, but who knows of we could afford that with another mouth to feed!

Are you family behind you bebe?

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:25:31

I'm 22!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:29:12

Yeah well my OH is adopted and has had a very sad childhood, his mother was beaten to death when he was 3 by her bf, his real dad didn't want him and he was in fact adopted at 8 by his uncles wife at the time. So poor thing is more than happy at the thought of a gf AND a baby that will love him unconditionally, bless him. My parents don't know I'm trying and I probably won't tell them until the risk of miscarriage is reduced a lot. I'm quite alone in this, but determined it's what I want.

Haha I will try and rename it for you guys, it was originally 25 and under funnily enough.

Ah well hopefully we'll get our positives soon! I will pray for you guys!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:30:53

Oops posted too soon - how long have you been ttc? Exciting!

gillian88 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:32:27

I got pregnant at 20, sadly miscarried the baby and the reaction I got from people was ' your only 20, maybe it's a sign, you r too young, blah blah blah' but had my mind made up I wanted a baby. I started ttc straightaway, fell pregnant at 21 and had my beautiful son when I was 22. I'm now 24 and had another baby, a daughter this time, last August.
If its what you want then go for it! I've lost alot of friends the past 4 years, friends who don't have children and don't understand why I'm not out partying like they are but to be honest I have never been happier than I am with my family. smile

banterbus Tue 05-Feb-13 21:33:32

I'm 24, can I join? smile Been trying for 6 months so far and getting a bit fed up

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:34:01

not long haha! Came off cerazette two weeks ago, got af 3 days ago, waiting for it to stop to get trying! My predicted day to ovulate is between valentines day and our 1 year anniversary!! ROMANTIC! awh a love child. How long have you been trying grotbagz?

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:36:02

You are sooooo much more grown up than me when I was 18!! I only just cleared out my bedroom in my mum's house last year, despite being married for over 3 years!!!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:37:03

Awh gillian, sorry about the M/C I must say, I'm terrified of m/c myself, can't think of anything worse, especially when you're trying to conceive. Pleased you were luckier with your second try! Yes exactly how I feel I've been out clubbing once since I turned 18 and haven't been since, prefer to spend the night in watching you've been framed with my OH tbh ha! I can't wait for a little one! I've wanted to be a mother for so long! and I'm finally running out of reasons to wait!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:38:02

6 months, same as banterbus! Had two mc though, one was recent so hoping to be back in action in a month or so depending on when my body decides its ready! Are you planning on being a stay at home mum?

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:38:50

Ha, I'm actually hoping having a baby will make me more mature tbh. I'm planning on keeping my bedroom here at my parents, they have a big house and my sister still has her bedroom even though she's moved out. I was thinking Me, the baby and my OH could come stay here every other weekend, want my baby to be really close to their grandparents!!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:41:18

Ah banterbus and grot hopefully you'll get your bfp's soon!! I am, until they've gone to school then it's back studying, but no I've got lots of ideas of creative things I want to do while being a stay at home mum with my baby ha! I love sitting on the floor and making up games with little ones, such a healing experience! Can't wait to have that bond with a little baby of my own, so exciting!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:41:32

Banterbus - 6 months isn't too long, I hope it happens soon for ya!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:43:55

Don't hope too soon for me, I need a break haha - I'm kidding! Does your partner work then? That's good he's super happy about it, sounds like hell make a great dad!

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:45:06

Yeh you are much more grown up than me! If you asked me 18montha ago if I wanted a baby I would have laughed in your face! How things change ay. Feels like one day I just woke up and thought if had enough of being a child I'm ready to grow up!

Setayharas ttc1 cycle4 bfp due 4th march

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:48:35

Setayharas - not too long to wait, hope it happens this cycle for you! I also had that realisation - it's a weird one isn't it to wake up and be like, wellllll what am I doing!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:21

Not yet, he's still doing his carpentry college course, but he should be trained soon, he also gets a flat when he turns 18 from the government as he's a foster child, don't quite understand that, but can't complain haha! So by the time the baby comes we should have a place of our own in the city and I'll be able to get work as soon as I finish my exams and save up for the baby. I'm going to be very tight about this baby too. I'm not one for lavishing out the pounds over silly things. I have a budget of £300 for the pregnancy and the first few months. I'm planning to get the big things; cot, pushchair, bouncer, carseat etc. second hand off ebay and just basic, white clothes for first few months as I'm going to wait till the birth to find the sex out! I've thought about this a bit too much I think lol. But obviously at 18, you need to before you just land pregnant!!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:31

Do you live at home atm? Do you think your parents know how maternal you are? My mum is desperate for a grandchild! We haven't started TTC just yet, as implanon is still in. I have an appointment for removal in 2 weeks. Not sure how long before ovulation etc is normal though.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:58

And skinny 25 is not old hahahaha!

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:50:50

I definitely need to mature OP!! I am very embarrassed by the state of our house. Oh went away for a few days and has just spent the evening doing the washing up and cleaning up after me. Oops. I know these days of laziness are nearly all over.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:51:03

Setayharas your BFP is due same time as mine!! FX's we get them!!!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:52:25

My mums thinks she's too young to be a grandmother - she said she doesn't need any more than a mirror at this point in her life to make her feel old... She is joking of course

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:53:40

Yeah I'm still at home at presentsmile Yes I knew EVERYTHING there was to know about pregnancy and childbirth by 14 my mother was shocked! She'll be a little disappointed, but both my mum and dad LOVE babies especially my dad, I know as soon as he gets over the shock of it he will be soo supportive, he always is with me, we're very close and he always has my back. I know he will love to have a littl bubba running around the house again.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:15

Ah ok! Got it all sorted then!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:48

Why do you think they'll be disappointed?

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:55:58

I am also a bit worried about the cost. Some of my relatives have started knitting me the most gorgeous little baby cardigans and they don't even know I have decided to TTC! Oh is a bit suprised that I have changed my mind. He has be saying for the last few years he wants to have a baby and I've been telling him I'm not ready. Next thing he knows I've ordered folic acid and ovulation strips from amazon and am getting the implant out!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:56:29

haha yeah! I've had plenty of sleepless nights to think about it! But I done a pros and cons list the other day, the cons list was about 5 things, the pros list went on for 3 pages, so that says it all really

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:57:39

Oh yes fingers crossed, oh won't survive many more shagathons so that bfp better hurry lol!
Have u started taking frolic acid( don't wanna say the obvious but that's something I never realised(I am a bit thick at the best of times)

Haha skinny u sound like me! I'm using te excuse that I spend all my time tidying up after oh that now he's away I'm relaxing until he's bck. I nearly can't fit in my kitchen due to all the washing up... I'm quite shocked by my laziness this week haha

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:58:39

Skinny - that's good that your family is supportive! Aw that's nice - bet he's excited! I will be the first to have a baby so I know my family will be practically throwing unnecessary baby stuff at me - can't complain but not sure where I'd put it all ....

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:26

Well my older sister has always done things by the book, found her bf at 17, while doing her a-levels, they've been together 3 years, she done much better at gcses and a-levels than me. I kinda messed things up, suffered severe depression and self-harm during high school, got mixed up with a very manipulative using boy and me and my ma have never really seen eye to eye. In a way i'm hoping that once the baby is born and she gets involved we'll finally be able to find some common ground and build the relationship I've always wanted with her

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:43

I can't keep up! Everytime I write a post iv missed loads lol

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:47

Meant to mention - it will all be completely impractical for a baby too, bless them.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:53

Are you telling them you are TTC? I suppose normally a lot of people wouldn't tell their parents at that stage, but if you are still living at home it might be better rather than being an enormous shock......

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:01:50

Grotbagz- yes I will be the first of my family to have a baby, so I imagine I'll be spoilt with stuff, especially from my OH's mum, but I really don't need it, I just want the bare minimum, babies don't notice what things they do and do not have at that age, they're like animals you buy all this expensive novelty stuff and they find joy with the silliest household items in the end haha

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:04:02

Yeah my family all know - I think they know I'm ready because they live my partner more than they love me secretly I'm sure! I don't live at home and we have a business etc, so I think they saw it coming because we now work at home and were moving in June to a house - currently we live in a place with fancy pointy fixtures etc and old original stone floors - oh and a massive stone staircase in our corridor going to nowhere... Not baby proof at all!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:04:31

I feel, and you may find this wrong, if I told them it was an accident, but that I'm just going to have the baby and sort it all out myself anyway, that they'd take it better. For ex if I'm struggling with something with the baby I don't want my mother to turn around and be like 'well I told you so, you should have listened' which is likely for her, instead of just being supportive when I need her. Every woman needs her own parent support for their first child and I just feel I wouldn't get it if I told them I was DELIBERATELY trying to get pregnant at 18, I just don't feel they'd understand.

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 22:05:10

Also, and I know I sound patronising, please forgive me - I am like this with everyone regardless of age! I can't leave any stone unturned!

But, do you know that your OH will definitely get a flat on turning 18?
I just read this link

http://www.tactcare.org.uk/pages/en/accommodation.html

And it suggests that although he will be given accommodation it may be shared lodgings etc, so not ideal for a baby and partner and they might not even be allowed. I don't know the ins and outs and it might be completely fine, but just something to consider in case you have to stay at parents with the new baby.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:14

Well thankyou for researching this for me. No I am not certain, I have tried looking it up but got nowhere. He says he is certain and he also knew someone in care than when they got kicked out at 16 they were given a flat and made to get a job and just had to pay electrics and stuff. But I plan of living with my parents the first few months so they can guide me on things I don't know about and I'll pay them rent money if they ask, which will be unlikely. However if what he says is not possible he has also said he would just have to go to his social worker and say look my girlfriends pregnant, my foster mum says I can't live here anymore and he would be given a flat.

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:24

Sorry thought that was to me!

bebe - Personally I wouldn't do that but that's probably just because everyone's family's are different and I don't think I'd need to so have no reason to!

I'm happy to go mad with spending - I've accepted that no matter what I tell myself I will do it, and dp will be worse than me haha

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 22:10:10

I see what you mean bebe. And to be honest I probably wouldn't tell them either, given that you predict they won't be supportive to start with, it i think I would feel bad being deceptive about something so big.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:12:54

Yes I do understand that most people think that this is a deceitful plan, but I know my parents and I know they would under no circumstances kick me out, even if I was pregnant and 18, I know eventually they would get over the shock and be supportive. But I think there would be amnosity between my mother and me if I told her it was deliberate, which I don't want obviously. Maybe I'm being selfish I just think this is the easier way. I don't know what is to be gained by telling them I'm trying, who needs to know?

setayharas Tue 05-Feb-13 22:15:06

Haha grotz oh already tries to buy baby grows ect when we do our shopping. I have to keep reminding him that I'm not pregnant. Going in ikea is even worse. He's already chosen bedroom furniture for when the babies a toddler. And let's not mention the special offroading pram made specially for all them forest walk we take or don't as the car may be

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:16:18

Will they be the ones supporting you if your partner can only get accommodation for himself? This isn't intended to come across as rude but I'm just curious!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:18:55

Setay - I know what you mean - we've been pg twice in the last 6 months so like mad people decided to get a 'few things' - no regrets though - all lovely! But just goes to show how the madness can take over, hahha oh boys and their toys - essentially a baby 4x4 ;)

Skinnywhippet Tue 05-Feb-13 22:19:36

Ok....so can I now admit I have a drawer full of baby grows. I also nearly bought a nearly new baby Bjorne carriers off eBay a few months ago. I think I'll be terrified when I start TTC properly. We've already worked out moving furniture around in the house so baby can have their own room. I know I will spend waaaaay too much but don't want to go crazy and regret it. The one thing I know for definite is I want my child to have a ridiculous amount of books. I don't think you can have too many and children's books are fabulous.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:19:54

Well I imagine they will want me to stay at home, dads very protective of us, but I will be working as soon as I finish my exams and would pay rent for allowing the baby to stay there and would be at home all day when the baby first comes so would help with washing and cleaning with mum during the day, so once the situation was explained to them I think it would be easy to come to an arrangement.

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:21:30

Ha I agree with you there skinny on the books thing, I want to read to my child every day! and I want them to watch as much of the old classic disney films as possible, I grew up on these and unlike a lot of childrens tv and film, don't find them disturbing or influential in a bad way at all!

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:24:43

Skinny - im excited for the books too - my house is a library - I love love love books - hopefully it'll rub off on any future children - but then again my house will then be difficult to navigate with all the piles of them everywhere...

i don't think you could regret spending too much! Are you also planning on being a sahm?

Bebe - fair enough, I suppose your parents are only doing what parents do and wanting (what they think is) the best for you!

bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:26:45

Grotbagz - Yeah I think now I'm 18 and will be 19 when the baby comes, they won't be like 'omg this is outrageous' they'll be more 'oh okay this isn't great, but we'll help you get through it'

honey86 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:55:12

waghh i turned 27 yesterday im officially oldd confused i got preg at 19... ive tried over the yrs to get into midwifery, its so hard to get into uni hmm im still trying now, but ttc #4 x

grotbagz Tue 05-Feb-13 22:55:50

I suppose so, they may have their own reasons to be not 100% supportive but ultimately it's your choice obviously as you're technically an adult - have you told your friends? What do they think?

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 08:54:24

Yeah it's even harder when you're 18 no one wants a 20 year old just out of uni to deliever their baby everyone wants midwives that look old and experienced! I've been trying to get a job as a healthcare assistant for a while and having no luck. And tbh I don't really have any close friends I can talk to

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 08:57:01

Hence why I come on here looking for people in the same boat as me haha

Madratlady Wed 06-Feb-13 10:01:25

I'm 22 and we've been TTC since december. It's nice to see there are some other young people on here smile

I'm a little sick of being told I'm too young to have a child, that I should be 'out having fun' etc. I'm finding it really frustrating not being able to talk to my Mum about it sine she's often telling me that I'm too young, and has got it into her head that I'm pressuring my husband to have a child (I'm definitely not).

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 11:05:35

honey not old at all!! Have you looked at the access courses? They should do them in your local college - they do a health and social branch - a few people I know got into it that way - they say its full time but because its an adult learners course specifically to get you into uni, but they seem to be good in terms of if you have a child they understand it can be difficult - and the hours aren't actually 'full time' in the same sense. You may have looked into it but if not and if your able to it seems to be a good route!

I wouldn't mind a young midwife as long as they're trained, but I would also perhaps like someone with a bit more experience just checking in ya know? After all they wouldn't have been doing it for that long, but maybe I'd be more ok with it because I'm not too far from that age.

Do you watch one born every minute? The younger blonde one seems nice, I wouldn't mind someone like her being there.

Hi madratlady it's strange isn't it, my mum was 23 when she had me and I don't think I'd have the same relationship with her if she was older, that's sort of what I'd want for my kids personally just because we have a friend relationship and its really nice! I also don't think 22/23 is that young to have a baby!

I'm sure your mum means well, but if you're married and you're both happy with the decision then it's I'm sure she'll come around! Is your partner the same age as you?

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:25:02

Madratlady - I agree, that's why I started up this thread, it's hard to find people to talk to about this, when everyone just argues about you being too young. But I simply just can't wait, it's all I think about!!

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:30:27

sorry bebe meant to tag you in the midwife bit!

lyndsey90 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:31:36

I'm 22 and had 2 positive cheapy tests yesterday, not convinced yet to gonna get more tests! Good luck TTC young to be mummies!!

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:36:07

awh congratulations Lyndsey, how long have you been trying? You're so lucky!! I'm hoping February is my month too!

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 13:05:49

lyndsey - that seems likely to be positive! i did a few of these and the doctor said if I've done a few and its positive thats taken as it is! so congrats!

Hi Ladies, I am not under 23 i am infact 26 but I had my first son at the age of 17, he was a happy accident but I was thrilled, everyone expected me to fail but i didn't. Got my own place, a job etc, got back with my ds's dad and we went on to have 2 more sons with 2 years and 18 month gaps, so by the time I was 21 i had 3 young DS's. People can be so judgemental but sod them!!! My boys are now 9, 6 and 5 and they are amazing, bright, poilte and well looked after young lads and I am young enough to run around after them and am now training to be a teaching assistant (aswell as ttc for number 4) No one should look down on you for having babies young, i had it ALOT. As long as YOU AND YOUR PARTNER feel ready then good luck to you all smile

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 13:45:24

Awh thanks Loves this has really helped me feel better about this. I realize I'm going to be judged a lot by older women, but I've learned not to care what people say about me. If I can't cope, I'll get the help I need, but I'll never let my children suffer for me having kids young and I'm pretty sure I am going to be succeed with my plans and not fail.

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 13:46:21

btw way what does DS mean? it's the one abbreviation I cannot work out!

sorry DS is 'dear son' took me ages to learn the lingo on here haha!

Locketjuice Wed 06-Feb-13 13:51:29

I'm a young mummy wink due second in August smile

lyndsey90 Wed 06-Feb-13 14:00:05

I've been TTC since June last year smile

lyndsey90 Wed 06-Feb-13 14:01:04

And I was also on the Cerazette pill, I stopped it in May '12 as it was causing anxiety and so me and my OH decided, well... Might as well start TTC then!

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:36:26

haha thankyou and so I presume DD mean's dear daughter! never thought I'd be the last to pick up slang with a group of 20 year olds haha. How times change.

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 16:58:18

heres a list of them all - http://www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms - extremely helpful, when i first saw them all it was like hieroglyphics!

lyndsey - i found i had problems with any type of hormone shift, i feel your pain! i hope you get a positive next time you test!

locketjuice - amazing! that's great news - how long were you ttc for?

anyone due for a test soon?

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 17:00:18

oh and loves - if I'm ever with my friends 3 year old daughter i get the most soul destroying looks - i look about 17 at most - couldn't believe it! that's really good you were able to prove everyone wrong, and good luck with ttc number 4!

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 17:15:40

I don't think it really matters what age you are, but I think if you are going to be a parent it is fairly important to be independent and self sufficient. I have colleagues who couldn't pay their mortgage so moved back in with their parents and found it hard being their parents child again whilst trying to parent their toddler.

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 17:23:36

Also, I thing things are changing with university etc. in the past it would be best to go and get a degree etc first and have a bit of a career, but now it is sometimes better to have children then pursue a career. I have a friend who has three dc and then did a graduate medicine course and is now training to be a gp. That way round was much better for me. My problem is that I think I have landed on my feet with my job, so feel obliged to go back so I don't loose my post. It has a lot of benefits that I might not get in other jobs, so although the first few years would be hell, I think it would be worth it long term. I have choices and hubby's salary would cover us if I wanted to be a sahm, but I don't think I am ready for that. I don't know how many children we will have but obviously finances will play a part in making that decision. If I go back to work it gives me more choices in the future. Unfortunately childcare is astronomical!!!

Locketjuice Wed 06-Feb-13 17:25:46

Wasn't on anything from when I had my first because of random heavy bleeding etc and wasnt using condoms so technically 11 months but we said if it happened it happened but if it didn't we weren't disheartened as my boy is still small, just happened at a good time when he was 11 months so very happy grin clever bean grin

Good luck to all you trying, being a young mum is no different to being an older mum... We all get stressed/tired/grumpy at times just part and parcel of sleepless nights and early mornings wink

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 17:31:33

skinny - totally agree!

also i can see how your job would be huge in influencing things! would be tough to jeopardise that situation then know you possibly haven't got something to go back to at the same level as you had, especially when they're school age, you seem like you're quite driven and couldn't sit around all day if they were at school!

i think we're quite lucky in respect to work because in our business we can just work from home so it makes it a lot easier because we are our own bosses, and it definitely influenced us ttc or i don't think we would have for a long time if we were going out to work etc - means we can both chip in with work and childcare although i imagine it'll be him working and me doing the childcare mainly but he'll still be around - and i won't feel like I'm not contributing to our business as essentially all we do is send emails haha.

Thanks Grotbagz, I still get funny looks now, I look about 16 lol! There is/should be a pic on my profile of me with my boys, I got asked if I was their big sister a few months back! People shouldn't pass judgement, there is nothing saying that older women are better mums!

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 19:05:53

You do look young enough to be their sister haha! They all look adorable though so hopefully you'll get your positive soon so you can bring some more adorableness into the world!

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:06:21

Lovethechaos......I love your picture. So sweet. You are blessed. I think I need to admit I've just had half and hour picturing my perfect nursery. Oh dear. Must not do anything until I am pregnant is my mantra.

setayharas Wed 06-Feb-13 20:23:37

Evening ladies! So my cat has decided to be sick on the spare room bed. I'm seriously considering chucking the bed and buying a cot in its place haha. Would it be. But early for that lol?

I don't think age matters at all, if I'd met oh earlier I'd probably have bought my house sooner as grown up sooner. Jut so happened I didn't and it's only now that I feel I couldn't be a decent parent. I on the other hand have a friend who was 17 when she had a first although she is now a single mum and struggles she is a brilliant mum.

It's when your ready not when everyone thinks your ready.

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:29:26

Setayharas.....you don't live in Devon, do you?

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:35:43

Sorry, setayharas.nthink I got you confused with someone else!

setayharas Wed 06-Feb-13 20:54:54

Haha nah I don't, I'm in essex. Would much rather be in devon if I
Honest

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 20:57:07

setay cats are my favourite little fluffy things in the world - but they are just arses aren't they. mine likes to roll around on me, but only if I'm wearing white (he is black), he also sort of moos (no joke) at you if he enters a room as if to say 'i am here, you may be seated'. whats your kitty's name?

although because you mentioned it as an excuse to buy a cot, i am wondering if it really was the kitty... hahaha

setayharas Thu 07-Feb-13 16:41:59

haha i promise it was the kitty!! hes names domino and got hes brother denver. the pains of my life haha i live surrounded by muddy paw prints.when i do have a baby they are gonna hate me i just know! specially when they loose there room!

how about yours name?

grotbagz Thu 07-Feb-13 17:00:28

Mines called Nicholas - I was an odd child, got him when I was 5 and for some reason decided it was appropriate...

Haha oh the paw prints - you hear rain and know they're going to be everywhere! When I was a baby I was inseparable from my mums cat - maybe yours will be like that too!!

ThedementedPenguin Sat 09-Feb-13 11:32:09

Hello everyone. I started reading this thread a few says ago, so im not sure if ive read it all but will reread when i get home.

I'm 22. I have a son who is nearly 5 months old, I'm not currently ttc, but we are talking about it. I would like to have a baby sometime between April-July which means ds would be 18-21 months. I can't help feel I'm crazy, or if ill be able to cope. So I would ideally come off the pill in a few months in the hope if getting pregnant.

I don't want to have a baby this year as I feel it would be far too close together.

We haven't told anybody that we are thinking about this.

Skinnywhippet Mon 11-Feb-13 19:30:14

Are we all taking plain folic acid, or some of those pregnancy tablets with folic included? Have you cut anything else out. I haven't bothered as dont drink a lot of tea, don't smoke and rarely drink anyway......

grotbagz Mon 11-Feb-13 20:11:46

Hi penguin! I would say only go for it if you're sure, but if you and your partner decide you are and can afford/cope with having another baby then why not!

skinny I take the pregnacare conception ones - well I did I'm having a break due to recent events but will start taking again once I'm all healed! I'm cutting down smoking - started again after mc - but have the day set as Wednesday to quit completely - I haven't cut anything else out, but doing a bunch of exercise as much as I can before I start trying again so my body's used to it by the time I'm pg again - dont wanna be unfit for that, and like you I rarely drink! I'm just trying to eat healthy - I'm finding it hard - I'm a skinny junk food bin...

Skinnywhippet Sun 03-Mar-13 16:34:36

How are we all? Did first 'baby making sex' at the weekend as implant is now out. Full steam ahead.....

Madratlady Sun 03-Mar-13 18:00:42

I'm taking folic acid. My GP also mentioned vitamin D but I haven't got round to getting any yet.

I don't smoke and rarely drink, but I have 1 or 2 energy drinks a day. I work shifts so I need then to get through a night shift. I should probably cut them out on day shifts?/days off though.

Sarahb8990 Sun 03-Mar-13 19:17:12

Hi everyone, I'm 24 iI met my dh when we was 11 an had first child at 18, I had everyone telling me I was too young, it won't last etc and as I turns out we are now married and are tryin for #2 I have pcos so it's a lot harder and was told that i might not even be able to concieve another as its so bad :-( im not losing hope tho and have recently been started on clomid which is helping :-) hopefully get a bfp soon :-) good luck everyone with your ttc journey :-)

Sarahb8990 Sun 03-Mar-13 19:32:02

Also made at I would definitely cut out the energy drinks, I would try completely as there is a lot of caffeine in them which won't help with the ttc x

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