TTC#3 Anyone who is care to join me?

(381 Posts)
QueenofClean Sun 27-Jan-13 11:41:59

We actively started TTC#3 yesterday. I have a DD1 who is almost 8yrs & DD2 who is 13 months.

Scared about going from 2-3 but excited at same time grin

Cycle1 BFP due15th Feb.

We are trying to decide whether to go for no 3.

Have a 12 year old and an 8 year old and thought my baby days were behind me as I slowly work my way towards my 40s.

BUT DH admitted that he doesn't want a vasectomy because he desperately wants at least one more child.

We are financially secure, I work part time but losing that money won't be an issue. We have spare bedrooms luckily enough big enough cars.

Practically all is in place but I am terrified. Had to have CVS with both DCs and I feel as though I am pushing my luck being so much older this time!

I have always said no more and so this will be a complete about turn! DH is ecstatic at the thought of more children though!

Nappies, sleepless night and vomit!!!! What the hell are we letting ourselves in for, that is if it happens at all? Mind you DH has the approach that if we go at it like rabbits it must work!

Am bloody scared of going back to it all!

So come on tell the op the difference between 2 and 3 cause I really would like to know!

QueenofClean Sun 27-Jan-13 16:49:19

MC. With an 7yr age gap between DD1 & 2 it's not that bad going back to nappies etc.

Can't be that bad going from 2-3 surely!

mumoftwoboysS Sun 27-Jan-13 16:53:11

hopefully soon! trying to convince OH at the moment...not sure if I have implantation bleeding or early period....so maybe I won't need to convince him, I guess I'll know in a day or two!

Whitetara Sun 27-Jan-13 17:47:25

Hi, yes we are! Can I join you?

QueenofClean Sun 27-Jan-13 18:21:33

Welcome ladies.

grin

Hello ladies.

I hope it's not that bad. Going to be the reflux whilst pregnant and the lack of sleep that kills me.

It's exciting though isn't it!

moonblues Mon 28-Jan-13 12:07:45

Hello ladies. Think I saw you Queen on the pointless thread!
We have just started TTC no 3, after my DH changed his mind about not having any more children. grin
My DCs are 5 and 3, so not as big a gap, though definitely have got used to more sleep and no nappies.
Cycle 1, not sure when BFP due as my cycle varies, but LMP 8/1/13, so think will wait til the 2nd week in Feb to test...

chocoholicalcoholic Mon 28-Jan-13 12:10:49

Hello everyone! May I join in?

I'm very excited but slightly scared too. grin

I have no idea when to test as have had a mirena for 8 years and only removed it Thursday. Haven't starting bleeding yet so not sure if that good sign or not!

It was the doctor telling DH to be really sure he didn't want anymore kids when he went to get a referral for the snip that did it. He came home all dejected saying he really did want another baby!!!

Is exciting though. Fingers crossed for everyone!

QueenofClean Mon 28-Jan-13 17:13:14

Moon - yeah am on other thread too.

Welcome Choc.

MC - ahh good thing your DH realised before it was too late.
It was DH trying to persuade me into having a 3rd child.

Although way it's going this week, with both of us feeling a bit less than 100% and being ov week I'm not sure we will achieve a BFP this cycle!

QueenofClean Mon 28-Jan-13 18:50:09

Well what a day I've had today. Best news is my DD1 has singing lessons every Saturday and the academy had a competition which she was entered for and out of all the students she was picked as the winner of 3 tickets for The X Factor tour on weds. She's so excited. grin

chocoholicalcoholic Mon 28-Jan-13 19:32:45

Oooh well done Queen's DD!

Moon - we've got a same ish gap in DCs, mine are 6 and 3. Just got used to leaving the house with no pushchair, nappies etc... grin

Good luck everyone!

Fairypants Mon 28-Jan-13 21:06:34

Hi girls, can I join you? I'm not actually ttc til April but v excited as DH always said no more until recently. I have no idea what's what as dd's were both unplanned.
Good luck to those alteady ttc smile

QueenofClean Tue 29-Jan-13 07:28:00

Welcome Fairy.

Shattered this morning. DD2 was awake at 2:30 this morning. Managed to get her back to sleep by 3:30 with some milk.

chocoholicalcoholic Tue 29-Jan-13 09:53:08

Hello Fairy, good luck for April smile

Ooh hello ladies can I pull up a pew please?! I have 2DD's aged 7 and 3 been trying for a third for just over a year (had a mmc last june and an early mc in october) I've always said I wanted 3, me and DH both come from families of 3 kids do it just seems right to me!
Took a year to fall pg with DD2 (1 early mc) so probably ended up wiyh slightly larger age gaps than I would hsve ideally wanted but girls are so brill together, and am hoping will be a big help next time!
We too have the room, car, job will be fine with 3 etc, just need the baby! DD2 starts school in sept and DH thinks if I'm not pg I'll be working full time again! Ummm no! Have been dtd like a pair of 19yr olds this month, don't think he realises my real motivation is not to have to work full time smile

QueenofClean Tue 29-Jan-13 11:06:21

Welcome Three.

When DC3 comes along I'll be a SAHM as thankfully we can afford it.

DD2 is currently napping. DD1 went to school okay so I'm just having a cuppa tea & waiting for my Sainsbury's shop to be delivered. smile As it's like Old Mother Hubbards cupboards in my kitchen lol!

mumoftwoboysS Tue 29-Jan-13 18:22:49

ok so I'm not pregnant :-( so feel like I can't join the board yet as we're not technically ttc as OH hasn't given the green light yet. I want one more, he doesn't, though I've been gently suggesting the idea over the past few weeks and think I'm getting some positive resopnse (well he didn't run for the hills!) I think secretly he'd like a girl (we have 2 ds's) but of course there's no guarantee of that.

anyone else trying for dc3 to get a particular sex? I'm actually happy whether it's a girl or a boy- just want another baby! So...anyone have any tips on persuading OH? I wish it was my hubby trying to persuade me! He's one of 3 funnily enough and I'm one of 2. I think bigger families are great, I think his reasons are more financial worries.

Did anyone wait till their youngest was a certain age? my youngest turns 2 on thursday and I do think perhaps I should wait till he's 3 before having another one as its not easy when they're all young (my oldest is 4 in March)

sorry for gatecrashing as not strictly ttc3 but SOOO want to be :-( broody does not even cover it!...

Fairypants Tue 29-Jan-13 19:19:30

Hey mumof
Sorry nature didn't take the choice out of the matter!
I'm on the fence re:gender as i have 2 dds and always wanted 4 dds but now wonder what a ds would be like. dh really wanted dd1 to be a boy but she won him over and now he would prefer dd3.
I can't really offer any tips on persuading your DH to have #3 as it took me 10 years!!! Lots of sympathy and fingers X though. smile

I can't tell you how to persuade DH as I was the one that needed persuading! Just spent an hour cuddling a 3 month old to sleep and boy was he heavy!!

It is exciting, dd was planned but not DS so all this trying is pretty much a new thing.

I don't know why, when I see another baby I always see a boy but would love either. Just as long as not twins! That would push me over the edge!

Feel like a cat on a hot tin roof, my head is all over the place. Does anyone else feel like that. I'm not used to delayed gratification! If I want something I want it NOW!!

QueenofClean Tue 29-Jan-13 19:41:06

Can't give your persuasion tips as DH had to persuade & convince me.

No preference as to the sex. However, would be nice to see what it's like to have a son after having 2 DD's.

Feeling awful tonight so BDing is off the cards sad

mumoftwoboysS Tue 29-Jan-13 20:17:21

thanks Fairypants- 10 years though! I don't have that long, I'm already 36 in feb! I'll just keep chipping away at him I guess- he said today 'you getting rid of those reusable nappies? (just sold some on ebay), what about baby no.3?' Not sure if he's just playing a game now or really starting to think about the possibility!

MadameCastafiore- I feel like that- thought I was pregnant and was planning everything in my head, now I'm not I feel like I just want to be NOW!

Are any of you worried about rooms/sleeping arrangements? My two boys would have to share if we had another, not sure how that'd go as they tend to just talk and not sleep when they've shared a room on holiday- I guess the novelty would wear off?!

right, I've got to stop looking on here till I'm offiically ttc or I'll go mad! ;-)

mumoftwoboysS Tue 29-Jan-13 20:18:52

well maybe I'll hang around a bit longer...

QueenofClean Wed 30-Jan-13 09:14:38

Don't think DC3 will be conceived this month. DH, DD1 & me have been struck down with a sickness bug. sad DD2 seems to of escaped it so gone to nursery quite happy smile

chocoholicalcoholic Wed 30-Jan-13 10:46:29

Get well soon Queen, I hope your bug doesn't last for long and that DD2 doesn't get it too.

mumof - keep chipping away at your DH, it sounds like he's thinking along those lines! My two would have to share rooms too. They keep asking to share anyway cause they want bunk beds! It'll be one big adventure to them to start with I think grin

Madame - yes head all over the place too. DP is so cool and calm about it though, these men have it easy.

Three - Welcome! Sorry to hear about your mmc and mc. Lots of luck for 2013!

toffee01 Wed 30-Jan-13 14:23:11

Hi can I join in? Not TTC just yet but contemplating it seriously.

I am turning 37 this friday and thought I was passed it and maybe pre menopausal or something but the GP told me I wasn't as I had plenty of oestrogens.
So that made me think. I have been thinking about having a third since my youngest started school, but we couldn't afford it at the time.

Now we can but I am terrified about my age being a risk.

Plus I've got a girl and a boy (DD is 8, DS will be 6 in March) and I'm a bit concerned about the big age gap.
Other than that we have just bought a 7 seater car, space won't be an issue and financially it's good too (I wouldn't have to go back to work).
Also DH is very keen. I am dying for another baby but I'm being a scaredy cat.
Why complicate my own life when everything is so easy now?
What if there was something wrong with the baby?
My head is all over the place.

QueenofClean Wed 30-Jan-13 16:40:21

Welcome toffee.

I have a 7 yr age gap between DD1 & 2 and its a lovely gap. I'm worried about a close gap between DD2 & DC3!

MaybeAgain Wed 30-Jan-13 18:14:09

Hi everyone.

I've also been posting on the 'pointless' thread as we are hoping to TTC #3 in April.

toffee my DD is 9 (will be at least 10 when DC#3) and my DS is 6 (will be at least 7 when DC#3). I'm hoping to have 2 little helpers with the baby grin

I'm much more excited about TTC #3 than my DH. For the past few years he said 'no' and wouldn't discuss it. It matters so much to me that I wrote him a letter, we always seem to argue if I tried to talk about it so this way he had to listen...well, read!!

He's now said 'yes, but not yet'. I have pinpointed the April date as we go abroad, less stresses and he also said he doesn't want a baby this year. So, the minute we hit April, a baby conceived will be due in 2014, I have it all planned!

I'm expecting it to take longer than previous though as we were in our 20s then and we are now both in our 30s.

PopsyWind Wed 30-Jan-13 18:30:48

Hi fellow TCC3'ers (and those thinking about it)

Anyone else hoping they'd be more relaxed about it this time? I only had my coil out 3w ago and I'm already symptom spotting obsessively and can't stop thinking about an (out of date) PT I've got left over from last time...

I've got a DS who's nearly 4 and a DD who's 14m

x

Whitetara Wed 30-Jan-13 19:59:49

hi guys. I'm going to be 40 in march. we have a 3 and 5 year old. both girls. I had a chemical pregnancy earlier those month after having no difficulty with the other two.

now really nervous of the same thing happening again. trying again as soon as and keeping everything crossed.

Fairypants Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:29

Hello everyone,
Popsy- I have no delusions, I will be am sooo obsessed about this. I haven't 'tried' before so very excited and I'm rather obsessive at the best of times. smile
I'm not too worried about age. Most of my friends were in their late 30's early 40's when they had their first. They did seem to find it harder than me (I was 20) but having #3 at this age is not the same as having #1.
Mumof - I gave up on convincing DH in the end- he is doing this simply to make me happy because he understands it means a lot to me and will earn him major points. It sounds like your DH might be close to tipping point. smile
Fingers x for you white (and for the rest of you already ttc).

toffee01 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:51:36

I've been convinced I was pregnant today (defo phantom pregnancy!!) as I was feeling extremely nauseous (had a super fast lunch in my car that's why!) and we did it unprotected with DH as it was only the 8th day of my cycle (that's a first for us normally we use condoms religiously but this time I thought the 8th day of my cycle was safe enough).
But I seemed to ovulate early this month (if I ovulate at all these days, I have no idea).
I am still unsure about actually trying for n#3 but I thought, at least if I'm pregnant now I could say I fell pregnant at 36 as tomorrow I will be 37 wink

mumoftwoboysS Fri 01-Feb-13 09:52:29

Well i'm glad there are a few on here 'thinking' about ttc so I don't feel such a fraud ;-)

Fairypants and Choco- yep I think he may be at tipping point though I'm still holding my breath. I sent him an email (as I'm not sure he's been taking me seriously) to read at work- so I think a serious chat is iminent- I think his worries are financial and space. We have a 4 bed house but one bedroom is an office- so I guess my boys will have to share- I think they'd like it -like you choco- mine would love a bunk bed but eldest is only 3 1/2 so a few years before he's old enough for that.... Could get rid of the office but OH works at home a few days a week...

I think it would feel a bit cramped but it doesn't stop me wanting another!!

Fairypants- I think OH may do the same and go along with it because it's what I want- my only reservation here is he has a good knack of blaming me when things go wrong- so if things were hard, child was ill, money tight etc he'd probably blame me! (like the cat is always 'mine' if it's been sick or being a pain) and that would drive me crazy!

I've even thought along the lines of going on the pill and being 'lazy' about taking it but that would be dangerous and I'd always have that thought in the back of my mind that I'd planned the 'mistake'... not a good way to do things despite how easy it would be!....

well, I'll keep chipping....

good luck to those of you already trying- am tres jealous!!

QueenofClean Fri 01-Feb-13 10:06:22

Everyone is better Chez Queen grin

So maybe we can try to get in there for this month but doubt it very much!

Just watching this weeks OBEM - Broodiness to the full!

Fairypants Fri 01-Feb-13 17:09:29

Yay queen- even if you don't get anywhere, it's good to enjoy trying!! smile
Wish I could already.
You keep at it mumof, it's no bad thing for kids to share a room specially when they are close in age.

Fairypants Fri 01-Feb-13 17:10:58

Btw I'm currently catching up on OBEM online back to back-dd2 wants to be a midwife now!!!

QueenofClean Fri 01-Feb-13 17:56:29

Fairy - this weeks OBEM made me cry - blooming broody hormones!

I shall enjoying trying that's if DH feels up to it anyway!

toffee01 Fri 01-Feb-13 19:19:55

OBEM always makes me cry. I LOVE IT! Especially due to the fact that I had a fantastic birth with number 2!

Thingymajigs Fri 01-Feb-13 19:27:41

Hi, I've been TTC my third for 8 cycles now...? Depressingly, I've lost count. I honestly thought I would fall pregnant the first time as I did with my other two (12 and 9 year old boys) but my body isn't being as cooperative. I had my first two very young and now I'm 31 and starting from scratch it seems. My DP is so incredibly excited about TTC, it's adorable really.
Good luck to all of you.

canadajin Fri 01-Feb-13 21:26:53

Just got BFN after being convinced I was preggers. TTC #3 with DS 3.5 and DD 2. At least Ivan enjoy a drink tonight. But still...grrrrr

canadajin Fri 01-Feb-13 21:27:20

I can! Sorry, iPhone autocorrect

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 06:42:00

Welcome Thingymajig & Canadajin.

Hopefully with all our TTC3 baby dust we should all have BFP in no-time smile

Thingymajigs Sat 02-Feb-13 08:12:55

So sorry canadajin. Fingers crossed for next time.
Sounds good Queenofclean. smile I think I need a good dose of positivity.
Currently 7dpo and quite relaxed and blasé this month. This might change in a few days however.

chocoholicalcoholic Sat 02-Feb-13 09:50:06

Hello all new additions, I'm glad there's quite a few of us thinking about a 3rd.

chocoholicalcoholic Sat 02-Feb-13 09:52:51

Ooops posted too soon! Is anyone on their 2ww yet?

Toffee - did you have a good birthday?

Enjoy the weekend everyone, I'm still in bed grin

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 10:24:22

Choc as of today I'm on my 2ww. Wish I was still in bed, I'm at the leisure centre waiting for DD1 to finish her swimming lesson.

6 days till I'm the big 30! <faints>

I'm in the dreaded 2WW too! We have undertaken a mammoth spring cleaning exercise and are sorting out the loft, what fun! But the planned loft conversion will be good extra space (hopefully just in time for number three smile )

DH leapt out of bed this morning, think I've scared him this cycle with my plan of eod (and a couple more for luck!)

Fairypants Sat 02-Feb-13 11:17:21

Fingers x for you both.

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 11:33:12

Thanks Fairy grin

chocoholicalcoholic Sat 02-Feb-13 12:22:42

Oooh I'm on the 2ww as of today too. Fingers crossed to you both!

Queen - I'm 30 this year also, what are your plans to celebrate?

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 12:30:36

Choc - I have no plans to celebrate really. My dad's birthday is next day and we normally have a family meal.
However, DH has taken day off work and told me I need to also so not sure what's happening grin

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 12:30:50

How about you?

Leafmould Sat 02-Feb-13 19:16:55

Hi everyone. . . I am on the pointless thread, so not a defo ttcer yet!

Does anyone else dp really not get why we love Watching OBEM so much?

My dp is decidedly hmm about it. Perhaps it's because the only programmes I watch are call the midwife and OBEM!

canadajin Sat 02-Feb-13 21:13:28

Yep, my DH the same about OBEM especially now we're TTC.

Hate this waiting! Forgot what it was like as DD was conceived when DS was only 6 months... Bit if a shock!

Only had my coil out 2 weeks ago but was ovulating that day and we DTD day before and that day. Am far too impatient for this.

QueenofClean Sat 02-Feb-13 23:19:33

Leaf my DH will watch OBEM but not Call the Midwife.

Darksideofthe80s Sat 02-Feb-13 23:23:39

Hi ladies, do you have room for one more? flowers

We have been trying for over 2 years, hoping 2013 is going to be lucky!
Dd1 is 20, Dd2 is 3.
Just about to hit the tww, and drive myself crackers symptom spotting.

QueenofClean Sun 03-Feb-13 07:50:24

Welcome Darkside

Really hope this is your month. I'm on 2ww wait (I think) still had loads of EWCM yesterday. So dtd extra couple of times and DH def on board now lol wink

PopsyWind Sun 03-Feb-13 11:50:04

Good luck those on 2ww!!

Quick question to people who have had coils removed - did you have a bleed soon after having it out? I did but wasn't sure if it was a period or a reaction to the fact that it was removed (I didn't have periods when it was in)

I suppose there's no way of knowing if/when I've ovulated this mnth...?
Guess I'll just wait for my next proper one..... or if it gets to 4wk without anything will be worth doing PT - eek!

QueenofClean Sun 03-Feb-13 11:54:03

Popsy - I had a copper coil before I had DD2 now 13 months and don't remember bleeding just having a period. Hth.

canadajin Sun 03-Feb-13 21:10:48

Popsy: I just had mine out and had nothing, no spotting even, then a painless bleed after 4 days. I'm not sure what it was now. Should have been ovulating the day it came out.

Probably not much help, sorry.

mumoftwoboysS Sun 03-Feb-13 21:11:53

I have to record OBEM as OH won't watch it but I love it! And just watched call the midwife (which OH will watch?!) love it .

well may be making headway- OH is talking about moving the office (bedroom no 4) into the garage and even the possibility of a conversion of the loft above the garage to make more room for.... for what?? :-) he hasn't jumped up and down saying he wants a third but the prospect is looking more and more likely....'chip chip'.....

toffee01 Sun 03-Feb-13 22:30:07

Choco thanks I had a lovely birthday. But officially 37 now sad
Watched Call the Midwife tonight and cried. Can't help myself.

I held my 4 days old niece today and she's GORGEOUS and so small. 8 year old DD also was very keen to have a cuddle (with the baby not with me!).

I asked her how she would feel if I had another baby and she said: "I would love it, but only if it was a girl".

I am quite annoyed that I keep changing my mind though, my body seems to urge for another but my mind gives me all the reasons why I shouldn't.

At the moment it's: YES. DH still very keen but pissed off that I keep changing my mind.

moonblues Mon 04-Feb-13 00:02:02

Happy birthday toffee and congratulations on your new niece. Happy birthday for next week Queen.

Haven't been on the thread for a bit as I was getting a bit too obsessive about MN and TTC and so have been trying to stay away from MN for a few days, but I couldn't last long smile

So I'm definitely either pregnant or pre-menstrual - I just can't decide which hmm Today I'm having a 'definitely pregnant' day and have the fear confused which I feel a bit silly talking to anyone except you lovely ladies about as I'm suposed to be the keen one (out of me and DH) and no one else knows we're TTC...

choc blondies and darkside - hope you are all dealing better with the 2WW than me and not driving yourself mad with symptom spotting.

Mumof I found that accepting that we weren't going to have any more DCx and getting rid of all my maternity stuff/cot, was what made my DH change his mind about the whole thing. hmm

I love watching Call the Midwife and OBEM too, though didn't manage to watch all of CTM last week, as it looked like it was going to be too sad... though still have it on tape, so might try again when I'm feeling a bit braver.

Thingymajigs Mon 04-Feb-13 08:12:03

I know the feeling about being unsure about TTC sometimes. Every month I do a check that this is definitely what my DP wants and I question my own motivations too. My DP is incredibly excited about it all though so it's me who needs to keep the doubts away. I think it's because I don't know anyone with 3, it seems a little extravagant and scary to me somehow. But I know I'm ready for this baby. I should be after 8 months of trying! smile
My 9 yo would love a baby sister. He keeps asking if it might be possible one day.

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Feb-13 09:11:04

moonblues I can see why that worked- getting rid of everything makes it feel so final, but I think it might backfire with my OH! He'd say we can't afford to re-buy everything- lol! Though I did managed to lose our buggy -yes LOSE it! (putting kids in the car then drove off without putting it in the boot- d'oh!) and it's a double one. May need to borrow one if we have no.3 as our backup one doesn't have a baby/cot facility. And he mentioned we'd have to buy/borrow one so he's thinking about it! And said we'd have to start ttc in July to make sure youngest ds is in pre-school. I guess I can start mapping out my ovulation from May to see when is the best time! God, I'm obsessed!

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Feb-13 09:12:28

ps-Does anyone mind me asking- what are your work situations? I'm wondering if it's because I'm not working that I'm focussing on having a child instead of something else. Was made redundant last year and can't find a job (I want part-time and seems I have to compete with a hundred or more applicants for each job I see). I'm worried it'll set me back if I have another-I'd like to re-train once kids are all at school....

Hi mumof I've worked part time for same company for years, I was regraded out of pt time management last year but am enjoying having less responsibility and stress, full time positions have come up lately that have been tempting but I'm putting ttc for number three first! I figure the way things are heading we will all have to work till we are 70 so plenty of working years left even if I don't restart a career till I'm 50!

toffee01 Mon 04-Feb-13 11:31:06

mumof I am a SAHM and do celebration cakes every now and again which I sell. But we don't actually need the little extra money that I produce.

All the same I would like to take my business more seriously and start adverstising properly so I can expand, so it's weird that I also have this baby desire.

This morning I woke up and thought: "there is no way". And now I'm back to "definitely" again.

Last night, one thought that put me off slightly was that if the baby was crying and woke up my DCs, or even DH, I would feel really bad as they have to have a good night sleep before school, and DH's job is quite demanding so he needs his rest (although he doesn't tend to complain bless him).

I remember sticking a dummy in DS' mouth to quieten him so he wouldn't wake up DD. Although I quickly got rid of the dummy when he was 2 months and a half and found his thumb.

Does anyone else worry about that or does it sound really trivial?

chocoholicalcoholic Mon 04-Feb-13 13:17:03

Queen No plans for 30th as yet, it's in the summer so plenty of time. Enjoy whatever you end up doing! Any symptoms yet? grin

Darkside Welcome and good luck on your 2ww!

mumof Keep on chip chipping! How exciting! I'm a SAHM, I've applied for part-time jobs for the last few years resulting in one interview. Very frustrating but nevermind. I hope to train in something too although I've yet to decide what for...

toffee Glad you had a lovely birthday and congratulations on your little niece.

Welcome back moon I'm trying not to think too much about the 2ww mainly because I never have any early symptoms. I get sore boobs which appear literally the day I'm due AF. When are you hoping to test?

Have a good day everyone. We are not leaving the house today as DD1 is ill. I neeeeed chocolate though so if anyone has any, eat some for me.

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Feb-13 14:23:16

Sorry I'm clueless about some shorthand here- what does 2ww stand for?

toffee01 that's great to be able to do that as a hobby and make a bit of pocket money- you should look into expanding it! I looked into making cupcakes recently -bought some piping nozzles, pans etc and found the whole thing a bit frustrating! I was thinking I could bake and sell but think I did it wrong- you need to develop a hobby then start thinking about selling, not the other way round- and my cupcakes need a LOT of practice! I do love crafting and my passion is mosaics so should really focus on that and maybe sell a few at craft fairs.

choco seems theres a few of us out there not able to find work- with the recession at the moment I think it's just got ridiculously hard. We can manage on one salary but I think if we have a 3rd it'll get pretty tight and DH gets stressed about money.

thethreeblondies it is probably easier to work part time if you're thinking of no.3! Yeah I guess these days 40+ isnt that old any more when thinking of a career/career change- that's what I keep telling myself anyway!

toffee regarding waking in the night- I do worry about that- esp as our bedroom is really close to DS1, I remember DS2 waking us and him and we did have a few weeks of it affecting him but he soon got used to the crying. It's tough,but without moving to a bigger house or one where the bedrooms are further apart (why are bedrooms in modern houses so close together?? and our house is 20 yrs old) there's not much we can do. I guess it's a temporary problem where everyone might be tired for a bit- does make you feel guilty for the other kids.

DH made me feel guilty the other night saying are our 2 kids not enough, that I want more! It's not that they're not enough, I just want one more!...

2ww stands for 2 week wait, from time of ovulation till we find out if we are upduffed or not! x

QueenofClean Mon 04-Feb-13 19:06:32

No symptoms yet sad which is prob a good thing as I'll be driving myself even more stir crazy than what I already am!

Re work. I currently work 25-30hrs a week over 4 days. Once DC3 is here I will become a SAHM as my wages wouldn't even cover childcare costs. However, I love my job but am looking forward to being at home.

Fairypants Mon 04-Feb-13 19:07:46

mumof my answer is that they are so great I want more of them!!
toffee dd1 is doing gcse's so will have to make sure it isn't too disruptive but she is a worrier and even she is trying to convince us to have one, it'll be worth it.
mumof I just started a new career about 2 years ago which I really enjoy. They are flexible so should be fine going pt. I always wanted 4 tho so have been trying for years to convince DH. I can't waver now, I might never convince him again!

QueenofClean Mon 04-Feb-13 19:08:11

Toffee - sounds good for extra money. I do cardmaking and get a few extra pennies but also starting to make free from cupcakes so if word of mouth spreads okay I can make extra pennies then. DD2 has food allergies and hard to buy cakes specifically for her and easier to make and I know a few others in my position too.

moonblues Tue 05-Feb-13 10:25:28

Hey everyone. Hope you're all well. It's very snowy here and the DCs had great fun pelting me with snowballs on the walk to school.

Hi choc It's nice you've got the same gap as me. My DCs will be 6 & 4 before any babyblue arrives. I'm hoping it will work out well, but I'm a bit worried about DC3 feeling left out as my first 2 are such good friends. I'm trying to hold off testing until at least the weekend. My periods have been a bit irregular and TBH I wasn't really paying attention before this month. Also I have no clue when or even if I ovulated this month. confused All in all I'm not very clued up this month. So currently day 28 and no sign of AF yet. Think I would prefer AF to arrive than get a negative test, so trying to hold off as long as possible.

mumof I work part-time 3 days a week. So I just obsess on my days off work! When I'm at work I'm too busy to think about it or if I do it's just to worry about having to tell my manager I'm pregnant - don't expect it to go down well...

toffee I hadn't even thought about the baby waking the other 2 up! Hopefully they'll get used to it quickly and just sleep through hmm The cakes sound good.

Right, should go do something productive...

moonblues Tue 05-Feb-13 10:49:35

I'm back!

Forgot to ask - when is everyone else testing?

QueenofClean Tue 05-Feb-13 11:10:37

Moon I have a big gap between DD1 & 2 & it's working out well.

As for testing AF not due till 15th so I've at least a week to wait. Can I test everyday until then tho? Impatient much...

Depending on what cycle length I'm having and when I think I ovulated I'm going to try and hold off testing till the 14th too (in reality I'll probably pee on any old thing from mon onwards!) having weird crampy feelings today, but had loads of symptoms last month which came to nothing!

Oh and moon my DD's will be 8 and 4 next month, lovely age gap and both keep asking for me to have a baby, they keep changing mind over which sort though! (will need to break it to them that they can't choose!)

Darksideofthe80s Tue 05-Feb-13 16:36:23

Hi all

Haven't been on much, was swotting for an interview this morning, recently squeezed out of work after 14 years.

So being disracted means I haven't started obsessing over symptoms yet, plus it's Dd1's 20th birthday this week, so I can no longer claim to be 32 blush.

Anyhooo how's everyone else holding up?

PopsyWind Tue 05-Feb-13 18:36:58

Hi all,

Good luck with interview Darkside

Thanks for advice re coils - I'm now thinking I haven't had a proper period yet so have no idea where I'm up to/when to test...

Will try and hold out til Monday... (yeah right!)

metimeatlast Tue 05-Feb-13 19:59:47

hi all, may i come and join you all please??

I had "the chat" with DP last night and we have decided that it is time for us to ttc. dp is 42 this year and i will be 38 in 12 days. It will be DC3 for me, (ds1 16, dd2 3.4) but this will be our first dc as a couple smile
im a very very little bit obsessive when it comes to things, "want it, want it Now" type, so all this waiting around will be tricky to say the least grin
Hmm, why am i now feeling scared? not in a worried way, just in like a 1st date type way?
we will need a people carrier, we have a fairly big house, so space wont be an issue, nor will finance luckily.
As for preference ?? due to our age, i think healthy would be preferable.
I come from a family of 2dc, dp is from a family of 5dc, so for me... id like around 3 or 4 dc.
fingers crossed for bfps for us all smile

QueenofClean Wed 06-Feb-13 06:51:48

Darkside hope interview went well.

Metime - Welcome smile

toffee01 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:37:44

metime good luck to you! I'm the same with preference, having a girl and a boy, I would really be over the moon with any sex.

I am definately NOT pregnant as AF turned up today sad (not impressed, but haven't been trying at all so what do I expect? I'm not the Virgin Mary. We only had unprotected sex on the days which were way out for my ovulation.).
I had a bit of hope because I had a tiny bit of blood after a wee, and then nothing.
So I thought "Ooooh, what if?" and I got really excited. Now I'm disappointed that it's my period, so I've got my answer: I do want a baby for sure.

At least I can have a glass of wine now so: Cheers girls wine

toffee01 Wed 06-Feb-13 20:57:05

I'm quite annoyed as well because I had kind of convinced myself I was.
I has nausea and everything, sore boobs etc... Phantom pregnancy I tell you!

metimeatlast Wed 06-Feb-13 22:44:45

thanks toffee & queen
Tmi but, me and DP used the quick pull out method 3x around my ovulation last month, so im hoping against hopes that something May have happened, although i doubt it very much hmm but im coming to the end of my 2ww any day now as AF is due anytime in next 3? days, and starting to feel those bleur stomachy yuckiness. have got 2 bfn today, although its only 11 days since DTD(s) with DD2 i never got a BFP until after AF had been missed, so im still trying to kid myself lol
However.... i did read on another link somewhere that a bfp is quite unlikley prior to at least 14 days after, as the hormone thingy is still very low due to how many days it takes to ? multiply ? kidding myself again stomach is telling me otherwise. anyways, now that i have done my waffling, may the force be with us all and bring some BFPs

QueenofClean Thu 07-Feb-13 07:06:29

Need sleep. My girls were tag teaming me last night sad and got a long day at work today.

Symptoms are nausea but think its purely because I'm tired and over thinking

Hope everyone has a good day smile

Fairypants Thu 07-Feb-13 07:07:19

Hi metime, I glad you are taking the plunge. I guess if this isn't the month then at least you will be ready to ttc properly next month.
Toffee- sorry you got af but it does sound like it has really clarified things for you which can only be good.
I hope the interview went well darkside.

PopsyWind Thu 07-Feb-13 10:49:29

Sorry about AF Toffee, and lack of sleep Queen,

I got BFN this morning (on out of date test so naturally I don't believe it!)

Am pretty sure AF is on its way though as I've been ratty with kids this am.

Re symptoms, PMT or lack of is the only thing I think I trust. I seem to remember that boob tenderness and nausea were always worse the mnths I got my period than the mnth I was pg. How our bodies like to confuse us...

toffee01 Thu 07-Feb-13 11:30:37

Really popsy? For me irritability or PMT type symptoms were still there when I fell pregnant with DS. In fact they never stopped until the end of the 3rd month.
Also I remember having everything else like I get the odd spot on my back 2 weeks before AF and I still had that at the very beginning of my second pregnancy (can't remember about the first one as I only found out I was pg at 18 weeks shock, so no symptoms there at all other than over emotional and irritable. Or at least I didn't pay attention to them).
Anyway sorry about your BFN Popsy, maybe too early to get a BFP?

PopsyWind Thu 07-Feb-13 12:41:20

Aaargh now I've got my hopes up again toffee!

Hmmm... breast tenderness definitely worse with period for me.

Wow what was it like finding out at 18w? - nice not to have all the 1st trimester stressing and knicker checking I spose!

I had coil out 4w ago but then had weird bleeding/spotting on and off for about 10d

metimeatlast Thu 07-Feb-13 19:55:37

well ladies, AF did visit me today, just as i suspected she would, am not disappointed on this occasion, as she has told me that my cycle was bang on 28 days (as i thought) targets for the coming month will be to try and see if i can notice the signs for ovulation, note the dates when i think ive got it right, stop drooling over baby things and find myself a new topic to take my mind of the future...
good luck anybody testing tomorrow, fx for you

moonblues Thu 07-Feb-13 21:56:30

Hi ladies,

Sorry to hear that AF got you toffee and metime and about your BFN popsy. I'm still feeling achy, but more emotional, so I'm not sure if that's a sign that AF is on it's way or that I'm pregnant. I'm too scared to test at the moment as I'm not sure what my reaction would be either way, which is bizarre as I really want another DC confused I think I'm losing it... and I'm definitely eating too much chocolate = PMT I think. grin

Hope the interview went well darkside

Glad to hear bigger gaps are good too Queen and blondies At least with choosing sex they have a 50% chance, my DS asked me once if he could have a big sister - which is pretty tricky to arrange!

twogirlsandamessyhouse Thu 07-Feb-13 23:23:22

Hi all, I'm a little late in joining, hope that's ok? Would've been TTC yesterday but just got a faint bfp this morning... fingers crossed it will stick. Just read through all the posts here and this looks like a lovely thread- we had so many doubts about going for no. 3 but then someone said these sage words of wisdom: "just don't think about it too much." So we went for it. Have a 5yo DD and a 3 yo DD so the gap is ok but the 3 yo is such a terrible sleeper that I am praying she improves in 9 mos time! Otherwise it's going to be hell round here! confused

QueenofClean Fri 08-Feb-13 05:24:32

Welcome twogirls & congrats on your BFP smile

twogirlsandamessyhouse Fri 08-Feb-13 09:10:04

Thanks- today I'm just sitting here analysing the tests because they are so faint (today is 13dpo and there hadn't been much change since 8dpo- faint line) and starting to think it could be a chemical pregnancy. They should be getting darker, shouldn't they? I'm so scared.

metimeatlast Fri 08-Feb-13 10:46:36

hi twogirls, congrats on your bfp. nope a line is a line, i remember that when i was pg with dd 3.4yo i did 2 tests, and sat there at my friends house later and we were saying "yeah its faint, but they defo have lines" and routing through an old handbag the other day i found both tests which still had the same faint lines on lol.
fx for you

chocoholicalcoholic Fri 08-Feb-13 13:50:37

Hey everyone! How are you all?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY QUEEN!!! What did you dh have planned for you? I hope you're having a fantastic day.

moon I also worry about the third feeling left out as my two are so close and play so well. I really do think they will dote on a baby and will (try to) be very helpful. Not sure how it will work as they get older though but only time will tell I guess! Nice to hear that three and queen have the same sort of age gap and that it works well.

Darkside how was your interview?

Welcome metime and twogirls congratulations on your BFP!

Quite a few of us due to test next week... I know I'm out as I've had af pains for days but not too worried as we hadn't planned to try 'properly' until next month anyway. Always that hope though isn't there!

Do you know what, I'm so glad I was brave enough to post on here. It has been so good to read that we all have the same sort of worries. I don't tend to discuss baby plans with anyone in RL (apart from OH) so this has been great. I wish I had known about this place when I had DD1!

Enjoy the weekend you lot smile

toffee01 Fri 08-Feb-13 14:38:42

Hi everyone, welcome Twogirls and CONGRATS!! Don't worry, I agree with metime 100%. A line is a line.
I tested early for my second and it was so faint I had to post on here to ask for advice.
I did 4 different tests to be sure (excessive old me!) and they had the same faintness.
I had a thick, deep, obvious line with my first but like I said, I was probably about 17/18 weeks by then so that's understandable.

Sorry Popsy to have raised your hopes up but it's true, every pregancy is different and you can have so many different symptoms.

Finding out at 18 weeks was, to say the least, a shock.
My period was always so erratic after stopping the pill 9 months before, and I was forever doing pregnancy tests that were coming up negative so I stopped testing, assuming I was never pregnant but always had irregular periods.

I had absolutely no conscious idea that I was pregnant, in fact I was booked in for a fertility clinic appointment (I hadn't even asked for one but my GP suggested it. I guess because I was 27, he just assumed that I wanted children but actually, I wasn't that bothered if it never happened [that was then]).

I think my GP was more excited than I was when I told him I was pregnant, but he certainly didn't suspect that I was that far gone.

The first concern that came to my mind was "I've been drinking alcohol!!!".

But luckily for me and my baby I don't drink much at all and I had gone off drink (probably due to the pregnancy but I didn't know it at the time).

GP said not to worry about that (what's done is done kind of thing).

So there. It's weird that I didn't put on weight and that my boobs didn't change.

QueenofClean Fri 08-Feb-13 16:22:24

Thanks Choc - been spoilt today. Been taken clothes shopping and had my hair done smile

DH also brought me some pregnancy tests ready for next week - I think he's more excited than I am lol!

Glad u have had nice birthday queen It was my friend's 30th on Thursday, we have given her money to put towards a "Styling day" its a day with lunch where u find out what clothes/styles etc suit u best, for my 30th a couple of years ago my mates gave me a big frame filled with pics of us all in our going out days!

Back to the age gap debate, there's 4.5 years between me and my dsis and then 3.5 again before dbro came along, it worked well as I hit 12 and didn't want to play so much my sis had a 4 yr old to play with! Think this is another reason I'm glad to have waited a bit (although had enough of waiting now!)

Off to deliver pressies tomorrow to 3 baby girls that were born last week (2 friends and a cousin) hoping that cuddles with newborns shocks my ovaries in to action!

Got some cheap sensitive ic's on order so will start peeing on them probably from mon onwards (roughly 12-13dpo!)

QueenofClean Fri 08-Feb-13 18:43:17

TTB when is AF due?

Well................... not really sure when af is due, cycles are a bit random, last one was 31 days, (one before that was 35 days post early mc) so I'm cd28 today will be cd31 on mon or app predicts af on cd34 on thurs! think I may have ov'd on cd18/19 only going by cramps, so who really knows!!!!!!grin

twogirlsandamessyhouse Fri 08-Feb-13 20:09:10

Thanks for the well wishes everyone. Went out and got another First Response early result test this am (making total amount spent on tests: like £25!) and the line was nice and dark. Now the question is, do I check out of this thread and start a new one over in becoming a parent? I want to talk about the chaos of 3 kids with someone, anyone... Only know one mum with 3!

Good luck anyone testing this week. x

moonblues Sat 09-Feb-13 07:57:02

Good morning ladies - just POAS and it's BFP! grin
Feeling excited and nervous...
Happy birthday Queen and good luck to everyone TTC. smile

twogirlsandamessyhouse Sat 09-Feb-13 08:15:16

Congrats moon! Yay! gringrin

QueenofClean Sat 09-Feb-13 08:15:30

Congratulations Moon.

Have you tested early or is AF late?

metimeatlast Sat 09-Feb-13 10:49:34

congrats twogirls and moon wahoo, some BFPs smile

Clairey2012 Sat 09-Feb-13 12:20:50

Hi ladies mind if I join in? Congrats to moon. Got a question for ya. Meant to start ad today Bt there seems be b no sign ov it coming, always get sore boob week b4 Bt nothing and jst checked my cervix and it is nearly unreachable. Tested Bt bfn, however my last pregnancy didnt show up until 5weeks. Any comments? X

Whispers..................I've got a very faint positive! Not going to believe it fully till next week as it's very faint!

QueenofClean Sat 09-Feb-13 17:36:24

Welcome Clarey.

Congrats TTB smile

PopsyWind Sat 09-Feb-13 18:53:16

Wow congrats on BFPs - excellent work all round!

Another BFN for me today sad just want AF to start now so I know where I'm up to after coil removal.

Planning on buying more expensive tests and wearing white underwear tomorrow - usually a sure fire way!!

mumoftwoboysS Sat 09-Feb-13 20:13:20

congrats twogirls, moon and ttb! Is this your first month trying for all of you??

I think I'm going to have to come back in may/june time when (I'm hoping!) OH will be 100% behind me and we'll be ttc no.3. Signs are good, I just need to be patient! Good luck to all of you already ttc and hopefully I'll be on here soon sharing pregnancy symptoms with you! x

toffee01 Sat 09-Feb-13 22:09:28

Moonblues YESSS!! Congratulations!! grin wine thanks
That is amazing! How quick was that! I'm so happy for you! I wish you all the best, I hope you really enjoy it!
That is great! Two BFPs already on this thread, wow!
I am so excited! (anyone would think I am the one who's pregnant.)
moonblues definitely the emotional thing was a BIG one for me, so I'll be looking out for that when I start trying, IF I start trying.
I keep changing my mind it's doing my head in. Why is this happening?
Plus I'm embarassed because DH read this thread blush
He said he found it sweet what I said blushblush
He doesn't seem to be hesitant at all and I wish I was feeling like him.
Also I'm taking iron at the moment due to low ferritin levels, does anyone know if it would be harmful to the baby? I've been prescribed 72mg a day by a consultant and she didn't seem to think it was a problem if I did fall pregnant, on the contrary she prescribes it to pregnant women sometimes if they are low on ferritin, but I can't help feeling a bit cautious.
Does anyone have any idea about this?

QueenofClean Sun 10-Feb-13 10:53:55

Toffee the iron supplements are fine smile

I am tired, hungry, spotty and have a heavy feeling in my uterus. Am going to wait till Tuesday to poas. if I can

Fairypants Sun 10-Feb-13 17:59:47

Oh my goodness, I go away for one weekend and everyone gets upduffed!!! How exciting smile
Am feeling rather gloomy as my plans for ttc in April will have to put off for a month due to inconvenient timing (clashing with new year and both dd's were early so poss Xmas). Was feeling really fed up but all this positivity makes it easier to be patient.
And hello clarey, fingers x that you will get a BFP in a couple of days.

Clairey2012 Sun 10-Feb-13 18:45:41

Thanks fairy pants. Still no af today , gota keep my feet on th ground, cant help obsessing. Mc 3 and half months ago so jst wana get that bfp again. X

toffee01 Sun 10-Feb-13 21:32:27

Watched CTM tonight, and I didn't cry... I wept.
This is getting ridiculous I'm so emotional about this whole thing.

QueenofClean Mon 11-Feb-13 06:19:49

Well done toffee smile

I'm going to poas this morning. Think it's possibly to early so expecting a bfn as don't think we have been that lucky this month sad

Congrats moon and two girls. Part of me is jealous and part thinks thank god is someone else!!!!

Can you guys do a glossary of all the ttc abbreviations. Am a bit lost with what people are talking about!

Popsy, did you not bleed at all after coil removed? I haven't not one drop and am frustrated as don't know what's what!

QueenofClean Mon 11-Feb-13 06:34:43

Well I tested and got a bfn. Will test again if i'm late but think AF will show her face so I expect it now.

BFN = Big Fat Negative
BFP = Big Fat Positive
POAS = Peeing on a stick
2WW= 2 Week Wait
AF/The Witch = Auntie Flo

Hth

toffee01 Mon 11-Feb-13 09:41:18

Sorry Queen about your BFN, but at least you're only 30 so you can afford to lose a few months.
Especially the fact that you've only just started TTC.

metimeatlast Mon 11-Feb-13 10:18:10

sorry to hear of your bfn queen. Im sure that alot of us will be gringrin with joy at christmas time though when we are holding our new little bundles of joy being very presumptuous that we will have a good old shagfest and get our bfps within the next 2 months
im already getting broody over things like moses baskets and trying VERY hard not to pick bits up convincing myself that they will come in handy for when babes 3 arrives! (not preg at mo might i add!) just my bonkers side kicking in grin

smile offers a baby dust shower for us all to bask in cos hopefully this next 2weeks (for those of us with af) will be when it will be magic for us and do its job! best of luck ladies

moonblues Mon 11-Feb-13 10:58:20

Hi. Thanks for all your congratulations. I'm still a bit stunned to be honest! Congratulations to twogirls and (whispers) blondies. Sorry about your tests queen and popsy
Hi toffee. Agree iron supplements are totally fine. I've just been taking folic acid, but now wondering if I should be taking other stuff as well... Does anyone have advice? Should I be taking vit D too?
Sorry fairy that you're going to have to put off TTC for a bit. hopefully there will be a January baby for you.

moonblues Mon 11-Feb-13 11:59:23

Welcome clairey

Clairey2012 Mon 11-Feb-13 13:03:49

Wel got my af today, feel devastated, cried for 2hrs bt had to go to work n put a smile on my face cos with students all day. Jst wish th mc had never happed cos id b 6months now! Jst dnt understand y it hasnt happened again for me. I jst feel like giving up so I wnt b obsessing n dealing wit heart break every month. Got nothing else to focus on, like a holiday or summit. My postivity is down th drain! X

toffee01 Mon 11-Feb-13 14:01:56

Clairey I'm sorry for you. It will come soon I'm sure!! Don't despair! x

Stuck at home with unwell DD today. Nice to spend some girly time though smile

QueenofClean Tue 12-Feb-13 11:04:36

Clarey sorry that AF came. It will happen for you, try & stay positive.

So tired today and just want to eat. Am going to make some potato & leek soup for lunch. smile

PopsyWind Tue 12-Feb-13 19:44:51

Sorry you're fed up Clairey x

Hi Madame C, I had coil out 5w ago, had bleeding/spotting on and off for about 2w, then nothing since... confused

Hopefully will know where we're up to soon <drums fingers>

Thanks queen things make a bit more sense now!

I thought you were meant to bleed straight away popsy so hope am pregnant, although I think maybe part of me is imagining sore boobs and needing to go to the loo every 5 minutes. Have been in the loos at work more in the past 2 weeks than the last year!

PopsyWind Wed 13-Feb-13 09:05:34

Ooo sounds promising, are you testing soon?

I'm not planning on testing again for another wk, Tbh i can't see much chance of BFP as with all the bleeding there's not been much SWIing...

(probably tmi sorry!!)

BamBam21 Wed 13-Feb-13 11:46:51

Hi, can I join in please?smile

I have DS1 who is 9, and DS2 who will be 1 in 2 days time! I can't understand why I am so broody, but I am. We live in a tiny flat, and it would be a struggle in terms of space and money, but both DP and I really want another one. It took us almost 3 yrs to conceive DS2 (DS1 was with my
knobend ex-H) so hopefully it won't take so long this time, as I am already 35.

This seems like a lucky thread! Congrats to all those with BFPs already.smile

toffee01 Wed 13-Feb-13 21:40:46

Hi Bambam welcome! 35 already? You're a spring chicken I'm 37 (just mind!).
If I were 35 I would feel soooo much more confident in terms of TTC and the health of the baby. Strange innit? How much of a difference a couple of years can make, psychologically (and physically I would say).
In the last year I have noticed: Boobs facing a bit more southward.
Fat concentrating in belly and bottom area and hard to shift.
More wobbly all over.
All those things seemed to have happened overnight as well!
At one point I thought I was menopausal but my GP assures me I'm not.
Anyway, enough about me, I wish you all the best, I hope it happens quickly for you!

I'm on day 9 of cycle but really not sure when I'm supposed to be ovulating, usually I sense it, pain in ovary (left or right), more abundant CM, higher libido, spots.
DH still very keen. Me too. Kind of. Very broody and craving a big family, but scared... due to age.
But the more I wait, the more I'll be scared.
The ironic thing is, I'm thinking, shall I? Shall I not? But I might not even be successful should I decide to try.
At least I'll know if it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant to be.
Sorry for going on girls blush

PopsyWind Thu 14-Feb-13 07:41:04

Welcome Bambam

I agree toffee - I'm 37 soon and it feels a lot older than when I was TTC last time age 35...

Makes me a bit sad we didn't start earlier, me and DH were together for 10 years before DC came along.

I suppose I'm looking at a third as a bonus rather than something I'm desperate for, but sometimes the broodiness takes over....

BamBam21 Thu 14-Feb-13 10:22:09

Hi toffee and popsy!smile I thought I had killed the thread yesterday, but I guess since we are all TTC number 3 we are all a bit busy for MNing all day!grin It was a lot easier when I was pg with DS2 as DS1 was in school all day so I could nap and MN as much as I fancied!

toffee - I have also wondered if I am pre-menopausal at times, as just before AF I get really hot and find it hard to sleep, but I don't think I am, and periods are still very regular. Everything has been gradually moving south with me ever since DS1 was born!

popsy - I also wish that DP and I had started a family earlier, but DS1 was with my ex, and then when DP and I got together it took us ages to conceive. It's lovely in a way, because DS1 is a real little man now and helps me out no end!

Now here's a daft question, but I guess it's relevant when TTC. When do you count your AF as having actually "started"?? I have quite heavy AF, but for 2-4 days before I get pink/brown spotting that doesn't even need a pad. So, is CD1 the day that the spotting starts, or the day that the actual bleeding starts?confused I ask because we DTD last night, and I don't know whether I am on CD 11 or CD 14 now.

toffee01 Thu 14-Feb-13 11:26:20

No I think it's from your first red period if I remember well from TTC last time (6 years ago).
That's a point actually, I think I'm on day 9 but actually I'm on day 8 if I start from the first red day.
I wonder how red it needs to be before being classified as red?

Firstgold Thu 14-Feb-13 11:27:39

toffee - you sound like me!
DH and I cannot make our minds up. Both 1 of 3 and currently have 2 children, a girl and a boy of 2 and 4 respectively. We both work full time and pretty long hours so life is permanently a bit chaotic trying to juggle everything and frankly, sometimes it feels like we have no time for one another.
My son keeps asking me to go to the dr and get a baby put in my tummy (!) as he'd like a brother..
I'm 36 so feel like we need to make a decision pronto. I'm just worried that i'll find the early weeks post birth and the pregnancy exhausting. It has definitely been tricky to get my body back post DD's birth. Just beginning to feel fit again now, 2 years later. And our 2 kids are at such a brilliant stage..and it is so much easier now the youngest is 2, doesn't always need a nap etc. It feels like we've got our freedom back as a family. And I worry about money - which is very prosaic but there you have it. I don't want to feel constantly stretched and like we both have to work full pelt to make ends meet.

But part of me and DH things we should just go for it.. Not entirely sure what will make us decide one way or the other!

toffee01 Thu 14-Feb-13 14:40:23

Firstgold yes, very difficult. At the moment I feel nearly 99%.
And I know that DH is keen which I guess makes it easier.
If he was unsure, and I was unsure, then I would not do it. In fact, we talked about it about a year ago and we were both hesitant so we decided no.

But now things have changed and I feel like I "need" another one, my maternal instincts are definitely very present at the moment.
Plus I seem to see babies everywhere

chocoholicalcoholic Thu 14-Feb-13 20:29:53

Welcome new ladies!

Sorry to hear of the BFNs. Lots of luck for your next cycle.

Congrats on any BFPs I've missed, I haven't been on for a few days as I'm suffering dying from the flu. Actually bed bound right now which I just don't do!

How's everyone doing?

twogirlsandamessyhouse Thu 14-Feb-13 20:36:44

Firstgold- I could have written that myself, it sounded so familiar. I'm also 36 (37 in a few weeks) The indecision, the feeling that I've finally gotten fit (well... Relatively), the fear of exhaustion. My youngest is now 3 1/2 and bedtime is absolute hell, why oh why would I want this again, I asked myself...

What did it for me was a trip to the GP and the whispering of the words 'hmm- perimenopause'... That and a few family health shake-ups that made me start re-evaluating what's important in life.

Anyway good luck everyone for more BFP's! smile

twogirlsandamessyhouse Thu 14-Feb-13 20:38:54

PS I feel strange on here as we're not TTC anymore! Any other BFPs want to join another thread on 'becoming a parent'?

QueenofClean Fri 15-Feb-13 06:45:59

Choc hope you feel better soon.

AF is here today (no bleeding yet) although got cramps and usual stuff I get when AF is here. So end of feb beginning of feb will be our month.

chocoholicalcoholic Fri 15-Feb-13 07:32:03

Thank you Queen. Sorry to hear that af is on the way. Lots of luck for next month.

I got my BFP last night. Very happy but I'm feeling so ill, will it be ok in there? I haven't eaten a meal in 2 days, can't stop coughing which is making me sick but there's nothing to bring up. I ache from head to toe. My back is really sore from coughing and I haven't slept for more than 2 hours each night. Common sense is telling me that the little bean will be fine, it's only me that will suffer isn't it?

Sorry for the needy post.

Congrats choc I've had a stinking cold all week (thanks DD's!) said to my DH theres no way a little bean could be hanging on through all this coughing and sneezing, I've had some sharp twinges. I am expecting hoping sickness to probably kick in as soon as this cold clears! smile

Should we start an antenatal club for all of us, this thread is doing well on bfp's (those in the running for next month we will keep spaces warm!)

QueenofClean Fri 15-Feb-13 07:42:02

Congratulations Choc. The bean will be fine and you'll make up for the not eating when your well so don't worry too much!

<Waves to everyone else>

BamBam21 Fri 15-Feb-13 10:06:59

Ooh congratulations Choc! I knew this would be a lucky thread! The bean will be just fine. When I was first pg with DS1 (before I knew) I came down with a horrible virus and also hand, foot and mouth. I was knocking back nurofen with red wine like there was no tomorrow!blushgrin

Toffee - thanks for that! Nobody has ever given me a straight answer as to when AF actually officially "starts" before. That means today is CD12 for me.

It's DS2's first birthday today!! I can't believe it has come around so soon, and I actually feel a bit hormonal and weepy about the whole thing. Maybe DTD two nights ago has caught us a bean! It's actually a bit of an anti-climax as DP's evil witch boss wouldn't let him take today off, so he won't be in until nearly 5 tonight, so we will do presents etc then, and DS1 stayed with his gran last night as it's half-term here and he isn't home yet. We are having a wee "do" on Sunday but it would have been nice to celebrate on the actual day.

<waves to all>

toffee01 Fri 15-Feb-13 11:46:31

Bambam happy birthday to your little one! How lovely just one day after Valentine's day.
That's ok regarding AF, this is what I remember from last time, I hope it's correct. Google it just in case.
I'm on CD 9 today. We did it last night (unprotected) but it's not the right time. We'll try and do it every other day or more for the next 10 days or so, to be on the safe side.
I'm sure DH won't complain. wink
Congratulations Choco, how fantastic. I hope you feel better soon though!
I'm sure baby will be fine even though you have the flu. xx

QueenofClean Sun 17-Feb-13 13:14:05

2 days late but poas yesterday and said BFN.

So just waiting now!

QueenofClean Mon 18-Feb-13 06:58:18

Poas again this morning as still no AF and BFN. Just want AF to arrive now so we can crack on and make a Nov baby wink

toffee01 Mon 18-Feb-13 08:19:51

you never know queenthis month could be it. Good luck to you! xx

BamBam21 Mon 18-Feb-13 09:42:45

Ooh Queen, fingers crossed for you! Is it unusual for you to be a bit late? Do you have any symptoms? <nosy emoticon>grin

DS2's birthday was lovely. We had a wee do yesterday with the grannies, and had his cake etc, and then had a walk to the park (it was lovely weather here yesterday) and he had his first shot on the baby swing there.

CD15 for me today. I am keeping positive for this month, even though we have only DTD once (last week). Once a month isn't really adequate is it??grin Unfortunately we are both so tired all the time, and DS2 is still in our room (as we have nowhere else to put him), so that's a bit of a passion killer really!

QueenofClean Mon 18-Feb-13 11:39:08

Bam Bam - Very unusual for me to be late I'm bang on the dot 28 days normally. Def don't feel pregnant, no symptoms, not like with DD2 I knew I was preggers before I even took a test and that was 4 days before AF was due! Just need her to get here now so we can crack on with making a nov baby grinwink

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Mon 18-Feb-13 16:10:10

Hiya all, just decided try for third so thought I would join your thread! Started thread this morn re testing at 8dpo, dtd right around when should ov (not certain I did tho and haven't temps etc) and had pinky cm (tmi but has to be said!) yesterday, so about 5 days after dtd. Also bit crampy this morn and yest eve, never noticed any of that with first two preg. But nor was I looking for it! Just waiting now, surely must hav ov by now as am cd 20 and have a 30/31 day cycle. Or could i be yet to ov? Gosh just so complicated and end up going round in circles with it all. Haven't tested yet but have read some people get + even at 8/9dpo with my symptoms but can't imagine would be anything other than bfn this early, also have a feeling could just be very early af symptoms. Tells self step away from tests. Good luck everyone and hope for some Bfps. Hope you ok queen, waiting is rubbish, I was 3 days late in dec. looks like maybe early this month tho going by cramps and spots.

metimeatlast Mon 18-Feb-13 16:38:25

good afternoon ladies, am i right in thinking that for a lot of us it will be that time of the month to start trying again??? then oooh the 2ww!! what joys sad well here goes for the trying for our BFPs good luck to all, and congrats to those that managed theirs, save us all a seat on your thread wink

ps, isnt it a passion killer with a teen in one room and todler in the other, trying not to disturb?? we manage to dtd when teen goes to college, and toddler is watching telly, those crisps she isnt allowed come in mighty handy for a quicky wink

would it be wrong to ask how others manage "hiding" and trying not to disturb the DC?? tips would be much appreciated, as pd is not the father of dc and although teen (16) knows that me and dp want a child between us, id hate to hear us as id be embarrassed, only being 38 and all grin

Hi, coming a bit late to this but have really enjoyed reading posts and feeling like less of a freak! RL friends think going for number 3 would be crazy and sometimes i agree with them!

I have DS nearly 6 and DD 3.8 who are great and i love our family the way it is. Financially not too bad but have to be careful. Our house is big enough but would need to replace our car to get 3 seats in the back. We both teach but i am part time. Looks like half term has coincided with halfway through my cycle so we actually have a chance of me being in mood for SWI!

Am terrified but going for it anyway. I don't like being pg due to spd and lack of wine. I don't relish the newborn stage either to be honest. What are we doing?! grin

AF today I think. Can't believe how bloody disappointed I feel!!!

QueenofClean Mon 18-Feb-13 20:01:30

Told my GP we were trying for no3 today and he nearly spat his drink out lol! Told him I was late but getting BFN & that I don't feel pregnant he said if I don't have a period by beginning of next week to call him.

moonblues Mon 18-Feb-13 21:06:40

Just sneaking back to say congratulations to Choc and good luck to all the new ladies on the thread - it seems to be a lucky one smile
Metime my 2 are younger and so we relied on early bedtimes or tv. Not sure how parents who have teenagers manage it!
Blondies if you start a thread I'll join you. I've been posting on the Oct one, but it's very busy.

Newtothisstuff Mon 18-Feb-13 21:40:53

In ttc number 3 grin dd1 is 6 dd2 is 9 months, we've been trying pretty much since Dd2 was born, I wanted a smaller age gap and to get our family complete ASAP it just doesn't seem to want to happen right now !!! I've started using a basal thermometer now so hopefully it helps

Bumpkinmunchkin Mon 18-Feb-13 21:59:28

Hi ladies, would yous mind another ttc'er #3? I haven't read through all the thread but I gather there have been many happy bfp's already. So congrats to all.

My story is I'm 41, have 2 dc aged 7 & 5, had mmc last year and no luck since. Dithered for years whether to ttc for #3 or not. Financial worry being the main one and now age has become another. Was devastated after mc and took long time to get over it emotionally and physically. Was very worried I am in early menopause as af cycles very very irregular since erpc. Went to gp last week and she said it was normal and not to worry but took some bloods to test hormones. I did stress myself out last year temping, using opk's etc so I gave it all up before Xmas and now trying to be more natural and casual about it.

PopsyWind Tue 19-Feb-13 08:06:48

Hi newto and bumpkin!

Well AF finally arrived this am - over 6wks after coil taken out and had 2wks solid of PMT grrr

Kind of knew I wasn't pg (though that didn't stop me wasting £££ on tests...)

Good luck to those still on 2WW
xx

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Tue 19-Feb-13 14:59:17

Hi everyone, hope this is indeed a lucky thread!
Fruit- my rl friends/fam think a bit mad ttc 3 and part of me agrees but just seems right for us.....if it would happen soon enough however!
Sorry popsy hope lucky next time, I also wasted ££ this morn on frer but prob still way to early! Knew I shouldn't have but found myself purchasing then poas! No more. Had even more pms symptoms today, af due in a week, started having cramps etc on Sunday which was way too early for me so still kind of hoping was implantation but now feels more like af symptoms.....arrrgh! Waiting waiting is just so frustrating, will try resist frer until at least nxt Tuesday!, if that's neg too then will be :-( surprised how much I want it to happen now it's taking so long. Good luck to u all.

MaybeAgain Tue 19-Feb-13 20:28:06

Hi, I think I posted earlier on in this thread, well done to those with BFPs.

I feel like a bit of a fraud posting really as we're not actively TTC until April. I came off the pill last month and have been taking folic acid in preparation, DH is still not fully on board for April yet but I'm working on him.

As we're having to use condoms, which we both don't really like, we ended up having unprotected sex on Saturday. According to the app I have on my iPhone, I should have ovulated the day before. I know that there is probably the smallest, tiniest possibility of me being pregnant, as I've not yet had the 'real' period since stopping the pill so may not even have ovulated, but it's not stopping me hoping and wishing like a mad woman.

Also, I've had the weirdest feelings since being off the pill, it's like I can feel everything starting to fire up again, and I had the mucus too (this website has informed me about so much that I never even noticed before). I've been off the pill quite a few times but its the first time I've paid attention to my body.

Think I should say that my DH is totally aware that I'm not currently on the pill, he agreed with me coming off it last month so knew that the sex was unprotected.

So, do you think there is any real chance of a BFP? Or am I just clutching at straws? I would love us to be TTC right now, I've been ready for a long time. Wish DH would just decide properly but maybe he's not wanting to make a 'final' decision and leave it up to me, he can be quite indecisive.

AF due 1st March, in the past (when not on pill) I've been pretty regular.

Am I a crazy, mad woman?

toffee01 Tue 19-Feb-13 21:35:47

Newto and *Bumpkin welcome and good luck!
Metime, regarding the "hiding" while DTD, usually ours are asleep and our door is closed, so they don't hear us.
Fruitpastille welcome and good luck, just to let you know that I feel exactly the same as you, I am wondering wheather I am crazy to want a third.
How old are you?
I don't know wheather I'm ovulating, but I certainly have the EWCM today, does that mean I will be ovulating in a couple of days?
We did it yesterday (I don't suppose it was any use), but the trouble is, tomorrow night and the night after that are out as we are staying in a hotel for a couple of nights, and the kids are sharing a bedroom with us sad.
How can I sort that out? Otherwise I'll waste a month.

toffee01 Tue 19-Feb-13 21:38:18

Sorry I can't even spell tonight, I meant to say "whether" not "wheather".

toffee01 Tue 19-Feb-13 21:55:26

PS: I'm on CD13 and noticed some EWCM, so does that mean i'm ovulating now or in 2 days time?

QueenofClean Wed 20-Feb-13 00:55:03

Toffee I'd say ovulating now.

toffee01 Wed 20-Feb-13 11:21:14

Thanks Queen, we'll try and do our best while away but didn't do it last night, hope it's not too late. Any news for you queen?

QueenofClean Wed 20-Feb-13 11:23:16

Well I poas this morning and BFN and AF made her appearance about half hour ago. So can concentrate on making a Nov baby wink

I am 37 toffee. I kind of feel a bit now or never about number 3 as i would prefer a smaller age gap. DS and DD are two and a bit years apart and get on well mostly so i worry a bit about a third feeling left out and we definitely can't afford 4! We might have done it earlier but i left a job that had become stressful and since then had a temporary contract so had to wait to get a more permanent position. If it works out i am considering child.minding though. I feel like everything is on hold until we know for sure about number 3!

Have dtd 3 times this week around halfway through cycle (this much dtd is unheard of!). DD was result of careless one off so i feel like a bfp is quite possible. I could be sharing my birthday potentially!! Have to admit to savoring a few glasses of wine this week just in case i have to give it up...

toffee01 Wed 20-Feb-13 21:14:13

fruit I'm 37 too, but my youngest is nearly 6. I wanted a smaller gap but we were so indecisive that we decided against it a couple of years ago. Now our situation has changed so it would be much easier financially, but I'm older and the gap is bigger, but we are both keen although terrified (me).

Newtothisstuff Thu 21-Feb-13 06:59:31

I'm 32. Youngest 9 months oldest 6 ! Definitely want a small age gap for my last one. I've been charting temp. Anyone else ??? I just don't get it. How much would your temp dip before ovulation ?? One day it was 36.46 and the next 36.19 is that enough of a dip to be the before ovulation dip ?? (Lots of dips) now it's up to 36.91 (4 says after the 36.19) it's all confusing to me

kimmy2912 Thu 21-Feb-13 09:04:46

we are ttc #4 i have just finished my period and baby making starts tonight smile

metimeatlast Thu 21-Feb-13 09:40:15

another one here who never paid much notice of cm, or ovulation times. i managed to click on a website yesterday that showed me pictures of it...yuk to say the least! but it certainly was informative to see the differences and know exactly what to look for! this is now my 5day window for ov roughly according to the calculator, so im hoping that the two times we managed to dtd before dp went away for a couple of days did the trick, although he is back saturday so we will have another couple of goes that will still be in the window. then its just the waiting game again.
there should be a sits back and waits emoticon grin
good luck for all those bfps ladies for all of you who have got AF due before me, hope she stays away and we have all made our november beans grin

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Thu 21-Feb-13 11:03:17

Waves to all smile seems as though we all have good approach to #3 project! Lots of dtd at more or less the right time is a great start! I really don't know what the ewcm stuff means at diff times, I have more now tmi......euuuugh! But am due af next week and thought ov was last week?! Now wondering if actually ov late, and concerned as even if dtd then not long enough before af for implantation, read that luteal phase needs be about 12 days or so. Hmmmm. Metime I think I have seen a similar website! Was indeed informative. Sorry to say I poas again yest!! Bfn no surprise! Still a bit early so will try another stick before af due. Thought I saw a line as test was running and then line on control window took ages appear and was right over to the side rather than in the middle like usual, was weird, sure means nothing tho!

BamBam21 Fri 22-Feb-13 09:55:28

Hi everyone! I hope you are all fine. I am useless at keeping up with threads!blush

I try to ignore all the EWCM etc FireAlarm. Almost three years of obsessively checking, monitoring etc, and the when I finally thought, "Oh sod it, this is never going to happen", we conceived DS2! Fingers crossed that you are upduffed though, and just tested a bit early.smile

CD19 (or thereabouts) for me today. We only DTD once at roughly the right time this month, so I can't see a BFP for me this month. It's not over 'til the Evil Red Witch sings though!grin

metimeatlast Sat 23-Feb-13 19:22:44

hi ladies, how are we all?
well its 10days for me before AF is due, we dtd 5+6 days ago which according to the ovulation calendar which said 10-16 days is approx ovulating time based on a 28day cycle. and for the past 2 /3 days ive been wiped out, in bed by 8pm, last night had mild pains in my ovaries, today had to swap bras, as my old trustee ones have given me shoulder ache for 2 days! and today TMI when i went to the loo my cm was slightly stained between red/brown. so im hoping with all my heart that these are some good signs!?

Newtothisstuff Sat 23-Feb-13 22:43:12

Anyone experienced implantation pains?? , it's 8 days until AF is due and my womb feels like its about to explode, my boobs are killing too !! !!

toffee01 Sun 24-Feb-13 12:08:46

Metime sounds quite promising! I hope it's a BFP for you.
I kind of remember implantation pains New, from my last 2 pregnancies, the first one was kind of a stabbing pain, and I had to lie down, and I also felt a pressure in my (tmi) rectum.

I went to the doctors about it and he thought I had PCOS at the time and said it could have been a cyst bursting, but looking back I think it was implantation.

For the second one, I felt a quick stabbing pain again, while I was dancing (confused) but that passed quite quickly.
I suspected when that happened that I was pg but looking back, I think it was implantation.

I'm on CD 18 and we did it on CD 14, 16 and 17 around my OV. I had EWCM on CD13 up to CD17. That's weird isn't it? Normally that stringy CM doesn't last that long?
I woke up in the middle of the night on CD15 with a pain in my left ovary which I associate with OV, but we hadn't done it that night, so I hope the surrounding times we did it were sufficient.
My nipples are sore and I feel nauseous, but I am not banking on that AT ALL, as it's happened before and I wasn't pg.
I'll wait and see now. I'm expecting my period in about 10 to 14 days, depending on the length of the cycle.
But if I ovulated on day 15, that means AF should turn up on about day 30?
Is that correct?

BamBam21 Mon 25-Feb-13 09:40:19

Ooh good luck toffee and metime! I hope it will be BFPs all round!smile

Newtothisstuff - are you me?grin AF is due in a week, and on Saturday night I was kept awake for ages with a really sore pain, really low down and spreading out to the sides. Ever since I have had dull, AF type aches but no spotting etc. Boobs are starting to get a bit sore too. Like the silly arse I am, I did a test last night (not even an early result one!blush) but BFN of course. Also feel a bit sick and sweaty, and couldn't sleep last night, but I often get that before AF anyway. It's more the strange pain on Saturday that is confusing me, as I have never had that before.

toffee01 Mon 25-Feb-13 13:23:37

Never mind Bam, it's probably too early. Do you reckon that weird pain was implantation then?
I'm probably symptom spotting but, I have noticed that my nipples were red the other day, and sore, and now I have noticed little brown bumps on them.
I'm not sure if they have always been there though. But I know I had a lot of them when I was pregnant.
Any thought on that?
Bam I also got period type cramps on saturday (which was CD15).
Anyway it's probably nothing, let's not raise my hopes up sad
I will not do a test though, I have promised myself, until AF turns up.

toffee01 Mon 25-Feb-13 13:23:57

Sorry I meant to say, until after AF is due.

Hi everyone - so jealous of all you who will be going over to the 'due' thread. Was shocked when I got AF - I stupidly thought we would just get pregnant straight away.

It's silly isn't it - when we decide we want something these days we just go out and get it - but can't bloody do that with TTC!

Was thinking of buying one of those ovulation kit things to see when I ovulate but DH says he doesn't want to turn it into a big to do - think he is worried about the pressure getting to him - but if I don't know when I bloody ovulate we will have to be at it like rabbits - which is not what I need at the moment!

Fingers crossed for you toffee and bam.

toffee01 Mon 25-Feb-13 18:19:21

Madame I know what you mean, I kind of think I'm gonna be pregnant now, that it only takes a month.
I forget than even when I was younger (31) it took 3 months! And even longer (9 months) when I was even younger (26), although that time we weren't trying.
So I'm sure this time it will take a few goes.
Madame why don't you buy one anyway? You don't have to tell your DH when you are ovulating so that he won't feel pressurised, but at least you will have some sort of clue?
I keep having that niggly feeling in my right ovary, just like I had when I was pregnant the 2 previous times. It's like a stich.

Newtothisstuff Mon 25-Feb-13 18:44:31

Haha BamBam.. I tested today and got a big fat negative..I've been rather grumpy today too hmm I'm feeling AF is defo on its way although not due for 6 days ! Better luck next month, ill keep my fingers well and truly crossed for you

metimeatlast Mon 25-Feb-13 19:21:15

ohh good luck toffee and bambam fingers crossed!
i just cant shift these weird feelings in my stomach, its like the iminent witch is on her way! Im trying to keep myself in check though besides the symptom spotting as its only our 1st month ttc, and not only that its also only weeks 4-5 of actually studying my body routines, so for all i know these silly twinges and possible signs that im now experiencing may well happen every month, just that i havent noticed it until now!
I still cant shift the bad shoulder though sad
madame id defo go n buy the opk without discussing it if it will help! like others have said, then you will have a better idea and hubby doesnt need to know, just put it down to womens things! as most men arent into the when why where how, just the wehey! grin iyswim.
best of luck girlies, and now its countdown time....
there should be a sits and taps fingers emoticon lol

pixie0602 Tue 26-Feb-13 08:40:06

Hi mind if I join in? Am ttc #3 but actually it's out 1st time actually trying ad dd1&2 were surprises blush

BamBam21 Tue 26-Feb-13 09:58:51

Hi pixie! Welcome to the thread. Have you been TTC#3 for long? How old are your dds?

Fingers still crossed for you toffee. Not sure about the nipple thing, as mine didn't change at all until later in pg, but you never know. I think some people experience changes sooner than others.

Newtothis I also feel like AF could turn up any time. Ever since the pain on Saturday night, I have had a heavy, dragging feeling very low down. No sign of any spotting yet, which I always get for 3 days or so before AF turns up. Due on Sunday, so will just have to be patient!

Madame yes I think you should give the OPKs a go even just for a couple of months, so that you feel in control of when you ov etc. I reckon TTC (esp if it takes a while) can really mess with your head, and it helps massively if you feel you have even a tiny bit of control.

Where is Queen these days? Wasn't she to go to the doctor if AF hadn't turned up? Come back and see us Queen!*

*Disclaimer - I am rubbish at following threads, so apologies if I have missed something!grin

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 11:12:45

Thanks for the welcome bam bam.. We're only on our 1st month ttc#3. My dds are 11 and nearly 7... But this will be dh first. Finding it all a bit overwhelming didn't realise it was such a science shock

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 11:13:38

Sorry name change... Just to confuse things <insert evil laugh here>wink

toffee01 Tue 26-Feb-13 12:43:48

Hi rainbow welcome! So you will have quite a big gap too then, my DD is 8 and DS 5 (nearly 6). Are you hoping for a DS? Or not fussed?

Thanks Bambam, you're probably right, the nipple thing is probably nothing.

I'm imagining all those symptoms I'm sure. Do you know why I'm sure?

Because I stupidly POAS and got a BFN sadsadsad

I know I promised myself that I wouldn't until AF was due but I bought the test from the pound shop and couldn't help myself, I thought I would only lose one pound.
AF is due in 7 to 10 days, I know it's still early to test but surely there would be some kind of a line. Here: nothing, just a blank white window.

I had really convinced myself that I was this month sad

I know it's the first month and all that but... I was kind of hoping...

BamBam21 Tue 26-Feb-13 13:08:48

Oh toffee, join me in the "prats that POAS too early" club!grin Really though, it is too early, so don't be totally put off. I am telling myself that too, after POAS this morning (Clearblue) and getting BFN. It's meant to be 56% accurate 4 days before AF, which would mean Thursday at the earliest for me.

Lovely new name rainbows - it's sure to bring you luck!smile I have a big gap between DS1(9) and DS2(1) too. It's lovely really. Not sure how I will cope if we get lucky and have a small age gap! Would you like a DS or another DD, or not bothered? <whispers - I would love a DD next time>

toffee01 Tue 26-Feb-13 13:24:44

Yes bambam, I am definitely a PRAT!!
It has put me off, and I had completely convinced myself I was, I have that twinge thing in my right ovary which I only every got with my two previous pregnancies, I have painful breasts (unusual for me, normally it's just my nipples after (TMI) sex), and I have permanantly sticky out nipples.
Very very erect, all.the. time!
So that's why I was very hopeful. Who knows, maybe that test was wrong (hopeful).

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 13:35:17

Bam bam and toffee.. Are you worried about the age gap? It's like starting all over again... Just when I've got some sort of life back confused finally got a job I enjoy and a teeny tiny social life ( I work for dh so that's not a big deal really- just worries me that ill have to go back to work a couple of hours a week pretty much straight after I have the baby). If love a ds but that's a secret shhhhwink

BamBam21 Tue 26-Feb-13 13:44:27

I will keep everything crossed for you toffee. (Adopts very wobbly yoga-type pose!) It certainly sounds like something is going on. TBH I reckon I am probably out this month, as my main symptom with both pregnancies was no symptoms! I always get all the usual AF aches and pains, but nothing at all when I was actually pg. But maybe as it's only a year since DS2 was born, things would be different.confused

Rainbows I was a bit worried about the big age gap, but it's actually lovely. DS1 is a great help and adores his wee brother, and the wee one lights up whenever he sees him. The only thing I feel bad about is that DS1 had such a long time getting all the attention, and I think that sometimes he feels a bit put out, but it never lasts long and will change as DS2 gets more mobile and independent.

<we won't tell a soul!wink>

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Tue 26-Feb-13 14:04:53

Hello everyone, toffee I also poas twice today and bfn! Such pants. Af due in four days and I used frer so am faintly hoping it just too early and wasn't fmu but have been getting af type achey back I sometimes get so trying to psych self up for march instead, just wish af would show up and go so can have another try, am worried too many months passing and age gaps widening and me getting older!
Bambam I am the same no af symptoms when testing first two pregs and I just knew! Now days its symptom spotting crazy lady and trying not to get too down every month that passes with no bfp. Any tips ladies on coping with this? Am usually ok once it starts, it's just those couple days before when I have awful cramps and I just know its bfn!

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 14:13:13

Bam bam. I'm glad ds1 is good with 2.. My two are the same but dd1 is getting to be such a moody little sod... I really shouldn't call her little shes as tall as me (5ft4 and a size 8blush)... Dd2 will be fantastic I think she's brill with my friends 10 month old ds....

Keeping everythin crossed for everyone who's testing xx

toffee01 Tue 26-Feb-13 14:28:34

OOh! Sweet! I know my DD would be fantastic with a 3rd!
This morning she woke up and said: "I had a dream that you gave birth to a little boy and I went to see him a the hospital and we were going to take him home, but then I woke up. It was a good dream but I was not happy that it wasn't real"
Oh bless her! Yesterday out of the blue she said: Mummy you're pregnant! I was very surprised but then she said "Daddy you're pregnant too!", I think she sarcastically meant that we are fat!
It's weird because we hardly talk about that to her, apart from once ages ago when I asked her if she would like a little brother or sister.

I wonder if she senses something.

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 14:41:00

Aww bless that's so sweet.. My dd1 knew I was pregnant with dd2 when my ex p DEAD grandfather told her!! But that's a story for a different day!!

metimeatlast Tue 26-Feb-13 16:00:22

hey toffee you must be due af at the same time as me, im due arround 5-7th march. I also did the poas without using fmu today and got a bfn, another one here who does sneaky trips to poundland grin
Personally i think that this is all goina drive me barmy! hopefully some bfps within the next week or so for us xx

Newtothisstuff Tue 26-Feb-13 18:23:47

I'm due in 5 days now hmm I've usually been ok when AF has arrived but I was absolutely convinced this month was THE month !! I've been symptom spotting like crazy I'm convinced my boobs hurt haha I'm sure they don't !! My fingers are firmly crossed for you all grin

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Tue 26-Feb-13 19:32:39

I'm keeping everythin crossed for everyone... Actually not everythin wink supposed to be dtd as much as possible as due to ov the end of the week and since me and dh don't live together it makes life a little awkward to say the least x

toffee01 Tue 26-Feb-13 20:35:59

Yes metime for me AF is due between the 5th and 8th of March.
Even after that BFN from the poundland test I'm still convinced I am pregnant.
Earlier I almost had a shock when I undressed for my shower. My nipples seem HUGE. I'm sure they've enlarged.
I showed them to DH who took a lot of interest and looked at them thoroughly, only to tell me in the end that "nope, they've always been like that" angry
Well if that's the case then I have always had very freaky nipples.
Also last night I tried to sleep on my tummy, no way my boobies were too sore. What's the deal with that then if it's not pregnancy?
Well metime, I hope at least one of us gets a BFP in March! Good luck to you!

Newtothisstuff Tue 26-Feb-13 20:54:30

Wow toffee that sounds really promising, I remember being like that when I was pregnant with DD2 ! grin

metimeatlast Wed 27-Feb-13 09:00:40

well toffee i doubt it will be me, dp wreckons that im not havnt told him about my symptom spotting as he says i talk about babies too much anyway i have no symptoms left whatsoever now, not even a wiff of a line with fmu this morning, funnily enough i never got any lines with DD 3 years ago until i was late, then only the faintest of faint on 2 sticks days later. ds16 still jokes about cos he found them in my handbag a few weeks ago and they still had the lines! (they were in my handbag due to me at the time taking them to my mate and sayin is there or not a line haha) and i just hadnt used that bag in a while but do now. im not holding out much hope though to be honest, i dont feel at all positive for this month, and my mate says ive had my pmt head on that i used to get about 1-2 weeks prior to af grin and looking back over the last few days she isnt wrong, however i had put my grouchiness down to it being half term... and having one or both hungry, crying, fighting or bored and just not getting that break that college and pre-school bring.

PopsyWind Wed 27-Feb-13 09:32:12

Good luck to those about to test - Toffee your symptoms sound very promising!
Actually your's do too Metime, I think I've said before but the cycles I was preg in the past have been the ones with no signs at all...

I'm in the no mans land between AF finishing and shagathon starting.... On the plus side I can have lovely booze without feeling guilty wine

BamBam21 Wed 27-Feb-13 09:50:30

Hi all!

Still all sounding positive for you toffee. I was grin about your DH taking lots of time to examine your boobs!grin

Rainbow I love your story about your DD "knowing" you were pregnant! DS1 still tells me that he sees my gran, who died when he was just 3 weeks old, and that she talks to him.smile

There is nothing like TTC to make you go a bit mad. Like others, my main pregnancy symptom was having no symptoms at all, and yet I tell myself that every pregnancy is different and you just never know etc etc. Argh! My boobs are a bit sore, and I have a small spot on my chin, so AF is no doubt coming, but can I stop myself thinking differently? Oh no!grinblush

Now this may be the wrong thread, but as you all have DC already you maybe can help. I am looking for easy foods for DS2 to eat, as I feel that everything he eats is out of a Hipp jar!blush He loves when I cook shepherds pie, soup etc, but I can only cook at the weekends as our flat is so tiny I can't take him in the kitchen with me. He only got his first tooth at about 11mths (he has just turned 1) and now has 2 bottom teeth and 1 top. He has always been a bit gaggy with food, but strangely not with home cooked stuff. Basically, what could I give him that's not out a jar? Is he too wee to have apple slices? If he had carrot sticks would they have to be cooked first? Could he have slices of crusty bread etc?

I feel a bit blush asking this as he is my second baby, but DS1 just ate anything and everything, and it was 9 years ago and I am getting geriatric and forgetful!grin

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 11:01:59

Bam bam it frightened the life out of me... I was so careful not to mention being pg around her incase somethin happened and the day we told her she said 'yes mummy I know.. Bampy x told me!!' He use to visit her regularly as she was sleepin in his old room! She grew out of it tho bit even now she's obsessed with ghosts and the paranormal!

Just had a very positive ov test so will be dtd tonight whether dh wants to or not!!!! grin

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 11:05:25

Bloody iPhone!

Try anythin and everythin with ds bam bam... If your doin apple slices make them chunky and take the peel off abs they'll be fine... I would say raw carrots as they are crunchier and less likely to break off.. Cucumber sticks with the peel off?

chocoholicalcoholic Wed 27-Feb-13 11:10:46

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I haven't been on for a while and only then it was a me me me post. I hope everyone is well and enjoying ttc wink

BamBam toffee Queen three - thank you for your well wishes but unfortunately things didn't work out. I had a mc last week. It was such early days at 5+2 but wow I didn't realise how much it would floor me. I feel a bit all over the place emotionally but I think a lot of that is because I'm still not quite over the flu, I still feel a bit weak and pathetic! Not sure where we are going from here as we both feel a bit, I dunno...scared I think? I can't believe how much it has affected us when we had only known I was pg for just over a week! Crazy really.

Good luck to you all ttc number 3 smile

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 11:27:08

So sorry choc my friends goin thru the same thing at the mo is her 6mc... 2nd in 4 months ....

Keep resting and look after yourself (((hugs)))

BamBam21 Wed 27-Feb-13 11:31:10

Oh I'm so sorry chocoholic. Look after yourself, and remember you can always come here to moan/vent/hand-hold etc if you want to.

Thanks for your reply rainbow. Is apple okay at this age? I am terrified of giving him something that he might choke on. I remember DS1 eating all sorts of stuff, but I can't remember quite what age he was!

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 11:51:30

If you worried.. You can get a net type thing that you put the food in your ds would it and them chew or suck the net for whatever's in there... But id honestly try him with apple to hold or you hold and let him have a good gnaw on it.. Or you could start him with home made chunky apple sauce to get him started?

Home made wedges are always good too smile

BamBam21 Wed 27-Feb-13 12:41:54

Thanks rainbow. I don't know why am being so cautious as I was quite happy to give DS1 pretty much anything (within reason!). Did anyone else find that they felt less confident in general with baby number 2 than they did with their first? I wonder if it's because of the bigger age gap.hmm

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 13:14:35

I was exactly the same bam bam and will probably be 10x worse on #3... I think our age has alot to do with it to be honest x

BamBam21 Wed 27-Feb-13 13:21:47

You could be right rainbow. I was a sprightly 25 when DS1 was conceived, and now I am a matronly (almost) 36!grin I just seem to prevaricate constantly over decisions with DS2, whereas I just did stuff with DS1. Funny really.

I made DS2 a cheese sandwich for lunch, and he loved it! He would usually have had a jar of something, so I am really chuffed that he liked it. I am also thinking he might like skinless sausages, and maybe tomato or lentil soup mushed with bread, as he loves my homemade soup but I can only make that at the weekend!

Rainbowsandpotsofgold Wed 27-Feb-13 13:42:55

Could you freeze some? And defrost it? Over cooked rice so it's gloppy is another one?

I'm rackin my brains to think what dd2 used to eat!! Dh won't be pleased I'm supposed to be workin shock I'm just having an overly long coffee break smile

toffee01 Wed 27-Feb-13 15:15:05

Choco I am so sorry! Make sure you get plenty of rest if you can, I hope you're being looked after xxx

Bambam I had sent you a message on this thread earlier but it's nowhere to be found now! God knows what happened to it.
Anyway I was saying have you tried Annabel Carmel's books? They are fantastic.
I use to do big batches of her recipes and freeze the rest. It's really easy.
When they were really little I used to freeze things in icecube trays, but when they were a bit older I used pots, or freezer bags. I used to find it so rewarding to cook them my own stuff (at least I knew what was in it!!)
Hope that helped.

metimeatlast Wed 27-Feb-13 15:32:18

aw,sorry to hear your news choc hears sending you big hug (()). when i read your post this morning it did bring a tear for me too, its not nice to just get your head round it then it be taken within such a short time. take care x

Newtothisstuff Wed 27-Feb-13 18:22:41

Sorry to hear your news choc hmm

I stupidly stupidly POAS earlier B F N AF due in 4 days hmmwhy do we do this to ourselves

BamBam21 Thu 28-Feb-13 10:12:42

Sorry about BFN newtothis. Just remember though, it's not over 'til the Evil Red Witch makes an appearance!

Thanks toffee. I might have a look at Annabel Karmel on my kindle. I am thinking of stuff like slices of French stick, cheese, sausages etc. Stuff that's really quick to make, as I can't take him into my tiny kitchen with me and don't want to have to leave him in his high chair while I cook!grin At the weekend I will make soup, mince etc and maybe freeze some, as he loves it. I am going to try to give more finger foods now, as he seems interested in it whereas he never was before!

Still no sign of Queen? Hope you are okay dearie.smile

toffee01 Thu 28-Feb-13 13:52:03

Bambam in that case yes I would recommend giving him a hole apple which has been peeled and then he can nipple on it, but I was always nervous about finger food, in case they bite off a big chunk or something.
I use to cook some frozen veg and give them that as finger food, at least I knew they were limp and soft.
But honestly, freezing is less of a performance than people think. smile

toffee01 Thu 28-Feb-13 13:53:49

OMG! Nibble not nipple! How embarassing! I should definitely preview my messages. blush but you knew what I meant

Hi everyone, sorry not been keeping up with the thread but clearly toffee egress a bit obsessed with nipples grin

Choc, look after yourself.

I am thinking about testing over the weekend as i think af is due on sat. I am also over thinking possible boob tenderness and faint metallic taste (probably just too much tea!). I need to remember to do it first thing in the morning which is tricky while half asleep!

Not sure what is going on with my predictive text. Egress, wtf?

toffee01 Fri 01-Mar-13 12:49:04

Hi fruit yes, definitely obsessed! But at least i'm not the only one who doesn't preview her messages!! (what on earth did you mean by "egress"? wink

Good luck fruit for when you test! I nearly tested this morning, opened the test went to the toilet and then I told myself "No! It's silly, don't be a child!".
After all AF isn't due until the 5th or even later, so a cheaper Poundland test wouldn't be sensitive enough to detect any hormone changes I'm sure.

Now.... does it matter if I opened the test? Not the cap but the protective foil type thing.

Will it still be good in a week's time?

I'm not that positive about my symptoms anymore. I was very ratty this morning, I can't help thinking that AF is on its way.

Although my nipples are a funny pinky colour and they stick out. Maybe it doesn't mean anything.
I will know soon enough.

Keep us posted fruit (can't wait till tomorrow hopefully you will let us know asap!!) x grin

I can hardly wait till tomorrow myself! I have really started to feel like it will be positive so could be in for disappointment.

I reckon a test will be fine out of the pack.

I am feeling quite guilty as i drank about half a bottle of wine at my book group last night. Stupid, i should have just had a glass and that would have seemed ok as i do have the odd glass while pg usually. I dont know what i was thinking.

How is everyone else doing?

metimeatlast Fri 01-Mar-13 19:53:06

oh for gods sakes! i have just been out and spent a tenner on a boots 2pack, rushed trying to do the test, when i opened it without reading the bloody leaflet i took the wrapper off, soaked it in a pot of pee for 10 seconds, then found the fatter stick digi part that ya stick it in, so then thought how odd... shoved it in anyway for it to display "see leaflet"....id only soaked the wrong end in piss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now the test isnt working. tadaaaa!
angryblush

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Sat 02-Mar-13 00:09:32

Hello ttc #3 crew. Just been trying to catchup threads, busy days and my eyes are closing! Must go to sleep, laughing at nippling on apples. I poas four days before af due and got bfn. Af is now a day late, almost two days and too nervous to poas again, yet. What if bfn? Will feels daft getting hopes up but also what if bfp? Am now nervous how will I feel about that when not just an idea anymore, how will I cope with 3? Actually I think that's the ok part, I am more nervous about being preg and dealing with the two dc. Sorry for going on, could just as soon wake up to af tmrw, have been four days late but only once ever, hence my nerves! Good luck ally.

Are you going to test fruit?

BFN here. Legs were shaking, adrenaline i guess. I feel ok at the mo.

Fairypants Sat 02-Mar-13 08:16:33

Aw sorry fruit, could you have tested too early?

Don't think so. Fairly sure LMP was 3rd of Feb. I feel a bit foolish as i was writing name lists with DH last night. He now says he thought we hadn't dtd enough.

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Sat 02-Mar-13 08:40:54

Sorry fruit, I hope you feel more settled as day goes on, maybe go out somewhere if nice weather where you are and get the sun, Haven't tested yet, will wait until four days late as really got hopes up last time and then quite a shock when af appeared, never been so late but maybe same again this month. Morning everyone hope you all have a reasonable weekend. Off for a brew

Fingers crossed for you wyhtfa!

Fairypants Sat 02-Mar-13 09:39:37

That seems like a typical DH response fruit as well a being a good tip for next month. Give yourself a treat day today if poss. X
Fingers crossed for you whenyou.

Thingymajigs Sat 02-Mar-13 09:44:16

It's been a while since I've been on this thread so I need to catch up. Still trying for number 3. Ds2 asked for a brother or a sister again yesterday and it struck me that the age gap between my youngest and future baby would be 10-11 years! 14 for ds1. I'm hoping the age gaps will be a positive rather than a negative aspect.
Currently in 2ww, cycle 9. Good luck to everyone.

toffee01 Sat 02-Mar-13 21:19:01

fruit sorry for this month! Try and do it every other day next month if it's possible. Good luck xx (just in case I would try again in a few days maybe if AF still not here)

Thingy on the contrary, I think the gap will be very nice. My yougest is 6 nearly so the gap will be quite big too, but my youngest has so far been "the baby" and is very clever but not too mature for his age bless him, so I don't think he could have coped had he been any younger and had a little baby bro or sis.

I think he is kind of ready now, and definately will be when/if the baby comes.

Update: Signs of imminent AF for me I'm afraid. I have had daily period cramps for the past week or so which is weird, but I am feeling quite premenstrual.
very tempted to do a test but determined not to spend to much money when I could just wait for AF (in theory).
Woke up last night at 2am and couldn't sleep for 2 hours, tossing and turning having anxious thoughts about pregnancy, new baby etc...

Good luck to everyone who is testing/expecting AF soon xxx

In the meantime, I'm enjoying a glass of wine (and maybe another half a glass afterwards wink)
Are you girls carrying on drinking alcohol while TTC?

Thingymajigs Sun 03-Mar-13 06:04:06

Yes, same here. My youngest is such a mummy's boy and definitely would have suffered with serious jealousy issues if I'd fallen pregnant earlier but now he's really excited about the idea about being a big brother.
I do drink wine but generally around AF and up to ovulation. 1-1.5 bottles a month. I used to drink a lot more but age and hangovers put a stop to that.
Don't lose hope yet toffee. Lots of people report cramping during pregnancy. Have you thought of buying a packet of Internet cheapies for testing? After 6 months of wasting money I bought a packet of 20 for a couple of pounds.

toffee01 Sun 03-Mar-13 14:42:07

Thingy I'm probably going to sound very tight but I have bought some tests from the pound shops but still don't want to waist them blush
But 10p per test is amazing! Did you buy them from ebay?

AF is not due until about the 5th to the 8th, so I'll wait a bit longer to test.

Same here re alcohol, I will have one (120ml) glass of wine, 2 max and that's it, otherwise I'll be drunk and wake up in the night dehidrated. Not worth it. I used to drink more too.

Anyway I hope i'm pregnant, otherwise, what excuse do I have for looking so bloated? DH today told me that I had a big bum (but that he liked it!) and I've always been a size 8 blush

I've been eating like an ogre recently so if it's not pregnancy, it's got to be the early menopause or something.

toffee01 Sun 03-Mar-13 14:43:02

Sorry not "waist" but "waste", I still can't be bothered to preview messages blush

Newtothisstuff Sun 03-Mar-13 16:21:06

Hey everyone !
Are £1 shop tests ok ??
I'm always a bit skeptical about them, I dunno why.
AF due today, hasn't appeared yet but it's lurking I can feel it !lol

toffee01 Sun 03-Mar-13 21:41:57

New good luck! Are you waiting or are you testing?

Mine is due tuesday or friday. I hope the cheap tests work!!! I will test tuesday probably. x

mumoftwoboysS Sun 03-Mar-13 21:56:43

I know I said I'd go away till I'm definitely ttc but have been wondering-

dtd on day 8 of cycle (Oh seemed keen to despite saying he didn't want me preggers for at least 6 months!) would it be possible to conceive??

I have no idea when I ovulate tho so maybe should find that ouf first. charting temps but thermometer only goes to 1dp so not sure if I'll actually know when temp does go up/down...

I'm going to avoid dtd around day 14/15 anyway as I want a girl ;-)

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Sun 03-Mar-13 23:30:55

Re the drinks, I do but not usually around middle of month and never v much, get a headache almost instantly on the vino nowadays! Toffee I hate that dehydrated wake up thing! Always have glass of water to match each glass wine but doesn't always work, just go to the loo more!
Newto I would think the cheapie tests are exactly same as usual price ones from high street, maybe just cheap because bought in bulk and sold online, not in shop etc.
Still no af here, have been 3/4 days late before though so not testing yet!

Newtothisstuff Mon 04-Mar-13 01:04:50

Toffee.. I'm just waiting... I tested 5 days before I was due and had a bfn. So don't want to get my hopes up. AF is definitely lurking. I can feel it. Plus other than sore boobs and a few cramps I don't feel up duffed lol with 1&2 my boobs changed shape straight away. They are exactly the same hmm boo lol
Good luck to everyone tho grin

WhenYouHearThatFireAlarm Mon 04-Mar-13 09:45:48

Well am just gutted, af appeared suddenly this morn, no cramps etc. shocked again as only second time ever had a 34 day cycle, usually am 29/30 days. Had started stupidly to get hopes up a lot as had no real pmt last few days, just a cramp a week ago which made me think af was coming then. Not even crying, just deflated and feel can't be doing with it all, should just be grateful for what I have, just a niggling feeling I can do it all once more but dd2 is 2.5 and dd1 is 5 and I just wanted them as close as possible. Don't know whether to try again or not. Just a bit of spotting so I tested just now and of course was bfn, now hoping af full on by end of day so can get it over with and decide whether to try again. Sorry self pity post but need to get it off my chest. Good luck to those waiting to test or hoping af fails to appear. brew and chocolate for me, have a huge pile of housework to do also but it's going to have to wait. smile because rant over and need kick self up butt and get on with other stuff.

toffee01 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:27:40

Sorry when for your disappointment. Hope you're not feeling too bad!

Sending you big hugs x

It's annoying when AF arrives unexpected with no symptoms (well unless you're not TTC). I agree, definitely don't do housework, try and do fun things and chill out if poss.

See how you feel next month but I would say that the gap between your youngest one and your new baby wouldn't be that big even if you didn't get pregnant straight away.

My youngest is nearly 6 but actually I'm not that bothered about the gap. If anything, it will be easier as they will both be at school. I felt awfully guilty when I had #2 that I couldn't concentrate on him solely or on my DD.

So that aspect doesn't bother me. For me it's age sad

Anyway, you might be trying to comfort me too in a few days time if AF turns up.

I do feel extremely odd though, I've even got veiny boobs now. Defo not testing before thursday (how am I gonna manage to wait that long?).

BamBam21 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:28:56

Hi all! Hope you all had a good weekend.smile

Sorry about AF WYHTFA.sad Mine turned up too unfortunately. I started spotting on Thursday afternoon, and it has started properly today, bang on time dammit! I have the same thought as you, about whether I really want to keep trying or just call it quits with my 2 boys, but a big part of me is desperate for a daughter. Mind you, what if I had another 4 boys??!!confused

Still keeping fingers crossed for everyone else.

BamBam21 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:31:04

toffee I bow before your awesome willpower! Thursday seems like such a long time away!grin

toffee01 Mon 04-Mar-13 11:59:14

Sorry Bambam for AF. I'll be feeling like all of you when (if) I get AF. Do I try again or shall I just be contented?
My willpower will be short lived I'm sure. After all thursday is such a long way away wink

Sammieh86 Mon 04-Mar-13 12:32:57

Hiya was wondering if u were lucky enough to get ir bfp....im in same boat i have a 8 and 6 yr old, cant wait for #3, im not sure if what im
Experiencing now is an implantation bleed as its 5 days before my regular 28 day cycle! I hate the wait!xx

metimeatlast Mon 04-Mar-13 12:49:27

sorry to hear AF arrived bambam
toffee thursday is a long way off yet, i did a hpt yesterday, bfn so far. and i cant pop to the shops yet again for any tests, dd has got a sickness bug at mo sad
fingers crossed for any ladies out there who are still in with a chance of bfp this time round x

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Mar-13 13:16:56

can anyone reply to my previous question or should I post it elsewhere? I just felt this thread was friendlier as I've posted here before....

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Mar-13 13:40:42

forget my last messag, its fine, I probably should just start a new thread. Good luck to all those ttc x

Fairypants Mon 04-Mar-13 13:58:14

Hi mumof I would guess its poss depending on your cycle. I don't know much but as the swimmers can hang around for a while, it's a possibility.

metimeatlast Mon 04-Mar-13 16:40:11

Hi mumoftwoboys
have you flicked onto the ovulation info page on mumsnet? try using the ovulation calender as well, it will give you a rough guide to when you may be ovulating. i dont use opks, so have no info on them, also as for dtd on day 8 of your cycle, ??? who knows, technically sperm can last inside for upto 7 days, therefor that would then give you a possible window of upto th 14th.
form looking around i think whilst you are just pre ttc may i suggest some of the following?
get to know how long your cycle lasts (day 1 of period to day 1 of following period)
take a look at some websites that show you what your cervical mucas is doing throughout the month.
stock up on home pregnancy tests (cos when you get going you will use them quite frequently)
look into folic acid and other vitamin supplements.
take note of the last day of your period, and count & note the days in between that and 1st day of next period. this is known as your leutal phase, this will help you to work out. there may be more bits, but gota go, kids now arguing! best of luck x

mumoftwoboysS Mon 04-Mar-13 21:07:17

Thanks for the replies! I've had a quick look on the ovulation info page and will have a more thorough look - helpful info there.

yeah I need to suss out my ovulation- not as easy as I thought it'd be! not even sure if its been and gone already as temp hardly changed and seemed to have lots of cm and now nothing...hmm. Anyway appreciate replies thanks!

BankWuggery Tue 05-Mar-13 11:19:39

Hi all. Can I join in? commencing the ttc no.3 this evening- having coil (old fashioned IUD) removed later today ;)

DS1 is 8 and DS2 is 4. First was unplanned-ish (we weren't being careful with contraception but not actually thinking we might get a baby confused) so didn't have the 2ww thing, and must have conceived ds2 on the day that we started trying as a fortnight later my period was due but instead I got a bfp. So hope that it is as easy this time round, it will be our last child for certain. Aware that its not always so straightforward though- I NEED another baby!

I work part time and we are just about to commence some major building work at home (another bedroom, I joked with dh that we are only growing our family to have someone to put in the new spare room;)). Plus with both dc I had quite severe Hyperemesis and so am a bit fearful of that recurring. Have sort of accepted it will though. Don't care. WANT BABY.

BangOn Tue 05-Mar-13 15:13:05

Hi. hope there's room for one more.

am on my 6th (i think) cycle of ttc #3. have 2 dds aged 3 & nearly 7. dd1 was conceived without trying at all, dd2 took about 4 months, so I suppose i'm wonderinh how much longer this will take. seems like forever already!

In terms of being prepared for a 3rd - there are no certainties in life, but we both work, own our home (albeit a very small one!) & will probably need a bigger car, unfortunately.

am on two week wait, feeling like af may arrive any moment. af due on around 10th March.

Newtothisstuff Tue 05-Mar-13 18:18:39

AF was 2 days late so tested and B F P !! Very excited, although I've had awful period type pains for the last week and a bit of brown stuff (sorry tmi) I don't want to get my hopes up now

Sorry to hear about AF wyhtfa and bam. I got mine last thing Sunday. Fingers crossed for toffee sounds promising! And sticky vibes for new.

I need to take dtd a bit more seriously but am never in the mood. Frankly 3 times last month was doing well! Surely i am not alone??

QueenofClean Wed 06-Mar-13 07:58:39

Welcome Newbies and sorry to all those who's AF has arrived.

Sorry I've been AWOL things have been really busy round here. DD2 was really poorly last week sad although better now and DH is away for the week on business. I'm currently on 2ww and periodically my boobs hurt but it's all in my head to early to tell I think. Although do think I ov early this month so hoping we got lucky. BFP due 15th March.

metimeatlast Wed 06-Mar-13 09:40:12

AF due today/tomorrow, poas today fmu, bfn. and yesterday through out i just had thee most uncomfortable stomach/back the lot. the only way i can remember being so uncomfy was in labour with dd2. Whats that all about?!
no sign of AF so far, so it aint over for me Just quite yet i hope
Well done New grin
Waves to all the newbies smile

Hi ladies just popping in to see how you are all doing! 7+4 and time is still going rather slowly, had booking in with midwife and just waiting for scan date to come through, haven't actually been sick but need to eat sonething regularly to keep nausea at bay. So many stories here are similar to mine, DD's 8 and 4 (well they will be over next 2 weeks) DD1 took us a bit by surprise (was planning wedding) DD2 took a while to concieve, we are doing work on our house too, put an extension on a few years back and now starting a loft conversion (Just in time for DC3 hopefully)

Good luck ladies, fingers crossed for some more bfp's grin

toffee01 Wed 06-Mar-13 13:14:57

Hi everyone! Well done new that's exciting! I hope it all works out all right for you!
Metime
AF due between today and saturday. Couldn't help myself from doing a test today and got BFN.
I will try and test again in a few days time unless good old AF arrives.
I still have veiny boobs and bigger and sore now.
Spent some time with a friend who has a baby and a 3 year old yesterday, and were thinking "maybe I'm too old for this, but maybe it's already too late (ie I may be pregnant now)".
It's not great but I still have doubts about what I want.

Maybe because I feel like I'm pregnant so it seems more real and it terrifies me. Also I'm feeling a bit of guilt towards my children, almost like I am not contented with them that I need a 3rd.
Been really emotional recently, yesterday I nearly cried because the adverts came on during a programme I was watching. How dare they put adverts on so often?
I feel exactly as if AF was imminently on its way but with some pregnancy symptoms too so it's confusing me and making me emotional.

Any one else feeling like that or am I a freak?

the three blondies I'm delighted it's going well for you, I bet you can't wait until your first scan!

metime test a bit later it could be too early? Maybe that pain was implantation?
Hi to all newcomers too and good luck x

toffee01 Wed 06-Mar-13 13:16:25

Sorry can I cross out the metime I don't know why it ended up on the second line of my post blush please void it (in your heads)

toffee01 Wed 06-Mar-13 13:20:24

Another correction:
"Spent some time with a friend who has a baby and a 3 year old yesterday, and were was thinking "maybe I'm too old for this, but maybe it's already too late (ie I may be pregnant now)".

I promise I will preview my messages from now on.

QueenofClean Wed 06-Mar-13 13:55:54

toffee your not too old!

5 mins peace whilst DD2 is asleep and before chaos resumes when I pick up DD1 & her friend for tea & then taking to Brownies and home again.

Am a single parent this week as DH is away on a jolly business! Things seem normal to me anyway as he works long hours when he is here so used to doing everything myself, just feel rushed off my feet today.

toffee01 Wed 06-Mar-13 21:42:35

Sorry for you Queen!!

Welcome back we haven't heard from you for a while!

Girls don't laugh: I think I have had a phantom pregnancy.

AF turned up today, kind of orangy pink. And got a BFN this morning. sad

But I couldn't believe it, not because I wanted it so badly but because of my physical symptoms, ie prominent pink, enlarged nipples, veins on boobs, breasts feeling fuller and sore (even DH admitted that they felt bigger a few days ago), blood rush and veins all over the body looking bluer.

To be honest I was actually freaking out because I was convinced I was pregnant and when it hit home I was SH...ing myself.
So actually, when I got AF today I almost felt relief. But disappointed at the same time if that's possible.
And how come I still have those symptoms? Will they ease off when my mind has accepted that I'm not pg?
Or is it an ectopic pregnancy or something?

I feel very emotional at the mo. Very confused.

PopsyWind Thu 07-Mar-13 08:21:37

Hi toffee, hope you're feeling ok today. An ectopic would give you a positive test so hopefully not that.

I'm with you with the emotions all over the place. Sometimes I'm desperate to be pregnant and then I have a stressful morning with the kids and I think - god I hope I'm not!?!

I'm in 2ww now, sigh...

I am glad that i am not the only one with mixed feelings. I also had that sense of relief as well as disappointment when i got bfn. I leave the test face down while i wait and have to really steel myself to turn it over! Next time i think i will get DH to check it.

toffee01 Thu 07-Mar-13 10:59:18

Ha ha fruit that's exactly what I did yesterday I left mine face down for a while.
Well I think that's it for me, I don't think I'm going to want to try again.

The fact that I freaked out so much when I thought I was was the giveaway.

I kept imagining myself at 47 with a 10 year old [shocked]

I will have a talk with DH tonight because I need to tell him. I'm sure he'll support whatever decision I make.

All the best to all of you girls, I hope it happens soon for you xxx smile

P.S: Don't laugh if I'm back next month though blush

BankWuggery Thu 07-Mar-13 13:00:11

Toffee hope you do come back. I think trying for a baby is always going to be a bit of a balancing act of pros vs cons in our minds. That just means we are considerate and sensible (ish wink) people who are weighing up the impacts on our families. The din noise my broodiness is making is much louder than any of the rational thoughts my brain can come up with and that's what makes me know its right for us. (DH obv. concurs)

A friend made me really think about this a while ago when I was trying hard not to want a third baby- she said that would I regret having a third baby or feel more regret not having one? Think dh and I had "the chat" that night.

metimeatlast Thu 07-Mar-13 13:24:30

Aw toffee im sorry to hear AF turned up. the relief/ gutted feeling is very normal, as at the moment we all seem to have families already. i too am considering the what if it doesnt happen for me approach, i know that its only our 1st cycle of ttc, but part of me is thinking what if i just stick with my lot? should i just get an implant so i dont have to go through all this each month? as i personally had set a time limit and decided that i would only give it another 11 cycles, then thats all as im now 38, dp is 41 and i didnt want to be starting again at 40+. currently AF has not turned up for me, im on CD 30, never normally go past 28. yet again another BFN today. i have stupidly convinced myself that i AM pregnant! as i seem to have been crampy since ovulation, sleeping pattern is awful, very tired early on, then awake half the nights. i dont feel like AF is coming, yet she probably will. i just wish she would bloody show or a bfp would show! sad

3sthenew2 Fri 08-Mar-13 14:36:48

Toffee you sound like my double! I'm having mixed feelings over number 3. I'm 37 with a 13 & 9 year old so keep having moments where I ask myself if I'm mad going back to it all!
Anyway, it's ttc cycle 2 following a mc in January (after which I swore it was a sign I was too old) but I just dont feel ready to give up the school plays & crafting at the kitchen table.
I have 2 dc who are getting more & more indepedant (which is how I tried to bring them up!!) and I DONT LIKE IT sad
on the other hand, sleepless nights, no money, childcare worries....mmm what to do?

workingonitagain Fri 08-Mar-13 21:13:07

hi all can i join in . have a 3 and a 1 yo dc and had a mmc last dec and we just decided to start trying again. as i've been through it 3 times, it feels like im pregnant again but im not sure if it's not just wishful thinking. im on 13-14 dpo (as not 100% when i ovulated) usually would only go up to 12dpo but this month i ovulated very early and suspect that it was becasuse of taking vitamin b6.
only have 1 test left and i am trying real hard to not to use it. haven't tested since 11 dpo and too scared to feel disappointed again. just wish af came or just knew either way
i wasn't sure about no3 but decided to go with it but when i got pregnant (which ended in mc) i felt awful and very negative about the whole thing and how i'd deal with with it and not sure if it was because deep down my body knew it would not work out or had some prenatal depression. anyway i know i'd like another one but also worried that when it happens, i'll go into melt down mode again and won't be able to deal with it hmm
good luck to you all for this month x

Tranquilitybaby Sat 09-Mar-13 05:10:07

DH is currently pondering the while TTC no. 3 thing. I'm so broody but the main thing I worry about is that I have health anxiety. If we decide to go ahead, I'm so much older now than when I had my other two children (11& 8), so obviously with that brings higher risks. I'm 35 now.

Just concerned that I'm going to spend the whole 9 months worrying myself silly that something's wrong with the baby. Also I've had two sections and always said I'd want to try for a VBAC if we had another. However the thought of it terrifies me but so does the risks to me of have a third section.

God that all sounds so negative, but I do still want another, I know I do.

Does the Harmony test give you a 100% accurate result?

X

QueenofClean Sun 10-Mar-13 09:39:11

Welcome newbies. Well AF is 9 days away and I've been feeling really tired & nauseous since yesterday. Poas this morning BFN but knew it would be to early to tell yet. hoping it's not all in my head had pains in my boobs on and off too!

First sign with DD2 was needing to pee every 5 mins. Don't have that feeling yet today.

BangOn Sun 10-Mar-13 12:41:39

hi everyone, thanks for the welcome.

although i feel guilty about my dds not being 'enough' for me, i can't seem to think rationally about wanting another one. i just do & that's all.

i'm now 12 dpo & wishing someone would put me out of my misery! went swimming today & was convinced af was going to start in an embarassing manner. my cycle is usually between 26-28 days, but the month before last was more like 31. just to throw me out completely! so if af does hold off i'll try & wait til day 32. i have loads of ebay cheapies just taunting me to poas but must resist as i'm not even late.

boobs aren't much sorer than usual, pms is making me a joy to be around & feel bloated. so business as usual then.

workingonitagain Sun 10-Mar-13 14:58:48

Hi ladies so my symptom spotting was right and i am indeed pregnant shock one dtd was all we did this month as dp was away when my ov stick showed positive so we only managed it the night after. It took us 7 month with other 2. Anyway im so happy and excited. Hoping that mmc was just a one off and i ll have an uneventful pregnancy smile

BangOn Sun 10-Mar-13 16:30:45

congratulations workingon ! all the best for a stress free pg for you x

i've also just given in and tested on one of my pee in a cup ebay cheapies - a faint, but definitelt there BFP!

now of course i'm thinking my hormone levels must be abnormally high to get a bfp on a cheapie before i'm even late. always something to worry about

workingonitagain Sun 10-Mar-13 17:44:01

Thank you and congratulation too ?grin im trying a different approach this time around and will try and keep fit despite of the tiredness. When i had the mc i felt even worse for putting weight on and have nothing to show for. How old are ur dds?

BangOn Sun 10-Mar-13 17:50:17

me too (if indeed the cheapie tells the truth). i put on about 2.5 stone first time & closer to two the second time around. my dds are 3 & nearly 7 - how about your dcs? sorry to hear about previous mc.

BangOn Sun 10-Mar-13 17:54:20

meant to say it took me absolutely ages to lose the babyweight last time & still carrying some on my face of all places. really don't want to add to it... let's form an active pregancy sub-group or something! grin

workingonitagain Mon 11-Mar-13 06:44:59

Bangon im sure ur internet cheepy was right. Ive used the same every time although i can get into a crazy state where im analysing how dark the line is hmm i find if i eat ok and dont cave in to all the junk food im craving, its easier to keep healthy. Anyway i hope i can keep my sanity even when the awful morning sickness kicks in confused

BankWuggery Mon 11-Mar-13 09:30:38

Congratulations working and bang smile I so hope some of us will be able to join you on an antenatal thread in the not too distant future.

Am on day 14 of a normally 28/30 day cycle. So should be ovulating right about...NOW... but am having a stressful time at work and stress normally delays my ov by a little while. So no ewcm or mittelschmerz yet. Most annoying, now we're trying I don't want my cycle being muddled up! Gah.

Thinking sticky pg thoughts to those already successful and fertile ones to those of us still trying.

Number 3's here we come!

RubixCube Mon 11-Mar-13 09:41:39

I'll join.Though not actively trying just messed up my pill by accident.Have no idea if id have a withdrawal bleed or not i only had intercourse 11days ago it's my pill free week this week

BamBam21 Mon 11-Mar-13 23:36:48

Aargh, I go away for a few days and miss 3 BFPs!!grin Congratulations new, working and bang!

DP has been on hols from work for the last few days, and we have DTD once (CD6 or 10 depending on when you count AF as startingconfused), but he has now come down with a horrible sicky bug.

Toffee sorry that AF came, but I can totally understand your mixed feelings. I swing wildly from being madly broody, to feeling hugely relieved when AF arrives. It's like an itch that I have to scratch! I hope we will see you back here, even if it's just to say hello!smile

<waves to everyone else, and hi to all the new folk!>

QueenofClean Tue 12-Mar-13 07:00:32

Congrats to everyone with a BFP.

Hopefully will be me at weekend but doubt it sad

Wasn't this hard last 2 times...maybe it has something to do with turning 30!

BankWuggery Tue 12-Mar-13 11:27:28

Hang in there Queen. How many cycles of trying have you been through for no.3 thus far?

Mixed feelings really resonates here too- what if I am tempting fate and a third pg would end in disaster?

Plus newtothisstuff sorry I missed you out- congratulations! Has the brown yuk gone away now? Hope so.

QueenofClean Tue 12-Mar-13 11:33:13

Bank Only on 3rd cycle so not many I know it's quite frustrating already. However, last week DH was away and I was coming to the mid-end of my green week according to my iPeriod app. I used this app to fall with DD's and worked first time. Maybe it's turning 30 what's done it?! We really want a 3rd child - 3rd and last mind you lol.

RubixCube Tue 12-Mar-13 11:46:35

With my 1st it took 11months and my second 1month and i was just coming off AF when i had intercouse blush so really didn't think i had gotten pregnant that month.Good luck to you all x

Fairypants Tue 12-Mar-13 23:19:00

Congratulations on those bfp's, and fingers x for those of you on a 2ww.
queen I'm really hoping turning 30 doesn't make it tricky as I'm the wrong side of 30 this time round too!
I'm inching closer to ttc- in fact once I see my next af, we will be all systems go for #3! Ok so that's a month in the future but still, I've waited 10 years, what's another month?
I really hope it doesn't take too long though - I'm not exactly patient.

QueenofClean Wed 13-Mar-13 06:47:46

Fairy that's the trouble I'm having I'm not exactly patient and we have been very very lucky previously.

Fairypants Wed 13-Mar-13 18:12:27

I'm sure you will get there soon- after all your dc2 is only little so your fertility can't have gone downhill that quickly. Are you maybe putting more pressure on yourself this time than previously?

QueenofClean Wed 13-Mar-13 20:55:29

Maybe prob to do with turning 30 lol

Hi. Can i join. Ds 3 next month and dd 16.months. I'm currently 5 days post ovulation (i think) but cycle varies. About 35 days at the monent.

metimeatlast Fri 15-Mar-13 19:14:14

wow, what is this??/ again, like a couple of others had gotten AF, so disappeared, and we now have some BFPs!! congratulations to those of you, new working, bang! its lovely news for you all. AF just leaving our house, so still gota wait a bit then theres that bloody 2ww... ah well, good luck, fingers crossed ladies x

RainbowBelle Fri 15-Mar-13 20:44:53

Hi there, can I join please? Have DCs age 5 & 3. Am on Cycle 3, testing next weekend. Have had cramping for the last 2 days which I am wondering if is post ov pain (apparently when the egg is making its way down the tube). It is specifically on one side only and quite sharp (but sporadic) rather than AF type dull ache. Anyway I guess I'll know for definite by the week after next!

Good luck to all trying x

nomoreplease Sat 16-Mar-13 19:56:26

Got bfp today. Have had to name change as was told someone at work uses this site and I could do without her knowing an very excited though.

Good luck to you all, bloody been awful, completely taken over my life and poor old DH when I told him we had to do it NOW, well his face was a picture!

QueenofClean Sat 16-Mar-13 20:02:22

Congratulations grin

Welcome Newbies.

I have my fx for weds as hopefully will be getting my BFP then.

workingonitagain Sun 17-Mar-13 08:05:51

Congratulations. Im 5 wks and still hardly feel a thing which worries me as with all previous (including mc one)i felt awful and very sick. Oh well just have to wait and see... Fingers crossed for a bfp soon for those who havent had it yet! X

Fairypants Wed 20-Mar-13 07:08:07

Congratulations nomore!
Welcome newbies.
queen any news? Fx for you!

QueenofClean Wed 20-Mar-13 07:13:51

AF due today...poas using ic yesterday and BFN sad waiting to see if AF shows her face.

She was a week late last month so think I may of ov'd later. We will see.

QueenofClean Thu 21-Mar-13 20:18:07

AF got me overnight sad so roll on April BFP!

Fairypants Fri 22-Mar-13 07:14:15

Sorry to hear that Queen sad
April will be the month, I'm sure.

metimeatlast Wed 27-Mar-13 11:24:49

ive come to the conclusion that most of the symptoms i spot during the tww are actually there throughout the month.... so that means a cant symptom spot as it would be pointless. Also i dont know when i ovulate, so im goina have to get some internet ov kits, i dont want to start temping etc, oh well, 8-10 days before af due (7 march) going on holiday on 8th, north wales shock,uk, hope this snow has long gone by then!!
How is everybody??

Af got me on sat night. Dh is now beginning to mmm about having dc3. Can we afford it etc. And yet we have regular unprotected sex snd he knows all about the birds and bees ffs

mumoftwoboysS Tue 02-Apr-13 20:56:38

lovelylentils I can relate to your frustration. OH has kind of agreed to ttc #3 and started DTD unprotected and yet is sending out mixed messages with some of the comments he's making. I am so 100% committed and he sounds like he keeps changing his mind- it screws with your mind!

I am just banking on getting preggers then he'll have to get used to the idea ;-)

Fairypants Thu 04-Apr-13 23:33:38

Well ladies, I am now officially ttc #3!! Well, still have af but, you know, contraception is out and rabbit type behaviour is scheduled for next week.
I'm very excited as I've waited sooo long, can you tell?
BFP due 28th April.

Mythreeknights Mon 08-Apr-13 16:09:56

Hello ladies, <waves, bearing folic acid, positivity, sunshine and happiness>

Just to say I sympathise 100% with those who have mixed-message husbands - mine was totally on off (for about 6 months which really confused me) but last month confirmed he is ON! Hurrah.

Last month I completely convinced myself I was upduffed, despite shagging only twice the whole month (I'm having a nasty recurrent thrush issue at the moment - basically anything and everything including TTC sets it off, putting me out of action for 10 days) and was v sad to get AF.

This month, I am yet again deluded convinced I'm upduffed (again, having TTC 3 times only) now in the last week of my 2ww with sore boobs and nausea...so in order to get some moral support ahead of AF arriving (due 15 April) I thought I'd say hello, see if anyone has good recurrent thrush remedies and see who gets a BFP this month!

Fairypants Mon 08-Apr-13 21:38:35

Hi mythreeknights, glad your DH is on board.
I'm still waiting for af to go so not yet waiting with baited breath but will keep my fingers crossed for you.

PopsyWind Mon 08-Apr-13 22:10:59

Hiya all
I posted a few times at the start of fred (mostly stressing about weird bleeding after coil removal) Anyhoo I got BFP 2wks ago smile

My3knights - you could get a prescription for 7 days fluconazole, it's the same as the one-off thrush tablet but a smaller dose taken for a week can eradicate it for longer. However you can't take it if preggers....

Good luck to you and everyone else
xx

Mythreeknights Tue 09-Apr-13 13:27:59

Congrats Popsy - you must be thrilled, although I imagine also a bit nervous about knowing you are going to have 3 kiddies running about :-) Thanks for the 7-day flucozanole tmt - I'm seeing GP again on Thurs to talk about it - was completely fobbed off last time (and was alarmed when during a swab, the (male) GP said "mmm, your vagina smells really nice" hmm (I think he meant he couldn't smell BV, but still...)

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 09-Apr-13 16:43:13

Hi ladies! Mind if I join? We are ttc number three after two miscarriages. DC are 3 and 1.

shock at "your vagina smells really nice!" eek! Unprofessional much?!

PopsyWind Wed 10-Apr-13 09:32:29

OMG my3, I'm horrified at what your GP said. Totally inappropriate and makes you wonder what he's said/done to other patients....

Mythreeknights Wed 10-Apr-13 16:17:23

Don't worry Popsy - written down in this context it appears alarmingly inappropriate, but other than finding it slightly wierd, I wasn't uncomfortable at any point during the swab. I did have a completely awful experience when I was a girl (17 years old) in Italy with cystitis. I went to an emergency room /section of the local hospital where I was taken into a windowless room. The doctor (young, male) asked me what was wrong, told me to lie straight and not make a fuss, did that thing they do in horror films where they put on their latex gloves with glee, then actually rammed his hand inside my vagina, making me sit upright and scream..., and he laughed at me and said 'yes, you have cystitis'. As he wheeled me out I was trying not to cry, my dad met me and I pretended all was ok. I can't tell you how much I wish I had reported him, because he definitely was a sadist (or is it a masochist) and I was so young and vulnerable. So, in the face of that experience, although this recent one seems 'odd', it was definitely not abusive.

Mythreeknights Wed 10-Apr-13 16:19:22

BTW - this is really odd - I have never ever mentioned that experience to anyone in RL.

PopsyWind Wed 10-Apr-13 16:42:49

Am glad it wasn't as bad as it sounded my3, I think it was the 'mmm' that disturbed me. I'm a GP myself and was imagining what I'd do if one of my patients told me about a dr saying the same to them...

The other incident sounds horrendous as well sad

MummyPig24 Thu 11-Apr-13 08:32:38

Hello, can I join? Started ttc (not doing anything to stop it) baby number 3 this month. Was due on my period 5th April, still nothing but several bfns! I have a dr appointment tomorrow to see what's going on as I had a very weird cycle in march where I bled for 3 days, nothing for 3 days, then again heavily for 10 days. And now I am nearly a week late.

Good luck and congratulations to everyone ttc and who have their bfps.

mumoftwoboysS Thu 11-Apr-13 22:01:08

Hey Mythree seems like we're almost in synch -AF due any day now though I lost count as we went away for Easter so had to stop my daily temp recording (and hence noting down what day it was). I'm pretty sure i'm not upduffed as despite DTD 2-3 days before OV (which I thought was ideal for conceiving a girl!) I've had MAJOR rages today and convinced it's PMS (poor kids, they've had to deal with a mum on the edge)

OH is still sending mixed messages though certainly not saying no...I feel a bit cheeky like it's all in my control as when we DTD he says is it ok to (well you know) and I say yes or no! I'm a bit scared to do it bang on OV though?? Not sure if it's cos I'm scared. Well today was so stressful with 2 kids, one of those days where you dream of drinking wine as soon as their heads touch the pillow (but I went for a run instead :-)

I do want to have another,just all seems so overwhelming.....

-and Mythree, that experience, how awful :-(

Fairypants Fri 12-Apr-13 07:56:52

Congratulations popsy and hello mummy and blackholes!
I hope your dr appt goes well mummy. I am taking a similar approach to ttc as you- just stopped contraception.
Although I'm sure I will start ov tests and bbt etc if I'm ttc for long, I'm trying to hold off as long as possible as I know I'd get obsessive and it would add stress! We are definately dtd more often (ok both days since af ended) but that's just cos its nicer without contraception!
I thought DH was wobbly about the whole thing last week as he's worried about money so gave him the option to postpone - it turns out he wasn't wobbly at all so I'm glad I brought it up!

Mythreeknights Fri 12-Apr-13 16:22:44

Hello mumof - ooh goodie we're in it together! My AF is due Monday but I don't feel like it is remotely coming. HOWEVER I am now slightly bricking it as I took a fluconazole 3 days after DTD (e.g. right over OV) as had thrush, but wasn't until after I took it and remembered dates that I 'might' be PG. Anyhow, it's on the blacklist of drugs absolutely NOT to take in pg as leads to massive deformities in babies. So, obviously, now I am crossing my fingers that I do get AF so I can start DTD fresh next month wtih no nasties in my body. What posessed me, I have no idea. Normally I read the instructions before casually popping pills.
Anyhow, GOOD LUCK (and, look at it this way, at least you didn't have to say to your already skeptical husband, btw, if I am pg this month, the baby might well be deformed...as I did). Brilliant.

Mythreeknights Fri 12-Apr-13 16:57:03

Help! I've just researched "taking fluconzole before I knew I was pg" and one of the entries came up from a USA woman who like me took it 3 days or so after 'conception' (I don't know if I'm pg but I took it 3 days after DTD) and her daughter was born seriously disabled. I really hope AF comes now!

mumoftwoboysS Fri 12-Apr-13 20:38:52

don't panic! I can understand why you'd be freaked but it is more than likely that the drug leaves your body after a few days (surely?) and in the first few days the egg is travelling down to the implantation site where the cells start multiplying/forming don't they?

You don't know if that lady's baby was disabled due to other reasons (or just sheer bad luck) and nothing to do with that medicine.

here's a link to research that found no significant difference in birth problems/abnormalities women who had taken the drug and those who didn't. might put your mind at ease a bit!

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2014300/

wish I knew exactly when my AF was as now I'm starting to think I'm late and I'm probably not!!...

btw, anyone had implantation bleeding this time and not before, or vice versa? I had with both previous so assuming I will for my third. (and therefore can't be preggers now!)

Fairypants Mon 15-Apr-13 07:17:05

Mythreeknights - I agree with mumof that at that point in your cycle you have no actual contact with the egg so it is extremely unlikely to affect it. I also am slightly cynical about any stories from the states because they have such a blame culture. If you are truly concerned, your dr can give much better info than dr google.
That's all assuming you get a BFP-any news on that score ladies, am I right in thinking you are testing about now?

Fairypants Mon 15-Apr-13 07:19:31

Btw I ment to say mumof- I haven't ever had implantation bleeding or at least not that I noticed as I was not trying with dd's. I wouldn't use a lack of it as gospel that your not though...you never know.

Mythreeknights Mon 15-Apr-13 09:08:51

Thanks mumof and Fairypants for your kind comments. It means a lot. Given this is our third, I just want to make it perfect and ensure that given I'm an older mum (35), our future baby has the best chance in life to be ok.

Tested this morning after feeling truly yukky yesterday (but following 8km hill run and then a couple of G&Ts that night...) and BFN! Which actually delights me for the reasons mentioned above. Having said that, it aint over until AF visits, and no sign of that at the moment. Am on CD28 now, AF due tomorrow, so we shall see.
mumof - how exciting - this could well be your month!! :-) :-) I really hope you get a BFP. Anyone else testing now?

mumoftwoboysS Mon 15-Apr-13 17:19:10

Well I'm still confused as to whn AF will come (damn that Easter holiday- I didn't keep track after that!) I have counted 14 days from when I should have ovulated and worked out that I should have had AF on sat or sun (and I'm very rarely late) but that doesn't necesarily mean anything- have sore boobs but no other symptoms....
Very tempted to buy a pregnancy test tomorrow if still no AF but I've probably just got the dates wrong though we did DTD 1-2 days before OV so.....

fairypants I just assumed I'd have implantation bleeding this time round, but who knows- if no two pregnancies are the same then I guess it could mean differences just after conception too...

And mythree it is probably for the best that you got BFN this month if it puts your mind at rest- otherwise you'd be worrying (probably unduly but it doesn't stop you worrying!)

I'm just thinking now,...what if I AM pregnant- OMFG!.....Have I really thought this through....3 kids???....this waiting game drives you crazy...

Mythreeknights Tue 16-Apr-13 09:22:07

Waaaaaah mumof have you tested?? It sounds quite positive (excuse the pun) to me. Well, AF arrived late last night after going for a run - am definitely relieved, but slightly sad too of course. We got pg so easily with one and two, that it's very new to me all this 'trying' to conceive. Please let us know wink xx

mumoftwoboysS Tue 16-Apr-13 19:16:41

haven't tested yet and still no sign of AF. Might wait a bit longer as I could just be out with the dates?? Have a phone interview tomorrow for a job too now so many thoughts going round my head. was made redundant nearly 15 months ago- with so few part time jobs around I'd given up hope and focused on having another baby- now I could end up being offered a job and being pregnant!! argh! Well no point in worrying until I know either way I suppose....

Mythreeknights Sun 21-Apr-13 18:20:22

Mumof....don't hold us in suspense...did you test? You must know by now so I am hoping no news is good news. Fingers crossed for you and everyone else on this thread.

mumoftwoboysS Sun 21-Apr-13 21:10:55

BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Was going to wait till monday to find out (who was I kidding??) but was sipping my wine very slowly on friday night and OH thought it wasn't normal for me wink so I said I might be, then decided to test this morning.

He was happy but I think he's shell shocked and can't quite believe it! It does all seem so surreal. Now it's really happening! I knew really that I must be from the tiredness (and sore boobs) oh and that tiny thing- a missed period!! I wonder how long it'll be before the sickness kicks in??

Good luck MYthree with your TTC, it will happen soon enough I'm sure.

I'm in such a daze, happy one minute, freaked out the next....

SweepTheHalls Sun 21-Apr-13 21:39:42

Can I come and join in? We've been TTC no 3 for 4 months now and each 2ww kills me! AF due on Friday, so trying to stay strong as the odds aren't great this month. We hardly DTD at the right time at all-but you can't help getting hopes up every month anyway can you?

Mythreeknights Mon 22-Apr-13 09:31:16

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH mumof that is SUCH excellent news!! Well done you and how nice that the 'decision' has been made now and you can both enjoy the knowledge that you will definitely have a bigger family. I am properly delighted for you :-)
My shag week is coming up from tuesday, so I'm going to give it my all and hope to join you on the pg boards from May...who knows.
Well done your ovaries and MrMumOf's clever swimming spermies. xx

Mythreeknights Mon 22-Apr-13 09:32:22

And...HELLO sweep - I know exactly what you mean - it kills me too and I've only been 'trying' (as opposed to expecting it to happen on one shag a month) for 2 cycles. Silly me. Fingers x you miss your AF on Fri - keep us posted x

SweepTheHalls Tue 23-Apr-13 06:50:29

Spotting this morning, keep trying to convince myself that it could be implantation, but don't think so. Still cycle 6 was the lucky one with DS2!

Fairypants Tue 23-Apr-13 07:03:27

Congratulations mumof and welcome sweep.
I'm currently in my first 2ww and its driving me crazy. DH started suggesting I test on around dc10 so that's not very helpful.
Have been feeling rather nauseous the last couple of days which is either good news or completely psychological but af isn't due til sun so will have to hold on for a bit.

Fairypants Tue 23-Apr-13 07:04:51

Sweep- you have a well balanced approach not getting too wound up. I hope it is implantation bleeding all the same.

Congratulations mumof I was on thread at the beginning, I'm nearly 15weeks now! Told our DD's couple of weeks ago they are soooooooo excited, worth it just to see their faces, although all the questions are a bit tiring! smile

mumoftwoboysS Wed 24-Apr-13 14:02:24

Hi thethreeblondies - I remember your username! How's it going? Have you had any sickness? I'm still waiting for mine...though I seem to feel sick after eating at the moment.- not sure if it's just starting off

Oh that's sweet- no idea when I'll tell my boys- I guess when I start showing! Haven't told any friends or family yet and dying to but don't want to do it too early either!...

I won't lie it has been tough at times, without dh the house would have looked like a tip at times, very tired and felt sick unless I ate every hour (made it hard to disguise belly!) I told my sister at 10 weeks but no one else till after 12 week scan we wanted to tell the DD's first (and I let them tell all the rest of the family) couple of people at work knew earlier but everyone knows now and I'm enjoying letting my food belly hang out!

SweepTheHalls Wed 24-Apr-13 21:33:44

Definitely not implantation bleeding hmm still, cycle 6 made the most gorgeous boy last time. I am starting to get a bit disheartened though.

Mythreeknights Tue 30-Apr-13 16:18:40

Bad luck sweep (hugs)
So, I'm starting my 2ww now and am feeling fairly positive about it (e.g. not obsessing every minute!) I find week 1 ok and week 2 unbearable. We had a fun time DTD'ing' so if anything that was good shock but I'm longing to hear how everyone else is getting on...*fairypants*? Anyone?

Fairypants Tue 30-Apr-13 22:49:03

Hi mythree,
I'm rather frustrated atm- af was due on sun and nothing so far. I've tested a lot!! but bfn. Tomorrow I will equal the longest cycle since going off the pill in dec but don't know what to do about it. sad
I hope your 2ww is more productive than mine.

Fairypants Wed 01-May-13 17:38:46

She's finally turned up so I'm back to square 1. Waiting for af to leave now so I can get to work on this months 2ww smile
How's everyone else doing?

Mythreeknights Thu 02-May-13 14:41:27

Bad luck fairy but I will soon be joining you...we're attempting to have a girl which means we stopped DTD at CD12 and personally I think that's probably not done the job (esp as I was v horny yesterday (TMI??) and think I might have OV then rather than CD14)...anyhoo, coming to the end of my first week of 2ww so expect me to go bananas next week with the anticipation. I've also started growing a delightful spot on my chin which is always a sign of a normal menstrual cycle, so I think I'll be bouncing onto that June bus with you. xx (PS at least you have nice long cycles - mine tend to be 27 days)

mumoftwoboysS Fri 03-May-13 20:22:56

hi Mythree- just checking in to see when you're going to join us upduffed ones smile I conceived on CD 11 or 12 but am convinced we're having another boy- I'm convinced OH only has boy sperm!! Or my OV came early and screwed it all up and the fast boy swimmers won.

Are you doing any of the other stuff that's supposed to favour a girl?? We didn't really get the chance as I thought it'd take us months and I'd end up buying the book etc., but it didn't quite turn out that way!

Mythreeknights Sun 05-May-13 21:02:53

Hi Mumof, how is it going? Have you gotten over your intial nerves about having three kids now? I'm longing to join you all (I think...having slight palpitations at the thought of it today, my two boys have been very naughty and it has worn me out!) Well, tomorrow marks the start of my second week waiting so I'll know Monday 13th or thereabouts I guess... Every single month I feel nausea and sore boobs and this month is no different so I can't read it as a 'sign'. The spot on my chin stopped groping though so that's potentially a good sign (other than the obvious good sign that I'm not walking about looking like a spotty teenager). A friend sent me Shettles book - actually quite interesting especially seeing it from the sperm's pov...remarkable that any of us were born at all imo. TBH, if I'm not upduffed this month (I don't think I will be), next month I think we'll just shag all the way through and risk having a boy. 3 boys would be COOL. I think. Help...!

mumoftwoboysS Sun 05-May-13 21:23:44

MyThree god don't talk to me about spots- I'm covered in the damn things- certainly not 'glowing' over here!! I did with my first pregnancy, looks like this one will be more similar to my 2nd in that respect!

I know what you mean, we got a bit lazy tbh and when ttc I just get so impatient I was like, whatever will be, sod all this trying to do it certain days etc! 3 boys would be very COOL though a tad tiring me thinks!!

have you changed your diet? I drink (well drank before being pregnant) a fair bit of coffee so reckon the ph balance was all wrong for conceiving a girl! But then-there MUST be plenty of women who have girls and had an acidic diet??!!

I feel really excited some days, and others (often when I have waves of nausea and both boys are having tantrums or hitting eachother) I feel the fear shock but hey plenty of others have brought up 3 kids so I'm going to try and take it in my stride!

good luck, fingers crossed for a bfp!!

Mythreeknights Mon 06-May-13 09:26:29

Shit - should I be giving up coffee???

mumoftwoboysS Mon 06-May-13 20:08:05

tbh I doubt it makes the slightest bit of difference- my SIL drinks 4-5 strong cups of coffee a day and she has 2 girls and 1 boy so it can't influence things that much!!

Suzietwo Tue 07-May-13 17:03:16

I've been lurking on this thread while getting closer to ttc number 3....ideally planning to wait until August as we'd love a summer baby but getting increasingly impatient!

mumoftwoboysS Wed 08-May-13 22:34:42

Suzie I was very impatient....now having a winter baby- oops!

Suzietwo Thu 09-May-13 10:25:30

do you regret it?

Fairypants Thu 09-May-13 11:45:33

I don't know what constitutes an acidic diet but was a big coffee drinker before having dd1 so that didn't make any difference.

Given how long it can take to conceive, I really don't want to be too precise about the timing of #3 other than avoiding Xmas as that wouldn't be the best date to have a birthday. If I have the choice though, I'd prefer not to be heavily pg in the summer again- that was rubbish!

MummyPig24 Thu 09-May-13 11:48:52

Hi we are ttc #3, this is our first month. Cycle day 23, bfp due 15th May. We will be on holiday then in Majorca, not sure if I should buy a test to take with us or just wait till we get back. I guess if af doesn't start while we are out there then I will know!

Suzietwo Thu 09-May-13 13:16:41

i was away when ttc the second one and it was brilliant. totally took my mind off the 2ww and i was 5 days late when i got back.

Mythreeknights Thu 09-May-13 13:22:59

Oh goodie, some more people for me to get excited with - I was starting to feel it was just me and fairy mad enough to want 3 kids.
Mummypig I'm due AF on the 13th (Mon) so we're pretty much in synch. I haven't had any cramps yet but still 3 full days to go so unlikely to, but I keep having dreams about getting my period so I guess that is my subconscious preparing me for the inevitable. At least if not upduffed now, one bonus is not having a Jan baby as that must be quite tough with the long winter months - especially here in Scotland. (Not that Feb is much better but is at least a short month!)

Mythreeknights Thu 09-May-13 13:24:36

Oh and suzie I assumed we'd get pg instantly as DS1 was cycle 1 and Ds2 actually swam through a condom (or, arrived in me before the condom went on, which shows how determined he was to arrive..) so now I'm coming up to cycle 3 I sort of wish I'd got on with it sooner.

MummyPig24 Thu 09-May-13 14:22:59

I don't have a feeling either way. I don't believe that it could happen first try so I'm packing tampons!

Suzietwo Thu 09-May-13 16:58:47

oh stop it! i shouldnt really have an easy time conceiving but have done so on first cycle each times and while i dont assume it will be as easy this time its hard to convince yourself it wont be. and even harder to convince the bloke who says he's been 'tricked' by me twice before!

anyway, im on the first day of period today so if we can hold out this month then we're into march or later babies and anything from march - july would be fab. i think if i hadnt conceived by then id take a break for a few months and aim for a sept/oct/nov baby.

def pack the tampons! anything to keep your mind off it all works.

MummyPig24 Thu 09-May-13 17:31:55

I've had heartburn for a few days which I only get in pregnancy and feel a bit sick but I am telling myself I'm being silly and it's not because I'm pregnant. Anyway I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be getting symptoms so soon after conception. I'm still a week away from af being due!

mumoftwoboysS Thu 09-May-13 18:40:50

suzietwo although it's not ideal, I don't regret it! I believe it happens when it's meant to happen. For some reason we've never had kids in the summer- just the way things turn out- and like fairypants I'd hate to be heavily preggers in the summer as I suffer badly from restless hot legs at night during pregnancy.

I am a tad worried it's going to end up coming at xmas though! I did one of those online due date calulators, one said 19th Dec, the other said 22nd. I'm going for the 19th!!

ELR Tue 14-May-13 18:00:42

Hi ladies can I join please?
Not ttc no 3 yet as waiting till August so we have both our may and August holidays out of the way. In both my pregnancies I've had terrible morning sickness so want to enjoy my holidays first. I have also fallen pregnant both times in the first month of trying so have been really lucky, I just hope it happens that quickly this time too.
I have a really big age gap though dd is nearly 11 and ds is nearly 8 both were November babies, both conceived in January in a foreign country, so hoping to conceive no 3 on our holiday in August when were are in the Alps! Although that may prove a little trickier as we will have the kids with us this time!

Mythreeknights Tue 14-May-13 19:56:16

BFP!!!! I have gone and done it...tested yesterday and it came up with a fairly strong line which faded a fair bit after ten - 15 mins. The only thing is I had started cramping on Sunday and cramped all through yesterday and this morning and have had brown spotting all day - not much - but still hmm Not sure if it means it's not going to stick or if this is 'normal' (I've never had it before) implantation bleeding and uterine 'stretching'. Ahem. mumof tell me, what's it like at 5,6,7 weeks pg with 2 toddlers?? Am slightly shitting myself now!

ELR Tue 14-May-13 21:11:27

mythree well done and congrats! I know I've only just joined the thread but thought I'd say congrats anyway. I had cramps and toting with dd my first pregnancy but not with ds my second, sure it's all normal. Good luck!

ELR Tue 14-May-13 21:12:00

Sorry spotting not toting!

MrsAnderson22 Wed 15-May-13 00:34:16

hello ladies, hope you dont mind another member! my husband and I are ttc #3, we have a daughter who is 12 and a son of 9, symptoms are not very fresh in my mind! here is my story, I'd appreciate some advice...

I had my mirena coil taken out on 12th March after 8 years (no period in those 8 years), had my period on 21st April - 24th April, we have been bd'ing quite frequently since then. according to my fertility app I ovulated on 3rd-7th May, if this is accurate!

today I have woken up with extremely sore breasts, they feel swollen, the sides hurt, my nipples feel like they're burning and my areola has increased in size slightly. my nipples have also been hard for most of the day, it hasn't been cold...if I even brush against them I wince! they almost feel bruised! tonight I have backache, not pain, an ache either side of my spine at the bottom and feel constipated, which is not like me as I have ibs I'm normally very loose!!! I feel nauseous but haven't vomited.

could I be having symptoms so early on or am I making myself believe that these possible premenstrual symptoms are something more special? when should I test and any recommendations on what test to use? thanks in advance and good luck to all still ttc and congrats to those who have already smile x

PopsyWind Wed 15-May-13 09:25:31

Congrats mythree! Brill news. I'm 12 wks now - still not had a scan though, I didn't go to GP til about 9 wks, think I'm in denial!!

It's been ok with 2 - mine are 4y and 18m. Main prob is have had awful nausea which I didn't have with the others, and weird IBS type symptoms plus feeling knackered of course...(think being the wrong side of mid 30s makes all the difference sad

Hi mrsanderson, I had mirena out in jan then had spotting for 2 wks then first proper period 6wk later, I was convinced before it showed up that I was pregnant as had lots of symptoms. However I think I had just forgotten the AF signs not having had one for ages. Might be different for you though - good luck!

ELR Wed 15-May-13 09:30:39

mrsanderson you have similar age gaps to me! Are we mad to try for a 3rd when ours are all grown up?
Your symptoms do sound like the early signs but agree it could also be wishful thinking. Just go buy an early test kit, good luck!
Can I just ask what made you decide to ttc when your older two are much older?

MrsAnderson22 Wed 15-May-13 10:34:37

Hello ELR! We always wanted more than 2 children but it never felt like the right time sad what with my husbands job, my going to university to study social work and my 12 year old daughter being severely disabled with no diagnosis....as it stands now, she ilhas stabilised, has a diagnosis and I have graduated so we feel now is the right time. I feel we are young enough to have the energy for a 3rd, I'm 29 and my husband is 35. what has made you decide to ttc? I am going to buy a first response test tomorrow smile

Fairypants Wed 15-May-13 12:25:42

Congratulations mythree!!
Hello there ELR and mrsanderson. My dd's are currently 14 and 10 so I think I will have forgotten everything by the time dc3 turns up and what i do remember, the advice will have changed. They are v keen on the idea though - even dd1 who is doing gcse's already.

Mythreeknights Wed 15-May-13 12:48:29

Oooh, maybe spotting is a sign of having a girl?? Any evidence to back this theory up?? Still spotting, a bit bored of it now.

Mythreeknights Wed 15-May-13 12:49:15

PS thanks Fairypants how is your upduffing going? Are you in the 2ww yet?

ELR Wed 15-May-13 16:16:53

What is 2ww? Sorry up to date with all these things!
mrsa we also always wanted more but then decided two was enough but always said if it happened by accident then that's fine but now we realise we actually do want another! So going to officially try in August. Both kids are on bored too especially dd.

Fairypants Thu 16-May-13 07:04:58

We are in 2ww (2 week wait between ov and testing ELR). Last month I got a bit carried away with testing so this month I am determined to hold out til the 25th. That's the day before af due but I am going camping with friends so its best to test before that.
I'm afraid I didn't have spotting with my girls but I could be the exception to prove the rule. smile
How are you coping with the spotting mythree? I would imagine its putting you on edge. I hope it stops soon and you can relax a bit and enjoy it.
Random question for a ttc#3 thread but is everyone thinking third and final or are some hoping for even more?

ELR Thu 16-May-13 09:11:02

Thanks fairy 2ww which feels like a two year wait!!
Well is said to DH yesterday about more after a third and he said no way third and final!

Mythreeknights Thu 16-May-13 13:11:59

Oooh fairy and ELR, good luck! All well with me thanks - spotting has stopped and so has cramping so I have nice clear knickers now! :-) (mmm, lovely). Definitely feeling better now that it has stopped (to the point that I have got all my old mat clothes out and am running them through the wash 'in preparation')Anyhow, re-testing tomorrow, so a full 5 days after my initial BFP and hopefully the line will be stronger.

fabgreat Fri 16-Aug-13 00:05:59

TTC #3 for 2 years next month. Can't believe its been that long. Other two are 6 and 4. A friend announced her pregnancy today - another one. Is it me - or has there been a baby boom this last year! Been to Doc to have blood test and had scan but nothing obviously wrong, but I don't feel right, my periods have changed - lighter, longer, cycle changing from 31 days to 34 to 37. More pain before period.

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