Miserable :(

(48 Posts)
MrsEasingwood Fri 28-Dec-12 23:07:02

Don't know if any of you can relate (I'm sure lots of you can) but was just so sure that this month I was getting a bfp.....no period (7 days late) but 3 bfns. Just very frustrating.

chocoloulou33 Fri 28-Dec-12 23:13:49

Don't give up hope yet. My friend didn't get a positive pregnancy test til 2 weeks after she was due on. U never know. Is it usually late? I'm always regular

MrsEasingwood Sat 29-Dec-12 00:08:00

Thank you, I'm normally regular to the minute lol. Maybe I've just worked myself up too much over it!! It is just so irritating especially when friends and family seem to pop them out left right and centre with ease sad

RaspberrysAndIcecream Sat 29-Dec-12 09:39:30

Sending u a big and very unmumsnetty hug. It's so frustrating isn't it? I can't help but get my hopes up every month, and when AF is late its even harder not to get ur hopes up. The dissapontment is sometimes just crushing. sad

Wishing u all the very best for a 2013 BFP!! smile

chocoloulou33 Sat 29-Dec-12 09:41:26

How long you been trying mrs?

I hear you. Sometimes you are sure this cycle is The One, everything ties up. You even have masses of symptoms. But the BFN just laughs at you.

RaspberrysAndIcecream Sat 29-Dec-12 16:16:08

I especially hate the cb tests that say "NOT PREGNANT" - they may as well put a picture of someone sticking 2 fingers up at u saying haha!! Soul destroying. <can u tell I don't buy them anymore>

Girraferama Sat 29-Dec-12 18:20:05

I'm also late by almost ten days and had 4 negative tests - I'm driving myself insane! Had convinced myself I was pregnant then got BFN again and again. I'm going to the doctors to see if they can do a blood test as I need to know for sure!

OrangeLily Sat 29-Dec-12 18:34:31

I can join u....

32 days last cycle
66 before that

Now on day 44 of current and no sign of AF. Negative tests the week before Christmas with a clear blue digi to compound the misery on Christmas Eve.

MrsEasingwood Sun 30-Dec-12 20:46:26

Thank you all for your support!
And whilst I hope you all get your bfps soon I'm glad I'm not alone.
Choco- been trying for 6 months now which I know in comparison to some isn't very long but just married just bought our house and baby was the next step.
Girraferama- I might do the same just to put my mind at ease
Orangelily course you can fingers crossed for you all xx

Girraferama Sun 30-Dec-12 21:05:49

Let us know how you get on...fingers crossed!

OrangeLily Sun 30-Dec-12 22:17:58

Thanks. Looks like we're in similar positions! It's meant to be part of the fairy tale right??? wink

MrsEasingwood Sun 30-Dec-12 22:40:06

Yep! Here was me thinking it was going to be easy, silly me! Not even sure whether I can have a drink or two tomorrow night? confused

chocoloulou33 Sun 30-Dec-12 22:57:22

Have a drink mrs or do a test in the morning!I will be having a few drinks, Can't let thinking I might be pg stop me. Have done that b4 & been bitterly disappointed. I haven't exactly got the fairytale as married, divorced & now with love of my life lol. Have a dd from ex & 2 stepchildren but wouldn't change it for the world as am finally happy. Been trying 4 months but yep thought it would happen quicker. Hope it happens soon for you.

OrangeLily Sun 30-Dec-12 23:38:21

Test tomorrow and have a drink. You've got to live right?

I've got a test for tomorrow but have absolutely no hope but at least then I can make all the yummy cocktails I'm planning on!

MrsEasingwood Sun 30-Dec-12 23:53:04

You're both right! At least I can drink in the new year smile
How long have you been trying orange?
choco as long as your happy its a fairy tale ending
Sometimes I do think that maybe I'm trying too hard as DH keeps telling me, does any of you feel like that?

OrangeLily Mon 31-Dec-12 00:45:16

Don't laugh but only 2 cycles (three months) but came off implanon in August and only had three periods since!

Although my SIL said there's a difference between trying and TRYING. She is adamant that if you want a BFP you have to do things the proper way. Every two days religiously, no drinking at all, legs in the air, eating really well, etc. She appears to be a master at it too! My body is a temple as of 2am tomorrow.

How much do you reckon you've spent on tests then?

MrsEasingwood Mon 31-Dec-12 00:57:16

Any amount of time trying is hard though!
I did all of that for the first few tries but after bfns I decided it didn't really make too much difference. I think that come jan 1st I might start again though, I bought what to expect before you're expecting and it said you should spend at least 12 weeks getting your body ready which sounded like a lot to me!
Probably about £150....sounds like a lot now I think about it oops

OrangeLily Mon 31-Dec-12 01:03:13

150 pounds does sound bonkers but it adds up so quickly. I can't believe how much they cost. It's like a woman tax!

Sounds like a good book, think il have a peek on amazon and invest.

MrsEasingwood Mon 31-Dec-12 01:20:38

They are so expensive and im too much of a wuss to buy the cheap ones in case I get a false reading, I know that sounds daft but I prefer to buy the CB dating ones so when (if!) it finally happens I can see how far along I am. And not to mention the conception tables and fruit and veg it all adds up and that's before I'm even pg!
It is a good and worthwhile read lots of tips for him as well! I found it really useful.

chocoloulou33 Mon 31-Dec-12 01:31:23

This is my 4th cycle. I don't believe u have to do everything religously for a bfp, ppl get pg everyday without doing any of that. I sure did when I last got pg. I do think it increases your chances so whatever works for people smile

bundle4me Mon 31-Dec-12 11:28:46

Hey, sorry to gatecrash your thread girls, hope you don't mind. I'm in a similar position too but I'm only a couple of days late with a couple of symptons.... Oh and a BFN at the weekend! I probably shouldn't have tested so soon but I was too excited - What a slap in the face the BFN brought! angry

Rasberry, I couldn't agree with you more about the tests that say 'NOT PREGNANT'. You're at least a lot braver than me, the boxes alone intimidate me! I use the ones with the lines but even then I almost go cross-eyed trying to convince myself I see a second line!

Mrs , I really hope you get that BFP. Keep trying! Hopefully there will be a lot less bums under pillows, legs in the air and sympton spotting for us in the New Year! Fingers crossed girls! thanks

I use eBay/Amazon cheapies most of the time.. if I see something I break out the FRER (First Response), and a day after seeing a line on a FRER I break out the digital. Works out a bit cheaper and I get to wee on sticks as much as I want.. also means more of a gentle letdown with a BFN too as you can always "oh it's still too early" right up until AF appears.

First Response's website sells five for £8.99 at the moment, as somebody posted on here recently. Got mine a few days later. Complete and utter bargain!!

Good luck to everybody!! (me included.. heh. Only 2dpo though and that really IS too early!!)

I'd say it was safe to have a drink tonight too.

MrsEasingwood Mon 31-Dec-12 14:28:57

Well ladies I took your advice and did one last test this morning and got my BFP grin
Hope you all get yours soon!!!

Suze77 Mon 31-Dec-12 14:57:16

Brilliant news, MrsE! Congratulations!

OrangeLily Mon 31-Dec-12 17:05:52

Aww congrats that's lovely news! No Drinkie's for you tonight!

I did one too but knew what the answer would be. So lots of cocktails for me instead.

RaspberrysAndIcecream Mon 31-Dec-12 17:18:52

Congratulations!!! grin

chocoloulou33 Tue 01-Jan-13 09:03:04

Congrats mrs xx

MrsEasingwood Tue 01-Jan-13 11:09:34

Thank you smile
Now I just have to keep it a secret for the next 10 weeks

Awww, congratulations!! Maybe you ovulated a bit later than usual!!

Girraferama Tue 01-Jan-13 17:22:56

Ahh congrats - that's fantastic! I went to docs and she got me to do another test (BFN) and said that's it - definitely not pregnant and didn't do a bloodtest to double check. Bit gutted if I'm honest but guess I needed someone to put a lid on it and stop me wondering, so now I'm looking ahead to next month... Maybe it'll be our turn next :-)

bundle4me Wed 02-Jan-13 14:12:05

Girraferama, did your doctor say what could be causing you to be late?

Good luck for next month - and me too! smile

Girraferama Wed 02-Jan-13 14:40:49

No, she suddenly started going on about my periods when I was 16-18 (before the pill) and how I'll need to go back in April to have blood tests for complications in if not conceived - she's completely freaked me out as I wasn't thinking there was anything wrong really, we've only been trying a couple of months. Now I'm really worried that she thinks there may be problems down the line. My DH thinks we should go back and see someone else and ask for clarity on whether we should be worried. I'm not sure though, feel a bit silly for to asking more at the time but was only thinking I was going in to find out whether I might be pregnant!

bundle4me Wed 02-Jan-13 16:22:26

Oh bloody hell! Talk about pressure and stressful times! Try to not worry about it, I know its hard cos I know I would be but there isn't anything you can do so worrying isn't going to help. April is a long way away yet, anything can happen between now and then. I would suggest if you do go back in April to see someone else though. If you have only just started trying then I don't understand why she'd be saying there could be a problem if you haven't fallen yet! If that were the case the doctors waiting room would be full of us! Try not to panick too much.

Girraferama Wed 02-Jan-13 16:58:53

Thanks bundle - it was the last thing I needed! Like you say, there is little point in worrying! Has your AF arrived yet? Or is the game still on?!

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 12:06:35

OMG! Congratulations Mrs!!! So happy for you (and extremely jealous!) smile Do you know how far gone you are?

Hopefully we'll be joining the BFP club soon! smile Wishful thinking never hurts!

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 12:09:20

Girraferama, nope! Still no sign of AF and no symptons of it showing either! Totally confused. I know its all probably because of coming off the pill etc but I can't help but think that maybe, just maybe, I could be pg... Even after two BFN! Crazy, huh!

I'm glad you agree. As I said before, April is a loooong way away yet anyway.

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 12:42:22

That's it! Curiosity has got the better of me again due to no AF! I've gone out and got one of them evil tests, the ones that say 'pregnant' or 'not pregnant'. Maybe seeing the words in my face of 'not pregnant' will make me finally realise its not going to happen this month! I've even sneaked out of work to get the test and am going to do it in the ladies loo - nice, huh!

I'll be back in 3 minutes to report!

Starting to think this was a bad idea already!

Girraferama Thu 03-Jan-13 12:43:52

Good Luck! At least if its a BFN we're in it together..

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 12:56:03

I'm too scared to do it now, lol! Plus I don't think I need a wee yet! xx

Girraferama Thu 03-Jan-13 13:01:40

Haha, I give it an hour... Now you've thought about it! How many days late do you think you are? Do you have any symptoms?

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 13:15:18

BFN!! Not that I'm surprised. I don't really have any symptons although I think I try to convince myself otherwise. Its just that its been 34 days since my last AF but it must be because I've just come off the pill and my body is trying to find its cycle. I wish it would just bloody turn up now so I can continue trying!

At least one thing I've learnt is that I'm never taking a pg test in the ladies loo at work again!

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 13:20:02

Can't help but feel completely gutted though and to make it worse I'm stuck at work now feeling infertile! DH doesn't even know that I've taken pg tests because I don't have the heart to tell him that it hasn't happened and I feel guilty for it not happening, esp as he assumes because there is no sign of AF it means I'm probably pg. Completely stupid really seen as this is only the first month trying and we may have to get used to the fact that it could take a long time.

I know I shouldn't but I just feel guilty that it hasn't happened, esp when he's so positive. Do you know what I mean? Gosh, I need to buck up! Think I'll go have something really naughty and fatty for my lunch now! And a drink when I get home tonight!

bluefreckles Thu 03-Jan-13 13:24:42

Hey bundle. Sorry to hear about your BFN. I too had a BFN this morning despite being 3 days late for my AF. I too have no symptoms apart from peeing a lot and having mild cramps. No sign of AF at all and I normally get signs.
Think I will retest in about 1/2 weeks if still no AF...

Girraferama Thu 03-Jan-13 13:35:37

Hey bundle sorry to hear that. The best thing to do is to wallow in self pity for the rest of the day and start a fresh, positive approach tomorrow! I'll be your TTC buddy as it looks like we are in the same boat.

I know what you mean re your DH, mine was convinced I was pregnant and it killed me each time I had to tell him it was negative. I've tuned mine in to the fact it is going to take time now so he's less expectant!
Tbh I don't think it helps reading all the posts on here from people who have been trying for a year or two! Ignorance is bliss.

At least you can have a guilt free glass of wine now. I'm trying to go back to to trying (in my head) with the attitude "it will happen when it happens" but a late or non- existent AF is a killer! I'm not gonna let it beat me though!

Enjoy your lunch x

bundle4me Thu 03-Jan-13 14:14:51

Girraferama, thank you so much, your words have really helped. I think I will take your advice about wallowing in self pity for the rest of the day and have a nice glass of wine tonight!

I called my DH on my break as I really needed to talk to him and said that I'd taken a test and what the result was. He was obviously gutted and especially that I'd done it without him being there but I explained it was because I didn't want to get his hopes up which he understood. I feel a lot better now that I've spoken with him about it and now he knows, as does your DH, that it will happen when it happens which is less pressure on me.

Thanks again for the advice and for listening to me whine!

Girraferama Fri 04-Jan-13 08:51:11

Hey bundle glad I could be of help.

I went to the docs last night with hubby to get clarification on what the other one said. He told me very clearly there is nothing to worry about. He said it can take 6 months for periods to regulate after the pill and as long as I'd had A bleed in the first 3 months he wasn't concerned. He also said often the cycle returns to how it was before the pill, so he was less concerned as I was irregular beforehand. I should go backif AF still doesn't come back after another 2-3 months.

Feel much more reassured now (and relieved!) - not sure if any of this helps you. Hope you are feeling more positive today?

I've decided I'm going to start a thread specifically for us newbies as I think it will be good to club together?

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