3rd Christmas TTC

(30 Posts)
Griffomais Mon 24-Dec-12 13:57:44

To everyone TTC - this is my 3rd Christmas TTC and still not pregnant (unexplained infertility). Finding this time of year unbearable - full of everyone else's children and pregnancies. While I love my family and friends dearly I feel so bitter. Hopefully next year will be different.

Merry Christmas to all - and hugs to those feeling like I feel, you're not alone.x

Happilymarried155 Mon 24-Dec-12 14:36:09

Your not alone :-( I feel the same. This time of year is particularly hard, but I try to remember how lucky I am to have my amazing family and friends and hope that next year I will have my much longed for little one! Merry Christmas! smile

mrsden Mon 24-Dec-12 14:38:20

You're not alone. This is my third Christmas too. It is hard at this time of year, we will get there though. Here's to 2013.

EuroShagmore Mon 24-Dec-12 15:20:01

Me too. This time of year is hard.

twinklestar2 Mon 24-Dec-12 18:28:43

This is my second year ttc. Hopefully the last. Wishing you all the best for 2013 and hope you all get the baby you want so badly.

PinkFairyTaleOfNewYork Mon 24-Dec-12 19:00:04

3rd Christmas here too hmm I'm trying to be positive but it's bloody hard

FrankelcenseAndMyhrr Mon 24-Dec-12 19:31:16

This is my third Christmas too. It well and truly sucks, and anyone who wants to try the "just relax/get drunk" line on me will find themselves with a very sharp sprig of Holly shoved where the sun don't shine.

RockinaroundtheTippletree Mon 24-Dec-12 19:51:15

4th here. Sucks doesn't it and to top it all off just mooched on my young, homeless and single cousins FB profile and seen she is pregnant. Just frustrating and required a fair bit of willpower not to cry in front of the family. What's worse is my parents knew months ago and chose not to say so I'm officially to be avoided when pregnancy stuff comes up. So gutted sad bring on the wine. Hopefully next year will be different for us all xx

twinklestar2 Mon 24-Dec-12 20:13:11

Agree Frankel. I don't want to frigging drink, I want a baby!!!! I'd happily never drink again.

Griffomais Mon 24-Dec-12 22:41:54

Well hopefully 2013 is the year for us all - I agree Twinkle - I would happily never drink again - id literally promise anything just to hold my baby in my arms. Dreams must come true eventually......

X

PinkFairyTaleOfNewYork Mon 24-Dec-12 23:46:16

Hopefully 2013 will be our year for making and having babies grin

twinklestar2 Mon 24-Dec-12 23:51:06

Griff - my arms ache for a baby sad

lovesLemonDrizzleCake Tue 25-Dec-12 09:19:30

You´re not alone. Same here too. Third year, also unexplained, also hurting we let ourselves off family christmas dos this year, it helps, but still feel sad . Sorry and hopefully things will change in the next year.

rainbowbreeze Thu 27-Dec-12 15:53:37

Same here 3rd christmas for us also TTC sad
Enjoyed christmas with the family and we have a fab few days in Edinburgh to look forward to over the New Year, cant wait !!

2013 will be our year !!! wink

Northey Thu 27-Dec-12 16:52:51

Yup, very sadly I know exactly how you are all feeling. If I hear one more carol about a newborn babe in a manger, or see anyone else's photo of their wretched child opening presents/eating chocolate coins/wearing a tinsel halo... It is a horrible time of year.

Pipbin Thu 27-Dec-12 18:25:53

I'm with you all there ladies. Second Christmas ttcing. Last christmas we met up with a friend who said she was expecting, after two months of trying. This time she was there with her baby and we have been trying without success for 18 months now.

I know what you mean Twinkle. You know when you have been carrying loads of bags and you've put some down and your arms feel like they are missing something? I feel like that all the time.

PinkFairyTaleOfNewYork Thu 27-Dec-12 18:36:12

Got AF on Xmas day so I had a lovely time hmm angryended up getting so drunk at the ILs yesterday and making myself look like an arse and I am paying for it today.

waitingtobeamummy Thu 27-Dec-12 18:40:59

Same for us too. Had my hsg on the 21st Dec which has helped a little bit as I knew I had a month "off" so to speak. It's shit though isn't it? All my friends have photos of Christmas eve stuff for Santa, Christmas day with children, blah blah blah.
Fingers crossed for us all.

DerbyshireLady Thu 27-Dec-12 19:28:49

I am 4th christmas ttc. Posted on infertility about finding this time of year so hard. We have come away to a cottage by the sea and I have cried every day, despite steering clear of all the madness. Feel like a loon. I am undergoing treatment for various things so at least it is moving forward for us. Wrote in DH christmas card that I will see him at the funny farm at the end of 2013 if we are no further forward!
My dog is getting spoilt to bits as a result of no babies, so at least someone's happy!
Good luck to you all.

twinklestar2 Thu 27-Dec-12 21:58:44

If I don't have a baby or pregnant next Christmas I really don't know what I'll do sad

Pipbin Thu 27-Dec-12 22:48:16

Twink, it's you and me together girl.
We will get there. I'm determined that I'm not leaving without you.
I'm not going to be able to this cycle due to my lap and dye, so you might get there ahead of me!

highlove Fri 28-Dec-12 11:10:29

Second Christmas here although coming up to two years as we started TTC at beginning of Jan 2011. Two operations, five cycles of Clomid, one IUI, one miscarriage at eight weeks and a failed cycle of IVF. And still no closer to starting our family. It sucks.

Please please please let 2013 be the year for all of us. It just has to be.

Northey Fri 28-Dec-12 13:45:20

Bloody hell highlove, and I thought ^my* 2012 was shit!

highlove Fri 28-Dec-12 16:43:43

It wasn't all this year - some of it was last year! But it's still been thoroughly shit.

2013 has to give us all a break, right...?

Northey Fri 28-Dec-12 18:19:36

<politely removes Shittest 2012 trophy from highlove>

God I hope so!

Pipbin Fri 28-Dec-12 18:26:29

I hope that next Christmas we can all meet up here again and compare babies or bumps.

waitingtobeamummy Fri 28-Dec-12 19:35:43

That would be amazing pipbin

twinklestar2 Fri 28-Dec-12 22:17:34

Same here pip!

Pipbin Fri 28-Dec-12 23:07:39

Thats it then, Christmas eve 2013, we all post back on conception and say how we are getting on.

twinklestar2 Sat 29-Dec-12 13:25:56

Deal!

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