TTC#2 - very exciting!! anyone want to join??!

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sweetju Mon 03-Dec-12 14:41:40

Hi! I am due my period in the next few days (I hope! that's a first ;)) then I will officially be ttc! Very exciting times...

So I thought I would start a nice friendly thread so we can go on our ttc journey together!!

I have been taking folic acid when I remember the last few weeks or so and came off the pill a few months ago.. I'm not entirely sure of my cycles yet, but think I'm due thurs or fri..

So come say hi! x

lindamagoo Tue 04-Dec-12 15:50:04

Hi sweetju, I just had my coil removed yesterday so 2day is officially my 1st day ttc baby #3. I was 37 before I finally fell pregnant with my 1st son then after a year of trying fell with my 2nd son at 39 and here I am at 41 about to try all over again xxx

sweetju Tue 04-Dec-12 19:54:25

Ah wow very exciting lindamagoo! here's to the both of us getting our bfp's! :-)
i would like 3 children too.. That's my magic number!
Is your oh excited about having another too? my boyfriend is just as excited! Tho i may tip it slightly lol.
I have mild period pains so here's hoping i have af asap! on to bd'ing then!
x

lindamagoo Tue 04-Dec-12 20:42:25

Oh yeah sweetju he's just as excited as me, he had the final say on wether we should try again or not, thank god he said yes... I'm due to ovulate on Thur (if the coil hasn't messed up my cycle) then it will b the soul destroying 2ww.... Fingers crossed we both get our bfp's soon, I get just as excited waiting on other people's results as I do my own, lol... xxx

pegster Tue 04-Dec-12 20:58:59

Can I join you ladies? First day of my period today and then TTC starts at Christmas (33 day cycle). DS was made around mid December so if it works first time then would have exactly 2 years between 1 & 2.
Though will be trying not to get too excited, it took 7 months last time

lindamagoo Tue 04-Dec-12 22:58:33

Hi pegster, I took me almost a year last time, my 2nd son was born 4 days before my 1st sons 2nd bday, perfect age gap so I'll keep my fingers crossed it works straight away for you and the rest of us too xxx

sweetju Wed 05-Dec-12 06:58:56

Hi ladies!
Lovely to hear your stories! if i got pregnant pretty quickly there would be 2 years between my 1st & 2nd too.. :-))
My periods not here yet but should be in next few days, had quite a few period pains yesterday... Tho as i only came off pill Oct 10th u never know! i'm hoping go back to 28 days cycles again :-))
know what u mean lindamagoo about getting excited about other peoples bfp! When my best mate told me she was preg i was soo excited lol!
Pegster our periods will be almost exactly the same hopefully! we will have 2ww together! X

lindamagoo Wed 05-Dec-12 08:10:23

Morning ladies... Well not to be a copycat and all but last night turned out not to be my 1st night ttc but the 1st night of af... Getting the coil out on Mon must have messed up my cycle so it looks like the 3 of us will be starting down the road of ttc at pretty much the same time... Atleast now I will know for sure when to get the good old opk's out... xxx

pegster Wed 05-Dec-12 09:13:23

Very weird that we all seem to be in synch now, fingers crossed for lots of festive shenanigans followed by those BFP's wink

lindamagoo Wed 05-Dec-12 09:41:19

We will become obsessed with symptom spotting now, lol xxx

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Wed 05-Dec-12 19:37:05

Hi Ladies

Can I join? I've been TTC #2 since end of Sept. Kind of thought it would be easy as my first one was conceived first try blush what a silly assumption! Anyway, here I am cycle 3, trying not to symptom spot. It's fairly easy as I don't have any symptoms to speak of ATM. So I am guessing I am out this month too. Lots of baby dust to you all! xxx

sweetju Wed 05-Dec-12 21:24:25

Hiya yea def join more the merrier! :-)
so how old is ur first child life is like a box of chocs?
Haven't had many period pains today but hopefully get my period tomo or Fri! that'll be first time in long time I'll be hoping for it!
yea we can def symptom spot together :-))

Just remembered to take a frolic acid (do u like my take on folic acid?! think it's very fitting!!;-)) i'm rubbish at remembering!!
also is there something about men taking zinc?

it is very spooky Pegster & Linda we in same boat! 2ww support!!

ju x

sweetju Wed 05-Dec-12 21:25:39

Ps baby dust to u all too!! bfps here we come!!

lindamagoo Wed 05-Dec-12 21:29:46

I know sweetju, be good to see if we go through the same kind of things and emotions... Baby dust right back at ya xxx

sweetju Thu 06-Dec-12 10:44:19

Morning!
Linda i forgot to ask u about opks. . I used them while trying for my first as was told i wasn't ovulating after coming off pill.. Kept on getting negatives as i was actually pregnant lol. Do u like them? i may use after few months of trying <as long as not already preg~ PMA! ! X

lindamagoo Thu 06-Dec-12 11:22:42

Morning sweetju...

I used opk's with my 2nd and the line defo came up darker around ovulation but after a year of no baby we stopped using them and stopped trying, had sex once after that and got my bfp grin

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Thu 06-Dec-12 12:30:51

Hiya, my son is 18 months - would have loved to have a smaller age gap but hey ho! I don't know about men taking zinc, I had bought some his and hers pregnacare but they are sooo expensive. Will have to find out if there is something cheaper that hubby can take.

I had an ultrasound scan done last month (to do with weird periods and excruciating pain on left ovary) they couldn't find anything other than that the lining of my womb was too thin. It was two days before my period and it looked as though I was only half way through my cycle. So now I am really worried about that, presumably if the lining is not thick enough possible baby won't have anywhere to set up home. sad She's referred me to a Gyno, so hopefully they can do some investigating and get it sorted!

Wishing you lots of festive bding, may Santa bring us all babies! xxx

padster75 Thu 06-Dec-12 12:49:23

Hi Ladies,
Mind if another one joins you?
Currently on Cycle #2 (of proper trying), 8DPO, not many symptoms to spot this morning. Had v sore nipples for 6 days (unusual for me) and have woken with a vile metallic taste in my mouth.

TTC #2 ......DS is............. (wait for it) ............. 15 ........ long story!!

lindamagoo Thu 06-Dec-12 13:21:03

Life when I had my coil removed on Monday the nurse told me the lining might be thin for a while but that a fertilised egg only needs the smallest part of thick lining 2 attach to so here's hoping there's a little parking space in there for u grin

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Thu 06-Dec-12 13:34:05

Welcome Padster! Do tell us your story....I'm intrigued! smile Looks like you and I will be testing round the same time, I'm 7DPO at the mo. No symptoms to speak of apart feeling freezing cold for days now. Of course, it is super cold out there, so that may have something to do with it.. LOL.

Thank you Linda, that's made me feel a bit better. Perhaps I should make a little P sign in there, point it in the right direction smile

sweetju Thu 06-Dec-12 15:35:44

Hi life that 's similar to me, my dd is 15 and half months..really hope alls okay with ur further tests, I'll be sending u lots of positivity! So when are u due? TA forfor advice and Linda!

Welcome padster! Mm Im intrigued now too!

no period yet but quite a few period pains which is good! lol. Will be nice for it to hurry up so i can get dancing!!

oh yeah for anyone on the 2ww.. A massive thing that worked for me Ws almost treating it like the fertile period spray felt like i wasn't counting it down quite so much! and funnily enough that is when i got preg i think!

Very excited to share all our bfps!!
xju

sweetju Thu 06-Dec-12 15:37:10

Was meant to say 'treating it like fertile period so... Not spray!! ' lol

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Thu 06-Dec-12 18:32:58

Thanks Sweetju. When I just skimmed over your message initially my eye caught the words 'fertile period spray' and I thought, what on earth is that?! LOL. Makes sense now. Period due on the 14th if I go by 28 day cycle. They vary between 28 and 31 though.

Good advice on the 2ww. How long long had you been trying for your daughter? Hope you get your period soon so you can get started on #2! smile

padster75 Fri 07-Dec-12 09:03:58

Morning Ladies,

FX for yo all still in the tww

You really want to hear the saga?

Married exH young, had DS, couple of years later left the marriage (as Craig R-H would say 'it was a dis-arse-ter'. Spent 8 1/2 years as a single Mum doing that life re-building thing.Got diagnosed with cervical cancer aged 30, had LEEP, was told couldn't conceive, so we left it. Over time, with each and every new baby and pregnancy announcement a little bit of me just curled up and died. This summer I cracked after hearing my BF was PG with #4, burst into tears & went back to GP. Who told me about new Europe survey into women post LEEP carrying to term with only 12% chance of mc (infinitely better odds that the you 'will not' I had been told originally). So armed with this news, DH have decided to give it a go, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't we can say we tried. So thanks to a shitty divorce, cancer and crap information there will be at least a 15 year age gap between my siblings .............

sweetju Fri 07-Dec-12 10:40:55

Thanks life! No period yet, but still pains.. Which i'm actually glad about lol as hopefully that means it's on it's way! With my daughter i came off pill in Sept and was preg by mid Nov so was really lucky.

Wow padster thanks for sharig, sorry for any of your heartache but here's to you having every success in getting and keeping a bfp.. You deserve all the luck:-)

getting v excited for Xmas now and if my af hurries up i should be fertile just before! how do u guys work out ur fertile times? i generally use an ovulation predictor online :-) but bd every or every other day anyway lol> help increase my chances!! ju x

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Fri 07-Dec-12 10:50:25

Good morning ladies!

I'm currently TTC number 2. Dd will be 4 in February. Had a mc in june and been trying ever since.

Bfp due 15th (although came on 4 days early last cycle :-/ weird)
Will be a well earned Xmas pressie :-)

When is everyone testing?

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Fri 07-Dec-12 12:29:58

Thanks for your story Padster, sounds like you've had a rough time. Really pleased you have overcome your cancer though, and sounds as if there is definitely a good chance for you to become pregnant again. I am sure it won't matter to your son about the age gap. I know of a woman who has a 20 year old and a 1 year old. She gets lots of free babysitting! ;-) Best of luck to you.

Padster, sounds like she's on her way! Hope you will be lucky to conceive quickly again. :-)

Welcome Hayle! Sorry to hear about your mc. :-( Will keep my fingers crossed for you this cycle! When are you testing?

I am now testing on the 12th, day 28 of cycle 13dpo. Got my dates mixed up, can test earlier than I thought! Still, have absolutely no hope this cycle as already feel like the witch is on her way and no preg symptoms whatsoever. Think I am going to try and take the relaxed approach next cycle. I.e. no OPK (been using clearblue smilies) and no timed sex. Just as often as we can (or feel like it...sigh).

Think I'm going to write to Father Christmas this eve, in case he doesn't know what I want for Christmas.... grin

pegster Fri 07-Dec-12 12:37:28

Great to see some new ladies since I last checked in. I'm having a w-e away in Munich so not much time for MN-ing but will be reading properly when I get home Monday. Fingers crossed for those already on the 2ww

padster75 Fri 07-Dec-12 13:32:36

Thanks for your kind words ladies, shall we just say the journey thus far has been character building wink Luckily DH is a varssst (anothe Craig R-H impression there) on the first and I cannot wait to give him a much longed for baby.

pegster have a lovely time away in Munich this weekend. Christmas markets by any chance?

Life I am sure Father Christmas is ordering a super ripe egg and a jet propelled sperm for the big day

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Sun 09-Dec-12 10:36:47

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

Pegster - Let us know how Munich was, sounds fab!

Padster - Your description of a jet propelled sperm made me laugh, can just picture it!

Sweetju and Linda - AF arrived yet?

We put our tree up yesterday, so in theory should be feeling all Christmassy now and stuff. But have been having the familiar rumblings in uterus for the past two days indicating AF is on her way, so I am feeling low. Had really hoped this was the month. Now I just have to wait for her to show up so we can start again. Oh well, onwards and upwards eh?

Have a great rest of the weekend all. xx

Hi life, af been and gone now so very excited to have started ttc now, hopefully won't have to wait as long as the last time. Hope things are ok with you and hope you had a good weekend grin

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Sun 09-Dec-12 15:53:39

life it isn't over until the witch rears her ugly head!

Linda enjoy shag week(s) wink

I reckon I'm roughly 10dpo today but refusing to test until after is due. determined to hold out!

how

How is everyone this Sunday?

sweetju Sun 09-Dec-12 16:32:15

Hey hey!
Welcome hayle! really hope it's your month and anyone else who has not had af yet! & if u have then January will be our month! ;-)
well i think I've got my period lol tmi but i appear to have started but tiny bit! Sos for tmi but had to explain lol. It better be here been having period pains for nearly a week!!

Linda- v exciting! really hope i joining u in few days!

hey life you never know.. I had loads of period pains in v early preg.. So much so i kept on going to the toilet thinking i must have come on! i also had lots of discharge which again make me think i was coming on!

Hayle good on u for waiting til af is due i was terrible with my first testing all the time lol. The one test that finally showed up was a cheapy from home bargains lol.

Good luck for anyone else on 2ww!
If Im def coming on then I'll be fertile over Xmas day lol nice!
ju x

Hayle I sure will enjoy, bled for ages with that stupid coil so I'll defo be making the most of the sexy time, lol . Today was a big day for us, had a huge fall out with my dad and stepmum 5 years ago and they just met my kids and oh for the first time, it went amazingly well, so relieved, and slightly drunk now too, lol

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Sun 09-Dec-12 18:40:55

Sweetju - I know what you mean, when I was pregnant I was convinced that AF was on her way and kept checking like you - but then I did have more discharge, hardly have any now so don't think that is a good sign. You and OH will have to try not to fall asleep after Christmas dinner then, but try and sneak off for a bit of festive/drunken bding wink

Hayle - Any symptoms? Well done for being so determined not to test! I'm going to try and save my tests too. Isn't it annoying how PMT and early preg feel pretty much exactly the same??

Linda- Wow sounds like you've had an amazing day! So glad everything went well. Hope you can renew the relationship and see more of each other over time. Really pleased for you smile

Have a lovely evening all. Homeland for me tonight, I love it! (and Damien Lewis blush) xx

Thank you life, think its definatly the start of good things for me and my family grin

sweetju Mon 10-Dec-12 21:33:44

Linda that's lovely news.. V happy for u!

Hayle, any symptoms?

Life, any changes? Are u going to test soon?

Well my period is def here, soo glad! can't wait to start actually ttc!! yay! think Im fertile 21st ish for week or so. I normally use baby centre ovulation predictor or something.. What about u guys?? looking forward to lots of bd'ing!
ju x x

pegster Mon 10-Dec-12 21:49:09

Back from snowy Munich, fab weekend celebrating my DH's 40th which is tomorrow. He works out there and usually comes home at the weekend but this time DS & I went out to see him. The snow and the markets were brilliant feel really Christmasy now grin
My AF has just finished and my i-phone app predicts ovulation on Christmas Day so should be a jolly festive season in this house wink
Anybody else got as far as POAS yet?

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Mon 10-Dec-12 22:05:12

Sounds perfect timing pegster

No symptoms as such. Felt bloated today... ?

AF due Saturday although was 4 days early last cycle so expecting it from tomorrow/wed. No AF cramps yet though. It's not over until its over!

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Tue 11-Dec-12 13:05:26

Linda - that's lovely, family is so important isn't it. Especially round Xmas time. smile

Pegster - Must be difficult with your DH working out there, although probably really nice when you do see each other again, should make the Xmas BD enjoyable wink

Sweetju - Tested this morning and BFN, so I am gutted. Don't know why I bothered really. Have to wait for AF to show up now. Wish I could say could go ahead all guns blazing over Christmas but we'll be staying with 4 different family members over 2 weeks, so we'll probably end up not doing it at all. Rubbish! angry

Hayle - Bloating could be good... I really hope it's a sign for you. grin

Hope everyone is ok! xxx

Thanks life, it was great seeing them after all this time and my kids really seemed to like them, my youngest normally cries with strangers but he was fantastic, couldn't have gone any better...

I've just order some conceive plus lubricant and I think I'm due to ovulate next week so I really hope it helps, never used it before, actually I'd never even heard of it before so fx it does the trick...

pegster Tue 11-Dec-12 15:40:12

Linda - really pleased the family reunion went so well, must have been a special day seeing your children with them.
Life - sorry to hear about the BFN, it's always a downer, fingers crossed for the next cycle...

Hi, am about to TTC no 2 soon (3rd day of AF today)
Its exciting isn't it, if it doesn't take too long to get a BFP then DD will be about 3 and a half when number 2 comes along!

pearl81 Wed 12-Dec-12 07:40:54

Hello everyone,

Myself Pearl, from India. I am 79' born and my husband n me are TTC from last 11 months and so far nothing happened. I was diagnosed with PCOS and was treated for say 4-5 months, which regulated my period from 35-days cycle to 28-30 days, which sounded a good news for me until last month, I was supposed to get my periods on 24 Nov but it arrived on 30th Nov 2012. First day(30th nov) it was normal bleeding and second day little lighter and on 3rd day that is 2nd of Dec, just some spotting that slightly stained my pad. Then nothing ..... I normally start to get cramps, sore-breast and sick 5-days before my period is expected. But this time i just felt little cramps exactly few minutes before i started to bleed. My normal bleeding continues up to 4-5-6 days.

I don't know what happened to me. I have been feeling very dizzy and sick from last 3-4 weeks, feel like throwing anytime. headaches, slight cramps on either side of my lower abdomen. Its 12-dec-2012 today, took a HPT, got 1 clear pink line and exactly from where the 2nd line should have appeared, I see pink spread as if drops of urine were more than it was supposed to be.

I am so confused now confused. i donno what should I do. I am feeling so disappointed. My last period was again 5-6days late, is it that my PCOS is still not cured???? sad

CrackerJackShack Wed 12-Dec-12 10:06:16

Hi Everyone,
Been ttc #2 since November 19th, so I'm 4 days till a (fingers crossed) missed period. Just got a BFN on a pregnancy test and feeling sad. sad

Getting the coil out last Monday must have messed my cycle up!!! Started what I think was af on the Tuesday and now I've just got a + on an opk, god knows what going on with my body wink

Just read up on getting the coil removed aswell and it says you can still ovulate when your meant to after getting it removed even if your bleeding and I was due to ovulate last Mon/tue when I got it out, so confused, we bd'd the night before removal and twice this week so far so hopefully I've got it covered grin

Overreactionoftheweek Wed 12-Dec-12 11:40:56

I decided in the early hours of this morning when I couldn't sleep that yes I want to ttc #2.

Ds is almost 14 months - we spent the first year saying he would be an only but now both want to try for another! Took more than 18 mnths to get bfp first time so not entirely convinced we'll end up with another child but definitely want to try.

I took my mini pill last night but also had AF on 7th...I missed a couple of pills but think that would've been the time I was due anyway and I know people still bleed for the first couple of months on this pill. So basically I have no idea where I am in my cycle! I'm going to stick to the every other day method to start - dh will be thrilled wink

Good luck everyone!

ninjasquirrel Wed 12-Dec-12 11:42:41

Hello everyone

New here and feeling a little bit inappropriate as I'm not ttc yet - I found out yesterday that my 12 week foetus is not going to make it after all. So I'll be joining properly in a few weeks, all over again, and today I want to think about that rather than what might have been. I've been feeling worried that a 4year+ age gap with DS will be too much, but Padster has reminded me that families come in all shapes and sizes.

Pearl, I think you should go and see your doctor again. CrackerJack, sorry you're feeling sad today.

CrackerJackShack Wed 12-Dec-12 11:48:54

Sorry for your loss ninjasquirrel. That's rough sad

Sorry for your loss ninjasquirell hmm I wish you all the best for the future x

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 12:33:06

ninja so sorry to hear about your mc. My dd would have been 3.10 when it was due (2weeks away) and I haven't got my bfp yet so my gap will be almost 5 years.

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 12:34:02

Sorry that doesn't make sense. I had an mc in June and should be 38 weeks ATM. Meaning dd would have been almost four when baby was due.

pearl81 Wed 12-Dec-12 13:11:17

Sorry for your loss. And thanks for your patience... also for suggesting .... Yeah i will soon be seeing my doctor. I am 12 days away from my last period and am experiencing menstrual cramps .... though no bleeding or spotting as of now. Still feeling nausea and tired ... also dizzy. Let me see if my Gyn helps me out.

pearl81 Wed 12-Dec-12 13:22:02

@CrackerJackShack : hmm ... I guess its too early for you to take HPT. I would advice wait for at least 1.5 weeks to take a test. But again sometimes, tests are also not that effective as much blood tests are. All the best ... Hope you get a good news soon.

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Wed 12-Dec-12 13:29:12

Really sorry for your loss ninjasquirrel - can't imagine what that must be like. I think when it comes to age gaps, hopefully our firsts will be delighted with a sibling no matter how old they are. They just wouldn't know any better :-)

Welcome Pearl - I don't know what to suggest - sounds like you could be pregnant but it would definitely be worth seeing your GP again I think. Good luck.

Welcome Crackerjack - Sorry you got a BFN - I got one too yesterday and have started AF today so getting ready for cycle #4 You may not be out just yet though.

Welcome Overreaction - hope you will get your BFP soon - certainly bding every other day is a good start!

Linda - I've never had a coil so I wouldn't know but heard of a lot of people falling PG straight away after removal for some reason - hope you'll be lucky too.

Hayle - Just wondering, has your DD mentioned that she would like a sibling? Always interested in what you would say to that.. Mine is too little to be asking, but it may well take a very long time and perhaps he would start to wonder.

Hope everyone is ok today. xxx

Ninja squirrel so sorry for your loss sad

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Wed 12-Dec-12 13:35:18

Clare - So sorry I missed you out! Can't keep track ;-) Welcome! Is this your first month TTC?

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 14:06:21

life she would live a sibling!!

With my last pg because I was poorly with HG she knew from very early on. We took her to the 12 week scan as we suspected nothing. (I'd had an early scan at 7 weeks as I was admitted with HG) at the early scan you could see a strong hb.

Therefore we had to explain that the baby wasn't strong enough so it isn't in mummy's tummy anymore. We always say things like "when we have a baby..." And she will one day. She's already said she's not doing Nappies!!

Sorry about af arriving life, fx this will be your month and thank you for the little boost of hope about people getting pregnant after the coil grin

Yes, this will be first month TTC, day1 of AF Sunday so will probably ov about 22nd ish, could be a lot of surreptitious shenanigans at my parents over Christmas! blush

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 17:18:45

Hi I hope some one can help me :-) I've been trying to conceive for 4 months I previously had a blighted ovum, so it's been scary.
Well to cut a long story short the last month I thought to my self go hard lol give it your all I pumped me and him with vitamins and brought the cbfm.
So finally got my positive on day 23 but I have a 28 day cycle do was upsetting as I figured that I don't have a long lutel phase do was driving today and felt a tingle in my breasts, come home tested and got a bfp l

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 17:21:20

Hi I hope some one can help me :-) I've been trying to conceive for 4 months I previously had a blighted ovum, so it's been scary.
Well to cut a long story short the last month I thought to my self go hard lol give it your all I pumped me and him with vitamins and brought the cbfm.
So finally got my positive on day 23 but I have a 28 day cycle do was upsetting as I figured that I don't have a long lutel phase do was driving today and felt a tingle in my breasts, come home tested and got a bfp I'm so scared and happy. But how and when did I fall pregnant?? Surely I test wouldn't show this early I only ovulated 3 days ago according to the cbfm. Slightly confused but over the moon. If some one could help me I'd b grateful xxx

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 18:00:25

kbaby from what I've read before, I could be wrong, you can get more than one rise in LH (ovulation hormone thing). So although cbfm says ovu on day 23 you could have ovulated before then. If you have been dtd since AF finished then you could have quite possibly ovulated and caught it before cbfm gave you a +

Congrats on your bfp :-)

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 18:01:56

Your right though, if you ovulated 3 days ago you would be going through implantation ATM which shouldn't result in a bfp pg test.

pearl81 Wed 12-Dec-12 18:15:15

@lifeislikeaboxofchoccies: Thanks thanks for greeting me ... so glad to join this .... I am on the same boat as many are here and waiting to become mom soon .... May all who are longing for this wonderful feeling... get PREGNANT soon ... God bless all .... smile

I would take a off now as its late here in India. Time for me to go to bed. wink

See you all again tomorrow. hope I catch you guys for sure tom as there is a Time-zone issue sad

Good night ...
Bye for now.

pegster Wed 12-Dec-12 18:21:40

Hi Ninja, I'm very sorry for your loss, must be a sad & difficult time for you right now but very pleased you wanted to join us

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 18:29:53

Hi I'm off to buy a digital week test hopefully that will clear a few things up for me xxx

Kbaby have you done another test yet?

Even though its nearly a month until AF due again just ordered a load of pregnancy tests from Amazon!
You lot are getting me carried away! grin

Lol clare I'm the same, ordered 20 and some conceive plus grin

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 21:21:54

Hi just did it said 2-3 weeks so just shows the cbfm is no were near accurate false positives. Ohhhh I'm excited but scared, still I'n shock . Xxx

pegster Wed 12-Dec-12 21:50:58

Wow kbaby, so exciting, congratulations! You're our first BFP!!

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 21:56:26

Aww no way well hopefully it's guna spread now I just tried loads of different things I actually can't believed it worked and it must of been the stuff I tried, as I never fell the previous months. Xxx

threepiecesuite Wed 12-Dec-12 22:01:29

May I join?

Many congrats 111, first of all.

We're ttc #2 since April, got DD who is 2.10. Trying to stay upbeat and positive, which is working to some extent but can't help wondering why it's taking so bleedin' long.

Congrats kbaby, so happy for you, now spread that baby dust our way so we can join you, lol grin

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 22:12:51

I was the same and tbh I just thought to my self I'm going to win this month I put him on a mix of vitamins me 2 used conceive plus and totally dtd every other night, don't give up after my mc I never thought I would fall again. Xxx

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 22:16:36

Lol I'm spreading it lol don't gv up I wana c loads of bfp lol xxx

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Wed 12-Dec-12 22:20:34

Hayle - that must have been really difficult for you having your DD there at your 12 wk scan and finding out. Think you explained really well though. Really hope your daughter will get a sibling soon - even if she won't go anywhere near the nappies!

Linda - You're welcome, and thank you - yes fingers crossed for a Jan bfp!

Pearl - Thanks for the blessings! Hope we all get our bfps before long.

kbaby - Congratulations! What are the things you tried that were different from previous months?

Threepiece - Welcome! This is a lovely thread with a supportive bunch of people. :-) I understand your frustration. We've been trying since Sept, so not quite as long as you - but our first was conceived first go, so you do start to wonder... I am sure it will happen though - we've all got to try and stay positive, even if it is difficult.

xxx

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 22:24:02

Hi I decided to pump up his sperm count even if it wasn't low lol I'm a total physco, and I just had to try everything because no 1 told me TTC could become obsessive l

111007kbaby Wed 12-Dec-12 22:27:58

Lol sorry broke up MSG silly I pad.

I started him on WellCare conception for men, I also went holland and Barrett brought a supply if fish oil capsules. As they contain fatty acids which is another good thing to boost.
Then I put my self on pregnancies trying to conceive pills I started taking vitamin b complex, I also used conceive plus.
And purchased a cbfm monitor but tbh I wouldn't put to much trust in the monitor, and I can't Beleive I got my bfp that was the only thing I tried different and it worked mayb it was just luck either way it doesn't hurt to try new things. Xxx

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Wed 12-Dec-12 22:45:46

Do glad you have done another test kbaby to reassure yourself!! Send us some baby dust. :-)

Thanks life it was hard but she's quite grown up for a nearly four year old tbh and so she knew what had happened just not in as much detail (obvs)

AF due anytime now... Been feeling a little damp down below. Sorry for tmi and random symptom spotting! Expecting AF Saturday but as I was 4 days early last cycle it could be anytime now. The bitch better stay away!!

On the plus side, ALL my pressies are wrapped so I'm good to go.

Anyone else testing the weekend (if the witch doesn't arrive)?

pearl81 Thu 13-Dec-12 04:48:04

sad sad sad sad
BFN sad

Kbaby Congratulations dear .... I got this month's target now ... lets see if it works out for me this month or nt....

We started TTC from 14th-feb 2012 smile onwards, but I was unaware of me having PCOS, so then after natural trials till May... we went to the Gyn... where I discovered I have PCOS .... then ... she treated me with some B-Long and Ebexid [though i had no Thyroid issues] .... for 3-months, then she put me on Ebixid again and Crisanta [Birth control pills] for another 3-months, and all these months since my treatment started, my periods got regular with 28-30 days cycle. n

Now last month she gave me Duphaston 10 mg and continue Ebixid ..... so last month's period arrived after 6-days as expected ..... and I bled [sry TMI] for 2.5 days only ..... with no Pre- menstrual symptoms, no cramps nothing .... the 3rd day it was spotting ....

I have been in a tremendous stress last month .... may be that was the reason, co I got BFN today.

Hope i get pregnant 2-3 months from now.....

Anyone else tried HPT???

Congratulations kbaby may your BFP be the first of many!

Sorry about your BFN pearl don't have any experience of PCOS but when I conceived DD I came off the pill about 6 months before we started TTC and it did take a few months for my cycle to become regular, hope it won't be long for you (or any of us) smile

111007kbaby Thu 13-Dec-12 09:07:48

Hi Thankyou all do much feels nice to talk about it as not telling the fam till the 12 week mark I'm just hoping 4 a healthy pregnancy.
I'm sending loads of baby dust and loves you ways hope it happens for every one of you soon, I never thought this was guna b my month but it just was. It will happen just be persistent xxxx

Sorry about the bfn pearl, it will happen for you soon. I was diagnosed with pcos about 15 years ago, met my oh 5 years ago and fell pregnant 9 months later, had my gorgeous ds then tried for a year for my 2nd ds now onto ttc #3, I tried for a long time in my previous relationship with no joy so when the time is right you will have your lo, good luck xxx

CrackerJackShack Thu 13-Dec-12 10:08:34

Another BFN this morning. sad

Need to stop doing these and wait till my period is actually late.

Easier said than done cracker, especially if your a poas addict like me... When's your af due?

CrackerJackShack Thu 13-Dec-12 11:09:01

Not sure. I wavier between 26 day and 28 day cycles, so my period is either due tomorrow or Sunday. And yes, I'm a total poas addict. I'd do them twenty times a day if I could afford them.

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 11:18:08

I'm out :-(

Here we go again.

There's still time cracker, fx for you...

Hayle, so sorry hmm fx this will be your month grin

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Thu 13-Dec-12 13:24:26

Sorry for your BFPs Pearl, Cracker (there's hope still) and Hayle sad. Geez, it appears this was just not our month! Come on girls, lets get cracking over Christmas and get some New Year's BFPs! Alternatively, lets all just try and chill over Christmas, and actually try and enjoy ourselves without thinking babies every single second. Sigh.. if only! Well, I am definitely having champagne.
Chin up girls. xxx

Overreactionoftheweek Thu 13-Dec-12 20:04:32

I know it's hugely annoying when people trot out the 'relax and it will happen' line...but that is what happened for me with ds1. More than 18 months of trying, then I got my dates wrong and we just had sex for fun and got the bfp.

So I'll be getting sloshed on champagne over Christmas and it'll be bound to happen right?! grin

Congrats kbaby and good luck for next cycle to those with bfn.

homebertha Thu 13-Dec-12 20:55:44

Hellooo everyone, more the merrier? Tough journey padster good your here now though... And life... 'The fertile spray' I thought ey up I ve been missing something here. Made me laugh. Not really sure of all the abbreviations but we are ttc as of last month and I ve just had the 2ww ( am getting hang of it now!) alas period today. It's good to know my cycle has returned to its normal rhythm as have been breastfeeding my little on for (ever) 18 month and so only just started getting periods back 2 months ago... Anyway enough for now. Good luck ladies xxx

homebertha Thu 13-Dec-12 21:12:09

What's bfn? A little relaxing and drinking over Xmas sounds good to me though I m realising I ve not read half the thread oops I ll get the hang of it soon xx

111007kbaby Thu 13-Dec-12 21:33:20

Hya Thankyou, so need some advice ladies ok went to docs today she was a total b** sorry she had no compassion tht I previously lost a child her responce was ye it's normal sO no we won't early scan you, I'm really pissed of and annoyed that a foc can just say its normal to loose a baby and happens all the time like wat kind of hope is she giving me??? Any way do you think I should book a private scan just to give me peice of mind I was thInking for then end of January ? An oh ye 4 gt to say I'm abt 5-6 weeks xxxx

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 21:56:14

FALSE ALARM! I'm still in.

kbaby unfortunately a lot of gps don't get it or the need for an early scan. if you can afford it go private'. I had an early scan at 7 weeks as I was admitted with HG and it showed a strong hb so I was confident about my 12 week scan only to be told baby had died at 9 weeks. so personally.I don't know if I'd want an early scan. I'll cross that bridge when we come to it...

111007kbaby Thu 13-Dec-12 22:04:05

Hi ye I'm in two minds mayb I should just hang on 4 th 12 week scan I'm just so confused and scared I'm trying not to stress I had a early scan with my daughter she is six now <3 but feels like a life time ago I don't rember nothing lol I was 6-7 weeks and seen, her heart flicker. Confused that wat I am. How long b4 your period is? Xxx

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 22:10:55

just see how you go maybe, you may feel more confident this time, or less so.

AF due Saturday but expecting anytime now.

111007kbaby Thu 13-Dec-12 22:14:47

Oooh well let's hope it don't come at all. Ye I thi k I'm g

111007kbaby Thu 13-Dec-12 22:15:04

Going to wait it out xxx

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 22:22:33

I wouldn't make a definite decision. so pleased for you.

BJZebra Thu 13-Dec-12 22:49:44

Hi, I'd like to join you please?
We've been ttc since April - we had DD this January. So about 7 months. We thought it would be easy as we had so many warnings about being really fertile just after birth and DD was conceived very quickly.
It may sound like I am impatient - but I am! I'll be 40 in a few months while DP is almost 10 years younger than me and we would both love a bigger family. X

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 22:59:57

welcome zebra

when are you testing?

BJZebra Thu 13-Dec-12 23:10:17

Will be Christmas day I'm next due - am regular as clockwork - is this what is called the 2ww?
I haven't been trying any fancy techniques as yet, except from not leaving it more than 3 days between ttc!
I'm love to hear any advice anyone has on this.

BJZebra Thu 13-Dec-12 23:11:05

Btw Hayle, thankyou for making me welcome :-)

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Thu 13-Dec-12 23:12:20

it is zebra (generally 2 weeks from ovulation to next period)

I've not been doing anything fancy, probably opposite actually!

BJZebra Thu 13-Dec-12 23:38:54

I figure that I'll keep trying as I am until a year is up and then pop to the doctor if no BFP by then.
It's lovely talking about it though on here and reading everyone's posts. It makes it feel so real. I'm quite excited now!

pearl81 Fri 14-Dec-12 03:55:43

BjZebra wishing u best luck. Even we r trying for a baby since 11 months.... hard luck everytime. Welcomevto this thread. We are many here like you who are ttc. All the best to you n all the ladies trying.

Its 9:20 am here in India.... i m sure you all must be dead sleep. See you all whn u are awake. Till thn good night nvhappy sleep.

WinterLover Fri 14-Dec-12 07:06:24

Hi can I join please grin

DP and I have been trying but not trying since July. We have a DS who is almost 18months now.

AF arrived yesterday so this month we are having a push. DPs on anti depressants and they are causing him to struggle to DTD so thinking of ways to help boost our chances.

HayleBoppingAroundTheXmasTree Fri 14-Dec-12 08:42:03

Ok definitely out now. She's shown up, January bfp it is!

Morning ladies, hope your all well and welcome to all the new ladies aswell grin

I've got the worst tummy bug ever, been really poorly since last night so don't think I'll be doing much on the ttc front the next few days, can't get out the bathroom long enough, lol... Feeling really sorry for myself confused

BJZebra Fri 14-Dec-12 09:01:58

Linda when that happens I like to think of it as cleaning out your system so you're all nice and fresh inside ready to make baby! Bit silly maybe but helps me smile

Thank u zebra I'll try and think that way too, hopefully just a 24 hour bug then I'll be back in action, lol grin

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Fri 14-Dec-12 12:55:04

Sorry about your tummy bug Linda, that's just what you need this close to Christmas! Hopefully you'll feel better soon.

Sorry about AF Hayle sad. But here's to a January BFP indeed! That's the spirit!

Welcome Zebra and Winter! Best of luck to both of you. smile

I am going to have acupuncture this evening which I am excited about - going to see if she can help me thicken up my uterus lining as mine is apparently too thin. Have heard good things about acu - in fact I've had it before but not to help with fertility. Oh well, wish me luck!

Thanks life, as long as my boys don't get it we will be fine...

Good luck with the acupuncture, I've heard loads of good things about it too, never tried it but wouldn't rule it out either grin

pearl81 Fri 14-Dec-12 14:58:43

Hey hayle You definitely will make it in January ... All the best .... smile keep ur spirit high !!!

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Fri 14-Dec-12 16:32:19

Welcome Homebertha - Sorry didn't mean to miss you out! So many new ladies joining us I lose track smile

Good luck TTC #2, I breastfed mine till he was 16 months too although periods came back at 5 months. Hope yours will settle into a pattern again soon! A BFN is a Big Fat Negative (pregnancy test) BFP is a Big Fat Positive, which is what we're all aiming for here! smile

pearl81 Fri 14-Dec-12 16:57:21

Hello homebertha.... welcome.

pegster Fri 14-Dec-12 18:51:29

Hey life, good luck with the acupuncture. I had 2 sessions the month I got pregnant with DS (after 7m TTC) so I rate it highly. And it's very relaxing too grin

Wow so many of us now! Looks like the end of AF (sorry if TMI but from what I've read every thread in this section is way TMI) so I'll be all systems go! grin

Morning ladies, hope your all well today... My tummy bug has gone already, thank god... Feeling much better today, good timing too as we are babysitting for our niece and our twin nephews tonight, they're only 5 months old, going to be a mad house with 5 kids over night, wish me luck, lol grin

cocoachannel Sat 15-Dec-12 09:53:06

Hi everyone. Going to TTC #2 from January. DD will be two in February. I had an ectopic before my pregnancy with her so am quite nervous. I had acupuncture after the EP and conceived DD quickly so also rate it although acknowledge we just don't know if it was a factor! The relaxation may have helped more than the needles...

Glad you're feeling better Linda!

Good luck everyone.

padster75 Sat 15-Dec-12 10:40:15

Morning all,

Missed out loads since Monday, been so busy working I haven't had chance to come on and read what has been happening with you all. Hello to the new names I haven't seen before.

ninja so sorry to hear your news, and yes families come in many shapes and forms. I am lucky my DS is wonderfully supportive, although for this year he wont be getting that baby brother he wants so badly. (Hard to tell really, who wants it more, me, DH or DS .......... this house is mental at the moment).

Have taken to using crystals to help me conceive ........... so that's where my extra poundage is coming from ....... moonstone on a necklace and a orange calcite in my pocket ..... we shall see

DH and I are going to try and get in the festive spirit today and buy some pressies, but our hearts are not in it this year. Job security worries are making us very reticent to buy anything.

Another busy weekend, DS has a Yorkshire cup quarter final match tomorrow, so our weekend is crammed into today.

Have a safe and happy one xxx

Thanks cocoa and welcome...

Padster try not to worry too much and enjoy your Christmas, I know it's easier said than done, just after I fell pregnant with my 1st ds my oh got paid off, a month before Christmas, luckily he got another job just before he was born...

My conceive plus has just been delivered so fx it helps do the trick, think I'm due to ovulate sometime this week then it's the god awful 2ww hmm

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Sat 15-Dec-12 13:17:00

Thanks Linda and Pegster - I loved the acupuncture! The lady who did it was very nice. She's given me lots of homework though - got to pretty much keep track of everything that happens during my cycle so she's got a good idea of what to treat me for when she sees me again in January. It's great to hear it worked for you Pegster, that gives me hope.

Glad you're feeling better Linda, wonder how you'll get on with the conceive plus... Good luck!

Welcome Cocoa! Sorry to hear about your ectopic, that must have been really scary. Good to know acupuncture helped you relax and that you conceived your little girl shortly after - perhaps it's something you can consider again if it helps you feel a bit less nervous - good luck!

Padster - I think the crystals is a great idea. I think anything that will make you feel better and feel proactive is positive. I wore a ruby in zoisite crystal for a while as it is meant to enhance fertility and help with diseases of the ovaries. Certainly can't do any harm I think. As Linda says try and relax and enjoy your Christmas.

xx

Think I'm out before I've really even started this month ladies!!! Not due af til 3rd of Jan but had some spotting today so thinks she's coming very early... God damn coil was the biggest mistake I ever made hmm

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 16:31:49

Hya Linda what coil did you have xxx

Kbaby I had the mirena but only had if for 6 weeks, think I've maybe got a cyst because of it, the spotting only lasted a wee while this morning and (tmi here) but just bd'd and it was very painful xxx

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 17:13:09

I had the same I had mine removed over 4 months ago I won't lie I hated it, I had mine just after my misscarige two years ago because I had a very heavy period, but it made me suck I used to spot whenever I had no regular cycle. And when I had it removed it had moved inside was do painfull. But I think they say after 2-3 months your cycles start to return back to normal, is your cycle regular? And mayb ask ypur foc to scan ypu just incase there is a cyst Xxxx

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 17:16:00

Lol I ment doc but it shouldn't be painfull when you bed so def get it seen to it could be something silly.

I had a cyst when I was pregnant with my 1st ds but I don't remember it being painful like this and it went away quite quickly, think I'll go and see my gp just to be on the safe side xxx

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 17:35:32

Ye def do it Hun then youve eliminated anything that it could be. I'm really paranoid I gt really sore boobs but no morning sickness at all which is worrying me, as I had it that bad with my daughter I was admited in to hospital and put on a drip because I couldn't even drink water. And nothing yet
Which is worrying me xxxx

Kbaby I would try not to worry too much about the morning sickness, when I was pregnant with my 1st ds I had none at all but with my 2nd ds I was really ill, 2 completely different experiences altogether and 2 gorgeous little boys at the end grin

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 20:14:47

Aww ok well hopefully every pregnancy is different. Still contemplating this scan xxx

If its gona put ur mind at ease after everything uv been thru I'd ask for it if I was u xxx

111007kbaby Sun 16-Dec-12 22:04:25

They won't gv it to me but I'll just go private it's more the mental thing do I want to do it will it make me more paranoid or will it relax me xxx

Kbaby I think if it's going to reassure you in any way then do it xxx

Started bleeding really heavy last night, it's calmed down now but I just don't have a clue what's going on with my body at all just now so I'm going to my gp today for a wee mot to get this motor running again, lol xxx

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Mon 17-Dec-12 13:00:57

Sorry to hear your cycle is so messed up at the moment Linda. I hope it will sort itself out soon.

I'm writing to let you know I am going to take a break from this forum for a while. I am feeling quite down, and whilst you are all lovely, I don't think it is helping my TTC by being too focused on the subject. I need to just relax and try not to think about it too much (somehow!)

I am also suspecting that I have endometriosis and cannot get pregnant naturally. Every cycle my period seems more and more messed up and my ovary pains get worse. This time around I only had 3 days of bleeding and it stopped completely. I usually have 6 days. I am going to see a gyno at the end of Jan, earliest I could get an appt, and hope to have a LAP done to confirm my suspicion. I am really anxious and in my head I am trying to come to terms with the fact that conceiving is going to take a lot longer than expected.

I am still going to be trying but am going to try and take the pressure off a bit somehow. Anyway, I wish you ladies all the best of luck! And hope to see some BFPs when I come back! xxx

Life I'm sorry to hear your feeling so down but I think your right, take a wee break and try and relax a bit, it's the hardest thing ttc. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope to hear from you again soon. Good luck with your appointment and try to have a nice Christmas. Big hugs and kisses from me. XxxxxxxX

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Mon 17-Dec-12 15:12:50

Thank you so much Linda, you're very kind. smile Hope you have nice Christmas too and will keep fingers crossed for a big BFP soon for you. Big hugs and kisses back. xxxxxxx

BJZebra Mon 17-Dec-12 15:46:11

Life - good luck and look forward to hearing from you when come back to tell us about your BFP :-)

BJZebra Mon 17-Dec-12 15:53:20

I've been away from MN for a few days as I started to have some dizzy spells and thought it may be due to over enthusiastic use of iPhone. Anyway, DP mentioned it to MIL and she said 'oh maybe she's pregnant'. So now DP is convinced. I googled a bit and it seems for some dizziness is an early symptom. I've still 7 days to go until AF.
My ears are a little fuzzy and dizzyness is in 3rd day. Could just be a little ear infection.
Anyone experienced this? Xxx
Almost forgot to mention (ironically) i seem to be more forgetful than normal too.

padster75 Mon 17-Dec-12 17:56:57

Life hope you get the answers you seek and a BFP. I completely understand just how overawing (<< is that even a word, sounds right) TTC can be. Take the time you need, fx for you and I hope you have a lovely Christmas and 2013 proves to be a kind one xx

lifeislikeaboxofchoccies Tue 18-Dec-12 09:31:31

Thanks Zebra - thanks Padster (yes overawing sound like a word to me) and yes it is. It's really starting to get to me, so I think a little break is the right thing to do at this time. Hope you have a lovely Christmas too - best of luck to you all. xxx

BJZebra Wed 19-Dec-12 10:30:09

Hello, my dizzyness is now in its 5th day and have been incredibly emotional and a little mean to DP do my imagination is going overdrive. Oh yes, have periods like cramps but not quite.
I'm quite suspicious that as I have only just joined this thread it's a case of mind over matter.
I'm trying to focus on other stuff but all I can really think about is this. How do you take your mi d off it? X

111007kbaby Wed 19-Dec-12 17:25:35

You don't I used to go insane untill I got my bfp and guess what I'm still going insane I don't have many pregnancy symptoms like I did with my daughter, so I'm just stressed out. Hope u get your bfp soon xxx

BJZebra Wed 19-Dec-12 18:33:20

How far along are you now?

BJZebra Wed 19-Dec-12 20:48:02

Didn't mean to close the thread by such a closed question - sorry!

111007kbaby Thu 20-Dec-12 11:33:25

I'm nearly 6 weeks I think x

BJZebra Thu 20-Dec-12 16:32:53

Congratulations kBaby!
It's a frustrating wait until the 12 week scan isn't it. I felt I couldn't celebrate until then with DD, tbh I then felt I couldn't relax until 20 week scan and so it went on ... X

111007kbaby Thu 20-Dec-12 16:56:04

Lol I no I had no worry with my 1st then after my miscarige I don't even no how I didn't worry with my little girl lol, well I've booked a private scan for the 20 th jan so hopefully it will all be ok fingers crossed.

caramal Thu 20-Dec-12 17:09:42

Hey can I join in smile we already have one DS who is almost 2

Had implant removed in Oct and after delays and setbacks we are now finally going to be TTC on boxing day. Want to really enjoy this Xmas and have a drink etc, last Xmas I was breast feeding and the Xmas before 2010 I was preg. Just so happens I'm most fertile around boxing day too so fingers crossed smile

BJZebra Fri 21-Dec-12 12:48:43

Welcome Caramal. IKWUM I was heavily pregnant last year at Christmas. You will be really able to savour baileys, sherry, port and smelly cheeses yum yum - if that's your thing!

pearl81 Sat 22-Dec-12 04:39:10

Hi ladies .... i.hv started to get my period's signals. Bad left leg pain ... very little abdomen (left) cramps, sore-breast … last month it came on 30th .... though it was 6days late from wht it was expected. But tht was may be coz of the wrong medicine. I m hoping it will come by 24th - 26th ... this month .... feeling so bad ... it seems this hs become quite impossible now.... Well i m nt keeping any hopes this mnth now ....

How abt u all .... i hope you all get good news soon...Lots of baby dusts on all of you ..and on me too ...
And yeah .... wishing u all Merry Christmas ... and A Very Happy New Year to all..

BJZebra Sat 22-Dec-12 14:06:56

Pearl - I'm due the same time as you probably Christmas Day. My dizzyness stopped yesterday and I feel fine now even had periody type cramps so I'm expecting AF although haven't given up all hope yet. Mind you, if I'm not PG then I may have to go to the GP anyway to find out what all that dizzyness was about.
At the very least I'll be able to have a christmas and new year drink wine Small consolation. hmm

BJZebra Sun 23-Dec-12 21:57:40

AF has arrived sad. I'm so lucky to have DD so am trying not to feel so sad.
How are you all doing?

111007kbaby Mon 24-Dec-12 09:56:29

I'm all g

111007kbaby Mon 24-Dec-12 09:57:50

I'm all good just aim for a jan bfp abit weird not having a Xmas drink or bday drink it's my bday today lol I no everyone's going to b asking y I'm not excuse time, lol xxx

BJZebra Mon 24-Dec-12 16:16:23

Happy Birthday kBaby!
What did you get?

111007kbaby Tue 25-Dec-12 11:41:25

A nice seven days in the Waldorf astoria new York wooo l

111007kbaby Tue 25-Dec-12 11:43:08

Lol excited and by the time I go I'll hopefully no what baby is so lpads of shopping, and I gt all the normal money perfume clothes. Merry Christmas every One hope you all have a lovely day xxxx

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 28-Dec-12 19:14:51

Hi Ladies!

Please can I join you? I'm TTC #2. My DS is exactly 5 and a half years old tomorrow... Looking forward to getting to know you all smile

111007kbaby Fri 28-Dec-12 22:35:20

Hya London how long you been TTC xxx

chocoloulou33 Fri 28-Dec-12 23:25:08

Hi london. I'm ttc my 2nd too. My dd is 5 too smile

MrsSpencerReid Fri 28-Dec-12 23:44:33

Hi, can I tag along? Started TTC #2 yesterday blush got preg really quick 1st time so hoping it happens quickly again but I know it prob won't! Am trying and failing to be relaxed about the whole thing smile

<Sigh>
Don't think its going to happen for me this month. We were dtd pretty frequently up until Sunday morning and my period tracker app thing had predicted ov on Saturday so was quite optimistic. However I could tell from CM (sorry Tmi) that ov was Wednesday or Thursday and we weren't able to dtd again as DP had broken his shoulder by then! sad
Wishing better luck for the rest of you.

BJZebra Sat 29-Dec-12 22:38:10

Hi, i've been down after AF arrived but now she's gone and time to try again. DD is now just over 11 months and I'm 40 in 1 month. Wld love 2 DC before I'm 41 smile

FutureMum Mon 31-Dec-12 10:42:29

Hi ladies, We've been TTC number 2 since July but no joy yet. Very excited about the future and wanting to complete our family so badly! I think it may be stress (we've had a relocation within England, a redundancy, two ftc and many changes in the middle), plus now I have hit the magical age where your fertility goes down the hill. It would be great to see how we are all doing and help each other keep chin up in the New Year. May it bring us the babies we want and need!!

111007kbaby Mon 31-Dec-12 12:36:39

Sending you all loads of baby dust in the new year xxxx

pearl81 Tue 01-Jan-13 16:46:56

Hi All...
Wishing you all a very happy new year. My AF arrived on 29th Dec and am on 4th day today. It had been really painful throughout also i bled(sry to mention) more than as it used to be. Going to see new gyn tomorrow as i already had a devastating exp with my prev gyn.

Hey Kbaby.... thanks for your lovely wish for this new year. I m really looking fwd to this wonderful experience to feel.

Sunshine28 Wed 02-Jan-13 12:49:42

Hi ladies - Can I join you please? I have just come off the pill and am 'thinking' about TTC #2. We are officially going to start trying in March but I am getting a bit over-excited about the prospect of adding to our family and may start before then. What sort of age gaps are you all hoping for? xxx

Fridgedooropen Wed 02-Jan-13 22:41:33

Hello, sticking my head around the door as I am also thinking of starting TTC#2 soon. It's not the best time as my DH is out of work atm but I am getting nervous about leaving it too late. I will be 40 next birthday so not got lots of time to waste. My rough plan is to start taking the vitamins asap and begin in Feb/March.

I have one DS already who will start school in the autumn so have left a largish gap, but then I didn't feel like I wanted two close together. Plus I will not be stuck then paying childcare for two at once.

I am seriously thinking about getting a fertility monitor. Has anyone here tried them?

LondonSuperTrooper Thu 03-Jan-13 09:39:22

Happy New Year everyone!

I've been away for a few days & now I’m back smile

111007kbaby This is my first cycle for TTC #2. I had a miscarriage last may (at 8 weeks) and it’s taken me this long to drum up the courage to get on the wagon for TTC again. What made it heartbreaking is that it took me around 10 months to conceive only to miscarry 8 weeks later.

Fridgedooropen I’m not using a fertility monitor. I've been using Clearblue digital OPK and they've been fine. I also have a largish gap and needed to have my DS at school as I couldn't afford to pay for two at once.

I usually ovulate on Day 14 & we DTD on the appropriate days. I’m now on Day 20 of my cycle. I can’t wait till I test next Wednesday (2 days before AF due)! I'm really excited about testing early - how sad am I?! My DH cannot understand why I have to test early. He keeps saying "well surely 2 days will not make a lot of difference" - bah what does he know!

In the meantime I have started walking for exercise and I'm trying to lose as much weight as I can before falling pregnant. I've now joined slimming world as I desperately need to lose the baby weight from having my DS.... almost 6 years ago blush

BridgetandtheHairyBaubles Thu 03-Jan-13 10:32:44

Hello all,

Any room for another? I'm 36 with a 6 year old DD and we've been trying for number 2 for a year now. I'm really hoping 2013 will be our year as 2012 has been rubbish ttc-wise (a miscarriage at 7 weeks in April/May and a chemical pregnancy last cycle). Not sure how much more heart-ache I can stand.

I tried having a break from Mumsnet a few weeks ago as I thought it was fuelling my angst but just found I was lurking all the time anyway.

Right, got to go as DD is playing a tracy beaker game on our rust bucket of a laptop and starting to have a melt-down as she can't get Tracy to jump over a fridge...

Will try to catch up on earlier posts and post properly tonight - need to ditch the festive name change too... <waves at *London>

LondonSuperTrooper Thu 03-Jan-13 10:36:32

Hey bridget! Welcome back to MN as I really missed you. Big hugs smile

111007kbaby Thu 03-Jan-13 11:23:55

Hi London no exactly how you feel it took me two years to try again after a blighted ovum it is heartbreaking I agree, I think just take the parental vitamins eat healthy also tru conceive plus helped me.
And hi fridgedooropen I used a cbfm but it gave me false negatives and totally sent me mentally insane if I was you I would go at it without 1st my doc said that sex 3 times a week is the perfect way to fal pregnant. So try that 1st.
And London don't let it dishearten you because of the previous miscarriage I no its easy to say because when ppl say it to me I'm like we'll you don't no how it feels, just be positive. Have my 1st scan in the 14 th of feb do every one keep your fingers and toes crossed everything is ok for me :-) xxxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 03-Jan-13 22:45:48

kbaby I hope your Valentine's day scan goes really well. I'll keep everything crossed for you. Well, not everything or I'll never get pregnant blush

I've tried to catch up with everyone's posts but just got myself into a muddle. I think I'll try to get to know you all as we go along. What do people think of a thread stats list?

<thanks London, any news on the house/moving situation?>

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 03-Jan-13 23:26:07

Oh fridge, I've been thinking of getting the monitor too. My issue is actually getting round to buying one. As I understand it you have to start using it on cycle day 1, but during each cycle I think well I won't get one as I may be pregnant this month and then when AF actually arrives, and I'd like to start using one, I'm too late. And so the pattern goes on..

I'm going to fork out loads of £££s for the clearblue smiley face OPKs this month (a 20 pack). I know deep down I'm kidding myself but want to feel I have a bit more control over things this cycle.

Fridgedooropen Thu 03-Jan-13 23:38:56

Thanks for the opinions on monitors. I am still tempted to fork out because I have read so many people saying (many on here) how they got pregnant using one very quickly. I know I'm not unusual in wanting things to happen quickly but it would be doubly good for me if they did - as well as my age, I'm on lifelong medication which I will have to come off when TTC/pregnant and the substitute has side effects which will be bad for my health in another way, the more so the longer I'm on it. So it would be enormously helpful for me (& DH) to be able to hit the target grin asap. With that in mind I am willing to spend the money. It sounds a bit complicated but I will have to study the booklets and the threads on here.

Bridget My plan is to get one later this month ready for my next cycle at the end of Jan/start of Feb.Amazon seem cheapest smile I'm not trying this month and it will be Feb/March when I start. We are just waiting on some news about a bit of work that may come DH's way - would feel better if that was confirmed. We also had a rather sad 2012 so hope you (and anyone else having a bad time) also get more luck this year.

petitfromage Fri 04-Jan-13 09:48:04

Morning all, I'm a bit of a newbie - ttc #2 as of two weeks ago when had coil removed! Today is DS 5th birthday so there will be a bit of an age gap (long story like previous poster) but very excited about possibility of doing it all again.
AF due on the 12th but already feeling a but weird, boobs definitely grown but that could be down to all my Christmas munching! Also I'm 39 so the odds of getting pg first month are minimal.....
Bought preg test yesterday just in case!! Now how long to wait till I test.... Any suggestions??

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 04-Jan-13 10:10:30

Hello petitfromage and many happy returns of the day to Master Fromage!

Really pleased there is a handful of us with bigger gaps than the norm. I always feel a bit funny when people talk about really not wanting a really big age gap between their children and then it turns out their little one is about 18 months and my DD is already 6!

I think most people have pigeon-holed us as a one-child family by now. I have to confess, I do smile when I imagine them seeing a bump and realising another is on the way.

As a very general rule, if test about 14 days after you ovulated you should get a pretty reliable result. If you have no idea when you ov'd, they say a fortnight after you last had unprotected sex.

petitfromage Fri 04-Jan-13 11:24:07

Hi bridget! Totally agree re age gaps. Also find some slightly more mature (ok oaps) ladies feel it is within their rights to tell me to have another baby soon as he shouldnt be an only child!! Happened to me recently in middle of tescos. Very tempted to tell her full story (involves Divorce and cancer similar to earlier poster) but just feel like telling them to mind their own business!
Apparently I was told that the French think 6 years is the ideal age gap as there is no competition between siblings and the older one can be a massive help. One of my friends has a 13 month old and due with dd #2 in 3 months....I do NOT envy her!!!
Roll on next couple of weeks so I can test. Quite achy so think maybe there is something going on.... Do I just relax and enjoy birthday fizz later though?!

padster75 Fri 04-Jan-13 11:49:44

LOL @ the age gaps, we're TTC #2 ......... DS (albeit from my 1st marraige) is 15 (16 in the summer). We've heard all the 'can't have an only child arguments, it didn't wash on me as I am an only child, had a perfectly happy childhood, was never lonely and more than capable of entertaining myself. DH and I have been together 4 years and had a huge amount of speculation as to when we'd produce a child. Being 2 quite stubborn people we're just doing our own thing, everyone doesn't even know we're trying.

cocoachannel Fri 04-Jan-13 12:09:03

Hi everyone.

Just to add to the chat about monitors. I used the CBFM to conceive DD. as I'd had an ectopic I thought it would help with track my irregular cycle caused by tube removal. I was very fortunate that I got pregnant firsts to of trying but must admit that DH found my using the monitor quite stressful. In fact the morning which I think DD was conceived was let's say quite a clinical procedure blush certainly no romance and earth moving!

cocoachannel Fri 04-Jan-13 12:11:09

Oh and in other news AF has arrived which heralds the month of starting TTC (decided not to try until now). So game on I guess.

Given what I said in my last post we have agreed not to use the monitor for the first few months and just see how it goes!

Hi, despite me saying earlier that I thought I was out for this month, my boobs are killing me so I'm convincing myself that I must be pregnant! AF due some time mon-wed so will try to restrain myself from POAS until at least Sunday (patience is not my strong point!) grin

cocoachannel Fri 04-Jan-13 13:16:52

If you make it to Monday before testing you're stronger woman than me! I was terrible with DD to the point I did POAS too early, got a negative, got far too drunk at a party, tested the next morning and there was the BFP. Oops.

Good luck. And step away from the tests wink

fr00tbat Fri 04-Jan-13 15:04:11

Just found this thread- keen to join up and would really value the companionship at the moment- dont feel can tslk to anyone.
We have a healthy baby now 12 months old. Had v difficult time TTC #1 and were sure we were going to have issues again this time as wasn't ovulating. Anyway, we weren't careful this month for first time- couldn't face recurrent TWW nightmare if not ovulating properly and weren't planning to start for a few more months for whole host reasons. Anyway, DTD 2.5 days before surprise O, temps confirmed O on CD 19. Spotting- light pink last night. Cramps last 2days, dark red blood today, temp still up. Not due AF until Monday at earliest- I never spot and am panicking a bit. Scared I am, scared am not. IB or early AF - definitely more blood than just spotting- but not painful enough for usual period. Why must there always be doubt!!!!!!!!!!!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 04-Jan-13 15:47:57

Hello fr00tbat glad you've found us but sorry you are having such a worrying time. It is horrible when you've no idea what on earth your body is up to.

I know it is a bit of a trite thing to say but really only time will tell what is happening (it's just hell hanging on in there in the meantime). Try to keep strong.

I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 04-Jan-13 15:58:08

bridget not sure whether I've told you or not but the vendor sadly passed away unexpectedly in early December. The property sale needs to go through probate. We are still Interested in buying the house but still keeping an eye on the market for new properties. How are you feeling now? A little better? I really hope so .

bat hope that you will get the results that you want.

Hi to everyone else. I'm on the phone & hence the short post.

MrsSpencerReid Fri 04-Jan-13 18:23:25

Oh wow, so many posts!
Am on app so cant see posts to reply to but grrr at AF making so many unwelcome visits. I should ovulate tomorrow but DP is suffering performance anxiety so we haven't managed errr productive DTDing! I haven't told him its O day tomorrow in the hope it might help but I'm already getting my fare ready for the feb bus!

MrsSpencerReid Fri 04-Jan-13 18:31:56

Sorry, wrong thread, but tips on easing the anxiety greatly welcome!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 04-Jan-13 21:57:34

Hello MrsS, I'm sorry to hear your DP is feeling the pressure. I just wish I had some good advice. I know that if I was a bloke I'd be exactly the same as the slightest thing can stop 'the big O' happening for me blush

London yes, I had heard about the vendor's death. Is your buyer happy to wait? I am feeling much better, thank you. Very strange bleed this month though. Much shorter and only bright red 'fresh' blood (just like if you'd cut your finger) with no clots whatsoever. Sorry to be so gross but normally I have very obvious bits of womb lining come out and a real 'hotch-potch' of stuff.

On the subject of only children/age gaps etc my 'MIL' said to me (when I was about 4/5 months pregnant) that, if I was only going to have one child, I shouldn't have any at all! Since DD arrived she has never once raised the topic again but it is the sort of comment you never forget.

I accept I'm probably sensitive and impossible to please but I also get annoyed when people are overly 'nice' about single-child families. I have a school-run friend (with three gorgeous boys) that is always saying stuff like "I bet you're so glad you don't have any sibling squabbling to put up with" and "I bet you so glad to be passed the baby phase."

I genuinely can't work out if she thinks having one must be easy-peasy and is just ever so slightly envious at times, or whether it is a subtle but very deliberate way to draw attention to what I don't have (and she does).

I know this is an odd question but - deep down - do you consider your DC to be an "only child?" I know technically Mini Bridget is one, but since we've started trying for DC2 something has gradually shifted in my brain and now I sort of see her as someone whose sibling just hasn't arrived yet. (Sorry if that's as clear as mud!)

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 04-Jan-13 21:59:40

Oh, sorry for the epic post too...

Fridgedooropen Fri 04-Jan-13 23:55:25

Good luck to all those waiting on results - as I've not actually started yet I can spare all my good vibes for you lot smile

Bridget I know exactly what you mean about the 'nice' comments about having only one. I just agree and think 'Hopefully, one day...' In most cases it is well meant, I think, but can be irksome. My MIL did the whole 'we definitely want another one' bit early on but has since said to relatives 'Fridge and MrFridge aren't having any more...' (without ever having confirmed this with us...) I think people assume that you either obligingly produce another nealy after 2 years, or else you aren't going to - never mind that some people want a larger gap (of course everyone has to make the best decision for them on this) or that there may be other issues, not choice, that has created the gap!

On the question of whether I consider my DS to be an only, that is tricky for me as I just don't know yet. It's a bit Schrodinger's Cat, only wondering whether a baby will come out of the box or whether it'll be empty. Atm I am envisioning TTCing for one year (worried about being on the less good medication for longer) and then, if it doesn't happen, accepting that and settling down to life with one child. Easier said than done for many folks, I know...

fr00tbat Sat 05-Jan-13 10:14:54

Oh my god- FRER v pale pink line- but stick out of date- off to Boots.......

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 05-Jan-13 10:18:48

Fridge, Mr Hairy and I have also decided to review things at the end of the year. I am just hoping it is a discussion we never have to have.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 05-Jan-13 11:01:53

Sorry x-posts! Good luck fr00t.

Has the bleeding stopped?

Keeping fingers crossed for you x

cocoachannel Sat 05-Jan-13 13:08:40

Thinking of you fr00t! Good luck x

LondonSuperTrooper Sat 05-Jan-13 14:33:54

bridget I have always considered my DS to be an only child. I have always felt so sorry for him as I had 4 other siblings when I was growing up. We were all pretty close in age range so I always had someone to play with.
However, since we have started to TTC I am excited by the thought of a sibling for him. We have spoken to him to see whether he would like to have a siblings and his only comment was "yes, but only of it's a boy as girls are yucky!"
As for your comments about your school-run friend, well I have these comments too and it cuts to the bone. Like you, I find that I am too sensitive regarding this issue and quickly change the subject. I especially hate the comments about how lucky I am only having one child. So many times I felt like responding and saying well why did you have 3 or 4 kids then?!

As for the house purchase, we are incredibly luck in that we are not in a chain. We are not selling our flat and have already rented it out and moved into rental accommodations.... we've been renting for 2 years. Initially we were only ever meant to rent for a maximum of 6 months - how time flies, eh?

fr00t best of luck with the pg test. Have you tested again?

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 05-Jan-13 14:59:02

Hi London, I am from a big family too (the middle child of 7). Growing up life was very busy and very noisy.

I think one of the things I struggle with is that the childhood DD has is so far removed from what I had. I don't really 'know' what she's getting, if that makes any sense?

We also live miles away from all my family - whereas when I was little my Gran and an aunt actually lived with us for many years.

111007kbaby Sat 05-Jan-13 16:00:10

Hey lOndon I no what you mean we ate 5 sisters and all quite close together apart from our little sister, and some times I do feel sorry 4 my little girl I look at her and she plays on her own with her toys, and pretends there real whilst I used to rember playing these games with my siblings. So I do think it's abit sad for only children, but on the other hand the one to one time brings them on a lot faster. And I also get the comments about her been on her own, but I've just started to take no notice of them as its not my fault I haven't got 4/5 kids and I sometimes feel like saying well sorry 4 not popping them out one after the other lol but I hold my Tounge.

Froot how's it going, any news xx

And got the scan date wrong lol 14 jan so lets hope it's ok not long I'm counting the days lol xxx

MrsSpencerReid Sat 05-Jan-13 18:26:50

Ooh fr00t, fingers crossed my bfp was on an out of date stick last time!!smile

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 05-Jan-13 21:50:20

Evening ladies, DP is out tonight so I'm having a night in with the last of the Christmas Baileys, Mumsnet and rubbish tv.

As dear old Mother Nature decided to cock-up my New Year's, I'm having a belated think about resolutions and stuff. Going to have Monday (when DD does back to school) as my replacement New Year's Day.

It goes without saying getting a sticky BFP is top of the list but I also want to..

1) pass my driving test
2) lose weight (slow and steadily so I don't mess up my cycle)
3) finally sort out all the family photos and the huge pile of Mini Bridget's artwork (she is a very prolific artist and goes mad if she spies any work in the recycling bin)
4) give up coffee and alcohol
5) do my pelvic floor exercises every day

I think that is probably plenty to be getting on with....

Anyone else got things they are hoping to tackle or achieve?

Oh London your DS's comment about a sibling made me smile. When I vaguely asked Mini B the same question she requested an older sister.

Glad you have less time to wait KBaby

Fridgedooropen Sat 05-Jan-13 22:22:01

Best of luck fr00t - hope you have some good news to share soon.

I have a different perspective on the only child thing as I'm one myself and had a brilliant childhood. OIf course I can't know hoow it would have been different (in a better way smile) with a sibling but as it was I had cousins and friends close by and it was good. So I have always been able to laugh at dire warnings about only children and say 'well, I turned out ok!' Having said that, I like the idea of another but can reconcile myself to one if I have to, just want to know I gave it a shot...

London and Bridget they seem to ask for what they know! My DS when asked is also adamant that he wants 'not a sister, only a brother'.

Bridget I am working on losing weight as currently am the heaviest I have ever been sad but also want to do it steadily, I have lots of general clutter to sort out too. But hardly drink anymore so that one is sorted! The weight and getting my house tidy and organised are mine really.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 05-Jan-13 22:42:04

Yay Fridge - I love it when someone speaks positively about being an only child, it is very reassuring to hear. I am definitely motivated to try for #2 because I would love another child, not because I don't want an only child.

I'm still very undecided about the clearblue monitor thingy - I've been reading the amazon reviews and they are pretty glowing. Would it be too bizarre to have it as a Valentine's Day gift?

I barely drink either, so it's the one resolution I am feeling confident about. I do love my coffee though...

fr00tbat Sat 05-Jan-13 23:07:43

No bleeding still continues :-(
BFN this pm but drinking loads in order to PU for stick- will try sgain am. Not sure will sleep tonight.

fr00tbat Sat 05-Jan-13 23:12:25

We have used the CBFM- expensive but worth it- u need stivks at £20 a month too- always needed 20 with me as dont ovulate until day 19-23 normally- seems to be consistent with charting.....

fr00tbat Sat 05-Jan-13 23:13:26

If you fo buy- get sticks off amazon - much cheaper than high st!

Fridgedooropen Sat 05-Jan-13 23:21:08

fr00t so sorry. Try and get some sleep. Put music or radio on or read something distracting, if any of that helps.

Bridget I don't think it would be odd as a VDay gift! but then I like all sorts of odd presents. I definitely see being an only very positively. I had lots of parental attention but other kids around for company. It's what you make of it.

fr00tbat Sun 06-Jan-13 07:56:12

Fast +ve on digital and frer- bleeding now dark brown and think less- but woken in night by cramping so not optomistic on stickiness.
:-(

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 08:38:02

Thinking of you fr00t - I so hope the bleeding has stopped and the cramps eased off.

I got a pale (but clear - as DP saw it instantly too) second line on FRER this Sunday afternoon and then started bleeding on Tuesday night. Was always on tenterhooks as miscarried in April. However, a little bit of me was hopeful as I'd tested early and it wasn't even FMU. Completely gutted.

The brown-ness of the blood could be a good sign, mine just got brighter and brighter.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I hope this pregnancy is a sticky one but totally understand the crushing disappointment if things don't work out. Keep strong.

fr00tbat Sun 06-Jan-13 10:48:38

Thankyou- feel like am in limbo. Not sure what to do.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 11:36:26

Oh love, hang on in there x

petitfromage Sun 06-Jan-13 11:54:55

Morning all! Did my first test this am - negative but prob a bit early anyway as I'm not due on till Saturday. I knew once I'd bought them I wouldn't be able to leave them alone...

No resolutions for me really, apart from drink less (I do like a wine....) and get back to the gym, want my body back to full fitness before I hopefully put on some baby weight later in the year.

Thinking of you fr00t, let us know how you get on x fingers crossed

111007kbaby Sun 06-Jan-13 13:02:50

Hey froot hope things sort them selves out fast it's horrible when you don't no what to think.xx

And my nausea started really bad about a week ago I feel like death!!! If there's any tips Please throw them my way please.

With my daughter I had hyposemia so was real hell but I prefer to throw up then actually feel sick I got so bad with my dd I was admited and put n a drip but, this is a total different feeling and it's really getting me down haven't left the house in 4 days so if any of u dealt with it please let me no xxxxx

Francescarose Sun 06-Jan-13 15:01:46

Hi ladies

Can I join you all for chat (and probably a little symptom spotting and obsessing) about TTC number 2? My lovely son is 2.5 and it was tricky to get pregnant the first time so I'm already worrying that it might not be easy this time!!

Has anyone been trying the grapefruit juice at ovulation time thing? I can't even remember why I did it the first time round!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 18:19:30

Hello Francesca, welcome to the thread - pull up a chair and make yourself at home.

Haven't done the grapefruit thing, but have heard it mentioned. Is meant to improve your CM?

To be honest, I can see myself trying anything and everything if I'm not up the duff by the summer.

Had my last coffee today. It's going to be soooo hard tomorrow morning..

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 18:25:46

Sorry to hear you are feeling rotten kbaby I only had a medium dose of morning, noon, and night nausea with Mini Bridget so can't help.

Francescarose Sun 06-Jan-13 18:29:08

Thanks Bridget! Good luck with the coffee thing... When I gave up caffeine I found peppermint tea and camomile tea helped- better than having nothing at all! Did you know you can get an organic decaf coffee?

111007kbaby Sun 06-Jan-13 18:50:20

Thanks Bridget I'm starving but can't think bout eating :-( xx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 19:14:22

Oh good idea Francesca, will pop out for some fruit and/or mint teas tomorrow - don't know why I didn't think of that before. I don't even have baby brain as an excuse.

Absolutely luuurvve the name Francesca. We can't use it for a DD2 (family reason) but under different circumstances I'd pop it on the birth certificate in a flash.

kbaby, I found eating helped (but, unfortunately for my figure, that's the story of my life!)

111007kbaby Sun 06-Jan-13 19:23:14

It helps I agree but what gets me is the thought of food urghhhh!!! With my dd I couldn't even drink water with out throwing up, was do bad but now I can't even drive as the motion of driving is making me so sick. I hate milk but I've heard it lines your stomack do you think that could help xxx.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 06-Jan-13 19:34:35

Eeeeww, don't think I'd want milk if I was feeling really sick (but I went completely off anything creamy). I'd be reaching for plain stuff...like a rich tea biscuit or some toast.

111007kbaby Sun 06-Jan-13 20:03:20

I no I feel the same tbh but read a lot of posts and milks ment to help anything just to feel ok 4 abit, hold my nose and drink it lol x

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 07-Jan-13 08:56:54

bridgetI have only one new year’s resolution and that is to be more active. My aim is to walk for 10mins a day. I now it doesn't sound like much but that should indicate my lack of exercise! I joined Slimming World in mid-November and I’m hoping that combined with my increase of activity should speed up my weight loss. I really do need to lose weight as my BMI is around 31.
Wow at you having so many resolutions…. And pelvic floor exercises? What’s that?!

111007kbaby best of luck with your scan. What is this scan for? Also, I’m with Bridget about the milk thing. I completely went off milk when I was pregnant with DS.

Fridge are you following any particular plan for losing weight? And it’s great that you had a lovely childhood being an only child smile

Froot I’m slightly confused ….. are you waiting to do a preg test? If so, what is this bleeding then?

petitfromage AF is due on Friday and I’m testing tomorrow morning. It’s been all I could think about. So I’m with you in that once you've bought the tests it’s hard not to test. When are you planning to test again?

Hi & welcome to the thread Francesa

I’m not giving up coffee but reducing my intake. I’m only allowing one cup of coffee & tea a day. It hasn't been too bad so far (today is my 3rd day of this new regime). Oh and I’m testing tomorrow morning (3 days early). I’m super excited even though it doesn't feel like it’s my month and I’m suffering with the usual pre-AF symptoms.

petitfromage Mon 07-Jan-13 10:36:26

Morning all,
Sat in Starbucks so obviously my caffeine reduction plan not going that well (I did think after I'd ordered that I should have got decaf - oh well .....)

London I've just bought more tests in boots! Thinking I'll wait till the weekend as then I'm much nearer AF date (12th) and also as its DH first baby (my second) thought he'd rather hear news either way in person rather than a phone call to his desk. No aches at all yet and normally I feel my AF coming a mile off so feeling slightly curious now. Also boobs feel like that they have gone up two cup sizes! That can't be all mince pies - can it???

Will check back tomorrow to see how you get on London! Everything crossed....

X

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 07-Jan-13 11:11:23

Thanks petitfromage. It seems that my AF is due 1 day earlier than yours.

Which tests did you buy from Boots? The early preg tests or the ones that you can test on the day? I've read good reviews about poundland tests and tesco double early preg packs.

I've currently got the Clearblue early preg digital tests and according to my packet, testing 3 days early is 86% accurate. Testing today would have been 55% accurate - I didn't like the odds so I skipped testing this morning. And now I'm impatiently waiting for tomorrow.

Interestingly enough, my DH is convinced that I'm already pregnant!!! At TTC cycle 1....... I told him that with our track records.... umm I don't think so!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 07-Jan-13 13:08:25

Hello ttc-ers. fr00t I'm hoping that no news is good news, and that you are being kind to yourself however things are panning out.

London I need to lose a stone and a half to get to a healthy BMI. My problem is plain old over-eating as my crazy mutt ensures I get plenty of exercise. I'm sure your two-pronged approach will work and realistic targets are definitely the way to go.

One of the reasons I'm ditching coffee completely is because I'm trying to break some of my eating patterns too. For me a cup of coffee too often = a biscuit and/or a cake too.

Pelvic floor exercises are sometimes known as Kegels? They are the ones where you repeatedly squeeze your wee-stopping muscles? Soooo, very, very, important for any woman hoping to prevent a prolapse. I'm a lost cause sad

l will keep my fingers firmly crossed for you petit and London Let's hope your boobs are giving the game away petit and that London's hubby's pregnancy radar is working.

I am now sworn off early testing but there is a great deal on First Responses if you order directly from their website. You can get a 5 pack for a really good price and they are definitely my pee-stick of choice. (Rather shocked to realise that I have such strong feelings about what I wee on....)

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 07-Jan-13 13:48:49

bridget thanks for your good luck vibes. Many thanks also for sharing the first response offer. It is a great deal. If I get a -ve results tomorrow then I'll definitely buy a packet if these tests.

I knew what pelvic floor exercises are - I was being cheeky that's all. After I had my DS I was told that I needed an op to put everything where ahem it should be. I declined the op as it meant not having children after DS - as a second pregnancy & birth would negate the op benefits.

I've just calculated that I need to lose 2.5stones to get to a BMI of 25 - yikes!

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 07-Jan-13 13:50:21

Sorry for typo errors. I'm on my phone.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 07-Jan-13 14:11:51

Doh! sorry London - me being dense.

Just been upstairs and realised I'd left a toy boat full of wee next to the sink! Had a "look what ttc has done to you" moment.

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 07-Jan-13 15:16:39

bridget I just have to ask this..... why on earth do you have a toy boat full of wee?!!!!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 07-Jan-13 15:45:00

Was going to mid-stream test (OPK) but changed my mind at the very very last minute and decided to dip-test instead (scared of splashing wee on the digital holder bit).

So I grabbed the nearest thing to me that could hold wee. This just happened to be one of Mini B's bath toys.

Was so engrossed in waiting for the result that I forgot to get rid of the evidence. Oooooopps! blush

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 08:59:41

Hi all,

Well I tested first thing this morning.... I was up at 4am and made myself wait till 6.00am before testing. I got a flipping but not unexpected BFN. Felt OK about it until I found out this morning that I am going overseas with work right in the middle of my next cycle- feel absolutely gutted now!

bridget reading your last post made me giggle... thanks smile

petitfromage Tue 08-Jan-13 09:47:10

Oh London, gutted for you. I just checked on before starting work to see if there was any good news... And doubly annoying that you are away next month. But still try around the time - you never know - I got BFP with #1 at a time when I was fairly sure I wouldn't get one, 5 days after peak. Apparently you are more likely to get a boy if you conceieve late - and I did!
Still planning to wait until Sunday am. Got DS 5th birthday party sat pm for 35 kids (aaargh!!!) and there is no way I can cope with that while contemplating my test result whichever way it goes. Also it did cross my mind that I will probably feel the need to put my feet up with a wine post party so at least I can have it almost guilt free....!!! I'm just not a very strict person when TTC I don't think - I'm taking vitamins but not doing anything else really - not drinking during the week but that's as much to recover from Christmas as anything else. Once I get BFP I'll be really quite strict but I don't want to jinx it by assuming I can't drink, have coffee etc. if nothing happens after a few months then I'll start cutting out the naughties. Is everyone else being really good? Is it just me??!
Right really should get some work done....

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 10:35:52

Thanks petitefromage. I'm actually at work but just can't concentrate :-(

petitfromage Tue 08-Jan-13 11:28:24

Look through your diary and put dates in when you know you are mid cycle and in UK....?

If it helps I keep impulsively grabbing my boobs and trying to guess whether they are senstive/bigger/tender etc - I don't even realise I'm doing it. It's a really good job I work from home.... smile.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Tue 08-Jan-13 11:53:47

Oh London, that's utterly pants! <blows a big raspberry and waves a "down with BFNs" banner>

I'm truly not one to give false hope but there is always a chance you've just tested too early.

As for the overseas trip, it may not scupper next month's opportunity. Just make sure you get a good 'dose' from Mr London before you go...those swimmers can have a pretty long life span.

petit - I'm only being stricter these days out of desperation..started out a lot more relaxed. Don't think it really makes a difference, just feel I have to do something... (oh, and leave those poor boobs alone!)

MrsSpencerReid Tue 08-Jan-13 12:07:44

London, sorry to hear about your bfn but with DS I was over 10 days late before i got a bfp, so as long as AF stays away...

111007kbaby Tue 08-Jan-13 14:35:39

Hi London you may have tested to wary I was using first respone and was getting nothing then I left till a day before af I think and used a creepy and the lighted pink line came up so don't loose hope. Let's hope af stays away an it turns around x

111007kbaby Tue 08-Jan-13 16:25:50

Lol sOrry on spelling stupid spell check on I phone well wat I ment to say was u may have tested to early. X

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 20:59:51

petitfromage I have got the dates of my next predicted ovulation. 95% of the time I ovulate on Day 13 of my cycle... and on this day I am meant to be in Oman!!!

bridget nah no chance of BFP in this cycle. I'm so upset about this oversees trip as it's one month longer till I TTC again.... and I'm rapidly approaching 40 sad Plus i tested with my trusted Clearblue brand.

Thanks MrsSpencerthank you, lets hope so too.

babythank you for your BFP vibes. I'll keep you all updated if AF shows her head on Friday. I bet knowing my luck this will be a freaky cycle that carries on to CD35!! Once every 6 months or so my cycle lasts for 35 days - what's that all about?!

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 21:01:13

And I am of now to purchase some preg tests from the fab offer that bridget shared with us the other day.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Tue 08-Jan-13 22:20:28

Evening all you lovely ttc-ers,

I know that more than anything we just want happy, healthy children but I was just wondering what other sorts of hopes and dreams (and fears) you have about having a second snuggly bundle?

Here are a few of mine...

I hope it will be a second chance for me to breast-feed (all went horribly wrong very quickly with DD);
I hope he/she is a better sleeper than DD (ideally with a slightly more 'relaxed' personality); and
I hope I fall as madly in love with him/her as I am with Mini Bridget.

I'm worried about how my body will cope with another pregnancy/birth;
I'm worried about how I will cope with a baby and a dog that absolutely has to get a good walk everyday; and
I'm worried about the impact of lack of sleeping on DP and I (we were on our knees with tiredness first time around).

Sometimes I feel all panicky and wonder what I am letting myself in for, but then I feel panicky when I think it might never happen..

chocoloulou33 Tue 08-Jan-13 22:32:00

I everyone, am from the bfp due in jan bus, I'm only on cd5. This is my 5th cycle ttc, am 33 & have dd who's 5. Also have a stepdaughter who lives with me & dp who's 7. Stepson who's 4 who comes every other weekend. So kept v busy but me & dp would love a baby together. Been reading all your stories on here, hope to get to know u all & hope for some more bfp's smile x

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Tue 08-Jan-13 22:46:55

Hello chocoloulou, nice to meet you. Oooh, yes, we want those bfps to start rolling in.

I've never been on one of the buses, but I've been toying with hopping aboard the february bus once leaves the station. They always seem choc-a-bloc with passengers and I don't know if I'd manage to keep track of everyone though.

Fridgedooropen Tue 08-Jan-13 22:48:07

Evening all. Just catching up with posts.

Francesca Hello and welcome! I haven’t tried grapefruit juice but I probably will as I absolutely love it so there’s nothing to be lost for me.

Bridget how is the coffee abstention going?

Hopes for a second.. primarily that I would be more relaxed and enjoy the early period. I did enjoy it with DS but that was also coupled with a hefty dose of anxiety about what I should be doing differently. I think I would be able to deal with that differently. I also hope that DS would really cherish and love a sibling, whether a brother (which he says he’d love) or a sister. I worry about not having enough time for DS anymore. I also worry that it will be physically very hard to have a very young baby again and I’ve forgotten that or am blocking it out! There is also the fact that my personal experience has been as an only, so I can’t properly imagine what it is like to have two in the house!

London sorry you got a BFN. Wishing you lots of luck for the next try whenever that turns out to be.

I’m actually loosely following Weight Watchers – the old system as I did it years ago and don’t have the new booklets. I know they have changed some of it but I figured enough would stay the same to make it still useful. The main thing is that I’ve just been thinking more about what I eat and not stuffing down chocolates etc between meals. I’m going to try and weigh myself once a week at Boots. Tomorrow is the day! smile

petitfromage I also got pregnant very late in the cycle when I did – at a point when I really wasn’t expecting anything – and had a boy, so there does seem to be something in that theory. I hae read that ‘girl’ sperm are hardier and hang around for longer so do well with attempts early in the cycle, whereas ‘boy’ sperm are more fragile but faster so are sometimes known to make a late surge Usain Bolt-style… Good luck with the party this weekend!

Fridgedooropen Tue 08-Jan-13 22:48:44

Hi chocoloulou !

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 23:06:16

Hi loulou and welcome to the thread. Hope that January is your month. I feel like you deserve it after 5 months of TTC.

bridget I have the same aspirations as you for this baby. I echo your first three points and in addition:

I hope that #2 will be more sociable & not painfully shy as my DS
I hope that #2 will be be a confident and carefree child

I am worried about how I will cope with a baby, running my household & working full time
I am also worried about the impact of lack sleep and its effects on me. DH never used to get up in the night when DS was a baby.
I am worried about going back to work after my maternity leave & wish that we can afford to live on DH salary alone.
I am worried about #2 going to nursery at such a young age as I know that this time round my mother is too frail to help me out as much as did with DS.

In essence I am petrified on how I'm going to cope with having another child as we have FINALLY found a routine that suits us all. On the other hand, the thought of not having another child is heartbreaking and I feel like we should we do what we can to ensure that DS has a sibling. Albeit, I am worried about the age gap and whether they will be friends.... but hey, lets not go there just yet!

Finally, I think that every parent have all these high hopes and aspirations for their DC. Bet it having a good education, going to uni & securing a good job etc. I did too. My opinions have somewhat shifted lately & I think that my main priority is for my DCs to be happy and to grow up into kind and thoughtful adults. I'm not asking for much, am I?

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 23:09:32

Hey Fridge - we x-posted! Thanks for your commiserations on my BFN smile

Do you want to keep track of each other's progress? How much weight are you hoping to lose? My weigh in at slimming world is on Monday nights which is an utter pain as it means that I have to really watch what I eat during the weekend!

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 08-Jan-13 23:11:55

Ladies, sorry for all the typos. I blame it on the late hour! Speaking of which I have another 2hours of solid work before my conference call tomorrow morning... at blooming 7:30am!!!

So, I shall bid you good night now & try and get some work done.

Fridgedooropen Tue 08-Jan-13 23:16:46

London, I haven't put a figure on it as it'd be terrifying. To be goal weight would require losing over 3 stone. blush I'd like to set an initial goal I think of losing 12lbs because that would take me down to the weight I was when i initially decided I was too heavy and went to WW all those years ago blush - that would take me down a clothes size and would be a decent start. Happy to compare how it's going, though. I will post about my weigh-in tomorrow! I don't have scales in the house (I am the type who'd get on them five times a day and get frustrated) so I am aiming for a weekly weigh in on the same machine for some kind of parity. What are your plans for how much you want to lose? You said 2.5 stones to get to 25 - I am probably in a similar position...

Fridgedooropen Tue 08-Jan-13 23:18:29

Also saying goodnight. Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow. Power to your elbow for the work, London. I was working late last night and am glad I don't have to tonight.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Wed 09-Jan-13 09:26:21

Gosh London you were burning the midnight oil last night - hope everything got done in time for the early conference call.

My career concerns are at the other end of the spectrum - i.e. will I ever, ever, resurrect one if I have another child? And how much does that matter (or not) to me?

Sooo disappointed with the clearblue digital OPKs. I think I actually prefer the cheapies where I can see the wee moving along, look at both the lines and then assess their relative darkness. The waiting around while the digital thingy flashes endlessly trying to make it's mind up is very frustrating!!!

fr00tbat Wed 09-Jan-13 18:06:51

Hi- have been lurking for a few days- waiting for things to settle.
Well bleeding has stopped- cramping off and on- but tested again today and fast positive so seems am still pregnant despite bleeding. Plan is to do digital again ag weekend and if going up in weeks relax a bit and if not to call gp for chat. Does this seem reasonable??

MrsSpencerReid Wed 09-Jan-13 18:11:28

Yay grin if I was bleeding and had a bfp I think I would at least go and see the practice nurse, even of only to put your mind at ease

MrsSpencerReid Wed 09-Jan-13 18:11:59

Sorry, just seen bleeding stopped, maybe implantation bleeding?

111007kbaby Wed 09-Jan-13 19:18:20

Hi that's great news froot I had my 1st midwife app a few weeks ago we had a long talk and she spoke about my last, period and
She said it didn't sound normal, do she's sending me 4 a scan, on Monday as she think the bleeding I had might have indicated implantation bleeding, and I could be further on looking st my stomack. As my weight differs through the year at times I'm a size 6-8 then I go to a ten at times but she said my bmi was perfect but my stomack is quite hard and firm to say I'm that early on.
But I can say with my first dd I had bleeding and strangely it turned out to be a uti so there are loads of reasons, try not to worry and get loafs of rest if you can, and def just pop to the gp if you get a chance. As I got a early scan with my dd at 6 weeks 5 days and Beleive it or not there was a strong heart beat beating away. Xx

Francescarose Wed 09-Jan-13 21:26:28

Hi ladies

Hope you're all doing well. What a lovely idea re. posting hopes and worries for another child. I hope that if I'm lucky enough to have another one it will be as happy and cheerful as my DS and that I will enjoy the first weeks and months just as much. I worry about my DS feeling pushed out and about what I'll do with my career.

I am currently on CD15 and obsessing about whether I've ovulated or not! Is it normal to keep going to the loo at work just to check the status of your CM?!?! No, it's not is it?

fr00tbat Wed 09-Jan-13 22:46:06

Thankyou- thinking may have been IB- hoping!!! Had it last time but just v mild spotting- this was much heavier and accompanied by steong cramping- but looking back at FF this pm ( had forgotton password until tonight!) timing same. Cant believe how easily life gets turned upside down and back again. Early scan booked...... Fingers crossed.......

chocoloulou33 Wed 09-Jan-13 23:47:33

Lol @ frances its normal for us lot I guess, never seen so much talk about cm in my life. I don't rly have any though is that normal so I can't rly comment, certainly don't notice any difference in it throughout month.

Fridgedooropen Wed 09-Jan-13 23:49:22

Good news fr00t ! Still have fingers crossed.

Well, I weighed myself today and have LOST 4LBS! It just shows you how bad my eating habits had become because I could have cut down further but evidently just reining in some of the worst excesses of Christmas has started things off. Long way to go but I am pleased! Have indulged a little tonight grin then it's back on the horse tomorrow.

Francesca I'm sure it's not uncommon among TTCers... I was trying to check mine today as felt some aching that I think was ovulation - it would be about the right time. I am still just monitoring things this cycle but am CD15 too.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 10-Jan-13 09:23:04

Hello fr00t, that's great to hear (whispers a very tentative 'congratulations' and keeps fingers crossed).

Well done Fridge, that's a really amazing start and you've inspired me to make more effort. I've been good with the coffee and exercise so far, but not so good with curbing my eating. I'm a terrible comfort eater sad

Soon you'll have to change your name to Fridgedoorfirmlyshut grin

Sorelip Thu 10-Jan-13 15:01:51

Hi, I'd like to join you all in trying to conceive baby number 2. I came off of Microgynon 2 months ago, and have recently received my colposcopy results - I only have CIN 1 so that's a massive relief!

How many people here are using OPKs? I'm tempted to, since my period isn't predictable at the moment.

charmaine10222 Thu 10-Jan-13 15:41:40

Hi.
We are TTC too. Just lost twins before Christmas and waiting for my AF to return. Fingers cross for us all xx

Sorelip Thu 10-Jan-13 16:51:54

Charmaine, I'm so sorry for your loss. I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you x

111007kbaby Thu 10-Jan-13 17:46:04

Hi to all the new ppl and charmaine I'm very sorry for your loss. How are you all getting on? I've been terrible :-( do sick I just want to feel better, and how are you feeling froot? So I've been thinking it doesn't matter to me what sex the baby is aslong as its healthy,but do you all have any hopes or preferences ? And do you think the theory works on how to catch different sex,s on different days. X

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 10-Jan-13 21:26:40

Charmaine I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your twins. There aren't the words...

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 10-Jan-13 21:45:51

Hello Sorelip I'm pleased you've found us. I have to confess I don't really know what your test results mean but I'm glad it is good news and gives you the green light to ttc. Let the SWI commence!

London and petit any sign of AF? I'm hoping the old witch is staying away. How is the party planning going petit? The big 'do' is drawing ever nearer..

kbaby sorry you are feeling terrible but I am slightly envy of the reason why. As for your question..

First and foremost I'm just hoping for a viable pregnancy and, approx forty weeks later, to be leaving hospital with a take-home baby.

However, when I daydream about having a second child I do tend to imagine another daughter, but I think that is purely because I already have a girl. I think it's my brain's default setting rather than any real gender preference IYKWIM?

Sometimes I deliberately make myself imagine life with a son and it's always lovely too.

111007kbaby Thu 10-Jan-13 22:14:48

Hya Bridget's done one asked ne the same question and I didn't really have an answer so I thought I'd ask some one else, I rember with my 1st I didn't really understand how precious falling pregnant that easy was and I always used to say Ud love a little girl. But after l

Sorelip Thu 10-Jan-13 22:21:48

Bridget I can't remember what the abbreviation stands for exactly, but it's basically to do with how many abnormal cells there are in the cervix, and how deep they go. It goes CIN 1,2 and 3, with 1 being the least serious. A lot of CIN 1's go back to normal after a while, however they can develop. I had CIN 2 before and was supposed to have LLETZ to remove the cells, but before I could get the treatment, I found out I was pregnant with DS. In other words, I've got the green light to TTC.

111007kbaby Thu 10-Jan-13 22:22:00

Loosing a baby It never come in to my head again, I wonder what my little one will expect a bro or a sis. I do think some ppl obsess over the fact of trying to conceive a certain sex, my sister told me one of her clients the other day actually ran out of her scan crying because she was having another boy. I thought it was bizarre how ppl can really be upset about it. And I sufferd really bad with Hyperemsis first pregnancy I was hospitalised for nearly 4 weeks, and tbh I feel it coming again :-( xx

cantrememberanynurseryrhymes Thu 10-Jan-13 22:22:32

Hello! Have just started ttc #2. Have a 19m dd and just about feel ready for another. Have only just found this thread so will start reading from the beginning. An currently on the 2ww (af due sometime around the 16th).

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 11-Jan-13 09:21:32

Good morning cantremember, nice to have you with us. I gave up trying to catch up on past posts as I just got in a mental pickle, and I think some of the earlier posters may have dropped off the thread too.

Sorelip - thanks for explaining....phew, that those results really are a relief.

Hi London - hope you're ok today and AF is keeping her distance.

charmaine10222 Fri 11-Jan-13 11:05:46

Bridget,

Running out of the scan because the baby is a boy is just bizarre. Suppose some people build dreams around the sex of the baby where most of us just want a healthy baby. smile

The sun is out today and things are always better when we have sun grin

charmaine10222 Fri 11-Jan-13 11:08:18

Sorry Bridget that was meant for kbaby shock. You can tell I have a rough night brew might wake me up smile

petitfromage Fri 11-Jan-13 12:50:52

Hello all! Sorry I've been away for a few days - a bit like fr00t I'm very confused......I thought I'd got AF tuesday and was properly gutted. Made me realise how much I want this... Then it stopped. Slight bit last night but apart from that nothing. Loads of cramping though and feel aches so guessing its coming tomorrow or day after but still very weird. Could be to do with my coil being taken out last month maybe? Was very like bleed you get at start or end so I'm guessing it's just not started properly.

Still planning to test on Sunday if nothing shows just so I know what the hell is going on with my body!!!!

I'm in the middle of making an r2d2 cake for the party tomorrow which is helping take my mind of it....

Xx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 11-Jan-13 13:27:44

Wow - very envy at your cake making/decorating skills petit. R2D2 would be far too ambitious for me. I'm sure your DS is going to absolutely love it.

I am truly not one to peddle false hope but I do think what you describe sounds promising..Tuesday would have been very early for your period to start wouldn't it? I constantly felt like AF was about to arrive with DD.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you...

petitfromage Fri 11-Jan-13 13:56:30

Bridget I'm totally unsure what to think - in my head I'm ready to start again next month (sort of happy I can definitely go skiing when we go away next month!) but a tiny part of me is thinking 'but everything is weird - your boobs are huge, you body aches and you just don't feel right' - and where the hell is AF? To be fair not due till tomorrow so I'll just try to patient till Sunday as planned.

Oh and just for those of you in need of a giggle I bought some more tests, nipped home and did one yesterday without telling DH as I was feeling curious and couldn't help myself...and didn't read instructions so did it wrong. Error message, no result. Apparently had to put it in holder first not just wee on it....Serves me right!!! Will wait till Sunday now.... Tut tut.
X

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 11-Jan-13 14:48:48

Hi Sorelip & Cantremeber, welcome to the thread.

Charmaine I am so sorry for your loss. How far along were you?

Kbaby I hope that the nausea eases for you. I used to manage on plain crackers in the early months of pregnancy with my DS.

Bridget thanks for thinking of me smile. Still no AF but this isn't unusual as I tend to have a long cycle every few months. I'm eagerly expecting AF this month so that I can plan my fertile dates etc and make sure that i get up earlier in the morning so that we can DTD. Romantic, huh?!

petit I'm a bit like you in that I'm looking forward to my AF and start again soon. And LOL at your version of POAS grin

At the moment work is keeping me very busy so I find myself with little time to brood or berate my body for failing to get pregnant. Furthermore, the probate on the property that we are buying may be through by end of this month and I'm busy getting quotes for all the electrical & gas work.

Got to get back to work, but I will keep an eye on the thread. We need some BFP on this thread to keep the rest of us going!!

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 11-Jan-13 15:12:57

Bridget I love my digital OPK and look forward to the results. I usually do the test and wait for the test whilst brushing my teeth.
I only test on day 13 and 14 of my cycle as I usually ovulate around then. I'd hate to do it from say day 10 though....... They are so blooming expensive. Which reminds me, I need to stock up for next month!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 11-Jan-13 17:02:12

Hi London, glad work is keeping your mind off this ttc business and very exciting that the moving house stuff is progressing. 2013 is shaping up to be a very memorable year for the London household! I know you've always said ideally you'd be in the new place before conceiving. Call me a superstitious old fool but maybe it's all going to happen at the right time.

Starting to warm to the digital OPKs but still not entirely convinced -
maybe it is going to be a slow-burn love affair. There is something so much 'friendlier' about my cheap and cheerfuls from Morrisons.

petit - hee, hee, that sounds exactly like the school boy error I'd make.

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 11-Jan-13 18:43:48

Oh please don't say that Bridget! The house needs a lot of work and we won't be moving in there until mid-end April. I've told DH that should I fall pregnant before we move we must get a cleaner to clean the house for us as I'm not willing to exert myself too much.

AF still not here & my 1st Response tests arrived..... another BFN! Luckily I'm trying to look at the positive side of things. I've started exercising and I've been focusing on the slimming world plan and I've lost some weight! I guess that I can do with another month of TTC in order to lose some more weight.

cantrememberanynurseryrhymes Fri 11-Jan-13 21:02:56

Thanks for the welcomes.
Petit - your bleeding sounds like it could be implantation bleeding? I had it with dd and it was very like the dark/browny blood you get when your period is starting/finishing...

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 12-Jan-13 09:52:10

Oooooops - sorry to put my foot in it London! We will all definitely be up-duffed by April (we will, we will, we will)

Well done on the weight loss too.

Petit I hope Master Fromage has a super day and enjoys the riot party!

LondonSuperTrooper Sat 12-Jan-13 17:29:15

No worries bridget I know that you meant it with the best intentions.

Well AF has arrived and I'm now started calculating when I ovulate. Need to make sure that we can catch the egg! My GP said from cycle day 8 we should DTD every other day. It'll be such a chore but needs must. Must confess we really haven't been following the advice that we have been given. So this is what I'll be doing different this month. Is anyone else trying anything different this month to increase their chances of getting pregnant?

petit must have missed some posts. What's happening tonight then? Anyway, it sounds like fun. Hope you'll have a fab time!

fr00tbat Sat 12-Jan-13 18:51:00

Hi all!
Tested again today- dilute lunchtime wee- instant strong positive- woohoo!!!! First time since bleeding stopped have had strong positive.
Now panicking it wont stick. Early scan not for 3 more weeks- wanted to wait until hb potentially visible.
Petit- my bleeding sounded just like yours- lasted 3 days with strong cramping which went on another few days- was convinced was out- will keep fingers crossed for you.x

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 12-Jan-13 19:14:03

Looking good fr00t! - keep us posted x

LondonSuperTrooper Sat 12-Jan-13 19:43:45

Congratulations froot! What fab news smile
Hope that it'll be a sticky one for you.

111007kbaby Sat 12-Jan-13 20:03:39

Congrats froot all the best xxx

BlueCrane Sat 12-Jan-13 22:26:56

Hello all...well, we're not yet at Ttc number 2 stage but I wondered if I might pick people's brains about return of af after number 1? DS is now 7.5m and I'm still fully breastfeeding though have obviously started weaning onto food. For the last week I have been feeling very bloated and af crampy and lots of Ewcm and I have had heartburn again (only had before when pregnant!). Sooo...question is what are your experiences of Af returning and does this sound like I might ovulating as also had bad crampy pain in the nit a few days ago. NB possible but v v unlikely that I'm pg and tested last week and came up negative...only possibility that I would be would mean I was 7 weeks which would surely show up on a test by now!! All a bit confused!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sat 12-Jan-13 23:47:30

Sorry Blue it's not something I have any experience of as I formula fed from early on and my periods returned very quickly. I hope someone else can help.

MrsSpencerReid Sun 13-Jan-13 08:25:43

Hi blue, mine came back at 6 weeks angryangry and my friends have come back randomly since except one lucky person!! Our babies are all 9m all bf (well I'm not but was when AF returned) hope that helps smile

BlueCrane Sun 13-Jan-13 09:33:50

Thanks for the replies...just need to be patient but it is a bit strange with the waiting and wondering again...guess my main concern is whether I'm pg again but test def says no, so guess I just need to wait for af to show!

LondonSuperTrooper Sun 13-Jan-13 11:10:04

Blue, I breastfed my DS & my period returned about 15 months after giving birth. Hope that this helps.

cocoachannel Sun 13-Jan-13 13:08:12

Congratulations Fr00t!

Think my periods came back at around twelve weeks despite the fact I was still bfing.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 13-Jan-13 13:27:47

Thinking of you petit and sending good wishes - know you planned to test this morning.

111007kbaby Sun 13-Jan-13 13:53:22

Hya ladies hope your all well, just in abit of a state today I'm sO nervous about tomoz as much as I want to be excited my mind won't allow me, after my last pregnancy went all wrong it scares the life out of me, I hope tomoz I c my baby with a strong heart beat.just feeling really nervous and reluctant, it will probably b fine and I'll walk away very happy but just Sooo scared :-( xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 13-Jan-13 14:31:36

Oh kbaby, sweetheart, I can totally understand your nerves and the horrible anxiety. There is nothing I can say to take it away (and I'm sure you'll be counting down the hours, minutes and seconds until the scan) but I can send a virtual hug.

Try to stay strong. Is there anything you can try to busy yourself with and distract your brain for a while?

Fingers crossed for you and your little bean.

111007kbaby Sun 13-Jan-13 14:39:22

Thanks Bridget that means a lot yep been playin with dd all day but it's there in the back of my head I honestley feel so scared, I just want it over with and them to tell me it's ok. But on the other hand Id rather not go, but trying to stay positive and dp is been amazing he keeps reasuring me, but suppose its a good thing it's at 9.30 in the morning won't have to wait all day. I've told my self tO try look at the scan until they tell me it's all ok xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 13-Jan-13 14:44:15

Glad DP is being a rock, I bet he is feeling scared witless too.

< big hand squeeze>

111007kbaby Sun 13-Jan-13 15:02:18

I think he is to but just trying to reasure me, And show his not that worried do I don't panic. Let's just hope this time tomoz I'm giving you all my good news xxxx

petitfromage Sun 13-Jan-13 15:18:22

Well guys sorry I missed posts yesterday - bit busy with party! Also had a bit of a down morning moment as my very confused body decided that the morning before a party for 50 kids was the best time for AF. Perfect. Oh and it was really heavy. Just great. Felt a bit down but had a really fun afternoon in the end, and a few guilt free glasses of wine last night!

Hey Ho. Think maybe I was pg for a bit but didn't work out - maybe as I only had coil out 3 weeks ago. Everything crossed for us all that we get some BFPs in feb.... And I've got some spare tests ready to use next month!

MrsSpencerReid Sun 13-Jan-13 16:00:29

hmmPetit, just think of all the wine you can drink over the next few days winewine
Kbaby, will be thinking of you tomorrow

fr00tbat Sun 13-Jan-13 18:06:05

Any news petit??
Was 6 months when af returned- was ebf- period much lighter and gar more irregular- i didnt ovulate until this cycle- 12 months.

fr00tbat Sun 13-Jan-13 18:10:39

Oh god- so sorry- page hadnt updated. X

cocoachannel Sun 13-Jan-13 19:32:42

Sorry to hear that Petit.

Good luck tomorrow fr00t.

2WW has started for us. Funny I thought I was quite relaxed about it, I have DD and a full time career I love, but now another DC is on the cards I found myself perusing the baby names threads when DD was having her nap this afternoon and I went for a lie down!

cocoachannel Sun 13-Jan-13 19:34:04

Oh, and it also occurred to me that as well as the old adage about forgetting the realities of childbirth all the stuff that comes with TTC (EWCM etc.) had been forgotten!

petitfromage Sun 13-Jan-13 19:59:01

No worries fr00t, I'm just going to make the most of it (DH opening wine as I type) and hope that things happen when they are meant to. Preferably next month!!!

So happy for you fr00t, fingers crossed for everything to carry on smoothly...

Has 2ww calmed down yet cocoa? I had a look at names too and I have no reason yet so feel guilt free.....

X

Fridgedooropen Mon 14-Jan-13 00:02:15

fr00t Congratulations thanks

kbaby Fingers crossed all goes well tomorrow.

Blue I got my period back at around 8 months which was when I was still bf but not completely, had introduced solids and also was back at work so had cut out the office hours feeds but was still bfing morning and bedtime as well as I think once in the night. So it might be that though you're still bfing, because it has lessened a bit with solids coming in, your AF will return - that's pretty much how it was for me.

Charmaine so sorry for your loss before Christmas. Best of luck now.

cocoachannel I'm not even started yet (getting ready!) but have just spent 15 mins calcuating various due dates based on what I think my next few cycles will be! blush

On the cycle topic, I'm CD19 today and this afternoon have had quite an achy abdomen like period pains but shouldn't be due for at least another work (cycles can be about 26 days without help; Vit B6 has lengthened them a bit in the past). So I am wondering whether it's PMT starting a bit early or something related to a late ovulation? Should explain that I am pretty sure DS was conceived v late in my cycle, around CD21, so I think I may ovulate late and have a short luteal phase - hence using the Vit B6. Does anyone else get these symptoms at this point in the cycle and does it seem to be AF or ovulation-related? Have lent my copy of TCOYF to a friend so can't read up on it, and the internet outside trusted sites is scaring me a bit tonight, what with false reports of Neil Tennant's death and all. I don't want the negativity.

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 14-Jan-13 13:05:53

kbaby How did you get on with scan this morning? I'm thinking of you.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 14-Jan-13 13:35:39

Afternoon all, I hope everyone's week has got off to a good start, especially kbaby (fingers and toes firmly crossed here).

Oh petit sorry pesky AF turned up on Saturday and talk about bloody annoying timing too! Just what you need, the floodgates opening, before you go in to battle with entertain a gaggle of excited children.

Seeing as you've all confessed, I'll admit that fantasy baby names and forecasting due dates are two regular hobbies of mine too blush I even forecast potential pregnancy announcement dates <now that is rather sad>

Fridge I wish I could help with your symptoms. Cycle day 19/21 tends to mean sore breasts and feeling miserable for me (i.e. PMS kicking in) I think it's around this time that my progesterone levels peak and then start dropping.

To be honest, I often find my own body so confusing that I wouldn't dare hazard a guess what's going on in someone else's....I'd undoubtedly give out totally duff advice confused

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 13:49:02

Hey all 1stly thank you all for being sO nice and supportive means a lot, as wen sat there waiting for my scan today I thought of all your nice comments. (big hug) welllll it went very well so relieved, seen babble looked like a little blob lol but seen heartbeat straight away to she said it l

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 13:50:15

Looked perfect and I'm about 9 weeks and she wants to see me in the 15th Of feb so fingers crossed this all continues very well. Xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 14-Jan-13 14:05:01

Brilliant news! kbaby - I bet it was huge relief...grin

9 weeks, gosh, is that much further along than you expected?

(I wasn't on the thread at the beginning so think I've missed some of your 'story')

LondonSuperTrooper Mon 14-Jan-13 14:47:21

Fab news kbaby. I am with Bridget in that I didn't realise that you were so far along in your pregnancy. Wishing you the best of luck with your Feb scan x

Since we are all in a confessional mode I will also confess to predicting my ovulation dates and googling online for my predicted due date.... I regularly do that and I don't I'm odd. Its great to know that I'm not alone though ;) As for baby names, I have a list of male & female names that I like. DH on the other hand likes really obscure names and needless to say I will try & persuade him to my way of thinking wink

To be honest I have everything ready for #2. I have all the kit and equipment that I need and just want a BFP to continue on with my dream of a second child. We viewed the house that we are in process of buying and DS said "Mummy this can be the baby's room as it's the closest one to yours." That was a precious moment and I hope that this house and 2013 will prove lucky for me. As indeed for all of us. kbaby please sprinkle some baby dust on this thread.

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 14:58:18

Lol I used to use the online predictor all the time, and i even downloaded a I phone app lol, I thought I was around 5/6/7 weeks but to hear 9 was a relief. Hopefully b4 I no it I'll be 12 yippee lol I'm sending you all loads of baby dust and it's going to happen regardless, I've thought of a few names but I'm really stuck for girl names. And dp isn't really keen on my unusual names. And it Was a massive relief now just got to wait till the 15th but I'll b do busy moving house etc so it shud fly by. I'm also of to new York on the 20 th feb n by then it should all be confirmed so itl b nice to do a little bit of shopping lol xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 14-Jan-13 16:05:44

kbaby - a new baby on the way, moving house and shopping trips in New York! - I have definitely gone wrong somewhere grin

I am with kbaby and Mr London in liking more unusual names. Mr Hairy vetoed quite a few names first time around but I utterly adore the name we eventually agreed on. This probably sounds so silly but it is one of the very, very few things in life I feel I got absolutely right.

I can't see me ever finding another name I love as much.

London I have not a jot of baby equipment left as I gave it all away when DH was adamant we were having a single child. It was too painful to keep sad On the plus side it will hopefully mean I have the fun of picking it all again!

I became a total baby-kit junkie first time around and Mr Hairy used to call the Mothercare catalogue my "porn magazine"!

London bless your little DS. I bet it sort of took your breath away when he said that. He sounds a really sweetie x

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 16:11:22

Lol Bridget I was proper physco Wen it comes to shopping I have a serious addiction, and I my dp is already saying god help him lol as my dd is just as bad.
I was just taking tO a freind and it totally skipped my mind it's totally freaky now she's reminded me, we were in black

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 16:14:07

Pool and we had this woman in a tiny dirty shack that stunk of smoke, to read our palms and it was so weird that she said I would have 3 children and conceive in November and have a boy I was so freaked wen my mate reminded me. Well she got November rite lets how much of the rest Was true. Xxx ( sorry 4 the broken message silly I phone)

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Mon 14-Jan-13 16:20:52

Gosh that is very spooky!

I generally don't believe all that stuff but I did see a palm-reader the month I conceived Mini Bridget and she told me I would "get the result I wanted at the end of the month".

Admittedly she also predicted a load of other bollocks stuff that hasn't come true.

111007kbaby Mon 14-Jan-13 16:24:45

Loool I'm not one to Beleive but it's just a little spooky, they do predict a lot of crap have you started taking parentals? Mine are making me feel more sick, the thought of taking them kills me. Xx

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 15-Jan-13 12:20:52

bridget he is an utter sweetheart when he puts his mind to it. Plus he wanted to be sure to get the bigger bedroom as he is a bigger than the baby and has lot more toys than a small baby..... so he tells me!
I was actually on the verge of getting rid of all my baby stuff as I convinced myself that I did not want to have another child after having my miscarriage. So, it's extremely lucky that I've got pretty much everything.

kbaby I really wish I could do what you did. That is muddle up my dates somehow and suddenly realise that I am x number of weeks further along than originally thought. I had my miscarriage around 9 weeks but knew that things weren't quite right at 6 weeks as no heartbeat was detected. It was an agonising wait for the miscarriage to happen IYSWIM.

I generally do not belief in in psychics but am still interested to hear what they say and think what if......

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Tue 15-Jan-13 13:11:35

London I've have a similar fantasy - in it I suddenly finding out I'm pregnant and the first trimester is already over, and I've been blissfully unaware and doing all sorts of stuff I would have been too scared to had I have known.

In it, I love the look on people's faces (especially Mr Hairy's) when they find out.

It must have been hell on earth waiting to find out if your precious last pregnancy was viable. I know I am so incredibly 'lucky' that everything went wrong relatively quickly, and obviously, and I didn't need any medical intervention.

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 15-Jan-13 13:36:28

Bridget no medical intervention was required for me. The bleeding and spotting sort of gave it away and I had to have a scan at 6 weeks. I was told go home and wait for the miscarriage to start. And that if I hadn't miscarried by a certain date then I would need to go to hospital to get it done. I miscarried a day before the date I was meant to have the procedure.

In many ways I think TTC is the easy bit for me. By that I mean little stress and no worries. I know that as soon as I get the BFP all my worries will surface and I will be on tenterhook to see whether I can get past a certain date and x number of weeks pregnant.

A friend of mine had to have IVF. When the eggs where implanted she was told to go home & rest for 2-3 weeks. She took a month of work and didn't move from her sofa. The only exercise that she did was her finger when changing the TC channel! Somehow I don't think that we can get away with this every 2 weeks can we?!

LondonSuperTrooper Tue 15-Jan-13 13:36:59

And apologies in advance if there are any typos. I generally type without proof reading my post!

111007kbaby Tue 15-Jan-13 16:08:00

Hi Bridget its been abit Of a relief finding out I'm further and not long till my next scan, it's sO scary I no I'm on edge but tbh in quite lucky my do owns his own buisnesses and he doesn't want me to work, which at a time like this is bliss. And tbh she was the second physcic I had seen never believed in it but thinking back to the woman I seen in Blackpool said a few things that have do far come true, soo just waiting for the other half to come true lol.
And. I sometimes wish that I wasn't such A physco path and didn't monitor everything and realised I Was pregnant like 4 months down the line saves all the worry,and today we went and applied for our wedding paperwork so in 16 days I'll b 3 to start booking dates wooo xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Tue 15-Jan-13 22:26:24

London you are absolutely right - no matter how stressful ttc can be it does not compare to the anxiety I'll feel once I (fingers crossed) get another BFP.

The 48 hours or so between my December BFP and the time I started bleeding were awful - the anxiety was overwhelming. It probably sounds crazy - because I was truly gutted it didn't stick - but in a strange way it was also a relief. I sort of felt like I could breathe again.

How are things looking for next month? Will your overseas trip scupper things, or are the dates ok after all?

kbaby - a wedding too! Now I am completely envy as Mr Hairy is dragging his heels on that one (I think he has weird ishoos)

Hope everyone else is doing ok this week. I can't believe it is only Tuesday, I'm already looking forward to the weekend.

LondonSuperTrooper Wed 16-Jan-13 08:41:41

Hi bridget! The prognosis for this this month b'dancig is looking good wink. The overseas trip has been postponed but only once I agreed to go.... I really do have a weird boss!
I have set a reminder on my phone to get up earlier on certain days next week so I can use the OPK, and if I get my smiley face then we will DTD in the morning - hence getting up earlier. I think that romance no longer figures in this equation!
bridget, what are the issues with Mr Bridget for not wanting to get married? If this is too personal to talk about then ignore my question.

kbaby whoop whoop for getting married! This is turning to be a truly fabulous start for 2013 for you. Any idea of when you'd like to be married? Before or after having the baby?

Right, I must get back to work. I wish you all a great day ahead!

111007kbaby Wed 16-Jan-13 08:59:12

Thanks London well b4 the baby hopefully but finding something to fit nicely while I'm a lump will be hard lol but want to get it out the way tbh, and be ready for fingers crossed when my next rascal joins the clan. I no its finally looking up thank god thought things were never going to go right, I think this year is going to surprise all of us before you no it you'll all be moaning about sickness and be well and truly pregnant ;-) and b4 I go London how are you finding the smileys? Because loads of people I no using them switched to the cbfm to save money. Was just wondering if you had tried it I personally brought one used it gave me false negatives but I still Beleive it's a decent machine as my aunty and sister both fell v quik with it even after having the depo.

Hi Bridget oh Beleive me it's took a while for me to get him here lol they certainly do drag there feet, and keep in hope I'm sure at one point I Was in coo coo land lol is make Beleive it was all going to happen but it will. Xxx

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Wed 16-Jan-13 13:14:49

Afternoon second-timers, hope all is well on this cold and frosty day.

Just allowing myself one post whilst I eat my lunch - then I've got heaps of stuff to do.

Hmmm, London, I think there are a lot of different reasons why Mr Hairy isn't keen on tying the knot. A big factor is the cost as I think he feels under pressure to have an expensive 'do' (lots of his peer group really pushed the boat out). We certainly haven't got a big pot of savings to dip into. My family is also massive and it would cause no end of trouble if even the most distant relative didn't get invited.

On the emotional side of things; his parent have very odd living arrangements even though they are married and I don't know if that has had an impact. He is also an intensely private person so I think the idea of publicly declaring his love makes him feel very uneasy.

He is also a stubborn bugger who is always happy with the status quo (as his attitude to a potential DC2 illustrates).

I don't doubt his commitment to Mini Bridget and I though. We jointly own the house, I'm the beneficiary of his life assurance, pensions, will etc.. and he generally works his arse off to benefit us as a family. He just seems to have a huge mental block at the idea of getting married.

Anyway, I hope all of the above is true and it's not really that he just doesn't love me enough sad

p.s. might have to pick your brains later about the smiley face OPks too.

p.p.s Glad the work trip is off for the time being - your boss seems rather strange.

<waves at everyone and rushes out the door>

Fridgedooropen Wed 16-Jan-13 23:11:16

Kbaby Great news from you!

London good your trip can be made to fit your needs wink

Bridget Mr HB sounds very committed to you. Do you think he could be persuaded into a trip abroad / quick visit to the register office with just the 3 of you maybe 4 ? Might take the pressure off all round.

<waves at everyone else>

Quick update from me: did my weekly weigh-in today and have lost 1lb this week which I'm happy with! Last week was the kick start. Onward and upward.

LondonSuperTrooper Thu 17-Jan-13 08:58:46

Bridget I’m sure Mr Hairy loves & cares for you & mini bridget. The issues you have described are probably why he is reluctant to get married. Especially when he feels that he has to keep up with peers in terms of wedding type, size, venue etc. I was actually going to suggest what fridge recommended in her post above. How about a quiet wedding with just the immediate family present?

kbaby I have been using the Clearblue digital ovulation sticks (no monitor) for all of my TTC journeys. I find them pretty accurate and it does say that the surge is detected 36-48 hours before ovulation. I did have a wobble when others were suggesting to test at 2pm or 10pm etc. I did that too but came to the conclusion that it didn’t matter anyway. When I tested at different times as recommended by others, I got my smiley OPKs at 6am, 2pm and 10 pm so I just carried on testing in the morning as usual. And plus it’s more comfortable than testing at others times as you cannot pass urine for 4hrs before testing.

Fridge very well done on your weight loss! I’ve actually managed to lose some weight too since joining slimming word in mid-November. It’s slow but it’s heading in the right direction. And for the first time in 6 years I’m now in the overweight category for my BMI….… I am no longer obese – yay! How much weight do you need to lose? You ahve told me before but I can't remember...

LondonSuperTrooper Thu 17-Jan-13 09:03:52

Bridget My boss is not odd at all. He is trying to make my working environment very uncomfortable for me so that I leave! We haven’t got a lot of work in the UK and most of my jobs are from overseas especially the Middle East. In his own twisted way, he wants me to take up the job that I was offered in the ME but I declined as it meant that I only see my DS for less than an hour a day. Since then he’s being very difficult and generally unpleasant but in a very subtle way sad. I hate him but needs must and I just take whatever he dishes out. I’m praying that I get pregnant quickly so that I can day dream about the baby and my maternity leave!

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 17-Jan-13 16:48:30

Just bumping - for some reason this thread went AWOL for me. I had to find it using the search tool.

Fridgedooropen Thu 17-Jan-13 20:58:53

London thanks and well done on your weight loss too!

To get back to 'goal weight' I need to lose another 3 stone... I'd feel a lot happier if I could lose a stone to start with, as then I can get back to wearing lots of clothes that don't fit at the moment! However, in line with your 'only overweight' achievement, I am now just 'obese' instead of 'ridiculously obese' or whatever the category is wink Slow and steady is the healthiest way, right?

Your boss sounds annoying. Let's hope he gets an upways/sideways/different workplace move himself - these things can happen..

Just watching out for snow now. It's falling here but waiting to see whether it's enough to cause a 'snow day' tomorrow.

LondonSuperTrooper Thu 17-Jan-13 21:18:05

fridge I need to lose a similar amount of weight as you. I have however set my own target weight at Slimming World and I'm about 1 stone and a bit away from that. My target weight is the same weight that I was when I found out that I'm pregnant with my DS & I'll still be in the overweight category for my BMI.

Whereabouts in the country are you? I'm in Surrey and so far we have no snow. It's predicted to snow tomorrow though. My DS is so looking forward to that.

bridget you are quiet today. I hope that all is well with you.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 17-Jan-13 21:36:27

Evening Fridge and fellow thread-ers,

London and Fridge - well done on the lost pounds < hangs head in shame and admits to not losing an ounce yet blush >

I think eventually Mr Hairy and I will go down the very small wedding/just pop to the register office route but I shall just have to wait patiently for his proposal. Given how he feels about it, it absolutely has to be his idea. I also want that one romantic gesture, given he has yet to do any.

Funny chap really; he will do lots of things to show he cares, like buy my favourite pickles or do the ironing I planned to do later, but he'd never even think to buy me flowers or write a loving note. Sometimes I just want a teeny bit of the mushy stuff too.

London you have my sympathies, your work situation sounds really difficult. Good on you for sticking at it though.

No other news really. We may have snow tomorrow (Mini Bridget is hoping I'll be pulling her home from school on the sledge), I can feel a painful spot brewing on my chin ( nice ) and Mr H still isn't home from work. It is going to be touch and go whether I can persuade him to DTD later.

Verdict still out on the clearblue smiley OPKs - had a weird random smile on CD 12 which I couldn't repeat all day and my cheapies were giving negatives too. Negatives the next day. Then lots of smiley faces on CD 14 (couldn't resist multiple testing...felt like I was passing an exam)

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Thu 17-Jan-13 21:43:29

When I was scanned with Mini Bridget the sonographer wrote "high BMI" on some notes. I was confused and asked her did she mean me or the baby? (I considered myself a 'normal-ish' size 14/16 at the time). She meant me blush

Where in Surrey are you London? If you can say without outing yourself.

Fridgedooropen Thu 17-Jan-13 22:41:56

Bridget pour a glass of wine and have it waiting for his return? smile Where in your cycle are you now, I've lost track? (I love the internet. Where else could you ask this stuff? smile)

London I am in the north west. Just been to peek outside and while it was snowing earlier when I returned home, it's stopped now and I can't see any on the ground. So boo to the idea of a snow day tomorrow, but then again I'd already arranged to work from home and therefore can make a big pot of coffee and stay by the fireside. Win win I think. My guess is that The Daily Snow Express and others have got a bit carried away with their predictions.

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 18-Jan-13 08:46:21

Bridget From what I remember you do not have that much weight to lose do you? To put it into context my BMI is just under 30. My target is to get my BMI to around 27. My GP informed me that I can carry on with SW even when I fall pregnant so in theory I should carry on losing weight safely. Albeit it’s only 0.5-1lbs loss per week but still, it’s better than nothing.

Did you DTD with Mr Hairy? Are you ovulating now? My faithful smiley OPKs have been OK so far (touch wood). Have you tried other brands?
By the way, are you also based in Surrey? I’m near Guildford.

Fridge I hope that decaffeinated coffee that you are drinking? I have cut down my caffeine to one cup of coffee a day and moved down to decaffeinated tea. Tastes horrible but hopefully I’ll get used to it. Your working from home sounds idyllic. I’m at work now and it started snowing – with heavy snow predicted for later on this morning. I’m getting worried about driving & picking up my DS from school.

And very well done for moving down the BMI category – it’s a hard slog isn't it? Are you exercising at all?

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 18-Jan-13 09:28:35

Morning all - Snowing here too!!! Mini Bridget sooo excited on the way to school. Bless her cotton socks, she sang Christmas songs all the way to school and declared that this was "the best Christmas ever!" confused

No action whatsoever with Mr Hairy last night - poor chap was just too knackered. He didn't get home 'til gone 11pm. I was a bit gutted to be honest as I'd gone to the effort of shaving my legs! This month has been a write-off to be honest. I'm trying to think of it as a testing my OPKs month rather than a ttc month.

I'm theoretically entering the 2ww about now - but realistically there is nothing to wait for (except AF).

Fridge I'm from the North West - grew up in the town famous for making hats and now home to the hat museum. Would love to move back to the South Manchester area but it's never going to happen. Mr H lurves the Souff and his work is very tied to London too.

London I am really not that far from you...just further east (I'll PM you as I'm paranoid)

Fingers crossed with the driving and the snow. I think schools may shut early around here today..

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 18-Jan-13 11:35:56

School has texted/emailed to say that "if we are concerned about weather conditions we may collect our children from 1.30pm"

The thing is, I'm not really that concerned as we don't have to drive and I can pull Mini B home on a sledge if needs be. However, there is no way in the world she is going to want to stay in school if half her class are leaving early.

Hmmm, I guess she's getting a half day today...

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 18-Jan-13 12:17:53

Same here Bridget. Not sure whether to pick up DS or leave him there.

I'm home now and taking the rest of the day as annual leave. Sigh, I so didn't want to start taking annual leave so early in the year.

111007kbaby Fri 18-Jan-13 12:28:43

It's terrible here near the midlands they advised us that it would be easy sending kids to school, but picking them up might be harder, so I decided to keep my dd of today snuggled up watching rio in the sofa it looks do cold out.
And to top it of I have been craving peti fleu rice pudding since yesterday but I'm not even going to attempt driving in this weather let's see if I can persuade dp to do it on his travels lol.

Hey London I'd probs go now it can only get worse if you have to drive :-( xxx

LondonSuperTrooper Fri 18-Jan-13 12:31:31

The school is only 10mins walk from home. My DH is looking for the sledge but we can't find it :-(

111007kbaby Fri 18-Jan-13 12:36:24

Aww your ok then, not far to walk atall. I hate snow and my dd wants to make a snowman I might try brave it later lol. Yep the kids love the sledges in this weather. X

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 18-Jan-13 12:39:45

London that is annoying..I'm resigning myself to picking DD up.

I sooo hope she doesn't want to play out in the snow though.

I hate to be an old misery guts but I've got cold and damp on the school run, cold and damp walking the dog around the heath and I'll get cold and damp picking her up again...I really don't fancy getting cold and damp playing outside too.

I hover around 12 and I'm 5ft 6 - so my BMI is just over 27. I could do with weighing 11 stone really to be just inside the healthy zone.

I'm my own worst enemy really I can feel the difference it makes to my prolapse when I even put on a couple of lbs. I really don't know why that alone doesn't motivate me into action confused

I'm very much a size 18 but, when there have been threads on weight/dress sizes on mumsnet, other people with similar stats have been in much smaller sizes!!! I don't understand it - either I'm a very odd shape or some people are telling little porkie pies.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 18-Jan-13 12:48:39

Just read about the sledge search - I guess I am 'lucky' that Mini B has insisted on keeping our sledge in her bedroom since the mid of October (just in case..) Crazy girl.

kbaby good luck on satisfying your craving. Go on Mr Kbaby - brave the snow, it's for a very important cause.

All I wanted with Mini B was orange juice - morning, noon and night. Went through litres of the stuff. Only time in my life I could drink that much fruit juice without getting dire runs.

Love being on a ttc#2 thread - sometimes hard to chat about little ones on a conception board without feeling you are being insensitive to those still battling for their first.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Fri 18-Jan-13 12:57:27

Right, hope to catch up with you all later..I'm off out to get my girlie-whirlie

Brrrrrr, brrrrrrr, brrrrrrrrrrrrrr, brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr grin

Fridgedooropen Fri 18-Jan-13 23:19:14

Snow here now! Did some sledging with DS smile It was buried in snow in the back garden but was retrievable.

Yes, it's nice to be able to talk about the DC you already have while looking forward to others smile

Bridget I wouldn't be surprised to find a lot of people fib about their clothes size.

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 20-Jan-13 16:02:34

Hello all, I hope everyone is enjoying the last of this snowy weekend.

I haven't really got much to say today but just wanted to check-in and keep the thread easy to find (probably pathetic but I hate to see it drop off the first page!)

fr00t I hope your little bat is still hanging on tight.

kbaby did you get your craving get satisfied?

Francesca I saw your other thread the other day and was sorry to hear of the difficult time you had ttc first-time around. I think it is completely understandable to be scared of that all happening again. Feel free to vent on this thread if it helps.

petit Any news with you? Are you approaching 'action' week? Unfortunately the action in the Hairy house is always rather limited..

London are you buying a completely do-er up-er? Have you tackled that sort of project before?

We now have the hassle of sorting out a broken front window as some kids smashed it having a snowball fight. Their (very apologetic) parents have said they'll pay but it's still an extra task we could do without..

BridgetandtheHairyBrigands Sun 20-Jan-13 16:04:33

Fridge glad the sledge was found smile I hope DS had fun.