Anyone want to scream with me?

(70 Posts)
getoffthecoffeetable Wed 03-Oct-12 20:00:40

Have been TTC for a while now. Yet again, can feel tell tale signs that am about to come on, again. Gutted. Not helped by the flippant comment DH made this morning when he asked if I was pregnant yet and what was taking so long this time. Am sure he didn't mean it to come out the way it sounded but was not amused.
Anyway, have DS upstairs asleep at the moment so can only do virtual screaming. Anyone want to join me?

jenrendo Wed 03-Oct-12 20:19:11

Oh yes indeedy I feel your pain! I am on month 2 of Clomid after 14 months of trying to conceive a sibling for DS. He was a bit of a miracle but I stupidly thought I might get another! I am wondering if it really is worth all the pain or if I should just be happy with my one littlle poppet. I am currently sitting with hot water bottle on my tummy which has been permanently there since last night. My stomach is like a melon and so sore even when I pee, eat or bend that I'm pretty sure there are no babies being made in there. And trying to have sex while it's this sore is a bloody disaster. I am thoroughly pissed off! smile

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 03-Oct-12 20:27:19

Bless you. Your post has put my self pity into perspective. Have got the mild cramps and am not in that much pain at all (excluding the heartache of course).
Since you have one DS, it means everything's in working order and if it's meant to be, another one will hopefully make an appearance soon.
Dive bombing you with lots of baby dust (and pain relief!).

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Wed 03-Oct-12 22:06:49

Cramps can sometimes mean early pg....I got crazy period type cramps about 3 days before AF was due when I was pg with dc1.

nocluenoclueatall Thu 04-Oct-12 15:05:41

I'll scream silently with you. I'd do it bloody loudly, but my DS is asleep too. I'm due on this morning, POAS... and nothing. BFN. I'm 40 and have had two miscarriages in the last year already so not feeling my best today... sad. More than anything I want to give my little boy a playmate but he's three soon and I'm not getting any younger and frankly I want to sit down and have a big cry about it all...

jenrendo Thu 04-Oct-12 18:44:12

I think we can all cry together! Whatever problems we all have it's frustrating for all of us. Lots of sympathy all round I say smile Oh, and my tummy is back to normal so I can only presume that I have been ovulating and now it's done. The waiting game begins.....

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 04-Oct-12 20:12:26

Good luck Jenrendo, think happy baby thoughts!
Noclue - I have at least 4 friends who've had another baby post 40. There's plenty of time yet. So sorry to hear about your miscarriages though, it must be awful. Will pass the tissue box over to you have finished with it for now
Did my whole POAS and nothing too. Have now wasted 3 tests this week even though I know I should just wait. Am obviously made of money
Will play the waiting game with you, we can keep each other company.

OH, I think I've found my soul mates! One little boy here too, just 3 and 2 months and I just feel like time is slipping away from us each month. Before we know it, he'll be too old to even be bothered by a sibling sad

Just wish I knew what was going on in there. 9 months trying here and no end in sight, not even a whiff of BFP in the whole time.

Currently doing acupuncture, have short LP with lots of spotting. When I saw my acupuncturist on Tuesday, she said my pulse was strong and that that was a good sign and that I should try to take it easy the next few days. But of course I'm already spotting and it's just 3dpo. All bloods have come back normal, no fibriods, ovulating regularly, etc. DH set to do an SA next week.

Just wish I knew what was wrong!

Jenrendo - well done on ovulating smile! No symptom spotting now wink

Getoffthecoffeetable - I don't even test anymore. My mantra is you cannot pee on that which you do not have in the house! grin

Noclue sad so sorry about your mcs. I had one before DS, it's devastating. Here have a brew it's organic decaf!

jenrendo Fri 05-Oct-12 01:32:26

Thanks for the kind thoughts! Funny how we all have a DS. Mine is 2 next week and I am only 34 but when I went to see the fertility man last week he drew a breath through his teeth when he saw my age!! I have tubal issues and have already had 2 cycles of failed IVF before we had DS naturally. I think I was in shock for the entire pregnancy! I only have one tube, the other was removed when I was much younger, and a lap and dye showed that is was blocked. However, it can't be.....we had DS! Noclue keep the hope alive! My friend's sister thought she was going through the menopause at 48 having never had children. She wasn't she was pregnant and now has a healthy little girl! Sorry to hear about your mcs. It must be devastating for you sad lastbox I had acupuncture during my 2nd cycle of IVF and I loved it! THe nurse said when she was putting in the embryos that it was very straight forwards because I was so relaxed (not like me!!) Getoff I never buy a test nowadays as my cycle is so awry there is no point. I just keep waiting for AF to come, and inevitably she does! Good luck ladies. It's been very theraputic on here for me today smile

jenrendo shock at the 'fertility man' - what did he expect your age to be!!? Sounds like your LO is a miracle smile Are you having private care, if you don't mind my asking? Thinking of going to see someone at this point as we've had testing on the NHS, but I just don't feel it was done accurately (CD21 bloods done on CD19 when I only ov'd on CD16 <sigh>). I'm 36, DH 40 - I'm not as concerned about my age as I am about the gap between kids. Doesn't bother DH of course...

Purpleprickles Fri 05-Oct-12 23:16:17

Can I join? Have been on threads before but drifted away because I was becoming obsessed. I have a nearly 4yr old ds too. Been trying to conceive for ten months now. I've had 5 sessions of acupuncture and have been taking prescribed Chinese fertility herbs and herbs to regulate my periods over the last two months. Af came yesterday, yes more regularly but I'd just pinned my hopes on acupuncture fixing me sad
I'm 35 and dh is 39. He doesn't want to have fertility tests so I'm a bit stuck. I don't massively want to either. I think I should be happy with my fabulous boy but sometimes it's harder than others to accept I/we can't give him a sibling. So tonight I'm letting myself have a little cry and an internal scream. Tomorrow it's acupuncture and hot cups to relieve tension knots in my back and trying to get back into positive thinking.

Happilymarried155 Sat 06-Oct-12 08:18:04

I will scream with you too, we have been ttc for 2 years now, nothing obviously wrong so far but got hcg in a few weeks and then we can decide if we want to carry on trying for abit or start treatment. I think that we will start treatment, I don't want to try without success for 6 months and regret not starting treatment. I currently don't have any children but am about to go and spend the day with 6 friends and their babies sad AF was due yesterday, Bfn and I think I can feel it coming today.

When I'm feeling low I tell myself that it will happen and it will be all the more special when it does!!! Good luck everyone! smile

jenrendo Sat 06-Oct-12 16:23:29

Hello newbies. Of course you can join smile Lastbox we had 2 cycles of IVF and paid privately (well, my lovely dad did) because I didn't want to wait for 2 years. What a waste of money that was! We now live in Canada and the province that I'm in allows free IVF for those with tubal blockages, but you still have to pay around $2000 for the drugs sad I'm not sure I can go through all that again tbh and know I should be happy with my lovely boy, but when he's with other children I can see how lovely it would be to have more.

Happily I know how you feel. I was the last of my chums to have a baby and many weekends were spent feeling low at social gatherings, although by the time I resigned myself to never having children I had learned to be happy for them and not grudge them their families. Easier said than done though ;) It's not their fault we can't conceive, but I do know that since having DS all of them have opened up about how dreadful and guilty they felt every time there was a new baby. That made me feel terrible! And believe me, when it does finally happen it is the most peculiar but amazing feeling!

nocluenoclueatall Sun 07-Oct-12 22:32:24

Sorry for the delay getting back on this thread but it's nice to have company isn't it? Such a frustrating time, especially when you're doing everything "right". Being a bit older I've got lots of friends who've being trying for aaaages and it's funny, but a similar story seems to emerge with every pregnancy. It's always when you're not trying (after unsuccessful IVF for example) that these things tend to happen.

Fat lot of use that is when you want a baby so badly though is it?

Good luck to you all with the next cycle though. Maybe next time...

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 08-Oct-12 14:01:02

Hi all
AF arrived on Saturday, have been sulking looking after DS who hasn't been very well poor love.
It's so frustrating, I completely agree. I keep making up imaginary symptoms. Was hoping that this time would have been different.
Anyway, am going to do everything by the book (as soon as AF has gone!) and get the Clearblue monitor on the go. It worked first time with DS last time. Hopefully haven't used up all of my luck. Need to think positive thoughts.
Do you know anyone that the acupuncture worked for rather than it being relaxing? And has anyone had a go at reflexology? Just wondering if they're any good.
Notaclue - you're completely right, almost everyone I know who was having trouble has conceived when they weren't trying (or they've fibbed and said they weren't?)
Echo the good luck message for the next cycle ladies, keep us posted.

jenrendo Mon 08-Oct-12 16:49:04

Ha ha we were seriously not trying, so much so that I had no idea even where my last period had been, so when I got a BFP it was only because I had a sore tummy and wasn't feeling right that I had bought the test in the first place. My boss had nagged me into it. Once I went to the doc I had to get a scan to check it wasn't ectopic but also to date it because I had no idea. Turns out I was 7 weeks!!! We had only had sex twice that month, at totally different times, and for fun! Not even with a baby in mind.

Get off I don't know of a nyone who has fallen pregnant wtih the aid of acupuncture, sorry sad

Well, it is Thanksgiving weekend here and I was very drunk and ate too much yesterday. We had 10 adults and 8 kids for dinner. Mad chaos and a lot of fun. Have a great week everyone smile

MistressofPemberley Mon 08-Oct-12 18:24:39

I really feel like screaming. Can I join you?
TTC #2. Have 4.5yr DS. Had 2 early MCs and one CP in the last 3 years. Been having acupuncture since February. Luteal phase has increased and cycles are more stable. Been allowed to TTC for 2 cycles now. Had convinced myself I was pg this month. Mood swings, tiredness, increased sense of smell, sore boobs, hungry, etc. AF arrived this afternoon on day 27. Gutted. All my symptoms simply mean PMT which had been so much better.
I'm so pissed off. I'll get over it but for now I'm properly miserable. Just want more DC so much. Am 32.

Acupuncture tonight which will make me feel better. Still waiting to be a positive statistic. It's not cheap each week for 8 months. I need my BFP!! Although that's not it for me after MCs; I need a BFP, a healthy pg, and a baby!! Is that really too much to ask?!

Rant over. Hello everyone!

jenrendo Mon 08-Oct-12 20:41:11

Hello Mistress. It's funny how we all manage to convince ourselves we're pregnant isn't it?! I have had a stern talk to myself recently about not testing and not even thinking about it until my period is at least 2 weeks late. My cycle varies from 3 to 6 weeks, so from about 3 and a half weeks on I'm symptom spotting too. Currently I'm on day 22 so any day now my disappointment could loom.....good luck to us all smile It is DS' birthday next weekend so I am distracting myself prepping for that.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 08-Oct-12 20:45:10

Mistress - hello there. Much sympathy for you, at least you know you're not alone with your AF. Every week with the acupuncture, must be costing you a fortune. When it turns to a BFP it'll be worth it though.

Jenrendo - Happy Thanksgiving! I think I'll rule out the acupuncture and save my money to waste on pregnancy tests lol

Happilymarried - did you decide on the treatment? Good luck with it if you have. Hope that your day with the little ones wasn't too painful for you. Do come and have some more virtual screams if you need them. You know where we are!

Am having another little scream as I was just looking at baby photos of DS and getting all clucky!

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 08-Oct-12 20:49:09

Jenrendo - fingers crossed it's not your AF coming. I am in need of a good talking to about buying those tests. Must stop wasting my money. When I was pregnant with DS, I still had my AF for that month so was further gone than I'd thought. Which means I now still grasp at straws when AF comes now in the vague hope it might the the same second time around!

Have fun prepping for the 2nd birthday of your DS. It'll be so lovely now that he can understand it more. I love their little faces when everyone sings happy birthday and they realise all the attention is just for them. Magical!

jenrendo Mon 08-Oct-12 21:17:39

Getoff we lay in bed this morning and listened to him in his cot singing his rendition of 'Happy Birthday' whilst melting inside, even DH! Aw, sometimes I think I need to take a look at what I've got, not what I haven't!

I think the only good thing about my short lp is that I don't waste money on tests because I never get that far! 7dpo here and already spotting fairly heavily. Had been so so well behaved this month, swearing off coffee & alcohol, eating well, lots of veggies etc. so annoyed with my feckng body!!! Why is this so hard!?!

Hello Mistress - so sorry to hear of your mcs. I've been doing acupuncture fr 6 weeks now - was just thinking today how long we'll be able to afford to do it! Hoping you won't have to do it much longer.

So strange that we've all got boys...wonder if there's a connection hmm

Happilymarried155 Tue 09-Oct-12 07:09:44

I have been doing Accupuncture too, ever since I started seven months ago my cycles have been 30 days every month without fail. I don't know what's happened this month, on day 34 now, no AF, I've tested three times and bfn. I've never had a 34 day cycle, so I don't really know what's going on! Just have to wait and see, not holding out much hope after two years tho!

I have a hcg in four weeks and then I decide, it's hard really everything seems fine so far but I don't think I want to keep trying for another six months, I'd rather start treatment. It feels I've waiting so long already.
Day with the little ones was wonderful, I'm overcome with jelousy but I love them all dearly so it doesn't last long! smile

MistressofPemberley Tue 09-Oct-12 17:25:14

I'm shorter this month Happily. Day 28 and the witch got me. I think I ovulated earlier around day 15 which is pretty good as it was as late as day 20 when I started in February. Just a bit worried about my luteal phase.
Horrid when you think you've got a pattern established and it changes. I've had very little pmt and virtually no pain recently so I'm gutted that I'm really suffering this month.
Keep testing though, and FX for you.

jenrendo Tue 09-Oct-12 19:24:32

Happily glad you had a nice day! I know what you mean about waiting. I got so bloody impatient, having to wait for a year before the GP would even refer me then being told it was at least 2 years on the IVF waiting list, which they wouldn't put me on until I had all sorts of tests which I had to wait for, of course! that's why we ended up paying. I knew the stats were low for IVF and figured that I would probably need at least 3 cycles so we'd better get on with it! It's horrible being in limbo.

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 09-Oct-12 19:58:23

Jenrendo that's adorable. Sounds like you all had some great birthday celebrations.

Happily sounds like you had a great day with the wee ones.

Mistress sorry you're suffering this month. Passing you the virtual hot water bottle and a cuppa and hoping you feel better soon.

My AF is still here, grrr!

jenrendo Wed 10-Oct-12 13:54:23

Ah well I think that's my AF on the way now too.....got that familiar feeling sad Due to start a different drug next cycle though so been reading up about that. Always focussing on the next shot......

So sorry Jenrendo. If it makes you feel any better, I'm right behind you.

I had a very strange experience at acupuncture this week. Had it last week at 1dpo and she said to me 'Your pulse is very strong, that's a good sign' and then just before I left, she very pointedly said 'take it easy the next few days, ok?' I said yes f course but didn't think much about it and then I thought what did she mean by that and of course got to googling. I didn't even know an acupuncturist might be able to tell you're pregnant by your pulse! Still skeptical but intrigued! Anyway I've been spotting all week so when I told her that at my appointment last night she was so surprised and said I thought fr sure you were pregnant lat week. And sure enough when she felt my ulse she said it wasn't the same as it was the week before. Like I said, I'm skeptical....but it's interesting isn't it?

jenrendo Thu 11-Oct-12 19:46:51

Lastbox how weird is that?! Very intriguing indeed. Well, still nothing here, just that peculiar feeling that something is about to start. I just wish it would so that I can get on with the next cycle smile

jenrendo Sat 13-Oct-12 19:14:34

Well, now day 27 and still no AF. My body is playing horrible tricks on me. Last cycle of Clomid AF came on day 23. Grrrr, screaming inside with frustration while DS naps upstairs. Looking forward to an evening of wine and cake decorating though! Even spent the morning making my own marshmallow fondant. Delish! DS is 2 tomorrow smile

jenrendo Mon 15-Oct-12 19:35:39

Well, it came bang on day 28, right when I was about to get dressed for DS' party. Bugger it! Here we go again smile

Aw Jen sad so sorry to hear. CD 4 here so we can wait it out together.

How was DS's party? He sounds adorable!

I've had a really weird period actually. First two days were extremely heavy with HUGE clots but strangely not painful at all hmm. Usually clots like that are accompanied by really bad cramps. Sorry if this is all TMI! I just wonder if it had anything to do with what acupuncturist was suggesting (ie that egg was fertilized but didn't implant). Strange

jenrendo Tue 16-Oct-12 00:47:20

Hmm that is strange indeed! Mine are never one and the same, but usually with clots I'm the same as you. Bleuch!

DS' party was chaotic and he loved every minute. I am now investigating some new storage options to keep his beloved vehicle collection in! I have to admit that he is quite cute most of the time, happy playing by himself and pottering around with his cars etc but also not too bad at play dates. I totally worry all the time that he is going to be a 'typical only child' and work hard to teach him to share etc but man, it is tricky! That's partly why I'm so desperate for him to have a sibling.

Well, had to phone the doc today to get referred for a hysterosalpingogram (HSG) to see what is happening with my tube. I had a lap and dye in the UK 4 years ago and it showed my one and only tube was blocked, but then along came DS by surprise so I have no idea what the story was there. I will be quite interested to see what it shows up this time. If it is blocked I will get free IVF but have to pay for the drugs (about $2000) so really not sure we would go ahead with that all over again. It really is hard on your marriage and emotional health sad

Anyhoo, have a great week smile

He sounds adorable. Hopefully you have nothing to worry about on the sharing front. Mine went through a real horrible phase about not sharing but seems to be getting better. No complaints from his pre school anyway :-) As for cars we have this one and it holds tons! Can actually fit two cars in each slot if they're skinny race cars. We actually were going to order a second on our next trp to the States though because he needs another blush I confess it's my fault - Hotwheels are a cheap and easy way to keep him quiet when I'm trying to get through Sainsburys so he gets a new one nearly every week!

Good luck with you HSG. Think we're going to see a clinic after this cycle... hmm

jenrendo Sun 21-Oct-12 19:09:41

That looks like a great box for cars! I'll let you know how it all goes smile

jenrendo Wed 24-Oct-12 19:44:02

Well, not sure if anyone is still reading this thread but had the HSG yesterday. Was horribly uncomfortable and stung a lot. However, the doctor found that my tube is NOT blocked! Now, what's that all about? I had a lap and dye a few years ago that told me it was. I only have one tube. Very odd indeed. So, no free IVF for us but also no reason why we shouldn't conceive with a few drugs. I guess we just have to keep going! smile

Happilymarried155 Wed 24-Oct-12 19:51:03

Hi Jen,
I'm so glad your tube wasn't blocked!! I have a hsg tommorow and I'm so scared, scared of the procedure and scared of the results!!!

I have my fingers crossed for you, I have heard a lot of people get pregnant the first few months after a hsg smile here's hoping!!!

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 24-Oct-12 19:59:20

Jen that's fantastic news about your tube not being blocked. Positive thinking now and plenty of practising and hopefully Happily is right and it'll be good news for you and the HSG will bring you luck.

Good luck Happily tomorrow. I hope that you have good news.

Haven't been on the thread for a few days. It's nice to catch up, especially to see good news! I've been doing much practising and am desperately hoping that AF doesn't arrive on 7th Nov and am now feeling part hopeful and part dread. Am sure you girls know the feeling well.

Anyway, the best of luck ladies.wink Keep us posted.

jenrendo Thu 25-Oct-12 01:29:25

Happily I won't lie. It did smart a bit!! Take 2 Advil an hour before to help you relax. That's what they recommended to me. They also had to put a clip on my cervix because "it was flopping about a bit"!!! which didn't help. I'm sure you'll be ok and a brave lady! Good luck.

Getoff I will be thinking of you on the 7th! I'll keep checking every few days to see if there's any news. The lady at the scan yesterday said as I was leaving, "see you back here pregnant" so she is perhaps hopeful that it will work out for me. Let's hope it works out for all of us smile

jenrendo Thu 25-Oct-12 01:30:40

Oh, and as an aside, my usually lovely and very understanding DH said to me last night once I'd finished explaining everything, "so, are we shagging tonight then?". Really?!! He was hit with a resounding silence grin

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 25-Oct-12 13:50:11

Jen bless your DH. You can't blame the poor fella for trying!
Am liking the positive vibes from the lady at the scan! Fingers and toes crossed.

Much dancing around with the baby dust!

jenrendo Thu 25-Oct-12 17:53:39

Ha ha I know. He's a trier!!

Happilymarried155 Thu 25-Oct-12 18:01:25

Had hsg, was fine didn't hurt too much but have come back feeling really depressed. He said that my right tube was fine, he couldn't tell with my left as there wasn't any liquid going down that side but he will assume that both tubes are fine :-0 then he told us to come back in 6 months when we can have iui.

I don't know why but I'm so upset, I really thought that maybe be would start me on clomid or something. 6 months seems like forever after 2 years of trying sad

jenrendo Fri 26-Oct-12 02:08:45

Aw Happily I know how despondant you must feel sad Can you be a bit more pushy and get on the phone and chase them for Clomid? I am finding that I am having to be very proactive with things otherwise nothing gets done. I remember the awful feeling of being totally helpless, waiting for a year then being referred, then waiting for the lap and dye, waiting for the fertility clinic then being told the IVF waiting list was 2 years. It's just bloody awful isn't it? We went private for 2 cycles (thanks to my lovely dad) because I just couldn't wait. It didn't work anyway though. On the plus side I got pregnant by myself, with only one tube, which was apparently blocked, so you have lots of chance smile I know it's saying the obvious but you just have to keep going. A lot of couples conceive while they're waiting for fertility treatment. Thinking of you smile

jenrendo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:51:05

Anyone still read this? Well, my sister just told me on Skype that she's pregnant again and I had to be brave for 45 mins before I could get off and cry. I don't know what makes me sadder, the fact that she's pregnant after a whole one month of trying and I'm not, or the fact that she was so terrified to tell me sad I am definately screaming inside today smile

Happilymarried155 Sun 04-Nov-12 21:56:09

Jen my best friend did the same thing to me, she is also pregnant after one month of trying and I'm so unbearably sad, I really understand how you feel. When my friend told me I felt so selfish because all I could think was why not me? When is my turn? sad

jenrendo Mon 05-Nov-12 13:59:04

I am just so annoyed with myself that I can be so selfish when I already have a lovely wee boy, and so gutted that she was so worried about telling me. Me and DH have had words tonight too which isn't helping, and he is giving me the same old lectures about putting pressure on myself and being happy with one. Boo sad

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 21-Nov-12 17:50:55

Bless you both. I totally know what you mean, two family members now up the duff while we've been trying. It's so frustrating!
Jen do you feel like you're piling the pressure on yourself? It's difficult to know what to do though about trying not to totally stress out about it though.
Sorry I've been away for a bit, had a bit of a drama with DS's nursery. All sorted now. Am pulling him out and putting him in a new one. I think I probably went a bit over the top and mama bear about it all but I don't care. Am much happier about it!
Am currently doing the wait again. How about you ladies?

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 01:00:57

Hello ladies. Anyone there? First month on Letrozole and today my period was due. After 3 tests I can (I think) do a wee dance. I got a BFP grin! So, only 4 weeks and a way to go yet, but off home for Christmas and my family will be over the moon. We can't believe it after 18 months and only one tube yeeeeeee haaaaaaaaa! Hope you're all doing well xxxxx

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 01:02:18

Getoff how did your DS' nursery change go? Everything run smoothly?

Happilymarried155 Wed 05-Dec-12 07:12:25

Jen!!! Congratulations that's really amazing news!!! How exciting. What a perfect Christmas present!!!

I'm on cd29 today, think AF is due around 30-32 days so resisting to pee on a stick until Sunday! My co manager and good friend both announced they are pregnant with thier 2nd yesterday, both announced they were pregnant with thier first when we just started trying sad I can't believe they are both pregnant again and we haven't managed to get pregnant once yet. Majorly depressing!! How is everyone else getting on?

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 19:00:41

Ah Happily that is soooo depressing. It's just not fair is it? My friend and her boyfriend just announced on FB that they're pregnant and all the fuss over that on Monday made me really bloody cross and fed up. Thought I was getting my period, got a bit of brown (TMI!!) but then nothing. Spent an hour crying to my mum on the phone and sounding off, then tested the next day when nothing came of AF. What a surprise!! It does seem that everyone else finds it so easy though. I feel for you sad Keep crossing those fingers and keep shagging! Last month we only did it because we had to and it wasn't great ha ha! Just goes to show. Good luck. Let us know how you get on. I'm hoping this is the beginning of good luck for us all smile

mummycooper Thu 06-Dec-12 23:27:20

hey peeps can i join??, im so simmilar to you all, i have a 17mth ds and ttc for baby number 2, no joy ye tho, my period was 5 days late there and i had begun to think maybe i was expecting, but no not this time, took me a month to get pregnant first time round, me and dh only been trying 4 months for baby 2, suppose aint long at all but seems like eternity when each month you wait in anticipation to see if yav skipped your monthly bleed. also finding it hard to get time for intimacy with m dh hes working late shifts alot and akward at night not wanting to waken ds lol, fingers crossed 2013 will bring us all our much hoped for babies tho. smile

jenrendo Fri 07-Dec-12 02:55:48

mummy welcome, although not sure many of us are still on this thread. 4 months isn't a long time, although it must be difficult when you conceived so easily the first time. Good luck! You'll have to learn to have sex quietly so as not to wake DS!!

jenrendo Fri 07-Dec-12 02:56:26

Happily any news?!

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 10-Dec-12 21:26:02

jen congratulations! That's such fantastic news, am so pleased for you - and green with envy too I confess! Wishing you a lovely pregnancy with lots of silly cravings and absolutely no morning sickness!
No news here, starting a new cycle and am determined that hubby will have an exhausting month ;)
happily any news? X

Happilymarried155 Tue 11-Dec-12 04:00:19

News is AF arrived sad tried not be too upset, but it's hard we have 4 more months before we start iui and I feel like I'm on such a time limit. I really don't want the stress of treatment etc... I know it will be worth it though, as long as it works! How are you feeling Jen?
On the upside I'm a real Christmas person I love it and its only two weeks to go!!!
Thanks for thinking of me smile x

jenrendo Tue 11-Dec-12 18:30:03

Aw I have been waiting for you Happily sad You must really feel the pressure. I certainly did. The doc told me we would try 3 months on Letrozole then try IUI at $500 each month. Phew! Do you get it free? I am in Canada so no good old NHS here. I miss it!

Getoff it will be your turn soon. I want this thread to turn into one of those ones where everyone is pregnant in the next year smile

I am great, not feeling too bad yet, but I remember the sickness didn't kick in until 7 weeks last time. I fly back to Scotland next Wednesday so I'm hoping to feel ok for that delightful overnight 7 hour flight with DS and no DH. He is coming later. I have odd little feelings in my tummy but I suppose I am hyper aware now.

Hope you all have a lovely Christmas, and on the plus side you don't need to formulate wonderful stories to hide your pregnancy from everyone at the time of year when EVERYONE is drunk! Although I am looking forward to telling my parents. My sister is due 2 months before us. 2 more GCs to add to their boasting book. Thinking of you all and sending positive thoughts smile
Jxx

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 11-Dec-12 19:23:32

I think it's only natural to get upset, I was too when AF arrived. I think you need to have a day or so having a sulk and then get right back on with trying again!
I love Christmas so am going to throw myself into the celebrations. Think positively, this time next year you could have a wee bundle to celebrate Christmas with!x

jenrendo Wed 12-Dec-12 01:26:13

I know. I had two days of being a big sulky mess every month and then looked forward to the day AF stopped so we could try all over again. It's extremely difficult though, especially after many months sad

Happilymarried155 Wed 12-Dec-12 13:55:07

It is, I really try not to be sad about it but sometimes I'm just overcome with sadness about it all!

Jen, we get three goes of iui on the nhs and then one lot of Ivf, anything after that we find ourselves. I don't know how il cope of all that doesn't work!!! The annoying things is it being unexplained, the doctors says its just bad luck, but bad luck for two years when everyone seems to get pregnant after the first couple of months. Surely my bad luck has to end sometime!
Fingers crossed for a bfp for us all in jan, what a fantastic start the new year that would be smile

jenrendo Wed 12-Dec-12 19:13:26

It sure would Happily! It must be awful when they can't actually find anything 'wrong' with you. How frustrating. Maybe when you let yourself go over Christmas and get drunk a lot (?!) it will happen when you're most relaxed. That's what happened with DS. 2 cycles of IVF that year then a very drunken Christmas and New Year where we tried to drown our sorrows and resign ourselves to having no children. I was so off track with my cycle I didn't even know when AF was due and didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 7 weeks! We only had sex twice that month. It is soooooo fucking annoying when everyone else seems to have it so easy. Not fair sad At least IUI is free for 3 months smile

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 12-Dec-12 22:01:41

Hope you have a safe journey jen and a lovely Christmas, you've definitely had your present early! Does your DS understand Christmas? Mine is a bit oblivious at the moment bless him.
happily We were the same at Jen, I fell pregnant after a bout of drunken weddings so was very relaxed too. Have a great Christmas, looking forward to BFPs in the new year!

Onemoreforgoodmeasure Thu 13-Dec-12 10:13:43

I'm also 40, two mc's this year. No children. Have lots my mind, I am fixated on the cycle of getting pg, being pg, mc'ing, recouperating, poasing on opks. Will we get to be a family? And I hate it when people try to reassure me with things they can't possibly know. "It'll hapen for you". ffs.

jenrendo Thu 13-Dec-12 19:32:00

"Just relax, it'll happen when you're relaxed".......FUCK OFF!! I know how you feel Onemore. People just don't know what else to say really. They have no idea sad Getoff DS is loving Santa and all the sparkly lights that the crazy Canadians adorn their houses with but has no idea what Santa does. He loves all the glitter though. I have read him stories about Santa but he's still just a little young yet. Next year will be crazy!

jenrendo Tue 18-Dec-12 19:20:36

Had 6 week scan today and was extremely nervous that it would be twins or nothing there at all. Saw and heard one little heart beat flickering away. Merry Christmas everybody, and may my good luck rub off on you all in the New Year smile

Happilymarried155 Tue 18-Dec-12 19:25:31

That's amazing! I'm so pleased, what a wonderful Christmas present! I too hope this is the start of luck for us all!! smile

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 18-Dec-12 20:40:05

jen that's lovely news. So exciting! Fingers crossed your good luck rubs off on us all.
Happy Christmas all x

ifso Tue 18-Dec-12 20:50:15

just joining this thread, it has been a while, and am just a bit eh? since the warnings my mother gave me on contraception/pregnancy as a twenty year old!! and still trying as a 34yr old. I mean, that old thing about beingmcareful not to get pregnant, is so different when actually trying to get pregnant - it's not just as simple as going for it without contraception is it?

Happilymarried155 Tue 18-Dec-12 22:19:45

No I wish it was! I'm never actually going to take contraception every again!!! smile

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