Good practical advice

[berkeley23]

Hello - this is my first post and I am nervous - I have been TTC since my son (5) was born.

I have been all over the place; from denial through to IUI and eventually diagnosis of scar tissue - but basically there's not a lot wrong with me and I think my biggest problem has been not being able to calm the hell down.

So just want some good practical advice for getting pregnant; we're both on good shape - he is 33 I am 32 - we live well, we're in love.

I feel like I have heard all the advice out there; from mucus testing to giving up drinking to 'just relaxing' - but has anyone got any really good, practical advice for us?

When is the best time and how often and does position make a difference?

[Wholelottalove]

Hiy and welcome from a nother newbie! Sorry to hear you've been having problems. Well, I am sure there will be lots of much more experienced people than me along to give you some decent advice, but I will say we were SWI for 6 months TTC DD and then the month we started earlier (i.e. I was still on AF) and also did it 'doggy style' was the month we conceived. I understand 'deep penetration' positions are best to give the sperm a chance to get closest to the cervix, so doggy style or missionary.

[berkeley23]

Thanks for that - and how often were you having sex?

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

My main concern on reading your post was the mention of scar tissue.

What have they done with regards to the scar tissue (adhesions) and where is it cited?. I ask as this requires surgery to remove it, drug treatment will not do anything to adhesions once they are formed.

If you are not under the care of a gynae currently you should be.

You are actually well beyond the "initial" stages. Both of you should have up to date test results, anything over six months old should be discounted.

Make love when you both feel like it, not when you think its ovulation time. Ovulation is not an exact science and a woman can ovulate earlier, later or not at all in any given cycle.

Do not put pressure on each other to have sex. Forget all this idea of "best time"; conception does not work like that at all.
Charting and other methods can lead to stress so would avoid these.

Adopt a position if it is fun but position has no bearing at all on becoming pregnant.

[berkeley23]

Attila - thanks very much you sound very sensible and full of good advice
I have been under Gynae care and they said that the scar tissue was too small to be removed so basically the next step would be IVF which we just can't face
I am trying to keep calm and I am very happy - I adore our son and as I have said we have a good life - but I suppose I do get a bit anxious during my fertile time knowing that we 'should' be having sex
My husband I think feels much more that we should just be doing it when we feel like it - whereas every time I am not pg I can't help but wonder that we didn't just miss that vital day?