We are currently TTC #1 - I came off the pill in May and since then we havnt exactly 'tried' to conceive - more just carried on as normal having sex maybe twice a week - I secretly hoped this would work and id fall pg without having to worry about temps/CM etc etc(!)
However nothing has happened and so Ive decided its time to up the game a bit.. at the beginning of this cycle I suggested to DP we should 'try' - i.e. just shag as often as poss round ov time (simple!)
However last night when - although knackered - I tried my bestest to be alluring and sexy - DP (in a rather hurt voice) said he thought maybe I didnt actually want to hae sex with him for purely lustful reasons but I only wanted to have sex cos I was ov'ing. I wanted to shout 'well D'UH obviously!' but that would have killed whatever little of the mood was there so i said some rubbish about OVing making me horny etc .
He then went on to say how he wanted our baby to be conceived in a way that was fuun/spontaneous and while obviously that would be lovely that way just doesnt seem to be working for us and I want us to try.. and trying means sometimes making the effort to have sex even when you are not at your horniest. I tried to say this to him and we had an argument and no sex at all was had.
Our relationship and sex life is generally good but I feel like this is a delicate issue - I dont want to make him feel like a sperm doner but at the same time I think he needs to wise up to what TTC can involve .. or maybe Im wrong and we should just keep the sex passionate and spontaneaous and eventually hopefully this will work.. anyone been in similar situation? any advice?? thank you...
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How to persuade DP that TTC may not always be spontaneous & passionate?!
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undercovercarrot · 30/09/2009 14:35
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