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Ladies, here we are once again, a lovely new thread!

I am so pleased to see we have new ladies since the last thread began, may we get even more on this new one!

I am so very excited that Detox, HC and Willmouse are all set to give us more bonker's babies very very soon!

I am loving regular updates of our beautiful Bonkers babies and they grown and learn and become more scrummy by the second!

I am looking forward to many more BFP's maybe even from some of the Bonkers Babie's Mummies!!!!!

Oh and I am also looking forward to Bonkers going the next step as we get our first 'Bonkers Toddler' - Time has flown and next month my beautiful Bonkers Baby Naomi Caitlin is going to be One!

Let's continue with great friendships and love

Lovely start to the new thread MJIM, as always. Thanks.

How long has bonkers been going now? I joined in January 08, but I know it had already been going a while - is it coming up to 2 years before long? That's impressive!!

All well here, Patrick now a total nightmare, but in a good way - climbing on everything, getting everywhere he shouldn't be! He's certainly keeping me on my toes! Off for his first settling in session at the childminder's tomorrow in anticipation of going back to work in a mere 3 weeks. Am now bfing just morning and evening and middle of the night too, and ff in the day, again in readiness for going back to work.

That's my update, brief though it may be!!

Love to all.

Juanitad - glad things are going well! Naomi still isn't crawling lol! I started the original thread in october time 2007 - so yes soon approaching 2 years! Of course the first thread we were not called bonkers anonymous - but still the same

Morning all

MJIM lovely message at the start Wow, our first Bonkers baby is going to be 1 soon!!

Juanitad lol at P - it sounds like you are going to have your hands full (he sounds just like Josh at that age lol!). Hope the settling in goes well. Childminders?? I thought you had him booked in at a nursery (or are you doing a mix of them both?)

Sam seems a bit more content to actually stay in one place (fingers crossed) so am hoping he won't be quite as hyperactive as Josh is!!

Hello all,

A lovely start to the thread again MJIM!!

Juanitad, gosh you're going to be busy with Patrick from the sound of it! I know what you mean about making preparations to go back to work. I've decided to take two weeks holiday now at the beginning of October to extend my mat leave a little, but I will be trying out the childminder during those two weeks aswell, just to make sure Ellie will be Ok.

Ceebee, how are you? I'm sure Sam won't be staying in one place for long!!

So ladies, I need a bit of advice. You've all been there I'm sure so I'm hoping that you'll have some good hints and tips.

DH and I have only taken Ellie to the shops twice. Both times she cried. She's fine until we have to stop the trolley/pram, the minute we stop she cries. We've tried making sure she's got a full-tummy and is changed before we go, so she's not hungry or uncomfortable.

So yesterday, I took her out myself for the first time. Wanted to look at the Summer Sale in Matalan. By the time we got to the car park, she was already grizzly, so I gave her some more of her bottle, winded her and kept her really calm. Got her into her pram and took her into the store. So far so good. The minute I stopped to look at some clothes for her, she started screaming!! Luckily the shop wasn't too busy and as it was, there was nothing left in the Sale anyway so I just left. I've always been one of these women that hasn't liked babies crying in shops, it used to really grate on me. And I'm really conscious of how I used to feel and don't want to subject other people to it. Any tips on what might be the problem or how I can resolve it? I don't want to be a prisoner at home and not be able to take her out to the shops!!

xxx

Dawn - I had exactly the same problem with N, though with her it wasn't just shops it was everything she loathed being in the carseat or pushchair or trolley at all! Even when walking at speed pushing the pushchair she would scream like mad. I got a hug-a-bub sling and a miracle occured! Maybe you should think about investing in one? They are very comfortable to wear and it may help.

As for children being disruptive in shops, I am immune to that, you sort of have to be when you have two little monkeys children!

Dawn Sam has always been a bit like that which quickly put a stop to my lovely fantasies of long shopping trips whilst on mat leave He is ok if I am moving, but the minute I stop to look at clothes/pay/whatever, he starts screaming. As he has a dummy, I do use that which buys me a bit more time but obviously if Ellie doesn't have a dummy, you can't use that. I think you just have to turn a deaf ear to it and make the shopping trips as quick as you can - but for your own sanity, you need to get out and about so don't stop doing them.

Sam actually likes supermarkets though (not sure if it is the seat in the trolley which is higher up or what) - I can just about do a full shop (an hour) before he starts whinging - he usually starts when I am at the checkouts but maybe that is because the trolley has stopped

The other thing is maybe go when she is due a nap, keep walking/rocking the pram until she falls asleep and then you can probably get a good hour of shopping done (I have done this aswell and it works well!!)

MJIM, thanks for your advice, but I've tried a sling and unfortunately (due, I think, to my implants) within 10 minutes my back is in agony. In fact, even just doing the ironing these days is uncomfortable. It eased when I was PG but it's back again now. It could be a strength thing though, maybe my back needs strengthening, so I will try it again.

Thank you!!

Dawn - which sling do you have? the original one I got near on killed me using it even when N was tiny - the hug-a-bub is totally different and really supportive of back and shoulders! Sorry to hear you're suffering so badly with your back though!

Thank you for the new thread MJIM-as usual is is just lovely.

Just marking my place and now off upstairs to pack my hospital bag <gulp> Have also booked 2 tickets for the Rocky Horror Show in December when my boy should be a couple of months old. Hope I can leave him. DH has reluctantly agreed to come with me, said OK to humour me apparently but I took this as a yes. Have waited approx 12 years for them to tour again so need to grab the opportunity as it may be another 12 years before they tour again.

Will catch up later, FIL cutting the hedge so need to look busy.

HC
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Ceebee, cross-posts sorry!! Thank you for your advice aswell. Ellie used to fall asleep really quickly when I took Tilly out for her walk because Ellie would be in her pram. But now she doesn't even fall asleep then which is bizarre! She tends to just stay awake and look around, but when Tilly does her business and I have to stop and pick it up, she starts to whinge. Also, because Ellie is sleeping so well through the night (10 hours at the moment), she doesn't tend to sleep much through the day, maybe 20-30 minutes at a time. Maybe that'll change soon.

MJIM, I think my problem will be trying some out, but taking enough time to know whether it's comfy or not. A shame you can't rent them for a few hours!! It's the top of my back that struggles, basically where my (.)(.)s are, but around the back obviously - ha ha!! Bizarre really though that my back hurts so much. Think I'm going to go and see someone because to look at me, my new boobs are totally in proportion with my body shape and if I had put on weight instead, I'm sure my body should be able to cope, so the problem could be a bit deeper than just my implants. Going to see the doc about it I think...

HC, you sound like me with my DH, feeling that I have to look busy - it feels even worse now I'm on mat leave - I'm sure he thinks I do nothing all day!! Gosh, not long to go for you - how exciting!!

xxx

Well Dawn - if you fancy bring Ellie on a lovely day trip to dorset you are more than welcome to try mine out for a few hours I agree go to the Doctors if it is causing so much pain!

HC - yay for the tickets, will be hard leaving your baby boy, but is only for a few hours and will be well worth it

Right best go, N is eating her lunch and getting in a right flap about it!!!!!

Hi!

MJIM - great start to the thread again!

Dawn - don't know what to suggest sorry! DS2 used to be quite happy around the shops it was just going into them he had a problem with. He used to scream as the doors opened. I just didn't go shopping!

HC - can't believe you are packing your hospital bag! Does that mean I should pack mine in two weeks' time?

Juanitad - glad things are going well for you - I can't believe your maternity leave is almost over. Hope Patrick got on OK with childminder!

Ceebee - hope Sam is better.

Right, I am off to do my shopping over the internet. I can't stand DH's efforts!

Willmouse, thank you! I know what you mean about not shopping - it's very tempting!!

New pics of Ellie on my profile! She's so big now. Over 10lbs and her legs are sooo long, they're already too long for her 0-3 month clothes and she's only 9 weeks old and the clothes are supposed to go up to 14lbs!!

xxx

No time like the present Willmouse. Also need to pack some little cases for the girls so it can be a quick drop off at mum and dad's on the way, <eek>

Dawn-lovely pics of Ellie. Sorry to hear you are suffering so much.

Where is detox?

HC
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Ooo great I've found you!

Hope all are well - thanks for the fab start to the thread as usual myjob!

Can't believe 2 of us are packing bags ready for hospital - yey!

willmouse - loved the 4D pic - wish we could have afforded one of those scans, but will enjoy looking at yours instead! You poor thing having to go into the soft play after ds2! I did it once to get my nephew aged about 3 and I almost died! I'm sure everyone was looking thinking I was not in control (they were prob just glad it wasn't them actually!)

HC - glad you had a nice time on holiday - you should be relaxing while you FIL does the lawn! Are the girls enjoying their summer hols? Do we get another bump pic now we are getting close??????

MJIM - Naomi is almost 1 - OMG! I think I joined up in Jan 08 just after Juanitad - but you originals must have been here almost 2 years! (wonders how many MN threads have lasted 2 yrs?)

dawn - all I can suggest is you keep moving where possible! sounds daft but if I keep the pram "jiggling" while browsing/queing she thinks we are walking! The downside to this is that I found myself jiggling an empty trolley the other day ...got a few odd looks! The pic of Ellie is lovely...awww
- you could cut off the feet of the babygrows and put socks on her? Maddie has the other problem - a long body so her babygrows are strtched under the nappy while the legs are massively long! lol!

jaunitad - glad P is well and giving you the runaround - he sounds very cute and 'into' everything. How are you feeling about going back to work properly? I am kind of ok at the moment - ready for some adult conversation!

ceebee - hope Sam's cold is better - loved the descriptions of the snot! Not long until your op then you can eat lots of KFC - but it sounds like your weight loss is goping so well you might not want to! Mine is ok too - still going slowly - but want to drop another few lbs still.

ray - sounds like you are finally getting somewhere with the docs. Keeping everything crossed for you this month/next month! Sorry to hear that you hate your job so much - I absolutely couldn't do your job! I just couldn't do the selling thing like you said!

All good in the choc household. Making the most of my summer break. We went camping at the weekend which was great (except there were no showers!!! )We only stayed 2 days as I couldn't face being dirty any longer!

Only a week til we go on our proper hols with SIL and her family. We put the roofbox on the car today - only took an hour lol! Managed not to argue too much with DP while doing it though

I have put 2 pics on profile as well - like to keep you all up to date!

CE xx

Hi all,

Visit to the childminder's went well - we just stayed an hour, but have got dates sorted for more settling in sessions when I'll leave him for a couple of hours. I could tell P feels right at home there, he was quite happy playing with all the lovely toys and watching the other 2 mindees. CE, I'm in 2 minds about going back to work. Part of me is really looking forward to it like you, I'm ready to re-join my old world, but also part of me feels quite sad. I want to clone myself so I can go back to work AND stay at home with him!! I don't ask for much, do I? Ceebee, P will be doing 3 days at the CM's and 2 days at nursery, so I've still got the settling in sessions for nursery to sort out! Will let you know how they go.

That's all from me for now. Love all the new pics by the way, must add some more to mine at some point.

Awww lovely pics ladies

All ok here this evening!

Afternoon ladies!

Dawn and CE - what lovely girls you both have!

HC - I am nowhere near being ready to pack my bag. I haven't even got the baby clothes down from the loft as there is nowhere to put them. Hopefully DH may get them down at the weekend. I think the forecast for next week is good so I could probably get them washed and dried.

I am off to see my midwife in a min. She said if I went to see her she would phone up and get the appointment with my consultant brought forward so I can get some clarifiaction about my c-section date. Problem is Mum has had an operation on her foot so I am going to have to bribe both boys with a trip to the sweetshop and take them with me. DS1 will probably talk her head off.....

Hope everyone is having a nice day. It is sunny here so it makes life easier as I have been childminding. We made home made milkshakes with pureed strawberries and bananas and ice cream. yum!

Hope the MW goes OK Willmouse. I feel better that I have a back semi packed, just need to pack the girls a few things in their suitcases. I have even bought a present for the girls to give him and a present for each of the girls from him. Wrapped them earlier. I next see the MW on Thurs at 34+2 and the girls have asked to come with me as they enjoyed the last visit. Did make my miserable MW more cheerful with them there.

Have a sore throat today so hope it doesn't turn into anything much.

Love to all!

HC
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Hi guys

willmouse - hope you get some good news at the mw

HC - very sweet buying pressies for/from baby aww

Tis me CE by the way - thought it was time for a name change

Midwife appointment went OKish. I have my appointment moved forward to 36 weeks so wont be quite as short notice if the date gets changed from the 6th. There's nothing else I can do now but live with it.

I can't believe how many things I have to do and how little time I get to myself to do things. I feel demented I am so stressed. I am also feeling really tired and wished I had never said I would child mind over the summer holiday. I have worked out that I will have just over 2 weeks when both boys are at school and before I have the baby which is actually no time at all. Anything I want done I am going to have to do before then. My god woe is me!

Hi all,

Willmouse, I have to confess that I was completely knackered during my first two weeks of mat leave, the two weeks before my induction date so I can imagine you do feel knackered. I have to admit that I also wished that I'd done things further in advance as I left a lot to the last minute. I was lucky though because I wasn't trying to look after other kids at the same time!! Poor you!! Glad that your MW appointment was Ok. At least you've got a bit more of an idea of dates now.

THC, love the new name!! We took Ellie out again today and she lasted about an hour, even when DH and I were trying clothes on, so that was good. But when we got back to Asda, she really started grizzling so DH sat in the car and I went in and did the shopping. Won't be able to do that when DH is away next week though!! It was when we tried to put her in the sling that she started to grizzle - nightmare!!

HC, sorry about the throat hun. Will you get chance to have the Swine Flu vaccine or will you have had your LO by then? I'm not sure when they're planning to start giving the vaccines to PG ladies, I only heard about it today on the news. I'm hoping they may try and give it to kiddies under 6 months aswell as I believe they're classed as high-risk and I do worry about Ellie!

Big waves to everyone else!!

xxx

DawnAS - maybe do your supermarket shop online? I swore I never would, but we had to as we were so pressed for time a couple of months ago - it was/is amazing I will never go back and do it in store now unless I have to! Brilliant!

Happycamper - cool name!

Willmouse - glad you have an earlier appointment date, good luck getting the baby stuff down, washed and dried - hopefully you will enjoy it

HC - well done in getting prepared. Cant believe you are 34 weeks already <amazing> I am getting so excited! Any further ideas on his name?

All ok here today, had lovely day out with friends and their children. DS wasn't brilliant, but he was quite good generally so am really pleased with him and happy

Might not be around for the next few days now as have DH's mum (and her husband) and his 2 sisters (9yr and 3yrs) coming to visit for a few days - sleeping arrangements are interesting seen as we only have a 2 bed house and no-one can sleep down in the lounge as MIL needs to be there for regularly waking 3 yr old and I need to be there for if N wakes We have sorted it, but like I say interesting lol!

Lol HappyCamper-that is what DH calls me when we are in the caravan.

Willmouse-I find looking after the 2 girls a chore at the moment so understand how exhausted you must be. Glad MW went well.

Still sticking with Matthew but am waiting until he is born before I mention it to DH incase he changes his mind. Will just start calling him Matthew when he is born.

Don't think I would bother with the swine flu vaccine anyway but not sure when they are going to start giving it. Good for young children and babies to have it though.

Love to all.

HC
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