Feeling quite negative

[honeymooner]

After having my miscarriage back in May we are now ttc again. I am 10dpo today and I feel really down. I have horrendous period pains (for me) which i?ve had on and off since I ovulated and today they are really bad. The month I got pregnant I had no pain at all so I now know that this month is out for me and I am feeling rubbish about it

[JamieJay]

I know exactly how you feel. I had a mc in June and this is our first month back ttc.

I'm on CD23 (cycle is normally 25 - 30 days) and I've not even had any real signs of ovulation this month. Trying my hardest to stay positive and hoping that maybe I ovulated without noticing but finding it really hard.

There is still time this month, we could both be pregnant but our bodies are just playing tricks on us . Having spend the last 10 years trying to not get pregnant I'm finding this whole ttc thing a real bitch.

Allow yourself to feel rubbish for a bit but try and do something nice with DP/H over the weekend. Oh and have a very un-mumsnet .

[honeymooner]

Ah thanks for the virtual hug, it's nice to be able to talk to people who understand. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you too. I'm finding ttc horrible! My husband keeps telling me to be patient but its so much easier said and done when you're trying be in tune with your body each month and waiting to ovulate, get af etc. I am anything but patient and relaxed. Also sad about the mc and its not the sort of thing I want to talk about with my friends so all of this is quite a lonely experience.

I need to start thinking about my plan of attack for next month now as I'm sure af is going to visit me within the next day or two.

[Barmymummy]

My sympathies to you both, have been there too. Wanted to share a positive story with you

I had DD in Aug 2002 and fell pg again in June 04. MC at 8 weeks in Aug. I had about a 5 week cycle following the MC but the month after that I fell pg with DS who is now 4 . Chins up, I promise it will happen, just keep believing, x

[canttouchthis]

I'm another one, had MC in March this year and been ttc since then. So this is 4th month trying now. Fingers crossed for everyone that this is your month

It is so hard, I'm always dreading the days after CD21 on the run up to AF. have irregular periods so never know if I should test or not when I'm a few days later than the month before..

Have a suspicion that this month isn't going to be lucky (haven't done the deed often enough due to DH being unwell!), but there's always next month.