Hi, ladies - I stumbled upon your thread and I just wanted to say please don't give up hope. After 3 years of ttc no 2, lots of heartbreak as everyone seemed to have no 2 and 3 with ease. we've had all the medical tests and there was no reason why it hadn't happpened - In June we decided to go down the ivf route and about to start ... just got my BFP at the last throw of the dice... All we did differently was chill out and upped my intake of vitamin B6. V early days but even getting to a BFP feels like a major step forward. don't give up hope. G.

Hi ladies, glad I found this thread as you are all sounding exactly the same as me.

Fell pg with DS after 4 weeks with new bf after being told it might be difficult to concieve! We stupidly then thought well it will happen the same again and even planned the month to get pg... 2 years on and we are still trying! DP has been tested and is fine but it seems im not ovulating so am starting Clomid tomorrow (fingers crossed it does the trick) Seems like DS was a true little miracle!

Does anyone else feel guilty for moaning though? I always feel bad because I know how lucky I am to have one child when there are thousands of people wishing for the same, I feel greedy. But in a ay it puts on more pressure I hink cos DS says he wants a brother/sister and I dont want a big age gap, and of course you get the line 'you've done it once so you can do it again' line from all the doctors!

I spoke to my friend who is a midwife, and she said it does have a name, secondary ifertility and it is very common. Ie looked it up since then and she was right, before that I didnt even know that term existed.

Lots of BabyDust to everyone ****************************************

just been thinking, is there something that we lot are not doing, where others are and going on to have their second or third child???

wish there were answers....

thanks belgianbun - just feel like I'm the only one who has an only child ANYWHERE that I go. It's terrible to think that way, and it's probably not the case (irrational thinking) but just feels that way and I'm very conscious of it all of the time.

sorry for thread hi-jack

Good luck to all of you - dd took 3mths of ttc. #2 took best part of 2 years and we had started initial scans and tests for IVF before falling pg naturally 3 days (!) after the first fertility scans. I am due in 9 weeks....

I think I had given up which helped! But I well remember the fear that dd may not have a sibling. I fell so grateful to have her though after hearing of some people's experiences...

oops forgot to add that I have underactive thyroid, so am aware myself that may have something to do with how long it's taking.

I suppose on a plus side, we don't have to panic about contraception where many couples do have that to worry about. It could be worse for all of us on this thread! Trying my best to see positives in all of this, but some days it's bloody hard

vag birth for me - not sure what that's got to do with it though acrylicafternoons??

Just out of curiousity - how many of you had a C section with your first child?

I have the same problem so can emphathise with others on here. I haven't met up with other mums who have went on to have their second child yet, because I just can't face them. It's too much for me. Some of them now have second child who is around 6 months old now. I find it too difficult even just thinking about it.

Have been trying for well over a year properly (actively) and still nothing. Every month I think 'oh this is it!!' but no, AF arrives usually later than the month before, or earlier sometimes. Am 27. DS 2 and a half.

Seriously fed up, big time. When is it going to happen.

OH something else I found, for all those that have unexplained infertility, have your thyroid checked, that often is overlooked as far as I read, but it can interfere with fertility.