Looking for an egg donor

[scatterbrain2009]

My husband and I have a little girl who is almost 4 and we are desperate for her to have a little sibling. She was our 6th pregnancy (after 1 stillbirth and 4 miscarriages). Since then we have lost our last two pregnancies to placental abruptions at 36 weeks (a little boy) and at 24 weeks (twin boys).

All the babies were fine but the problem is the way it implants in my womb. As the last abruption was particularly severe I am no longer able to carry a pregnancy due to the very real risk that I will not survive another abruption. And so we have joined a surrogacy organisation and we hope one day to find an amazing surrogagte who might help us to complete our little family.

To this end, I have been trying to harvest my eggs so that we could create some embryos to freeze whilst we find a surrogate but my body is not playing ball. So we are now looking to see if it would be possible to find someone willing to donate aggs? We are both white, I have blue/hazel eyes and brown hair. I live about half an hour from London but I believe we could create the embryos anywhere and then freeze them and move them as needed. If you were able to help it would mean so so much to us. I am 42 now and my husband is 41, we have been married 8 years and have spent all of this time trying to have our litle family so this really is the final chapter in our journey to parenthood x

[hobbgoblin]

There was a thread on surrogacy a little while back. If I recall correctly there were several mnetters who would consider surrogacy in its various forms.

Do you require eggs and surrogate for the pregnancy?

[mankymummy]

what would it involve and is there an upper age limit?

[scatterbrain2009]

Many thanks for your posts. I will look through the history to see if I can find the previous thread, thanks for that.

I have joined a surrogacy organisation and hope that through that I might find a surrogate who might chose to work with us. If the surrogate does not want to use her own eggs then I will need to use donated eggs because I am having no success producing my own. The age limit for donating eggs is 36. Most of the active surrogates that I have seen in this organisation though do not want to use their own eggs hence why I am looking for an egg donor as I think this will maximise our chances of finding a surrogate. Hope this clarifies things a bit. x

[drlove8]

bump for you. ... do you want a match to your own colouring and height? think it might give you a baby who looks more like your dd then.

[mankymummy]

ah... i would have been happy to help but unfortunately am over the age limit.

good luck though.

[scatterbrain2009]

TBH I am not particularly looking for a physical match. I guess skin colouring but after that the rest is not important. I would really just love for her to have a sibling and for us to complete our family.

What I would much prefer though is if the egg donor was someone that would be happy to get to know us and hopefully to remain as a family friend in the future as I would like any child we had to know about the journey we undertook to bring them into the world and the help we received along the way.

[Egg]

This is the kind of thing I would really really like to do but have not read enough into it to know for sure. I would love to be able to help other families and I know that I do not want any more children myself.

I will go away and read about what the procedure involves. I am white and age 33.

Must admit though that I would find donating easier if I did it anonymously as whilst I am pretty sure I would not feel "maternal" towards the child produced from one of my eggs it may be hard esp if he/she turned out to bear a resemblance to one of my own DC. Sorry I know that sounds selfish.

Anyway, it has given me something to think about and I will pop back once I know a bit more about it.

[hobbgoblin]

Where abouts half an hour outside London are you?

I'd thought about doing this in the past but not so sure now as I'm a lone parent.

[scatterbrain2009]

I am guessing that London would be a fairly central place to use a clinic if the egg donor lived around London or the South East somewhere. If they lived North of there we would look at clinics more in the North.

Mankymummy thanks very much for the thought. I think some clinics do vary, the one we have approached in London will accept known donors over 36 but anonymous donors must be 36 or under.

[scatterbrain2009]

Hi Hobbgoblin, We live near Reading, so about half an hour west of London.

[littlemissclare]

Hi hun, my name's Clare and I live in sussex about an hour from London, I'm 24, 5'4". I have brown hair and hazel eyes. I already have 3 amazing and healthy children and would be more than willing to give you the help you're looking for.

If you're still looking for a surogate let me know. My email address is [email protected]

[issyxx]

Hi,

My local hospital is currently trying to find me a match as im going to be an egg donor. As this will not only help another couple, but will mean that our IVF will be reduced. (Im 31, blonde and 5ft 8 with blue eyes)so not really what ur looking for at all. But hope that this will be of interest to you.

The nurse thats dealing with me told me that the amount of doners comeing forward at the moment, has greatly increased as people are finding it difficult financially at the moment. She says that very soon there will be more doners than they can match!???

Your message has helped me aswell as Ive had a few worries getting my head around the whole idea, sometimes I feel im looseing sight of why Im doing it, but to know that I could help someone like you makes me remember. Good luck!!x

[scatterbrain2009]

Many thanks for your replies.
Clare sorry I haven't been able to contact you on e-mail. I'm not sure if you are still interested?
Issyxx, can you tell me whereabouts you are based?

Many many thanks everyone x

[EachPeachPearMum]

issyxxx- I understood there was no financial compensation for egg donation

[Caitni]

EPPM sharing your eggs can reduce the cost of IVF treatment (eg you may get free treatment but may have to pay for "extras" like ICSI or blast transfer). It's not compensation (the egg donor is not paid) but does act as an incentive to increase the numbers of women who are willing to donate. See www.hfea.gov.uk/1967.html

[EachPeachPearMum]

Ah, thanks... maybe if I'd read issy's post again I would have understood