December baby Yes or No???

[iHaveAColinDog]

DS is 2 this may, TTC but havent caught yet not sure about whether to stop this month and go for a january baby??? am getting married next April (already postponed from this may but am considering postponing for another year to keep on trying. what do you think??? if i catch now it ll be 13th December its due if i go over we could could be talking christmas eve/day dont know how i feel about that. i just keep thinking thats its a little selfish for DS.

[mags98]

I think you can't plan it to this level of detail! If you want to be pregnant, stop using contraception, if not, don't! There is no guarantee it won't take several months to conceive anyway so you just have to try and wait and see what happens.

Why on earth would it be selfish to have a baby around christmas?

[sweetheart]

I have a December baby (well he's 3 now) and so far it's been fine. Not as good as dd's which is in the summer as we can get out and do more but I think thats more "winter" baby then Dec baby. My sister is in Dec too and she's never had a problem with it.

[CrackerNut]

Like Mags said, you can't plan things to be as exact as you'd like.

I have 2 December babies, one was actually due in the middle of January but was born on 12th December. I also have one that was due xmas day but was born on 6th.

It makes for a hectic month what with xmas, but you soon get used to that and it is fine.

[iHaveAColinDog]

yeah i know its just i ve waited so long to catch and i bet just for the sake i ll catch this month!! i didnt want to spoil ds christmas by giving birth on christmas day (that would be my luck!!)or around then, i dont know if ds would be excited at a new baby for christmas or dissapointed that the new baby is "getting in the way" i honestly dont know. i suppose that answers it but i am getting desperate now, and was really dissapointed to come on. sorry if i am sounding selfish, i really dont mean to i am just confused about what i want.

[Nemoandthefishes]

DD1 was due dec 22nd but we had her on the 16th dec. Dd2 was due 21st jan and came the 5th jan. Love having their birthdays by christmas only pain is that they are only 12mths apart so finding something nice and original for them each is a bit difficult

[Nemoandthefishes]

oh and when dd1 was due ds was 2.2yrs which I thought was ideal as 'worst case; he was too young to realise if we had a proper christmas on a different day.

[iHaveAColinDog]

ds will be 2.7 i really really want a baby and to me it doesnt matter what date/month it comes but i dont want to make ds feel pushed out.

[bandanna]

My daughter was born on Christmas day, we felt pretty gutted for her and guilty about doing that to her but actually she so far has had a fab time (now 6). Everyone makes a huge fuss, including school. She feels a very special little girl and we do something for her in the Summer. I wouldn't have chosen this for her but she def doesn't miss out

[nunnie]

My nephew was born new years eve, he is the only one out of the four of them that gets a party every year

[nickytwotimes]

13th Dec is my birthday, so a bloody goo idea.

Fwiw, I always loved my winter birthdays. They marked the start of the festive season. We are ttc atm and might end up with a winter baby which I wasn't sure of becasue of the snot factor - having a toddler with constant colds to pass on to the lo when trying to establish feeding is a pest becasue they struggle to breathe and also you can't get out as much walking with the buggy, but well, I'm willing to go through it for the joy.

[HappyandEiknowit]

i think if you want another baby then it shouldnt make a difference when it is born!
my DD was due 28th dec but was born 8th jan and it made absolutely no difference to me whether she had been born on the day she was or any other day! she took a while for us to get her and i wouldnt change a thing about it now we have our DD
your DS is still small and wouldnt know the difference if your DC2 was born on xmas day or at any point around xmas. i would adopt the wait and see approach and basically...erm...wait and see
good luck
xx ei xx

[poppiepetal]

Hi
I've been TTC for 6 months and desperate for it to happen now. Have had irregular periods and mis-timed the last 2 months by mistake (this month was 12 days longer than last month so thought I had pregnancy symptoms, sore bbs etc, when in fact that was most likely ovulation, and we didn't try for those few days). This month the due date would either be Christmas day or New Years day. I know the most important thing is having a happy healthy baby, but I can't help worrying about the problems it would cause. We always have Christmas period with one of our families meaning our baby/child would never be able to have birthday parties with his/her friends, it would be complicated every year. I know it's wrong to think these things, but it's worrying me, I think I'm very hormonal, just got period after 41 days and feeling very down.

[Biccy]

I don't think you sound selfish. I am having similar thoughts. We have been TTC since September, and one chemical pregnancy and one MC later AF is threatening to start any day (first after MC) meaning next potential due date around christmas day, and I am also not sure about having a christmas baby - for the baby's sake, dd1's sake, our sake!

But then I know to be really sure I'd need to wait probably 2 or 3 months (as it's not uncommon to have early babies and the history is there in my family), by which time I may as well wait until we'd be due in April 2010 so we catch the possible 1 year of SMP....

and at this point I realise I'm being daft and trying to over plan something that just can't be tied down too well: we want a baby, we want a sibling for DD, let's just use no contraception, and what will be will be.