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Has anyone seen my egg?

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 11:58

Okay just wanted a rant because an anolvulatory cycle is not what you want when TTC.

I am day 23 of cycle today and so far no definitive sign of ovulation but lots of "clues"

Signs and symtoms are thus
Stats- Ovulation for me varies wildly between day 14 and day 21 but averages day 19 - so day 23 isn't massively late but unusual for me.

Temp- my temps have been a little erratic this month but usually can see thermal shift clearly in my charts. There was a spike on day 20 to 36.7 which is my normal ov temp making me think I had ov'ed on day 19 as per usual. But then all the other temps since then have been low. Was thinking was partly due to my blocked nose meaning have been sleeping with mouth open but then defo didnt last night and temp was still low.

EWCM- Had a small amount of EWCM on day 17, day 18 or so I had a mammouth water drinking sesh (egged on by the lovely MrsHappy) and day 21 and 22 had a fair bit of EWCM (more than usual but very late for me.) So after the temp spike on day 20 so prob didn't ov then?

Fertility friend is currently not recording ov. but if you have a play with it will put ov at day 17 or day 19.

We shagged (sorry I hate BD'ed as a term) everyday from day 12-19 and then had to stop as I was too sore! then circumstances (I was out DH was asleep) meant that did not manage to again until day 22 so if I did ov later I wont have got the optimum shags in before ov.

My normal luteal phase is 12 days but ov varies wildly so it is helpful to me to know when I ov'ed so I can predict period arrival (cycle length in past 13 months has varied between 27days (last months cycle) upto 39days(August cycle when I got married that month!).

Anyhow am just hacked off because the later I ov- the more longer between cycles and trying again the next cycle! Not even sure I am going to ov this month which is a waste of good sperm (Sex was great though so we don't mind too much )

Anyhow has anyone seen my egg? and if you have it can you please give it back to me so I can get on with it already!

Also any ideas if I did ovulate on day 19 or not? I suspect I did but then maybe I didn't. Nargh am I in 2ww wait or do I have that pleasure yet to come.

Oh and if anyone has seen my sane sensible brain that doesnt give a toss about TTC can I have that back too please?

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 11:59

oh dear god what a long and TTC obsessed post. I do apologise.

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 12:03

Oh and forgot to add the EWCM on day 22 was blood streaked and my silly brain went but that could imply early implantation? Say if I had ov'ed on day 17 which FF does say I did if you ignore one temp. But then I don't think I ov'ed.

Oh and I use Persona to measure LH surge but it missed ov because it started the testing windo to early because of last months early ovulation (day 17)- I wee'd on a stick day 12-19 and no sign of LH. So another clue that I didn't ov on when FF may think I did.

Grrrr shall I just stop this obsessing and just wait for my period like a good girl?

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BeckyBendyLegs · 20/02/2009 12:06

I've just had a look around here and I can't see your egg anywhere. Sorry. Perhaps it has been but crept up on you rather than announcing 'I'm here!!!!' Mine is due to arrive in the next few days!

Sperm is never wasted 6 days of shagging (I hate BDing too - not even sure what it stands for) is very impressive. We usually manage 2-3 days in a row at best, 4 on a good month!

Good luck!

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BeckyBendyLegs · 20/02/2009 12:07

I think you are a teeny tiny bit obsessed but that's ok. Aren 't we all?

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 12:11

Cheers Beckybendylegs, I realised that with a third post in the same line as the first post after a second post apologising for the 1st post meant i had officially lost the plot- did think about a 4th post apologising for all 3 previous posts but then that would make it worse! OH DEAR GOD SOMEONE PLEASE TAKE AWAY MY FERTILITY FRIEND PASSWORD!

Doesn't help I studied reproductive physiology at University, I am a sex ed teacher and have used FAM for past three years (but never quite this obsessively!)

BDing stands for Baby Dancing which is justa GRIM term.

Cheers for looking for my egg though. If it doesn't appear I reckon tescos nicked it and wrapped it in foil and put it in a box- so my only option is to buy every easter egg in tescos and eat them in case I find it!

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 20/02/2009 12:28

Thandeka,

Ok, here's your "sane sensible brain" talking now. You will only succeed in tying yourself up in knots if you carry on like this!!. Stressing yourself out and perhaps over analysing the whole issue (realise you're desparate, been there and done that myself) in such a manner will not help you either. Infact I would go as far to stop the charting, checking mucus, the 2ww business as of now. You do realise of course that many gynaes do not take any notice of temp charts primarily because they are so unreliable?.

Ovulation is not an exact science and a person can ovulate earlier, later or not at all in ANY given cycle.

Purely going by what you have written your cycles could be seen as irregular as there are more than 4 days of variation from month to month.

LPD is controversial - some gynaes think it is a problem whilst others do not.

Have you talked with a gynae as yet or sought any medical advice?. This is something that you may want to consider now.

The problem as well with temp charting is that you can get a temp shift in the second half of your cycle when an egg has not actually been shed. This may well be happening with you.

Would also suggest you make love when you both feel like it; timing of intercourse is a bad idea all round.

If you have not already done so I would get blood tests done to see what your hormone levels are like. That will actually tell whether you're ovulating or otherwise. Both of you should be tested further now to see if there are any problems preventing conception. Subfertility is not the sole preserve of the woman.

Your Sane Sensible Brain.

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 15:16

Cheers Attila that was very much needed teared up a bit reading it (which for me always indicates have skidded off the sanity track!

Spoke to Dr today (went about other things but mentioned it in passing) and was as much use as chocolate teapot. Until the 12 months is reached they are not interested (we are only half way there- hope I dont go even more mental by then!).

One thing keeping me going is we have an 3 week thailand holiday booked for Easter so march and april no charting or caring and just shagging for shaggings sake.

Thanks for giving me back my brain!

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ShowOfHands · 20/02/2009 15:25

Oh I remember the stresses of TTC well. I do so hate those 'here's what happened to me stories' but er, well, um...

I charted for a very long time, had a miscarriage, charted some more. Had the weirdest cycle, anovulatory I thought. Very little ewcm, no pain, temp all over the shop, thought oh bugger it and... yup, pg. Cycle was regular as a regular thing, ov pinpointed to the minute.

Anyway, I'm hoovering under things later (rare), will keep an eye out for an egg...

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BeckyBendyLegs · 20/02/2009 18:58

It seems to be the way but shagging for shagging's sake seems to work for most people. So I recommend you go to Thailand, eat loads of fabulous food, drink loads, have a blast with your man, forget about ovulation and cycles and temperatures and you never know you might be lucky

I am very jealous of you going to Thailand by the way. Would love to go. ENJOY!

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Thandeka · 20/02/2009 19:15

ooooh maybe this thread did the trick- suddenly even more ewcm and INCREDIBLY horny (normally not that fussed) so just jumped DH's bones (erm and now for a post-coital MN post about it was nice to have sex because I actually wanted it- and if he's lucky he'll be getting it again tonight!

Yeah sod it just shagging for shaggings sake not babymaking! (and means you can have DIIRRRTY sex- because when TTC the naughtier sex seems a bit wrong! Grin. (Oh by Dirrty sex I don't mean the wrong orifice- I mean I getting the wrong orifice would probably reduce chances somewhat!)

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corblimeymadam · 20/02/2009 19:21

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Thandeka · 23/02/2009 09:31

FOUND IT!!!!

Day 23 according to fertility friend signs all match up. Now day 26 so officially in 2ww and 10 days to go til AF arrives- which is also DH's birthday so lets keep fingers crossed for the best birthday pressie ever!

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MrsHappy · 23/02/2009 09:45

This thread made me laugh.
I'm sure the harder I looked for my egg the longer it would hide...

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Thandeka · 23/02/2009 09:59

and just realised the day I posted about losing it was actually the day I found it.

How funny. Almost like a classic retracing one's steps....

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