Twenties TTC - Join Me Pleeeease!

[Etcha]

I'm 23 and hoping to try for a baby from next month.

Anyone else?

[dancingqueeen]

hi, I'll join you, I'm 28 this is my 2nd month of ttc properly (1st month was ill so no 'trying' took place!)

[irishmumwannabe]

Hi Etcha and dancingqueen I am 28 and ttc#1 as well. Have been trying for about 5 months now but only really properly for about 3 so fingers crossed that it'll happen soon.

Haven't done all the charting, temping,grapefruit drinking etc. but could get to that stage soon enough if nothing happens in the next few months.

(Just to say I usually am on here in work so spell checking isn't the most precise and I apologise in advance for the many typos I will commit)

[DevilsAdvocaat]

hello ladies, i'm 26 and ttc no2.
have a look at the ttc and october thread - some lovely ladies on there

good luck to all!

[bubblebell1]

hiya!!

im 26 and ttc#3 2nd cycle of trying

[dancingqueeen]

do most of you have lots of friends who have babies / are ttc? I'm going to be one of the first out of my close friends to be trying, I know another is starting soon but none of the rest are anywhere near thinkign about babies...

irish i'm also not yet doing charting etc, partly as sounds too complex, but also because obsessed enough already so trying v hard not to think about it too much to begin with (not v successfully I have to say!)

[AngelFairy]

Hello ladies...
I am also 28 and ttc#1.
My bf and I decided to try last month, let's see!
I became a member today, so I'm new to all this, but I wish you all the best of luck!
Sending you all some pregnancy angels x

[irishmumwannabe]

I'm the first of my group and not telling anyone but my very best friend (not even telling family). That said I am also the oldest of my group (only be a few months) , and was the first to get married as well.

Welcome to MN AngelFairy - everyone on here is lovely and really helpful adn supportive. As Devil said the ttc monthly threads are good - but it's nice to have a few places to chat on if one or teh other is quiet.

(waves at bubblebell)

[Joy27]

Hello, I'm 28 and my boyfriend and I are ttc#1. Had a mc last July, so this is cycle 6 for us since then. After getting pg so quickly after coming off pill in May (within 2 weeks I reckon!) am not feeling a bit frustrated at lack of second BFP. I'm currently on CD4.

I haven't turned to temping and all that malarkey- just watching cycle days and cm, and am drinking grapefruit juice because, well, it's a dead easy thing to do. Looked on Fertility Friend the other day and was horrified by amount of homework and obsession required- I'd rather steer clear of that sort of thing unless things get desperate. It's supposed to be an enjoyable experience after all!

I was the first of my group to start trying- however, as have just neurotically posted on another thread, two of my girlfriends are about to start and I am feeling very worried about it, for crazy reasons that shouldn't mean a thing: will be jealous/feel cheated if they get pg first; will worry that other friends will think we've "copied" if we then get pg afterwards. Have only told 2-3 of closest friends about ttc whereas these other pals are likely to be quite open about it.

Am lunatic, clearly.

[bubblebell1]

(grins and waves back at irishmum)

i was the first of my group to get married and have kids. now they are all pregnant and im so so so broody. this time last yr i said if i make it a year without ttc then i will be proud of myself and be the first in line at the medal shop.... but here i am

i told everyone i knew that i was ttc in oct. and now its jan they ask if ive been lucky... der no.. i would of told them...

i am using fertility friend to chart my temp knicker checking and using opks but i am a self confessed control freak.

[Lisey09]

Hello, I'm 26 and we're going to be ttc dc#1 from March onwards.

Definitely understand how you feel Joy - I made the mistake of telling one of the girls in our friendship group last summer that we were going to be ttc come early 2009 and she went on and on about not wanting a kid yet then two weeks later her hubby tells my DP that they are going to be ttc from January.

I was gutted! I too don't want to seem like we're copying them. Especially as they were the first to get engaged, first to get married etc etc, it would be nice if someone else had a chance!!

So only 1 very close, old friend knows the plan!

I am getting so excited about it and DP thinks I'm mad!

[AngelFairy]

Im stunned...
They warn us about the 'dangers' of becoming pregnant our whole lives, and seeing teenagers pushing prams had be believing! But gosh, after following my sister through her ttc#2 with all the facts that prove how very difficult it is to concieve (not to mention all the agonising comments on these threads) I am surprised we survive as a race!!

Phew... That ramble was scary !

[Sabs1981]

hello ladies, can i join? I'm 27 and ttc#1. Has a mmc in sept, have been waiting 3 months before trying again. Am now on my 2ww of cycle 1. AF due Sat 17th Jan, hoping she doesnt visit me!!!

[bubblebell1]

hi sabs.. sorry to hear about your mmc i hope this month is your lucky month.

[Joy27]

Sabs, sorry about your mmc. I had a mc last year... it can hit you harder than you'd expect, can't it? Good luck ttc.

Lisey, good to know I'm not alone in feeling like this. It's icky isn't it, to feel jealous and competetive in this way? It's just that I can picture my friend/s announcing their pg and everybody being all surprised and shocked and congratulatory (there are no babies and no marriages in our friendship group yet). And I would be wanting to yelp "but we've been trying for aaaages! And I had a mc! And it's my tuuurn!". And then if we did manage to conceive, we'd just be bringing up the rear and the group would be all "oh look, joy decided to do it too".

I know, I know: Complete. Lunatic.

[DevilsAdvocaat]

ladies, it won't feel like that i promise.
when you get pregnant you won't be worrying about other people, you won't have time because you'll be thinking about baby stuff!

my sis got pg 3 months after me (her third, my first) i was a bit put out at first because it felt like she was trying to steal my thunder, (crazy huh?) but in the end it was awesome having someone to talk pg with and moan about not having a drink

[littlemiss26]

can i say hello! i'm 29 ttc#2 had mmc three weeks ago so i guess i'm on cycle 1 at the moment. nice to see so many friendly ladies from the oct thread (hi bubble, irish, joy and devils )

have to admit i feel quite competitive about being pregnant, particularly as i should have been 4 months now! everyone seems to be pregnant

[theboob]

hi I'm 27 and ttc#4 ,I am on my 2ww AF is due 21st of jan and nobody but my best friend knows I'm trying as all I will get is "AGAIN....ARE YOU MAD"
well yes I am

[Joy27]

Hello littlemiss and theboob.
Wow, ttc #4 theboob- how fantastic!
Welcome ladies. There are more of us twenty-somethings than I thought there would be.

[Lisey09]

So sorry to hear about the mmcs I hope you all get lucky this time around.

Oh Joy I'm hearing you!

Devils I hope you're right, but it's the ttc that seems to be the issue - if we get pregnant, I won't care a jot! I just don't want to be the first ttc and then everyone else having babies! It'll be crushing.

Here's hoping that by the end of 2009 this thread is full of us sharing our birth stories or supporting each other as we wait to pop! Then we can all look back and chuckle at how silly we all were!

[katster37]

Hello! Can I join? I have posted on a couple of other threads too, namely the TTC1 one. I am 27, we have been married for 3 years (DH is 27 too) and we are on cycle 3. Having said that, we haven't used any contraception for years, and I checked CM etc to avoid (although not really, for the last year!) conception. I am currently having a bit of a flip as I think I don't have long enough between ovulation and my period for implantation to take place. So am trying a potion of vitamins and herbs, which are not working so far!

My AF arrived yesterday, and was greeted by much crying and hysteria - DH clearly thinks I am insane.

Irish we sound pretty similar (not that you are insane!) in that me and DH were first to get married and none of my friends except my very best friend know we are TTC. I couldn't cope with the monthly questions, and the close monitoring of whether or not I am drinking alcohol every time we go out! My best friend has been amazing though, and never asks, just says if I want to talk about it she will listen.

Angel - I said the same thing to my GP this morning - how on earth do accidents happen?!?! I cannot understand it - you spend your whole life panicking every month in case AF doesn't arrive, and then suddenly realise you had absolutely nothing to worry about because it is blody difficult to get pregnant, in my experience!! Ok, rant over...

[Lisey09]

Angel, Katster I totally agree with you both!

I remember in my late teens being terrified of getting pregnant (even though I wanted to have a baby) because I didn't want my Dad to be disappointed in me. He suddenly died in 2006 and one of the most painful things was the realisation that he might have been disappointed in me (had I got pregnant as a teen), but atleast he would have known a Grandchild.

I have NO idea how accidents happen, even less how someone can get to labour and not KNOW they were pregnant!! How is that possible?!

[katster37]

Lisey, I have no idea!! I am always quite sceptical about these stories of women who suddenly give birth, having no idea they were pregnant

I am sorry about your Dad. There is nothing I can say other than I can totally empathise with you. I hope when you do have a child, he will be looking down on you and smiling.

I fee I must be the most impatient person in the world. I was desperate to be one of these people who managed to conceive in their first month of trying, no probs, but it seems I am not! DH says it would be too easy, and nothing worth having is that easy!! He is far more philosophical than me.

I have just popped my B6 and folic acid for the day. Really think I will try the progesterone cream this month from about day 12 as I have heard this has good results for lengthening luteal phase. Anyone got any other tips? x

[sammysam]

Hi everyone can I join? I'll catch up with the thread later as no time now. I'm 26 and TTC #2-been trying for almost a year now
DD was a complete surprise so the fact that we are now almost a year along just makes me really sad-the age gap is getting bigger and bigger all the time
Sorry on a bit of a downer today as have a major cold and have just found out a friend with a dd the same age as mine is expecting #2. I just don't know what i'm doing wrong-we are both much fitter and healthier than we were when we got pregnant before, both in the light end of ideal BMI range. This friend is in her mid 30's and her husband older. I AM happy for them-even though it sounds like i'm not
I'm having acupuncture, temp charting, checking cm, drinking grapefruit juice, taking prenatal vit and b6.
It gets harder every month-so much so that i've had a few months keeping away from these threads....been drawn back today though

[Lisey09]

Katster thank you!

Sorry that AF came and ruined things this time round - It's the total pitts.

Thought I was pregnant (not really sure why, but you know how you can convince yourself of these things?!!!) last month (even though we haven't started trying yet)and when I woke in the night with that tell tale ache, I prayed to just about everybody I could think of that it wasn't AF - it was of course.

I'm positive, you're not the most impatient person in the world - everybody hopes it'll happen first time.

Besides - only another 7 days and the fun part starts again! (have you been following the Deanna Plan? If not, it might be worth a look on google)

x

[bubblebell1]

Hi girls!

how are you all?

sorry that AF got you kat she is an evil biatch.

i fell so easily with both dc so this time i decided to stay on the pill right to the last min. what a mistake that was. last cycle was 68 days and now im on cd11 this month is dragging and i cant seem to think of anything else.

i hear what your saying about other ppl gettin pregnant around you. i feel myself gettin jealous and have to control myself.

lisey i am following the deanna plan. are you?

sammy i hope you get a BFP soon. maybe you should try DP too.