TTC after termination for medical reasons

[MrsES]

Hi everyone,
I don't know whether this is in the right forum. I had my 2nd pregnancy terminated yesterday at 11+6 after the nuchal scan showed that the baby was very sick and my only alternative was miscarriage. I didn't want to put myself or my family (we have a 14 month old DS) through the trauma of miscarriage, which could have been tomorrow or could have been several weeks off. It has been a heartbreaking week, as I am not just grieving for the healthy baby we thought we'd have at Christmas, but also for the sick little life I was looking after. Even thought the consultant said that the baby's prognosis was 'hopeless', I can't help feel some guilt for putting a stop to the little life before nature had a chance.
The Drs have said there's no physical reason why we shouldn't try to conceive straightaway, but it's the emotional side that we need to take care of. I'd like to hear from others on what you all think about this as I am desperate to start trying as soon as possible even though I am worried about how it will all go. I know it's a personal choice, but I think I'll get more and more anxious as time goes on that I won't be able to conceive or carry a healthy baby and the only way to fix this will be to start trying. Is this ok or should I wait for waiting's sake and hope that time heals some of this pain and that I won't need to be anxious about next time as time goes on? When people say that they finally feel ready to try again, how do they know?

[majormoo]

sorry to hear you are going through this. I went through similar a few years ago after a nuchal scan. We waited a few months before trying again, which was hard but had to as I was waiting for results of a smear test. I then got pregnant shortly afterwards. In hindsight I probably needed those few months to grieve and try to accept what had happened. My pregnancy with my son was very stressful but I think would have been whether I got pregnant straight away or after a few years. You are still in shock probably at the moment and have a tough time to go through, however you will get through it. My son was born completely healthy despite the stressful pregnancy and I really hope the same happens for you

[MrsES]

Thank you Majormoo. Your post is a great comfort to me and it will help to see things with a bit more perspective. I am all over the place at the moment and veering between optimistic and pessimistic about more babies. I'm so pleased you have a healthy son now x

[majormoo]

Hi MrsES. Just wondered how you are doing? Hope you are coping OK.