DS is only 6MO, and he is just smashing . After my first pregnancy/birth, DH and I gratefully agreed that we were never, EVER going through that again. This was fine with me as I feel so happy with DS, and so happy not to be pregnant any more. I'm quite disabled with ehlers danlos syndrome, and in consequence got horrid SPD that had me in a wheelchair from about 25 weeks, and by the end I could hardly move an inch. I was determined to have a natural birth, but due to immobility, and extra pain from SPD the birth was a horrible, horrible 33 hour nightmare. DH is still traumatised I think! However, despite the fact my pelvis is still in bits (and will probably stay that way, knowing the way these things go with me), I have found myself musing on the idea of maybe one day being ready to go through it all again, even though I know SPD can get worse with subsequent pregnancies, and I have to think about the welfare of DS, and whether I can be a proper mummy for him. I haven't told DH this, as I think he might faint.
Has anyone else gone ahead with TTC #2 despite having had a horrible first pg? I was wondering if I could cut back on the horror of it all by asking for an ELCS, but don't know if they would let me... The trouble is, I have always wanted two children, it's just that my body seems to have other ideas. I've thought about maybe adopting, but I'm not sure if they'll let you adopt a baby if you are physically capable of conceiving (have I got that right?). I'd also like to know people's honest opinions as to whether it would be selfish, given that I would more than likely be totally immobile again while I was pg, then get even more disabled long term in consequence, and all the time I have a gorgeous little boy to look after.
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Sanguine · 02/06/2008 12:10
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