Anybody else worrying they will run out of time to concieve

[lostittoday]

Hi
Been ttc 2nd dc for 9 months now.
I am 37 years of age nearing 38.
I have started to feel very anxious that I may not be able to have any more.
I do have thyroid problems which could be having a impact on my fertility, also my anxious state is been made worse by the fact that I know my mom and two sisters started their menopause late thirties.

I am now under the care of a gyno who is running hormone tests to determine if I need help to get pregnant or not.
Is there anybody else on here who is worried they may run out of time.
I also don,t like how this ttc lark is distorting my thoughts.
I cannot bear to look at pregnant women it makes me so jealous.
Also my niece has just got married and is ttc her first I dread her turning around and saying she is pregnant, and me to still be trying, it will kill me.
I have not told anyone I am ttc.
I realsie 9 months is not really that long to be ttc but at my age I feel it is.
Are there any older moms on here who are constantly worried about running out of time.

[MsG]

Hi there lostittoday.

I'm not in the same position as you but not too different... I'm 35 and a half, and still trying to have my first baby. I had a miscarriage last June, and we had a few months of not trying, but apart from that we've been trying since and it's been driving me mad.

But to try to reassure you, at the moment I know three women who are older than me who are pregnant - 37, 38 and 42 - so please try not to worry too much about that. It does bother me because it might take me a year or more to get pregnant (if I can) and that's just for my first one.

Have you talked to anyone about how you're feeling? I spoke to my nurse practitioner last week and she was really nice...sometimes it helps for someone just to listen and give a bit of support.

My cousin's wife is about 22 and she's now pregnant with their second - I find that quite hard to accept...

Fingers crossed for both of us, and everyone else out there TTC... xx

[stuarts]

Hi

I'm 39 and have been trying to conceive my first.

Have just been told by gynae that I won't be able to have them naturally and that only hope is IVF.

So yes I know exactly how you feel. There is a very good chance that I will never have any

Good luck

[Nursejo]

Hi I felt the same way,I had a DS in 1996 aged 31yrs,then got divorced.

I didnt meet anyone "special" until 2002.We got married in September 2003.We were both aged 39 yrs.

As my DH hadnt ever had children,and I'd always wanted more,I came of the pill in July,and in October had my LMP,I was Pg!

I had my DD1 in July 04. we then didnt worry about Birth Control as I wanted another.....

In July 05 I went for a 12 week scan and was told that the "baby" hadnt grown,only the sac,so I had to have a D&C,I was devastated obviously,and really felt that was it,that I was too old to conceive a healthy baby.

After a few mths of erratic periods,which added to the worry(Menopause on the way??) I conceived again in January 2006 aged 42 yrs! I then had my DD2 in October.

I often think when the "problem" is (age related ?) Hormonal problems,going on the Pill for a couple of mths,and then coming off and TTC seems to be successful,I think it sorts out your hormones etc. At least it seems that way with friends.

[LullyMummaOfOne]

Hi lostittoday, im in the opposit situation here. I already have DS with my DH and we are currently TTC for #2 (its only our first month) but the problem is my DH is 12 yrs older than me and really doesnt want anymore children past the age of 40 (which he will be in late 2009).
So i am worried that it may take a while to conceive and if i havent fallen by late this year i will really start to worry. Like you i also have a thyroid problem but its under control so i am hoping this will not effect my chances.
I wish you all good luck with TTC and hopefully see lots of BFP real soon

[Earlybird]

Fwiw, when I was trying to have dd, was told by fertility doctors that a woman's fertility naturally drops noticeably at 35, and again at 42. I was advised that after 45 (even with fertility drugs), I should use an egg donor if I still wanted a baby and hadn't managed to get pregnant and sustain the pregnancy.

Things could have changed somewhat since I was trying - maybe the drugs and assisted techniques are more effective making actual ages not as critical to fertility?

[duchesse]

Yup. Am 40, have been failing to conceive for nearly 5 years now. Patchy thyroid function. Not looking too hopeful.

[lostittoday]

I have expressed my concerns to the gyno and she simply said lets not worry about that at the moment.
I feel a bit paranoid about it but I can't help it.