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To scared to bring up subject of TTC DC3 with hubbie!

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pinky36 · 11/03/2008 09:14

Last month i thought i was pregnant due to an accident with a split condom! I has lots of different emotions - scared, but excited at the same time. AF came and i was relieved, but over the next few days felt really low. I realise at 36 and 2 DC 11 and 14, that i still want another child, but am to scared to bring up the subject with DH. He has no idea how i feel, but i know that he's happy as things are, and would no way want to go back to sleepless nights and nappy changes!

Should i except this and move on, and am i being selfish for wanting more when i already have 2 gorgeous children already!

MNetters words of wisdom needed! x

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beautifulgirls · 11/03/2008 09:30

The only way you can find out his feelings on the matter is to talk to him really. I currently want #3 but have a husband who does not. I am playing the waiting game after talking it through and hope that he will change his mind sometime. It was pretty stressful to talk to him about it when I did, but I do feel that talking was the best option still even if it did cause us a lot of stress for a few days. You never know he might actually be keen and it is not to say that everyone will react the way my DH did. It does seem on reading other posts that a lot of DH's are initially quite resistant to it though and then come around to the idea later on.
Yes, you have two gorgeous children but it does not mean you can not want another one
Good luck

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meemar · 11/03/2008 09:46

You are not selfish for wanting another, but you may not really want another iyswim. Last months accident brought up feelings you hadn't considered before and now you are thinking about your age, and your biological clock.

Talking to your husband may help you work through your feelings and see if it is what you actually want. He may help you see that it's not the way to go, or he may secretly want another and surprise you by saying 'lets go for it'

Don't just bury your feelings and hope they'll go away x

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pinky36 · 11/03/2008 11:47

Thanx BG and MM

I know your right about talking to my DH, im just scared of rocking the boat! In every other way im very happy and content, and i think your right meemar, i do feel thinking i was pregnant stirred up some emotions about having another baby! I will try and bring up the subject with hubbie, and ill let you know how i got on! x