New career vs have another baby!

[pinky36]

I had my 2 children relatively young,in the middle of my nurse training,at the time i thought it was the end of the world, but once my DD was born, nothing else mattered, a career was no longer important, and i still felt the same once my DS arrived 3 years later. Once my children were both at school I felt totally lost, i'd continued working partly for the money, and partly for the social side, but never felt as career minded! My children are now 11 and 14, and i have a great part-time job, and cud go back FT, I have more interest in a career, but still have a yearning for another child which I've had for the last 3 years! Unfortunately DH doesnt quite feel the same, and im beginning to feel resentful, am i being unreasonable? I just feel that at 36 I cud still have another baby, and still a career 10 years down the line! Some much needed advice please

[choolie]

DOes DH want you to go back to work for financial reasons, or does he just not want another baby? Are you in a position now to combine baby AND new career?

I'd be with you on the 3rd baby personally, but I guess you need to have a heart to heart with DH to both say why you feel the way you do and see if you can find a way forward together.

I hope he does want no.3 fingers crossed.

[ebeson]

Hi Pinky, i would def consider no 3, you might always live to regret it and if you have been feeling like this for the past 3 years then it obviously means alot to you.

[pinky36]

I dont think DH is as much worried abt the money, as the effect it wud have on our relationship, as it took a bit of a dip when i had the children, as neither of them were planned, and my DH felt a little pushed out. He wasn't the most confident of dads, and still isn't in alot of ways and often questions his ability. I wud just love to plan a pregnancy if thats possible and go through the process happier and more prepared and as a partnership!

I'm not sure about combining the two, as i'm not sure i wud have parents support either as their getting older, and am not very good at asking for help!