i want another baby, i dunno who to talk to, and i know what your gonna say....

[igglepiggles]

im not sure if im on the right topic for posting this thread.

im getting married next september and me and my dp have decided we want to start ttc around end of next december, and now here is the almighty BUT

my ds is 9 months and the way we ve planned it there will be 2 years and 4 months approx, originally we said we wanted 3 years, but decided that we are well off financially with our own business, we have plenty of family and friends support, we have a big enough house, a dog and an indoor rabbit, and the biggest thing is we BOTH feel that we will be ready for another baby. and also that we dont want a big age gap between my ds and the new baby.

at the moment tho i cant get this feeling out of my system, I REALLY WANT A BABY NOW

i know your all gonna say for me to talk to my dp about it, but for sum reason i feel that i cant. i feel really hormonal at the moment and its not as if my period is due or anything. i just feel that i really have no one to talk to about it. i feel as if i am in the wrong for wanting another baby right now, none of my friends are having babies or just had one so its not like im looking at them and feeling broody

i really dont know what to do but im thinking about it all the time and even looking at maternity wear in magz and thinking that could be me soon!

does any know whats wrong with me or has any body been through this?? please can sum1 give me advice.

[ScoobyDoo]

Firstly i would say the urge may go away after a bit, i get like this alot & resist doing anything about it & my broodiness does wear off.

I would however say your plans sounds great but don't walways think they will work out that way, we planned to have a 2.5 year between our 1st & 2nd but i had a mc & then it was another 6 months before i fell again so in the end we had a bigger age gap, it actually worked out better.

You do need to speak to your dp about it, see how he feel's is well, maybe just give it a while & see if the urge dies down a bit, wait till your little one is walking etc & the urge may go

[scully]

If you're planning a wedding, and your age isn't an issue, I would be probably be inclined to wait until after the wedding.
I wanted around a 3yr gap between dd1 and dd2, it worked out to be 3yrs 8mths, and had hoped for a 2yr gap between dd2 and a third baby but m/c in Aug 07 (would have been 2yrs 2mth gap) so am now trying again for no3. As Scooby said, it doesn't always go to plan. Good luck with whatever you decide

[NAB3wishesfor2008]

Bring the wedding forward?

If my first child had been a natural delivery I would have tried for 2 really close together. The age gaps I do have are quite common but harder for us tbh.

[RFCMummy]

I can totally sympathise with you as all I think about day and night is another baby.

I have a 2year old dd and an 8 month old dd and really want a third. We are going to wait until next year though as we have a holiday planned in September and I would like dd1 to be a bit older and maybe at pre-school before number 3 so I have a bit of breathing space!!

there are 16 months between my two and its hectic but great fun!

I think waiting until after the wedding is a good idea but you could try on honeymoon??

[soph28]

We kept saying we would have a 2yr gap between ours but I didn't want to wait. Now we have ds (2.8) and dd (16mo) (16mth gap) and are expecting no.3 in April.

It's hard work but great fun- ds and dd are great chums now and it's lovely to see how close they are- that's not to say they never fight thogh!